What just happened?
It is so perplexing when men are attracted to you one minute and the next they act all weird and distant. I can understand when someone doesn’t want to pursue things. I get confused when they come on so strong and then start to backpedal. Are women guilty of doing the same thing to men?
I’m usually not the type to come on too strong because I have that cautious nature that puts the brakes on. Even when I feel like I am plunging into the “new man” haze head first, I remain cautiously optimistic until things start to progress. Sometimes there is a shift in attraction. You figure out that the person who once made an impression on you really isn’t that compatible with you after all. What is your next move?
What are ways you can tell you are attracted to someone? Let’s go beyond the obvious, “I want to see them naked” barometer to test how strong your attraction is; how can you determine that your attraction is significant enough to compel you to focus on just them?
How do you handle it when you are attracted to someone unexpectedly? Just because it catches you off guard, does that mean you won’t pursue things?
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AmazonRed™
March 30th, 2010
1:11 pm
Kuunta mounts Unfoofoo in the hay as they are discovered by massas wife and the frolicking skyrockets to level 3000.. Massa finds out and ties wife to the bed and whips her
Yeah and in the end I get to chop of his foot…
Melo
March 30th, 2010
1:11 pm
WD asked me to let u know that freaky friday is Thursday this week and not friday,as is the norm coz of the Good friday chrisrtian holiday.
This is the south member??
The Thumbers belt!
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
1:12 pm
Infamous, when I tell you Julia is a spitting image of Nicole. She is a spitting image of Nicole
THE INFAMOUS DK
March 30th, 2010
1:12 pm
Sassy – Yep I get the wolf in the cartoon look and all..
Dreams – Yeah but see I do the incense scene also.. My loving knows no bounds. My version of the natural chick would be Amel Larrieux. Or Goapele.. Dude you know me I dont discriminate now… Honestly Im scared of Eryka.. She might have me round here with wigs and tiger striped pants on, cause i know she got the SC the way dudes be switching up when theyre with her.
Luvbug
March 30th, 2010
1:13 pm
wigs and tiger striped pants
Yall a mess
SlimCoo-Coo
March 30th, 2010
1:16 pm
Wonder what happened tween Badu and Common?
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
1:17 pm
I just did a search for “slavery porn” Roots style, and I discovered some Jewish Porn. Everyone is extra hairy, women included.
THE INFAMOUS DK
March 30th, 2010
1:19 pm
Carlito – Well I see why you put up with a lil extra.. But for every fine babe out there… There is a dude trying to get rid of her..
My Ex Wife had a Serena Williams body with a Chilli Face and hair.. It was a big deal to shake such a beautiful babe.. Stomach muscles and all.. One of them ole Detroit fine in all the right places babe.. However I know the beast behind that beauty..
Tazzee - 46 days til Mrs.
March 30th, 2010
1:20 pm
Afternoon Folks!
I’ve had plenty of guys do the disappearing act on me. After a while I stopped wondering…
SCool – you had me dying over here with the sticky spit.
Idris Elba – ahhh, can’t wait for that movie Takers to come out. I mean what’s taking so long. Went to see Our Family Wedding this past weekend and saw the previews for the two movies with Common. The first one (with Steve Carrell and Tina Fey), I said ‘Oooh it’s Common!’ – then when the second preview came on, I was like ‘Common again!!’ – then I looked over at my boo – he just shook his head.
Melo
March 30th, 2010
1:20 pm
Badu and Common?
@SlimCoo
Common moved on to Serena..where are they now??
Does India Arie have a man?
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 30th, 2010
1:21 pm
Everyone is extra hairy, women included.
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
1:21 pm
Infamous, your ex-wife sounds hot( I love stomach muscles). My current lady only gets on my edges about, well we just got back together. But she used to about once every three months. So once a quarter is not to bad for a blow up.
Melo
March 30th, 2010
1:24 pm
DK??
u aint being fair to urself with that 1.19 pm?
Cemeeli
March 30th, 2010
1:24 pm
Common made comment to Erykah on something TV One…cain’t remember know.
lunch was Planet Smoothie good!
AmazonRed™
March 30th, 2010
1:25 pm
Does India Arie have a man?
She used to be with the artist Musiq Soulchild, but she stated that she’ll never speak publically about a relationship with a man unless he is her husband.
Can’t say I blame her!
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
1:28 pm
I saw Common and Serena at a Zach Galifianakis (Alan from “The Hangover”) comedy show. They were pretty cool with him ripping into them since they were the only black people there
Melo
March 30th, 2010
1:29 pm
she’ll never speak publically about a relationship with a man unless he is her husband.
@Ared??
she got some good old fam values.
thats how it used to be……..
Now we have boyfrnd-grlfriend sex tapes! then…….
they all move on
THE INFAMOUS DK
March 30th, 2010
1:30 pm
Carlito – She’s hot… I will not lie about that. I cant even front. Heck her whole crew is bad but outta 10 of them 8 got serious issues..
Dig That
March 30th, 2010
1:30 pm
I can’t believe these people actually had me doing some work today. Grrrr
Dan
March 30th, 2010
1:32 pm
Galifianikis is a Kappa – he gets a pass
THE INFAMOUS DK
March 30th, 2010
1:33 pm
Melo – I cant even say she aint a bad chick.. She’s just not the bad chick for me.. I still think she’s pretty on the outside, it was her insides that I had a problem with..
