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It’s not working

I can imagine that the “friends with benefits” (FWB) arrangement has found its way into most of our lives.  Whether or we planned it or not, FWB doesn’t really have a long shelf-life.  I’m starting to think that this is probably for the best.

I wonder when is it a good idea to pull the plug on it though? When it stops working for you, what do you do? Are you stuck (ew, no pun intended) with them or do you think it’s legal to cut things off and back off?

I’ve heard some of my married friends say, “Girl, if I were single, I would be having a great time with that arrangement!”.  Yes well, I have a wonderful time being single, but getting an ideal friends with benefits arrangement started is about as complicated as getting a good relationship off the ground.

You have to find the right person who is trustworthy and drama-free. Then it helps if they are really hot and attracted to you too.  If I actually manage to locate this person, I’m not suggesting FWB status.  I’m looking at him in disbelief and wondering what I can cook him to impress him! Is it just me? Are there people you meet that actually make a good candidate for no strings attached hook ups?

If you get the Friends with benefits arrangement in place, when do you decide it’s a wrap? Would it take something drastic? Do you just outgrow the situation?

473 comments Add your comment

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
3:54 pm

I can’t hit her back, but that kick in the sack sure did hurt. LOL

SlimCoo-Coo

April 7th, 2010
3:54 pm

@CZ I’ll never forget the time I went to Piedmont Park for a friends softball game…Right in the middle of the sidewalk was the plastic container for a 15 inche dill-doe on the ground. My first thought was of course DAYUM that’s big…but then I thought, whoever it belonged to, sure couldn’t wait till they got home. Must’ve had that itch like the chick on that movie with Samuel Jackson where he chained her up in his house…she had that sex itch. LOL (I forget the name of the movie)

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

April 7th, 2010
3:55 pm

Random Thoughts…….YEAHHHHH!

TIger Phlucked you gave you knowing and now you pose for a magazine who pays you nothing! Did you get dropped on your head as a baby?

The chairman of the Masters called Tiger a hero…. I did not know that winning a golf tournament made you a hero! crickets, crickets,

If you need help with bills and someone to hit it 3 times a week you might want to call tiger!

DreamsMaterialize

April 7th, 2010
3:55 pm

Keep up Dreams…
If it looks like I’m behind, it’s only because I’m already a lap ahead. ;-)

Speaking for all the ladies we love to see Eli fly through…he is pretty respectful
Do the ladies really want the caped crusader as their guy, or does he get put in the friend zone?

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
3:56 pm

LURKER I am going to decline as your love slave pupil…it just feels creepy :twisted:

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
3:56 pm

Melo

April 7th, 2010
3:58 pm

a 15 inche dill-doe ??

@SlimOne?

whats that?

Wise Diva

April 7th, 2010
3:58 pm

bwahahaha @ Mr Willie Dynamite (how are you!)…that was sooo wrong and funny at the same time!

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

April 7th, 2010
3:58 pm

@Carlito……Naw the blog women will keep it quite if you are a blogger who’s getting! So you can go ahead and start hitting some of the blog women they will keep it a secret! You good!

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:00 pm

Slim, Black Snake Moan.

If me a Julia do not work out I am going to date me a “sista” LOL Or a Black/Italian Hybrid.

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
4:01 pm

@DreamsM, as for the comment on Eli, I stated that because he is one of the few men on the blog that keeps it respectful. I wish I could answer your question about the cape crusader, but I don’t think I’ve experienced it…

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:01 pm

Lurker, I am good on that front. Although two of them have intrigued me I am disciplined. I can’t mess up the good thing that I have at all. And I have this fine neighbor as well :)

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:02 pm

Tiger kept it respectful, until he was caught. LOL

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:04 pm

15 inches? You can here an echo in that hole after that. Probably was for a dude though, I was warned that the rump wranglers hang out at Piedmont at night.

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
4:05 pm

Now, Carlito I was not aware that you communicated with Tiger several times a week, or enough to know he was respectful. Please tell him to lurk on the blog a little bit.

Wise Diva

April 7th, 2010
4:05 pm

I am so done @ rump wranglers! Carlito, I’m through with you for the day, LOL!

Melo

April 7th, 2010
4:06 pm

Im rooting for Tiger to not miss the cut. There wld be no point in me watching the Masters.

Im a Tiger fan,thru and thru!

Luvbug

April 7th, 2010
4:06 pm

Stil catching up but…

OMG It’s Laughapalooza in here!!!!

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:07 pm

Professor, Tiger blogged on his golf forum regularly. It’s not as wild as this place though. I wonder if any of those women were on there under different names.

DreamsMaterialize

April 7th, 2010
4:07 pm

he is one of the few men on the blog that keeps it respectful.
You think the blog guys are disrespectful? What about the blog women?

I wish I could answer your question about the cape crusader, but I don’t think I’ve experienced it…
Is that something you would like to experience?

