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Too predictable

Guys, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but here it goes: You’ve become predictable.  I know, it’s hard to hear. I spotted this on Twitter the other day: “Men don’t know how to throw curve balls anymore, they are so predictable.” quipped Amber Jolie a fellow blogger.  I think she is referring to those good curve balls! That thing men do or say that really shows he’s in it to win her heart.

Women aren’t hard to please! Just as you guys are simple creatures, so are we..well we can be, sometimes. When the moons are aligned just right and you have managed to keep us smiling all week long.  Seriously though, I think women are easy to please in the sense that we love to see gestures and efforts by the men we date.  When a man does something out of the ordinary (see Friday’s post!) it adds to the attraction a great deal.

To be fair, women have moments of predictability too.  Men can sometimes hold preconceived notions about what they consider to be typical woman behavior.  Sadly, we end up affirming these and it becomes negative reinforcement.  This is when women constantly call or text, worry about where the relationship stands every other minute.  It’s something I don’t think a lot of women keep in mind when interacting with men.

Why do you think being predictable can be such a drag on a potential relationship?  How  could men and women avoid being too predictable?

435 comments Add your comment

Dan

March 29th, 2010
3:34 pm

@melo

At best, another dude knows he’s batting after me in the lineup (whether sex, time, or even thought).

At worst, I care less about a cheating broad and her new dude think about me anyway. <– because I'm an adult, and the opinions of others do not concern me.

Picture me caring what someone else thinks about me…..hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaahaha – hilarious

Carlito

March 29th, 2010
3:34 pm

Dumb Chick Rubber Brick Company.

I am no longer on a horse. I have fallen off LOL

Melo

March 29th, 2010
3:34 pm

@Randyt??

if u lurking and still in the UK..please hit me up…

Leggs

March 29th, 2010
3:35 pm

“I am the last one to try and pretend like I have never been stupid for a man. I remember it like it was yesterday having what felt like a ton of bricks fall on me.”

That reminds of the movie New Moon. Bella was screaming and outwardly aching for the lost of Edward. Had to tell lil leggs that the pain is real whrn you’re in love but don’t let me hear you do all that sreaming while you’re getting over a boyfriend. I’ll throw you out the window if need be cuz I have a job to get to in the morning!!

Carlito

March 29th, 2010
3:35 pm

Sassy, I am terrible. :)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 29th, 2010
3:37 pm

Wasn’t that something Kimmie? I thought her and teh hubby were gonna jump each other’s bones right on the spot cause he was looking at her like a “poke chop”….during the reunion show she did say they really got it on that night

Melo

March 29th, 2010
3:37 pm

what did I am say, that uall are in her bizz like that,giving her advice??

if she still wants old man,she needs to go for it….

old and familiar is better than new new u dont know none about!

Dan

March 29th, 2010
3:37 pm

BOOoooooo!

Bringing up Twilight…..I’m mad that I even know the names (thanks to TMZ).

BOOoooooo, Ms. Leggs, don’t do that no more. Boooooooo!

I am whatever you say I am

March 29th, 2010
3:38 pm

Carlito, not taking anyone’s advise. I’m not into feeding the animals on this blog.

kimmie

March 29th, 2010
3:39 pm

Sassy, yeah they said it was a turn on! I was cracking up!

Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity

March 29th, 2010
3:39 pm

Leggs, I remember when growing up my mom was sympathetic to my sister and I having our hearts broken and crying over it but after a day or so she would tell you “Okay that’s enough. He is not the only boy in the world and will not be last one to probably break your heart.”

That woman was something else. I miss her.

PrincessNik..T.G.I.F.Thank God I'm Fabulous

March 29th, 2010
3:40 pm

I’ll throw you out the window if need be cuz I have a job to get to in the morning!!

