Too predictable
Guys, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but here it goes: You’ve become predictable. I know, it’s hard to hear. I spotted this on Twitter the other day: “Men don’t know how to throw curve balls anymore, they are so predictable.” quipped Amber Jolie a fellow blogger. I think she is referring to those good curve balls! That thing men do or say that really shows he’s in it to win her heart.
Women aren’t hard to please! Just as you guys are simple creatures, so are we..well we can be, sometimes. When the moons are aligned just right and you have managed to keep us smiling all week long. Seriously though, I think women are easy to please in the sense that we love to see gestures and efforts by the men we date. When a man does something out of the ordinary (see Friday’s post!) it adds to the attraction a great deal.
To be fair, women have moments of predictability too. Men can sometimes hold preconceived notions about what they consider to be typical woman behavior. Sadly, we end up affirming these and it becomes negative reinforcement. This is when women constantly call or text, worry about where the relationship stands every other minute. It’s something I don’t think a lot of women keep in mind when interacting with men.
Why do you think being predictable can be such a drag on a potential relationship? How could men and women avoid being too predictable?
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SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
2:34 pm
“I do think Reggie Bush is gay though.”
Carlito – that was a random thought if I ever read one. LOL!
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
2:36 pm
Ain’t no woman going pantiless that don’t want that man to get up in there. Impress my behind. She is trying to bait and he is not biting. Why keep doing that to yourself?
Despite what some would have you believe I am a man will not know that you are not wearing drawers just because you are not wearing them.
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
2:36 pm
I like the Old Spice commercial, it actually makes me chuckle. When I first saw it, the “I’m on a horse” was funny cuz it wasn’t expected. I don’t even look at what he’s saying, I’m watching the editing of the commercial. Very smooth.
@Carlito ~ in her defense, she had pantyhose on!
Melo
March 29th, 2010
2:37 pm
She apologized and she never did that again
@Slimone??
yeah,the truth hurts,even when its urself being told off….
But the truth cleanses coz it sets u free!
I hate angst! esp having to angst alone when the muthfcker concerned is oblivious and enjoying themselves!
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
2:37 pm
Whatever, Dan.
I don’t have to give any asshole time out of my life to prove a damn thing. I should give someone some consideration who didn’t consider me? <-That sht is crazy.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
2:38 pm
…I think you’re self inflicting and doing a lot of wishful thinking…you went to meet a guy with no panties on and he stood you up?…That had to hurt.
And IIIIIIIIII EEEEEEEE IIIIIII will always love youUUUUUUUU
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:39 pm
Leggs, no panties ar no panties.
Raqi, I agree with everything you just said.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:40 pm
Sexy Cool, I see that you are a little firecracker as well.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:42 pm
If you put the “koo” on the platter and the man does not partake. Well that is worse than____ I don’t know that is just bad. You must have some messed up mentals for him to not even want the “koo” when it is a freebie.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:44 pm
But then again, if I call a woman and tell her I am meeting her without any boxers on, if she comes does that mean we are going to do the do?
SexyCool
March 29th, 2010
2:44 pm
Like I told Shthead when he texted me on Christmas eve (obviously missing me),
“While I sincerely hope that you and yours are living your best life possible, I have no desire to maintain any contact with you at all.”
Fck him and the horse he rode in on.
DreamsMaterialize
March 29th, 2010
2:45 pm
What’s up with people responding to texts and phone calls of the ex’s they say they don’t want to have anything to do with? When it’s over, it’s over. Only way I’m responding to a text or phone call is if I want back in. If you want people to stop contacting you, you have to X them out completely. They have to know that it’s more probable to get a rock to converse with them than it is to get a hold of you.
RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore
March 29th, 2010
2:45 pm
I think you’re self inflicting and doing a lot of wishful thinking.
I think you’re self inflicting and doing a lot of wishful thinking.
I think you’re self inflicting and doing a lot of wishful thinking.
wow
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:46 pm
SexyCool, he is not over you. As long as you keep responding he will keep trying. And that guy was definitely “not on a horse” LOL
I am on a horse
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:47 pm
DreamMaterialize, I agree. I think sometimes people try and hurt those who hurt them so they respond with harsh words. But I could be worng.
