Guys, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but here it goes: You’ve become predictable. I know, it’s hard to hear. I spotted this on Twitter the other day: “Men don’t know how to throw curve balls anymore, they are so predictable.” quipped Amber Jolie a fellow blogger. I think she is referring to those good curve balls! That thing men do or say that really shows he’s in it to win her heart.
Women aren’t hard to please! Just as you guys are simple creatures, so are we..well we can be, sometimes. When the moons are aligned just right and you have managed to keep us smiling all week long. Seriously though, I think women are easy to please in the sense that we love to see gestures and efforts by the men we date. When a man does something out of the ordinary (see Friday’s post!) it adds to the attraction a great deal.
To be fair, women have moments of predictability too. Men can sometimes hold preconceived notions about what they consider to be typical woman behavior. Sadly, we end up affirming these and it becomes negative reinforcement. This is when women constantly call or text, worry about where the relationship stands every other minute. It’s something I don’t think a lot of women keep in mind when interacting with men.
Why do you think being predictable can be such a drag on a potential relationship? How could men and women avoid being too predictable?
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THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 29th, 2010
8:25 am
Mornin Folks!!!!
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
8:27 am
Good Topic WiseDiva.
Good Morning Blogland.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
8:28 am
Hey Infamous.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 29th, 2010
8:29 am
Hey Raq Dogg!!
Jeff
March 29th, 2010
8:30 am
So women want a man who’s NOT predictable? I thought they wanted a man who is stable, holds a good job, doesn’t have alot of drama, you know, that list thing.
I’ll say it again, make up your minds and THEN get back to me. ‘Til then, I’m sure you can understand why I’m not taking you seriously.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR WHAT THE FRENCH, TOAST?
March 29th, 2010
8:41 am
Everybody is predictable now a days. Lazy dating reigns supreme. Ok we go to dinner 2.5 times, talk on the phone 4.2 days, have sex for 8.6 months and then its on to the next one.. The art of conversing and relating to one another has been lost in the microwave society..
The reason dudes are predictable because no one requires a dude to be anything else. You want him to have a job, take you out and then beat ya like you stole something. Soooo who’s predictable.. I think both..
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
8:49 am
Being predictable has its good and its bad.
There are certain areas that I am glad my husband is predictable. I can rely on him to say or do a certain thing when it comes to certain matters. There are areas that he is not predictable and that adds much spice to our lives. And then there are times when he is predictable that I wish he would not be. And he probably feels the same about me.
Friday night we had an unexpected visit from some of my maridos cousins and their s/o. One of the guys is very adventurous. He talked about the things he likes to do and the places he likes to go. He spoke about it with pride. The adventurous one. Well what he doesn’t realize is his S/O said behind his back that that is all he likes to do. Their dates especially at the beginning were quite predictable. Hiking, off roading and the like.
I doubt that he realizes his love strictly for outdoors and adventure makes him quite predictable. He probably looks at the guys that always sends flowers or any other “predictable” sentiment as being predictable compared to him showing his woman a “good time”.
Variety is the spice of life.
kinderbabe--36 days to liberation and counting!!!
March 29th, 2010
8:53 am
i will be mostly reading today. have a great one!:)
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
8:54 am
Morning Ya’ll
Are we equating predictibility with stability?
It’s one thing to be stabile but that doesn’t mean you have to be boring. I agree with Infamous, if we spent more time & energy with really getting to know one another and relate, then i think it would be easier to keep things spicy. It used to be that the flat part of a courtship/r’ship didn’t come for at least 2 to 3 years. Nowadays it seems like folks are already getting antsy at the 4 month mark. Are our attention spans that short??
Off-topic – T-mobile needs to get it together this morning. All my tmobile friends don’t have any service this morning. Aarrrgggh!
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
9:03 am
Thanks for this topic, I always viewed women as predictable rather than men being predictable. I am going to read some more of today’s postings before I jump in.
SlimOne, I have been on hold with T-Mobile all morning, I did not know there was an outage. What I have done is switch my cell phone over to the WiFi, connection and everything is working fine until Tmobile is back up to speed.
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
9:07 am
Carlito I am operating on my Wi-Fi. My phone appears to be working now but I called a few of my friends and their phone is still not working yet. You’ll probably be on hold for a very long time. Initiatlly when I called, the message stated there was an outage/system issues in our area. So when I heard there was a high call volume I assumed I wasn’t the only one wondering why my phone wasn’t working.
Kym
March 29th, 2010
9:08 am
Good Morning All,
I will be lurking on this one folks. I think I have the Monday Blahs!!! Have a great day folks.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
9:11 am
Jeff how does being unpredictable make you unstable? The two have nothing to do with each other really. Being stable IMO means that you are established and steadfast when it comes to commitment, finances, trustworthiness. But being predictable as I think we are talking today is more of the same ole thing to the point of being quite boring when it comes to dates and dating. You only go certain places and you only do certain things. Never any change up to add a bit of excitement.
It’s a difference in the two. Just because a man is established, i.e. stable, does not mean he has to be a boring predictable dater.
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
9:16 am
Hola!
Well I am going to lurk on this one…I cannot think much I have the “Monday Morning Blues.”
Mr_NYC
March 29th, 2010
9:16 am
Sometimes it depends on your partner. Suggest something different or unfamiliar too many times and you get a flat response at best or resistance at worst and you tend to stick to what works and keeps “peace.”
CoolShadow
March 29th, 2010
9:19 am
Predictability has its place in relationships and it can be a blessing or curse depending on where it sits. It can be a positive when it relates to reliability and consistency in good behavior. Conversely, it’s a problem when the relationship has hit a plateau and is flatlining.
Nobody wants to go all out for a person only to have them minimize or not appreciate their efforts, especially in a relationship. It’s just as much a problem when you have women who complain about predictability yet they bring no creativity to the dating and forget that dating is an interactive event, not just an event to impress or charm her.
CoolShadow
March 29th, 2010
9:21 am
Correction: “to the dating table”
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
9:22 am
The reason dudes are predictable because no one requires a dude to be anything else.
Infamous, I agree with that. If you expect nothing you get little. One way to require more is to present your own ideas.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
9:24 am
CoolShadow, I agree with you also. Being predictable in some areas is a good thing. Being with a person you need to know that they are steadfast in certain areas that matters a lot. But then when it comes to “dating”, which you have to maintain for the life of the relationship, you need be so predictable.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
9:25 am
Ladies, can you give me some examples of a guy being predictable? Are you all meaing the same pattern daily or something else?
Jeff
March 29th, 2010
9:30 am
The definition I was going with was that men who have stable lives appeal to the security traits of women. Those same men are usually predictable in their day to day lives. Men (and women) who are all over the place day in and day out, by definition, are not as reliable. Routine is reliable (predicatble).
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
9:31 am
Reread, I am tracking the topic correctly now. My “chi” is off this morning.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
9:32 am
Jeff, that is what I took from it as well. I think the topic is more on the lines of keeping “spice” in the dating with your woman.
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
9:34 am
Hey Carlito here is my list…
Predictable
1. Monday we talk on the phone about the same thing
2. Tuesday we make plans to meet up on Wednesday along with a text or two
3. Wednesday we watch tv (insert ballgame or reality tv show)
4. Thursday we talk/text about the same stuff
5. Friday we do the dinner and movie thingy
6. Saturday we talk on the phone eat breakfast together head out in differt directions and meet up later that night.
7. Sunday we chill (insert ballgame or tv shows) and fold clothes
Now multiply this by 52 and you have the same schedule…never a surprise walk in the park, concert or a single rose. Shoot sometimes the convo never changes…
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
9:35 am
Carlito, how was your weekend? Did Ms. Julia finally get here?
kyle
March 29th, 2010
9:38 am
You can be stable, hold a good job, and do those things. BUT…that doesnt mean you have to be boring. Be a man. Be cocky. Make her laugh and you’ll have women begging you to take them out.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
9:38 am
So Jeff dinner and a movie every single weekend is the portrait of a man that is stable?
You know how my husband portrays his stability, he gets up every morning, goes to work, make an honest days living, pays the bills on time, comes home, spends quality time with his family and his friends. Yet he is not hardnosed predictable when it comes to the things we do as a couple.
Even before we married he was stable in his life when it came to working, being dependable and all that. However our dating life was not a bore. Yeah there are things in dating that I knew to expect from him because it how he who he is, however he was and is full of surprises.
Even if some of those surprises take us to the same place. LOL
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
9:39 am
Carlito,
I will go a step further with the predictable thingy…I have known guys that refuse to allow a certain amount of changes occur. I think that is when you have to make the changes similar to what the guy likes. For example, I love sports and I dated a guy that loved sports too…well we would always watch at home. So I bought tickets to a sporting event to change things up…he went, but later told me he does not like crowds. At that point, I knew we were not a fit, because I believe in getting out sometimes.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
9:39 am
Carlito, Infamous gave a good example of predictable. That same routine not just while dating but with every woman that you date.
DreamsMaterialize
March 29th, 2010
9:42 am
Morning
I’m into creativity in dating, so from that perspective I would say I’m pretty unpredictable. Now, in terms of how I address priorities, I’m VERY predictable. Some things about me are like clockwork…you can set your watch to it.
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
9:46 am
“Are we equating predictibility with stability?” SlimCoo Coo for Cocco Puffs, I was thinking the same thing.
It is true, men have more predictable than in the past, and I think women are playing the game better than the men. My case studies are only friends who come back and tell me their wild stories (lol). I agree that predictability has both positive and negatives in any relationship. Reliability (predictability) is definitely a plus!!
@InfamousD ~ honey, you took too long, my office space is no longer empty. I now have new co-workers. All offices are now occupied…phooey!
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
9:47 am
Now I will say that I am not claiming to be the depiction of total unpredictability. I need and like security. I need to feel in control in certain areas.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
9:49 am
Ok so predictable basically means boring? In defense of some men, we are creatures of habit. If we know something that makes a woman happy, we will try and stick to it with little variance. Honestly, I think it is a double edged sword. There has to be an environment that promotes spontaneity .
Professor, I flew back to Atlanta this morning and came straight to work. I am so sore, this city is making me soft.
I still work out tons, but there is nothing like farm work to hit every muscle. I need to stretch.
KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)
March 29th, 2010
9:49 am
Good morning blog fam…interesting topic!
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
9:54 am
@Carlito
that is great
@DreamsM I feel you and I am the same way when it comes down to paying bills, investing, planning for the future I am stable and predictable. However on the dating scene I am a little unpredictable at times. There are certain routines that me and the SO have that are predictable, BUT we love those things and they are a MUST. I don’t need bells and confetti, but a few surprises here and there are nice.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
9:59 am
(Off Topic) I am thinking of paying the little boy next door to water my yard while I am out of town during the latter part of this week. Think I can trust him? I think he is about 9 or 10. He has a single mom so he kind of follows me around all the time.
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
10:03 am
Yes, Carlito, let him do it….another form of responsibility! Go for it.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
10:04 am
IMO women are more unpredictable than men. Guys really never know from one day to the next if we are going to cry or laugh hysterically. LOL One day we may chocolate and the next we may want ice cream and the next we may want sex, all to sooth the same emotional shape.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
10:05 am
but there is nothing like farm work to hit every muscle. I need to stretch
@Carlito??
are u saying working on Julia this weekend was like farm work or u were actually wrking on a farm farm??
On topic!
I really dont understand the unpredictable thang coz i wld think its better having a stable guy who works hard than an unpredictable one. Women miss me smetimes with their constant demands. A lot of the nice unpredicatble stuff will cost u gas money and real cash $$$.
Why dont u give us ur list of some of the unpredicatle nice things u wld luv to do on a weekend that dont cost north of $50.00.Coz the moment u going above $80.00, i want that money in my savingsa/c instead.
Maybe unoredicatble wld comprise wings and fries some friday nites or a vist to the pub on others,a bouquet of roses every now and then and picnic at stone mountains the other weekend.
Does that sound about right??
We doing an overniter at a nice midtown A hotel on Easter saturday after the overnite church service.But only because we getting a deal thru our hotel contact.At $40.00,cant complain!
Mrning folks,hope u quenched some thirst this weekend. I did!
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
10:06 am
Leggs, Good Morning. How was your weekend? I am going to talk to his mom when she gets home. Single guys she is a nice woman if you are looking.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
10:06 am
However the one thing I never not want is security.
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
10:07 am
Speaking of yard work, I was impressed by two teenage boys who were driving around the neighborhood handing out flyers that they made for their grass cutting services. They were very mannerable and future entreprenuers
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
10:08 am
Raqi, thank you for saying that. I was going to but I did not feel like facing the firing squad this morning.
Melo, actual farm work. All those big plans and “antics”,for Julia and I did not come to fruition. But we still had a wonderful time
DreamsMaterialize
March 29th, 2010
10:09 am
Professor
I feel you. Every person has to decide what works for their relationships. Your 9:34 actually sounded like my grandparents’ marriage, at least as far back as I can remember. So, many might have considered their marriage predictable, but on the other hand they’d traveled to more than 50 countries. I guess they preferred predictability in the everyday routines, but spice in their travels. Hope you’re getting over those Monday Blues.
