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City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
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City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
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Are first impressions reliable?

Have you ever been out and met someone who you instantly didn’t like? The person just rubbed you the wrong way because they said or did something that turned you off.  When that person later turns out to be someone you become friends with or date, you have to wonder how reliable our first impressions really are.

So often we seem to make so many snap judgments and quick superficial scans and we actually rule a potential romance out based on this.  When you think of your best relationships or closest friendships, do you remember what you first thought about that person when you met?

Do you think your first impressions on the dating scene gets you a second look or makes people steer clear?

HAPPY MONDAY! How was your weekend? Did you have any first impressions (good or bad) this weekend?

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Carlito

April 5th, 2010
1:27 pm

I heard that somewhere, I was not testing that theory or anything. LOL

i'm swiss

April 5th, 2010
1:28 pm

Oops, sorry… didn’t mean for all of that to be bold…

JtJ

April 5th, 2010
1:28 pm

@ CZ -We didn’t even know she had come into the house, we looked out the window and saw the other agent had pulled up with her clients and assumed they had entered the home. We turned the corner and there she was and just started asking questions. She sashayed over to the other agent ( I assume she knew her) and they started talking. My agent was like ..WTH!!!
As we were leaving, another nosey neighbor walked up and they went back into the home together with the other agents still in there. My fiancé was like…that’s the kind of neighbor you have to cuss out and set straight from jump street…”looka here b*tch…let me get a few things straight with you”…lol

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 5th, 2010
1:28 pm

@I am
nut’n. over here tryin’ to scrub *married men plz talk to me* off my fo head. ugh!

Carlito

April 5th, 2010
1:29 pm

I’m Swiss, HA HA HA HA

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
1:29 pm

at Swiss: uh, no. Negative. not happen’. Nope

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
1:30 pm

Awww… Poor Beautiful.

LOL

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
1:31 pm

@ Carlito: riiiigggghhtt :wink:

Dig That

April 5th, 2010
1:34 pm

@Carlito
Yes there is always a buffet there

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
1:34 pm

JT: you may want to scope out another neighborhood.
Your “potential” neighbors have already shown their colors.
But if you like that sort of thing, hey…do your thang

Carlito

April 5th, 2010
1:35 pm

I Am, if you want to show me a thing or to……LOL

Dig That, a very nice melting pot there.

czBrat

April 5th, 2010
1:35 pm

JtJ, dunno if you already live in the s’ville/gwinnett area, but let me just say that the day we moved into our house in s’ville ALL the neighbors made it a point to introduce themselves and chat us up. none have bothered to so much as wave since. i think it was an attempt to find out about the chocolate fam invading the neighborhood. if it weren’t for the school i wouldn’t be out there at all, and i’m already looking for a new place closer to the city once my son graduates next year. i do hope your experience is a good one. welcome!

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 5th, 2010
1:36 pm

DreamsMaterialize

April 5th, 2010
1:37 pm

She even walked down the street to house when we were there with our agent to see how much the house was selling for and asked our home inspector friend how much would the repairs would cost.
I can see both sides of this. As a homeowner in that neighborhood, you have to be concerned with the selling prices of other houses. If that house sells for 150K, then her 250K+ house comes down in value. If the value of the houses in that neighborhood start to come down, then other “less desireable” people will be able to afford houses in that neighborhood too, and the quality of life there could suffer. It has happened to lots of neighborhoods in Gwinnett. What you hope is that that neighbor is protective about EVERYBODY who ventures into that neighborhood, and not just certain people.

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

April 5th, 2010
1:37 pm

First impressions…… Well if I judge I am off her first post I would think she is a bit coo-coo!
Well I still think she is a bit coo-coo! :smile:

@SlimOne……With your sexy ankles….Can I ask why are you still in Bed? Were you up doing the Froggiestyle last night? :lol: :wink:

Random Thoughts:

Why are gas pricing increasing when we have a huge number of people who are umemployed?

I already know the answer but it is a random thought!

Carlito

April 5th, 2010
1:38 pm

So I got a picture in my email of someone’s dinner, ball and “chitlins” on a plate. Can anyone guess who sent it to me? Think Very Hard!!

Dig That

April 5th, 2010
1:39 pm

@Jt- That is crazy but it is good thing you found out first. I had a friend that went thru same thing. But her and her husband took the attitude of forget them we gon move here. Those people made them miserable. They wound up moving to keep from blowing up the subdivision. I hated to even visit. I couldn’t believe it until I saw it for myself.

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
1:40 pm

at Carlito: uh, no. Negative. not happen’. Nope

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA SPAGHETTI LEGS

April 5th, 2010
1:41 pm

JTJ – Buy inside the Perimeter… You’ll be glad you did in a few years cause Gwi-nette is gonna suffer moving forward. Really all out lying regions..