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
2:47 pm
Radiant – I know you have baby girl a beautiful Easter dress already. Looks like I waited a little late to get SO’s little girl something. I went out at lunch looking, but I just didn’t like what I saw, the pickings were slim. She’s a slim girls 7 now, out of the little girls stuff which is prettier, I think. Some of it looks a little too grown for my taste. I like for kids to look aristocratic – I’m a little conservative about children’s clothes.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:48 pm
Okay, this is the last season of “24″. I am sad
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
2:48 pm
@Carlito ~ I realize that, but we didn’t know she was wearing pantyhouse until after many exchanges. Heck, who’s to say how one pines for another. Me, I couldn’t have done half of what she did or bait myself with excuses the way she did. But, we each do things differently. “I am” did it her way.
Leggs
March 29th, 2010
2:49 pm
WHAT CARLITO, THE LAST SEASON….SAY IT AIN’T SO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:50 pm
Lurker: please tell me what I am wishfully thinking of.
Being that you are the expert and all.
Too bad you didn’t read the post where I said I don’t think I want him back.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
2:51 pm
I call a woman and tell her I am meeting her without any boxers on, if she comes does that mean we are going to do the do?
That depends…but can I feel you up in the meantime?
I have no desire to maintain any contact with you at all….Fck him and the horse he rode in on.
Alot of guys can’t handle shyt like that cause they’re not used to it…oh well it is what it is…deal with it.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
2:51 pm
I will only call a long benched chic,if if i have to,only if we neva went there….coz walking always leaves u unfulifilled.
No way I will call a chic back that i previously dismissed unless im on sahara Big time.
and only on sahara,not to get back together.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:52 pm
My name is Carlito and I am just here to say. Have a Happy Easter Day
Leggs, I will admit I do not know the intricacies of how women contain their lady parts. She had something in mind that he did not. Oh well, you win some and you lose some.
Dan
March 29th, 2010
2:52 pm
@Dreams
That’s my whole thing with a breakup. Whether the dumper or dumpee, how do we go from like/love to “I can’t stand you”?
That isht don’t make no sense. If you cared you care. Like I don’t want any of my ex’s to die or nothing (again, whether dumper or dumpee). And I do like to know that they’re okay in the ‘human condition’ sense of caring. But that’s it. I don’t go where I don’t want to/am not wanted.
@SC
I didn’t say prove anything to anyone, I was saying to move beyond it.
But, yeah, whatever.
RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore
March 29th, 2010
2:52 pm
http://www.yardbarker.com/all_sports/article_external/Tweet_Life_Open_Secret_About_Athletes_Groupies/2328927
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:53 pm
<—-googling that I am on a horse commercial.
i still don't get it.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:54 pm
Leggs, yes it is all over and done with in May.
SlimCoo-Coo Rollin in on 4 new used tires
March 29th, 2010
2:54 pm
Carlito – please stop saying “I’m on a horse” folks at the job keep thinking i’m laughing at them. LOL! Btw, having that sweater tied around his neck was Ghey! lol
Anybody seen the orbitz commercial where a dude & chick are sitting in back seat of a car making out and she stops saying, “You do have something right” (as if referring to a condom) and buddy pulls out a pack of orbitz gum
Next scene is a dude in the bedroom with his girl. She like you have something so he runs to his roomie’s room and says bro can you help me out. He pulls drawer of his night stand open and passes dude a pack of the gum. LMAO
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:56 pm
Okay just watched that I’m on a horse commercial.
LOL
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:57 pm
If you have a lot of hate towards an ex, its my interpertation that you still have feelings, My ex fiance hurt me deep, do I still have some feelings, of course. but I know she is not the best thing for me. I do not let anyone control my temper or reactions, because that means they have more control over me than I do myself. And the only people that can do that are the ones I care about.
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:57 pm
yeah I remember that orbitz gum commerical too. LOL
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
2:58 pm
Kimmie, yeah I found one at Macys. And I am with you on how mature the clothes look now that they are making for little girls. My bff sews really well and if need be when the time come I will pay her to make appropriate Sunday clothing for the little lady.
We are going to be spending Easter at the grand-godmother. They are having this Easter thing and picnic for kids at her church following their morning service. And then we will be having Easter dinner at her house. She is going to take care of Elizabeth while we are on our cruise so I am pretty accommodating to her request right now. LOL
I don’t doubt that she will take care of her just as good as I do. But I don’t want to plant any ill feelings. LOL
I am whatever you say I am
March 29th, 2010
2:58 pm
I don’t hate any of my exes.