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
10:11 am
Carlito Met a nice looking Italian this weekend (my car salesman -lol) …never really dated outside of AA except that guy I told the blog about that was Mexican. So this ought to be interesting.
Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
10:12 am
He has a single mom so he kind of follows me around all the time.
Awww ain’t that precious….
On topic: When it comes to handling my bidness(paying bills,etc) I am quite predictable b/c it helps me stay on top of what I’ve done and what needs to be done. We all have those sort of routines. When it comes to dating I like to switch it up but there are also times when I may want something familiar so it depends. What I think happens is sometimes people get too deep into a routine that they become rigid and boring. I like the element of surprise so I rather enjoy the
I get when I “spring sumthing” new out of my bag.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
10:14 am
SlimOne, get ready for the passion.
I see nothing wrong with dating other races at all. Now a car salesman. Hmm good luck with that. J/K HA HA HA
Melo
March 29th, 2010
10:15 am
All those big plans and “antics”,for Julia and I did not come to fruition.!!
maaaaeyne..i hate that. Hope u hadnt primed urself too much coz that can leave u sore!
u still had to put up a brave face tho,no wonder
But we still had a wonderful time
shes trying to really find out if u in this thing for the long
holehaul!Carlito
March 29th, 2010
10:19 am
Ladies, when you are used to your routine (paying bills, running your household etc) and you are in the LTR, or newly married. How do you let go when the man starts to take the lead on those things? Each person has strong points and I am not speaking of a dominating “male attitude” I am just talking about guy stuff besides the garbage and the yard. When do you kind of “take the training wheels off of trust” and just really let trust in all things flow. I am asking because I am sure you look for predictable traits before you do this, but if a guy is a little to unpredictable in date, would you think that he is that way in his personal dealings deep down?
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
10:20 am
@Slim…get it girl! I thought about that movie “Love & Basketball” when the two former teammates are having dinner after the big game. The lady asked what’s-her-name if she had tapped any of the Spainish guys and she mentioned she had tried out the Italian guys.
@DreamsM…yes that is how I feel some things are so predictable, but they are great and it works for the relationship. Now traveling more than 50 countries…what a beautiful union! I can really dig that. As for the Monday Blues, what time does the bar opens? j/k
@Carlito…let him handle the lawn if it is ok with his mother.
@Melo I would rather eat some wings and fries on most Friday nights and just chill, and used that money saved to do something big UNpredictable when the time is right.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR WHAT THE FRENCH, TOAST?
March 29th, 2010
10:21 am
But now wait last week the ladies said they like to plan everything.. Im spontaneous and like to just go where my car drives me. I love riding by a spot and just pull over to check it out. Ive been dating on the cheap here lately though, going to museums, parks and just anything out of the norm… I dont even go to the normal watering holes like Atlantic Station or The Luckie Lounges.. Im always off the beaten path because I hate the Hollywood “everybody in a video” scene. Even if you do go to dinner try and make it somewhere youve never been. Its a big city and I love to explore it.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
10:21 am
Melo, you are funny. LOL. On the farm when it is time to work, it is time to work.
Sassy Me...Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
10:22 am
I see nothing wrong with dating other races at all.
Me either…
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
10:22 am
Carlito about the carsalesman, it’s funny you said good luck because they don’t necessarily have a good track record. He had us tripping out the whole time, which i’m sure it part of the salesman MO. So we all got on sayings and stereotypes about AA’s. He was like, you know how folks say Once you go black, you never turn back..Well he said, Once you go white, you know you’ve been licked right.
Dig That
March 29th, 2010
10:23 am
“IMO women are more unpredictable than men. Guys really never know from one day to the next if we are going to cry or laugh hysterically.”
Those were my thoughts exactly @Radiating
I got a case of the Monday’s but trying to shake them fast. Hope everyone had a good weekend.
@Carlito
Let the kid water the grass. He probably just wants to do something nice for you while you are away.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
10:24 am
Infamous, I agree. Everything I do down here is new to me. Club scenes are not my style except every now and then. A lot of haters out and about when you stick out.
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
10:25 am
Infamous “Even if you do go to dinner try and make it somewhere youve never been”
That’s why I like to participate in the Restaurant weeks whenever they are happening. That way you both can choose a spot that you’ve never been to, yet eat for a cheap price in case you don’t like it, you wouldn’t have drained the bank.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR WHAT THE FRENCH, TOAST?
March 29th, 2010
10:26 am
Carlito – Let him water the grass and tell him you’ll pay him with gum and his mom with Hard…..
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
10:27 am
Carlito per your 10:19 I’ve only been in one serious LTR and even then he didn’t take the lead on those things…so he got let go.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
10:29 am
Slim, the Italian carsalesman considers himself white? LOL
Yes, I will let him water it. He walks his dog with me when I walk my dog and I go over and shoot hoops with him in his driveway some mornings. I think he will do just fine. If he follows the schedule I will pay him $50 via his mother, but I will slide him a $20 on the side as our man to man agreement. Because mom might tell him to do something else with the $50, and of course I will tell mom that I gave him a $20 on the side just so she knows
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR WHAT THE FRENCH, TOAST?
March 29th, 2010
10:29 am
Carlito – Its all good just hold ya ground when youre out and soon they’ll recognize your a cool dude.. Right now youre paying your dudes towards your ghetto pass.
abc
March 29th, 2010
10:29 am
To me, predictable is good. Mrs. abc likes it that way, too. We don’t need some adventurous surprises to entertain ourselves with.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR WHAT THE FRENCH, TOAST?
March 29th, 2010
10:31 am
Carlito – For 70 bucks I’ll let my 4 yr old water your grass. And he will have supervision on site..
Luvbug
March 29th, 2010
10:32 am
I’m cool with predictable and a little different from time to time.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
10:33 am
Infamous, everytime I am out jogging or in the yard I see her. She is a 5′4 very nice looking black woman. That smile will kill you. She has placed the invite all over her face, but she and I never have spoken besides a wave. The opening is there and I will admit I have been tempted but I did not act. I have other stuff going on. Sometimes if I see her out I actually run the other way. She is so fine, single(never anyone there and she is always home) always getting some work done to her house. Her car has an AKA license plate and the tag numbers are “54QT” If any of you all are AKA’s tell her that her neighbor thinks she is “HOT”.
(Looks at a Picture of Julia to snap me back) LOL
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
10:33 am
@Carlito- how many days will you need him to water the grass? I am not sure the going rate, but $70 might be a bit much…he is still using your water and just walking next door.
I will low ball him for $68.50
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
10:35 am
“the Italian carsalesman considers himself white?’
Carlito – not exactly sure what he considers himself…at one point he told me he was black too so go figure. lolol Btw, I’m looking for an evening part-time job…can I come water your grass?
Melo
March 29th, 2010
10:36 am
I never really dated outside of AA except that guy I told the blog about that was Mexican. So this ought to be interesting.
@Slimone??
u sounding really kinda fleet footed these past 3 to 4 weeks…really taking this dating rotation to a higher level.Thats 3 guys and im wondering how u gon to zero in on one if u keep looking like that!
@Proff??
wings and fries on most Friday nights and just chill, and used that money saved to do something big UNpredictable when the time is right.
I agree..For me, a woman consantly looking for some constant unpredictable thrill is a red flag! Coz u cant keep up with her maintenance smetimes and in the real world,that can be hard to do when u settle on her longterm.
Either u steal money or get some other hook up inorder to cover for ur budget deficits or u thrill her short term and bench her!
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
10:37 am
Infamous, that is true. These guys down here will try and punk you with a stare, like they have something to prove. I have not time for that, but I do not back down
You know most Italians think we are black but would never admit and our bravado get us into some sticky situations sometimes.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR WHAT THE FRENCH, TOAST?
March 29th, 2010
10:38 am
Slim – you can come water mine. Or as some people say. Mines..
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
10:38 am
I will admit I have been tempted but I did not act.
DON’T DO IT! That’s too close to the fort Carlito…
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
10:39 am
Infamous, my life as it has been and is require me to be a planner. When dating, even now, I have to make arrangements for certain things. However that does not mean that the man that was able to get with that had to be predictable when it came to dating.
When he and I were together he could be spontaneous. Especially the weekends that we would spend together. I had no problem after making those arrangements when he showed up on an early Saturday morning and stated that we were driving to Chataeu Elan. Or we would drive up to the mountains or to the beach without prior notice to me. It wasn’t always dinner and a movie. Although some planning was required it was not predictable dating.
DreamsMaterialize
March 29th, 2010
10:39 am
Professor
Yeah they were married for 53 years. They could captivate a whole room once they started talking about all the places they’d been. Shopping in Paris and Italy, concerts in London, The Great Wall, cruising the Mediterranean, crossing the arctic circle in Norway, seeing castles in Germany. That’s the direction my ship’s headed…just looking for someone who wants to get on board.
Now about the blog bar…I can make an emergency opening. lol
Dig That
March 29th, 2010
10:39 am
Damn Carlito. I wanna bid on the watering grass job. Lol
DK is right too. You gon have them haters until they see you are cool. I have seen it happen so many times and been guilty of doing it. Its a right to passage that’s all.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR WHAT THE FRENCH, TOAST?
March 29th, 2010
10:39 am
Carlito – Where do you live? I’ll take her off your hands and return the favor from my side.
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
10:39 am
Three Words Daily – Get busy living.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
10:40 am
Professor, I will be gone from Wednesday to Monday. I just put down a multi- treatment so it is very key that it stay moist. I think he will do fine.
SlimOne, I don’t think you should know where I live nor should you and I be in the same place at the same moment.
Luvbug
March 29th, 2010
10:41 am
I have seen it happen so many times and been guilty of doing it. Its a right to passage that’s all.
Dig That – Thanks for admitting that.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
10:42 am
$70 to water your lawn? Heck this April (soon to be), nature is going to water your lawn.
I wouldn’t even pay my own son $70 to do a chore around the house.
But that’s just me.
Dig That
March 29th, 2010
10:43 am
@Luvbug
I can be only real and that was part of my upbringing. And it is a way to actually weed out the punks. That’s why I tell Carlito to stand his ground. That’s when he gets his respect.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
10:43 am
Infamous and Dig That: True! On the fine woman, I really wish someone I know would “get with her” because that would automatically erase her from my vision. A blog guy is excellent because then she could not come by my house crying about how my friend used her. I would be like “I just know him from a blog”
JtJ
March 29th, 2010
10:45 am
Predictability is bound to surface in all relationships new and old. In dating, no one likes to see it early-on, but if it is not a major issue, don’t dwell on it. Some people don’t do spontaneity thing and are quite comfortable with where they are and what they like do. In dating, I could gauge at least the first few months are filled with outings and trips to show each other a good time and find out what they really like. After that, you can pretty much predict that your time will be spent doing what each other likes the most. Predictability is acceptable to a degree, as long as you are trying to do the same thing all the time.
Morning All, hope everyone had as good a weekend as I did…
My relationship started towards the middle of football season, so I knew we would spend a lot of time at games and watching football. Now, as much as he loves football, he knew I wasn’t trying to spend our weekends watching games, so on Saturdays, we did what I wanted to do, and on Sundays, I knew what was up.
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
10:47 am
Early last week, TheDude surprised me with a gift bag from Macy’s. Thursday night, he surprised me with tickets to the Thrashers game. Saturday afternoon, he surprised me by suggesting we go UP Stone Mountain.
All little things. Simple things. Nothing really out of the ordinary. But all made more special because I could not have predicted them happening.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
10:47 am
Raqi, I just laid Lime,Seed, Fertilizer and Straw last week. If you know about lawns you know that the keeping the soil wet down to 1/4 to 1/2 inches is vital the first two weeks daily. Even thought it may rain that does not mean that the soil is getting proper. And if it does not happen the grass will just burn out and that is tons more expensive. Carlito will have the greenest weed free lawn in the subdivision. Yes, you can predict that, besides $70 for 5 days worth of work is nothing. he has to water each spot for an hour and it needs to be moved a total of 4 times each session.
DreamsMaterialize
March 29th, 2010
10:50 am
You know most Italians think we are black but would never admit and our bravado get us into some sticky situations sometimes.
Carlito Is your family from southern Italy? In my interactions, there seems to be a huge divide between northern and southern Italians. Northern Italians think they’re better and have lots of negative things to say about southern Italians. I’ve heard them say such things as “southern Italians are lazy”, “southern Italians are criminals”, “southern Italians will bring down your property value”, “you can’t trust southern Italians”.
CoolShadow
March 29th, 2010
10:51 am
It wasn’t always dinner and a movie. Although some planning was required it was not predictable dating.
One thing to note is that the person you’re dating has to be receptive to creative and occasional spontaneous dates. If someone constantly nixes any attempt of stepping out of comfort zones, it may be time to step away from them. Receptivity should accompany creativity and not feel like pulling teeth.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
10:51 am
If I had kids or wanted them, they would not get paid to do chores.
City kid chores, take out the garbage, mow the grass, clean house, dishes etc.
Farm kid chores, take out the garbage and burn it, mow the fields(atleast 50 acres), tend the livestock, help birth calfs, work the fields, bale hay, tend the fences, sand bag the river during flood season, shovel half mile driveway during the winter atleast once a week etc. Nope never got paid for any of that.
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
10:51 am
Good mornting blog!