Carlito

April 5th, 2010
1:42 pm

I am, I thought you wanted something when you gave me that t-shirt last week. :)

Carlito

April 5th, 2010
1:43 pm

Melo, sent the picture. LOL

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
1:44 pm

Dreams: I understand her wanting to know the values but there are more discreet, professional ways to go about this.

She could have grabbed of the the for sale flyers if they had one available.
She could have gone to zillow.

Or she could have done what I do often is go to any major realty site and done a search in her area.
I just did a search today in my neighborhood and I am floored by how much the value has dropped. Yep, looks like I will be in my neighborhood for awhile. At least its safe, clean, quiet, and crime rate is relatively low.

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
1:44 pm

typo: grabbed one of the

kimmie

April 5th, 2010
1:45 pm

JtJ – Yeah, forget Snail-ville & Gwinette. Glad you found out ahead of time. The handwriting is on the wall.

First impressions?

czBrat

April 5th, 2010
1:45 pm

ditto DK’s 1:41 post. as much as i hate what’s been going on in dekalb lately, we’ll be shooting for n. dekalb/e. atl itp or just otp.

this morning ….. neighbor (non-bruh) is in his driveway talking to cable guy (bruh). s/o and i take the trash to the end of our drive and wave … cable guy waves back, neighbor turns his back. UGH!!! :mad:

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
1:45 pm

oh Carlito. It was free t-shirt day.
you won.

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
1:45 pm

<—–thank GOD i live in Cobb

Carlito

April 5th, 2010
1:46 pm

I need to win the lottery

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
1:46 pm

LMAO At Melo

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
1:47 pm

don’t we all!

kimmie

April 5th, 2010
1:50 pm

I am/Dreams – Now you all know good & well she already knows the values! She just didn’t want JtJ & “others” infringing on HER “family values”!

Get real!

In a related topic, how about the RNC’s chairman and “token”, Obama wannabee Micheal Steele is now trying to use the race card!LOL!!

JtJ

April 5th, 2010
1:56 pm

@CZ- We live in Lawrenceville (near Grayson and Sugarloaf Pkwy) we like our area, but investors are buying up all the Foreclosures in our area, we have had 4 contracts not accepted because investors offered cash!

@ Dreams/ Dig That/Kimmie- I understood her interest in coming to see, but she was all nosey with it, that was the 1st and only experience like that so far. I actually like Gwinnett, so I am suprised at how different the views are-it depends on the area. Grayson & Dacula are our focus now.

@ Infamous-Why inside the perimeter?? I know all areas are being hit hard by the foreclosures and unemployment, but I can’t think off too many areas inside the perimeter that I like.

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
1:58 pm

Kimmie she didn’t and now that I think of it, if you like that house then I hope you get it.

I won’t front, There are certain types that I don’t want in my neighborhood either but I am not going to resort to tactics to prevent them from not moving in.

There was a lady that moved in and all I thought was oh, there goes the neighborhood. I was nice to her children but I really didn’t want her in my neighborhood (she was ghetto).
Well lucky me, she moved. I think she was more of a renter as opposed to a buyer.

Now I have found that in certain communties the undesireables are less likely to move in (or stay) because of this lovely word I like to call HOA.
If you do not abide by the rules of the HOA, they will put your put out.

I’ve seen places that were realitevly cheap due to the housing market so anyone could afford to live their but the neighborhoods go down because they don’t have an HOA managing it.
Things I’ve seen when I was househunting : broken window, broken garages, missing shutters, etc..
Undesireables may think hey it’s cheap I can afford the mortgage but they don’t factor in the costs of the upkeep.

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
1:59 pm

typo: they will put your butt out.

JtJ

April 5th, 2010
2:00 pm

Kimmie: I am/Dreams – Now you all know good & well she already knows the values! She just didn’t want JtJ & “others” infringing on HER “family values”!

True, I think she too was trying to “size us up” to see if we fit the bill. There is always a way to do something and she just went about it in a way that looked too agressive and plain ol’ nosey!

SexyCool

April 5th, 2010
2:01 pm

Since we’re talking about indicators of housing, I have learned that whenever I am the market for an apartment, I check out the cars that are parked in the complex.

If there are a lot of late models and well kept vehicles, I know that it is probably the kind of complex that I want to live in.

If I find a lot of box Chevy’s, big rims or cars up on blocks, er, um…No – won’t be leasing with that property.

czBrat

April 5th, 2010
2:01 pm

JtJ, you’re not too far from me at all.

