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It is so perplexing when men are attracted to you one minute and the next they act all weird and distant.  I can understand when someone doesn’t want to pursue things. I get confused when they come on so strong and then start to backpedal.  Are women guilty of doing the same thing to men?

I’m usually not the type to come on too strong because I have that cautious nature that puts the brakes on.  Even when I feel like I am plunging into the “new man” haze head first, I remain cautiously optimistic until things start to progress.  Sometimes there is a shift in attraction.  You figure out that the person who once made an impression on you really isn’t that compatible with you after all. What is your next move?

What are ways you  can tell you are attracted to someone?  Let’s go beyond the obvious, “I want to see them naked” barometer to test how strong your attraction is; how can you determine that your attraction is significant enough to compel you to focus on just them?

How do you handle it when you are attracted to someone unexpectedly?  Just because it catches you off guard, does that mean you won’t pursue things?

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Raqi

March 30th, 2010
8:29 am

the next they act all weird and distant

And they say we women are the flaky ones. GTFOH

Mike P

March 30th, 2010
8:31 am

Good morning Everyone,
I only pursue someone if, at each time I see them, I’m still attracted to them, say on a third ‘meet up.’ But I’ll come on strong when I flirt; doesn’t mean I’m that interested though. Lots of time the women assume I’m interested when in fact, I’m just ‘testing the waters’, or just being my playful self.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
8:32 am

Attraction to me was the desire to see the guy. Thinking about them just out of nowhere. Feeling satisfied just being in their company. Non-sexual thoughts of them. That for me was a true attraction.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
8:33 am

Morning,

Have experienced this with the main guy i’m dating now. Two steps forward, one step back. Sheesh!

Mike P

March 30th, 2010
8:35 am

hey Raqi :)
Isn’t being flaky when someone agrees to meet up with someone else and then bail (change mind in the last possible second) with an obvious lame excuse, wasting the time of the other?

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
8:36 am

Can’t wait to read what the menfolk are going to say about the topic. Till then, Coffee time!

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
8:38 am

I remember meeting a couple guys that had come on pretty strong and the nothing. Left me like “huh? what was that all about?”.

I understand caution but I never did understand the ones that just kinda left you up in the air. If the attraction isn’t there just say so.

And Leggs I got a bone to pick with you. This topic is perfect for what I want to say.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
8:41 am

Hey Mike.

Yeah and it also is being all one moment and not so much the next. Same thing. Some of you mean are like light switches. No dimming process. Just on and then off. That used to be so aggravating. Just flaky. Undecisive.

kinderbabe--35 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 30th, 2010
8:41 am

i have measured my attraction in the past by the “wanting to no more” factor. i am not easily intrigued so if i find a man intriguing, that’s a good sign.:)

kinderbabe--35 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 30th, 2010
8:42 am

btw i meant wanting to “know” more…lol

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
8:49 am

Men If a chick you were dating told you she had been either molested or raped at some point in her life, would that lessen your attraction to her? Would it make you view her as tainted or damaged goods?

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
8:49 am

Once you open ya flap and I hear something I dont like. I go from speed racer to driving ms daisy to parked in long term parking and Im gone.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
8:52 am

The convo dictates how much I like you past the pretty face.. No substance, a poser, full of yourself or just a bust will make turn left in a heartbeat. If I have to try hard to muster up convo then its not gonna work. We are not as fly as we think and sometimes it just isnt meant to be.. Its a part of the game to get you to the Baby you need to be with.

CoolShadow

March 30th, 2010
8:55 am

How can you determine that your attraction is significant enough to compel you to focus on just them?

When I feel like I have lost emotional control of self, a situation that borders on excitement and extreme vulnerability. That person becomes a significant attraction when they are in constant thought without substantial basis and if I’m really sprung, I’ll lose my appetite.

How do you handle it when you are attracted to someone unexpectedly? Just because it catches you off guard, does that mean you won’t pursue things?

If it’s a random encounter, I’ll approach and see what happens. If we happen to have a mutual acquaintance, I’ll get intel on them to see what’s up. Assuming there are no pre-existing conditions (i.e., married, seriously involved, etc.), I’ll may make arrangements to approach depending on the intel that I get back as well as the source.

Palm

March 30th, 2010
8:56 am

I recall this woman that I met and I was attracted to her (on a scale of 1 to 10, she was an 8). We went on date and while on the date we had a discussion on the origin of black people. I was stimulated intellectually and all of sudden she went from an 8 to a 25 on a scale of 1 to 10.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
8:56 am

Slim – no but if she wears that on her sleeve and hasnt figured out it wasnt her fault or that bad things happen to good people then yeah it would be an issue..

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
8:56 am

Infamous, so you are one of those guys that take the number and say you are going to call but don’t.

Or one of the ones that leave the last date like you are really into the woman just to get ghost after that?

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
8:57 am

Once you open ya flap and I hear something I dont like. I go from speed racer to driving ms daisy to parked in long term parking and Im gone.

DK- I think that works both ways…well you may be categorized as a “friend” or something along those lines.

Jeff

March 30th, 2010
8:58 am

If he was all over you then flaked out, most of the time it is going to be something about you. Bad weave, tiolet paper sticking out of your thong, whatever. Or maybe he realized you work with his wife! Who knows.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
8:59 am

I’m with DK

There have been some, that would just say something or in some kinda way that was like nails on a chalk board. I back up, reassess at the very least, and depending on how bad it was – walk away.

@Slim

Heard that story tooooooo many times. But that’s never her [the abused]fault, so I don’t think about her any differently with that new information. And shame on the douche that does.

Jeff

March 30th, 2010
9:00 am

Raqi-I’d rather flake on a woman from a distance than have her go finger-snappin on me in a restaurant.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
9:00 am

Raqi – Maybe. If we are just meeting i dont owe you anything neither do you owe me anything..

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
9:04 am

Okay Jeff. But why act like you are all in? That’s what used to get next to me. Why lie?

You all pride yourself in being “men”, be a man and say it was nice to meet you but I don’t think we are meant to be together.

Yeah I know, imma give you the right answer before you answer. Men don’t like to hurt women. Yall would just rather lie to her instead. LOL

Cowards. :lol:

tmac

March 30th, 2010
9:04 am

I am going thru same damn thing. I saw her, was drooling to get with her. Got her. Now I am backpaddling and I feel sometimes bad. But reality is I was on the other end. She saw me, died to get with me, and she was gone.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
9:04 am

Luv – I agree cause the convo will make the connection glow or fizzle out.. like a dimmer on a light switch.

Maya Angelou said “When a person reveals themself.. Believe them”…

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
9:05 am

I understand if it’s you first encounter Infamous, but I had some guys just flake out after like the 3rd date. Nothing. Ended the evening like all was going well and then nothing. Hell state you stance. LOL

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
9:08 am

He may not state his stance b/c he is leaving room to change his mind. Guys always keep a door open just in case…at least that’s what I’ve heard.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
9:09 am

Raqi – You know Im gonna get you.. Now its funny how women can always tell a man how to be a man when most dont even know how to be a woman. If we just met I dont owe you anything. If a woman does it its ok, so when is she gonna be a woman? Thats what I cant grasp.. Women think dudes should eat ya’ll sh!t and call it a delicacy.. Just be the best woman you can be and stop worrying about what a man is because truth be told a woman can never tell a man how to be a man.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
9:10 am

“if she wears that on her sleeve and hasnt figured out it wasnt her fault or that bad things happen to good people then yeah it would be an issue..”

Infamous – not wearing it on the sleeve but if the chick just mentioned it to you..would you automatically sort of discount her because of the “possible” issues you could forsee even if she never exhibited any effects?

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
9:11 am

Let’s go beyond the obvious, “I want to see them naked”

It’s funny that WD had to put that in there. It hadn’t even crossed my mind. :lol:

Mike P

March 30th, 2010
9:13 am

Raqi, Why should I say something about why I’m no longer interested, when I’m never given the same courtesy from you women I’m feeling, especially when it is I who makes the plans, and pursue them (actions, or lack there of, speaks louder then words)? After-all, isn’t that apart of the weeding process? Am I wrong about this here???

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:14 am

Sometimes you will be attracted to someone and after the initial conversation, you go back and analyze and decide that person is not worth getting to know. I think that women think that they are doing everything perfect and say it is the guy flaking out when in reality they BOTH are in observation mode. Nobody wants to “feel” like they have to prove themselves while it seems like the other is just sitting there making a choice without giving as much as the other.

SlimOne, I think those who are molested are damaged mentally and it takes a special person to deal with that in a mate. I.E. not me.

Jeff

March 30th, 2010
9:15 am

Works both ways Raqi. Some women will pay attention to you and be all flirty, then never answer an email or a phone call. Yes, when I was younger, I was afraid of hurting a woman’s feelings, but that fear has been stomped on, run over, put through the grinder and made into hotdogs. Now, I’ll call you out pretty quick on anything. What are you gonna do, cut me off?

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
9:15 am

Slim – No but I would file it away and if it starts to affect the relationship then i might suggest counseling. Again if it rears its head in a way the clearly shows she hasnt dealt with it then I may bounce or depending on how involved I am would want to help her..

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
9:17 am

I wonder why dudes start pulling back when they feel themselves really getting into a chick…what’s that about?

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
9:18 am

“it takes a special person to deal with that in a mate. I.E. not me.”

Carlito – LOL can’t blame you for being honest. ;-)

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:18 am

Infamous, IMO if a woman is telling a man how to be a man, she needs to remind herself how to be a woman.

Slim One, it would depend on when she told me, I guess. If it is in the beginning of the relationship I would not date her also it depends on her age when it happened. If it were preteens maybe we could work through that. If it were in her mid to upper teens, I would think she had issues as well for not getting out of that environment.

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
9:18 am

I was afraid of hurting a woman’s feelings, but…Now, I’ll call you out pretty quick on anything.

I think this is true for a lot more men nowaday. Seems yall have had a little men’s lib of your own.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:21 am

Luvbug, I think men are just sick of being punks.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
9:22 am

@Raqi

Honesty is the best policy for me. If I’m not there with you, I have to address it. No BS, no game.

I don’t want to waste your time, and I refuse to let you waste mine.

@KB

intrigue – is my word too. Something compelling, almost magnetic, that little piece of something that makes me wanna come back.

Yet, it is soooo sad when nothings there

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
9:23 am

Im gonna say it… At least we shake the spot instead of keeping ya’ll around for free dinners, dates and the occasional I need a dude to escort me to my coupled up friends event.. Im just saying..

Dan

March 30th, 2010
9:25 am

@Slim

He may not be feeling you.

Here’s the thing: we all speak English; stop trying to translate it into Mandarin (or Spanish).

If I say, stutter, or imply – please believe me.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
9:26 am

@DK

You and me today brother.

Let’s cut it all to the quick.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:26 am

SlimOne, are you experiencing this?

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
9:27 am

Carlito- We ask for a little freedom from manipulation. Yall showed up will a list too. :lol:

I guess a little compromise aint too much to ask…as long as you’re not being rude in your honesty. We are women, we remember things and may not shake it off as quickly as you do.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:28 am

Can;t be mad when a man does man things. Handles business when in it, but wise enought to know when he should not be in it.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:29 am

Luvbug, I do not think we as men shake it off. We just carry on and try not to lose focus on everything else. If we are hurting we try not to let it dominate our every thought.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
9:30 am

Carlito – Nope ;-)

Dan

March 30th, 2010
9:30 am

@Luvbug

In the “sh!t as delicacy” vein. Why can y’all say some nasty isht out yo mouth to the random dude, but we can’t be honest without having to blunt it.

If we’re both adults, we both need to mindful of what and how we say stuff. That “woman as weaker sex” dissipates with every proudly sassy chick.

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
9:30 am

Free dinners? Every woman is not like that. I would like a permanent plus one though. I get tired of hanging out with females.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:31 am

Dan, I agree with you. Men are direct but our words will get twisted and heard a totally different way.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
9:32 am

Infamous, I am not trying to tell you how to be a man. All I am saying is more men need to live up to being the Man that they claim to be. I only expect from my man what I have heard and seen in my life of what a true man possess and how one behaves.

Men will easily beat their chest about what it is to be a man, yet many don’t follow thru. I only expect what a person claims to be.

And I am not talking about when two people are just meeting. Yeah that I get. I met several guys that caught my eye but were not able to get my interest. I understand that. But I am talking about the ones that leave you hanging in mid air after a few dates. Not even stating that this isn’t going to work.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
9:33 am

@Slim

In response to your question, there are a number of ways women (and men) deal with it.

Some pretend it never happened.

Some let it shake their sense of safety, self, and well being.

Some use it to keep people away.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
9:34 am

and if I’m really sprung, I’ll lose my appetite.

Well, darn!

Hey in here…

There’s not much for me to add on this topic. How petty are we not to let a person know if you are attracted to them or not. I would think not to waist each others time, let ‘em know. And if the moon, stars, and quasars aren’t moving in your direction when you think of this person…it’s a wrap.

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
9:34 am

Dan – I don’t support women saying nasty things to guys (or vice versa). If that happens, a guys should tell her firmly to not talk to him that way…even tell her the consequence if need be…cuz likewise, I don’t support punk men.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
9:34 am

Dan I’m amazed at how many dudes had their first BJ by their babysitter. :shock:

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
9:34 am

Mike P, but aren’t you menfolk better than that. Isn’t that what you all preach all the time?

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:35 am

A woman who knows her strength as a woman is very attractive. A potty mouth, always at it, woman is not attractive. Be, what attracted the man to you in the first place.

SlimOne, okay :)

Luvbug, a permanent plus one. LOL (Where they do that at?) :)

Dan

March 30th, 2010
9:35 am

@Raqi

There is no “Man” there are men that are doing there best to be the person they are, and some cats will never know.

But STOP ascribing the action of 3 dudes to “men”. You don’t know all men, so you can’t speculate about us like we can’t you.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
9:36 am

@ Cool Shadow – I might try that “lose my appetite” one. lol…i ain’t been there before.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
9:36 am

@Slim

I’m not.

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
9:38 am

Carlito- Nowhere is where. :lol:

I’m not looking for love right now, but I do wanna dress up sometimes…and not for no women either.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
9:39 am

I’m amazed at how many dudes had their first BJ by their babysitter.

Double-you-tee-eff? Britteni, I want a refund!

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
9:39 am

…and I didn’t wanna type escort :lol:

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:41 am

Babysitter’s giving BJ’s? That is different.

On another note, I think that a real man would not let a woman question his manhood. Unless he is uncomfortable with it. That is just my opinion. I am a man regardless of what she thinks.

Raqi, on the 3rd or 4th date and he just vanishes. Some men just feel that they do not owe and explanation because they are not really vested in the relationship. Good reason not to sleep with people so soon, because that introduces a whole other set of feelings into the equation. It works both ways as well, I have dated before and the woman just stopped calling or it just fizzle out. When dating in the begging there are usually more people that a person is dating as well. Maybe the other was more intriguing or something.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
9:43 am

Jeff, I did leave maybe a guy or two hanging once but I did try not to give me number to guys that I was not genuinely interested in. LOL

I was moreso called the biotch because I wasn’t chatting it up with guys that I didn’t find attractive or at the very least interesting.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:43 am

LuvBug, for a small fee I would take you to dinner. I am trying to increase my savings account anyway I can. :)

Jeff

March 30th, 2010
9:45 am

I’ll say it if no-one else will, a man who gets suckered in to chasing a woman’s list of what pleases her, will never have it returned in full. To put it another way, nice guys don’t get the pun-na-na. At least not as often or with as much enthusiasm as the guys who act like they don’t need it.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:45 am

I am sorry but that is sick, a babysitter giving BJ’s?

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
9:46 am

Carlito- I’ve been warned. Julia aint having it. I wanna keep my legs. :lol:

M. (pronouced M dot)

March 30th, 2010
9:46 am

Morning.

“How can you determine that your attraction is significant enough to compel you to focus on just them?”

I determine this when they dont get on my nerves. If they are to thirsty and domineering, I am good. Everyone wants to be pursued but within reason!

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
9:46 am

Raqi – If we aint slept together I dont owe you jack.. If you aint my girl.. I dont owe you jack.. If we just made out I still dont owe you jack… I have the right to walk away whenever I feel like it… Explanation or not even if we are together..

And as far as you seeing a few men that you think are men Im sure there are 5 women a piece that can tell you those dudes aint men.. Why because a woman cant tell you what a man should or shouldnt be.. Just like I cant tell you what a woman should be doing cause I dont bleed once a month and Im not an emotional creature like a woman.. Heyal its alot of things I think a woman should be but ya’ll prove me wrong everyday so I have given up on defining ya’ll and just worry about me being the best man I can be.. Heck Im not even worried about another man being a man cause as long as I am who I wanna be and take care of my BI as it pertains to me and mine Im good.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
9:46 am

Cee I know of at least 3 or 4 dudes who told me stories of how either a babysitter or an adult family friend messed around with them when they were little. In one case the lady was his mothers age. :shock:

On-topic – sometimes it takes getting that sexual tension out of the way to really see if you like that person as much as you think you do.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:47 am

Jeff, a man should just be a man. If he starts off bending over backwards for everything. It will just continue to grow and grow. Then that woman that he was doing everything for will start to resent him for always giving her everything she wants.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
9:47 am

Morning Lovelies – I hope you guys had a fantastic weekend. I sure did. :D

That backpedaling thing has always given me panic. When he starts acting funny, then I start acting funny. The next thing you know, I’m rationalizing things as “I deserve better treatment” and pull the whole disapparing act. I guess it’s that “let me leave before you leave.”

Finally, someone got me to pump my breaks.

The current had to tell me that I just can’t bolt in tough times. He’s promised if he’s ever acting weird to just call him on and it we’ll talk it through. He’s never gonna just up and leave with no explanation and I should afford him the same courtesy. He’s right. Relationships will not be rosy everyday. You’ve gotta take the good and the bad. And not all bad means break up.

CoolShadow

March 30th, 2010
9:48 am

@ Cemeeli – thankfully that it’s a rare occurence, but there have a been a couple of times where my breath and appetite was taken, but they eventually regained themselves. But I don’t think it’s a big deal now since I’m not with any of the women that caused the phenomena :)

Dan

March 30th, 2010
9:48 am

@Carlito

Largely: abuse in a cycle, the abused often becomes the abuser; in part because they don’t know any better – it’s normal to them.

Smaller: Who’s the kid gonna tell, plus it’s a little boy and an older (maybe lonely) woman. He certainly doesn’t know any better (given the age).

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:49 am

Infamous, you are spot on.

LuvBug, who do you think I am bringing the money home to? :)

SlimOne, you are a sexpot and comfortable with it. Nothing wrong with that. LOL

kinderbabe--35 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 30th, 2010
9:50 am

@Dan…intrigue it what drives me at the beginning of most relationships. if it’s not there, i’m not interested. there has to be some type of pull…something “magnetic” as you said. if not, what’s the point?

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
9:51 am

Lito What is up with the “let a woman” stuff? I’ve heard this said a lot lately. Not anything personal to you,I know what you’re getting at…

A man does not let a woman say/do anything about his manhood…he just is…and he just be…

Just sayin’…’cause…you know.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:52 am

Cool Shadow is not Sexy Cool?

Amazon Red,hey little sis. I had a nice weekend as well.

Dan, that is crazy.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
9:53 am

In one case the lady was his mothers age.

Slim I still just can’t fathom how grown folk get their rocks off on little kids!!!

Just nasty! …like Mr. Brown says…

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:54 am

Cemeeli, I listen and observe. I hear quite a few men complain, some married some are not. I just think that folks need to stop making excuses and be who the are destined to be and not let anyone challenge it. :)

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
9:57 am

Infamous, I get that but what about is you men yourselves. Not you in particular. I have to say you are not wishy-washy on these matters from reading you. But there are more than a few that I read just here that states one thing on one topic and something quite different on another. Some boast of their “manness” but then turn around a portray flakiness on another subjects.

And yes, you don’t owe anyone anything. But keep in mind that a woman don’t owe anything by way of explanation or anything else to men.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
9:57 am

Slim – Britenni is my son’s babysitter at times…but I’m almost certain she’s not giving any “bonuses” while on the job. My Lord…this is the first i’ve heard of the sitter handing out BJ after pizza and a movie.

Get real!

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
9:58 am

Dan I’m amazed at how many dudes had their first BJ by their babysitter.

:?

I’ve never heard that one… wow.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
9:58 am

I find it also odd that women teachers have relationships with their male students.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
9:59 am

“you are a sexpot and comfortable with it. Nothing wrong with that.”

Carlito – I’m not a sexpot, I just play one on tv :-D

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
10:01 am

I hear quite a few men complain, some married some are not.

I’ve seen some family memebers (one or two) that act like “it’s” been castrated, hen-pecked, low balled…all that. And sometimes they call me of all people.

to me it’s the most horrific sight, to see a man act in such a manner.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
10:02 am

Why because a woman cant tell you what a man should or shouldnt be

Infamous, let’s talk about this statement right here that you made little brother. (I think I am older than you. LOL)

What is a woman to expect from a man? How does she know what to expect if she has not been showed or told at some point? If you expect nothing you get nothing. If we, women and men, have no idea of what a good (wo)man is you fall for anything. No one can’t tell the other how to be who they are but one should know what it looks and acts like to avoid getting a representative or a complete fake. Answer this for me little bro.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:02 am

Slim One, lol :)

Speaking of sexpots. I spoke to my neighbor yesterday about her son watering my yard. He is going to water it. She is awesome,I shall stay away.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
10:04 am

The convo dictates how much I like you past the pretty face

@DK ^5

@Cool Shadow??
I’ll may make arrangements to approach depending on the intel that I get back as well as the source.

u male or female??

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
10:05 am

this is the first i’ve heard of the sitter handing out BJ after pizza and a movie.

Cemeeli, WTH!!!! Where they do that at? Are you serious.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:05 am

The “Good Book” sets a great example of both what a man and woman should be. I know you did not direct your question to me lil sis Raqi, but we can expect what we desire but we should not have to tell the woman/man how to be what we desire.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:06 am

Did anyone watch “24″ last night?

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
10:06 am

Shadow is male.

I was wondering that too, until i re-read.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
10:07 am

Women think dudes should eat ya’ll sh!t and call it a delicacy

@DK!

wow..u on a roll! :lol:

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:08 am

Melo, I forgot to email you lastnight. I just made myself a post it note.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
10:08 am

Raqi – I understand a woman doesnt owe me anything cause she is an individual and one day if she just wants to go.. She can.. Although I might want an explanation its on her to give it to me or not. Its just like if a woman leaves a man and says she has moved on.. The dude is always the last to know.. Usually he finds out after all the furniture is gone from the home.. Eventhough all her friends and Fam knows what she is doing or about to do.. The dude is always the last to know. it has been said here a million times women are gone from the relationship way before they leave and can rationalize them leaving a dude with his d!ck in the dirt as the right thing to do….. Instead of saying.. Baby this aint working Im moving out or Im leaving you on this date..

My point is this women cant expect men to do anthing ya’ll arent willing to do.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:10 am

Knowledge is being dispensed, and I am listening.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:11 am

A guy on here got a BJ from his babysitter?

Melo

March 30th, 2010
10:11 am

wonder why dudes start pulling back when they feel themselves really getting into a chick…what’s that about

@Slim??

commitment butterflies…its kinda the same way some women feel when the nuptials are approaching and the gravity of what shes entering into gets inot her head!

For guys,its that feeling that my rotation is gon be reduced to just 1…am I prepared for it?? :lol:

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
10:11 am

The “Good Book” sets a great example of both what a man and woman should be.

Carlito, you are preaching to the choir telling me that. I know this already. However some men will say that a woman should not say what a man should or shouldn’t do or be. I beg to differ. While I can’t tell you how to think or what a man should feel, I do know the basics of how to recognize a man.

I think the disconnect is when men and women both act differently and justify it be saying that you can’t tell me. Everything has a basis.

And then on top of that every time you open a magazine or turn on the television you hear men want/need XYZ…until it benefits them to have it differently.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
10:13 am

Did anyone watch “24″ last night?

and now, you’ve graduated, and now bloggin’ about TV shows….Is this the same person the last time i was here that said “blogging would be counterproductive, if i found a chic that indulged”?… :)

Lito You’ve been changed for the long haul….

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:14 am

Raqi, I am simple. LOL I do not tell a woman how to be a woman. When a woman asked me that type of question. I tell her I can not tell her that and to go read Proverbs 30. And she usually knows she can not tell me how to be a man. I understand what you are saying. We have our filters set to weed out those who are not up to standard of what we expect, if we let them sift through it is our own fault. IMO

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
10:16 am

Good morning!

@Raqi ~ here I is!

I have recently SMDH wondering what happened with the “prospects” I met in the past few months. So much interest was shown, phone calls exchanged, lots of laughter and interest shown by both of us only to hear a resounding THUD. I know it’s me cuz when I steer away from sexual talk right of the back, no return calls do I get (LOLOLOL).

Dang, 99 comments to read.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:16 am

Cemeeli, yes I am bored and all of my other websites are blocked. This place is really interesting and I like it. No work to be had here at the moment.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
10:16 am

Raqi – Thanks for your comments. Folks won’t change unless they want to, or they find a person worthy enough to. Guys have gone ghost on me, so I didn’t feel bad about going ghost on them til I met someone who demanded more and was worthy of it.

We’ll learn…or die lonely. :lol:

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
10:16 am

DK Re: 10:10

I think women start the mental process of a break-up long before the actual act of leaving it to be sure they are comfortable with the decision they are about to make. Not at all saying it is the proper thing to do but it is what it is. I can only speak for myself, but I will definitely make it known whatever it is I feel i’m not getting from the relationship prior to just packing up to dip. So if it falls on deaf ears then it really isn’t a surprise when i’m gone right? Dude can play that ‘I had no clue’ game all he wants but don’t look crazy when you see home girl got tired of yo shiznit. lol But in same token, i’ve never just moved out or anything w/o the person knowing what was up.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
10:18 am

Cemeeli, yes I am bored and all of my other websites are blocked.

That’s what brought me here too. :lol:

Then, MIA got blocked. :shock:

Thank goodness for the new job! :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
10:18 am

Raqi – The point is we all think we know what a woman/man should or shouldnt be. Honestly if we knew we wouldnt be here trying to figure out the opposite sexes. The thing is no one fits a mold. To a pimp a wh0re is the perfect example of what a woman should be to him. Im sure there are women in Mase’s past that would call him a shady nothing a$$ lil boy but to you he is king d!ng-a-l!ng.. A man is a man to the woman that accepts him for who he is and likewise.. Oh and there is always a time when the younger sibling takes the lead position in the Fam and this is one of those times, so sit back and learning from you lil bro..

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
10:19 am

I can only speak for myself, but I will definitely make it known whatever it is I feel i’m not getting from the relationship prior to just packing up to dip. So if it falls on deaf ears then it really isn’t a surprise when i’m gone right?

Slim – I’ll co-sign on this too. I think it’s safe to say that we women tend to do this.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
10:20 am

thanx Carlito!

Dan

March 30th, 2010
10:20 am

One, what “good book” there are a number of them,

Two, we are each individuals responsible only for/to ourselves, no book, person, or anything else has power over me that I don’t give.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
10:20 am

Instead of saying.. Baby this aint working Im moving out or Im leaving you on this date..

Infamous, but many of you all don’t listen. You all think you have the upper hand in this thing. The relationship I was in before Mase died a slow long death. Before leaving it I told the guy, ‘look this is what I need to stay in this relationship’. I told him this time and time again but it was like I was talking to a brick wall. He wasn’t hearing it because he came right back with the same stuff. So yeah it was over long before I said my goodbye. And from what I hear and have heard that is quite the norm in some relationships. The woman states her needs but many guys count it as nothing.

Hence, you men need to stop telling women what we need to feel and not feel.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
10:21 am

Sweetheart, you don’t have to post explanations…some lurkers that “oppose” the forum are our hardest bloggers whether they wanna admit it or not…new monikers are not…

It’s all good.

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
10:22 am

@Dan, when ppl say read the “good book,” pretty sure they’re talking about The Bible!

kimmie

March 30th, 2010
10:23 am

Morning Gang!

I have gone out with a guy a few times & things seemed to be going well, only for him to disappear. The few times it has happened, they end up resurfacing months down the road. Of course, I totally ignore them. You don’t owe me an explanation, but neither do I why I ignore your calls.

I have 2 single friends that are experiencing a lot of the disappearing dude acts lately, I don’t know why.

If you are a “real” man or woman, you are just that. You just are. And you don’t get bent out of shape all the time thinking that someone is trying to tell you how to be. But then, that rarely happens to you, because folks usually KNOW a real man or woman when they come across one, easily.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
10:24 am

Could be the Torah, could be the Koran, could be the Bagahavita

Everybody don’t believe what you do. Assume nothing

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
10:26 am

Three Words Daily – Never stop hoping.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:26 am

Dan, more power to you. The “good book” is the Holy Bible to me.

Melo, No Problem.

AmazonRed, :)

I want to ask, which one is the most lowly. The man who just breaks contact after 3 or 4 dates and vanishes. Or the woman who is gone and the man is the last person to know?

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
10:26 am

@Raqi – women are ‘nesters’ by nature so we will tend to stay in a situation exploring all options to keep the nest together & in tact before dipping out. But once we feel no resolve is being attempting, you have to just pick up move on. Yeah it’s hard due to our emotional invested nature to consider starting all over…but in certain situations, that’s just what has to happen. Unless a chick is really guarded emotionally, I can’t see her leaving w/o at least an attempt to state whatever needs she feels the relationship is lacking. Long story short…I agree with your 10:20 :lol:

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
10:26 am

@ ARed – You’ve been blogging forever. Com’ on now.

btw – Does the new beau like, or want kids one day? What the news there?….a couple of use lady bloggers have been lining up Shower dates…Anything you need us to put on the calendar?

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
10:27 am

Man, I haven’t heard this in a while…

You’re my lady…You’re my lad-dey…I can tell they’re looking at us

cbsradio – streaming – AOL neo-soul

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:28 am

And some will burn in hell and some won’t. We shall see who was right one day. Free will is wonderful. Nobody can still your peace when you know what you know.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:28 am

still= steal

abc

March 30th, 2010
10:28 am

I didn’t read through the comments, so sorry if I’m duplicating — but I’d wager that if a guy seems interested and then all of a sudden disappears, it’s because he met someone he likes better. Same thing for chicks.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
10:29 am

Infamous, I think where I went right with Mason is I saw the man before I saw the mate. A man being responsible, accountable, loyal and trustworthy as a friend first. Then the other part came.

And I don’t doubt that there are women out there that has nothing but bad to say about him and rightfully so stemming from his interactions with them.

However, there is a fundamental definition that describes every man and woman. And in that being we all have the right to call the other out if it is lacking.

