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It’s not working

I can imagine that the “friends with benefits” (FWB) arrangement has found its way into most of our lives.  Whether or we planned it or not, FWB doesn’t really have a long shelf-life.  I’m starting to think that this is probably for the best.

I wonder when is it a good idea to pull the plug on it though? When it stops working for you, what do you do? Are you stuck (ew, no pun intended) with them or do you think it’s legal to cut things off and back off?

I’ve heard some of my married friends say, “Girl, if I were single, I would be having a great time with that arrangement!”.  Yes well, I have a wonderful time being single, but getting an ideal friends with benefits arrangement started is about as complicated as getting a good relationship off the ground.

You have to find the right person who is trustworthy and drama-free. Then it helps if they are really hot and attracted to you too.  If I actually manage to locate this person, I’m not suggesting FWB status.  I’m looking at him in disbelief and wondering what I can cook him to impress him! Is it just me? Are there people you meet that actually make a good candidate for no strings attached hook ups?

If you get the Friends with benefits arrangement in place, when do you decide it’s a wrap? Would it take something drastic? Do you just outgrow the situation?

473 comments Add your comment

lurker

April 7th, 2010
10:43 am

I agree with ABC. Slut = FWB

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
10:44 am

Part Deux – OK Then.. I guess we do have a love thang.. Umm yes please elaborate on that SC..

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
10:44 am

All I have to say is this… Why so serious???

@DK- Especially since we just talking gettin some and the title it comes with.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
10:46 am

I guess I like exchanging Phuck Faces..

lurker

April 7th, 2010
10:48 am

Hank Johnson – glad your concerns lie on more viable issues. If it make as much sense to you as it does me, talking about Guam or Miami on a dating blog makes you stupid if you’re point is there are greater concerns in the world. Your concerns are probably valid but this ain’t the forum nor platform.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
10:54 am

I know you seen me on the video (true)
I know you heard me on the radio (true)
But you still don’t pay me no attention
Listenin to what your girlfriends mention
He’s a slut, he’s a h0e, he’s a freak
Got a different girl every day of the week
It’s cool, not tryin to put a rush on you
I had to let you know that I got a crush on you

Johnny

April 7th, 2010
10:54 am

I’m Swedish

Tired of BS

April 7th, 2010
10:55 am

Ladies….. CLOSE YOUR LEGS. If you want a quality man, you have to be a quality woman. Make him work for you. I don’t mean a few dates in either, I mean months into a relationship. If you want to be treated like a queen, then damn girl, act like you deserve the crown.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
10:57 am

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
10:59 am

Tired – Close their legs.. As if thats gonna happen.. This is the A where its Good and Plenty. Where the competitionn is fierce especially for the dudes at the top of the food chain.. Im just saying.. As long as these chicks value money over love.. Please they’ll never close their legs and will do more than just open their legs to get that “Security” theyre looking for..

IDK..part 2

April 7th, 2010
11:00 am

@ My Luv Thang…I gots it! (let me hurry and submit before I delete this part too)

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
11:00 am

If you want to get in between legs it is very easy in this city.

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
11:01 am

“I guess I like exchanging Phuck Faces”

Exactly

Kym-Homeowner!!!

April 7th, 2010
11:02 am

Morning All,

Hmmm been here done this..it can be a challenge. I think the young trolls are out this morn..aww spring break got to love it!!

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
11:02 am

Mine dresses up for me in wigs and different things. Looks like a different woman but the same great feeling. :)

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
11:03 am

@Tired
I guess its easy for you to open your legs for the guy that says I want to be in a relationship with you and y’all break up and you do the same thing in your “new” relationship and y’all break up. Lol You still been giving it up and led nowhere.

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
11:04 am

@Carlito- Man I love me some role playing. That’s hot homie

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
11:06 am

I like role playing also.. Just with different women..

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
11:06 am

Dig That, I love it also. I never know who I will come home to. :)

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
11:06 am

Carlito I hope if rains tomorrow my cars are yellow from all of this pollen.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
11:06 am

Infamous, you owe me a keyboard. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 7th, 2010
11:07 am

Instead of them dressing up to look like other women I just like to skip that part and let it be a different woman..

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
11:08 am

Professor I park in the garage at home and in one of the racing teams garages at work. This pollen is everywhere. I am glad I do not have allergies. :)

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
11:11 am

Infamous, LOL

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
11:11 am

Please don’t get it twisted I have seen several people that are unable to handle the FWB arrangement. Either they are hopeful that it will lead to more and/or disappointed when the benefits stop and they are sitting there with nothing. I guess it is great if you are the person with no cares or worries, but once that mess is over I have seen folks looking :shock: :cry: or just plain s.t.u.p.i.d.

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
11:12 am

Carlito you lucky fellow you! I park outside at work and it is horrible here. Not to mention it is a little windy outside so that stuff is blowing everywhere. I wish I could just take a water hose and get some of it off my car.

Luvbug

April 7th, 2010
11:13 am

These folks over here (work)…Gooooooood Googly Moogly…anyways…

I think it can work. I assume FWB means no emotional commitment, titles and plans for marriage, but dating and sex. I’ve done that. I have no regrets about it, but I guess that is b/c I’ve not subscribed to an orthodox religion…though I do believe in God.

