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It’s not working

I can imagine that the “friends with benefits” (FWB) arrangement has found its way into most of our lives.  Whether or we planned it or not, FWB doesn’t really have a long shelf-life.  I’m starting to think that this is probably for the best.

I wonder when is it a good idea to pull the plug on it though? When it stops working for you, what do you do? Are you stuck (ew, no pun intended) with them or do you think it’s legal to cut things off and back off?

I’ve heard some of my married friends say, “Girl, if I were single, I would be having a great time with that arrangement!”.  Yes well, I have a wonderful time being single, but getting an ideal friends with benefits arrangement started is about as complicated as getting a good relationship off the ground.

You have to find the right person who is trustworthy and drama-free. Then it helps if they are really hot and attracted to you too.  If I actually manage to locate this person, I’m not suggesting FWB status.  I’m looking at him in disbelief and wondering what I can cook him to impress him! Is it just me? Are there people you meet that actually make a good candidate for no strings attached hook ups?

If you get the Friends with benefits arrangement in place, when do you decide it’s a wrap? Would it take something drastic? Do you just outgrow the situation?

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PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
1:08 pm

@ARed i watched that last night also. She really thougth the ex was going to take her back with twins? How many 16/17 year old guys you know is going to do that? There are some grown men who wouldn’t enter into that situation.

Luvbug

April 7th, 2010
1:10 pm

you know a lot of folks are just spiritual, which means they don’t have to follow any rules

Professor – LOL. I would probably fall under the spiritual category, although I would call it that and I don’t necessarily agree with or understand these rules. God knows that, so no need for me to pretend in front of humans…cuz they don’t decide nothing.

Willie Dynamite

April 7th, 2010
1:11 pm

Afternoon All,

Pretty live in here today. Yall pretty much got it covered. The Holier than thou crowd has spoken. The I respect my body too much crowd has spoken. The I dont see nuthin wrong crowd has spoken. The all yall are sluts and whores crowd has spoken.

Lets see, who’s left?

Luvbug

April 7th, 2010
1:11 pm

*would not* call

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
1:11 pm

@Slim/Ared I hate I missed that one, because I meant to see it…I cannot manage twins as an adult so I wanted to see how the teen did with the babies and the drama involved.

I would probably faint if I had twins while being a single parent.

Willie Dynamite

April 7th, 2010
1:16 pm

Afternoon All,

(Thanks filter) guess I used the wrong word. Lets try this again.

Its pretty live in here today. Looks like yall have covered all the bases. The Holier than thou crowd has spoken. The I love my body too much crowd has spoken, The all yall are s l u t s and wh*res crowd has spoken. The I dont see nuthin wrong crowd has spoken.

Lets see, who’s left???

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
1:20 pm

That pretty much covered it Willie.

Luvbug

April 7th, 2010
1:20 pm

lurker – I have no problem with people abstaining. Who am I to measure people? Whatever makes you happy. I don’t even have a problem with people falling off their own mark. Everybody does (especially me). However, I do think it is humorous when people think that naming something different makes it different…then proceed to harass people who fall outside of their made up conditions and definitions…whether the topic is sex or not.

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
1:21 pm

Professor,

actually she handled the twins pretty well, it was “man drama” that had her going. And the father of the twins was actually trying to do the right thing.

SexyCool

April 7th, 2010
1:22 pm

Hey Mr. Dynamite – you can count me in the *I-have-no-judgement-about-it* crowd. What grown folks do is *they* business.

You do what works for you and yours and I’ll do what works me and mine.

czBrat

April 7th, 2010
1:27 pm

vacation? no such luck, Professor. although thing 1 and thing 2 are having a blast in orlando as we speak. wish i were there for the bacchus bash at the outlet this friday :(

LOL @ Willie

Willie Dynamite

April 7th, 2010
1:27 pm

Hot Dayum I’m Mr. Dynamite now. Does that mean I’m getting good or am I jus getting Old.