Cemeeli
March 30th, 2010
1:34 pm
@ Dig – I heard you keep rewinding Erykah’s video. Work?
DreamsMaterialize
March 30th, 2010
1:35 pm
DK I feel you. I like variety. Light up the nag champa or hit the gala. Too much of either scene can get on my nerves though. Oh, and Amel is tight, been on that since Groove Theory days. lol Don’t be scared of Eryhah man. We won’t laugh at you for sportin some Andre 3000 football shoulder pads and a turbin. Ok we WILL laugh, but don’t worry bout us.
AmazonRed™
March 30th, 2010
1:35 pm
Galifianikis is a Kappa – he gets a pass
Dan – Are you a Kappa or something?
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
1:35 pm
Dan, it was funny. I do not see how a white couple would go to a black comics show. They get raged on bad. Those are the times that I am glad I can pass for either.
Melo
March 30th, 2010
1:35 pm
I feel sorry for uall men not married yet……
Elijah marries his suposed sweetie..lets say Lurker1…and then
Elijah googles Lurker1 one day and u sees :
lurker1 sex tape with carlito
luker1 sex tape with DK
lurker1 sex tape with Dan
lurker1 sex tapes(2) with Melo
and u Elijah has no sex tape with lurker1,ur wife!
THE INFAMOUS DK
March 30th, 2010
1:37 pm
Melo – Its a problem Ive always had.. I like the uber hot babes and most times I got at them for the wrong reasons.. Thats why Ive changed my dating approach when it comes to babes.. Instead of focusing on how they look focus on their spirit and find out more about how they were raised to see if their background coincides with mine. Cause afterall you have to be evenly yoked..
Cemeeli
March 30th, 2010
1:39 pm
…okay so, lemme get this straight.
Do men like their woman with a tight body, or a woman with good old fashion values?
Dan
March 30th, 2010
1:41 pm
@Red
I am not.
Melo
March 30th, 2010
1:41 pm
DK??
u need to stop talking about ur ex like that.
Get it off ur head and just retain the good fact that shes the mother of ur beloved son.Give her the credit that she didnt abort or bring him any harm
Then u be good.
DreamsMaterialize
March 30th, 2010
1:42 pm
Do men like their woman with a tight body, or a woman with good old fashion values?
Do we have to choose one? lol
AmazonRed™
March 30th, 2010
1:43 pm
focus on their spirit and find out more about how they were raised to see if their background coincides with mine.
DK – And what kind of background would that be?
lurker
March 30th, 2010
1:43 pm
Okay, wasn’t gonna past today but I got ask this (rhetorically of course), why are you digging or giving a pass to a kappa and you ain’t even one. Surely it’s not because you’re “into” him.
Melo
March 30th, 2010
1:43 pm
with a tight body, or a woman with good old fashion values?
@Cee??
how u comparing the physical (tight body) to values(intagibles)??
lurker
March 30th, 2010
1:44 pm
“was” gonna pass today…is how that should have read
Cemeeli
March 30th, 2010
1:45 pm
@ Dreams – you cain’t have it all now! Lol
LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!
March 30th, 2010
1:45 pm
Melo… nothing wrong with a sex tape between husband and wife.
However, upon divorced I found all of ours and smashed them to smitherines then burnt them in the BBQ pit. When he found out he looked like he wanted to cry (boohoo!).
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
1:46 pm
Cemeeli, mine has both. They are out there, persevere.
Dan
March 30th, 2010
1:47 pm
lurker
1) I think (don’t know for sure) Common is a Kappa;
2) Really? with the sophomoric gay taunt – do better.
Cemeeli
March 30th, 2010
1:47 pm
@ Melo – I’m not comparing jack. No see, that ’s what i’m reading from here.
just askin’
@ Corrections – Make me laugh!
Melo
March 30th, 2010
1:48 pm
@LL411… Smiling On The Inside Too!
( of ours and smashed them to smitherines then burnt them in the BBQ pit.)
I take that to mean the divorce was initiated by ur ex??
Cemeeli
March 30th, 2010
1:49 pm
@ Lito – If she’s what considered “tight” to you…then cool.
lurker
March 30th, 2010
1:49 pm
Dan – Sophomoric, senioric…whatever i read what was written…gay tones = gay read
LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!
March 30th, 2010
1:50 pm
Ladies… Question
Would any of you make a sex tape with your current (not husband)? If so, how long into the relationship would you feel comfortable in doing so?
lurker
March 30th, 2010
1:50 pm
Man, I ain’t got no beef with you, admire whomever you wish
Melo
March 30th, 2010
1:50 pm
@ Melo – I’m not comparing jack.
@Cee?
I want a woman with both.
does a tight body make a woman perverse or debase her values??
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
1:52 pm
Cemeeli, true!
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
1:52 pm
SUPERSTAR!!!
Melo
March 30th, 2010
1:53 pm
Would any of you make a sex tape with your current (not husband)?
@LL411…
most men will say “whatever!”
Carlito
March 30th, 2010
1:53 pm
We don’t have any nudey pics or videos, but we do webcam.