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What just happened?

It is so perplexing when men are attracted to you one minute and the next they act all weird and distant.  I can understand when someone doesn’t want to pursue things. I get confused when they come on so strong and then start to backpedal.  Are women guilty of doing the same thing to men?

I’m usually not the type to come on too strong because I have that cautious nature that puts the brakes on.  Even when I feel like I am plunging into the “new man” haze head first, I remain cautiously optimistic until things start to progress.  Sometimes there is a shift in attraction.  You figure out that the person who once made an impression on you really isn’t that compatible with you after all. What is your next move?

What are ways you  can tell you are attracted to someone?  Let’s go beyond the obvious, “I want to see them naked” barometer to test how strong your attraction is; how can you determine that your attraction is significant enough to compel you to focus on just them?

How do you handle it when you are attracted to someone unexpectedly?  Just because it catches you off guard, does that mean you won’t pursue things?

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Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
3:57 pm

A half for $50, just say NO. NO NO NO NO

:shock: Don’t do it lito!!

that ain’t a bad price,though :oops:

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:58 pm

Raqi – That is not why! Stop playin now…

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
3:58 pm

Carlito – why you ask if I was okay? I’m chillin like a villain waiting for 5 O’clock!!! Yep was molested as a youngin and raped as a teen…

Melo

March 30th, 2010
3:58 pm

@Carlito??

I wonder how the tv cameramen gon to angle their shots and how the crowd’s gona react when they are around Tiger,readying to putt for a birdie or to tee off and the crowd does the usual chant,”In the hole!”

Hws Tiger gon to take it??

Masters is gon be a spectacle! Cant wait.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:00 pm

Sassy, it is a great price. I am not going to the ATM machine nor am I taking it on credit.

Lurker, “panty juice”.

How did those panty juice talks go over? LOL I need to make a woman’s panty line.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:00 pm

Cemeeli, I want to see Why Did I Get Married Too. I don’t like TP’s movies but A Family That Preys and Why Did I Get Married were pretty good.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:00 pm

Yep was molested as a youngin and raped as a teen…

@Slim..
first time hearing that..u sound aaight to me..

do u think about it often,does it affect u one way or the other,esp in dating??

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
4:00 pm

@Slim

That is a hard call sometimes. I have seen it from both sides of the spectrum. It is nothing to take lightly, and some men can’t handle that for a number of reasons. But as long as you are ok, then that is all that matters. I’m sorry you had to go thru it, and if YOU ever think is affecting you negatively then please seek counseling or talk about it. You should not have to suffer for something that is not your fault

AmazonRed™

March 30th, 2010
4:01 pm

Okay, wasn’t gonna past today but I got ask this (rhetorically of course), why are you digging or giving a pass to a kappa and you ain’t even one.

lurker – That was the point of my question too. I wish a non-Delta would do the same. :lol:

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:01 pm

kimmie – The school band is having a Fish Fry at the year end trip meeting tonight. would of thought?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
4:01 pm

I am not going to the ATM machine nor am I taking it on credit.

Be skrong my brutha…

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:02 pm

Melo, I figure Tiger is a warrior so he will be fine. I think the crowd will love him and support him as most are just saying his personal life is not their business. Now if he screws up bad, the media will be all over him.

SlimOne, you can still water my lawn. :)

Mo (aka Moeisha - much better now)

March 30th, 2010
4:02 pm

Cemeeli – nah chica, but Im munchin on some salt’n'pepper chips….have some

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
4:02 pm

Melo – nope don’t think about it too much at all…only when it’s Gyno-papsmear time…(must have a female doctor) Other than that I think i’m good. Everyone deals with things in their own way. Not going to play victim for the rest of my life…just has no purpose nor accomplishes anything

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
4:02 pm

LURKER Those are good reads. When Booker T. said he and the students built a kiln to make the bricks to build Tuskeegee because they couldn’t afford to buy them, I was like “wow, they don’t make that kind of determination anymore”.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:03 pm

@Raqi – I’m off for the holiday Friday. My co-worker asked if we can meet up and view that TP movie.

Maybe.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:04 pm

SlimOne, you are awesome.

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
4:08 pm

Ummmm, memory fuzzy! Yeah, been there, done that and quickly ended the evening by sending him home!

I want to see Lovely Bones!

@Raqi ~ I’m sorry, you must have been talking in my bad ear.

@Tazzee ~ it’s your lucky day…here’s $5.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
4:08 pm

Carlito – I’ll take that compliment this time, but i’m just me…I learned early humor goes a long way. Hence my Krazy Ass Self…Coo COO COOO COOOOOOO (Slim now on rooftop smoking kush & dranking a flask of YAK) :-D

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:08 pm

SlimCoo-Coo??

if i were u, i wld tell ur mom and seek counseling.

Il tell u why….

coz ur mom dont know,it still remains a secret in u and secrets weigh u down..disclusre frees u….

u have asked the same qstion u asked today,in the past……shows its still on ur mind,one way or the other….I neva put 2 and 2 tgether tho…

so counselling cld help rather than dealing with it on ur own…..