Wise Diva

April 7th, 2010
4:09 pm

yes LuvBug! That is the perfect description of today’s commenting, LOL good one

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:09 pm

Wise Diva, I am just calling it like I hear it. :)

Melo, I am a fan as well. He did not take part in the Par 3 today because he was tired from practicing this week. His companions out there with him say his is playing around 85% right now. His 85 % is a bunch of others 100%. I hope he slaughters the field.

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
4:10 pm

Hey DreamsM,

We might have to finish this discussion on tomorrow, but the short answer is this. I think most of the bloggers including ME are a bit disrespectul. That is the short answer…I will have to give you the details tomorrow, because I am stepping out.

Melo

April 7th, 2010
4:13 pm

I hope he slaughters the field

Carlito??

Augusta tho is kinda different.Things can go awry pretty quick,its a trick course. And i hear there are more changes this year.

But we good,there is pollen outside..perfect time to glue to the telly satrday and sunday!!

Is Julia coming down??

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:14 pm

Wise Diva, you have a nice blog :) Even if my other sites were not blocked at work I would still be here.

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
4:16 pm

I know I didn’t just see that ladies agree that they would have the caped crusader. (Wiping my eyes and trying to re-read)

Melo

April 7th, 2010
4:16 pm

That reminds me,I was gon have a massage this satrday.

Wont happen!

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:17 pm

Melo, Julia arrives tomorrow night and is here for 9 days. I am kinda of on edge though I made some unprotected deposits in Florida and we are not sure if her BC is in full force yet. Would not that be funny, all that I was against happening. Life is like that.

DreamsMaterialize

April 7th, 2010
4:18 pm

I will have to give you the details tomorrow, because I am stepping out. I got you. Have a good night. See you tomorrow.

Melo

April 7th, 2010
4:22 pm

we are not sure if her BC is in full force yet

@Carlito!

hope u str8…maaayne that visit wld be a waste! :lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:23 pm

Melo, I just sent you a picture from the beach check your email :)

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:24 pm

Dreams, you have me over here crying also.

Melo

April 7th, 2010
4:27 pm

Dang Carlito…she banging!

good catch!

Wise Diva

April 7th, 2010
4:30 pm

Thanks so much Carlito! I am glad you can still reach our corner of AJC.COM :)

Melo

April 7th, 2010
4:31 pm

From now on,Iam only taking bikini pics only.

2010 policy!

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:32 pm

Melo, thank you and she is smart as well :)

Wise Diva, no problem.

SexyCool

April 7th, 2010
4:33 pm

Wise – I just talked to DeonJohnnyBo – he asked about you.

czBrat

April 7th, 2010
4:33 pm

Dang Carlito…she banging! good catch! well, really, what else could you possibly say?? :lol:

Luvbug

April 7th, 2010
4:33 pm

Submissive cultures? Unlike the FWB, dating, etc, I think measure is really important in this case. What people project and what choices they make are often two different things…especially among black women. Talking tough and promoting belief systems we don’t live usually lands us on the ulgy side of important statistics.

Rampant poverty, debt , depression, single parent homes, barely educated children, etc. exposes some truth behind all that tough talk. It doesn’t explain everything, but it cannot be denied when comparing subordination.

Seems we’ve excepted a lot for nothing…except sexual freedom…that one both men and women enjoy.

Maybe it’s not good to compare.

…end of rant.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:33 pm

Melo, have I raised the standard? LOL

Wise Diva

April 7th, 2010
4:36 pm

aw he did! Thanks for letting me know, i STILL giggle when you write his name like that! Good times :)

Melo

April 7th, 2010
4:36 pm

well, really, what else could you possibly say??

czBrat,She is for real tho….

U aint send me urs tho.

Melo

April 7th, 2010
4:38 pm

Melo, have I raised the standard? LOL

@Carlito??

urs is in bikini,unlike most of what i got,except one ,so u know..but i aint taking anything away from her!

Real pretty and bustful too…. :lol: :lol:

u busy with the hands and on the mortice too….nice! :lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:40 pm

Florida is bikini weather :)

czBrat

April 7th, 2010
4:41 pm

i don’t doubt that Mello. but if she wasn’t …. ‘uh. gee, the pic won’t open.’ :oops:

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:43 pm

Nike stock went up today after saying that they are airing a new Tiger Woods commercial tonight.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:44 pm

czBrat,..LOL, I would have to be some sort of confident if I sent a picture with my girl in it. :)

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
4:44 pm

This pollen is trying to suffocate me.

Oh yea Carlito how was the trip to Florida

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
4:45 pm

Do you all think it is odd the Whitney Houston postponed her tour. I think she may still be on the “stuff” LOL

Melo

April 7th, 2010
4:45 pm

but if she wasn’t …. ‘uh. gee, the pic won’t open

czBrat??

u know,he wldnt have been so confident to send it.

Being Pretty or good looking is real luck,come to think of it..

Some women cant stand looking at themselves in the morror!

:lol: :lol: :lol: