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It is so perplexing when men are attracted to you one minute and the next they act all weird and distant.  I can understand when someone doesn’t want to pursue things. I get confused when they come on so strong and then start to backpedal.  Are women guilty of doing the same thing to men?

I’m usually not the type to come on too strong because I have that cautious nature that puts the brakes on.  Even when I feel like I am plunging into the “new man” haze head first, I remain cautiously optimistic until things start to progress.  Sometimes there is a shift in attraction.  You figure out that the person who once made an impression on you really isn’t that compatible with you after all. What is your next move?

What are ways you  can tell you are attracted to someone?  Let’s go beyond the obvious, “I want to see them naked” barometer to test how strong your attraction is; how can you determine that your attraction is significant enough to compel you to focus on just them?

How do you handle it when you are attracted to someone unexpectedly?  Just because it catches you off guard, does that mean you won’t pursue things?

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Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 30th, 2010
2:59 pm

A woman with no panties cooking me chitterlings does not sit well with me for some reason.

:lol: :lol:

That’s just wrong….

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
2:59 pm

Well, dern….JtJ.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:00 pm

LuvBug, I am serious I am not following what did I do?

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:01 pm

@ Raqi – Farfalle comes in different sizes…it is thicker than ravioli…auh, at Maggianos it is…lol that’s one place. The other place in Perimeter…i don’t remember.

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
3:01 pm

Carlito – Nothing to follow.

JtJ

March 30th, 2010
3:02 pm

@ SC- Maybe someone will want to trade up…never know! Now, a while back you stating your non-use of a specific watch that you had no use for….what that look like?..lol

DreamsMaterialize

March 30th, 2010
3:03 pm

No chittlins or tripe for me. Had them, didn’t like them. Carlito you should be able to find chittlins in the south. Sure, everyone is going to tell you not to eat “everyone’s” chittlins, but don’t worry about that. We say the same thing about potato salad, mac & cheese, and sweet potato pie. lol

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
3:03 pm

Raqi – Outward beauty fades.. Inner beauty lives forever.. Now you aint gonna argue with my 86 year old Grandma that still believes a woman should never leave the house without her lipstick or her ear rings because its not proper for a woman to be out without them.. Oh and she never opened a door in her life if my Grand dad was around and neither does any woman Im with.. Those are somethings Im talking about..

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:03 pm

She can atleast make sweet tea..

I have this on a cute T-shirt i’d ’bout at this place in Midtown.

too funny….

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:04 pm

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
3:04 pm

LMAO – Girl, you’s a nut. My momma-nem would kill me!!!

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
3:05 pm

Awww, sweet. Thanks Carlito.

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:06 pm

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
3:06 pm

I leave for a spell and come back to Italian Studmuffing googling how to cook chittlins. Pls say it ain’t so! Bet you didn’t know about your house being funked up for days on days. Whew! Coming home from school I could smell them cooking 3 blocks away. I knew I was having pizza that night!

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
3:07 pm

“We say the same thing about potato salad, mac & cheese, and sweet potato pie. lol”

Dreams you ain’t never lied

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:08 pm

LOL Infamous you know what I mean. I am just saying a that marries a woman with skin as smooth as silk does not find her less beautiful 60 years later. He just sees that beauty in a different way. Yeah we all wrinkle and sag, but that person that loves you still find you beautiful.

I feel sorry for a man or woman that marries (pr gets into a relationship with) someone and even a short 3 years later they can’t see past the outer appearance. That’s just sad.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
3:08 pm

@DK

A woman that knows to let you open the door for them….where they do dat at?

Or a woman that knows it ain’t an obligation (I know some of those, though)

JtJ

March 30th, 2010
3:09 pm

@ SC— well, I tried…I heart Movado watches…that will my gift to myself when I reach 40..all but 1 kido will be out of the house!!

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
3:10 pm

I’m so used to having my doors opened for me that one day when I was out shopping with my sister, I didn’t realize that I was stepping to the side to let her open the door until she called me out.

LMAO!

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:10 pm

Cemeeli, when he says 1.5 inches deep is he talking about the width of the noodle? When I think deep I am thinking about the thickness. Maybe that’s where I am getting lost.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:11 pm

SexyCool, you’re spoiled. LOL

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:12 pm

And doesn’t it feel wonderful?

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
3:12 pm

@Raqi ~ this morning you had a bone to pick w/me….wassup? Online, offline, doesn’t matter cuz I know I ain’t did nuffin!

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:14 pm

Deep Fried Lasagna is good also

SexyCool

March 30th, 2010
3:15 pm

Yeah. It does.

And pretty much any guy that has a problem with opening my car door, well, that’s an immediate clue that he has no long term potential.

THE INFAMOUS DK

March 30th, 2010
3:16 pm

A great friend and I was talking the other day and she stated that she was so used to doing for herself that oneday she saw an older couple and the lady stood there and waited until the gentleman opened the door. She said she was just about to reach for the door and felt the old lady looking at her.. She looked up and realized what was happening and stood there as the guy opened the door for the both of them.. She said it was a life changing moment because the non verbal communication between her and the older woman spoke volumes… She said once she realized whats was going on the old lady gave her a nonverbal “thats right baby” and they proceeded to walk into the DMV together. She always talks about it because no one had took the time to show her what a man should be doing..

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:16 pm

Goodell is a hypocrite.

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:17 pm

I was speaking width too…my badd.

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:18 pm

Leggs, that movie New Moon…it sucks. The first 1:45 I was like what the heck. The most exciting part is when the were before the “consulate” and Edward and the other bloodsucker were fighting.

And I just hate Bella. She reeks of selfishness. Wolfman was there to dry her tears when that Gawdawful ghostly bloodsucker went off and left her. He was the first to fight for her. He pulled her out of the ocean before she was killed. Then she got the nerve to tell Jake that she love him but Edward is the one she wants.

Teenagers are stupid. LOL

That’s all. I blame you for me spending 5.00 to watch a crappy unexciting movie.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
3:19 pm

opened a door in her life if my Grand dad was around

@DK

I saw a dude last nite at the train station,waiting on his wife. Wife is short, 5ft maybe or less and hubby about same height. Most folks park their cars then wait in there,waiting for their pple.

Dude came outa the car,wlk towards the turstils and wife was walking towards the car park,from the train.

From where iam at,I dont know why they tgether or rather,the woman just seemed like the man wld do better in his own lane.

They meet,embrace and they plant kisses on each other be4 the 2some proceed to the car,and he opens door for her….

They seemed so much in luv…..

but dude is playing games on that woman.
..

:lol: :lol:

Dan

March 30th, 2010
3:19 pm

@DK

It’s a sad commentary indeed my friend.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
3:20 pm

@Raqi

ahahahahahahahahaahahaha- New moon stupid, really?

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 30th, 2010
3:20 pm

@Carlito…..You asked if SexyCool do not like Sausage!!! SexyCool willl hurt you if she does not get her weekly Sausage!!!!! YEAHHHHHHH

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
3:20 pm

How about if you all are walking down a sidewalk, the guy immediately walking on the side closes to the street and have you walk on the inside?? That’s one that I see few and far between.

Melo

March 30th, 2010
3:20 pm

I aint opening no door for Queen but I luv her!

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:21 pm

Old fashion practices should be commended when given…a lot of these yound men are so disrespectful!!!

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:22 pm

“thats right baby”

Yep, Infamous. Now you see what I was saying this morning. A man opens the door for his woman and any other woman within a few steps. That’s a man. A woman shouldn’t accept or expect less. Those are the type things I am talking about.

And a woman says “thank you”.

I was at the mall once and this little asswipe was walking ahead of me. He purposely barely opened the door just so he could slide right in. He was determined he was not going to open or hold the door for this *****. To a real man it doesn’t matter. A woman is a woman.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
3:22 pm

@Slim

When y’all hit the street, he should’ve already positioned himself between you and the street…..

Luvbug

March 30th, 2010
3:23 pm

DK- Have you ever dated the type of woman (equally yolked) you described? If so, why didn’t it work out?

Carlito

March 30th, 2010
3:23 pm

Alfredo’s has the best Italian food here IMO

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
3:24 pm

OM Goodness, Raqi, I’m choking over here. I kept remarking how they weren’t as pasty looking as they were in Twilight. I is so sowwwy…

BTW, Dan may be coming after you for revealing much more than I did.

Dan

March 30th, 2010
3:26 pm

Um, Ms. Leggs,

Screaming young (white) women = bad movie (see: also Titanic, the Notebook, etc.)

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 30th, 2010
3:26 pm

@DK….. A lost art regarding manners and being a gentlemen, The new Rap generations does not take too well with manners and gentlemen like actions toward the women. Plus the women do not know any better!

@Slimone…….You are upfront and honest regarding your assault. I would say this you seem like you are grounded and down to earth so I would glady date you and your CT…….:smile:

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:26 pm

SexyCool, that’s why I just laugh at folks. You think imma give up what I have, all this goodness, just because you have a problem with how I got it or how I maintain it. GTFOH. I like it, I love it, I want some more of it. And he keeps coming back for more. LOL

Dig That

March 30th, 2010
3:27 pm

@Raqi
Now while I agree that a woman is a woman, it does piss me off and turns a man completely off by being an ungrateful woman. I do it without thinking but there have been a few times that I had to speak on standing and waiting to hold a door open for a “lady” and the heffa just walk in and dont say a eff’n word. I will just say your welcome. But that can kill chilvary for those less enlightened.

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
3:28 pm

The Titanic was a very good movie. The Notebook was a cute movie that showed through everything he was standing my his woman! She doesn’t scream through the whole movie.

@Raqi ~ you see why I said I would throw mine out the window if she carried on like that!

Cemeeli

March 30th, 2010
3:28 pm

Carlito – Really? There is one near Lenox…which is better?

Leggs

March 30th, 2010
3:29 pm

I always say “thank you” and I say it with a SMILE!

Raqi

March 30th, 2010
3:30 pm

It sucks Dan!!!! Don’t waste your money. Leggs gon gimme my $5.00. And Melo is gonna give me $9.73.

SlimCoo-Coo

March 30th, 2010
3:30 pm

Dan I had to school this yougin about that last weekend. lol Look at me calling someone else youngin’ LOL!