Can you deny seeing something on the news or hearing something and stating “a (wo)man doesn’t act like”. Just because you are not a woman doesn’t mean you don’t know what a woman looks and acts like. How would you know how to seek one out if you didn’t know what you were looking for? I am not talking about the character traits that make us individuals but I am talking strictly male and female. There is only one of each. Particulars of character comes second.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
10:30 am

Carilto, miss me with the sermon homie.

Unless you’ve been there, how do you know if there is a Heaven or Hell.

I dig that you have beliefs, but this aint the forum.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
10:30 am

We’ve established we can’t assume that when we meet someone that they haven’t been talking to others. So I wonder if it would be inappropriate to ask how far along they are with any other potential datees? Anyone i’ve been dating has asked if I date other folks, to which my answer has been yes. But often times, I think that disappearing act is probably because they have already been far off in where they are in the other chicks they date…so you come along, it’s exciting for that short period of time, but on the other hand they are way more invested/serious than you two. Just an idea…Hmmmm?

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
10:30 am

@ kimmie – waving. How are my Tea Cups doing? You and your cute family! Love it !

2 months of school and the 2 hour homework will subside…finally!

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
10:30 am

@ ARed – You’ve been blogging forever. Com’ on now.

Cemeeli – Duh. Where did I deny that?

As for shower dates, why you asking bout kids when the ring has to come first? ;)

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:32 am

Leggs, Hello :)

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
10:32 am

Yeah. I have dated guys and come to realize that he really does dress like that *all the time* or that he really does think he knows everything or that he has the table manners of an orangatan or that his feet stink or that his kisses are sticky or that he really can’t kiss or that he is thumb sized or that he is a hump-hump-come or something else equally horrid and unacceptable.

And I would be out.

However, I have gotten better about giving them the Chuck Woolery line – This is NOT a Love Connection.

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
10:34 am

abc- I agree.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:34 am

Dan, you are the one who is pipping up about what I posted, This is a blog I said what I said you popped up a response and I responded. If you don’t want the feedback don’t say anything, my friend. No ill will towards you at all, I will pray for you anyway, if you believe what I believe or not.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
10:34 am

Its just hard telling somebody, a stranger, what u really feel about them and ur deepest thoghts. Whats the point..??

Like DK is eloquently saying,u dont owe that person a thing and she dont either. I think it wld be fair to explain if uall sleep thgether at least but without that,really there is no need.Even after sleeping tgether, ive personally flaked out. :lol:

Slim is dating 2 1/2 dudes right now,if we half count the Italian guy. :lol: If dude no1 were to meet Slim in town,all nice nice with dude no2,accidentally, but after no1 had a dinner date with Slim the previous nite,im sure no1 wld feel kinda slighted or wondering why?? after spending such quality time the previous day with her. See..??

He wld think that Slim owes her an explanation?? I dont think so.. altho it hurts! :lol:

That chance encounter just made no1’s exit much quicker and swift!

So what doi u say Slim??

(sorry to use ur situation as a guinea pig)

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
10:36 am

Where is that chile at with his “bust downs comment?hehehe

kimmie

March 30th, 2010
10:36 am

Slim – That is a possible reason, but really I think several reasons could be possible – they met someone else, they saw something in you they did not like, they like you but you want something serious & they don’t or vice-versa, they’re married, they’re into an alternative lifestyle, etc.

It can just be a little mindboggling why someone would up & disappear with no explaination when things SEEM to be going well.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
10:37 am

Oh, well Ared…that’s it. Let us know when that bling is in then.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
10:37 am

Carlito, I say what I want, when I want.

Perhaps I should rephrase, there are others that believe as you do, and those that don’t. But typically, we don’t discuss religion, or more specifically, faith. Not that’s it’s taboo, it’s just been beaten to death and not really a topic for discussion.

As for praying for me, thanks.

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
10:39 am

Dan – says who?

We discuss whatever we want to.

Dude – stop it.

Mo (aka Moeisha - aka Grouchy Smurf)

March 30th, 2010
10:39 am

Mawnin ya’ll…..okay yeah so my sinuses are off da gyot-dayum chain…..and Im supposed to be heading out of town this weekend…UGH!!

So how is everyone and are we still on topic??

Cemeeli – today may be a pepsi day…I can break since this is right before Easter right??

Melo

March 30th, 2010
10:40 am

typically, we don’t discuss religion, or more specifically, faith.

@Dan??

u kidding right??

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
10:41 am

Mo – What’s the latest on Badu running/walking naked down some street in her latest video?

Where you going this weekend?

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
10:43 am

Mo – maybe the pollen count will be lower at your weekend destination.

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
10:45 am

Morning
Women flake just as much as men, but so what. If you suddenly don’t answer my calls after the 4th date, then I stop calling. I don’t need an explanation or closure or anything else. I’m not going to chase you down to ask you why you don’t like me anymore. It is what it is.

In terms of men acting like they’re “all in” and then disappearing, maybe he was giving the “all-in” face to the other two chicks he was dating too. Eventually he chose one to really be “all-in” with, and it wasn’t you. Move on.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
10:45 am

Lito – i can always use a lil more prayer.

…wait…is your name Isaiah Mustafa? lol

kimmie

March 30th, 2010
10:46 am

Sister Cee – The tea cups are doing great, with their cute selves! Girl, I’ll be kinda glad when school is out too! That homework can be a booger sometimes!

Found girl teacup a cute Easter dress last night & boy teacup some polo’s.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:46 am

I saw that Erykah badu video. I want the version where I can see her without the nudity blurred. She has a nice rearend in those panties.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
10:46 am

Faith and religion are two different things.

When was the last time someone professed their faith beyond a casual mention.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:50 am

Cemeeli, NO! :)

I dated a woman for about 3 dates. No physical contact at all besides a hug after dinner or the movie. We would always meet at our destination. Well I called her a few times afterward and no response. So I wrote her off. About a month later she calls and asks how I am etc. I asked her what happened, long story short she says she lost her phone and why did I not email her since she did not return my calls. I questioned, where did she suddenly find my number and why did she not email me. I lied to her and told her I found someone else so that she would leave me alone. :) I think the whole episode was shady.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
10:50 am

When was the last time someone professed their faith beyond a casual mention

@DAN…

maybe a long time ago..so that proves what??

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
10:50 am

Still their bible for their religion = the good book!

kimmie

March 30th, 2010
10:51 am

Dan, the blog spent half the day discussing faith and/or religion just recently, I think week before last. Both have come up several times.

SMH

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
10:51 am

Raqi – Reread 10:18 Babe.. A woman to me might be something else in someone elses eyes.. And I know I have left bad tastes in Peoples mouths and my name is mud in certain circles but I know Im a man in every sense of the word.. It wasnt because I wasnt a man at the time I was with them either, it probably was a bad decision I made that wasnt cool for them. Might not have been cool for me either at the time but ya know.. The basics should apply on everyone but the intangibles are what make them special.. If we were all vanilla me and any one of these bloggers could get married tomorrow because we know what to expect..

Dan

March 30th, 2010
10:52 am

@Kimmie, Melo, SC

Then my bad. I don’t be around, my apologies.

@Carlito, to you too

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
10:52 am

aww…i love girls Easter dresses. So sweet.

Kimmie May 28th cain’t get here fast enough. Homework at this age is not easy….His science has been a study tip for me.

kinderbabe--35 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 30th, 2010
10:52 am

@sexycool…thanks for the three words.:) it’s perfect for where i am right now.

@Mo…hey there lady! hang in there w/the sinuses. i know how you feel.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
10:53 am

“that his kisses are sticky or that he really can’t kiss”

SexyCool – arrrgghh! I hate a dude who tries to shove his whole tongue down my throat. It’s doesn’t take all that.

@melo – sometimes it’s so hard to read you. ??? If everyone knows I’m not exclusively dating them, would they feel slighted if I was with them the previous night and they saw me out with one of the other’s??? I’m sure they’d feel some kind of way just as I would but it is what it is right? I know knowing about me dating others is one thing as opposed to seeing it, but thankfully I haven’t had to deal with that as of yet. :-D

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
10:53 am

@Carlito ~ good morning, my Italian Studmuffin.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
10:56 am

Lito – What Ms. Shady she like her cowboys wearing spurs…and you playin’!

:lol:

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
10:57 am

Can’t believe tomorrow is the last day in March!

wow…

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
10:57 am

SlimGoody – went out with a dude that literally had *sticky spit*. I think I threw up in *his* mouth a little bit. LOL@

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
10:57 am

@Dan, hope you’re well. First, since you aren’t around a lot, it’s not wise to state what is or is not discussed on this blog! Just a little food for thought.

kinderbabe--35 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 30th, 2010
10:58 am

@cemeeli..i know, right? the month went by so fast. next thing we know, we’ll be saying happy new year again! lol

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
10:59 am

Dan, my apologies to you as well.

Cemeeli, I am on a horse…………….:)

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
11:02 am

Carlito….hunh?

“Look down…Back up”. Where are you?
You’re on a boat with the man your man could smell like.
What’s in your hand? Back at me. I have it.
It’s an oyster with two tickets to that thing you love.
Look again, the tickets are now diamonds!
Anything is possible when your man smells like Old Spice and not a lady.

now!….You lent licker!!!

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
11:02 am

SexyCool Sticky spit?!!! Ewwwww blech :shock: Does that mean he also had that white foam in the corners of his mouth? YUCK!

Melo

March 30th, 2010
11:04 am

@Slim??

knowing u are dating some others and actually meeting u in a chance meeting with one of those others are 2 totally different things.

my point tho is,nobody owes nobody an explanation coz u arent exclusive..

if u decide not to answer the other dude’s phone call,u str8!

Melo

March 30th, 2010
11:05 am

Can’t believe tomorrow is the last day in March!

@Cee…

March been Mad!

Mo (aka Moeisha - aka Grouchy Smurf)

March 30th, 2010
11:06 am

Cemeeli – yeah I saw Ms Badu’s new video, wish I had seen it prior to all the speculations as to what the video’s meaning is but oh well.

SCool – Im headed to VA this weekend to kick with the fam. Clearly my workout regimen & diet may suffer a minor set back.

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
11:06 am

Naw, Slim, I am usually out at the first sign of extra spittle at the corners. I see that and say to myself, “Don’t you feel that?”

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
11:09 am

Are you checking in today? mytwocents &2CPTG

@ Melo – Ditto!

kinderbabe--35 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 30th, 2010
11:10 am

@Mo…i watched the video for the first time yesterday too. wish i would have seen it before i read the commentary also.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
11:10 am

Cemeeli, what the french toast?

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
11:10 am

WOW, just saw Ms. Badu’s video. She’s a sister with a msg. I don’t always like her voice, but I like this song.

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
11:11 am

Cemeeli – I love that commercial, you Cootie Queen.

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
11:12 am

Whew! It’s crunk in here. Too much to catch up on. Hello to you all.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
11:13 am

where u saw it Leggs??

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
11:13 am

Lito…I always pick on the new people here.

“Lint Licker” is from the Orbitz commercial. I got my co-worker yesturday with that one, sending me a request to go home early…she was laughing so hard it was a no sound coming out of her mouth.

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
11:13 am

I was impressed with Ms. Badu. You can sit a bowl of noodles on dat booty.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
11:14 am

Cemeeli, “What the french toast” is from the same commercial

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
11:14 am

I get the YBF report everyday…the link to the video is in it. I’ll send it to you. BTW, the girl has a butt on her!

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
11:15 am

Haaa, Dig That, I just said that without saying that (LOLOL).

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
11:15 am

@ Mo – VA is that place. as far as Badu – She ALWAYS on that stuff…maybe that’s why she sensitive ’bout her’s. Me too…lol :) .

@ Dig – What’s up shawty?

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
11:16 am

I want to ask, which one is the most lowly. The man who just breaks contact after 3 or 4 dates and vanishes. Or the woman who is gone and the man is the last person to know?

Carlito – The woman in this instance.

But I’m with the ladies and maintain the main isn’t the last person to know. He’s just the last to pay attention. :lol:

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
11:16 am

@ Lito – Yes, got it.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
11:18 am

You can sit a bowl of noodles on dat booty

@Dig That/Leggs??

if uall dont answer and tell me where u saw that, my head might just explode here with sexual angst! :lol:

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
11:19 am

It’s a “window seat”…Ya’ll get it, right?!!?

or maybe me and Badu the only one on that stuff.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
11:20 am

But typically, we don’t discuss religion, or more specifically, faith. Not that’s it’s taboo, it’s just been beaten to death and not really a topic for discussion.

Dan – So if the topic has been beaten to death…doesn’t that mean we discuss it?

Carlito – Talk about what you want. Folks are always gonna complain about the topic of religion. They’ll get over it. :lol:

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
11:21 am

Melo – GOOGLE it, dude, dayum.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
11:21 am

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
11:23 am

@ SexyCool – I’m so done with yo’ self!!!

Badu video – “Google me boo”… :)

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

March 30th, 2010
11:23 am

@ Raqi… ‘look this is what I need to stay in this relationship’.

They don’t really get this … until later when they realize I’d dropped my end of the jump rope and left the damm playgound!

Date 1 is a gimme for both of us, date 2… thinking… may or may not be a date 3. no explanation needed. Yeah one of us is going to wonder, oh well.

After dating someone a few months and “date faces” dropped (yes, I have one too), so did I. There were quite a few things about him I realized I just didn’t like, I guess you can say I just wasn’t that into him or him into me (thank God, I think he was off to the left, left!).

I only get concerned with the FADE if it’s a r’ship I’ve been in and vested for awhile (see playgound ref.)

Melo

March 30th, 2010
11:23 am

whats Google SexxyCl??

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
11:27 am

SlimGoody – went out with a dude that literally had *sticky spit*.

SCool – OMG so did I! Such a shame, he had so much going for him, and he was 6′10″ we went out for almost a year tho, cuz he was so cool. We never did the do and kissed very little. :lol:

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
11:30 am

@Melo

My homeboy sent me a link on it and I was like dayummmm!!!

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
11:31 am

…i found a 4 lb bag of large gulf shrimp on sale for $25.00 at the market yesturday and was happy as heck about that! Any other not on sale these same shrimp could easliy go for 45-50 bucks!

We go through shrimp more than chicken at my place.

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
11:31 am

@Cemeeli
What it do mama? U good?

Melo

March 30th, 2010
11:37 am

Badu booty is digitally enhanced beautifully!

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
11:37 am

@ Dig – I’m good homie! What it do like in your stables?

I see the sun brought out “some” over the weekend…Hosting a babyshower Sat-day for some 20sumthins …wow…they like some Deron, Juicy, Coogi stuff….our youngins will let it show when that sun come out.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
11:38 am

lol @ digitally enhanced.

She said there are some strech marks that didn’t show on that video (front and back)…oh and she said, “i just had a baby and still nursing.”

Now ^^^ that’s real, mamma…

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
11:39 am

Badu booty is digitally enhanced beautifully!

Her backside is fantastic on that video, but it does make me wonder if it really is all hers.

Her dreadlocks were a weave when she first came out… why be fake about that?

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
11:39 am

You know it go when spring hit ATL.

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
11:41 am

A lil stretch mark ain’t never killed nobody and wouldn’t stop me from turning into Daniel son. Wax on. Wax off.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
11:43 am

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
11:43 am

LMAO @ Dig That Don’t forget to paint the fence with them long strokes too. ;-)

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
11:45 am

“We don’t have no time to worry bout no sh*t like stretch marks. They came from either 1 of 2 things. Either you was big and got small, or you were small and got big! Either way we f*ckin… Either way!” – Katt Williams

:lol:

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
11:45 am

Strech marks are REAL! Heck, any scare tells me you been through something and survived it.