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:08 pm

Cemeeli, one of my bff said she noted from the preview that Troy does not have a job. Now I am thinking why dey do dat? He was the good guy in the previous movie. He stepped in and made the life of a beautiful woman bright. Now she dealing with he ain’t got no job. WTH is dat all about? Why dey got to go and brang down the black man ev’time?

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:09 pm

Slim, just be you. I am on a horse………

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
4:10 pm

@SlimCoo-Coo for Cocco Puffs, you’re strong and definitely have the right “constitution,” but here’s a {{{{hug}}}} for you anyway!!!

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
4:11 pm

How is Troy gone not have a job? Wasn’t he the sheriff? And didn’t his family own the chateau that that were in and the general store that o’girl went to work at in the first movie?

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
4:11 pm

melo I take a lick and keep on ticking…She doesn’t need to know that. She can barely believe that I changed my report card from an “F” to an “A” on my report card back in the 10th grade. :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
4:11 pm

Why dey got to go and brang down the black man ev’time?
Is he triflin with no job, or is he just down on his luck?

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:12 pm

Oh Slim wants hugs? I want a hug okay now I want a hug from Leggs. Ok now I want a hug from both of you at the same time. Do not let go, my hand just rests there.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:12 pm

Now if he screws up bad, the media will be all over him.

@Carlito??

Im praying Elin shows up. I have a bet with Raqi and the rest of the blog ladies.

Told them a while back that a hubby can always cheat with a heiffer and get the wife to take him back.

Tiger cheated with 14 at last count…….

My bets are in the money Big time!(14xs) :lol: :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
4:13 pm

Read up from Slavery by Booker T…. Tuskegee is my Alma Mater and I have to send that out there because it was required freshman reading and it opened my eyes..

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:13 pm

Knock Knock

Who is it?

Jehovah Witness’

I am not opening the door. :)

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:13 pm

“Troy does not have a job.

Jill gon sit on his butt…She is fit to be tied of men gettin with her and they sorry!

okay i might check it out…

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:14 pm

Why they don’t make no movies where the white woman is having to deal with her white man not having a job? Or hell a black woman dealing with her white man not having a job? Why is it always got to be the black man that has his woman in snafu. He can lay good pipe but he can’t keep a job. GTFOH. There are millions of good BMW. Stop bringing the bros down.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:15 pm

@ SlimShady – I agree with what Melo said about…disclosure frees you. don’t let it weigh you if only a little.

And if you need counseling, get it.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:15 pm

Maybe not Witness’s but they have on the uniform.

Melo, on ESPN they said he wanted her to show up, but she booked a commercial flight home for that weekend. IMO if she decided to stay with him she needs to be at the Master’s or don’t fly back. DO NOT LOSE YOUR POWER TIGER !! :)

Giving Buddha a Shout out with his fat self. LOL

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:15 pm

SexyCool, I don’t know. That’s just what she was telling me. I hope it is not true. Why they always got to go there?

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:16 pm

Mo – I just paid 85 cents for some backed Ruffles…no kettle cooked in the machine this week.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:16 pm

White Man’s Burden is a good movie.

I wont even talk about how Italians as a whole are almost always portrayed in movies or TV.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:17 pm

Is he triflin with no job, or is he just down on his luck?

DreamsMat, it doesn’t matter. People aren’t going to even see it like that. All they are going to see is he ain’t got no job. Period.

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
4:17 pm

@Carlito ~ still sounds like “I’m on a horse…”

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:17 pm

Melo, what bet do you have with me? I haven’t made a bet with you.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:19 pm

@Carlito?/ u a cool dude bro! i like that skit! :lol: :lol:

Knock Knock

Who is it?

Jehovah Witness’

I am not opening the door.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:20 pm

Anyone ever seen White Man’s Burden with John Travolta?

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:20 pm

Why is it always got to be the black man that has his woman in snafu. He can lay good pipe but he can’t keep a job.

As you know…they are conditioning our minds, so when they have the next segment on CNN about “Why good successful black women are single?” they can replay clips from Perry’s hit movie.

stay with me now…

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:20 pm

backed Ruffles

Cemeeli, stay away from those things. The sodium content is horrible. My doctor told me I am better off eating regular chips than I am the baked ones. They have to add more sodium for taste. She said the little fat that is added when they are fried is no where as bad for you as all that sodium.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:21 pm

Melo, I snuck home early, how did they know I would be here?

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:22 pm

they can replay clips from Perry’s hit movie

Girl you are so on point. And you know just writing that mess TP is a sell out. He talk all that crap then turn around and promotes that mess.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
4:24 pm

@Carlito??

I was on my couch one satruday and they come knocking..they (2 ladies) cld see me thru the door pane…

I did not move! and they took their phat azzes to the next house.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
4:24 pm

Raqi, have you ever had wheat pringles? They are good and come in different flavors as well.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
4:24 pm

Thanks Chip Mamma…noted!

I love Ruffles…

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
4:26 pm

Imma go home and tell my BMW that I thank him, I am proud of him and I love him to pieces.

You all have a good evening.