Carlito – Yeah, help the kid out. He looks up to you. I have a nice neighborhood kid that looks out for my lawn. He graduated & is suppose to join the Navy soon, so I’ll have to find another. I’m really going to miss him because he was so dependable.
As for the subject, of course, and I can only speak for myself, I REQUIRE responsible predicability when it comes to finances, taking care of family & home. As for dating, I’ve noticed the more a guy is into you, the more creative he is, even if he is normally not a creative person. He is always looking for ways to make you happy, within his means. I am naturally a creative person, and while I don’t have to have a constant adrenaline rush, when I see a guy making an effort, it motivates me even more. Especially when I see my efforts will be appreciated. It’s give & take. I understand we can all get in a rut sometimes, though. All I ask is that you be open to possibilities. Like Melo & I discussed last week, I’ve had to shed myself of some friends who limit themselves and won’t venture beyond the same food, music, travels, etc.
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
10:52 am
“Thats 3 guys and im wondering how u gon to zero in on one if u keep looking like that”
Melo – well there of course is one ahead of the pack at this point as far as who gets more time, attention etc. (ole boy who claims to never have been in love & was sort of guarded but is starting to relax a bit) Que bro has a lot going on so his schedule hasn’t permitted us to really get together recently due to all the district stuff with his frat as well as some other things I won’t disclose on the blog. So up to this point, it has just been these two guys. As far as adding Salesman to the mix, he hasn’t necessarily been added. Love my AA’s but I figure it doesn’t hurt to at least dip my toe in the water. I won’t know if he will be a viable candidate until after we meet up outside of the business realm. I will keep you posted.
“you can come water mine”
Infamous – what are you charging, how often, etc?
“I don’t think you should know where I live nor should you and I be in the same place at the same moment”
Carilto – why is that?
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR WHAT THE FRENCH, TOAST?
March 29th, 2010
10:58 am
Slim – Oh I can charge you for watering my grass.. Thats even better
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
10:58 am
@Carlito ~ yes, indeed, leave the neighbor alone. That picnic is too close for comfort. Well, long term comfort that is.
My weeked was busy with track meet and waiting most of the day for the Comcast tech. I think they need to shorten their window of “wait.” We have other things to do besides wait on them!!
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
11:00 am
Dreams, My ancestors are from the North. Italy was unified in 1948, but many Italian still see it as it was…Sicilians, Florentines, Venitians, etc. Northern Italians have more of a Roman and German rooting system where as Southern Italians have an Arab rooting. Geographically the north is more wealthy and industrialized whereas the south is more underdeveloped. Imagine comparing the United States to Mexico. And those who are always trying to get to the U.S.. that is kind of the breakdown. A few Northerners are bling and intimidated by them or it is kind of a bug deal if a Southerner makes it in the the Northern regions. It’s hard to explain without sounding racist. But basically the view is that the southerners are more leisure and lazy and the northernes are to serious and work to hard. I hope this helps a little.
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
11:03 am
@Carlito ~ guess, it’s like that everywhere….northerners vs. southerners, new jersyians vs anyone from The Bronx/Brooklyn, so on and so on!
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
11:03 am
Leggs, I am not going to mess with the neighbor. But she is one fine woman.
CoolShadow, I agree there has to be room for it. Some people do not respond well or are never pleased when you think out of the box.
SlimOne, because you have described your “phatty” to much on here and I would probably want it. So you stay away from me, I stay away from you and we stay cool
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
11:04 am
Infamous – Charge the service provider for their services for you…where dey do dat at?
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
11:04 am
SlimGoody – On that 1022a you posted – “Once you go white…”
Co-sign.
That is all.
LOL!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR WHAT THE FRENCH, TOAST?
March 29th, 2010
11:05 am
Carlito – Its like North America versus South America. Northern States vs Southern states.. Or No Cal vs So Cal..
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
11:05 am
Carlito – I would just leave her at home. I can’t always take her with me…the phatty that is.
Dan
March 29th, 2010
11:06 am
Well, for me there’s predictable and what I want to do (three completely different things).
While I want the women I date to have fun and I make concessions for that, I still have things that I want to do. And if she wants to occompany me, great; if not, that’s cool too.
Thing of dating (and the way to keep it from getting stale) is to have and show the person(s)for Pimp Slim you’re interested in, things you like to do. If it’s nothing more than people watching in the park on a nice day, or go-cart racing, let it be tings that represent facets of your personality.
That is, if you have one.
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
11:07 am
Sexycool “Once you go white” Yeah he had us rolling. Even my aunt was like, ya’ll gonna mess around and have me divorced. LOL! But I had told my homeboy what he said and he was like, i bet he had a chick for an hour, 45 minutes of that would be licking that puddin’ & only 15 mins of pumpin’ lmao
DreamsMaterialize
March 29th, 2010
11:07 am
Carlito
That’s pretty my understanding from the notherners I’ve known. They also didn’t feel any association with Italian Americans, just called them Sicilians.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
11:07 am
Infamous, exactly. Except our families and political systems are way more violent than they are in those places.
SlimOne, I would have to do a visual inspection upon arrival to make sure you left it. If you agree to those terms you may come by.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
11:11 am
Farm kid chores, take out the garbage and burn it, mow the fields(atleast 50 acres), tend the livestock, help birth calfs, work the fields, bale hay, tend the fences, sand bag the river during flood season, shovel half mile driveway during the winter atleast once a week etc. Nope never got paid for any of that.
@Carlito??
that sounds like me,growing up with my maternal grandma,my uncles and aunts.
Smetimes i wld wake up early (4-5 am) on a weekday to work the field with the mombies(cows) with one of my uncles be4 going back to the house and prep for school.
Thank God the school was just a few yards away from grandma’s house.
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
11:15 am
Oh Carlito, to your earlier question about the guy taking the lead:
I am independant, because my parents taught me & my brothers & sister to be able to take care of ourselves in every way. They wanted us to be self-sufficient. Having said that, when a man has a plan and has my respect to the point that I want to sign up on his plan, share in his vision, then I don’t have an issue with him taking the lead. Not that it is easy, because I am used to doing for myself out of necessity. But as long as the respect is there, and I am respected for the intelligent adult that I am, following his lead is easier. We compliment each others strengths & weaknesses. We are partners, but there is only one head. When I have to do everything and make all the decisions and I can’t trust that something won’t get done before I do it myself, I don’t respect, or need you.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
11:15 am
Dreams, there is a difference between direct descendants and those who have Americans introduced to the bloodline, for sure. If I dated an Italian American, meaning the daughter of one Italian Parent and one American parent or anything other than two Italian parents some of my family back in the old land would be pissed. It is all pretty messed up.
On the Sicilian, Italian American thing, there is a lot behind that. those are the one’s who consider themselves “white”. They are from southern Italy, no pride. SO you can Imgaine once they get her they try and associate themselves with “whites” to an extent
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
11:16 am
Dan Why I gotta be a pimp? Maybe it seems a bit strange since I hadn’t really been dating like that during my tenure on the blog because I had all my eggs in one basket for too dayum long.lol So is it just a little different to hear about me out in the dating pool again?
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
11:17 am
Melo, some adults have easier jobs than some kids have chores.
If I ever have kids we are moving out of the city
Kimmie, nice post. Once the respect is there you are ready to roll.
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
11:19 am
An aside – I’m going to put a sign up on my office door that says – “My office door being open does not mean that I have time to talk to you and it certainly does not mean that I *want* to talk to you.”
gggrrr!!!
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
11:19 am
The funny thing is, so many Sicilians have ‘African’ blood many Sicilians are very dark with curly hair. In the summer when I travel most white people think I am black and most black people think I am mixed with black and white.
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
11:20 am
@Slim, if you are dating and having fun there is nothing wrong with loading your basket. In fact, load them in the Easter basket and a winner will emerge. Plus it gives you a chance to see what you like and dislike, what works and what doesn’t etc.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
11:20 am
SexyCool, so there is no open door policy?
JtJ
March 29th, 2010
11:21 am
@ Slim: RE: Little Entrepreneurs and lawn cutting- While house hunting this weekend, we saw these 2 little boys going through the neighborhood with their lawn mower. My fiancé told my son (14) that was what he used to do to make spending money when he was young. My son always has his hand out for money, we told him he needs to learn how to start making his own. —Kids nowadays are spoiled—including mine, but I will unspoil their behind!!
Melo
March 29th, 2010
11:25 am
@Carlito??
hw about the mob thang..which side does it originate from(nrth or south) or maybe u dont wanna answer that coz i hear, their reach is too deep and ubiquitous and their strike,very fierce??
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
11:27 am
Carlito – you gets the gas face. LOL!
Technically – there is an open door policy – when you actually have a business need.
However, it’s the same two damn old ass dudes coming in my office every frickin’ talking about NOTHING!!! I don’t want to hear about this one’s daughter or that one’s heart meds every dern day. More gggrrr!!!
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
11:31 am
LOL SexyCool. My door stays pushed up most of the time. But that don’t stop one lady from coming in just because.
Dan
March 29th, 2010
11:33 am
@Slim
Dag, I can’t tease once in a while? I mean, what you do.
I’m all about collecting “eggs” as it were.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
11:35 am
And you know what I really hate SexyCool is this one guy that comes in and plants his hinny on my desk. I hate it. I actually put a tray in that spot and he pushes it over to give himself room to sit.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
11:36 am
@Carlito??
do go ghost on me now be4 answering 11.25….
by the way,Guiliani is my uncle!
Melo
March 29th, 2010
11:36 am
dont go
Luvbug
March 29th, 2010
11:39 am
My door stays pushed up most of the time. But that don’t stop one lady from coming in just because.
SexyCool/Raqi- Same thing here. Sometimes for fun, I look towards the door when I hear the footsteps, and dang if I don’t see one big eye looking back at me through the thin space in the door.
It’s pretty creepy, but funny…my two big eyes looking dead at her one big (left or right) one.
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
11:39 am
Dan Yeah, you can tease…I prefer that anyways to the normal Go straight to the bullseyes…oh wait…we’re talking about something else. Um..yeah you can tease. Wasn’t being snippy but i’ve heard these little comments from a few folks lately. I was just like, am I supposed to latch on to every dude as if we’re in a serious monogamous relationship…hayo to da naw. If i’m not doing to horizontal tango with em all, I say Date on. lol
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
11:41 am
Guiliani is my uncle…lmao
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
11:41 am
Rock – I wouldn’t mind if they would stop say “Good Morning.” and keep it moving, but it’s often a 5-10 minute conversation that I find myself having to keep from grimacing through.
(All in the name of good employee/co-worker relations. Since I am manager, I am tasked with *setting the tone*)
gggrrr!!!
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
11:42 am
JtJ – my little 8yr old cousin asks me for money almost every week. He doesn’t even try to low ball it..he starts out at $100. I’m like, you can go clean out my cat liter box for $7. lol
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
11:42 am
For all you Housewives of NYC viewers, Bethanny got married over the weekend.
Dig That
March 29th, 2010
11:42 am
@Slim
Ain’t nothing wrong with a lil horizontal tango and polka. Lol
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
11:43 am
Today is my first day in our new location, No more temporary cubicle. I am back in my OWN office. The drive to dawsonville was not that bad. I was going against traffic.
Melo, the mob. mafia or la cosa nostra is Sicilian in nature but it was by far not the first “mafia” Italy has a loooooooooooooooong history of that type of thing. before those terms there were just “clans” , “families” or “cosca” that ran in crime syndicates in a a particular area or city…they just took over what they wanted.
Dig That
March 29th, 2010
11:44 am
@Slim
Sounds like your lil cousin need to holla at Carlito. He might even give some benefits.
i'm swiss
March 29th, 2010
11:44 am
Morning all,
Um… busy day, no time to catch up, but…. Did someone send out a call for lickin’ lessons??? Lemme check my training schedule…
Melo
March 29th, 2010
11:48 am
Proff??
I was trying to be slick with that and let him know,im asking but i still got the skinny from the inside,thanx to my uncle!
Dan
March 29th, 2010
11:50 am
@Slim
You’re a young (and I’ll assume attractive) lady that it out in the world.
How you conduct your affairs is between you and the one’s you conduct them with. Forget the comments of those that would replace your judgment for theirs, or their code for yours;
it is your life to live, love, and learn from.
Never forget ^^that.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
11:53 am
Funny, conversation from this weekend. I told Julia, that I wish I could have experienced a strong black woman and also a fat girl in bed before we got back together. She said at the same time I said no. She then goes how would you feel if I told you I wish I could have experienced a black man before we got back together. Right then I realized that the line had been crossed and I should just keep some thoughts to myself. LOL. So, I will just continue to wave at my neighbor and have virtual relations with you fine women on here.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
11:54 am
Speaking of those predictable ways that I wish would change…
Like 4 minutes ago my husband calls me here at the office. I say tell him I will call him back in 2 minutes when I get off of this other call. Not even 30 seconds when I see the light out on the line the he called in on my cell phone rings and guess who it is. It never fails. I put the other person on hold, answer the cell and tell him I will call him right. Instead of saying okay he proceeds to tell me why he called. That’s when I tell him to hold and finish my other call. This happens the same way every single time.
He justifies his reasoning as if it wasn’t important he would not be calling me on my office phone in the first place.