Scares just mean you’ve lived.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
11:46 am

Badu always was slim with features.. She always had that Texas Badonk… i saw her in concert up close and personal and almost grabbed it but I had to remind myself that that might be inapproprite

Melo

March 30th, 2010
11:47 am

so how many of uall ladies can safely say u can go toe to toe with Badu video/image of booty if u were to strip to the bare bare??

No lies now! :lol:

all those in the affirmative say Yeah! :lol:

@ Dig That,keep the count! :lol:

disclaimer(ur lil tatas will not, i repeat,will not be used as a basis to disqualify or vote against ur ample booty)

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
11:48 am

Melo – can you go toe to toe with Idris Elba?

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
11:48 am

Stretch marks are not “scares”

Dan

March 30th, 2010
11:49 am

@melo

I don’t think that was enhanced.

Another viewing: http://www.thelifefiles.com/2010/03/04/erykah-badu-performs-window-se...
*

I do believe thataire is all natural

Dan

March 30th, 2010
11:51 am

Thing about it is she told everybody (Dre, DOC, her kids) what she was planning so as to assuage their (potential) embrassment- that was cool

Melo

March 30th, 2010
11:53 am

Melo – can you go toe to toe with Idris Elba?

on what??

Dan

March 30th, 2010
11:53 am

embarrassment

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

March 30th, 2010
11:54 am

@SexyCool… Melo – can you go toe to toe with Idris Elba?

Lord, I had to snicker here LOL :)

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
11:54 am

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
11:55 am

“Melo – can you go toe to toe with Idris Elba?”

SexyCool — ha ha ha I know that’s right! That’s just when dudes ask me if I can cook, I politely ask them if they can change the oil in the car, hang ceiling fans, pressure wash the house, seed the grass, put up dry wall LOLOLOL!

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
11:55 am

Dang SexyCool you beat me to it.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
11:55 am

@ Dr. Amazon – What are strecthes?

so they are not abrasion when the skin is streched to the point of “scarring “your skin.

pardon me…

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
11:58 am

this one right here…

@ Melo – Did you see the video yet? It’s her real deal Holyfield.

See attests to it…

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
11:58 am

What are strecthes?

I don’t know what “strecthes” are.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
12:00 pm

Slim – Yes I can do all of the above… And more.. I can paint, hold you close to make sure youre safe, can provide for you and have multiple years of income statement to show I can maintain for us. Oh and if need be knock a joker out bout you.. Now can you cook?

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
12:00 pm

This is funny, you all are talking about two different things. Amazon Red is talking about spelling errors. Cemeeli, is talking about scars and stretch marks.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
12:02 pm

Ladies, I can not do a a darn thing

.

……

except for Julia, I know “Cry me a River”

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:02 pm

This is funny, you all are talking about two different things. Amazon Red is talking about spelling errors. Cemeeli, is talking about scars and stretch marks.

Carlito – Don’t be telling on me when I’m tryin to be a brat! ;)

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
12:02 pm

lol…

@ ARed – Well know you know. Strech marks are scares.

What is with the combative?

lemme go eat…ya’ll go head.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
12:03 pm

Anything.

Yes and No…not on money,and the type of women he got acces to and maybe acting and his house is better.

BUT,I can invest his money better than hisself(yes) , he ugly like Shannon Sharpe(a horse) and short like Musiz Soul child!

u wanna go for the money? go head! :lol: :lol:

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
12:04 pm

Lito – She gets off on me.

Slim meet Red…

lol :)

Melo

March 30th, 2010
12:05 pm

@Dig That??

how many Yeahs u got??

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
12:05 pm

Gotta love Melo’s confidence… I aint mad. If nothing else he’s gonna say exactly what he feels

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:05 pm

Scars girl, they are SCARS!!! :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
12:06 pm

can you go toe to toe with Idris Elba?
Is he the starndard right now?

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:06 pm

Lito – She gets off on me.

Cemeeli – I didn’t even notice you were on today til you came on here asking me about baby showers and whatnot.

You know me, Tazzee and Poppa Grande don’t like such talk.

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
12:07 pm

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
12:07 pm

See told ya…

Now that’s three – You ‘member…auh, remmber, oh-remember (sp?) my rule don’t you?

Lito – When you surfaced here, i told you NEVER to correct yourself. See folks with do it for you.

Hooolllaaaa….

Melo

March 30th, 2010
12:08 pm

@ Melo – Did you see the video yet?

@Cee?? the nekked video..her booty is kinda falling off as she walks…its tantalizing,my duyckk hit the bottom of my desk 2x…but it aint real.

the second video with Jimmy Fallon,she looks pretty,just like like SlimOne! :lol:

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
12:08 pm

lol @ With = will

love ya’. Old Navy for lunch.

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
12:08 pm

No, Dreams. He’s not, but neither is Badu.

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
12:09 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
12:10 pm

I didnt know dudes cared about what another dude looked like. Ol Ricky Martin Face a$$ dudes… Im the only dude that looks good to me..

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
12:10 pm

Desk must be short.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
12:12 pm

DK – you Nooner has me feeling like I need a personal session in the bathroom…too bad my computer isn’t a laptop. :lol: “Now can you cook?” Um, yeah…remove film cover from entree and microwave for 3 mins…stir up then restart for another 3 mins. :-D Naw but really, I can do a lil summin summin…not that grandma hamhocks & collards cook, but we’ll survive.

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 30th, 2010
12:12 pm

See what had happen is even though you fine, you can’t do the Froggie style like SLIMONE or the Cowgirl like Sassy so I have to say goodbye!!!!!!!!!!!! :smile:

Men leave because they have either accomplished their limited goal or something the women said or did that sent them to the disqualification line.

Cemeeli….You better stop eating all that skrimp it will cause high something!!! YEAH :wink:

@AmazonRed……6ft10 made you realize how flexible your were! :smile:

@Kinderbabe…… I have three words for ……………. I want you!!!!!!!!!!! j/k

Stay lurking my friends!!

Melo

March 30th, 2010
12:15 pm

Desk must be short

@Scool??

cmeone now lady,u know I got long legs like u..gerl stop it..!!!

Why u think i stepped to u?? :lol:

unless u think they are imprisoning me here….they gimme a bit to wrk with desk wise!

u just dont wanna admit it that I got a long reach?? :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:16 pm

@AmazonRed……6ft10 made you realize how flexible your were!

Well, sticky spit didn’t, but I’ve climed a 6′10″ tree in the past. :lol:

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
12:16 pm

A woman will always find a way to piss you off, start an argument and then try and flip it like they are the innocent one. I am kind of glad we are not seeing each other this weekend.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
12:16 pm

Slim – Well I can cook also.. A regular renaissance man.. Ummm well if you cant cook in the kitchen..

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
12:17 pm

No, Dreams. He’s not, but neither is Badu.
Badu is all good with me. Wouldn’t bother me one bit if she were the standard.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:18 pm

A woman will always find a way to piss you off, start an argument and then try and flip it like they are the innocent one. I am kind of glad we are not seeing each other this weekend.

Carlito – Didn’t you tell her about this blog? Be careful now.

Tell sis what happened. :) I was gonna ask if y’all were gonna see each other every weekend. Gets expensive.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
12:18 pm

Badu, is nice to me as well, no need to call Tyrone.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:19 pm

Ummm well if you cant cook in the kitchen..

:shock:

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
12:20 pm

DK – I’m a Gemini and we love to learn…. :-D Being taught new things is 100% turn on. The best way to my heart or CT is through by giving me some brain….oops meant to say through my brain :mrgreen:

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
12:22 pm

Never said she wasn’t. She’s just not the standard that I measure myself up to. I set my own standards.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
12:26 pm

Dreams – I like a lil more class with my a$$.. Badu could get it but im sure I would get tired of musk oil and incense all the time..

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:27 pm

Badu could get it but im sure I would get tired of musk oil and incense all the time.

:lol: :lol: :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
12:28 pm

Didn’t say you measured yourself to anyone’s standards. Saw people being asked if they compared to specific names, so I asked if that was considered the standard.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
12:28 pm

would get tired of musk oil and incense all the time..

:lol: :lol:
@DK

she on the spiritual tip??

Melo

March 30th, 2010
12:30 pm

Cee..u a resident of Atlanta proper??

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
12:31 pm

DK – I used to burn incense a lot back in the day and I even got tired of it myself. Walking around smelling like Lil’ 5 Points Shops lol

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
12:31 pm

Give me a Kelly or Nia anyday.. Hey Gabrielle Union and Halle and Ol Regina from Steve Harvey show… Its soo many I like.. I can only name a few… Give me a chick that moves like good sex and Im on her.

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
12:31 pm

And I didn’t say that Elba was the standard.

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 30th, 2010
12:35 pm

@Slimone………Brain food at your service…….I do it all except change the oil….I’ll pay for that!!!! Can I get the CT with the froggiestyle to go please!!!!!!!!!!! :smile:

@Carlito………Yea man, woman are something we let them alone when it is that time of the month!

@Badu………I can do musk oil and incense for at least 3 months!!!!

Random Thoughts……………. YEAHHHHHHHH!!!!

Is WisaDiva…..A dating Junkie? :wink:

Melo

March 30th, 2010
12:37 pm

DreamsM??

just drop it!

U know i actually like all these females on the blog booteys better than i like that Badu slackapplacka(well,those who i know)..at least theirs is within reach anyway. :lol:

My ladies,even when they rocking smething better,just dont like the feeling of being compared to another woman,unlike us men,who dont care.

It was just a rhetorical jest qstion….k…

I like urs booteys better ladies..believe that! :lol:

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
12:37 pm

Had to laugh at :arrow: woman are something we let them alone when it is that time of the month!

Not all men!

kinderbabe--35 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 30th, 2010
12:37 pm

not musk and incense…lol. now that’s funny!

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
12:39 pm

I dig the, Alyssa Milano, Gwen Stefani, Drea de Matteo types. I always pause if I see a picture of them

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:41 pm

i actually like all these females on the blog booteys better than i like that Badu slackapplacka(well,those who i know)..at least theirs is within reach anyway.

Keep hope alive, melo. :lol:

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
12:41 pm

LURKER, I forgot about that. Good save :)

Elijah

March 30th, 2010
12:42 pm

A great afternoon to everyone!

Hey sometimes after a few dates you know it’s not going to work. Just be upfront and say I am not feeeling a LTR with you and be gone!

Tax season and March Madness has a brother all tied up!

Hola Professor how is Mr. valentine treating you?
Hello Ms. Sassy :wink:

Melo

March 30th, 2010
12:43 pm

Keep hope alive, melo

@Ared!!

for me it aint even hope..hope is too distant.

Its choice!

Poppa Grande

March 30th, 2010
12:43 pm

Waxing on and long strokes..wow…It is “Tap Dat Azz Tuesday”…hunh?

Well, on topic, everyone (male and female) are flaky. I know that during my dating days a female talked her way into that kind of treatment. She usually said something that made me reconsider. I wouldn’t bring it up to her because what may be a dealbreaker to me may not mean much to another dude. No need to waste either of our time.

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
12:44 pm

im sure I would get tired of musk oil and incense all the time
Me too, but I can also say that for perms, makeup, Chanel No. 5, over-the-knee boots, and Christian Dior sunglasses.

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
12:45 pm

Melo – you’re just a nutcase. Some days, you make me laugh. Other times, I just shake my head. Then, there are the times, when I want to put a knot on your head. Every now and again, I think you should be banned. Sometimes, I’m shocked, speechless and disgusted all at the same time.

Hell, I don’t know what to do with you.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
12:46 pm

Dayum DREAMS..you just cut your female population down by sevemty percent (and yeah I said sevemty…lol) :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
12:46 pm

Carlito – I didnt even get to the Transformer Fox Chick, Gabrielle, Nicole Sherzinger, or Eva Mendez and nem..

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:46 pm

but I can also say that for perms,

:shock:

Dan

March 30th, 2010
12:49 pm

@Dreams

I can’t help but see money in all that you mention – then I think about the bankruptcy rates in Metro Atlanta alone and get nervous.

But yeah, Ms. Badu is quite nice; but she’en got nothing on AKeys

Melo

March 30th, 2010
12:49 pm

(since its boring in here)

My woman wants us to make a sex tape..what uall think??

:lol: :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:51 pm

Thank you AJC for posting the daily pollen count.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:52 pm

melo – She’s your wife and it seems like y’all are never gonna get divorced. I say go for it. I didn’t know she was spicy like that. Or maybe she’s just bored. :lol:

Once I’m content in married life, we’re gonna do a whole role play mini-series! Like Roots!!! :lol:

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
12:54 pm

Dan – as long as you are not buying all that – I know you’re not – why would you get nervous?

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
12:55 pm

Melo – as long as I never have to have my eyes scorched by it – I say go for it.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:56 pm

as long as I never have to have my eyes scorched by it

Damn. :lol:

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
12:56 pm

“Once I’m content in married life, we’re gonna do a whole role play mini-series! Like Roots!!!”

Ared – ^5 ^5 ^5 When I think about keeping it spicy I say the sky’s the limit. I have ideas that I would like to try out in a marriage but don’t want to water it down by doing it with just folks I date. Gotta leave something for ‘forever after’.

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
12:56 pm

And I didn’t say that Elba was the standard.
I wouldn’t have asked a question about standards if you had.

My ladies,even when they rocking smething better,just dont like the feeling of being compared to another woman
I didn’t compare anyone, you did. lol

Dan

March 30th, 2010
12:57 pm

@SC

It’s a wierd little thing with me as far as decision making. Yes, it’s shallow; I have been uninformed in my opinion more than once. But still.

Like a chick or a dude with a tattoo on their neck

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
12:59 pm

Cant forget about Ms. Keri Baby.. and its something bout ol ghetto azz Keyshia Cole.. and the way Rhianna acting in that Rude boy video…. Im just saying.. Im a sucker for a ole winding chick..

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
1:00 pm

I have ideas that I would like to try out in a marriage but don’t want to water it down by doing it with just folks I date. Gotta leave something for ‘forever after’.

Slim – Exactly.

I hosted the girls this weekend and I broke the pole out and we all went crazy on it. Then I did a lil mini show. The mister is wondering when he’ll get his show. He’s gotta put in on this man! :lol:

Melo

March 30th, 2010
1:00 pm

thank uall…u so kind! :lol:

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
1:02 pm

Dreams – Melo started that mess. I was just responding to him.

Why I got to fight every night to prove my love?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
1:03 pm

Hey Eli ;) You been hiding from me?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
1:03 pm

Im a sucker for a ole winding chick..

Really now?…..

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
1:04 pm

you just cut your female population down by sevemty percent
Slim Naw I’m not saying I eliminate people with those characteristics. DK said he might get tired of certain things “all the time”. I was just saying I could get tired of those other things “all the time” too, especially since they’re more the norm than Badu’s style.

I can’t help but see money in all that you mention
Dan I wasn’t trying to put an emphasis on money, but rather on things that are way more common than incense. I see your point too though. Lot’s of the people with those material things are a check away from the streets.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
1:04 pm

No surprise there. :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
1:04 pm

Like Roots!!! Well d@mn.. I could see it now.. Thats actually a good one.. Gonna file that one away. Wonder why no one has ever done a Roots Porn series.. Kuunta mounts Unfoofoo in the hay as they are discovered by massas wife and the frolicking skyrockets to level 3000.. Massa finds out and ties wife to the bed and whips her..

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
1:09 pm

Wonder why no one has ever done a Roots Porn series.. Kuunta mounts Unfoofoo in the hay as they are discovered by massas wife and the frolicking skyrockets to level 3000.. Massa finds out and ties wife to the bed and whips her..

