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It’s not working

I can imagine that the “friends with benefits” (FWB) arrangement has found its way into most of our lives.  Whether or we planned it or not, FWB doesn’t really have a long shelf-life.  I’m starting to think that this is probably for the best.

I wonder when is it a good idea to pull the plug on it though? When it stops working for you, what do you do? Are you stuck (ew, no pun intended) with them or do you think it’s legal to cut things off and back off?

I’ve heard some of my married friends say, “Girl, if I were single, I would be having a great time with that arrangement!”.  Yes well, I have a wonderful time being single, but getting an ideal friends with benefits arrangement started is about as complicated as getting a good relationship off the ground.

You have to find the right person who is trustworthy and drama-free. Then it helps if they are really hot and attracted to you too.  If I actually manage to locate this person, I’m not suggesting FWB status.  I’m looking at him in disbelief and wondering what I can cook him to impress him! Is it just me? Are there people you meet that actually make a good candidate for no strings attached hook ups?

If you get the Friends with benefits arrangement in place, when do you decide it’s a wrap? Would it take something drastic? Do you just outgrow the situation?

473 comments Add your comment

lurker

April 7th, 2010
3:17 pm

Truth LURKER truth

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
3:17 pm

Tiki, just upgraded his FWB :)

AmazonRed™

April 7th, 2010
3:18 pm

Those Barber twins both married Asian chicks. The wives seemed very doormatish.

AmazonRed™

April 7th, 2010
3:19 pm

however the pudssy/dyckk beating can be quite comparable in dating as in prostitution.

melo – I get it. Some people were not understanding we were just comparing the two.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 7th, 2010
3:19 pm

LURKER “Women want Johnson just like men do”…um I think I know what you meant but it came off as men like Johnson.. LOL!

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
3:20 pm

Women want Johnson just like men do!

Dayum y’all blog men beem holding back on us. LURKER said women want the Johnson just like men do. Melo, tell me it ain’t so, are the men after the Johnson too? Somebody say it ain’t so!

:smile: YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
3:21 pm

Dayum those Barber twins…who cares

Melo

April 7th, 2010
3:21 pm

The wives seemed very doormatish
@Ared?

yep thats the reason these men go to Asia.

Im sure proly not as expensive too in a break up/divorce compared to an educated local.

Russel Simmons tho,didnt do his due diligence right!

AmazonRed™

April 7th, 2010
3:22 pm

Dayum those Barber twins…who cares

:lol:

They are not cute to me at all. They look like they have a touch of Downs…

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
3:23 pm

Race, creed or color a woman is a woman. Some have standards and some get ran over.

Melo

April 7th, 2010
3:23 pm

@Professor..

he meant just like men like pudssy!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
3:23 pm

Eli – I’ll see yuo out there.. I Ref and I’ll make sure to hit you with two Techs and throw you outta the game because you have been flagrant for a while now.. Intentional fouls all over the place..

SexyCool

April 7th, 2010
3:24 pm

“They look like they have a touch of Downs…”

Hollers….passes out.
LMAO!

AmazonRed™

April 7th, 2010
3:24 pm

Russel Simmons tho,didnt do his due diligence right!

Cuz Kimora is a black sista girl!

Direct Kimora quote: “I will still beat a b@*@*@* ass, but now I don’t have to.”

You can take a girl out the hood but…:lol:

Melo

April 7th, 2010
3:24 pm

@Carlito??

crickets crickets crickets on that downs statement!

AmazonRed™

April 7th, 2010
3:25 pm

Race, creed or color a woman is a woman. Some have standards and some get ran over.

Not true. Some cultures are more docile and submissive simple due to upbringing and cultural norms.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
3:25 pm

‘Yes my cape is on and it’s time to protect the ladies! That is what I do!’

Elijah, that is funny :) Do you protect all women?

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
3:26 pm

They are not cute to me at all. They look like they have a touch of Downs

Now that was a good one…you are so right! You just solved the puzzle I could never figure out what it was about them.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
3:26 pm

Eli – Im ref-ing the AAU camps right now in Roswell but I’ll be coming to the westside soon.. Im gunning for you.. Be ready for all the calls to go for the other team..

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
3:28 pm

Melo I was just being facetious, but thanks.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
3:28 pm

AmazonRed, I think every race has strong women and doormat women. Just because a woman is black does not mean that she is just domineering or every italian woman is quick tempered. I think those assumptions are assumes stereotypes. Behind closed doors there may be different stories.

czBrat

April 7th, 2010
3:29 pm

Some cultures are more docile and submissive simple due to upbringing and cultural norms. true. this is why i don’t mess with my own. i like the gringos.