BTW- thats the crowd I’m in. Looks good from this side of the fence.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 7th, 2010
1:29 pm

SexyCool, I’m with you and Dynamite. It really isn’t my concern who anyone humps around with between hrs of 10-3a, after a movie, during a movie, with a meal, or just sippin on some SLISHTZ MAWLT LICKKA :lol:

AmazonRed™

April 7th, 2010
1:33 pm

The father of those twins on the show was a SAINT! It was a one night hook up and he stepped up, go her an apt and stayed with her as they “got to know one another.” :? All the while she’s running after her ex…who is glad he dodged that bullet.

No wonder after he got dumped he didn’t want her back. He tasted freedom again. :lol:

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
1:34 pm

It sure brought some lurkers to the surface this morning tho

SlimCoo-Coo

April 7th, 2010
1:34 pm

Mr. Dynamite…I can’t help but hear the voice of JJ from Good Times…DYNOMIIIITTTEE!!!! :lol: You wouldn’t know how to paint would ya?

SlimCoo-Coo

April 7th, 2010
1:36 pm

DIg That It’s cooled off in here now from the morning trolls…it must be recess in some part of the world. lol

SlimCoo-Coo

April 7th, 2010
1:36 pm

Now I feel like it’s back to Old School Wednesday now.

Kym-Homeowner!!!

April 7th, 2010
1:38 pm

@Luvbug..I guess either way will work..with reason or just as a regulation/training/keep the joker on his toes

@AmazonR..yes it is!!! Tired from the move..but blessed to be in my own home.

czBrat

April 7th, 2010
1:39 pm

seems like the banner ads on the side of my screen know i’m on a 7-day fast :evil:

Willie Dynamite

April 7th, 2010
1:42 pm

Slim – wrong Dynamite, naw I dont paint. Since we talking Good Times think less JJ and more Sweet Daddy. Haha haha

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
1:44 pm

I can’t wait until next week. I will be in the mountains and loving it. Maybe that is why time is passing by so slow. It knows I’m itching to GTFOH

RelldaRake

April 7th, 2010
1:45 pm

THE ROTTY SITE IS HOT

i miss mine…me and the dog were very close

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
1:45 pm

think less JJ and more Sweet Daddy

Good one bruh

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
1:46 pm

Random thought:

Why is that once you find someone that interests you, your ex(s) pop up claiming to be changed and ready to offer whatever your heart desires.

GTFOH!

Willie Dynamite

April 7th, 2010
1:47 pm

Dig – What mountains? Cabin style or what?

SlimCoo-Coo

April 7th, 2010
1:48 pm

Dig That Would you like to adopt me for that week also. You can use me as a tax write off…I shole need to GTFOH too.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 7th, 2010
1:50 pm

PrincessNik That’s because boys like their toys. You’re like that old toy that he use to play with a while ago until he gets something new & more exciting at the time…however, he doesn’t get interested into that old toy until someone else expresses interest in it. LOL!

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
1:53 pm

@ Slim

i’m so over it, til its not even a speck in my rearview mirror

Like Mariah and Nicki said

When i break, i break……up out my face boy

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
1:55 pm

Cabins and lakes and mountains and fishing and swimming and dranking, hot tubbin’ and butt naked with a fine mamacita chasing each other around talking shyt and whole bunch of things you virgins don’t know about yet. LMAO!!!
Yep Willie- complete isolation

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
1:55 pm

Not even a nail technician with a whole lot of gel and acrylic can fix this
when i break, i break
If we were 2 Lego blocks
Even the harvard university
Graduating Class of 2010
Couldn’t put us back together again
When I break boy
UP OUT MY FACE BOY

SlimCoo-Coo

April 7th, 2010
1:58 pm

PrincessNik But doesn’t it feel sorta good to be in that position?

Luvbug

April 7th, 2010
2:01 pm

with reason or just as a regulation/training/keep the joker on his toes

Now that’s too funny

…sneaking up next to the bed at 4am wearing only a blinged out pink eye patch and panty bottoms banging a steal spoon against a pot…Wake up fool!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Who you dreamin bout????????