That’s why DK…That’s a frightening image…my teeth are chattering over here…got the hebegebees and everything.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
1:11 pm

Kuunta mounts Unfoofoo in the hay as they are discovered by massas wife and the frolicking skyrockets to level 3000.. Massa finds out and ties wife to the bed and whips her

:|

Yeah and in the end I get to chop of his foot… :lol:

Melo

March 30th, 2010
1:11 pm

WD asked me to let u know that freaky friday is Thursday this week and not friday,as is the norm coz of the Good friday chrisrtian holiday.

This is the south member??

The Thumbers belt!

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
1:12 pm

Infamous, when I tell you Julia is a spitting image of Nicole. She is a spitting image of Nicole :)

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
1:12 pm

Sassy – Yep I get the wolf in the cartoon look and all..

Dreams – Yeah but see I do the incense scene also.. My loving knows no bounds. My version of the natural chick would be Amel Larrieux. Or Goapele.. Dude you know me I dont discriminate now… Honestly Im scared of Eryka.. She might have me round here with wigs and tiger striped pants on, cause i know she got the SC the way dudes be switching up when theyre with her.

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
1:13 pm

wigs and tiger striped pants

Yall a mess

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
1:16 pm

Wonder what happened tween Badu and Common?

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
1:17 pm

I just did a search for “slavery porn” Roots style, and I discovered some Jewish Porn. Everyone is extra hairy, women included.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
1:19 pm

Carlito – Well I see why you put up with a lil extra.. But for every fine babe out there… There is a dude trying to get rid of her..

My Ex Wife had a Serena Williams body with a Chilli Face and hair.. It was a big deal to shake such a beautiful babe.. Stomach muscles and all.. One of them ole Detroit fine in all the right places babe.. However I know the beast behind that beauty..

Tazzee - 46 days til Mrs.

March 30th, 2010
1:20 pm

Afternoon Folks!

I’ve had plenty of guys do the disappearing act on me. After a while I stopped wondering…

SCool – you had me dying over here with the sticky spit.

Idris Elba – ahhh, can’t wait for that movie Takers to come out. I mean what’s taking so long. Went to see Our Family Wedding this past weekend and saw the previews for the two movies with Common. The first one (with Steve Carrell and Tina Fey), I said ‘Oooh it’s Common!’ – then when the second preview came on, I was like ‘Common again!!’ – then I looked over at my boo – he just shook his head.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
1:20 pm

Badu and Common?

@SlimCoo

Common moved on to Serena..where are they now??

Does India Arie have a man?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
1:21 pm

Everyone is extra hairy, women included.

:shock: on the first read…. :lol: after it sinks it…

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
1:21 pm

Infamous, your ex-wife sounds hot( I love stomach muscles). My current lady only gets on my edges about, well we just got back together. But she used to about once every three months. So once a quarter is not to bad for a blow up.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
1:24 pm

DK??

u aint being fair to urself with that 1.19 pm?

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
1:24 pm

Common made comment to Erykah on something TV One…cain’t remember know.

lunch was Planet Smoothie good!

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
1:25 pm

Does India Arie have a man?

She used to be with the artist Musiq Soulchild, but she stated that she’ll never speak publically about a relationship with a man unless he is her husband.

Can’t say I blame her!

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
1:28 pm

I saw Common and Serena at a Zach Galifianakis (Alan from “The Hangover”) comedy show. They were pretty cool with him ripping into them since they were the only black people there

Melo

March 30th, 2010
1:29 pm

she’ll never speak publically about a relationship with a man unless he is her husband.

@Ared??

she got some good old fam values.

thats how it used to be……..

Now we have boyfrnd-grlfriend sex tapes! then…….

they all move on :arrow: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
1:30 pm

Carlito – She’s hot… I will not lie about that. I cant even front. Heck her whole crew is bad but outta 10 of them 8 got serious issues..

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
1:30 pm

I can’t believe these people actually had me doing some work today. Grrrr

Dan

March 30th, 2010
1:32 pm

Galifianikis is a Kappa – he gets a pass

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
1:33 pm

Melo – I cant even say she aint a bad chick.. She’s just not the bad chick for me.. I still think she’s pretty on the outside, it was her insides that I had a problem with..

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
1:34 pm

@ Dig – I heard you keep rewinding Erykah’s video. Work?

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
1:35 pm

DK I feel you. I like variety. Light up the nag champa or hit the gala. Too much of either scene can get on my nerves though. Oh, and Amel is tight, been on that since Groove Theory days. lol Don’t be scared of Eryhah man. We won’t laugh at you for sportin some Andre 3000 football shoulder pads and a turbin. Ok we WILL laugh, but don’t worry bout us.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
1:35 pm

Galifianikis is a Kappa – he gets a pass

Dan – Are you a Kappa or something?

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
1:35 pm

Dan, it was funny. I do not see how a white couple would go to a black comics show. They get raged on bad. Those are the times that I am glad I can pass for either. :)

Melo

March 30th, 2010
1:35 pm

I feel sorry for uall men not married yet……

Elijah marries his suposed sweetie..lets say Lurker1…and then

Elijah googles Lurker1 one day and u sees :

lurker1 sex tape with carlito

luker1 sex tape with DK

lurker1 sex tape with Dan
lurker1 sex tapes(2) with Melo

and u Elijah has no sex tape with lurker1,ur wife! :lol: :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
1:37 pm

Melo – Its a problem Ive always had.. I like the uber hot babes and most times I got at them for the wrong reasons.. Thats why Ive changed my dating approach when it comes to babes.. Instead of focusing on how they look focus on their spirit and find out more about how they were raised to see if their background coincides with mine. Cause afterall you have to be evenly yoked..

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
1:39 pm

…okay so, lemme get this straight.

Do men like their woman with a tight body, or a woman with good old fashion values?

Dan

March 30th, 2010
1:41 pm

@Red

I am not.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
1:41 pm

DK??

u need to stop talking about ur ex like that.

Get it off ur head and just retain the good fact that shes the mother of ur beloved son.Give her the credit that she didnt abort or bring him any harm

Then u be good.

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
1:42 pm

Do men like their woman with a tight body, or a woman with good old fashion values?
Do we have to choose one? lol

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
1:43 pm

focus on their spirit and find out more about how they were raised to see if their background coincides with mine.

DK – And what kind of background would that be?

lurker

March 30th, 2010
1:43 pm

Okay, wasn’t gonna past today but I got ask this (rhetorically of course), why are you digging or giving a pass to a kappa and you ain’t even one. Surely it’s not because you’re “into” him.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
1:43 pm

with a tight body, or a woman with good old fashion values?

@Cee??

how u comparing the physical (tight body) to values(intagibles)??

lurker

March 30th, 2010
1:44 pm

“was” gonna pass today…is how that should have read

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
1:45 pm

@ Dreams – you cain’t have it all now! Lol

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

March 30th, 2010
1:45 pm

Melo… nothing wrong with a sex tape between husband and wife.

However, upon divorced I found all of ours and smashed them to smitherines then burnt them in the BBQ pit. When he found out he looked like he wanted to cry (boohoo!).

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
1:46 pm

Cemeeli, mine has both. They are out there, persevere. :)

Dan

March 30th, 2010
1:47 pm

lurker

1) I think (don’t know for sure) Common is a Kappa;

2) Really? with the sophomoric gay taunt – do better.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
1:47 pm

@ Melo – I’m not comparing jack. No see, that ’s what i’m reading from here.

just askin’

@ Corrections – Make me laugh!

Melo

March 30th, 2010
1:48 pm

@LL411… Smiling On The Inside Too!

( of ours and smashed them to smitherines then burnt them in the BBQ pit.)

I take that to mean the divorce was initiated by ur ex?? :lol:

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
1:49 pm

@ Lito – If she’s what considered “tight” to you…then cool.

lurker

March 30th, 2010
1:49 pm

Dan – Sophomoric, senioric…whatever i read what was written…gay tones = gay read

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

March 30th, 2010
1:50 pm

Ladies… Question

Would any of you make a sex tape with your current (not husband)? If so, how long into the relationship would you feel comfortable in doing so?

lurker

March 30th, 2010
1:50 pm

Man, I ain’t got no beef with you, admire whomever you wish

Melo

March 30th, 2010
1:50 pm

@ Melo – I’m not comparing jack.

@Cee?

I want a woman with both.

does a tight body make a woman perverse or debase her values??

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
1:52 pm

Cemeeli, true! :)

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
1:52 pm

SUPERSTAR!!!

Melo

March 30th, 2010
1:53 pm

Would any of you make a sex tape with your current (not husband)?

@LL411…

most men will say “whatever!” :lol:

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
1:53 pm

We don’t have any nudey pics or videos, but we do webcam.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
1:54 pm

Melo….

So your wife is not both to you?

No, tight means she has moral values, and values herself….is just my take on any male or female pegged as “tight”.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
1:54 pm

@lurker

The fact that he’s (Zach) a Kappa (from an HBCU), and Common went to FAMU would lead me to believe that there was some understanding of lines to cross and not to.

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

March 30th, 2010
1:55 pm

@ Melo I take that to mean the divorce was initiated by ur ex?? :lol:

No, I initiated the divorce after almost 20 years. And no, there wasn’t any cheating going on that I’m aware of… I just didn’t want them in existence, my world or his.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
1:57 pm

Cemeeli, now you know they aren’t going to answer that truthfully. LOL

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
1:57 pm

I have lied to some women who have sent me nudey pics. They ask me if I deleted them and without a pause I say “yes”. I dont have to many but I do have some nice ones. :)

Melo

March 30th, 2010
1:59 pm

Do men like their woman with a tight body, or a woman with good old fashion values?

@Cee??

i aint following??

did i answer u tho?

tight body=fierce,phine?

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
1:59 pm

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
2:00 pm

Cemeeli, now you know they aren’t going to answer that truthfully.
The truth is that everyone (men and women) wants both.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
2:01 pm

@ Melo – Yes. I got onto what’s more solid about this “tight” you were getting at.

Tight body = physical attributes.

Tight = has all that said person is looking for in “the one”.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:02 pm

Raqi, how are you little sis.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
2:02 pm

Would any of you make a sex tape with your current (not husband)?

NO! I make it a rule to never leave any hard evidence behind…other than a mark or two :oops: … but those go away.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:03 pm

Has anyone heard of this place? http://www.sccasa.com/

My sister is planning a family reunion for our family this year and she is looking into this place. It seems pretty neat. One of the places has 10 bedrooms. That way we all can stay in one place right on the ocean.

Tazzee - 46 days til Mrs.

March 30th, 2010
2:03 pm

Carlito – LOL, that’s one of my favorite movies. Every now and then I might get on one knee, throw up my hands and yell SUPERSTAR!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
2:04 pm

Melo – I didnt know me saying my Ex was a bad babe as a bad thing. Im not tripping on her just stating the facts. We werent right for each other and it showed later on which lead us to a divorce.. Now had we been right for each other we would still be togehter.. The only thing good from our marriage is my son so I have to love her for that cause I could never hate her more than I love my son.. Meaning if I hate her I gotta hate him because he loves her and he loves me and its not fair to put him in that awkward situation..

ARED – Give me a sec Im cutting my Dads hair..

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:04 pm

Tazzee, do you smell your armpits also? :) That is a very funny movie LOL

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:06 pm

Infamous, that is very real and commendable. I know you don’t need to hear that, but it is.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:06 pm

Carlito, grazie molto bene. E tu?

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
2:06 pm

Melo – It just dawned on me.. Bad meaning Fine, cute, sexy or gorgeous..

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:09 pm

Raqi, Sto facendo molto bene,tipo di noia. Sono tornato a casa inizio oggi :)

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:11 pm

Cemeeli, in terms of what I have, I married both. However, there is a big however, I like my man to be on the slender side. Not skinny but nicely toned and slender. More basketball build than football. Now there are plenty women that would not consider my husband former build to be “tight” but I love it.

Now he is about 20+ heavier than we married but it’s all good. One reason being I was already madly in love with him by the time he gained the weight. LOL In fact he says I put the weight on him.

And “B” he wears it well so I ain’t complaining.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
2:11 pm

@DK…its all good

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
2:11 pm

that is very real and commendable. I know you don’t need to hear that, but it is.

Are you cryin Enrique?…

He’s been sharing some bonding times about his pops on here for a while.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
2:14 pm

hmmmph…i feel in love with my old man’s heart – on the real.

I mean he fine and all, but i wun lookin’ you know.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:14 pm

Carlito, I feel like going home myself. I have been kinda nauseous all morning.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:14 pm

Can I ask a question and I do not want anyone to take it out of context. But I had chitterlings once in South Carolina. And I have been trying to find some, all I am being told is that you do not eat everyone’s chitterlings. Where can I find some good ones?

Melo

March 30th, 2010
2:14 pm

Now there are However, there is a big however, I like my man to be on the slender side.

@Raqi??

I will remember that when we talk about settling!

another day…….

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:15 pm

And a little sleepy.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:17 pm

Cemeeli, that is sooooo true. You know before we got together it was what he was saying that captivated my heart. Had me thinking about him all night. But you know when I went to sleep then that physical thang starting acting up on me. :lol:

Tazzee - 46 days til Mrs.

March 30th, 2010
2:17 pm

Carlito – :lol: naw, I don’t smell my armpits – I gotta pull that movie out.

Cemeeli – Hey Lady!!!

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:18 pm

Cemeeli, Enrique is latin, Enrico is Italian :)

Raqi, un altro bambino? LOL :)

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:19 pm

And like I said earlier to Infamous, I noted his manness before anything. He was a good man first from what I could see. Then he proved to be a tried and true friend. Next a great lover. And now the most amazing husband I could have ever imagined or asked for.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
2:19 pm

@Carlito

That’s what I’m thinking

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:20 pm

Tazzee, SNIFF!!!

I bought some and I tried to google how to cook them, they were gross.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:20 pm

Carlito. LOL Stop.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
2:21 pm

un altro bambino?

I wondered that from the “nauseous all morning” part….

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
2:21 pm

“I tried to google how to cook them, they were gross.”

My laugh of the day – Thank you.
:)

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:22 pm

Dan, ess’s possible quando lei sesso come un coniglio. :)

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
2:22 pm

@…Enrico of Enrique….I’m just giving you a lil info about brother.

Don’t sass me on this blog! We out number you dude…”chittlins’” is how it’s spelled…and until you get the spelling right, we ain’t tellin.

Hi Tazzee.

Tazzee - 46 days til Mrs.

March 30th, 2010
2:24 pm

Raqi – nauseous? I know it’s something you ate and not something you ‘took in’ – Never been to Casas but it looks like a great place for a family vacation. Big enough to take the kids…

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:24 pm

Raqi, okay :) lol

SexyCool, my whole house was funky. Can you help me find some though?

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:24 pm

However, as Infamous stated there are more than likely a few women that would like to see him dead. LOL

He doesn’t pretend to be a saint. He has told me before that he has done dirt in his lifetime.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:25 pm

Sassy, yall better stop.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
2:25 pm

Cee – Good old fashion values cause as my Grandma says.. Beauty Fades..

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:25 pm

Cemeeli, “chittilins”. LOL okay now hook me up.

Oh and this is the end of week two with NO VEGGIES.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
2:25 pm

chitterlings??? <— what are those?

Yeah those were prolly nasty….

Tazzee - 46 days til Mrs.

March 30th, 2010
2:26 pm

Carlito – :lol: googling chitterlings, um excuse me “chitlins” – I don’t mess around with those. Word on the street is, I used to love them – until my Grandma made me clean them.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
2:26 pm

@ Infamous – I thought so…..i’m just entertaining the lurking masses…

I roll slow over here…

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:27 pm

Dirt, nope not me. Carl maybe but not Carlito. :)

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
2:28 pm

Carlito – Can’t help you.

