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It’s not working

I can imagine that the “friends with benefits” (FWB) arrangement has found its way into most of our lives.  Whether or we planned it or not, FWB doesn’t really have a long shelf-life.  I’m starting to think that this is probably for the best.

I wonder when is it a good idea to pull the plug on it though? When it stops working for you, what do you do? Are you stuck (ew, no pun intended) with them or do you think it’s legal to cut things off and back off?

I’ve heard some of my married friends say, “Girl, if I were single, I would be having a great time with that arrangement!”.  Yes well, I have a wonderful time being single, but getting an ideal friends with benefits arrangement started is about as complicated as getting a good relationship off the ground.

You have to find the right person who is trustworthy and drama-free. Then it helps if they are really hot and attracted to you too.  If I actually manage to locate this person, I’m not suggesting FWB status.  I’m looking at him in disbelief and wondering what I can cook him to impress him! Is it just me? Are there people you meet that actually make a good candidate for no strings attached hook ups?

If you get the Friends with benefits arrangement in place, when do you decide it’s a wrap? Would it take something drastic? Do you just outgrow the situation?

473 comments Add your comment

AmazonRed™

April 7th, 2010
2:19 pm

unfortunately i’ve outgrown the FWB. it used to be so much fun! no feelings involved, etc.

Angie – I can hardly believe you were actually able to do FWB at any time without catching feelings.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
2:19 pm

Kind of homo for a guy to talk with current girl about her and her ex.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 7th, 2010
2:19 pm

Lurker – “Have you recovered from too much froggie-styling this past weekend?”
Um…I think I missed something…how much froggy style did I have and was I at least half-way decent? lol

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
2:20 pm

@Princess- It might just be that he thought the other chick he was tricking wit had THAT FI. But he sees now that it wasn’t green grass over there, it was just an illusion. Let me see if Princess will take my stupid a$$ back.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 7th, 2010
2:21 pm

lol @ Amazon! i actually did. you would’ve been proud. lol.

Melo

April 7th, 2010
2:21 pm

dyckk don’t pay any bills last time i checked

PrincessNik..??

I know but u aint answering my simple qstion. D$$$$ bills dont get u efficiently strokked either…so just answer that one aspect of the tango even thos we know,it takes much more to get u satisfied!! :lol:

SexyCool??

if u were to be objective Shthd and NewDude dont plumb the same way or do they??…I bet Coach , I mean Shthead got that name for a good reason,Right??

SexyCool

April 7th, 2010
2:21 pm

Oh, Carlito….I also got a text from my gf about the chicken marsala….

And I quote “The chicken marsala was a HIT!!!”

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
2:23 pm

SexyCool

April 7th, 2010
2:24 pm

Naw, Melo, they don’t *plumb* the same way at all. TheDude is dabusiness. (I would walk around in the daytime with a flashlight, buttnaked in some blublockers, a belt and galoshes for THAT.)

CoachShthead was acceptably satisfying at best.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
2:24 pm

Carlito – Its just game and he’s trying to get in where he fits in.. “And I just happen to be that man”.. Boy it couldnt be me cause if he ever came at me sideways, like he’s with ol girl now and such and such.. Boy he would be HOT with me.. Cause I’ll straight up ask him how my dong taste and try this the next time you hit her she likes that.. Oh he would be super hot with me, but it only works if you aint out her pining about her crazy behind.. And whisper in his ear.. No matter what she told you, I can hit her whenever… Buddy.. Now gone and hook my radio up..

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 7th, 2010
2:24 pm

has anyone defined FWB? it’s not the same as a booty call.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
2:27 pm

Infamous, I agree. If done right you can always go back, and there inlays the power. New dudes fear that. :)

Melo

April 7th, 2010
2:27 pm

the daytime with a flashlight, buttnaked in some blublockers, a belt and galoshes for THAT.)

SexyCool??