@ Infamous-Why inside the perimeter?? I know all areas are being hit hard by the foreclosures and unemployment, but I can’t think off too many areas inside the perimeter that I like. no doubt DK will answer this, but let me share a recent :shock: moment i had while helping my niece move into a rental home just off 124. the homeowners are renting their lovely suburban home to purchase a fixer-upper in eastlake because … as they put it … “we’re taking back atlanta”.
yup, you read me right.

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
2:01 pm

My bad!
meant to say now that I think of it JT should go on and try to get the house if they want it.

DreamsMaterialize

April 5th, 2010
2:02 pm

I understand her wanting to know the values but there are more discreet, professional ways to go about this.
It’s not just about the values, per se. You want to know, at those values, who will be able to afford to move into your neighborhood. Come on ya’ll. If you bought a house in a neighborhood for 400k, then you don’t want to live around people who can only afford a 200k house. Otherwise, you would have moved into the 200k neighborhood in the first place. I’m sure JtJ would be a phenomenal neighbor, we all know that’s not always the case. Btw, I’m not discounting the fact that said neighbor was an ashhole with a bias against those of us with a darker hue. Infamous got it right though. That ITP real estate is where it’s at. Atlanta, like most major urban areas, is undergoing major regentrification.

thank GOD i live in Cobb
Those Cobb neighbors are probably the worst. It might be the only county that regentrification doesn’t overtake. They do a pretty good job at keeping out people they don’t want.

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
2:03 pm

… as they put it … “we’re taking back atlanta”.

I noticed that they were “taking back atlanta” when the republicans were back in office in the Georgia Assembly around 06.

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
2:08 pm

Dreams Mat:

I have no problems since I’ve moved to Cobb.
Believe it or not, I’ve been treated far better in Cobb then when I lived in CLayco back in ‘03

True true noone wants their home values to drop but in this day in age, it is inevitable.

As long as someone can keep up the the following attitude:
Keep your lawn and house maintained, don’t do anything crazy with appearances of your lawn and house, don’t bring crime into the neighborhood, and for god sakes, leave the ghettoness in the ghetto then I’m all right with them moving into my neighborhood.
and if someone is able to afford a place that has dropped significantly in value, please please please don’t be a dumb arse and default on your mortgage/HOA fees

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
2:09 pm

as they say…money green ain’t it?

I am whatever you say I am

April 5th, 2010
2:11 pm

the above comment basically applies to us moving into “their” neighborhood of a lighter hue.

DreamsMaterialize

April 5th, 2010
2:11 pm

In a related topic, how about the RNC’s chairman and “token”, Obama wannabee Micheal Steele is now trying to use the race card
kimmie He’s an idiot. His own party doesn’t even like him. What’s worse is that the “token” factor hasn’t helped the GOP gain any additional members. Their activities have alienated them more than ever.

but I can’t think off too many areas inside the perimeter that I like
Dunwoody, Chamblee, Doraville, Sandy Springs. Parts of these are just outside the perimeter, but they’re great neighborhoods. Chamblee and Doraville are getting expensive, but there are still some great deals to be found. If schools aren’t a concern for you, then there are other transitioning neighborhoods with great deals too.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA SPAGHETTI LEGS

April 5th, 2010
2:12 pm

JTJ – Everybody is moving from outside the perimeter in.. The beltline is goin to help sell it all.. Just look at all the walking trails the have put in dekalb and street lamps on Candler road.. The changes are subtle because of a larger long term goal in mind.. Here’s the thing.. There are pockets of neighborhoods inside the perimeter that are all good. You just have to know where they are.. My neighborhood sits by a golf course and 600,000 homes.. I dont really condider it the hood.. In a few years you wont be able to afford anything inside the perimeter.. Just look where the money is being spent at the moment.. The jobs outside the perimeter have been halted but construction inside keeps motoring right along..

Carlito

April 5th, 2010
2:13 pm

Poppa Grande

April 5th, 2010
2:14 pm

I am

You are correct about the HOA. The Georgia General Assembly has even gone as far as to give HOA the power to foreclose a property to get HOA dues….much like a tax sales are handled.

Regentrification is definitely going on in the ITP. I kinda get reminded of this when I go down Northside Drive and see the demolition of Herndon Homes going on. Many of those residents have ended up OTP in Clayton, Gwinnett, DeKalb, etc.

SexyCool

April 5th, 2010
2:15 pm

Having lived OTP, I actually now prefer living ITP.

czBrat

April 5th, 2010
2:16 pm

DK have you taken that beltline tour? i plan to do that in the coming months. really want to get a first-hand look at the project. some of the properties are just what i have in mind for intown living.

Poppa Grande

April 5th, 2010
2:18 pm

Dreams…Doraville is a place where I used to live. Hugh Douglas was a neighbor when I lived out there. I loved the location. Neighborhood was mostly quiet. Asian gangs and Latin gangs (such as MS13) were just starting to become a problem when I moved downtown.