He does the same thing sometimes when I am out with my friends. If he calls me and I don’t answer for whatever he will call one of his friends whose wife is in attendance with me and tell him to ask his wife to tell me to answer my phone.
I’ll come back from the powder room sometimes and one of my bff will say will you please call that man.
But as I said his reasoning is if it was not important he would not disturb in certain situations. He is so predictable in those instances.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
11:54 am
Melo, the mob. mafia or la cosa nostra is Sicilian
@Carlito…yeah,dang those arabs! To call Sicily in Italy is just a misnomer.Im sure those folks have more in common with the tobacco cheweing arabs of nrht africa than with europeans?? Iam glad they treat those arab descendents like that coz in africa,those nrthern african arabs(egypt,morocco,tunisia,libya) dont even regard themselvs as africans.
They do,when its about discrimination from the whites but within africa,they carry a chip on their dang shlders!
Phluck those Husseins!
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
11:55 am
SlimOne ad Leggs, better not be out there spreading themselves to thin, well not before I teach them how to make sauce.
On that note what Italian dish do I need to post the “how to make” this week. Did anyone try the marsala? LOL
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
11:58 am
Melo, I know what you are talking about it is all pretty messed up.
Raqi, when he wants his wife he wants her. I am the same way at times with my lady. It is just the side effect of good loving and happiness
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
11:58 am
LOL SexyCool. Yeah some of these people just don’t how close they come to being cussed out if not for the fact that it’s my duty to handle those type of situation among the employees so I have to stay free of it. Now there are two that I will tell to go to hell in a heartbeat, but they know me and have known almost 20 years.
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
12:00 pm
Carlito – I was too sick to muster up enough energy to shop for the marsala ingredients & make it. I did get a burst of energy Saturday evening and I had some pizza dough from Trader Joes I needed to use, and some fresh mozerella, so I made a margherita pizza. Got compliments – even the kids liked it. It’s my favorite kind of pizza, very simple.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
12:03 pm
So, I will just continue to wave at my neighbor and have virtual relations with you fine women on here.
Umm sooo does that mean that I’ve officially gotten my blog swirl on Carlito….lol
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
12:05 pm
wish I could have experienced a strong black woman and also a fat girl in bed
Hmmm Carlito please be careful with this statement we do not want to confuse you with a past blogger that wanted a fat girl in bed.
Dig That
March 29th, 2010
12:05 pm
I told Julia, that I wish I could have experienced a strong black woman and also a fat girl in bed before we got back together.
@Carlito- Might not have been the right thing to say. Although that does go back to a conversation we had last week. Telling our spouses our random thoughts might not always be good to share.
@Radiating- that would drive me crazy baby. Hopefully he will grow out of it.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
12:07 pm
we do not want to confuse you with a past blogger that wanted a fat girl in bed.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
12:08 pm
Professor… ??
which one is that??
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
12:10 pm
Carlito, Nah he is just demanding like that when it comes to certain things.
We were at this couple fun thing once and the question was presented “Would you work for your spouse” and “Would you hire your spouse” and we answered on card about like the Newly Wed game.
He answered “My wife would do a good job running my office”. My answer was “Just give me the divorce papers to sign right now”. LOL
We are partners in life, but when it comes to his business I am a silent check signing partner and that’s how it gonna stay.
However I have give a more serious comment, should the time really present itself where I needed to be there I would be. Not even a second thought given.
However, however, the Almighty will have to help me. LOL
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
12:10 pm
@DIG THAT~ I am glad you said that I did not feel like going there. It would drive me nuts as well.
@Sassy~
I’m just sayin’
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
12:13 pm
Hopefully he will grow out of it.
DigThat, he is soon to be 43 so I doubt it. I have become to expect it but it still drives me a little crazy sometimes. He does it at home too. He will call me from wherever he is in the house and call me two more times before I get there.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
12:16 pm
kimmie, I don’t know if you know this or not but I hope you do. What is the best salt substitute? I cook with many different spices and herbs but now that I am trying a low salt diet I am looking gives good taste in the place of salt altogether. That potassium chloride that is used as a salt substitute has a horrible after taste. I can’t use it.
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
12:26 pm
Radiate – I asked a few here at work because I don’t personally know of any. One of my coworker’s husband is a diabetic & is on a low-salt diet as well. She said he uses Morton’s salt substitute. He said it tastes okay if it’s cooked in the food, but to sprinkle on food it tastes “different”.
I don’t use a lot of salt in my cooking at all, but I grew up like that. My mom used just enough, and we were not allowed to sprinkle extra on food. So now I am very salt-sensitive and I’ve gotten used to food with less salt. I know it is probably tough finding a substitute.
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
12:31 pm
@Carlito – give you props for your honesty…but remember, most random thoughts keep to yourself. I remember when a gf came to visit and my ex asked if she said he was cute before leaving. I looked at him crazy, but looked even crazier when he told me she had nice breast. I had to school him right on the spot.
Also, Carlito, I too moved back into my office today. I’m not sure if I’m going to like these new people around me. I thorougly enjoyed the solitude!
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
12:34 pm
I do not understand men at all.
There, I said it
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
12:35 pm
My new breakfast that I am trying is Grapenuts with Vanilla Lowfat Activia yogurt instead of milk. I take two of the 4 oz. containers and mix in a bowl with the Grapenut cereal. Today is my first day of trying it. My friend Doc eats Cheerios with yogurt every morning. She gave me the idea. It seems to be quite filling. I think I will alternate between the grapenut cereal and the cheerios. As well as yogurt other than Activia.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
12:36 pm
but looked even crazier when he told me she had nice breast
@Proff??
u ghosting and cricketting me on my 12.08??
I will blame and conclude that it is this one culprit, then!
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
12:36 pm
my ex asked if she said he was cute
LMAO…now that was funny. Hey Leggs was he serious, and was he cute????
Dig That
March 29th, 2010
12:38 pm
@Radiating
You have a lot of patience babe. Now doing it in the house too is even worse. That booty might be driving him crazy. He wants to know where it is every second of the day. Lol Work it tho. You might be right. At 43 he might be set in those ways. God forbid if you have to go out of town.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
12:41 pm
kimmie, I tried the Morton’s. It’s horrible. I use all brands of Mrs. Dash. The problem is some dishes it works really well with and some not so much. I made steaks Saturday and I used KC Masterpiece seasoning. I didn’t use any salt with that because it has enough by itself.
I am just looking for more alternatives.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
12:41 pm
did u ever invite ur friend back to the house with ur ex present Leggs??
(I dont understand women either, I am…..a compliment to another random woman is viewed as a thumbs down to her,the one iam with)
these lil delicate delights of ours God gave us! so predictable
Melo
March 29th, 2010
12:42 pm
God forbid if you have to go out of town
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
12:44 pm
DigThat. He doesn’t want to or have to know where I am at all times. Some days he probably hides out downstairs from me. LOL And I have gone out of town without him with no problem. But when he wants me for something that is or he feels is important….
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
12:48 pm
@Melo—I did not see your question, but please name the culprit so I can confirm. I don’t want you out here slandering the innocent
Oh yea it is one thing to say your friend is nice, but it is a whole ‘nother story to compliment her breast and ask if she complimented him
You just know Leggs cussed him out
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
12:49 pm
Melo: the ex states he has something that he has to tell me in person.
i tried to get him to tell me over the phone but he insisted on meeting me in perosn.
So, I meet up with him on Saturday for breakfast and he tells me the most ridiculous ish….
SMH!!!!!
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
12:50 pm
blog monster took my comments.
Wise Diva must be hongry again
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
12:50 pm
random thought:
Girls look good today in the over the shoulder boulder holder
Dig That
March 29th, 2010
12:51 pm
I do not understand men at all.
There, I said it
@I am
Glad you got that off your chest
Melo
March 29th, 2010
12:52 pm
but please name the culprit so I can confirm
@Proff??
………and if Iam wrong??
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
12:53 pm
Melo, one Saturday I was out with my bff and her baby sister which was 19 at the time. We were having breakfast when my husband called to ask me to do him favor. He called back within a matter of minutes to see if I had done it yet. The little booby (the 19 yr old) made the statement that she could not put up with a demanding man. Her sister and myself laughed at her as I pulled out my Amex card and told to ask me how much I spend on it every month. I couldn’t tell if she puts a gun to head.
I don’t go around spending $$$ of dollars and charging it to the card just because I don’t have to pay. I understand the man works hard for his money and I am not ever going to try to take advantage of him. However he is how he is and he treats me well.
So yeah him being a little demanding is all right with me.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
12:54 pm
it is a whole ‘nother story to compliment her breast
@blog ladies??
I guess its just better to say,”baby, I like ur breasts and ur friend got nice ones too”
better??
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
12:55 pm
marido: Raqi? (calling out for her to answer)
Raqi now slowly getting up out of tub from soaking but before she can answer…
marido: RAQI?! Where are you. I just called your name 3 secs ago.
Raqi: Babe, i’m coming. I had to hop out the tub. What’s so important that has you calling me like the kitchen was on fire?
marido: well I was sitting here cutting my toe nails and I don’t know where it flew to. You know how I like to walk around bare foot and I don’t want to end up stepping on it. Help me find it
Raqi: You called me out of my peaceful bubble bath for that?….
(Raqi now walking away ignoring marido’s apparent ‘clipped toe nail crisis)
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
12:59 pm
dude u stoopid
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
1:00 pm
Now, my good friend, Melo if you are wrong it will not be your first time, or it will be a historical occasion that you share with the blog. If you are wrong I will apologize to the innocent on your behalf and name the culprit. However you must give an honest guest, because you are a smart fellow are regular blogger so you already know!
Melo
March 29th, 2010
1:04 pm
However he is how he is and he treats me well.
@Raqi??
I dont doubt that…every relationship is like that with its own twists and lingo that only the two understand. I dont know if i treat mine as well but…she still with me!
Queen tells me that her friend’s younger sister( about 30) who lives in Atlanta(big sister is in Turkey) was asking Queen how she kept her marriage so long…in the same discussion,she asked if Queen is still cooking every day/?
Queen said Yes,”why do u find it hard?
Shes(this gerl) smashing beautiful babes(i will say that in queen face by the way,no problem) and a fromer model too, but she says she will find it hard to date an african guy(shes african too by the way) coz they like home food on the table,every day.
She keeps who she dating a secret(to Queen) but…..
she still looking!
:lol;
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
1:05 pm
LMBO Slim, but you do know he would do that but say that he wants to find it before the baby is put down on the floor to play. LOL j/k
But one of my friends…her guy really is that nerve wrecking.
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
1:05 pm
Her sister and myself laughed at her as I pulled out my Amex card and told to ask me how much I spend on it every month.
With all that nagging and calling, one could probably make 3x what is put on the card if one was not jumping for him or finding the clippings
Melo-NO that is not the right way you are a mess!
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
1:09 pm
Enter your comments here
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
1:09 pm
dont know if i treat mine as well but…she still with me!
Melo, there’s your answer right there. And it’s not just African men that like a homecooked meal everyday. I know plenty American men that would like that. And I think Mid-East men are even worst. Especially the nations that don’t think highly of women. They women are on the same level as slaves would probably be.
My husband would like a home cooked meal everyday. But he is okay with getting it 4-5 days a week because he realizes it is just not possible all the time. Sometimes we do leftovers. And he himself likes to out on the town from time to time.
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
1:11 pm
I say this for Melo : Let’s see what Queen has made for lernch
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
1:13 pm
Let’s see what Queen has made for lernch
Imma need Queen to pack me a lernch box. Melo, can you make that happen?
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
1:16 pm
Melo, I was going down to the kitchen one evening and asked him if he needed something back, he said no. He is fine. I get back and he asked me if I mind going back to get him a glass of water. I told him Yes I mind but he said please so I went back down. I got one of those big 20 oz tumblers and filled it with water. I walked over to the bed when he reached for it I poured it all over him.
Yeah we had to change the sheets and blanket but I got my point across. LOL I made for a good laugh and play fighting event.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
1:16 pm
but I am okay with getting it 5-6 days a week because I realize it is just not possible all the time
him and I AGREE
@ I am
left over brown rice,chicken and lima beens
she packed it and left it on the kitchen counter!
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
1:17 pm
@Professor ~ yeah I thought he was attractive, but dumb of him to ask if my friends thought he was cute. Always needed his ego stroked and one reason why he’s stroking alone!
@Melo ~ yes, she came back to visit many times.
That was funny, SlimCoo-Coo
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
1:18 pm
AAWWWWW @ Melo
That sound so sweet right there. Did she fold your napkin into a heart and pack a love note too?
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
1:19 pm
Random thought: I can tell my ex wants me back but I’m not sure I want him back.
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
1:19 pm
Random thought: Yep really liking how my girls look!!!!
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
1:20 pm
but dumb of him to ask if my friends thought he was cute.
Leggs, maybe he thought your friends acceptance was his ticket in. You know some men think women date only according what their friends like.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR SPRINT AINT ISH
March 29th, 2010
1:20 pm
I HATE HATE HATE SPRINT. Paying to get out of my contract today. What are other viable options? Who likes their phone company? TMobile was the front runner but seems today they are having issues so I cant even get hooked up today.. D@mn!
