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What just happened?

It is so perplexing when men are attracted to you one minute and the next they act all weird and distant.  I can understand when someone doesn’t want to pursue things. I get confused when they come on so strong and then start to backpedal.  Are women guilty of doing the same thing to men?

I’m usually not the type to come on too strong because I have that cautious nature that puts the brakes on.  Even when I feel like I am plunging into the “new man” haze head first, I remain cautiously optimistic until things start to progress.  Sometimes there is a shift in attraction.  You figure out that the person who once made an impression on you really isn’t that compatible with you after all. What is your next move?

What are ways you  can tell you are attracted to someone?  Let’s go beyond the obvious, “I want to see them naked” barometer to test how strong your attraction is; how can you determine that your attraction is significant enough to compel you to focus on just them?

How do you handle it when you are attracted to someone unexpectedly?  Just because it catches you off guard, does that mean you won’t pursue things?

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THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
12:16 pm

Slim – Well I can cook also.. A regular renaissance man.. Ummm well if you cant cook in the kitchen..

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
12:17 pm

No, Dreams. He’s not, but neither is Badu.
Badu is all good with me. Wouldn’t bother me one bit if she were the standard.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:18 pm

A woman will always find a way to piss you off, start an argument and then try and flip it like they are the innocent one. I am kind of glad we are not seeing each other this weekend.

Carlito – Didn’t you tell her about this blog? Be careful now.

Tell sis what happened. :) I was gonna ask if y’all were gonna see each other every weekend. Gets expensive.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
12:18 pm

Badu, is nice to me as well, no need to call Tyrone.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:19 pm

Ummm well if you cant cook in the kitchen..

:shock:

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
12:20 pm

DK – I’m a Gemini and we love to learn…. :-D Being taught new things is 100% turn on. The best way to my heart or CT is through by giving me some brain….oops meant to say through my brain :mrgreen:

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
12:22 pm

Never said she wasn’t. She’s just not the standard that I measure myself up to. I set my own standards.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
12:26 pm

Dreams – I like a lil more class with my a$$.. Badu could get it but im sure I would get tired of musk oil and incense all the time..

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:27 pm

Badu could get it but im sure I would get tired of musk oil and incense all the time.

:lol: :lol: :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
12:28 pm

Didn’t say you measured yourself to anyone’s standards. Saw people being asked if they compared to specific names, so I asked if that was considered the standard.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
12:28 pm

would get tired of musk oil and incense all the time..

:lol: :lol:
@DK

she on the spiritual tip??

Melo

March 30th, 2010
12:30 pm

Cee..u a resident of Atlanta proper??

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
12:31 pm

DK – I used to burn incense a lot back in the day and I even got tired of it myself. Walking around smelling like Lil’ 5 Points Shops lol

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
12:31 pm

Give me a Kelly or Nia anyday.. Hey Gabrielle Union and Halle and Ol Regina from Steve Harvey show… Its soo many I like.. I can only name a few… Give me a chick that moves like good sex and Im on her.

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
12:31 pm

And I didn’t say that Elba was the standard.

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 30th, 2010
12:35 pm

@Slimone………Brain food at your service…….I do it all except change the oil….I’ll pay for that!!!! Can I get the CT with the froggiestyle to go please!!!!!!!!!!! :smile:

@Carlito………Yea man, woman are something we let them alone when it is that time of the month!

@Badu………I can do musk oil and incense for at least 3 months!!!!

Random Thoughts……………. YEAHHHHHHHH!!!!

Is WisaDiva…..A dating Junkie? :wink:

Melo

March 30th, 2010
12:37 pm

DreamsM??

just drop it!

U know i actually like all these females on the blog booteys better than i like that Badu slackapplacka(well,those who i know)..at least theirs is within reach anyway. :lol:

My ladies,even when they rocking smething better,just dont like the feeling of being compared to another woman,unlike us men,who dont care.

It was just a rhetorical jest qstion….k…

I like urs booteys better ladies..believe that! :lol:

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
12:37 pm

Had to laugh at :arrow: woman are something we let them alone when it is that time of the month!

Not all men!

kinderbabe--35 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 30th, 2010
12:37 pm

not musk and incense…lol. now that’s funny!

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
12:39 pm

I dig the, Alyssa Milano, Gwen Stefani, Drea de Matteo types. I always pause if I see a picture of them

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:41 pm

i actually like all these females on the blog booteys better than i like that Badu slackapplacka(well,those who i know)..at least theirs is within reach anyway.

Keep hope alive, melo. :lol:

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
12:41 pm

LURKER, I forgot about that. Good save :)

Elijah

March 30th, 2010
12:42 pm

A great afternoon to everyone!

Hey sometimes after a few dates you know it’s not going to work. Just be upfront and say I am not feeeling a LTR with you and be gone!

Tax season and March Madness has a brother all tied up!

Hola Professor how is Mr. valentine treating you?
Hello Ms. Sassy :wink:

Melo

March 30th, 2010
12:43 pm

Keep hope alive, melo

@Ared!!

for me it aint even hope..hope is too distant.

Its choice!

Poppa Grande

March 30th, 2010
12:43 pm

Waxing on and long strokes..wow…It is “Tap Dat Azz Tuesday”…hunh?

