What just happened?
It is so perplexing when men are attracted to you one minute and the next they act all weird and distant. I can understand when someone doesn’t want to pursue things. I get confused when they come on so strong and then start to backpedal. Are women guilty of doing the same thing to men?
I’m usually not the type to come on too strong because I have that cautious nature that puts the brakes on. Even when I feel like I am plunging into the “new man” haze head first, I remain cautiously optimistic until things start to progress. Sometimes there is a shift in attraction. You figure out that the person who once made an impression on you really isn’t that compatible with you after all. What is your next move?
What are ways you can tell you are attracted to someone? Let’s go beyond the obvious, “I want to see them naked” barometer to test how strong your attraction is; how can you determine that your attraction is significant enough to compel you to focus on just them?
How do you handle it when you are attracted to someone unexpectedly? Just because it catches you off guard, does that mean you won’t pursue things?
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Raqi
March 30th, 2010
2:28 pm
Tazzee don’t be acting up with these folks. LOL
And yeah that place looks pretty good. My sister and oldest brother both have kids. And my dad and wife will be there. We all hang out on the beach and have some family fun. It will nice having everyone in one place. I am the only one that still lives here in Georgia. They all live in Detroit and Ohio. I haven’t seen my oldest brother in 5 years.
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
2:28 pm
SexyCool, you don’t like sausage?
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
2:29 pm
SexyCool, I meant to type pork, not “sausage”
Melo
March 30th, 2010
2:29 pm
@Carlito?? chitterlings once in South Carolina
I prefer cow chitlins (insides) instead but they all cooked the same,i think!(well maybe not quite)
delicious food indeed.
we boil them coz they tough.
In fact,u have to cook the tripe seperately from the small inestines(i dont knw what name u give those other than my zulu name for them)… when they all done,u spice them with salt and pepper if u want and add tomatoes and onions in there.. U can cut the intestines and then roll the inestines around small pieces of the cut tripe and then serve them in small bites.
Da Bomb!!
SlimCoo-Coo
March 30th, 2010
2:30 pm
I personally don’t see how folks eat chitterlings or chitlins….just not a taste that I ever acquired.
Cemeeli
March 30th, 2010
2:30 pm
“Are they some African American secret? Why isn’t anyone telling me?”
@ Lito – Go sit in the car. …ain’t no chittlin curcuit in here…
Dig That
March 30th, 2010
2:30 pm
Chitterlings are terrible and bad for you, however chitlins might put you in the game.
SexyCool
March 30th, 2010
2:31 pm
I eat pork. Just not the intestines that housed the pork sht.
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
2:31 pm
Melo, that sounds good. When i was on the farm this past weekend I had a thought about something you said. Did you say that you mixed “dung” in one of your meals? Forgive me if I am wrong.
Raqi
March 30th, 2010
2:31 pm
Infamous, it doesn’t fade it just takes on a different form. And we learn to see the beauty in the person rather than the outward appearance as we grow together.
Dig That
March 30th, 2010
2:33 pm
“I eat pork. Just not the intestines that housed the pork sht.”
Bout da same.
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
2:33 pm
SexyCool, you have such a way with words.
DigThat, I am going to find someone to make me some or find an eatery with them.
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
2:34 pm
I bet the neighbor knows how to make them. LOL
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 30th, 2010
2:34 pm
this is the end of week two with NO VEGGIES.
WOOOHOOO for you lito
I think they are the one of the most vile, disgusting things you could ever put in your mouth.
Ditto on that. I’ve never eaten those things..can’t get pass the smell…t’aint right,t’aint natural.
Tazzee - 46 days til Mrs.
March 30th, 2010
2:34 pm
Cemeeli – OK, now I’m in tears “ain’t no chittlin circuit in here”
Raqi
March 30th, 2010
2:35 pm
Melo, that is disgusting. You are making me sick.
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
2:35 pm
Do you ladies who don’t eat them wipe your man down before you give him oral? Not comparing the two but just wondering. LOL Yes it is about that time.
SexyCool
March 30th, 2010
2:35 pm
Rock – I agree that I am typically attracted to a tall, thin man. TheDude is barely an inch taller than me and is a chunky fella. But I wouldn’t trade him for nothing. (At least not most days.)
Cemeeli
March 30th, 2010
2:37 pm
Enrico – How do we make reeeeaaaal bowtie pasta? I havn’t had the real pasta in years.
