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Romantically Challenged

Romantically Challenged is a new show that will be premiering this month on ABC, starring Alyssa Milano, of all people!   I’m sorry but it is awfully hard to believe that Alyssa Milano is romantically challenged in any way.  Nonetheless,  I’m curious to see the “romantic challenges”  her character faces on the dating scene in this show.

After all of my misadventures (and yours too) I probably could serve as a consultant for the writers of this show.  I definitely have had those moments when I feel romantically challenged.  Just when I think I have found a dating groove (not as sexy as it sounds, believe me), I hit a snag with men.  Either I choose the wrong type or get confused by mixed signals.  That’s when I pretty much check out on the relationship angle altogether.

Maybe we are all challenged in some way though, right? (RIGHT!?)  I can recall a couple of exes that seemed pretty clueless about navigating a relationship.  It was exhausting at times! I didn’t want that role and the dynamics of this kind of a relationship is pretty awkward.

Do you know how uncomfortable it is explaining to a grown man that just because he ticked me off doesn’t mean I want him out of my life altogether?  Have you ever dated someone who needed to be guided about the inner workings of a relationship?

What do you think you learned from the experience? What did you learn about yourself?

What do you think makes you romantically challenged? If you are lucky enough to have it all figured out, please enlighten the rest of us.

492 comments Add your comment

I am whatever you say I am

April 6th, 2010
8:11 am

WOW! First again!!!
Let me begin by saying I’m glad Alyssa is still acting.
I was a fan back when during her who’s the boss days.
Right now romantically challeneged for me = out of a relationship and no prospects in site. Some may call it a drought, I call it romantically challenged.

I’m cool with it though. I’m right where God wants me to be :-)

Carlito

April 6th, 2010
8:35 am

I am still learning, I thought that I knew it all. But true love has a way of breaking you down along with your mate, and then hopefully you and your mate will learn it together. ( I feel like going deep on this one but it is to early)

Carlito

April 6th, 2010
8:46 am

I should have said true romance instead of true love.

AmazonRed™

April 6th, 2010
8:49 am

Have you ever dated someone who needed to be guided about the inner workings of a relationship?

What an interesting question. No one is really in any position to guide someone else about the inner workings of a relationship. What’s important to you, is important to you. No one should be able to tell you differently. Change happens when that person decides they should make the change on their own.

Stay true to self, and the rest should fall into place. Eventually, you should find someone on a similar page as you.

AmazonRed™

April 6th, 2010
8:51 am

Morning all. What a game last night. Congrats Dook.

Dig That

April 6th, 2010
8:57 am

Alyssa Milano is one sexy babe. I watch her every morning on Charmed. I think I may watch the show because of her now that I think of it.

Carlito break it down. It’s not too early.

@Ared- Yes babygirl. What a game! Got to give it up to Butler tho. Their excellence hurt a lot of people in the pocket. This may be the first year I didn’t do a bracket and I am not mad about it.

I am whatever you say I am

April 6th, 2010
8:58 am

off topic: Tuesday’s pollen count nearly doubles to 2,967

Kill me now! :evil:

I am whatever you say I am

April 6th, 2010
9:00 am

Carlito: I understand you clearly

you may have to break it down barney style for the others though.

Carlito

April 6th, 2010
9:00 am

Dig That, Alyssa is sexy :) . To early for me because I try to get the majority of my work done before I blog. LOL

CoolShadow

April 6th, 2010
9:07 am

What do you think you learned from the experience?

I’ve learned that dating and relationships are like interpretative dance. We (mostly) know what message we’re trying to express but how it’s interpreted by others is another story. Some dances are better than others; some dancers are better than others. Some dancers are limber, flexible and have rhythm; others are stiff and unwilling to learn new moves. Dances are best when we find someone who likes our moves is willing to achieve that rhythmic flow. But finding the right dance partner can be challenging especially when one has the rhythm and the other has two left feet

CoolShadow

April 6th, 2010
9:08 am

Correction: should’ve read …”and is willing”…

???

April 6th, 2010
9:20 am

I’d say that whenever there’s disagreement, each respective party thinks it’s the other one that needs better direction on relating appropriately. The truth of it often doesn’t matter when it comes to egos.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 6th, 2010
9:21 am

Cool – I agree and that was a great analogy. Dance partners.. Cause you dont wanna be out there two stepping and she droppin it low and grinding erywhere..

abc

April 6th, 2010
9:21 am

“just because he ticked me off doesn’t mean I want him out of my life altogether”

That phrase stands out rather strongly. If you get ‘ticked off’ at people, they’ll avoid you because you’re a drag, not because of anything they may or may not think you want. Some people thrive on adversity; whenever a chick would get that way with me, I’d dump her to avoid the grief.

i'm swiss

April 6th, 2010
9:23 am

Apparently the plants are not romantically challenged. Those mofos are going skeet skeet skeet all up in my sinuses…. You’ll never look at pollen the same way now, will ya? ;-)

On topic: Hmm… Not much to say… I guess a lot of it can be chalked up to inexperience, immaturity, insecurity, etc. And then some people are just socially retarded & that carries over to all of their relationships, I think.

i'm swiss

April 6th, 2010
9:24 am

Now see that… I just got a post with skeet skeet skeet through the blog filter, yet I can’t use the word ri-di-cu-lous without the dashes… :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 6th, 2010
9:26 am

Swiss – Try Ridonkulous..

Leggs

April 6th, 2010
9:27 am

“Right now romantically challeneged for me = out of a relationship and no prospects in site. Some may call it a drought, I call it romantically challenged.

I’m cool with it though. I’m right where God wants me to be!”

YEP. And, it feels good.

What also feels good is finally sheding the layers of winter. I feel pretty, oh so pretty!!

Good day everyone!

Carlito

April 6th, 2010
9:33 am

Leggs, you hit the nail on the head. Some are where “they” want to be and not where “He” wants us. Whether it is single or with someone. Sometimes we are to be alone, sometimes we are to be with someone. Rough roads will come no matter where you are in life, it is how you deal with them that matters. :)

Carlito

April 6th, 2010
9:34 am

“When the music changes, so does the dance.” Let the music play……

i'm swiss

April 6th, 2010
9:42 am

“Some may call it a drought, I call it romantically challenged.”

@ Leggs — I know you sound nothing like this, but every time I read ^ that phrase, I hear Carl from Sling Blade. :lol: “Some folks calls it a Kaiser blade. I call it a sling blade.” :lol:

j-mike

April 6th, 2010
9:45 am

i call it a drought…sometimes i make every effort possible but nothing ever happens. kind of depressing really

DreamsMaterialize

April 6th, 2010
9:47 am

Morning
We all have challenges in our lives, romantically or otherwise. The first time you attempt to “guide” me through our relationship is the time we can call it quits. We can work together to improve our relationship, but who am I to to tell you what a relationship is to you? On the flip side, that’s exactly what I’ll think if you try to “guide” me.

Some people thrive on adversity; whenever a chick would get that way with me, I’d dump her to avoid the grief.
abc I’m with you all day on this. If you want to be angry all the time, then you need to be with someone else.

DreamsMaterialize

April 6th, 2010
9:49 am

“Some folks calls it a Kaiser blade. I call it a sling blade.”
“can I have some french fried taters and potted meat? mmhm”

Leggs

April 6th, 2010
9:54 am

@Carlito ~ I didn’t hit the nail on the head, I am did with the first post this morning. I just copied what she said cuz I agreed with it. All credit goes to her!

i'm swiss

April 6th, 2010
9:55 am

@ Dreams — It probably comes as no surprise (given my rural upbringing) that I can do that Sling Blade voice dead-on…

You ‘ort not talk like thet, you jest a boy. Mmmhmm. :lol:

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

April 6th, 2010
9:56 am

Romantically Challenge…… I would say this when dating everyone is putting together an agenda, based upon the actions, conversation and connection. Sometimes a snag comes into play because you found out this person really is not what you are looking for. Thus you must keep it moving to the next person!

@Cool Shadow….Great Post!

@Leggs….How are you feeling today? I have a remedy for ya! Are you ready here it is!

For the Breakfast…. Eat some Kiwi Fruit, Cherries, Guavas and some LURKER luving.

For lunch…. East some Broccoli, spinach,onion and cabbage salad

For Dinner…. Watercress, beans, carrots with a side of order of LURKER luving for the next 2 weeks and you will be start feeling better right away! :wink: :wink:

I am whatever you say I am

April 6th, 2010
9:58 am

Apparently the plants are not romantically challenged. Those mofos are going skeet skeet skeet all up in my sinuses…. You’ll never look at pollen the same way now, will ya?

LMAO@ Swiss!

I am whatever you say I am

April 6th, 2010
9:59 am

“Now see that… I just got a post with skeet skeet skeet through the blog filter, yet I can’t use the word ri-di-cu-lous without the dashes… ”

ALOL@ SWISS!!!!!
I remember our test from last week on this!

Carlito

April 6th, 2010
10:00 am

Leggs, I am it is then :)

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

April 6th, 2010
10:04 am

Drama and a bad attitude will get you dump instantly! I wil stick around for a hot minute if the PSH game is good! :smile: :lol

Great game last night but Duke got all the calls last night?