Well, on topic, everyone (male and female) are flaky. I know that during my dating days a female talked her way into that kind of treatment. She usually said something that made me reconsider. I wouldn’t bring it up to her because what may be a dealbreaker to me may not mean much to another dude. No need to waste either of our time.

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
12:44 pm

im sure I would get tired of musk oil and incense all the time
Me too, but I can also say that for perms, makeup, Chanel No. 5, over-the-knee boots, and Christian Dior sunglasses.

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
12:45 pm

Melo – you’re just a nutcase. Some days, you make me laugh. Other times, I just shake my head. Then, there are the times, when I want to put a knot on your head. Every now and again, I think you should be banned. Sometimes, I’m shocked, speechless and disgusted all at the same time.

Hell, I don’t know what to do with you.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
12:46 pm

Dayum DREAMS..you just cut your female population down by sevemty percent (and yeah I said sevemty…lol) :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
12:46 pm

Carlito – I didnt even get to the Transformer Fox Chick, Gabrielle, Nicole Sherzinger, or Eva Mendez and nem..

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:46 pm

but I can also say that for perms,

:shock:

Dan

March 30th, 2010
12:49 pm

@Dreams

I can’t help but see money in all that you mention – then I think about the bankruptcy rates in Metro Atlanta alone and get nervous.

But yeah, Ms. Badu is quite nice; but she’en got nothing on AKeys

Melo

March 30th, 2010
12:49 pm

(since its boring in here)

My woman wants us to make a sex tape..what uall think??

:lol: :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:51 pm

Thank you AJC for posting the daily pollen count.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:52 pm

melo – She’s your wife and it seems like y’all are never gonna get divorced. I say go for it. I didn’t know she was spicy like that. Or maybe she’s just bored. :lol:

Once I’m content in married life, we’re gonna do a whole role play mini-series! Like Roots!!! :lol:

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
12:54 pm

Dan – as long as you are not buying all that – I know you’re not – why would you get nervous?

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
12:55 pm

Melo – as long as I never have to have my eyes scorched by it – I say go for it.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
12:56 pm

as long as I never have to have my eyes scorched by it

Damn. :lol:

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
12:56 pm

“Once I’m content in married life, we’re gonna do a whole role play mini-series! Like Roots!!!”

Ared – ^5 ^5 ^5 When I think about keeping it spicy I say the sky’s the limit. I have ideas that I would like to try out in a marriage but don’t want to water it down by doing it with just folks I date. Gotta leave something for ‘forever after’.

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
12:56 pm

And I didn’t say that Elba was the standard.
I wouldn’t have asked a question about standards if you had.

My ladies,even when they rocking smething better,just dont like the feeling of being compared to another woman
I didn’t compare anyone, you did. lol

Dan

March 30th, 2010
12:57 pm

@SC

It’s a wierd little thing with me as far as decision making. Yes, it’s shallow; I have been uninformed in my opinion more than once. But still.

Like a chick or a dude with a tattoo on their neck

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
12:59 pm

Cant forget about Ms. Keri Baby.. and its something bout ol ghetto azz Keyshia Cole.. and the way Rhianna acting in that Rude boy video…. Im just saying.. Im a sucker for a ole winding chick..

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
1:00 pm

I have ideas that I would like to try out in a marriage but don’t want to water it down by doing it with just folks I date. Gotta leave something for ‘forever after’.

Slim – Exactly.

I hosted the girls this weekend and I broke the pole out and we all went crazy on it. Then I did a lil mini show. The mister is wondering when he’ll get his show. He’s gotta put in on this man! :lol:

Melo

March 30th, 2010
1:00 pm

thank uall…u so kind! :lol:

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
1:02 pm

Dreams – Melo started that mess. I was just responding to him.

Why I got to fight every night to prove my love?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
1:03 pm

Hey Eli ;) You been hiding from me?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
1:03 pm

Im a sucker for a ole winding chick..

Really now?…..

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
1:04 pm

you just cut your female population down by sevemty percent
Slim Naw I’m not saying I eliminate people with those characteristics. DK said he might get tired of certain things “all the time”. I was just saying I could get tired of those other things “all the time” too, especially since they’re more the norm than Badu’s style.

I can’t help but see money in all that you mention
Dan I wasn’t trying to put an emphasis on money, but rather on things that are way more common than incense. I see your point too though. Lot’s of the people with those material things are a check away from the streets.

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
1:04 pm

No surprise there. :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
1:04 pm

Like Roots!!! Well d@mn.. I could see it now.. Thats actually a good one.. Gonna file that one away. Wonder why no one has ever done a Roots Porn series.. Kuunta mounts Unfoofoo in the hay as they are discovered by massas wife and the frolicking skyrockets to level 3000.. Massa finds out and ties wife to the bed and whips her..

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
1:09 pm

Wonder why no one has ever done a Roots Porn series.. Kuunta mounts Unfoofoo in the hay as they are discovered by massas wife and the frolicking skyrockets to level 3000.. Massa finds out and ties wife to the bed and whips her..

That’s why DK…That’s a frightening image…my teeth are chattering over here…got the hebegebees and everything.