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
1:22 pm
I ran from Sprint to Verizon.
Never been happier
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
1:22 pm
@i am ~ I can tell the same thing, but I know I don’t want him back.
@Raqi ~ you know that would make sense but I knew how conceited he was. You know when she left he’s saying “did she say I was cute, did she say I was cute.” I told we didn’t even discuss you. So, she never said I was cute. Crap like that!
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
1:24 pm
I ran from Sprint to TMobile 5 years ago.
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
1:30 pm
Speaking of exes, mine called me when he heard about my recent purchase. He sounded very sad & bothered even though he claimed to be happy for me. He then goes on to say he feels left out and that this isn’t working out for him. I was sitting looking confused because he said that as if we were together. I said what do you mean it’s not working out for you…we aren’t together. He then says, well that’s what i mean. Us not being together is not working out for me. I miss you, am lonely and I recall when you used to keep me in the loop for what was going on in your life. He also wanted to know about my Friday night since my fb page status said I was still feeling buzzed from previous night. He was like so where did you go? I said well I didn’t go to a club or anything. He sat silent and was like well what did you do. Told him I went to a friends house. He sounded even more sad. Guess he’s starting to feel some kind of way but Oh Well
Melo
March 29th, 2010
1:30 pm
And I think Mid-East men are even worst. Especially the nations that don’t think highly of women.
@Raqi??
if u look at it in western/american way,what with women’s lib ,u will have that opinion but i doubt they regard it as enslaving women or as treating women less.And the women will prolly defend their men too.
One thing i must tell u is that educated africans and educated middle eastern pple regard some aspects of western & european civilizations and culture as morally backward and grasping on to that as neo-colonialistic.
Those viewpoints u subscribe to really wont be highly regarded.
Its just the way their societal mores are.
I wld certainly punch any man in the face if they regarded my okra,cow bull balls or trotters eating habits as backward in my face.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
1:31 pm
We are with AT&T now from Verizon. I went with “Bellsouth” when I was cutting back on household expenses and at the time they had the best deal in terms of Combo packages. DSL, landline and mobile.
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
1:33 pm
DK I’ve had T-mobile for some years now and I haven’t had any real issues. Today was a first that the whole system was down, that I can recall. Do you not like Verizon?
DreamsMaterialize
March 29th, 2010
1:34 pm
Slim You silly. That’s wassup though.
Yep really liking how my girls look!!!!
I am sup girl. I see you (and your two friends) feeling mighty sexy today. lol Do ya thing.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
1:34 pm
T-mobile was always the highest in cost to me.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
1:39 pm
Did she fold your napkin into a heart and pack a love note too?
@ I am…..
honey,that wld have been “luv overload”
I waterd her bermuda triangle garden and flowers(u know that place where dyzzles dissappear) last nite(2xs) so we dont have any luv shortage in the house!
Luvbug
March 29th, 2010
1:39 pm
I guess its just better to say,”baby, I like ur breasts and ur friend got nice ones too”
better??
Melo- You’re just completely unmanageable!! LOL
DreamsMaterialize
March 29th, 2010
1:40 pm
regard some aspects of western & european civilizations and culture as morally backward and grasping on to that as neo-colonialistic.
Much of western policy toward Africa is neo-colonialistic. Imperialism is alive and well. The colonization is more subtle and sophisticated now…they don’t even have to have a physical presence in the region to implement their strategies. They can use certain locals to do their dirty work for them.
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
1:40 pm
slim: your ex sounds like my son’s father.
he was so upset that I bought a house without him and didn’t consult with him about it.
I was like : WE ARE BROKEN UP!!!! THAT’S WHY YOU WEREN’T INVOLVED!!!!
dumb asses!!!
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
1:41 pm
LOL at Melo’s gardening!
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
1:41 pm
Dreams MAT:
I’m loving my over the shoulder bolder holder so yes, the girls look great today!!!
RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore
March 29th, 2010
1:45 pm
@slim..thats cruel…cut that dude off….
off topic….the new badu release…is straight…
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
1:45 pm
I am – Yeah all of a sudden he ‘misses’ me but where was all that missing when he was in NC for the CIAA or in New Yawk the following weekend, or when he was out partying it up the last 2 weekends, or out at the shoe show, or while he was puff puff passing? Spsssssh puh-leaze! You don’t miss me, you just miss my froggystyle
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
1:45 pm
Leggs: Please don’t clown me on this one but I forgot to give dude the key.
And he doesn’t seem to want it back….
He told me that he had been trying to reach me but wasn’t able to get thru.
I made it clear to him that I was only trying to get in touch in the past to get my stuff back.
Anyhoo, he told me something that I’m having a hard time processing
I don’t feel as strongly about him as I did before.
I don’t know how I feel about him other than the fact that I prefer to keep my distance.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
1:46 pm
Slim, so many never know what they had until it’s gone.
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
1:47 pm
Spsssssh puh-leaze! You don’t miss me, you just miss my froggystyle
LMBAO@@@@@@
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
1:47 pm
@SexyCoo-Coo ~ that’s exactly how my ex feels but I won’t carry on a convo like that with him anymore. When he dropped lil leggs off the other day he said “you doing your thing and taking great care of her.” All I said was “thanks” and good night. A know if I give even a little encouragement he will think cupid hit him with its arrow!
LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!
March 29th, 2010
1:47 pm
Melo- You’re just completely unmanageable!! LOL Yes, he is
Slim – Toe nail clippings?
I Am – So what’s really going on?
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
1:47 pm
Spsssssh puh-leaze! You don’t miss me, you just miss my froggystyle
LMBAO!!!! Yep Yep!!! LOL!!!
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
1:49 pm
LL: the ex basically told me so stuff which translates to him having insecurities.
I can’t deal with a man with insecurities. He has to work those out.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
1:51 pm
They can use certain locals to do their dirty work for them.
@DreamsM!!
YEAH,they use green$$$!
when pple accept another race’s mores wholesale and as superior,thats selling out…..neocolonialism at best…
even here in america its happening…no wonder…(ima leave it there) …going too political for dating……
I want u to swing u nanas however way u want,black,brown,white,yellow..
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
1:51 pm
I am whatever, is that ex your child’s father?
lurker
March 29th, 2010
1:52 pm
this one guy that comes in and plants his hinny on my desk. I hate it. I actually put a tray in that spot and he pushes it over to give himself room to sit
ya’ll are funny. there are nothing but offices on this floor and 2 admin work stations…aside from visiting on work related issues, most keep their doors closed.
LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!
March 29th, 2010
1:54 pm
@ I AM … I can’t deal with a man with insecurities. He has to work those out. <<<Right On!
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
1:55 pm
I am – sometimes, I just don’t know about you, honeybunch. But I wish you the best.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
1:56 pm
Swirl, Yes. Fat Chicks, No. Leggs, Congrats. Melo, me also.
Anything I forget to answer?
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
1:58 pm
lurker, he comes in here relating to business but he still sits on my desk. I have to offer a seat in the chair. When will he get a clue.
lurker
March 29th, 2010
1:59 pm
Radiating – LOL…he probably won’t.
RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore
March 29th, 2010
2:00 pm
I am – Yeah all of a sudden he ‘misses’ me but where was all that missing when he was in NC for the CIAA or in New Yawk the following weekend, or when he was out partying it up the last 2 weekends, or out at the shoe show, or while he was puff puff passing? Spsssssh puh-leaze! You don’t miss me, you just miss my froggystyle
@slim…i can sometimes pull the vanishing act as well…here is the reason I DO IT…its because boo huggin with you all weekend is boring….the flip side is the fantasy of a good time or the potentiall to meet new..active….dynamic women…that will not be on the boo hug program. I have told some of my peoples…stop dating on the couch…even after you guys have relations…we men still need alot of stimuli from our women not just between her legs…we need activity…lots of it….so invite your dude out to your spots…thats what we like…i will pull the vanishing act if my weekend start looking a marriage..where we always doing low key stuff….thats why i have done it in the past…and maybe just maybe he might have done it…i mean the ciaa = women/fun/festive…weekend with you=sex maybe…movie..couple of dranks..maybe…feel me
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
2:00 pm
SexyCool, I don’t get what her problem is. She will post stuff then when people comment she feels like she is being attacked. Maybe she needs to get a dog.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
2:02 pm
but he still sits on my desk. I have to offer a seat in the chair
u are doing sme wrong obviously!!
check ur body lingo then!
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:04 pm
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity : no ex in question is not my son’s father.
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:06 pm
sitting on your desk?
ARe you serious?
I would push him off, that’s just me.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:06 pm
As usual I am lost. So the topics are breast, ex dudes, something with foreigners and something else.
Can we post up who is a male, female who is married,single or LTR. I swear that some I think are men turn out to be women and vice versa. Also, how many different lurker names are there?
I’m on a horse……….
Dan
March 29th, 2010
2:06 pm
@Slim/I am
Give them dudes time to get over “it” (read: you)
I try not to call my “ex’s”, and the numbers I do have require me to unlock my phone to call (one good DD incident should set a cat straight).
But it’s not easy for us to get over a relationship, just as it isn’t for you all sometimes. So to get on your horse riding hard on a dude that may genuinely miss you, try a little empathy. Or better yet, remember when you were on the other end of that phone for someone for him or someone else.
…roses really smell like boo-booooo-oo-oh
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
2:07 pm
Leggs – As one of my male friends told me, they like to keep a fishing line sitting in the water. They don’t want to cut any strings, or burn any bridges..They feel more comfortable thinking that there is always some sort of attachment or chance for them to get back in the door. When we, women, are still emotionally attached to them, they use that to their advantage. However, as time goes on and we distance ourselves from them, it causes that emotional tie to dwindle and that’s when they perk up like WHAO Tanto, what’s going on with this girl..she’s getting too far from me, let me do or say something to see where she is in hopes that I can get her to bite on my rod again.
My dad actually got onto me this weekend about ‘wasting’ that long period of time with what he called a boy in a grown persons body. He said you ought to get p!ssed off and mad enough to use that as a motivator to do better…show them that w/o them you will still succeed.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
2:09 pm
Melo, there is nothing wrong or questionable about my body lingo. He is just on of those people that gets in your space. If you are helping him look up something on the net he hovers over you. He is a space invader. And not the good kind.
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
2:10 pm
“I’m on a horse……….”
@Carlito LMAO!!!!!!!! I think that is like the g-ayest dudes in the world. That is one weirdest commercials I’ve seen in a long time.
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
2:10 pm
Got a text from an ex Saturday night, it read “Still not feeling me?”
My response: “Still feeling him.”
His last response: “Whatever! You make me sick.”
I laughed my ass off.
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:11 pm
Dan: I honestly feel for my ex.
I’m not up here bragging that he misses me.
I simply stated that because I couldn’t believe it.
I thought he was over me the minute he said good-bye.
Didn’t know he cared.
I care about him deeply and wish him the best.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:12 pm
Raqi, I can not stand those types of people. Especially guys that when you shake their hand that want to pull you all in close with some sort of fraternal handshake type grab. Excuse me, but just a hand shake or grasp will do. No need to have to invade each others personal space. I have mastered throwing up the elbow on the same arm when that happens.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
2:12 pm
“Whatever! You make me sick.”
That made me laugh out loud.
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:13 pm
I’m on a horse
I don’t get it :S:
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
2:13 pm
“So to get on your horse riding hard on a dude that may genuinely miss you, try a little empathy”
@Dan – you know the history with ole boy enough to know this can’t apply to me. If he misses me so much, what is he doing or willing to do to rememdy the situation (even though i’m over considering a r’ship with him it at this point…friendship at some point but not a r’ship) 8-10yrs is a helluva long time to have all that stuff figured out…not planning on wasting anymore time like that again. The fool told me, just because I wasn’t going to marry you today, you assumed that I didn’t or never was going to marry you. WTF! Like Carlito, I’m on a horse, riding off into the sunset on that one.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:14 pm
I am,
Melo
March 29th, 2010
2:15 pm
He is just on of those people that gets in your space
so do u have a problem telling pple off,whether they like it or not??
he dont have to like u,but tell him whats up……
one of my chinese co-wrkers borrowed a copy of my current fortune to read,durinng office hrs..he dont return it and i go to his desk at closing,hes gone….
next morn, I went str8 to his office and told him,”bro,u borrow my stuff, u bring it back same day coz thats my dime,unless i let u keep it” he was
for a day or 2 but he str8 now…asks me stuff on the regular…..we pals again.
dont let sme stuff fester unless u want it to.
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:15 pm
Okay folk.
Time for Nap
Catch you on the flip
RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore
March 29th, 2010
2:18 pm
E badu = female version of the “love below”…but a lil more smart mouth…lol…she is straight funny with it
Dan
March 29th, 2010
2:19 pm
@Slim
Trust me, I get it.
I’ve let my share slip through my fingers, and it takes awhile and some time to realize what you had. But you get over it (read: her) and into something new (read: life) and hold no ill will. I’m jussayin, either cut old dude off, set him straight about the extent of your current and future feelings, or deal with him until he figures it out for himself.
@I am
Sorry, if I interpreted it that way; but that’s how it read originally.
RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore
March 29th, 2010
2:20 pm
ladies stand up…listen to the lyrics..she kills it
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U7mhDSIM73k
RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore
March 29th, 2010
2:21 pm
@dan..you spitting that real…but i vote to cute him off..what pleasure do you get from seeing your “superman” reduced to this…you must be that kryptonite…fa real.
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
2:22 pm
“So to get on your horse riding hard on a dude that may genuinely miss you, try a little empathy”
Maybe he should have thought about how he was going to miss me when he was dogging me the hell out and acting like his sht didn’t stink. When he thought he could tell me that bullsht was cotton candy and think that I was stupid enough to believe that mess indefinitely.
Yeah, um..Chunking up the W (whatever) – some dckheads gets no *I miss you after the fact* love…
in fact…they can miss me with THAT…
That is all.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
2:22 pm
Diet Motto: There is nothing that taste as good as being thin feels.
Remember that the next you are attempted to order that slice of raspberry swirl cheesecake.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:23 pm
I am on a horse,
riding backwards.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
2:25 pm
I am on a horse
The first time I saw the Old Spice commercial I thought the guy was kinda cute and sexy. Especially standing in the bathroom. Now the more I see it the gheyer is looks and sounds.
RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore
March 29th, 2010
2:27 pm
@raqi..nice quote
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:27 pm
SlimOne, I do not know your backstory. I will say this, if you let stuff hang around or linger it does no good for you. Now come water my lawn
“what’s in your my hand, now back at me. It’s an oyster containing two tickets to that thing you love, look again, THE TICKETS ARE NOW DIAMONDS!!!!”
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
2:27 pm
@melo – your 2:15 reminds me of this chick at my last job. Now a good friend of mine would always let me get her US Weekly to read during lunch/breaks whatever. So on occasion the chick would ask to borrow them whenever I got done. One day I go to lunch and come back and the mag is missing from my desk, that I had already started reading. I’m looking all over asking around for my mag so someone finally says they saw ole girl take it….So I march my lil azz right over to her desk and said, Did you take my mag off my desk. She was like oh I didn’t think you were here today. I was like, yeah i’ve been here all day and I stepped out for lunch and even if i was here I’d appreciate it if you didn’t take stuff off my desk without my permission, aside from the fact that i was still reading it…She apologized and she never did that again
lurker
March 29th, 2010
2:29 pm
I Am…I think you’re wishful thinking. Is this the same dude that stood you up? First of all, at this point in the game (remember going commando and stuff all to impress), he wouldn’t even get a meeting scheduled. Next, if I did go for that and he stood me up…at this point…he couldn’t lick my boots let alone spit on me. I think you’re self inflicting and doing a lot of wishful thinking.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:29 pm
I just see the commercial as humorous( like he is just appealing to every womans needs), I dont look at the sexuality of it. I do think Reggie Bush is gay though.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:30 pm
I Am, you went to meet a guy with no panties on and he stood you up? Did he know you were sans undies? That had to hurt.
Dan
March 29th, 2010
2:34 pm
@SC
Anger is hurt turned outward…phychology 101.
To truly be at peace about anything, you must first forgive yourself and then the other person (even if it was all his fault).
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
2:34 pm
“I do think Reggie Bush is gay though.”
Carlito – that was a random thought if I ever read one. LOL!
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
2:36 pm
Ain’t no woman going pantiless that don’t want that man to get up in there. Impress my behind. She is trying to bait and he is not biting. Why keep doing that to yourself?
Despite what some would have you believe I am a man will not know that you are not wearing drawers just because you are not wearing them.
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
2:36 pm
I like the Old Spice commercial, it actually makes me chuckle. When I first saw it, the “I’m on a horse” was funny cuz it wasn’t expected. I don’t even look at what he’s saying, I’m watching the editing of the commercial. Very smooth.
@Carlito ~ in her defense, she had pantyhose on!
Melo
March 29th, 2010
2:37 pm
She apologized and she never did that again
@Slimone??
yeah,the truth hurts,even when its urself being told off….
But the truth cleanses coz it sets u free!
I hate angst! esp having to angst alone when the muthfcker concerned is oblivious and enjoying themselves!
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
2:37 pm
Whatever, Dan.
I don’t have to give any asshole time out of my life to prove a damn thing. I should give someone some consideration who didn’t consider me? <-That sht is crazy.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
2:38 pm
…I think you’re self inflicting and doing a lot of wishful thinking…you went to meet a guy with no panties on and he stood you up?…That had to hurt.
And IIIIIIIIII EEEEEEEE IIIIIII will always love youUUUUUUUU
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:39 pm
Leggs, no panties ar no panties.
Raqi, I agree with everything you just said.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:40 pm
Sexy Cool, I see that you are a little firecracker as well.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:42 pm
If you put the “koo” on the platter and the man does not partake. Well that is worse than____ I don’t know that is just bad. You must have some messed up mentals for him to not even want the “koo” when it is a freebie.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:44 pm
But then again, if I call a woman and tell her I am meeting her without any boxers on, if she comes does that mean we are going to do the do?
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
2:44 pm
Like I told Shthead when he texted me on Christmas eve (obviously missing me),
“While I sincerely hope that you and yours are living your best life possible, I have no desire to maintain any contact with you at all.”
Fck him and the horse he rode in on.
DreamsMaterialize
March 29th, 2010
2:45 pm
What’s up with people responding to texts and phone calls of the ex’s they say they don’t want to have anything to do with? When it’s over, it’s over. Only way I’m responding to a text or phone call is if I want back in. If you want people to stop contacting you, you have to X them out completely. They have to know that it’s more probable to get a rock to converse with them than it is to get a hold of you.
RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore
March 29th, 2010
2:45 pm
I think you’re self inflicting and doing a lot of wishful thinking.
I think you’re self inflicting and doing a lot of wishful thinking.
I think you’re self inflicting and doing a lot of wishful thinking.
wow
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:46 pm
SexyCool, he is not over you. As long as you keep responding he will keep trying. And that guy was definitely “not on a horse” LOL
I am on a horse
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:47 pm
DreamMaterialize, I agree. I think sometimes people try and hurt those who hurt them so they respond with harsh words. But I could be worng.
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
2:47 pm
Radiant – I know you have baby girl a beautiful Easter dress already. Looks like I waited a little late to get SO’s little girl something. I went out at lunch looking, but I just didn’t like what I saw, the pickings were slim. She’s a slim girls 7 now, out of the little girls stuff which is prettier, I think. Some of it looks a little too grown for my taste. I like for kids to look aristocratic – I’m a little conservative about children’s clothes.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:48 pm
Okay, this is the last season of “24″. I am sad
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
2:48 pm
@Carlito ~ I realize that, but we didn’t know she was wearing pantyhouse until after many exchanges. Heck, who’s to say how one pines for another. Me, I couldn’t have done half of what she did or bait myself with excuses the way she did. But, we each do things differently. “I am” did it her way.
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
2:49 pm
WHAT CARLITO, THE LAST SEASON….SAY IT AIN’T SO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:50 pm
Lurker: please tell me what I am wishfully thinking of.
Being that you are the expert and all.
Too bad you didn’t read the post where I said I don’t think I want him back.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
2:51 pm
I call a woman and tell her I am meeting her without any boxers on, if she comes does that mean we are going to do the do?
That depends…but can I feel you up in the meantime?
I have no desire to maintain any contact with you at all….Fck him and the horse he rode in on.
Alot of guys can’t handle shyt like that cause they’re not used to it…oh well it is what it is…deal with it.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
2:51 pm
I will only call a long benched chic,if if i have to,only if we neva went there….coz walking always leaves u unfulifilled.
No way I will call a chic back that i previously dismissed unless im on sahara Big time.
and only on sahara,not to get back together.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:52 pm
My name is Carlito and I am just here to say. Have a Happy Easter Day
Leggs, I will admit I do not know the intricacies of how women contain their lady parts. She had something in mind that he did not. Oh well, you win some and you lose some.
Dan
March 29th, 2010
2:52 pm
@Dreams
That’s my whole thing with a breakup. Whether the dumper or dumpee, how do we go from like/love to “I can’t stand you”?
That isht don’t make no sense. If you cared you care. Like I don’t want any of my ex’s to die or nothing (again, whether dumper or dumpee). And I do like to know that they’re okay in the ‘human condition’ sense of caring. But that’s it. I don’t go where I don’t want to/am not wanted.
@SC
I didn’t say prove anything to anyone, I was saying to move beyond it.
But, yeah, whatever.
RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore
March 29th, 2010
2:52 pm
http://www.yardbarker.com/all_sports/article_external/Tweet_Life_Open_Secret_About_Athletes_Groupies/2328927
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:53 pm
<—-googling that I am on a horse commercial.
i still don't get it.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:54 pm
Leggs, yes it is all over and done with in May.
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
2:54 pm
Carlito – please stop saying “I’m on a horse” folks at the job keep thinking i’m laughing at them. LOL! Btw, having that sweater tied around his neck was Ghey! lol
Anybody seen the orbitz commercial where a dude & chick are sitting in back seat of a car making out and she stops saying, “You do have something right” (as if referring to a condom) and buddy pulls out a pack of orbitz gum
Next scene is a dude in the bedroom with his girl. She like you have something so he runs to his roomie’s room and says bro can you help me out. He pulls drawer of his night stand open and passes dude a pack of the gum. LMAO
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:56 pm
Okay just watched that I’m on a horse commercial.
LOL
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:57 pm
If you have a lot of hate towards an ex, its my interpertation that you still have feelings, My ex fiance hurt me deep, do I still have some feelings, of course. but I know she is not the best thing for me. I do not let anyone control my temper or reactions, because that means they have more control over me than I do myself. And the only people that can do that are the ones I care about.
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:57 pm
yeah I remember that orbitz gum commerical too. LOL
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
2:58 pm
Kimmie, yeah I found one at Macys. And I am with you on how mature the clothes look now that they are making for little girls. My bff sews really well and if need be when the time come I will pay her to make appropriate Sunday clothing for the little lady.
We are going to be spending Easter at the grand-godmother. They are having this Easter thing and picnic for kids at her church following their morning service. And then we will be having Easter dinner at her house. She is going to take care of Elizabeth while we are on our cruise so I am pretty accommodating to her request right now. LOL
I don’t doubt that she will take care of her just as good as I do. But I don’t want to plant any ill feelings. LOL
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:58 pm
I don’t hate any of my exes.
I wish them all the best.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
2:58 pm
If you have a lot of hate towards an ex, its my interpertation that you still have feelings
I think they admit that!
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:58 pm
SlimOne, look at me.
I Am, that commercial is funny isn’t it. Do you have on panties right now?
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
2:58 pm
how do we go from like/love to “I can’t stand you”?
Dan – It’s easier than you think. Have somebody rip your heart out that CLAIMED to like/love you & you’d see how easy it is. But unless you’ve been there, you won’t get it.
As for me, for the most part, there are very few people on this earth I will say I just cant stand. My exes – for many reasons things just didn’t work out. I don’t hate them. But there is one I truly can say I can’t stand. Thinking back, we really were never friends. I don’t like him as a person. He’s just not very nice.
lurker
March 29th, 2010
2:59 pm
She is trying to bait and he is not biting. Why keep doing that to yourself?
I agree – Raqi
Dreams – I agree with you as well. You know, if I had to X someone, no matter the reason, no matter the temptation to go back I’m not going back. We’re all adults here and have all had pretty much the same experience at some point, place or time and we all know that if folks hanging on or dangling it’s because that’s what you allow. As well as us all knowing you can send one message (whichever way you choose to deliver…p2p, f2f, text, phone call…whatever) and say it right once and that will drive the nail in the coffin. And for the sake of argument, let’s say they don’t “get it” when you say it’s over or “thanks but no thanks”, you can ig. You can ig until they get it. That is, if you’re done. If you’re not, just say so or at least be able to admit it. As a woman, I hate to see women bring about self inflicting wounds. Love yourself.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:59 pm
I think it is time for some Rick James.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:00 pm
Carlito, there is no other that a woman will meet up the ex without the drawers unless she is hoping for something. BASIC. INSTINCT.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:01 pm
Kimmie, “He’s just not very nice.” you are such a potty mouth
J/K
lurker
March 29th, 2010
3:01 pm
I Am…too bad you didn’t read the post where I said I don’t think I want him back
You’ve said it often but it never rings true. What you fail to know is that the tone of your posts about this ex says everything but “I don’t think I want him back”
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:02 pm
Love Them and Leave them,
That’s What I Used To Do.
Use and Abuse them, until I laid eyes on you.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
3:03 pm
Ladies??
when u go out smewhere,meet a dude and u exchange numbers,have u ever called him first..ever?
how did it go?
guys??
a chic calling u first after that exchange the previous day,do u interpret that as thirsty??
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:04 pm
“I don’t think” well that is not a “no” you have to know what you want first.
If someone asks me if I want a million dollars I would not say “I think I may want it”
I Am, are you currently entertaining anyone else?
Dan
March 29th, 2010
3:04 pm
@Kimmie
Point of order – I have, still don’t hate her.
I don’t understand, but I don’t hate her for making a decision that she thought was best for her. Hate is a wasted emotion in that situation.
It’s like being mad at the wall, IMO
Luvbug
March 29th, 2010
3:04 pm
I think sometimes people try and hurt those who hurt them so they respond with harsh words. But I could be worng.