I dont like the way u swag girl! :lol:

U make a grown man want to sign up for the waiting list! :lol: :lol: :lol:

SlimCoo-Coo

April 7th, 2010
2:28 pm

Beautiful – i think the key difference was the FRIENDS with benefits…as opposed to just someone you f!cked for a night or two. Booty call is synonomous with jump off…either way a whole lotta screwing it going on…and I’m not talking about a Phillips either. lol

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
2:30 pm

Melo,

shthd as you put it could have used some lessons in “plumbing”, i have a high libido and he wasn’t trying to keep up. as for NewDude we aint even there yet.

You need to go back and read what i said, this time read for understanding. At this point i need a dude that’s good in all aspects, not just at dyykking me down sheesh.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
2:30 pm

Then too.. Me personally when I saw Nik come into the shop I wouldve said hey Baby How you doing? Hit me later.. I know we aint talking and we aint doing nothing but the seed wouldve been planted.. Oh yeah I can gully with it. I wouldnt have acted like I didnt know her though.. I wouldve spoke like it wasnt nothing.. Like I had just talked to her yesterday.. Like we were FWBs.. Ha ha!! Like oh you here to see dude.. Oh my bad, we can talk later..

Melo

April 7th, 2010
2:31 pm

someone you f!cked for a night or two

SlimCoo-Coo??

Angie dont like FWB coz it takes too much time also.

jump off is her mo!

SlimCoo-Coo

April 7th, 2010
2:31 pm

Carlito – your comment didn’t go unnoticed…..”transportation, knee pads and spit.” um….TMI lol

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 7th, 2010
2:31 pm

SlimCoo-Coo

April 7th, 2010
2:33 pm

‘jump off is her mo!”

melo – you’re a bad bad boy. Now come and get this 3 lashings I have for you…drop em

SexyCool

April 7th, 2010
2:34 pm

Oh..and I used to call him *Coach* because he coached the softball team we both used to play on.
That is all.

Melo

April 7th, 2010
2:36 pm

shthd as you put it could have used some lessons in “plumbing”,

PrincessNik..??

the post with Shthead reference was not for u..it was for School.

At this point i need a dude that’s good in all aspects

that statement there is partly why i ask.U dont dyck it the foirst time u see him.U romance,go out on dates etc to establish chemistry, i presume then leave the dyckking for a lil later, right. Now when u decide to do it and then do it some more,at some point u may realise,buddy aint hitting it right,after 3,4 times. This is where my qstion comes in,not be4!

Ever had a situ where u felt,eeegghhh,old man was better on this front than new guy??

(cmeon now PrincesNik,be truthful wit me now?) :lol: :lol:

Elijah

April 7th, 2010
2:36 pm

I fear no old dude getting back in when I start working it! One she is single,ready and willing to get trreated right. The mind can be retrained then the puddy will follow!

La Professor I got you! :smile:

Sassy you know I always have your back! :wink:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
2:36 pm

Sexy – The old dude always gets the bad review after its over.. But it wasnt so bad when you were bouncing up and down on it.. Prolly thought he had that OD… Outstandin Dyck!!

AmazonRed™

April 7th, 2010
2:37 pm

you would’ve been proud. lol.

Angie – Not proud of that. No point in sex without feelings. Might as well be a prostitute. :lol:

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
2:37 pm

Kind of homo for a guy to talk with current girl about her and her ex.

Carlito, the conversation wasn’t all about the ex, you have to see my posts from yesterday to get the full story. But we were having a gettting to know you type conversation, any significant relationships? etc….and after i told him about dude and why we broke up he said what he said and we changed the conversation back to US. not the past. There was no dogging dude out etc….

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
2:38 pm

Slim, you want to be my FWB? I am on a horse……..

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
2:39 pm

Ever had a situ where u felt,eeegghhh,old man was better on this front than new guy??

@ melo, i’m not saying that has never happened. There are even situations where its not better, not worse just DIFFERNT.

What i’m sayin is the more mature i become the more i’m lookin for well rounded.

lurker

April 7th, 2010
2:39 pm

jump off is her mo!”