Melo
March 30th, 2010
2:37 pm
Did you say that you mixed “dung” in one of your meals?
@CARLITO..
u can get them at the Buford hwy frmers mrkt or chamblee frmers mrket coz most south americans trans go there and eat them…dekalb frmers,not so much but u can get the tripe not the intestines.
the dung stuff..thats the uninitiated here are calling foul but if u eat cow or chicken etc at some point,u gon smehow mix with the dung etc..
the cow chitlins,if u prep them urself,they will have a lil dung smell….i actually luv it,not loathe it. Much like goat meat..very distinctive coz goat urine is distincitve.
I wld prefer kill my own cow,skin it and cut it up than get it for the store….
There is a farm off exit 88/89 on I-20 in conyers…u can get live sheep,cow or goat,have them skin it and u carry ur meat fresh.
Try it!
I luv it…
SexyCool
March 30th, 2010
2:38 pm
Oddly enough, Carlito, I *knew* someone was going to bring up that point.
Still – I prefer to not have formally (and possibly still) shtty intestines on my plate. There are way too many other edible parts of the pig.
Raqi
March 30th, 2010
2:39 pm
Yeah SexyCool once they got your heart all that other stuff is secondary.
Luvbug
March 30th, 2010
2:41 pm
CaRliTo?? Chitlins?
hmmmm…I’ll file that with nizzle.
JtJ
March 30th, 2010
2:41 pm
Afternoon all, Okay Cee, you made me choke on my water laughing!!
I am so looking forward to this weekend, I been feigning for some BBQ!! and a couple of burnt hot dogs!!
Cemeeli
March 30th, 2010
2:41 pm
@ Tazzee – Just sayin’. The chittlin curcuit is not for err’body.
lol…Hey maam. “Mrs” wow!…last year this time…what a difference a year makes.
SexyCool
March 30th, 2010
2:41 pm
I’m just glad I gave him a chance to get to my heart. I certainly didn’t see it coming. It was so *unpredictable.*
Raqi
March 30th, 2010
2:41 pm
I mean for real. How are relating what fits in the woman canal to something that holds crap? Carlito does your woman crap from her vajayjay? Or do you pack fudge?
Melo
March 30th, 2010
2:42 pm
Melo, that is disgusting. You are making me sick.
@Raqi??
just as well u married to an american.
If u had been married to me, I wld take u home to mom and dad and the whole clan,my fam wld be happy that u joining the fam and they wld slaughter a cow in ur honor,the new bride, and then they will give u,the new bride, to cook all the meat for the in-laws and ur hubby and we all sit tgether at the tabkle for dinner,sampling on ur cooking skills…..
Chitlins included!!
Dig That
March 30th, 2010
2:43 pm
@Carlito
This is the south. You can find giant booty and a bucket of chitlins anywhere, however the beautiful part is you can combine the 2 and get a big booty girl to cook you some chitlins. I recommend the 2nd option.
Cemeeli
March 30th, 2010
2:45 pm
JtJ – You and Tazzee gotta take turns “glowin” up the Blog Lounge, now! I can only take one of ya’ll at a time.
coming in here with stories about licking tattoos, and FSU garter belts.
chill out with that…Cee can only live vicariously a lil bit at a time.
JtJ
March 30th, 2010
2:46 pm
@ Dig That…I dare you to make a sentence using “chittlins” and big booty”….lol….Amazing!!!
JtJ
March 30th, 2010
2:49 pm
@ Cee…Tazzee’s glow is a little brighter, she only got about 2 months to go.
We got tickets for the ATL summer jam and suprisingly, that concert is on the same day he proposed at the Kindred concert!
@Ared– We did get the $10.75 tickets, they were not on the lawn, they were the last section before the lawn. I wanted the lawn seats because you can stretch out and not be all stiff in those stadium style seats. Nonetheless, we will be there!!!
Cemeeli
March 30th, 2010
2:49 pm
@ JtJ – He stupid with that…of course there’s another level to the chitlin dialogue.
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
2:50 pm
Cemeeli, Farfalle from scratch. Americans call it bowtie. LOL
It is quite easy, just make you some pasta dough, lay it out, make sure it is about 1.5 inches deep. then take a ravioli cutter and cut some 2 inch wide rectangles…then you take those rectangle and pinch them in the middle with a finger in the middle to give it its shape. Have some water boiling with a almost a full handful of salt in it. Throw in the pasta and when it rises to the top a minute later drain it and smother in sauce.