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
3:30 pm

When skeleton’s come out of the closet and chase you all around the room

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
3:30 pm

If your momma was hoin and her momma was hoin, are you likely to be hoin as well? Maybe some women just come form a long line of hoin women.

AmazonRed™

April 7th, 2010
3:30 pm

AmazonRed, I think every race has strong women and doormat women. Just because a woman is black does not mean that she is just domineering or every italian woman is quick tempered. I think those assumptions are assumes stereotypes. Behind closed doors there may be different stories.

Carlito – You go to India or Asia and you will see a profound difference. It’s not stereotypes, it’s fact. I wasn’t just speaking on American culture. American culture IS different than other cultures. That is also a fact.

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
3:31 pm

“If you can’t get rid of the skeleton in your closet, you’d best teach it to dance.”

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
3:34 pm

I have been there quite a few times to different tracks. The company that employees me is based out of Japan. Those guys complain about their women just like we(Americans) do. My office is full of Asians, Swedes and Germans married to the same. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
3:34 pm

CzBRat – Well d@mn I thought we had it all..

AmazonRed™

April 7th, 2010
3:35 pm

Those guys complain about their women just like we(Americans) do. LOL

What does that have to do with anything? When did being a from a different culture exempt you from having problems?

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
3:37 pm

@Princess I love the quote…learning to live with skeletons makes life a lot easier.

Melo

April 7th, 2010
3:37 pm

I think there are positives and negatives of women and men in every culture esp when cross paired.

If i ever get divorced, im getting a dark skinned 5 ft + black sister outa the south!

Melo

April 7th, 2010
3:38 pm

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
3:39 pm

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

April 7th, 2010
3:39 pm

@Professor…. I meant some women want Johnson just like me want pudsy….. Professor I know you likem culture but I will come become the teacher and you will be my love slave pupil! :smile:

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
3:40 pm

AmazonRed, I am saying that their women are not docile.

AmazonRed™

April 7th, 2010
3:41 pm

AmazonRed, I am saying that their women are not docile.

Agree to disagree then.

czBrat

April 7th, 2010
3:42 pm

off topic …. security cameras in piedmont park? yikes!! they’re about to capture some very interesting stuff on film.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
3:43 pm

Maybe they do not do the public outburst or put their circle of friends all in their business or have news conferences but they are not pushovers.

I am sure this was not Elin’s first time getting in Tigers behind, but the media got wind of it this time. LOL On camera she is not doing any interviews or press conferences. his whole career she has been just in his background(from the outside looking in, you would think she was just docile) Heck her golf club swing is probably stronger than Tiger’s HA HAHAHA

(end of the day so I have to be Devil’s advocate, that’s my thing)

Melo

April 7th, 2010
3:44 pm

@Carlito??

they are docile untill they figure things out,esp when they come over here. Same with african chics.

The moment they understand what american chics got,they wanna upgrade! :lol:

AmazonRed™

April 7th, 2010
3:44 pm

Maybe they do not do the public outburst or put their circle of friends all in their business or have news conferences but they are not pushovers.

Where did I say they were pushovers? I said their culture is different.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
3:47 pm

AmazonRed, puff puff pass :) LOL I am just messing with you right now. hugs LOL

AmazonRed™

April 7th, 2010
3:48 pm

Um…and I’m messing with you back.

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
3:48 pm

@Melo your 3:44 is on point. Now how do you keep Queen grounded, so that she don’t upgrade?

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

April 7th, 2010
3:49 pm

@Carlito….. The sistas may tell everyone on the block, but they are not publizing it all over the news! The do not call Action 3 news like Polly (I’m a pornstar and Tiger made me swallow one hundred times) I thought since I swallowed he loved me! :lol:

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
3:49 pm

AmazonRed, woman I am man bow your head when speaking to me. :)

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
3:50 pm

Lurker, is that because of to much pride of getting played over or is there a monetary settlement?

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
3:50 pm

AmazonRed head is tilted over as she LOL from kicking you in the nutz sack…j/k

:grin:

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
3:51 pm

Or will the “sista” blog about it on the ajc blog

Wise Diva

April 7th, 2010
3:51 pm

LOL @ today’s discussion, you guys are ALWAYS entertaining, totally love it. whew

Melo

April 7th, 2010
3:53 pm

Now how do you keep Queen grounded, so that she don’t upgrade?

@Proff?

I cant put a finger on one or two things..its a combination of stuff….my program she signed on,her strong fam background and mine among other subtle stuff.

Ofcourse, i give it to her,slap her up,toss her upside down etc.

Every man gotta have some shock and awe plays in his arsenal..keep it spicy! :lol: :lol: