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Are first impressions reliable?

Have you ever been out and met someone who you instantly didn’t like? The person just rubbed you the wrong way because they said or did something that turned you off.  When that person later turns out to be someone you become friends with or date, you have to wonder how reliable our first impressions really are.

So often we seem to make so many snap judgments and quick superficial scans and we actually rule a potential romance out based on this.  When you think of your best relationships or closest friendships, do you remember what you first thought about that person when you met?

Do you think your first impressions on the dating scene gets you a second look or makes people steer clear?

HAPPY MONDAY! How was your weekend? Did you have any first impressions (good or bad) this weekend?

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I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
2:19 pm

side note: for those considering HOA please please please pay attention to your convenants and reserves before aggreeing to buy the property.

There are some poorly managed HOA’s out there.
Once in the property, it’s always a good idea to go to board meetings and when there is an opening, run for a seat on the board which is relatively easy to get since noone else wants it..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA SPAGHETTI LEGS

April 5th, 2010
2:19 pm

JTJ – If I were getting married or settling down I would buy a home in the City of Decatur or Emory areas.. Their home values never go down.. My Fernbank Ele buddies that lived over there all have settled in the city of Decatur, literally as neighbors, coming in and buying up whole neighborhoods.. Agnes Scott, Oakhurst, East Lake and a host of others. The diversification is moving down Second Avenue from East Lake.. You even see all races at the Gresham Road Walmart and that was unheard of just three years ago.. I have seen the changes and keep seeing them so I have a little insight most dont..

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 5th, 2010
2:20 pm

Many of those residents have ended up OTP in Clayton, Gwinnett, DeKalb, etc.

Yeah alot of those residents were given the notion that they’d be coming back once the projects were “fixed up” only to realize that instead they might not be b/c they were making the projects mixed neighborhoods. I’ve noticed several projects being torn down but what I’m anxious to see is what happens to the big one right off of Boulevard. If they get rid of that then it’ll really cement some things/ideologies.

DreamsMaterialize

April 5th, 2010
2:21 pm

I kinda get reminded of this when I go down Northside Drive
The same for Howell Mill Rd. I remember in college a group of us were thinking of buying a house, and the realtor showed us all these ragged houses around Howell Mill. We were disgusted, and figured the realtor was only showing us hood houses (probably was true). That same area now has condos, lofts, biking trails, etc. Thinking back shows me that the realtor probably wasn’t that good anyway, otherwise she would have done here homework and told us that that neighborhood would be completely different in 10-15 years.

JtJ

April 5th, 2010
2:23 pm

@ Dreams…that’s it. Schools are HUGE concern for us, we have 3 that will be in high school between this year and 2012.

We have found some really nice homes in our area, mostly 3 bR though. We need a full basement and “a man cave” for JT,of course.
That lady did not run us off, our home inspector came with us and took a brief look at the house and found rotted wood in the formal living room floor hidden under the carpet and went up top to the roof and saw signs of moisture damage and he believed that water was seeping through and coming into the wall in the formal living room..hence the damp floor and rotted wood. We came prepared because we were bidding on that home and wanted to get a professional opinion before we offered anything.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA SPAGHETTI LEGS

April 5th, 2010
2:23 pm

CZ- Yes ma’am and thats where I became a believer.. When they get done with the beltline and green space allocations East Atl is going to be the place to be.. Once they allocate the green space you wont be able to build anything else.. The land itself with nothing on it inside the perimeter will be worth its weight in gold..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA SPAGHETTI LEGS

April 5th, 2010
2:27 pm

Sassy – Thats prime real estate.. Puleeze… In the heart of downtown.. The projects will be OTP.. Go look up the plans for the 3rd ward district.. or 4th ward..

Dreams Mat – Yeah see Ive seen the city begin the turn around all the way back to Kirkwood aka Oakhurst. Back then you could get homes in East Lake for 5 to 10 Grand… Now they are going for 3 to 4 hundred thousand. I wont miss the opportunity again..

Poppa Grande

April 5th, 2010
2:27 pm

Dreams..

A lot of my law school classmates have bought houses in the Howell Mill area. They love it. They don’t really know what it was before.

One of my wife’s childhood friends live at Eastlake. She doesn’t even know what that area was like back in the day. (This friend comes from upstate NY)

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
2:28 pm

Poppa I like the power that the Assembly has given HOA’s in regards to foreclosing on a property to get dues.
Negative reserves and the whole community goes to poo I don’t care how nice of a property it is.

However, in some areas, the HOA can be overbearing.
For example, my father lives in golf course community in Phoenix which is probably 90% republican (we are not in case you were wondering).
In his community, they give you 24hrs to have the rocks spread out on your garden area (they use rocks for lawn instead of grass in phoenix) or you will be fined.
within 23hrs and 59 mins they were already knocking at father’s door to inquire about the rocks not being spread out.
My father explained that they had just moved in and the rocks had just been delivered but the very fact they couldn’t wait a few more hours irked my parents.
Now stuff like that, is an example of power hungry HOA.

DreamsMaterialize

April 5th, 2010
2:30 pm

PopG
From the way things are developing, it looks like Chamblee and Doraville are just becoming extensions (economically, not legally) of Dunwoody and Brookhaven. If that continues, then that MS-13 problem will vanish, or become some other city’s problem.

I have seen the changes and keep seeing them so I have a little insight most dont
Man, as soon as you see a Starbucks, Moes, Dunkin Donuts, or some other fast casual dining spot show up, then you change is a comin’. lol They put that brand new huge state of the art BP over there on Bankhead. The changes are starting close to GA Tech and creeping west on Bankhead.

If they get rid of that then it’ll really cement some things/ideologies
Consider it cemented then because Atlanta has already stated that it’s goal is to be the first major urban area with no “projects”.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA SPAGHETTI LEGS

April 5th, 2010
2:30 pm

The Howell Mill area is the same way.. See the back streets of Howell Mill lead to some of those “Elite” Buckhead neighborhoods and so on and so forth.. The city is gonna be where its at in the next 5 to 10 years. I just tell all my friends do it now because soon you might not be able to afford it..

RelldaRake

April 5th, 2010
2:30 pm

TIGER WOODS open book today…he answering EVERYTHING

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA SPAGHETTI LEGS

April 5th, 2010
2:33 pm

Dreams Mat – Exactly who wouldve ever thought they would tear down BankHead Courts and all of them.. Why? because again check out where the beltline runs.. Those projects were sitting on prime real estate.. I know you know off that Dankhead I mean Bankhead, I mean Hollowell Pkwy..

czBrat

April 5th, 2010
2:34 pm

EXACTLY, Dreams!! my dilema … i have friends that live in beautiful, spacious craftsman style homes in west end. they’re not too happy with the area as it is now but, of course, properties can be had for the low-low. what are the chances the area will see a turnaround in the near future? i’ve not liked that area since i attended clark 20 years ago :(

Poppa Grande

April 5th, 2010
2:34 pm

Kimmie

I don’t really pay Michael Steele any attention anymore. I don’t mind him being conservative at all. We all come from different experiences and have different beliefs.

He lost my respect in his lack of testicles in dealing with Rush. Rush has more power in his position than Michael has in his position. He let it happen. JC Watts figured out that he was being used. Maybe Michael Steele will one day.

I have much more respect for Herman Cain than Michael Steele. They both are black conservatives. Some people have been trying to get Mr. Cain to run for Governor, but I don’t see it happening.

JtJ

April 5th, 2010
2:35 pm

@ Infamous…thanks for the info. We currently own in Lawrenceville and are going to have to float this one, while we try to sell it. Its tough decision though considering that we both work OTP as well.

@ Poppa- I truly remember what Howell Mill & Northside looked like 10 yrs ago. My sister used to work in that area and I hated having to pick her up because it was so run down looking.

My sister’s friend just bought a home near Benjamin E Mays in Atl and she is getting like $16,000 in incentives and money for buying a property in the city limits of Atlanta.

kimmie

April 5th, 2010
2:35 pm

A lot of my law school classmates have bought houses in the Howell Mill area. They love it. They don’t really know what it was before.

PG – Same with a few of my SO’s law buddies.

DreamsMaterialize

April 5th, 2010
2:39 pm

See the back streets of Howell Mill lead to some of those “Elite” Buckhead neighborhoods and so on and so
Collier Rd. runs right into Peachtree. Lots of political and economic power moves were made for all this to happen. The Buckhead Alliance literally shut the club scene down by buying those properties and then restricting the resale/lease to boutiques and other “acceptable” businesses.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA SPAGHETTI LEGS

April 5th, 2010
2:39 pm

Honestly I think Dekalb might fracture because ISP Dekalb and OTP Dekalb are going to be sooooo different.. Call me crazy but I can see one annexing itself from the other.. Actually all ISP counties vs the OTP side of the county.. Or the most common thing happening in Dekalb.. Taxes are going up every year and you cant afford to live there on a low income because the taxes are gonna kill you.. Is it right.. No but its happening. Fulton taxes are going thru the roof and etc.. You either can stay here or not..

kimmie

April 5th, 2010
2:40 pm

I don’t mind him being conservative at all. We all come from different experiences and have different beliefs.

PG – I agree – the fact that he’s conservative is not a problem for me, it’s his bafoonery & yes, letting Rush tell him how high to jump, that is downright ridiculous! How he looks himself in the mirror is beyond me!

Poppa Grande

April 5th, 2010
2:41 pm

City of Atlanta is getting out of the project business. Economics have made it such that way. Capitol Homes had a case about 10-15 years ago where a baby was killed by a cockroach crawling into her mouth while she was asleep. That made it imperative that maintenance expenses increase. There were other cases against the Housing Authority. Maintenance costs and legal costs mount up. Being funded by tax dollars leaves the housing authority not unlimited amount of cash to keep up the housing obligations and the legal obligations.

Money drives everything in America (not just here in Atlanta).

DreamsMaterialize

April 5th, 2010
2:43 pm

what are the chances the area will see a turnaround in the near future?
czBrat that has been one of the few areas where regentrification has been REALLY slow to affect. I haven’t really figured out why. Given it’s proximity to downtown and the fact that it’s a university area, it seems like it would have changed a long time ago. Maybe some of the other residents can weigh in on this one.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA SPAGHETTI LEGS

April 5th, 2010
2:45 pm

Pop – Yeah Im not saying Atlanta will be like a New York or what have you but the money that will be brought into the city by the live workspace revolution right now is tremendous.. Whole city blocks beign built where you dont have to leave your “Burrough”.. You dont have to drive a car to do anything.. The Traffic alone brought this into the forefront by itself..

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 5th, 2010
2:48 pm

Money drives everything

Cash
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Poppa Grande

April 5th, 2010
2:49 pm

J+J

she is getting like $16,000 in incentives and money for buying a property in the city limits of Atlanta.

$16,000! We got $50,000.00 grant through the empowerment zone funds during the early 2000s.

DreamsMaterialize

April 5th, 2010
2:50 pm

Call me crazy but I can see one annexing itself from the other..
Like how Dunwoody and Sandy Springs separated themselves from Atlanta. Sort of wierd in the case of Sandy Springs though since Sandy Springs extends from Roswell down to Buckhead. Another case of money. Sandy Springs pooled money and bought all the parks in within their borders from Fulton County. So, now their Parks and Rec. Office controls the parks, not Fulton County Parks and Rec.

Poppa Grande

April 5th, 2010
2:52 pm

Sassy

Cash
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After taking Constitutional Law in law school, I know how true that really is.
The US Constitution is more about guidelines for making money than anything else: Commerce Clause, tax clause, Spending clause, coining money powers, etc.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 5th, 2010
2:52 pm

Anybody read about this “Cracker ball” recently held in W.P.beach Fla.?

JtJ

April 5th, 2010
2:53 pm

@ Poppa..WOW $50K!! She will be mad when she hears that. But, she is a first-time home onwer, 30 and single, so for the move was a good one.
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THE INFAMOUS DK AKA SPAGHETTI LEGS

April 5th, 2010
2:54 pm

On another note.. I ref-ed 8 games this weekend and I am sore beyond means.. Running after 10 to 13 year old basketball players in camp is more than a notion.. Someof them lil dudes were jumpin out the gym too.. Prep camp for AAU games.. Its amazing I didnt know Basketball was ALL year round for real..

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 5th, 2010
2:57 pm

the empowerment zone = the old hood made(kinda) new

That’s why the people that move there are being given so many incentives. At least that’s what I ran into when I was looking for my home in 05/06. One of my brothers lives in Fairburn and advised me to look towards the south and I found my home the very 1st time I went…it was the first house actually. Luckily for me I don’t have children b/c the school system sucks hairy butt….buut I do live in a great neighborhood and they’re constantly building up around me.

kimmie

April 5th, 2010
2:57 pm

Looking at that picture of Tiger on the front page – he really looks beat up & haggard.

I never could stand him even before this whole mess, but I hope he beats the pants off errbody at the Masters!

Poppa Grande

April 5th, 2010
2:58 pm

Sandy Springs has to watch it. They are a bit too agressive on trying to enact ordinances that eliminate a group that they don’t want in the city. They have ordinances that borderline US Constitutional violations. They have a few that blantantly target apartment home occupants that they don’t want more specifically latinos.

The one ordinance about having a certain number of people per bathroom can only be legitimized by saying that it is about not overwhelming the plumbing (infrastructure). However, we know who is being targeted. My Con Law professor even has been contacted by a group interested in suing Sandy Springs in regards to the ordinance.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA SPAGHETTI LEGS

April 5th, 2010
2:58 pm

The west side of Atlanta is the last stronghold for old black money.. Regardless to how it looks alot of old people are holding on to those properties.. The west side was also the most crime ridden so its hard to go thru there and get it all done in one fell swoop but they are working from the inside in starting from Bankhead and working back toward downtown and from Northside until they meet at The AU center areas.. Heyal has anyone seen the Old Bluff lately..