Now, were I a follower of one of the main religions, I imagine I wouldn’t be having sex outside of marriage…no matter what I called it Boyfriend/Girlfriend, dating, engaged, FWB…

lurker

April 7th, 2010
11:14 am

Please don’t get it twisted I have seen several people that are unable to handle the FWB arrangement. Either they are hopeful that it will lead to more and/or disappointed when the benefits stop and they are sitting there with nothing. I guess it is great if you are the person with no cares or worries, but once that mess is over I have seen folks looking or just plain s.t.u.p.i.d.

Co-sign….which is why I hold to folks fooling themselves getting into this type of mess. I’m sure the masses will disagree but I have yet to see a woman hand out and freely give away the goods without hoping or wishing for more.

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
11:15 am

Professor, my DD is a 4×4 so it is supposed to be dirty. Now my baby on the other hand will not come out until it dies down.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 7th, 2010
11:19 am

I bet you are a black girl.

I’m a woman…haven’t been a girl in quite some time.

if a woman even asked where I have been I would mean mug like I know you wasn’t in my bizness.

Dig my FWB didn’t even much go there with that….I feel you,though.

Elijah

April 7th, 2010
11:20 am

Good morning folks!

Hello Sassy! :smile:

Hello Ms. Professor! :smile:

Wow, people are fired up this morning!

Passing out judgments and such! Each person has to find out what is good for them and not good for them. You need to know what the intentions are when you participate in a FWB situation. As many has stated communication with said individual on what the particulars are regarding the FWB will help the situation run the way you would like it ran!

Like Kimmie stated sometimes you are in a FWB situation due to different circumstances!

On a good note I won a March Madness pool! Now I am heading to the skripper club and I am going to rain at least $20 dollars at lunchtime!

a$$play

April 7th, 2010
11:24 am

WOW… we lit up this blog!!! To all above singling me out (I deserve it after the 31 flavors post)… My Wife does know about my “indescretions”. I have been married for 8 years (2nd Marriage, 1st was HS sweetheat lasted 10 years, she cheated too) I justify it like this… I have only had 4 one night stands and 1 affair in 8 years…That’s not too bad if you ask me.

My problem is I had lost respect for my Wife and even though that is not an excuse a big reason I had an affair. I was mentally checked out… after all these posts I guess I still am :)

FWB is a nice way of saying I have a slutty friend.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 7th, 2010
11:25 am

Now I am heading to the skripper club and I am going to rain at least $20 dollars at lunchtime!

Ooooh do it up Eli!! How you doin? ;)

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
11:25 am

Hey Elijah! Where have you been? Before you spend all that money at the skripper club please bring my lemon pepper wings with blue cheese dressing.

Elijah

April 7th, 2010
11:26 am

Ms. Sassy is a full sexy intelligent full-grown woman, you need to ask someone!

The pollen is off the charts right now, I think I need to get out of town for a few days!

Luvbug

April 7th, 2010
11:28 am

SUper Coochie??

Don’t know why, but that made me think of the Sham Wow commercial.

Luvbug

April 7th, 2010
11:30 am

Every now and then,
You may not know just when,
You’ll find a love that’ll treat you right
Cuz I was so glad to say,
That one just came my way
It was on a very special night

Wednesday lover
(Wednesday lover, wednesday lover, there’s no other)

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
11:31 am

Luvbug you did it with Wednesday Lover!

Elijah

April 7th, 2010
11:32 am

Hey preaching Professor!

Working and winning and I am very tired! I will be taking a break soon l and I will deliver your lemon pepper wings with blue cheese dressing and whatever you like for dessert! :smile:

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
11:40 am

I bet you are a black girl.

Which idiot said that? Even tho Sassy chose not to I will give the finger for you

Carlito

April 7th, 2010
11:40 am

A$$play, what caused you to lose respect for your wife?

Dig That

April 7th, 2010
11:40 am

Luvbug- You just got me a lil crunk with that Wednesday lover. I need a drank now.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 7th, 2010
11:41 am

Awww thank you Eli….you always got my back and that’s what’s up :)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 7th, 2010
11:43 am

Even tho Sassy chose not to I will give the finger for you

Thank you Dig…I was tryna be good but I’m glad you gave them the one finger salute.

Jerilu

April 7th, 2010
11:44 am

a$$play does your wife have indescretions too? does it bother you?

RelldaRake

April 7th, 2010
11:45 am

WOW the basketball wives….lol…its a show with some jilted jumpoffs that were promised the world….and shaunie pimpin there misery…looks good tho…lol…all i want to know what was D howard thinking with his baby mama….WOW

Jerilu

April 7th, 2010
11:46 am

and yeah this is a hella clicky blog. You all act lilke cant nobody you don’t “know” say anything. shheesssh

The "preaching" Professor

April 7th, 2010
11:46 am

Well Elijah I did not want to be greedy, but if you don’t mind a slice of coconut cake would be good. :grin: Let me know when you are on the way.

Kym-Homeowner!!!

April 7th, 2010
11:47 am

Well son of a biscuit eater..Mr.A$$ if I didn’t know better I would swear you were this guy I know twin..he has the same philosophy..You not a scorpio are you? Ohhh can I guess why you lost respect for your wife? I am willing to bet it was because she didn’t challenge you. Not like keep it live and popping bed room wise I mean challenge you and call you out on your bs. A little itchy itichy this chick is a B***&&*ch does the male ego good every now and then.

RelldaRake

April 7th, 2010
11:47 am

OO eric williams = lucky..his wife is a 10…a 10….Shawty is a 10…..he look like dude from the education of sonny..the gang leader for the hawks…lol