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Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 6th, 2010
10:14 am

Great game last night but Duke got all the calls last night?

It was a good game for sure and I don’t even watch college ball that much….I kinda wanted Butler to win but oh well. Quiet as it’s kept….#55 from Duke can get it ;)

Leggs

April 6th, 2010
10:14 am

My coworker just won the March Madness brackets. $750. Everyone is hating on HER! Had to give her some dap and take the $60 she owed me!

SexyCool

April 6th, 2010
10:15 am

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

April 6th, 2010
10:18 am

Three Daily Words….Sexy cool can get it! :smile:
Oops that five words! :lol:

Leggs

April 6th, 2010
10:18 am

@LURKER, that sounds very, very tasty…loving the menu!

Leggs

April 6th, 2010
10:21 am

@LURKER, pumping myself up this morning (as I do every morning). Once I get past this head cold, I’m on easy street. Just a little cough left. I stopped and picked up the real Vitamin D last night.

kimmie

April 6th, 2010
10:21 am

Good morning blog peeps!

abc & others – I think what Wise was saying is that just because she might have gotten mad at you about something, it does not mean she wants out of the relationship. It didn’t say to me that she’s mad all the time or likes to keep mess going, which I agree is a turnoff. I’ve been in relationships where I’ve gotten upset about something a guy did and called him on it. Only to later have the guy thinking, “well, I guess that’s it for kimmie & I” and not hear from them. No, if I didn’t care anymore & want out, I’ll directly say it, let you know if it’s a dealbreaker. But in any relationship you’ll have disagreements.

As for the topic, I don’t think any of us come with an instruction manual. It’s trial & error and you either learn from your mistakes or continue to make them. Plus, a lot of relationship mistakes stem from things that have nothing to do with the actual relationship, like how you were raised, what examples you saw growing up, past abuse, etc.

SexyCool

April 6th, 2010
10:22 am

“just because he ticked me off doesn’t mean I want him out of my life altogether”

This statement stood out to me as well, abc – but for different reasons. Relationships are not going to be sunshine and roses all the time. Arguments, anger, disagreements happen – even in good relationships.

If I have to explain this to a grown man, I would be leery of his ability to handle an adult relationship.

RelldaRake

April 6th, 2010
10:23 am

stinkin thinkin will keep you in the challenged mind frame….i interact with women everyday…i just dont approach them all as the one..or worthy of a date….what i do is “start with an outcome in mind” on the ones i want to date…and i will say my success rate with that mindset is very good……if you think it – then it will become…guard your thoughts folks

SexyCool

April 6th, 2010
10:24 am

LOL – LURKER. I know. (winking…)

kimmie

April 6th, 2010
10:24 am

Scool – High five! That’s the way I took it as well.

AmazonRed™

April 6th, 2010
10:24 am

I hated Jennifer Hudson’s “One Shining Moment” :evil: BRING BACK LUTHER!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 6th, 2010
10:28 am

I was listening to the IPOD and that Gladys Knight The way we were came on and that song is the truth.. You can hear Gladys pouring her soul out on it.. Why cant we hear music like that today..

SexyCool

April 6th, 2010
10:29 am

Hey, kimster. Luv to ya’, babygirl!

SexyCool

April 6th, 2010
10:32 am

Listening to Imelda May – Love Tattoo. (hotness)

I am whatever you say I am

April 6th, 2010
10:41 am

I have hiccups!!!
Ugh!!! :evil:

I am whatever you say I am

April 6th, 2010
10:42 am

lets see

hiccups, sinuses, allergies, and bad back from car accident yesterday.

Kill me now!!!!

Saying in my Fred Sanford voice: Elizabeth….I’m ready to join you!

DreamsMaterialize

April 6th, 2010
10:51 am

I’ve been in relationships where I’ve gotten upset about something a guy did and called him on it.
I guess it depends on what happens after this. After you call him on it, do you all reconcile and agree to put it behind you? There has to be closure to the disagreement. If it’s left open, then I have to wonder what the deal is. I can see both sides though. Some people will walk quickly walk away from a relationship as a defense mechanism or as a way of avoiding something that they’ve had a bad experience with in the past. I’m not saying it’s a good way to deal with adversity in a relationship, but I do understand that our hearts are fragile, and people will go great lengths to protect their hearts to avoid feeling pain again.

Leggs

April 6th, 2010
10:52 am

@I am, you were in an accident yesterday? Other than your back, you ok? Have you seen a doctor re your back pain? Is the car ok???