I don’t eat ‘em. I’ve seen pigs slaughtered and the intestines removed and forced to clean them as a child.

I think they are the one of the most vile, disgusting things you could ever put in your mouth. (Especially if they were not cleaned properly.)

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:28 pm

Are they some African American secret? Why isn’t anyone telling me? LOL

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:28 pm

Tazzee don’t be acting up with these folks. LOL

And yeah that place looks pretty good. My sister and oldest brother both have kids. And my dad and wife will be there. We all hang out on the beach and have some family fun. It will nice having everyone in one place. I am the only one that still lives here in Georgia. They all live in Detroit and Ohio. I haven’t seen my oldest brother in 5 years.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:28 pm

SexyCool, you don’t like sausage?

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:29 pm

SexyCool, I meant to type pork, not “sausage” :)

Melo

March 30th, 2010
2:29 pm

@Carlito?? chitterlings once in South Carolina

I prefer cow chitlins (insides) instead but they all cooked the same,i think!(well maybe not quite)

delicious food indeed.

we boil them coz they tough.

In fact,u have to cook the tripe seperately from the small inestines(i dont knw what name u give those other than my zulu name for them)… when they all done,u spice them with salt and pepper if u want and add tomatoes and onions in there.. U can cut the intestines and then roll the inestines around small pieces of the cut tripe and then serve them in small bites.

Da Bomb!! :lol:

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
2:30 pm

I personally don’t see how folks eat chitterlings or chitlins….just not a taste that I ever acquired.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
2:30 pm

“Are they some African American secret? Why isn’t anyone telling me?”

@ Lito – Go sit in the car. …ain’t no chittlin curcuit in here…

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
2:30 pm

Chitterlings are terrible and bad for you, however chitlins might put you in the game.

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
2:31 pm

I eat pork. Just not the intestines that housed the pork sht.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:31 pm

Melo, that sounds good. When i was on the farm this past weekend I had a thought about something you said. Did you say that you mixed “dung” in one of your meals? Forgive me if I am wrong.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:31 pm

Infamous, it doesn’t fade it just takes on a different form. And we learn to see the beauty in the person rather than the outward appearance as we grow together.

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
2:33 pm

“I eat pork. Just not the intestines that housed the pork sht.”

Bout da same.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:33 pm

SexyCool, you have such a way with words. :)

DigThat, I am going to find someone to make me some or find an eatery with them.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:34 pm

I bet the neighbor knows how to make them. LOL

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
2:34 pm

this is the end of week two with NO VEGGIES.

WOOOHOOO for you lito :)

I think they are the one of the most vile, disgusting things you could ever put in your mouth.

Ditto on that. I’ve never eaten those things..can’t get pass the smell…t’aint right,t’aint natural.

Tazzee - 46 days til Mrs.

March 30th, 2010
2:34 pm

Cemeeli – OK, now I’m in tears “ain’t no chittlin circuit in here” :lol:

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:35 pm

Melo, that is disgusting. You are making me sick.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:35 pm

Do you ladies who don’t eat them wipe your man down before you give him oral? Not comparing the two but just wondering. LOL Yes it is about that time. :)

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
2:35 pm

Rock – I agree that I am typically attracted to a tall, thin man. TheDude is barely an inch taller than me and is a chunky fella. But I wouldn’t trade him for nothing. (At least not most days.)

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
2:37 pm

Enrico – How do we make reeeeaaaal bowtie pasta? I havn’t had the real pasta in years.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
2:37 pm

Did you say that you mixed “dung” in one of your meals?

@CARLITO..

u can get them at the Buford hwy frmers mrkt or chamblee frmers mrket coz most south americans trans go there and eat them…dekalb frmers,not so much but u can get the tripe not the intestines.

the dung stuff..thats the uninitiated here are calling foul but if u eat cow or chicken etc at some point,u gon smehow mix with the dung etc..

the cow chitlins,if u prep them urself,they will have a lil dung smell….i actually luv it,not loathe it. Much like goat meat..very distinctive coz goat urine is distincitve.

I wld prefer kill my own cow,skin it and cut it up than get it for the store….

There is a farm off exit 88/89 on I-20 in conyers…u can get live sheep,cow or goat,have them skin it and u carry ur meat fresh.

Try it!

I luv it…

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
2:38 pm

Oddly enough, Carlito, I *knew* someone was going to bring up that point.

Still – I prefer to not have formally (and possibly still) shtty intestines on my plate. There are way too many other edible parts of the pig.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:39 pm

Yeah SexyCool once they got your heart all that other stuff is secondary.

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
2:41 pm

CaRliTo?? Chitlins?

hmmmm…I’ll file that with nizzle.

JtJ

March 30th, 2010
2:41 pm

Afternoon all, Okay Cee, you made me choke on my water laughing!!

I am so looking forward to this weekend, I been feigning for some BBQ!! and a couple of burnt hot dogs!!

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
2:41 pm

@ Tazzee – Just sayin’. The chittlin curcuit is not for err’body.

lol…Hey maam. “Mrs” wow!…last year this time…what a difference a year makes.

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
2:41 pm

I’m just glad I gave him a chance to get to my heart. I certainly didn’t see it coming. It was so *unpredictable.*

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:41 pm

I mean for real. How are relating what fits in the woman canal to something that holds crap? Carlito does your woman crap from her vajayjay? Or do you pack fudge?

Melo

March 30th, 2010
2:42 pm

Melo, that is disgusting. You are making me sick.

@Raqi??

just as well u married to an american.

If u had been married to me, I wld take u home to mom and dad and the whole clan,my fam wld be happy that u joining the fam and they wld slaughter a cow in ur honor,the new bride, and then they will give u,the new bride, to cook all the meat for the in-laws and ur hubby and we all sit tgether at the tabkle for dinner,sampling on ur cooking skills…..

Chitlins included!!

:lol: :lol:

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
2:43 pm

@Carlito
This is the south. You can find giant booty and a bucket of chitlins anywhere, however the beautiful part is you can combine the 2 and get a big booty girl to cook you some chitlins. I recommend the 2nd option.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
2:45 pm

JtJ – You and Tazzee gotta take turns “glowin” up the Blog Lounge, now! I can only take one of ya’ll at a time.

coming in here with stories about licking tattoos, and FSU garter belts.

chill out with that…Cee can only live vicariously a lil bit at a time.

JtJ

March 30th, 2010
2:46 pm

@ Dig That…I dare you to make a sentence using “chittlins” and big booty”….lol….Amazing!!!

JtJ

March 30th, 2010
2:49 pm

@ Cee…Tazzee’s glow is a little brighter, she only got about 2 months to go.

We got tickets for the ATL summer jam and suprisingly, that concert is on the same day he proposed at the Kindred concert!

@Ared– We did get the $10.75 tickets, they were not on the lawn, they were the last section before the lawn. I wanted the lawn seats because you can stretch out and not be all stiff in those stadium style seats. Nonetheless, we will be there!!!

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
2:49 pm

@ JtJ – He stupid with that…of course there’s another level to the chitlin dialogue.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:50 pm

Cemeeli, Farfalle from scratch. Americans call it bowtie. LOL

It is quite easy, just make you some pasta dough, lay it out, make sure it is about 1.5 inches deep. then take a ravioli cutter and cut some 2 inch wide rectangles…then you take those rectangle and pinch them in the middle with a finger in the middle to give it its shape. Have some water boiling with a almost a full handful of salt in it. Throw in the pasta and when it rises to the top a minute later drain it and smother in sauce.

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
2:51 pm

JtJ – I could trade ya if ya REALLY wanna be on the lawn. However, who says you can’t sit on the lawn anyways?

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:51 pm

Melo, you owe me $9.73 for my lunch. You are disgusting. Imma skip over your posts for the rest of the day.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
2:52 pm

@SC

Good for you – I’m happy for you

Professor

March 30th, 2010
2:52 pm

I see Carlito is comfortable now he is on here literally asking about all kinds of ish

Hola!

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 30th, 2010
2:53 pm

@Carlito……Now here are the women that have big-southern bootyas……
Cemeeli……. Very Taken…….:wink:
Kinderbabe…….Extremely taken….. :wink:
I am……….Kinda crazy but single! :smile:
Lady-J……Single but you will have to text her to have her cook the chittlins! :lol:
PrincessNik…..Now this one for me!!! Me likey NIK

Those are your big bootay cooking MIA blog women! YEAHHHHHHH

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:54 pm

Luvbug, what did I do now? I just want to eat some.

Raqi, I am no fudge packer. But you saw where I was going with my dialogue. Smarty :)

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
2:54 pm

Faralle, Yes that’s it! If i can get my Americanized bowtie pasta and remember.

It is such a romantic food/meal…with some good cheeses mixed with other ingredients.

Ima keep learning how to cook all types of food if i can…cause when he say “baby, i want some wings…or steak, shrimp, fish, pasta…whatever!”…by the time he take that second breath i’ll be in the kitchen ministering to that thing!!!

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:55 pm

1.5 inches deep????

Carlito, aren’t those dumplings. When I make pasta I roll it out very thin. About as thick as a few sheets of paper thick. When you cook the pasta it swells so it needs to start out pretty thin. But that’s just me. That’s how I make my ravioli pasta.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
2:56 pm

@Funny u say that coz my buddy from home is married to an american chic and she luvs, i mean luvs them when they cook them…cow feet too…

how pple are different..

I swear to not have ever eaten shrimp and that gecko crab stuff Red lobster is know for…. no apetite. 15 yrs,neva tried!

we all diffrent fo sho!

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:56 pm

Professor, hello :) on here I can not get the crazy look I get when I ask in person :)

Lurker, do you think I Am can cook? A woman with no panties cooking me chitterlings does not sit well with me for some reason.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
2:56 pm

ARED – Believe it or not someone with a similar background as yours helps. When I say evenly yoked its the truth because if not you are trying to pull one way and they are trying to go another.. The background comes into play because I was raised in a traditional southern family even though we did live in LA. Your Cali roots are different than my southern roots and it shows in certain situations. I guess with me being quite honest.. My next babe will come from a two parent household, thats just a requirement I gotta have because I need her to at least have seen a man in the home to have some kinda understanding. Or if she didnt come from a two parent household she gotta have some SowF in her.. So at least I know her mama put that southern lady in her whether she wanted or not.. She can atleast make sweet tea..

Tazzee - 46 days til Mrs.

March 30th, 2010
2:57 pm

I’m just glad I gave him a chance to get to my heart. I certainly didn’t see it coming. It was so *unpredictable.*

Same here.

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
2:57 pm

Carlito – Nothing. Be you all day, everyday. I’m just paying attention is all.

JtJ

March 30th, 2010
2:58 pm

@ SexyCool- Verizon says!!!lol. I read on their website that you will not be allowed in the lawn section unless your ticket says “lawn”. My boo thought the same thing and was going to bogard his way onto the lawn area.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
2:59 pm

Raqi, that is the traditional way to make it. If you want it smaller it is called Farfalline and you can cover it in sauce as well or put it in soups.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
2:59 pm

Believe it or not someone with a similar background as yours helps.

Infamous, I have said that several times on here. Having the same or very similar beginnings makes a world of difference when it comes to finding suitable mates.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
2:59 pm

A woman with no panties cooking me chitterlings does not sit well with me for some reason.

:lol: :lol:

That’s just wrong….

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
2:59 pm

Well, dern….JtJ.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:00 pm

LuvBug, I am serious I am not following what did I do?

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:01 pm

@ Raqi – Farfalle comes in different sizes…it is thicker than ravioli…auh, at Maggianos it is…lol that’s one place. The other place in Perimeter…i don’t remember.

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
3:01 pm

Carlito – Nothing to follow.

JtJ

March 30th, 2010
3:02 pm

@ SC- Maybe someone will want to trade up…never know! Now, a while back you stating your non-use of a specific watch that you had no use for….what that look like?..lol

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
3:03 pm

No chittlins or tripe for me. Had them, didn’t like them. Carlito you should be able to find chittlins in the south. Sure, everyone is going to tell you not to eat “everyone’s” chittlins, but don’t worry about that. We say the same thing about potato salad, mac & cheese, and sweet potato pie. lol

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
3:03 pm

Raqi – Outward beauty fades.. Inner beauty lives forever.. Now you aint gonna argue with my 86 year old Grandma that still believes a woman should never leave the house without her lipstick or her ear rings because its not proper for a woman to be out without them.. Oh and she never opened a door in her life if my Grand dad was around and neither does any woman Im with.. Those are somethings Im talking about..

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:03 pm

She can atleast make sweet tea..

I have this on a cute T-shirt i’d ’bout at this place in Midtown.

too funny….

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:04 pm

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
3:04 pm

LMAO – Girl, you’s a nut. My momma-nem would kill me!!!

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
3:05 pm

Awww, sweet. Thanks Carlito.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:06 pm

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
3:06 pm

I leave for a spell and come back to Italian Studmuffing googling how to cook chittlins. Pls say it ain’t so! Bet you didn’t know about your house being funked up for days on days. Whew! Coming home from school I could smell them cooking 3 blocks away. I knew I was having pizza that night!

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
3:07 pm

“We say the same thing about potato salad, mac & cheese, and sweet potato pie. lol”

Dreams you ain’t never lied

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:08 pm

LOL Infamous you know what I mean. I am just saying a that marries a woman with skin as smooth as silk does not find her less beautiful 60 years later. He just sees that beauty in a different way. Yeah we all wrinkle and sag, but that person that loves you still find you beautiful.

I feel sorry for a man or woman that marries (pr gets into a relationship with) someone and even a short 3 years later they can’t see past the outer appearance. That’s just sad.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
3:08 pm

@DK

A woman that knows to let you open the door for them….where they do dat at?

Or a woman that knows it ain’t an obligation (I know some of those, though)

JtJ

March 30th, 2010
3:09 pm

@ SC— well, I tried…I heart Movado watches…that will my gift to myself when I reach 40..all but 1 kido will be out of the house!!

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
3:10 pm

I’m so used to having my doors opened for me that one day when I was out shopping with my sister, I didn’t realize that I was stepping to the side to let her open the door until she called me out.

LMAO!

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:10 pm

Cemeeli, when he says 1.5 inches deep is he talking about the width of the noodle? When I think deep I am thinking about the thickness. Maybe that’s where I am getting lost.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:11 pm

SexyCool, you’re spoiled. LOL

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:12 pm

And doesn’t it feel wonderful?

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
3:12 pm

@Raqi ~ this morning you had a bone to pick w/me….wassup? Online, offline, doesn’t matter cuz I know I ain’t did nuffin!

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:14 pm

Deep Fried Lasagna is good also

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
3:15 pm

Yeah. It does.

And pretty much any guy that has a problem with opening my car door, well, that’s an immediate clue that he has no long term potential.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
3:16 pm

A great friend and I was talking the other day and she stated that she was so used to doing for herself that oneday she saw an older couple and the lady stood there and waited until the gentleman opened the door. She said she was just about to reach for the door and felt the old lady looking at her.. She looked up and realized what was happening and stood there as the guy opened the door for the both of them.. She said it was a life changing moment because the non verbal communication between her and the older woman spoke volumes… She said once she realized whats was going on the old lady gave her a nonverbal “thats right baby” and they proceeded to walk into the DMV together. She always talks about it because no one had took the time to show her what a man should be doing..

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:16 pm

Goodell is a hypocrite.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:17 pm

I was speaking width too…my badd.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:18 pm

Leggs, that movie New Moon…it sucks. The first 1:45 I was like what the heck. The most exciting part is when the were before the “consulate” and Edward and the other bloodsucker were fighting.