Carlito- I am (was) guilty of that…I had no intentions of getting back with one guy, but I sure had some words saved up just in case he called. They we’re soooo good and ugly…
That fool didn’t call me.
I never called him either, but it’s funny thinking about it now…
If I saw him now, I wouldn’t even be prepared.
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
3:06 pm
Carlito – LOL!! That was the best way I could put it & not get thrown off the blog! But I don’t wish him ill will, I just don’t wish him anything.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:07 pm
LuvBug, my ex made it a point to be at the local eatery when I was home, she always does that. I felt nothing now my Julia gave her a look that would have made Satan piss himself. It took awhile for me to get to that point though, but many years later I am fine. I kind of think to myself”not going to make the same mistake twice”
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
3:08 pm
Dan – Well, with me “can’t stand” and “hate” are 2 different things and I’ll let it go at that. Can’t nobody walk in my shoes, though.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
3:08 pm
a woman will meet up the ex without the drawers unless she is hoping for something.
Plain and simple.
until I laid eyes on you.
And it was paaaaaaaiiiiin before pleasuuure…..
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
3:08 pm
Um..yeah..well that particular ex could kill himSELF and I wouldn’t bat an eye.
And I will say that for 99% of the dudes that I have dealt with, I wish no ill will and have no problem being cordial to them – like dude from Saturday night’s text.
But, don’t make it sound like there is something wrong with me cause I don’t want to deal with them.
And for the select few that could fall off the face of the earth today, well, the world would be a better place without them.
lurker
March 29th, 2010
3:08 pm
I Am…and yes I’ve been there…not stood up even when meeting commando but hurt…a hurt that you can’t put in words but I dunno, not being a know it all nor being “hard” just not into being broken and broken down. Grieve and cry and do what you have to but then suck it up and move on. If it’s just the fact that you’re wanting him to know what he missed (remember…going commando) he can’t miss what’s still there and available. IF and I say if, he’ll going to reflect back and come to see he lost out on someone fantabulous it’s gotta be where he’s had enough time to go without, seeing you, having you, having access, know you’re no longer readily available. Move on. If he’s gonna miss you, it won’t be until then….most times. Not all. Sometimes they just move on. I still say men ain’t like us. They can set it aside and KIM
PrincessNik..T.G.I.F....Thang God I'm Fabulous
March 29th, 2010
3:09 pm
Hey All,
looks the topic has turned to when your Ex (x) becomes your why (Y), yall have had me laughing today especially Carlito. Hope everyone is having a good one!
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:09 pm
I am, if you don’t want him back why do you keep entertaining it. Obviously the stuff that he has of yours is of no real value if you have gone this long without getting it back. That is something the police can help you get easily. That is if you wanted the stuff and not just to maintain contact with him.
Stop setting yourself up for that guy to use you because that just may be what you get in the end.
Or you want us to just talk at you about it.
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
3:10 pm
@I am ~ you used the words “don’t think.” Therefore, there’s a strong possibility!
My name is Rick James, BIOTCH!
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
3:10 pm
Okay, Carlito, looks like you’ve been holding out on us with the drama! You didn’t tell us you all ran into HER!
But cool Julia, yeah, a look is all it takes sometimes,lol!!
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:11 pm
Grieve and cry and do what you have to
lurker, we have told her that before. She needs to get a dog.
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
3:11 pm
And…I thought my response to Shthead’s Christmas text was quite cordial. And if nothing else, it was certainly effective. I haven’t heard from him since then.
PrincessNik..T.G.I.F....Thank God I'm Fabulous
March 29th, 2010
3:11 pm
I felt nothing now my Julia gave her a look that would have made Satan piss himself
Melo
March 29th, 2010
3:12 pm
but I don’t hate her for making a decision that she thought was best for her
@Dan??
what if it was best for her but at ur expense,or the expense of ur integrity,smehow??
like say,she sleeping with u but sleeping with another dude and u dont know but sme pple around u do and not telling u??
lurker
March 29th, 2010
3:12 pm
Oh and I Am…my 3:08 was because you seem to be into wanting him to want you…girl, move on…plain and simple.
RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore
March 29th, 2010
3:13 pm
@Dan
i remember during pre-martial classes..they stated “marriage will be the first time you considering seriously killing someone when its bad”…let that sink in
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:13 pm
Sexy Cool, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but there is something wrong with you. You have toleit tissue stuck to your foot and your dress is tucked into your panties in the back. I expect better of management.
PrincessNik, how are you
Sassy, that was my claim to fame ( I think that is the next line, I am not using Google)
lurker
March 29th, 2010
3:14 pm
Radiating – I know. Maybe it’s theraupetic for her to hear someone say that…constantly. She don’t know this blog very well. It’s a thin line between getting empathy or the dumb brick thrown your way…lol
Luvbug
March 29th, 2010
3:15 pm
LuvBug, my ex made it a point to be at the local eatery when I was home, she always does that.
Carlito – Yeah, that’s suspect (or completely obvious)…Now I don’t call or follow, but if I were in your situation, I imagine myself saying, “Wow, you’re here everytime I’m here. Are you expecting me?”
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
3:16 pm
he can’t miss what’s still there and available.
ditto….
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:16 pm
If you see a dumb chick slap her with a brick. Brought to you by the Dumb Chick Rubber Brick Company.
I’m not only the founder but once a rubber brick slapped chick.
Dan
March 29th, 2010
3:18 pm
@Melo
Run your logic again.
Her cheating on me with/without my knowledge is not (does not equal) anything to do with MY integrity. If she was cheating, that was on her (for the record I doubt that she did).
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:18 pm
She likes the airtime. All she has to do is input on the topic or random conversations. Heck flirt with Melo, he’ll give her all the attention she wants and some that she don’t. LOL
PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous
March 29th, 2010
3:19 pm
Carlito
I’m cool just been busy today trying to get ahead since i’m taking some days off later this week.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
3:19 pm
my 3:08 was because you seem to be into wanting him to want you…girl, move on…plain and simple.
SassaFrass now standing on the side of the ring yelling “Throw the towel…throw the dayum towel!”
that was my claim to fame
uuuuuused and abuuuuused theeem…..
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
3:19 pm
I’m not only the founder but once a rubber brick slapped chick.
PRICELESS!!
RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore
March 29th, 2010
3:19 pm
If you see a dumb chick slap her with a brick. Brought to you by the Dumb Chick Rubber Brick Company.
I’m not only the founder but once a rubber brick slapped chick.
- again mason is a lucky arse dude..hit the lottery with you…per–od
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
3:21 pm
Lurker= Troll
Carlito: I date but I’m not serious with anyone as of yet.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:21 pm
Italian women, no explanation. The day I got there or the day before I got there, I cant remember. I got an email from her saying that she knew I would be in town, I cant remember. I did not respond, but somehow Julia was the reason she knew. (Italian women are extra territorial) that Saturday night there is one eatery that is old land Italian it all of the local families meet there on Saturday evenings if not for a meal but for a drink or so. Very small tight knit community. We walk in, my papa stands up to toast to Julia and I. At that point I just sensed a slight twitch in Julia I look at her and see her face then I look to see what she is staring at and it is the ex-fiance. I hear she is getting slapped around on the regular now. Oh well.
LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!
March 29th, 2010
3:22 pm
@ Raqi….He is a space invader. And not the good kind.
There are two here…when they walk in my office instead of making eye contact with me their eyes are on my computer screen… just last Fridays one cross the “halt” line and came up to stand behind my chair.
Hell, she was so occupied with trying to look at my screen she went cross-eyed… my screen is at an angle away from the door.
RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore
March 29th, 2010
3:22 pm
@lito…why come i-talian women dont date black dudes..did jungle fever scare them…lol…was is it gator or flipper…lol
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
3:22 pm
Lubug – I like that! “You’re expecting me?”
PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous
March 29th, 2010
3:23 pm
the ex-fiance
say what now?!?!
lurker
March 29th, 2010
3:23 pm
I’m not only the founder but once a rubber brick slapped chick.
LOL…that was funny
Sassyfrass…lol You are killing me.
I Am. You called me a troll? That was fuuunnny!!
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
3:23 pm
Iffen ya cain’t take the heat then….
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:24 pm
I Am, just make sure your mind is right before you get into anything serious. If your “koo” needs to be adjusted just say that upfront to whomever the guy is. You owe it to yourself and the next man to have all issues resolved before proceeding.
Raqi, you are funny
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
3:25 pm
Carlito – I’m picturing all this in my head as I read it – an italian soap opera!LOL!!!
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:25 pm
LOL Leggs, I am the last one to try and pretend like I have never been stupid for a man. I remember it like it was yesterday having what felt like a ton of bricks fall on me.
Luvbug
March 29th, 2010
3:26 pm
extra territorial
Now that spans women of all races, shapes, and ages.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:26 pm
I just find it best to not say anything to an ex, I do not do the friend thing and in my ex finace’s case nothing at all. I do not say anything. My farts and burps are more important to me than her, because I at least say “excuse me” when they show up, even if I am alone.
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
3:27 pm
Carlito: Issues from my past have been worked on and I am happy to more forward.
The only reason why I am not serious is that I haven’t met anyone yet that I want to be serious with.
I date and I have fun but it doesn’t mean everyone I date you can put them in a category of wanting to be serious with.
And to be clear, dating for me does not involve relations.
I save that for someone I’m serious with.
Lord Velonese
March 29th, 2010
3:27 pm
“Too predictable” WD Looks like you have not been around much and anyone else who thinks that.
Three words Daily – You’re sick People!
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
3:27 pm
lurker baby girl seems to be a glutton for punishment from several angles…y’all goin in on that azz but it’s all on deaf ears. That reads like sumthing only a lil experience will remedy…mommy always said experience was/is the best teacher.
You know children call u names when they don’t have anything else to say…
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:29 pm
just make sure your mind is right before you get into anything serious.
Hell screw that. Right now she qualifies for “The best way to get over one man is to get under another” event. It ain’t right but it’s sometimes okay. LOL
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:29 pm
Luvbug, I wish someone else on here could speak on Italian women. Once you have their heart your soul is theirs. New meaning to extra territorial, you are marked. it’s not overbearing but if she see’s someone eyeing and they disrespect her in the least. Watch out. “Don’t look them in the eye’s, that is a sign of disrespect and aggression”
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
3:29 pm
I’m picturing all this in my head as I read it – an italian soap opera!
Or like that “table flipping” episode from Real H’se Wives of New Jersey…classic.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
3:30 pm
Um..yeah..well that particular ex could kill himSELF and I wouldn’t bat an eye.
@Sexxcool thats too strong!!
@Raqi
Heck flirt with Melo, he’ll give her all the attention she wants and some that she don’t.
esp when shes commando,who wants to ignore that??
@Dan
without my knowledge is not (does not equal) anything to do with MY integrity
maybe not altho other dudes will think u aint good throwing it down where it matters most hence her fleet footedness!
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:31 pm
LL411, I will turn my monitor off in a second if a rubbernecker comes in. Even my boss don’t be all up in my work space and he owns the darn company. LOL
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:31 pm
I Am, if you are going to take Raqi’s advice my brother will be here soon. He needs some action. Other blog ladies, sorry you can’t have my brother. Why? Because I am selfish, messed up because I know we won’t hook up but that is the way it is. My virtual world is all MINE
LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!
March 29th, 2010
3:33 pm
@ Raqi… If you see a dumb chick slap her with a brick. Brought to you by the Dumb Chick Rubber Brick Company.
I’m not only the founder but once a rubber brick slapped chick. LMAO
I confess me too!
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:33 pm
Sassy, my ex fiance would not act up to the point of a fight because Julia has to many brothers and sisters. It would not be safe for her around there. Some of those men would not hesitate to smack a woman up at all.
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
3:33 pm
Or like that “table flipping” episode from Real H’se Wives of New Jersey…classic.
Sassy – Okay?!!!LOL!! That was priceless!
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:34 pm
I am whatever, you call lurker a troll but you are the one that keeps putting it out there. Don’t be it out there if don’t want people to respond honestly. If you read the remarks to you on a good day you would see how much they are in your favor and to your benefit. Hell girl some of us have been down that road. What is it you want us to say?
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
3:34 pm
My virtual world is all MINE
Tsk,tsk,tsk…Carlito how u gonna block like that?
Dan
March 29th, 2010
3:34 pm
@melo
At best, another dude knows he’s batting after me in the lineup (whether sex, time, or even thought).
At worst, I care less about a cheating broad and her new dude think about me anyway. <– because I'm an adult, and the opinions of others do not concern me.
Picture me caring what someone else thinks about me…..hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaahaha – hilarious
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:34 pm
Dumb Chick Rubber Brick Company.
I am no longer on a horse. I have fallen off LOL
Melo
March 29th, 2010
3:34 pm
@Randyt??
if u lurking and still in the UK..please hit me up…
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
3:35 pm
“I am the last one to try and pretend like I have never been stupid for a man. I remember it like it was yesterday having what felt like a ton of bricks fall on me.”