LOL literally :lol:

SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires

March 29th, 2010
3:40 pm

Dang the blog has turned into Carlito’s Way up in this camp…but me likey likey….By the way, Lito…um….i’m not wearing any…..deodorant. Does that also qualify as commando? :lol:

Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity

March 29th, 2010
3:40 pm

I may watch New Moon tonight.

Carlito

March 29th, 2010
3:41 pm

If any of you have kids that are into racing my job is thinking about adding a summer karting camp. With scholarships for single parents.

Carlito

March 29th, 2010
3:42 pm

SlimOne, I am bored nothing to do but look out of the window. The ground is to wet for any progress to be made. I like my new location though. :)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 29th, 2010
3:42 pm

yeah they said it was a turn on! I was cracking up!

Between that and the new “bubbies” he bought her something had to work cause she was for sure nuff preggers then,too ;)

Carlito

March 29th, 2010
3:43 pm

It also helps, that my other sites have been blocked by the IT department, along with our work arounds.

Carlito

March 29th, 2010
3:43 pm

Leggs

March 29th, 2010
3:44 pm

@Dan ~ boooo nothing. Anyone following the Twlight saga know that they’re not together. That’s not even the twist to the movie. Really, I haven’t given anything away.

Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity

March 29th, 2010
3:44 pm

I’m not into feeding the animals on this blog.

I am whatever, please tell us what the hell is it you want people to say to you. You come up in here with I want him back, I don’t want him back, Imma not wear any panties, Imma keep his key, I want him to want me. Really what is it that you want people to say? That we sympathize with you? Yeah I do. Been there. That’s why I can tell you get over it. Stop entertaining it. Let the dude go. Get another one. Find a hobby.

kimmie

March 29th, 2010
3:45 pm

And you’re never gonna survive, unless, you get a little CRAZY!

Don’t know why that song came to mind!

Carlito

March 29th, 2010
3:47 pm

Twilight, I thought vampires were supposed to be me and not wear glitter and stuff.

Kimmie, what song is that?

Leggs

March 29th, 2010
3:47 pm

@Raqi ~ yes, it’s my job to be sympathetic. But, on the flip side, it’s my job to knock her back to reality. Grieving is fine, to a point. And, I remember what it’s like to have that teenage love. Well, kinda sorta.

!@Raqi ~ I liked the movie and was disappointed when it ended.

Melo

March 29th, 2010
3:51 pm

Carlito??

anything from ur job that a bro can get on a hook up? :lol: :lol:

Carlito

March 29th, 2010
3:51 pm

I Am, does this guy know that you are weak for him?

Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity

March 29th, 2010
3:51 pm

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪ But everything means nothing If I ain’t got you

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 29th, 2010
3:52 pm

Little girl we wouldn’t have even known about the shyt if you didn’t bring it up in the first place….DUH is this thing on

Tell you what just don’t blog about him and maybe they’ll stop rippin you a new a*.*hole….this is not rocket science.

Carlito

March 29th, 2010
3:53 pm

Melo, I can get you some free track time if you want or free entry to some of the private events, once we are full speed.

Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity

March 29th, 2010
3:54 pm

lurker

March 29th, 2010
3:54 pm

You know children call u names when they don’t have anything else to say…

Yep Sassy…yep yep yep

Raqi – Me too. I’ve been there. Just doesn’t require dangling and forever hanging on to dumb dumb in order to “GET IT”, neither did it require me to hitting the repeat button. As for not feeding the animals on this blog….um, okay…if she say so. Just do it with drawers on…lol

lurker

March 29th, 2010
3:55 pm

Carlito – I Am, does this guy know that you are weak for him?

ALL TOO WELL

Carlito

March 29th, 2010
3:56 pm

Well it is good that he is not taking advantage of her or the situation.

Carlito

March 29th, 2010
3:57 pm

How old is I Am?

Professor...

March 29th, 2010
3:57 pm

…stepping in and biting my tongue

Yes love hurts, and sometimes talking about it makes the pain better. However when you start twisting reality with play-play you might want to be seen.