SexyCool
March 30th, 2010
2:51 pm
JtJ – I could trade ya if ya REALLY wanna be on the lawn. However, who says you can’t sit on the lawn anyways?
Raqi
March 30th, 2010
2:51 pm
Melo, you owe me $9.73 for my lunch. You are disgusting. Imma skip over your posts for the rest of the day.
Dan
March 30th, 2010
2:52 pm
@SC
Good for you – I’m happy for you
Professor
March 30th, 2010
2:52 pm
I see Carlito is comfortable now he is on here literally asking about all kinds of ish
Hola!
LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)
March 30th, 2010
2:53 pm
@Carlito……Now here are the women that have big-southern bootyas……
Cemeeli……. Very Taken…….:wink:
Kinderbabe…….Extremely taken…..
I am……….Kinda crazy but single!
Lady-J……Single but you will have to text her to have her cook the chittlins!
PrincessNik…..Now this one for me!!! Me likey NIK
Those are your big bootay cooking MIA blog women! YEAHHHHHHH
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
2:54 pm
Luvbug, what did I do now? I just want to eat some.
Raqi, I am no fudge packer. But you saw where I was going with my dialogue. Smarty
Cemeeli
March 30th, 2010
2:54 pm
Faralle, Yes that’s it! If i can get my Americanized bowtie pasta and remember.
It is such a romantic food/meal…with some good cheeses mixed with other ingredients.
Ima keep learning how to cook all types of food if i can…cause when he say “baby, i want some wings…or steak, shrimp, fish, pasta…whatever!”…by the time he take that second breath i’ll be in the kitchen ministering to that thing!!!
Raqi
March 30th, 2010
2:55 pm
1.5 inches deep????
Carlito, aren’t those dumplings. When I make pasta I roll it out very thin. About as thick as a few sheets of paper thick. When you cook the pasta it swells so it needs to start out pretty thin. But that’s just me. That’s how I make my ravioli pasta.
Melo
March 30th, 2010
2:56 pm
@Funny u say that coz my buddy from home is married to an american chic and she luvs, i mean luvs them when they cook them…cow feet too…
how pple are different..
I swear to not have ever eaten shrimp and that gecko crab stuff Red lobster is know for…. no apetite. 15 yrs,neva tried!
we all diffrent fo sho!
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
2:56 pm
Professor, hello
on here I can not get the crazy look I get when I ask in person 
Lurker, do you think I Am can cook? A woman with no panties cooking me chitterlings does not sit well with me for some reason.
THE INFAMOUS DK
March 30th, 2010
2:56 pm
ARED – Believe it or not someone with a similar background as yours helps. When I say evenly yoked its the truth because if not you are trying to pull one way and they are trying to go another.. The background comes into play because I was raised in a traditional southern family even though we did live in LA. Your Cali roots are different than my southern roots and it shows in certain situations. I guess with me being quite honest.. My next babe will come from a two parent household, thats just a requirement I gotta have because I need her to at least have seen a man in the home to have some kinda understanding. Or if she didnt come from a two parent household she gotta have some SowF in her.. So at least I know her mama put that southern lady in her whether she wanted or not.. She can atleast make sweet tea..
Tazzee - 46 days til Mrs.
March 30th, 2010
2:57 pm
I’m just glad I gave him a chance to get to my heart. I certainly didn’t see it coming. It was so *unpredictable.*
Same here.
Luvbug
March 30th, 2010
2:57 pm
Carlito – Nothing. Be you all day, everyday. I’m just paying attention is all.
JtJ
March 30th, 2010
2:58 pm
@ SexyCool- Verizon says!!!lol. I read on their website that you will not be allowed in the lawn section unless your ticket says “lawn”. My boo thought the same thing and was going to bogard his way onto the lawn area.
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
2:59 pm
Raqi, that is the traditional way to make it. If you want it smaller it is called Farfalline and you can cover it in sauce as well or put it in soups.
Raqi
March 30th, 2010
2:59 pm
Believe it or not someone with a similar background as yours helps.
Infamous, I have said that several times on here. Having the same or very similar beginnings makes a world of difference when it comes to finding suitable mates.