I wish them all the best.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
2:58 pm
If you have a lot of hate towards an ex, its my interpertation that you still have feelings
I think they admit that!
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:58 pm
SlimOne, look at me.
I Am, that commercial is funny isn’t it. Do you have on panties right now?
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
2:58 pm
how do we go from like/love to “I can’t stand you”?
Dan – It’s easier than you think. Have somebody rip your heart out that CLAIMED to like/love you & you’d see how easy it is. But unless you’ve been there, you won’t get it.
As for me, for the most part, there are very few people on this earth I will say I just cant stand. My exes – for many reasons things just didn’t work out. I don’t hate them. But there is one I truly can say I can’t stand. Thinking back, we really were never friends. I don’t like him as a person. He’s just not very nice.
lurker
March 29th, 2010
2:59 pm
She is trying to bait and he is not biting. Why keep doing that to yourself?
I agree – Raqi
Dreams – I agree with you as well. You know, if I had to X someone, no matter the reason, no matter the temptation to go back I’m not going back. We’re all adults here and have all had pretty much the same experience at some point, place or time and we all know that if folks hanging on or dangling it’s because that’s what you allow. As well as us all knowing you can send one message (whichever way you choose to deliver…p2p, f2f, text, phone call…whatever) and say it right once and that will drive the nail in the coffin. And for the sake of argument, let’s say they don’t “get it” when you say it’s over or “thanks but no thanks”, you can ig. You can ig until they get it. That is, if you’re done. If you’re not, just say so or at least be able to admit it. As a woman, I hate to see women bring about self inflicting wounds. Love yourself.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
2:59 pm
I think it is time for some Rick James.
Radiating Ardent & Quaint Intensity
March 29th, 2010
3:00 pm
Carlito, there is no other that a woman will meet up the ex without the drawers unless she is hoping for something. BASIC. INSTINCT.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:01 pm
Kimmie, “He’s just not very nice.” you are such a potty mouth
J/K
lurker
March 29th, 2010
3:01 pm
I Am…too bad you didn’t read the post where I said I don’t think I want him back
You’ve said it often but it never rings true. What you fail to know is that the tone of your posts about this ex says everything but “I don’t think I want him back”
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:02 pm
Love Them and Leave them,
That’s What I Used To Do.
Use and Abuse them, until I laid eyes on you.
Melo
March 29th, 2010
3:03 pm
Ladies??
when u go out smewhere,meet a dude and u exchange numbers,have u ever called him first..ever?
how did it go?
guys??
a chic calling u first after that exchange the previous day,do u interpret that as thirsty??
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:04 pm
“I don’t think” well that is not a “no” you have to know what you want first.
If someone asks me if I want a million dollars I would not say “I think I may want it”
I Am, are you currently entertaining anyone else?
Dan
March 29th, 2010
3:04 pm
@Kimmie
Point of order – I have, still don’t hate her.
I don’t understand, but I don’t hate her for making a decision that she thought was best for her. Hate is a wasted emotion in that situation.
It’s like being mad at the wall, IMO
Luvbug
March 29th, 2010
3:04 pm
I think sometimes people try and hurt those who hurt them so they respond with harsh words. But I could be worng.
Carlito- I am (was) guilty of that…I had no intentions of getting back with one guy, but I sure had some words saved up just in case he called. They we’re soooo good and ugly…
That fool didn’t call me.
I never called him either, but it’s funny thinking about it now…
If I saw him now, I wouldn’t even be prepared.
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
3:06 pm
Carlito – LOL!! That was the best way I could put it & not get thrown off the blog! But I don’t wish him ill will, I just don’t wish him anything.
Carlito
March 29th, 2010
3:07 pm
LuvBug, my ex made it a point to be at the local eatery when I was home, she always does that. I felt nothing now my Julia gave her a look that would have made Satan piss himself. It took awhile for me to get to that point though, but many years later I am fine. I kind of think to myself”not going to make the same mistake twice”
kimmie
March 29th, 2010
3:08 pm
Dan – Well, with me “can’t stand” and “hate” are 2 different things and I’ll let it go at that. Can’t nobody walk in my shoes, though.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
March 29th, 2010
3:08 pm
a woman will meet up the ex without the drawers unless she is hoping for something.
Plain and simple.
until I laid eyes on you.
And it was paaaaaaaiiiiin before pleasuuure…..