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
2:58 pm

mental note to self: when I am reading to move, I will sell my house and move into an apartment (temporarily -less than 6 months) that way I can easily move into a new house without having to worry about 2 mortgages.
I feel bad with folks trying to sell their houses and putting contigent offers stating they will buy if their current home sells.
Many deals have been lost that way in this economy.
just ask the lady who’s house I almost bought. She wanted to move to midtown but couldn’t do it until her townhome sold.
Looks like someone else is in that midtown home.

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
2:59 pm

typo= meant to say ready

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 5th, 2010
3:00 pm

The US Constitution is more about guidelines for making money than anything else

Ain’t that the American way?…comeuppance first and foremost regardless of who’s backs get stepped on or broken in the process.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA SPAGHETTI LEGS

April 5th, 2010
3:00 pm

Sorry Outside in..

RelldaRake

April 5th, 2010
3:01 pm

Basketball was ALL year round for real..

- only sport not year around is football…but soccer…baseball….and basketball 24/7/365…..but instead of AAU..they need academies where they play ball but also learn how to be good pro athletes…that what we need…like a kid signs with a pro club and goes thru the system from an early age

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
3:03 pm

Money does drive everything in America but remember that who’s face that is on the money is the one that makes the golden rules.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA SPAGHETTI LEGS

April 5th, 2010
3:03 pm

Pop G – Sandy Springs knows exactly what theyre doing.. They know it borderlines and how close to the line it comes. They have constitutional scholars telling them what to do.. Thats why the annexed from Fulton county so easily..

Poppa Grande

April 5th, 2010
3:04 pm

DK

There has always been an issue between North DeKalb and South DeKalb. It was really evident when Cynthia McKinney was in office. Many repub cross party lines in primaries to vote her out. Most of them were in North DeKalb (North of Memorial)

Counties can’t split without a full state vote. Look at the fight to break north Fulton back into the old Milton County that it used to be. Even with this Republican led General Assembly, it has failed to make it to a vote.

After the General Assembly vote, if passed, the citizens of the area get to vote.

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
3:05 pm

LOL Cynthia McKinney: that clown!

Dig That

April 5th, 2010
3:05 pm

Heyal has anyone seen the Old Bluff lately..

@DK
It is amazing isn’t it.

Dig That

April 5th, 2010
3:06 pm

The people of Sandy Springs were not playing games at all. We want out. Lol By hook or crook

Poppa Grande

April 5th, 2010
3:06 pm

DK…my point is the that they will have to start spending more money on lawsuits. Somethings are really close to the line. I know that they have legal scholars because some of the ordinances are almost exactly like ones that I read about in conlaw class.

However, law is fact dependent. All it takes is one little difference that can lead to difference decisions than one intended.

Poppa Grande

April 5th, 2010
3:07 pm

different decisions than one intended or expected.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA SPAGHETTI LEGS

April 5th, 2010
3:07 pm

Ol Cynt McKinney was telling the truth about a lot of things she was just going about it in the wrong way. She just came off as an angry black female and thats how she got played. I mean alot of things she was saying was spot on but she was on TV talking like Kanye and you cant do that as a politician..

Leggs

April 5th, 2010
3:08 pm

Good afternoon. Have no energy to read all of this, but if still on first impressions I have this to say….

I remember meeting this guy while at a gf’s apt. Her boyfriend had stopped by with another guy. I didn’t have a car at the time and when I realized his friend was leaving I asked if he would drop me off at the subdivision a few blocks up. He immediately said no. I asked why not knowing he was passing it due to comments made earlier in the day. He said he didn’t feel like stopping. I couldn’t understand this nor would I let it go. He said I was abrasive and wouldn’t take no for an answer. I couldn’t accept it because he was basically driving by my front door. I couldn’t understand why someone wouldn’t help another out with such a simple request. Hell he could have come to a slow stop and pushed my butt out the door. 32 years later we are very good friends.

I stayed home sick in bed this past beautiful weekend. I was miserable each time that sun winked at me through the blinds.

Ok, w/o going back reading any posts, what is the topic??

i'm swiss

April 5th, 2010
3:08 pm

@ i am… — That’s the approach to take — especially in this market. “Contingent” offers don’t give you much negotiating power, but if you’re ready to put the cash on the table, you can play hardball. Mrs. Swiss & I were fortunate to each sell our individual places (both closed within a week after the honeymoon), then got a short-term lease on an apt. while we looked for a new place. Of course, we were looking at mostly bank-owned properties, so contingent offers were not really an option, anyway.