…I wouldn’t do such a thing.

DreamsMaterialize

April 7th, 2010
2:02 pm

Carlito You might want to contact the breeder personally. My coworker got his pup about 3 weeks ago, and he said the breeder had just welped a litter. Could be he hasn’t updated the link yet, or maybe the pups go that quickly. Either way, I say call him, that’s what my coworker did.

If I kill someone and someone says to me killing is wrong…THEY ARE NOT JUDGING…it is what it is
Are they judging if they’re still out there killing?

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
2:02 pm

Slim, of course it does especially when the newbie says things like

” if he still has feelings for you that’s not my problem he messed up, one man’s loss is another mans gain and that main just happens to be me”

:oops:

right now i’m all about me (and lil mama :) )and my path to happiness

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

April 7th, 2010
2:03 pm

@PrincessNik….Tell oh boy to get in line! He missed his opportunity go cool-off in the Atlantic! yea

On Topic. Friends with Benefits has existed thru out the history of time! I have done it plenty of times. But once them MULTIPLES Ossss start happening they catch feelings and I catch a plane…..I am out!! YEAA… :smile:

@Slimone…..Have you recovered from too much froggie-styling this past weekend?

Know thyself grasshopper and be prepared to acquire what you desire!

@Hey what’s up Snoop number one detective AmazonRed?

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
2:05 pm

oops

main= man

DreamsMaterialize

April 7th, 2010
2:07 pm

That’s because boys like their toys.
It’s really because we’re territorial. I might not have played with my GI Joes since I was eight, but don’t let that fool you into thinking that you can play with them. They’re mine, ALL mine. lol

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
2:08 pm

Dreams M, too funny

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
2:09 pm

Nik – Thats funny cause my EX said that right before I served her divorce papers.. One mans trash is another mans treasure. I told her yeah but its still one mans trash, so come on and sign these papers.. Just like you know what the next chick got when it comes to your ex, he knows what the next dude is getting when it comes to you..

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 7th, 2010
2:12 pm

unfortunately i’ve outgrown the FWB. :( it used to be so much fun! no feelings involved, etc.

Melo

April 7th, 2010
2:14 pm

Why is that once you find someone that interests you, your ex(s) pop up claiming to be changed and ready to offer whatever your heart desires.

PrincessNik??/anyof u ladies???

SlimO said it well with regards to ur qstion…but

have u ever been in the opposite situ,where the new dude wont plumb it like the old dude,after all is said and done, and new dude seems to leave u with an unfulfilled quench that now,!!?? :evil: u pining for old dude’s efficient dyckk?? :lol: even tho new dude is a nice guy!!?? :lol:

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
2:15 pm

he knows what the next dude is getting when it comes to you..

@ DK yea he knows, that’s exactly why he wanna come back :)

He knows i make it do what it do, in the bedroom, the kitchen, or the boardroom.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
2:15 pm

I have an opening for a FWB, must provide own transportation, knee pads and spit.

SexyCool

April 7th, 2010
2:15 pm

I just got a *grown man* text message from TheDude. OMG! Right at this moment, that dude can get anything I got!
LOL!

Melo

April 7th, 2010
2:15 pm

unfortunately i’ve outgrown the FWB. it used to be so much fun! no feelings involved,

@Beutiful??

but Vegas was just 3/4 months away when u got beat by old school mate???…. when did u grow outa that?

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
2:16 pm

Sexy Cool, awesome.

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

April 7th, 2010
2:16 pm

pining for old dude’s efficient dyckk??

Melo,

dyckk don’t pay any bills last time i checked, i can work with you and teach you how to stroke the kitty just the way i like it, but i can’t teach you how to be man

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
2:17 pm

Another reason I dont ever go back begging a chick to get back with me… So her and her new dude can sit around and talk about it.. Wow!

Scratched her name out my telephone book and never again took a second look.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
2:18 pm

Different strokes for different folks. Get it?