@Leggs I love Bella and Edward I cannot wait until the next one comes out.

@Carlito don’t be stingy :wink:

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 29th, 2010
3:57 pm

As for not feeding the animals on this blog….um, okay…if she say so. Just do it with drawers on…

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Okay this is the part where somebody’s gone and got they mama to stop the fight…

Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity

March 29th, 2010
3:58 pm

Carlito, I will bet that is why he didn’t show up for their “meeting” or why he hasn’t accepted his key back. He is probably laughing at her with his friends.

Don’t give other people the power to hurt you.

Melo

March 29th, 2010
3:58 pm

@Carlitto

thats whats up.i hope u deliver mayne and wont flame out! :lol: U the new kid on the bloc :lol:

some other ex bloger promised me some free, premium strip joint entry passes…unfrtunately,he went ghost be4 I could use that hook up!

SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires

March 29th, 2010
3:59 pm

Okay, speaking of folks with no drawers on…Friday went to salon to get hair done…passing by the window was a white chick with a little short type sundress on with flip flops, walking with this black dude. No mind you all recall how windy and cool it was. So my first thought is why the hayo does she have that on…Here come a gust of wind and I see all azz!! Chick doesn’t try to hold her dress down or nothing…just kept it moving looking all sad. So you know times are hard when your pimp has you out on a cold windy day with your arse out in broad daylight. I thought the idea was to NOT be so obvious to avoid arrest. SMH

kimmie

March 29th, 2010
4:01 pm

Carlito – It’s called “Crazy” by Seal, Heidi Klum’s husband.

SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires

March 29th, 2010
4:02 pm

“Okay this is the part where somebody’s gone and got they mama to stop the fight”

Sassy – folks don’t break up fights anymore..We all stand by watching and recording it with our smartphones for you tube later. lol

Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity

March 29th, 2010
4:03 pm

Well it is good that he is not taking advantage of her or the situation

Carlito, my youngest brother and I are close in age and we grew up pretty close. He taught me some things and one of those things was sometimes a guy gets off in just seeing the lengths a woman will go thru to get his attention and try to get at him more than actually sexing her.

Sometimes it is hard for some women to believe and accept that a guy just don’t want them, meaning sex. However he will entertain her antics just for laughs.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

March 29th, 2010
4:03 pm

Asta manyana blog familia

lurker

March 29th, 2010
4:03 pm

Well it is good that he is not taking advantage of her or the situation.

Carlito…that’s the point. She wants him to so she’s hurting that he’s not. She doen’t realize yet that in reality, this is to her favor. If they continue the physical and mentally/emotionally he’s left, it’s just gonna keep her hanging on and cause a slow eventual death.

Carlito

March 29th, 2010
4:04 pm

Melo, it is a motorsport country club. Once we get up and running fully it will be fun. You have to make sure your car makes it through tech inspection (part of my job) before you hit the track. I do not do the strip club thing, waste of money to me.

I am whatever you say I am

March 29th, 2010
4:05 pm

Carlito so you do race car stuff?

Melo

March 29th, 2010
4:07 pm

So you know times are hard when your pimp has you out on a cold windy day with your arse out in broad daylight

@Slim?? :evil: :roll:

Times are hard too when u have to get ur hair done on moreland or bank head hywy :lol: :lol:

Carlito

March 29th, 2010
4:08 pm

Raqi, yes we like to see a woman squirm sometimes and he and his friends are probably laughing. I am sure his new woman is laughing as well, believe you me they talk about it.

lurker, well that’s not cool, but you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them think. (yes I meant to type “think” instead of “drink”)

SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires

March 29th, 2010
4:11 pm

melo Suck a phatty. lol I was nowhere near moreland or bankhead…I’m on da eastside shawty! lol

Carlito

March 29th, 2010
4:11 pm

I Am, my back ground is mechanical engineering. I am employed as a race engineer.