That reminds of the movie New Moon. Bella was screaming and outwardly aching for the lost of Edward. Had to tell lil leggs that the pain is real whrn you’re in love but don’t let me hear you do all that sreaming while you’re getting over a boyfriend. I’ll throw you out the window if need be cuz I have a job to get to in the morning!!
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:35 pm
Sassy, I am terrible.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
3:37 pm
Wasn’t that something Kimmie? I thought her and teh hubby were gonna jump each other’s bones right on the spot cause he was looking at her like a “poke chop”….during the reunion show she did say they really got it on that night…
Melo
March 29th, 2010
3:37 pm
what did I am say, that uall are in her bizz like that,giving her advice??
if she still wants old man,she needs to go for it….
old and familiar is better than new new u dont know none about!
Dan
March 29th, 2010
3:37 pm
BOOoooooo!
Bringing up Twilight…..I’m mad that I even know the names (thanks to TMZ).
BOOoooooo, Ms. Leggs, don’t do that no more. Boooooooo!
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
3:38 pm
Carlito, not taking anyone’s advise. I’m not into feeding the animals on this blog.
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
3:39 pm
Sassy, yeah they said it was a turn on! I was cracking up!
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:39 pm
Leggs, I remember when growing up my mom was sympathetic to my sister and I having our hearts broken and crying over it but after a day or so she would tell you “Okay that’s enough. He is not the only boy in the world and will not be last one to probably break your heart.”
That woman was something else. I miss her.
PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous
March 29th, 2010
3:40 pm
I’ll throw you out the window if need be cuz I have a job to get to in the morning!!
LOL literally
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
3:40 pm
Dang the blog has turned into Carlito’s Way up in this camp…but me likey likey….By the way, Lito…um….i’m not wearing any…..deodorant. Does that also qualify as commando?
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:40 pm
I may watch New Moon tonight.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:41 pm
If any of you have kids that are into racing my job is thinking about adding a summer karting camp. With scholarships for single parents.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:42 pm
SlimOne, I am bored nothing to do but look out of the window. The ground is to wet for any progress to be made. I like my new location though.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
3:42 pm
yeah they said it was a turn on! I was cracking up!
Between that and the new “bubbies” he bought her something had to work cause she was for sure nuff preggers then,too
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:43 pm
It also helps, that my other sites have been blocked by the IT department, along with our work arounds.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:43 pm
http://www.atlantamotorsportspark.net/
Forgot to post the link, sorry.
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
3:44 pm
@Dan ~ boooo nothing. Anyone following the Twlight saga know that they’re not together. That’s not even the twist to the movie. Really, I haven’t given anything away.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:44 pm
I’m not into feeding the animals on this blog.
I am whatever, please tell us what the hell is it you want people to say to you. You come up in here with I want him back, I don’t want him back, Imma not wear any panties, Imma keep his key, I want him to want me. Really what is it that you want people to say? That we sympathize with you? Yeah I do. Been there. That’s why I can tell you get over it. Stop entertaining it. Let the dude go. Get another one. Find a hobby.
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
3:45 pm
And you’re never gonna survive, unless, you get a little CRAZY!
Don’t know why that song came to mind!
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:47 pm
Twilight, I thought vampires were supposed to be me and not wear glitter and stuff.
Kimmie, what song is that?
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
3:47 pm
@Raqi ~ yes, it’s my job to be sympathetic. But, on the flip side, it’s my job to knock her back to reality. Grieving is fine, to a point. And, I remember what it’s like to have that teenage love. Well, kinda sorta.
!@Raqi ~ I liked the movie and was disappointed when it ended.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
3:51 pm
Carlito??
anything from ur job that a bro can get on a hook up?
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:51 pm
I Am, does this guy know that you are weak for him?
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:51 pm
♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪ But everything means nothing If I ain’t got you
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
3:52 pm
Little girl we wouldn’t have even known about the shyt if you didn’t bring it up in the first place….DUH is this thing on
Tell you what just don’t blog about him and maybe they’ll stop rippin you a new a*.*hole….this is not rocket science.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:53 pm
Melo, I can get you some free track time if you want or free entry to some of the private events, once we are full speed.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:54 pm
LMBO Sassy.
lurker
March 29th, 2010
3:54 pm
You know children call u names when they don’t have anything else to say…
Yep Sassy…yep yep yep
Raqi – Me too. I’ve been there. Just doesn’t require dangling and forever hanging on to dumb dumb in order to “GET IT”, neither did it require me to hitting the repeat button. As for not feeding the animals on this blog….um, okay…if she say so. Just do it with drawers on…lol
lurker
March 29th, 2010
3:55 pm
Carlito – I Am, does this guy know that you are weak for him?
ALL TOO WELL
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:56 pm
Well it is good that he is not taking advantage of her or the situation.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:57 pm
How old is I Am?
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
3:57 pm
…stepping in and biting my tongue
Yes love hurts, and sometimes talking about it makes the pain better. However when you start twisting reality with play-play you might want to be seen.
@Leggs I love Bella and Edward I cannot wait until the next one comes out.
@Carlito don’t be stingy
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
3:57 pm
As for not feeding the animals on this blog….um, okay…if she say so. Just do it with drawers on…
Okay this is the part where somebody’s gone and got they mama to stop the fight…
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:58 pm
Carlito, I will bet that is why he didn’t show up for their “meeting” or why he hasn’t accepted his key back. He is probably laughing at her with his friends.
Don’t give other people the power to hurt you.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
3:58 pm
@Carlitto
thats whats up.i hope u deliver mayne and wont flame out!
U the new kid on the bloc
some other ex bloger promised me some free, premium strip joint entry passes…unfrtunately,he went ghost be4 I could use that hook up!
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
3:59 pm
Okay, speaking of folks with no drawers on…Friday went to salon to get hair done…passing by the window was a white chick with a little short type sundress on with flip flops, walking with this black dude. No mind you all recall how windy and cool it was. So my first thought is why the hayo does she have that on…Here come a gust of wind and I see all azz!! Chick doesn’t try to hold her dress down or nothing…just kept it moving looking all sad. So you know times are hard when your pimp has you out on a cold windy day with your arse out in broad daylight. I thought the idea was to NOT be so obvious to avoid arrest. SMH
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
4:01 pm
Carlito – It’s called “Crazy” by Seal, Heidi Klum’s husband.
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
4:02 pm
“Okay this is the part where somebody’s gone and got they mama to stop the fight”
Sassy – folks don’t break up fights anymore..We all stand by watching and recording it with our smartphones for you tube later. lol
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
4:03 pm
Well it is good that he is not taking advantage of her or the situation
Carlito, my youngest brother and I are close in age and we grew up pretty close. He taught me some things and one of those things was sometimes a guy gets off in just seeing the lengths a woman will go thru to get his attention and try to get at him more than actually sexing her.
Sometimes it is hard for some women to believe and accept that a guy just don’t want them, meaning sex. However he will entertain her antics just for laughs.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
4:03 pm
Asta manyana blog familia…
lurker
March 29th, 2010
4:03 pm
Well it is good that he is not taking advantage of her or the situation.
Carlito…that’s the point. She wants him to so she’s hurting that he’s not. She doen’t realize yet that in reality, this is to her favor. If they continue the physical and mentally/emotionally he’s left, it’s just gonna keep her hanging on and cause a slow eventual death.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
4:04 pm
Melo, it is a motorsport country club. Once we get up and running fully it will be fun. You have to make sure your car makes it through tech inspection (part of my job) before you hit the track. I do not do the strip club thing, waste of money to me.
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
4:05 pm
Carlito so you do race car stuff?
Melo
March 29th, 2010
4:07 pm
So you know times are hard when your pimp has you out on a cold windy day with your arse out in broad daylight
@Slim??
Times are hard too when u have to get ur hair done on moreland or bank head hywy
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
4:08 pm
Raqi, yes we like to see a woman squirm sometimes and he and his friends are probably laughing. I am sure his new woman is laughing as well, believe you me they talk about it.
lurker, well that’s not cool, but you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them think. (yes I meant to type “think” instead of “drink”)
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
4:11 pm
melo Suck a phatty. lol I was nowhere near moreland or bankhead…I’m on da eastside shawty! lol
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
4:11 pm
I Am, my back ground is mechanical engineering. I am employed as a race engineer.
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
4:12 pm
some other ex bloger promised me some free, premium strip joint entry passes…unfrtunately,he went ghost be4 I could use that hook up!
Melo,
Which blogger did that…please list moniker?
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
4:12 pm
Oh okay cool!
I think that’s awesome what you are doing about starting up the camp.
Best of luck with that.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
4:12 pm
The “tea party” seems like a modern day Klan to me. Anyone have any thoughts on this, Melo?
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
4:13 pm
Professor I’m not sure who that was but I do not that you get in free or reduced admission to the cheetah if you have a ticket stub from any atlanta event.
Hope that helps.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
4:14 pm
I Am, my dream was to work full time with an F1 race team( me being Italian and all
). Those jobs are few and far between. So now I have accepted the role with my parent company and I am fine and it is exciting as well.
Raqi
March 29th, 2010
4:16 pm
I predict that I am going to cook stuffed flounder for dinner and I predict that the man and the boy is going to love it.
Good night everyone.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
4:16 pm
Oh, it is not me starting the camp up. I just read it in a company wide email. I do not know the particulars as of yet.
LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!
March 29th, 2010
4:18 pm
Raqi?
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
4:21 pm
Carlito: Keep on believing and your dreams will come true one day

You’ll get there papi!
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
4:22 pm
oooh I could go for a tom collins right now!
Melo
March 29th, 2010
4:22 pm
Anyone have any thoughts on this, Melo?
@Carlito??
I am surprised the media gives Palin that much attn. She wld go head to head with my elder dghter in a debate. Too ingoramus to even comment.
I like what ur company has on there. However the membership fee..$8000.00 seems too steep. I wld have to buy my own car too? What exclsuive membership benefits are do u provide there other than racing my car there?? Can the membership rights be sold to another party later??
@Proff??
I aint answering ur qstion unless u answer mine of earlier unless we talking about same person,then its a wash!
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
4:23 pm
I Am, thanks.
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
4:24 pm
random thought: those using marijuana for medical conditions really just found a loophole that made it legal for them to get high everyday.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
4:27 pm
Melo, you are asking me questions I do not know the answers to. Those are sales oriented. I did not know that the small package price has been dropped form $15,000 to $8,000. I know that they are ramping up pre- construction. I was just offering you some “free time” every now and then. You would just show up and ask for me.
yes you would have to provide your own car, unless you took Racing school, but that is ran by Skip Barber, so I have no pull there. But if you want to get into karting or your kids I can get you on that route no problem at all
LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!
March 29th, 2010
4:27 pm
@ I Am >>>> How old are you? I think it’s safe to say everyone on the blog has been heartbroken a time or two, but how you heal has to do with your mind set… clear your mind and the rest will follow.
It’s not easy to date when you’re hung up on someone else, I remember looking at a date thinking he’s not this or he doesn’t do that or why, oh why can’t “A” be sitting across from me right now. If you meet a decent man interested in you, believe me he will know immediately your still hung on someone else… and there goes a what could be a great possibility…
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:44 pm
Melo
March 29th, 2010
4:28 pm
@ Iam
I may have seen u at the cheetah. dont know…….send me a recent pic!
takpat78@gmail.com
Melo
March 29th, 2010
4:31 pm
But if you want to get into karting or your kids I can get you on that route no problem at all
@Carlito??
thats whats up,thanx..thats my email add up there..email me so I have u on hook..
Im know they will luv it, I know how those rugrats are!!
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
4:36 pm
LOL @ Melo: I’ve never been to the cheetah but I know about the reduced admission because my homeboys go often.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
4:37 pm
Melo, I will have to email you from home. I cant access personal email here at work.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
4:41 pm
@Carlito!!
cool…my bro is an aircraft engineer and a pilot too..he wl proly luv that stuff big time
hope u dont fget…wanna surprise my folk one weekend
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
4:44 pm
Melo, okay. I am heading out. Have a good one.
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
4:44 pm
@I am
Melo is not worried about Cheetah he wants to make your ex jealous
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
4:46 pm
really professor?
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
4:47 pm
time for lernch….
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
4:48 pm
@I am yes REALLY!
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
4:48 pm
While we are on the topic:
GOP to recoup $1,950 spent at topless club
http://www.ajc.com/news/nation-world/gop-to-recoup-1-415618.html
Melo
March 29th, 2010
4:49 pm
he wants to make your ex jealous
that wrks LOL
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
4:51 pm
@Melo I am glad you got it…lol.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
4:52 pm
Proff!
she aint sent it yet but even still,if she does,u womt know!
@I am..im waiting honey!
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
4:57 pm
@Melo, I remember your disclaimer you posted last week with the melo/client privileges
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
4:57 pm
Melo and Profes: you are all so corny.
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
4:59 pm
Nitey nite!
<em?The task ahead of us is never as great as the Power behind us!
I need a drank!!
Professor...
March 29th, 2010
5:00 pm
I am you are corny as well, but at least we are corny with draws on!
Melo
March 29th, 2010
5:00 pm
your disclaimer you posted last week with the melo/client privileges
@Proff??
Even pimps and hoes got rules too!
good nite!
lurker
March 29th, 2010
5:08 pm
I am you are corny as well, but at least we are corny with draws on!
OMG…too funny