And I just hate Bella. She reeks of selfishness. Wolfman was there to dry her tears when that Gawdawful ghostly bloodsucker went off and left her. He was the first to fight for her. He pulled her out of the ocean before she was killed. Then she got the nerve to tell Jake that she love him but Edward is the one she wants.

Teenagers are stupid. LOL

That’s all. I blame you for me spending 5.00 to watch a crappy unexciting movie.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
3:19 pm

opened a door in her life if my Grand dad was around

@DK

I saw a dude last nite at the train station,waiting on his wife. Wife is short, 5ft maybe or less and hubby about same height. Most folks park their cars then wait in there,waiting for their pple.

Dude came outa the car,wlk towards the turstils and wife was walking towards the car park,from the train.

From where iam at,I dont know why they tgether or rather,the woman just seemed like the man wld do better in his own lane.

They meet,embrace and they plant kisses on each other be4 the 2some proceed to the car,and he opens door for her….

They seemed so much in luv…..

but dude is playing games on that woman.
..

:lol: :lol:

Dan

March 30th, 2010
3:19 pm

@DK

It’s a sad commentary indeed my friend.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
3:20 pm

@Raqi

ahahahahahahahahaahahaha- New moon stupid, really?

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 30th, 2010
3:20 pm

@Carlito…..You asked if SexyCool do not like Sausage!!! SexyCool willl hurt you if she does not get her weekly Sausage!!!!! YEAHHHHHHH

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
3:20 pm

How about if you all are walking down a sidewalk, the guy immediately walking on the side closes to the street and have you walk on the inside?? That’s one that I see few and far between.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
3:20 pm

I aint opening no door for Queen but I luv her!

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:21 pm

Old fashion practices should be commended when given…a lot of these yound men are so disrespectful!!!

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:22 pm

“thats right baby”

Yep, Infamous. Now you see what I was saying this morning. A man opens the door for his woman and any other woman within a few steps. That’s a man. A woman shouldn’t accept or expect less. Those are the type things I am talking about.

And a woman says “thank you”.

I was at the mall once and this little asswipe was walking ahead of me. He purposely barely opened the door just so he could slide right in. He was determined he was not going to open or hold the door for this *****. To a real man it doesn’t matter. A woman is a woman.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
3:22 pm

@Slim

When y’all hit the street, he should’ve already positioned himself between you and the street…..

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
3:23 pm

DK- Have you ever dated the type of woman (equally yolked) you described? If so, why didn’t it work out?

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:23 pm

Alfredo’s has the best Italian food here IMO

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
3:24 pm

OM Goodness, Raqi, I’m choking over here. I kept remarking how they weren’t as pasty looking as they were in Twilight. I is so sowwwy…

BTW, Dan may be coming after you for revealing much more than I did.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
3:26 pm

Um, Ms. Leggs,

Screaming young (white) women = bad movie (see: also Titanic, the Notebook, etc.)

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 30th, 2010
3:26 pm

@DK….. A lost art regarding manners and being a gentlemen, The new Rap generations does not take too well with manners and gentlemen like actions toward the women. Plus the women do not know any better!

@Slimone…….You are upfront and honest regarding your assault. I would say this you seem like you are grounded and down to earth so I would glady date you and your CT…….:smile:

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:26 pm

SexyCool, that’s why I just laugh at folks. You think imma give up what I have, all this goodness, just because you have a problem with how I got it or how I maintain it. GTFOH. I like it, I love it, I want some more of it. And he keeps coming back for more. LOL

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
3:27 pm

@Raqi
Now while I agree that a woman is a woman, it does piss me off and turns a man completely off by being an ungrateful woman. I do it without thinking but there have been a few times that I had to speak on standing and waiting to hold a door open for a “lady” and the heffa just walk in and dont say a eff’n word. I will just say your welcome. But that can kill chilvary for those less enlightened.

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
3:28 pm

The Titanic was a very good movie. The Notebook was a cute movie that showed through everything he was standing my his woman! She doesn’t scream through the whole movie.

@Raqi ~ you see why I said I would throw mine out the window if she carried on like that!

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:28 pm

Carlito – Really? There is one near Lenox…which is better?

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
3:29 pm

I always say “thank you” and I say it with a SMILE!

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:30 pm

It sucks Dan!!!! Don’t waste your money. Leggs gon gimme my $5.00. And Melo is gonna give me $9.73.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
3:30 pm

Dan I had to school this yougin about that last weekend. lol Look at me calling someone else youngin’ LOL!

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
3:32 pm

“I would glady date you and your CT”

LURKER why thank you…thank you very much ;-)

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:33 pm

Cemeeli, that is the one.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
3:33 pm

The Notebook was a cute movie that showed through everything he was standing my his woman!

I cried at the end :(

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:33 pm

Leggs – I went for Notebook too…it was auiight. Maybe the book is better…

I went to see “Dear John” girls night part 2…it’s cool.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:33 pm

DigThat, I get it. That’s why I said a woman says thank you. I am learning in life to not let a few ingrates alter my character. Change how I know what is right to do.

I don’t be less of a concerned mother because another mother didn’t like me telling her kid to stop climbing on the store shelves. I tell the next one.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:34 pm

@ Sassy – I didn’t cry. I was more like “The End?”….

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:35 pm

SlimOne,:( LOL

Mo (aka Moeisha - much better now)

March 30th, 2010
3:36 pm

well dayum, 6 pages and its only 335! Wow, its jumpin in here!

I love the Notebook!

So whats good everyone!

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:36 pm

Hot Tub Time Machine was funny

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:36 pm

Leggs, she was awful. I would have chopped her in her throat.

But that movie was just horrible. Very dull. It was about like an empty orgasm. When you think something exciting was about to happen you just felt empty and let down in the end.

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
3:36 pm

Dang, I just found this $5 in the bathroom covered in baby powder dust. Here, Raqi, it’s yours!

Dan

March 30th, 2010
3:38 pm

@Slim

Try last night.

(Saggy pants, dreds, whatever) “ayo, don’t you see that lady behind you? Do better.”

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
3:38 pm

Um Leggs that is not baby powder

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:38 pm

Maybe the book is better

Cemeeli, that’s what my son told me last night before I rented New Moon. I asked him if he wanted to watch it he said “i’ll pass. the book is better”.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
3:39 pm

Luvbug – yes I have.. We were perfect for one another. I married someone else. Knew I shouldve been marrying her but society told me I neede the chick with the masters degree instead of the chick fresh out of real estate school that could sell fire in h3ll.. Her Father owned a grocery store when she was growing up so she had the money sense and everything.. Not to mention she had a walk out this world that turned me on everytime I saw her. She cooked for me and brought me lunch to my job.. She rubbed my back everytime I got out the shower.. She just took care of me.. The chick I have referred to on here as Girlfriend.. Her and I together would be a conglomerate about now cause shes killing the homes and Im killing the cars.. The most important thing was she took time to know me and what I liked and I did the same it was the most natural relationship I ever had..

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
3:39 pm

Even with my ex and I being together for 8+ years, I’d still thank him for dinner or whatever even though it was a give & take situation. A thank you never hurt anybody.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
3:40 pm

I was more like “The End?”….

I kinda felt that way,too CeeMee cause I didn’t want it to end. For some reason I’d only seen bits n pieces before but ner the whole thing…so one day when it came on tv I just decided to watch it til the end….all the while never knowing the notebook was about them. Just the way he stood by her through her illness was soo sweet and tender…. I hear violins playing now….

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
3:40 pm

Interesting….empty orgasm. Is this even possible???

@Raqi ~ “I would have chopped her in her throat.” EXACTLY. I looked at lil leggs and told her although a breakup with someone may feel like that, you don’t go screaming yourself to sleep. No one wears that kind of pain on their sleeves….no one!

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:41 pm

Leggs, you better keep that. LOL Uh, no you better not. Can’t be taking that home with you. It might fall into the wrong hands.

Here Tazzee. Happy Tuesday. Here’s $5 from the blog.

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 30th, 2010
3:41 pm

You know how you tell you are attracted to someone? Well, for me it’s like gasoline being poured on fire. That is the best chemistry EVER. Had that just recently and WOW….this guy was like crack cocaine for me……………….

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
3:42 pm

One of my besties is in town from DC. Now tell me why she wanna come to town at the beginning of the week thinking I want to hang out?

And considering that she is leaving Thursday to go visit her father for the rest of the week, I told her she planned this trip all backwards. She should have gone to see her father Mon to Wed and I would have been ready to hang out Thurs to Sun.

All I got for her during this part of the week is dinner.

smdh…

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
3:42 pm

Carlito – why the sad face?

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:44 pm

Slim, I can’t remember at the moment.

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
3:44 pm

the guy immediately walking on the side closes to the street and have you walk on the inside
I always do this, and it was actually a girl who taught me, back in 8th grade. Been doing it ever since. You don’t see that anymore.

Now, I gotta disagree about Titanic. I thought it was horrible. I know I’m in the minority, but I just couldn’t get into it.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
3:45 pm

“It was about like an empty orgasm. When you think something exciting was about to happen you just felt empty and let down in the end.”

@Raqi – OMG!! That’s the best way i’ve heard that described…LMAO!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
3:46 pm

The most important thing was she took time to know me and what I liked and I did the same it was the most natural relationship I ever had..

Just had to say it again….

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:46 pm

I did not like Titanic, but I did like Pearl Harbor. But I also like Pineapple Express. “Now sit your sexy as* down and watch yourself get killed” LOL

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
3:46 pm

Speaking of crack:

I can’t lie…that head got my mind like white powder on a table chop into small lines, gone…
I can’t lie…that pudsy takes the cake, like momma wld make when the universe was n line and all was well, when tht pudsy cake rise this dyck swells….
I can’t lie…I love the love u show me, the way u kiss me the way u hold me….and bc ur love transcends it will surely out grow me…

:-D :-D

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
3:46 pm

I filed *Titanic* under WPS – and kept it moving. Didn’t understand that uproar.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:47 pm

SlimOne, are you okay?

JtJ

March 30th, 2010
3:48 pm

Ya’ll should see the Lovely Bones…that was a good movie!

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:48 pm

Leggs, you never had one with that was so quick, weak and uneventful you were left like “What just happened?”?

I love tying the topic back into whatever foolishness we are discussing. LOL

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 30th, 2010
3:48 pm

SlimOne….. Has any of your past SO’s had any problems with you when you disclose your assault?

Reading…..Currently reading a whole lot of Black history books. Madame C.J. Walker, George W. Carver, Booker T. Washington are a few of the people I have read about. This is truly inspirational reading , to have gone thru so much adversity, overcome tremendous obstacles then achieve major accomplishments is truly remarkable!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
3:49 pm

gotta disagree about Titanic. I thought it was horrible. I know I’m in the minority, but I just couldn’t get into it.

Me either.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:49 pm

Raqi/Sassy – I’d always rather read the books prior to, or not at all than the movie to it, any day.

“Orange Mint and Honey” is a book based on Jill Scott’s TV movie “Sins of a Mother”…we had a viewing party to see it (girls night)…chile, i started talking about something else. Sins of a Mother can’t touch the book!

Melo

March 30th, 2010
3:49 pm

DK??

all is not lost.

I think u just gave some here a play by play of how u want to be treated if u step on any one of them.

:???:

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:49 pm

The Time Traveler’s Wife was awesome. I just may watch it again tonight.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:50 pm

Just say NO to the VEGGIE man. JUST SAY NO. A half for $50, just say NO. NO NO NO NO

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
3:52 pm

Carlito – would have anything to do with Lurker wanting to date me and the CT? lol

Lurker – never really had anyone disclose having a problem with it other than being immediately upset by it. I’ve only told the whole story to my long term ex-SO and he didn’t take it well at all. Kept pushing me to at least tell my mom after all these years because I’ve never told her…just didn’t want her to be hurt by it. But I did date one dude who kept wondering if I would have some sort of flashbacks or if something he could do would ever trigger some crazy reaction and it affect my ability to move forward with anyone in a viable relationship because of some things he read. WHy do you ask?

Melo

March 30th, 2010
3:53 pm

Any of u watch golf on tv??

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
3:54 pm

Melo – I already know what Im looking for.. And what I want.. So theres no need to settle just get something as close to what I need as possible..

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:54 pm

Slim, you were assaulted? Were you talking about yourself earlier?

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

March 30th, 2010
3:54 pm

PrincessNik…..Now this one for me!!! Me likey NIK

lol LURKER, i was minding my own business today ;)

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:55 pm

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:55 pm

Mo – You got any kettle cooked salt & vinegar chips today?

I’m cravin

Dan

March 30th, 2010
3:55 pm

@Legg, Raqi

Mind you, I’ve never seen any of the movies I mentioned (nor will I ever), that’s just my general formula for horrible movies.

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 30th, 2010
3:55 pm

That Raqi….. Is a blog teaser! Stop it MARRIED Woman!!!!! :smile: Did mason take out the ear plugs yet? :lol:

Where is that BMW….BKA blackmagicwoman……I’m looking for one! Have you seen her, tell me have you seen!

I don’t always eat panty juice but when I am thristy….I will drink panty juice!!!!!!!! YEA

Stay thirsty my friends!!!!!!

Cemeeli…..Why you trying to ignore me?

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:56 pm

I saw that one Raqi.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:56 pm

I’m cravin

Leggs, I told you to give that $5 to Tazzee not Cemeeli.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:56 pm

LURKER – Hehehe…boy i ain’t iggin’ you!

What’s up?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
3:57 pm

A half for $50, just say NO. NO NO NO NO

:shock: Don’t do it lito!!

that ain’t a bad price,though :oops:

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:58 pm

Raqi – That is not why! Stop playin now…

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
3:58 pm

Carlito – why you ask if I was okay? I’m chillin like a villain waiting for 5 O’clock!!! Yep was molested as a youngin and raped as a teen…

Melo

March 30th, 2010
3:58 pm

@Carlito??

I wonder how the tv cameramen gon to angle their shots and how the crowd’s gona react when they are around Tiger,readying to putt for a birdie or to tee off and the crowd does the usual chant,”In the hole!”

Hws Tiger gon to take it??

Masters is gon be a spectacle! Cant wait.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:00 pm

Sassy, it is a great price. I am not going to the ATM machine nor am I taking it on credit.

Lurker, “panty juice”.

How did those panty juice talks go over? LOL I need to make a woman’s panty line.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:00 pm

Cemeeli, I want to see Why Did I Get Married Too. I don’t like TP’s movies but A Family That Preys and Why Did I Get Married were pretty good.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:00 pm

Yep was molested as a youngin and raped as a teen…

@Slim..
first time hearing that..u sound aaight to me..

do u think about it often,does it affect u one way or the other,esp in dating??

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
4:00 pm

@Slim

That is a hard call sometimes. I have seen it from both sides of the spectrum. It is nothing to take lightly, and some men can’t handle that for a number of reasons. But as long as you are ok, then that is all that matters. I’m sorry you had to go thru it, and if YOU ever think is affecting you negatively then please seek counseling or talk about it. You should not have to suffer for something that is not your fault

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
4:01 pm

Okay, wasn’t gonna past today but I got ask this (rhetorically of course), why are you digging or giving a pass to a kappa and you ain’t even one.

lurker – That was the point of my question too. I wish a non-Delta would do the same. :lol:

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:01 pm

kimmie – The school band is having a Fish Fry at the year end trip meeting tonight. would of thought?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
4:01 pm

I am not going to the ATM machine nor am I taking it on credit.

Be skrong my brutha…

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:02 pm

Melo, I figure Tiger is a warrior so he will be fine. I think the crowd will love him and support him as most are just saying his personal life is not their business. Now if he screws up bad, the media will be all over him.