THAT’S judgemental

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
2:40 pm

Nik – Did you tell him what you did in the relationship to make it go south cause it wasnt all on your Ex..

I always ask that question to see if a chick can accept responsibility for their actions and be able to take that long hard look at themselves..

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
2:40 pm

PrincessNik, that was a general statement, not directly for you :)

AmazonRed, prostitutes get paid. So they are coming out better. LOL

Melo

April 7th, 2010
2:41 pm

@ melo, i’m not saying that has never happened.

Is that called Negative Affirmation??

gelrz are funny, arent they??

Qstion answered PrincessNik! :lol: :lol: :lol:

(im sure u wd have a problem describing how it got down,ha?)

SexyCool

April 7th, 2010
2:41 pm

Oh Infamous One – the sex with Shthead was always more about the emotion/bonding/connection of it all as opposed to his actual skill/size/creativity.

No, I didn’t complain about it when we were together, but trust, if there were going to be anything that I remembered fondly or even actually miss about our time together – the sex would be the last thing on the list.

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
2:42 pm

Me personally when I saw Nik come into the shop I wouldve said hey Baby How you doing? Hit me later..

@ DK, see i was already in the shop in the back in the office, he only came to the shop because he saw my car, we have been broken up an entire year, be for real.

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
2:42 pm

@DK- I did that bruh with my ex and boy it funny as hell. Flew to Texas to pick up my son and her and him was at the airport with the kid. She had been lying to dude like I wanted her. Dude asking me retarded shyt and me and my old lady laughing so loud people started staring. He damn sho didn’t want deal with me and I know he regretted opening his mouth so I used the phrase in reverse. I told him that one man’s trash is another man’s treasure so I’m going to take my son and fly home, you take my trash and y’all go home. They both mad as hell.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
2:43 pm

A phuck is a phuck, no matter how you rationalize it. But a phuck with feelings is something special.

Yes you may post that on your Twitter and Facebooks :)

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
2:43 pm

Infamous DK actually is was all my ex

i was blindsided, all of a sudden he comes to me and says i’m not ready for a “ready made family”. Dude you knew i was a package deal from day one……….

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 7th, 2010
2:43 pm

i couldn’t have been a prostitute. i would’ve been horrible at it. LOL. i can’t take money from a man, cuz i have my own.

Melo

April 7th, 2010
2:44 pm

THAT’S judgemental

its alwayz judgemental!

Do u park ur brains smwehere outside ur head smtimes,rolling ahead in discussions, brainless?

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
2:44 pm

Sessy – Im just saying you werent complaining when you were riding his bologny pony back then so dont be throwing him under the bus now.. New Dude is knocking the stuffing outta that egg mcmuffin is enough.. He’s turning it every which a way but loose.. ;-)

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
2:44 pm

DreamsMaterialize

April 7th, 2010
2:45 pm

The old dude always gets the bad review after its over..
Funny how that works.

No point in sex without feelings. Might as well be a prostitute.
Some might say dating is glorified prostitution.

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
2:46 pm

“Some might say dating is glorified prostitution”

And I would agree with that

lurker

April 7th, 2010
2:47 pm

Do u park ur brains smwehere outside ur head smtimes,rolling ahead in discussions, brainless?

Ummm, english please

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 7th, 2010
2:47 pm

call it what you want! lol.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
2:47 pm

Prostitutes are more efficient and cheaper :) With the STD rates might as well take your chances with a pro. You know she is not going to fall in love with you.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
2:48 pm

Dig – Yeah that had to hit him in the Gut..

AmazonRed™

April 7th, 2010
2:48 pm

Some might say dating is glorified prostitution.

So if dating is that…FWB is even worse.

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
2:49 pm

DreamsM

The old dude always gets the bad review after its over..

not always :)

SlimCoo-Coo

April 7th, 2010
2:49 pm

Carlito – Sorry but i’m allergic ;-)