SlimOne, you can still water my lawn. :)

Mo (aka Moeisha - much better now)

March 30th, 2010
4:02 pm

Cemeeli – nah chica, but Im munchin on some salt’n'pepper chips….have some

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
4:02 pm

Melo – nope don’t think about it too much at all…only when it’s Gyno-papsmear time…(must have a female doctor) Other than that I think i’m good. Everyone deals with things in their own way. Not going to play victim for the rest of my life…just has no purpose nor accomplishes anything

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
4:02 pm

LURKER Those are good reads. When Booker T. said he and the students built a kiln to make the bricks to build Tuskeegee because they couldn’t afford to buy them, I was like “wow, they don’t make that kind of determination anymore”.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:03 pm

@Raqi – I’m off for the holiday Friday. My co-worker asked if we can meet up and view that TP movie.

Maybe.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:04 pm

SlimOne, you are awesome.

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
4:08 pm

Ummmm, memory fuzzy! Yeah, been there, done that and quickly ended the evening by sending him home!

I want to see Lovely Bones!

@Raqi ~ I’m sorry, you must have been talking in my bad ear.

@Tazzee ~ it’s your lucky day…here’s $5.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
4:08 pm

Carlito – I’ll take that compliment this time, but i’m just me…I learned early humor goes a long way. Hence my Krazy Ass Self…Coo COO COOO COOOOOOO (Slim now on rooftop smoking kush & dranking a flask of YAK) :-D

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:08 pm

SlimCoo-Coo??

if i were u, i wld tell ur mom and seek counseling.

Il tell u why….

coz ur mom dont know,it still remains a secret in u and secrets weigh u down..disclusre frees u….

u have asked the same qstion u asked today,in the past……shows its still on ur mind,one way or the other….I neva put 2 and 2 tgether tho…

so counselling cld help rather than dealing with it on ur own…..

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:08 pm

Cemeeli, one of my bff said she noted from the preview that Troy does not have a job. Now I am thinking why dey do dat? He was the good guy in the previous movie. He stepped in and made the life of a beautiful woman bright. Now she dealing with he ain’t got no job. WTH is dat all about? Why dey got to go and brang down the black man ev’time?

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:09 pm

Slim, just be you. I am on a horse………

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
4:10 pm

@SlimCoo-Coo for Cocco Puffs, you’re strong and definitely have the right “constitution,” but here’s a {{{{hug}}}} for you anyway!!!

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
4:11 pm

How is Troy gone not have a job? Wasn’t he the sheriff? And didn’t his family own the chateau that that were in and the general store that o’girl went to work at in the first movie?

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
4:11 pm

melo I take a lick and keep on ticking…She doesn’t need to know that. She can barely believe that I changed my report card from an “F” to an “A” on my report card back in the 10th grade. :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
4:11 pm

Why dey got to go and brang down the black man ev’time?
Is he triflin with no job, or is he just down on his luck?

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:12 pm

Oh Slim wants hugs? I want a hug okay now I want a hug from Leggs. Ok now I want a hug from both of you at the same time. Do not let go, my hand just rests there.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:12 pm

Now if he screws up bad, the media will be all over him.

@Carlito??

Im praying Elin shows up. I have a bet with Raqi and the rest of the blog ladies.

Told them a while back that a hubby can always cheat with a heiffer and get the wife to take him back.

Tiger cheated with 14 at last count…….

My bets are in the money Big time!(14xs) :lol: :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
4:13 pm

Read up from Slavery by Booker T…. Tuskegee is my Alma Mater and I have to send that out there because it was required freshman reading and it opened my eyes..

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:13 pm

Knock Knock

Who is it?

Jehovah Witness’

I am not opening the door. :)

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:13 pm

“Troy does not have a job.

Jill gon sit on his butt…She is fit to be tied of men gettin with her and they sorry!

okay i might check it out…

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:14 pm

Why they don’t make no movies where the white woman is having to deal with her white man not having a job? Or hell a black woman dealing with her white man not having a job? Why is it always got to be the black man that has his woman in snafu. He can lay good pipe but he can’t keep a job. GTFOH. There are millions of good BMW. Stop bringing the bros down.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:15 pm

@ SlimShady – I agree with what Melo said about…disclosure frees you. don’t let it weigh you if only a little.

And if you need counseling, get it.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:15 pm

Maybe not Witness’s but they have on the uniform.

Melo, on ESPN they said he wanted her to show up, but she booked a commercial flight home for that weekend. IMO if she decided to stay with him she needs to be at the Master’s or don’t fly back. DO NOT LOSE YOUR POWER TIGER !! :)

Giving Buddha a Shout out with his fat self. LOL

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:15 pm

SexyCool, I don’t know. That’s just what she was telling me. I hope it is not true. Why they always got to go there?

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:16 pm

Mo – I just paid 85 cents for some backed Ruffles…no kettle cooked in the machine this week.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:16 pm

White Man’s Burden is a good movie.

I wont even talk about how Italians as a whole are almost always portrayed in movies or TV.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:17 pm

Is he triflin with no job, or is he just down on his luck?

DreamsMat, it doesn’t matter. People aren’t going to even see it like that. All they are going to see is he ain’t got no job. Period.

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
4:17 pm

@Carlito ~ still sounds like “I’m on a horse…”

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:17 pm

Melo, what bet do you have with me? I haven’t made a bet with you.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:19 pm

@Carlito?/ u a cool dude bro! i like that skit! :lol: :lol:

Knock Knock

Who is it?

Jehovah Witness’

I am not opening the door.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:20 pm

Anyone ever seen White Man’s Burden with John Travolta?

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:20 pm

Why is it always got to be the black man that has his woman in snafu. He can lay good pipe but he can’t keep a job.

As you know…they are conditioning our minds, so when they have the next segment on CNN about “Why good successful black women are single?” they can replay clips from Perry’s hit movie.

stay with me now…

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:20 pm

backed Ruffles

Cemeeli, stay away from those things. The sodium content is horrible. My doctor told me I am better off eating regular chips than I am the baked ones. They have to add more sodium for taste. She said the little fat that is added when they are fried is no where as bad for you as all that sodium.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:21 pm

Melo, I snuck home early, how did they know I would be here?

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:22 pm

they can replay clips from Perry’s hit movie

Girl you are so on point. And you know just writing that mess TP is a sell out. He talk all that crap then turn around and promotes that mess.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:24 pm

@Carlito??

I was on my couch one satruday and they come knocking..they (2 ladies) cld see me thru the door pane…

I did not move! and they took their phat azzes to the next house.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:24 pm

Raqi, have you ever had wheat pringles? They are good and come in different flavors as well.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:24 pm

Thanks Chip Mamma…noted!

I love Ruffles…

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:26 pm

Imma go home and tell my BMW that I thank him, I am proud of him and I love him to pieces.

You all have a good evening.

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
4:26 pm

I have a gf who is a Witness. She is always giving me Watch Tower and Awake magazines when we meet for lunch. I take them from her and throw them away as soon as I walk past a trash can.

Love her though.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:26 pm

Tyler Perry, gay. Keep that dress off.

Melo, they do what they do to meat that quota. They are a persistent bunch, more power to them. :) It has not gotten to the point to me putting the dog on them yet.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:26 pm

have you ever had wheat pringles?

Yes. Very good.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:27 pm

Giving Buddha a Shout out

@Carlito??

shld have said,”give a shout out to the Man above” (creator neutral?)

maybe Dan wld have asked u if u mean God or Allah or sme else??

:lol: :lol:

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:27 pm

@ Lito – I had friend tell me about wheat Pringles. Those chips were my fav in school days…not so much now.

kettle cooked are good.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:28 pm

SexyCool, those Witness’ be peeping thru the window like “we know you are in there. We can hear you breathing.” LOL

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:28 pm

SexyCool, that is new to me. They don’t walk up on farms :)

lurker

March 30th, 2010
4:29 pm

I need a motivational quote. I have a couple but not really doing anything for me. I need for my client meeting next week. Anybody? Anybody?

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:30 pm

Melo, LOL :)

I mean maybe if the Witness had Girl Scout Cookies or some Candy Bars to sell I may open the door. Or maybe if I opened the door naked at attention and say “Where is your God Now?”(from the movie 300) then they would not come back. LOL

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
4:31 pm

I asked her about it. She says that they are required to do a certain number of *field service hours* a month (or year or something.)

Just listening to her talk about it…they actually seem kinda cult-ish to me.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
4:32 pm

Ok so Im so wrong for this but it was a babe that was soooo Smokin I was thinking about converting to Jehovah witness for a sec to get with her.. This was my early to mid 20’s and yes I know it was wrong on so many levels.. I wasnt actually gonna convert just go to a couple meeting and act real serious about it and then work on her in the process… Father forgive me… I used to be a Devil for real..

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
4:33 pm

I wont even talk about how Italians as a whole are almost always portrayed in movies or TV.
Now, Carlito you know talking about negative stereotypes is like preaching to the choir on this blog. lol I agree with you though…Hollywood is pretty one dimensional when it comes to portraying people.

it doesn’t matter. People aren’t going to even see it like that. All they are going to see is he ain’t got no job. Period. Who cares how other people see it? Unemployment is a real issue, for everyone in this economy. There are millions of white women dealing with their white husband out of a job, but TP’s movies aren’t focusing on that audience. Now, if Troy quit his job to try and become a rapper, then I’m with you all the way. lol

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:33 pm

“Where is your God Now?”

:lol:

they piss me off lots of times altho on some days,at the train station, i dont mind grabbing a pamphlet,esp when i dont have my own mag.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:34 pm

Henry Ford: Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right!

Pierre Corneille: To win without risk is to triumph without glory.

James Broughton: The only limits are, as always, those of vision.

George Kneller: To think creatively, we must be able to look afresh at what we normally take for granted.

Peter McWilliams: To the degree we’re not living our dreams; our comfort zone has more control of us than we have over ourselves.

Johann Wolfgang Von Goeth: To think is easy. To act is difficult. To act as one thinks is the most difficult.

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 30th, 2010
4:36 pm

Infamous what an unbelieveable acheivement to start a school working out of the Chicken den! Nice Infamous a Tuskegee grad….Man what a history that is connected to Tuskegee!

@DreamsM…..What about Mr. Booker acquiring the talents of G W. Carver the one of the greatest person of all time to teach at Tuskegee!

@PrincessNIK…..You know I am going to keep at ya……I gotta see this cancer!!!! ummmmhuhhh!!!

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:37 pm

Dreams, if I had a $1.00 for every time someone asked me a mafia question I would be rich. :)

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:40 pm

I really hope that Duke does not win it all.

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
4:40 pm

Other than knocking on my door at early hours, I don’t really have any more theological beef with Jehova’s Witnessess than I do with any other religion.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:40 pm

Infamous – A pass…man, you knnow…

We’ve all done somethin’ outside of “glory” at some point in our life…Trust.

lurker

March 30th, 2010
4:41 pm

nevermind…i see we’re still on smokin babes of the past

Tazzee - 46 days til Mrs.

March 30th, 2010
4:41 pm

Leggs/Raqi – I gladly accept the $5 but what’s it for? I can’t keep up with you guys today.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:41 pm

Steve Smith interned at Morgan Stanley during the off season. That is thinking of life after the NFL.

lurker

March 30th, 2010
4:42 pm

LURKER, what about you? You’re always surmising stuff…say something quotable to me

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:44 pm

My only challenge with them is the Trinity and their view on Jesus, nothing for me to lose sleep over though.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:44 pm

@ Carlito – You get a wrist slap speakin on Duke in those terms!

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:45 pm

Raiders may want McNabb, and PacMan will probably be back.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:45 pm

Steve Smith??

of the Panthers??

I hate that short muffcker??

Football wise!

:lol: :lol:

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:46 pm

Cemeeli, you a Duke fan? They have grit this year, that is all I can say about them. :)

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:46 pm

Melo, yes of the Panthers. Did he destroy your team or something?

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:48 pm

Thoght of the nite!

I hope uall catholics cajole and convince ur men priests to just come back and join us in this pimping full time.

This lie of living a life of no pudsy aint working coz it is to the detriment of our young innocent boys!

Professor

March 30th, 2010
4:49 pm

Amen

Why they don’t make no movies where the white woman is having to deal with her white man not having a job? Or hell a black woman dealing with her white man not having a job? Why is it always got to be the black man that has his woman in snafu. He can lay good pipe but he can’t keep a job. GTFOH. There are millions of good BMW. Stop bringing the bros down.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:49 pm

Carlito??

his ego is taller than his height!

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
4:51 pm

Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.
-William B. Sprague

Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.
-Samuel Johnson

Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
-Albert Einstein

Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.
-Thomas Jefferson

A failure is a man who has blundered, but is not able to cash in on the experience.
-Elbert Hubbard

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:51 pm

@ Lito – My friend’s son is a student there…i must be a blue fan. he say. lol :)

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:52 pm

Melo, WR are primadonna’s LOL

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:54 pm

Lito – I love Rocky movies…hehehehe.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:56 pm

dont forget my info Carl??

i wont call u Lito..is too country! :lol:

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
4:56 pm

Just creeping back in…DK, it’s good you know what you want now. I did have other questions, but it’s too late.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:57 pm

Tazzee - 46 days til Mrs.

March 30th, 2010
4:57 pm

Crybaby Steve Smith?!?! He hasn’t ‘destroyed’ my team in a while, but I can’t stand a crybaby…

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
4:57 pm

My only challenge with them is the Trinity and their view on Jesus, nothing for me to lose sleep over though.
Yeah I question every faith/denomination, but I respect that people do what works for them.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:58 pm

Melo here is mine just in case
giordano.carlito72@gmail.com

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:59 pm

@ Lito – Facepalm? …. :) okay i’ll take that. funny…

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:59 pm

I am a Viking Fan born and raised. Falcons messed up when they went to the Super Bowl. :) Bow down Dirty Birds.

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
5:00 pm

@lurker ~ does this do anything for you?

When trouble and confusion surround you, see the situation as the opportunity that it is. Shine your positive light in the face of negativity, and you will change your world.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
5:00 pm

Cemeeli, that was for our Rocky movies. :)

Melo

March 30th, 2010
5:01 pm

thanx!

good nite!

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
5:01 pm

Or, how about this one.

Even a small beacon in the darkness will shine for a long, long way. Choose to be the difference that makes a real difference, and your efforts will bear abundant fruit.

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
5:04 pm

I shouldn’t laugh, but that knock knock joke was funny.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
5:05 pm

“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” Da Vinci

“Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do.”
Pope John XXIII

and my Favorite:

“I know what I have given you. I do not know what you have received”
Antonio Porchia

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
5:05 pm

Hope all of you have a wonderful evening. Yay, leftovers, I don’t have to cook tonight.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
5:05 pm

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
5:06 pm

See you all next week.

The difference between a champ and a chump is “u”

Melo

March 30th, 2010
5:08 pm

uall talk a lotta non sense in here!

go home!

:lol:

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
5:11 pm

The difference between a champ and a chump is “u”….I likes, I likes.

lurker

March 30th, 2010
5:21 pm

Thanks Dreams…somehow I knew you’d drop a few:)

Thanks Leggs

Thanks Carlito

Nooo thank you Melo…lol

lurker

March 30th, 2010
5:24 pm

I was actually looking for one that I stumbled across one day…very profound…..printed and hung on the wall. When I changed jobs I packed and somehow cannot find. Was trying my luck to see if coincidently someone would have crossed the same. I know 1 in a million chance

lurker

March 30th, 2010
5:25 pm

The difference between a champ and a chump is “u”

Straight to it…don’t think they would appreciate this…I do though