Heating things up
Food can be an integral part of the dating process. At some point, we are either mingling or getting to know one another over food. Cooking great food is also a great way to add spice (pun intended) to the regular, run of the mill date activities.
I recruited my fabulous new gal pal Chef Bren Herrera to help us navigate the joys of cooking and dating. She is a fellow blogger who recently wrote about one of her clients thinking outside the box for a non-traditional date idea. He hired her to prepare a special meal for a special lady. I have to say, there is something about a personal chef that can add instant wow factor to a date!
Photo: Shannon McCollumn
I asked Chef Bren how cooking could heat things up for a non-traditional date:
1. Cooking on a date will show both guy and gal that you’re atypical and think outside the box! Who like movies and dinner dates! So, so passé! It’s 2010.
2. You can totally spoon-feed each other while “tasting” what you’re making. That makes for an intended sexy moment, without being forceful or offensive.
3. If you’re looking for a life-long mate that can cook, this is the test!! How willing are they to break out the cutting board and knives and mince garlic(which will make your breath stinky, but that’s another test of his/her real interest)? If they’re down for it, chances are they are conscious of budgeting, their health and quality time at home.
4. If the food is good, you’ve sealed the deal and a 2nd date is in order.
Well, she makes a pretty convincing argument. What do you think? Would cooking a meal prepared by the two of you not impress the socks (yes…just the socks) off of you?
Have you tried it before? What would you do if you showed up to your date’s place to find the meal waiting to be cooked. Would you be impressed and turned on a little (Am I the only one thinking of the film 9 1/2 weeks right now? Just me? Ok.)
Would you *ahem* go with the flow and roll up your sleeves? As far as non-traditional dates go, this would definitely be outside the norm. It would definitely be a memorable night. I won’t forget the night younger guy brought all these ingredients to my place. I left to run an errand and when I walked back in, I was shocked to find dinner was done. Then he fed me. No seriously, he literally cooked and fed me. You’ve got to admire those younger dudes.
Chef Bren said that a male client’s favorite dish is the spicy seared scallops in honey with a mango and cilantro relish. That sounds amazing! Do you have an amazing recipe that would be ideal for date nights? What dish do you use to impress the ladies/men?
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kimmie
March 26th, 2010
12:00 pm
Carlito, I have not been to any bonfires here, but I have heard about them, usually around October. I went to one on the beach when I visited some friends in Cali though. Lot of fun!
Rell unplugged
March 26th, 2010
12:00 pm
give into urges just cuz you feel them
- but is that not the major knock against us men..we dont create the feeling in women..so when we do..we still get the sideeye……so where is the happy medium red?
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
12:01 pm
AmazonRed, very true.
Dig That
March 26th, 2010
12:02 pm
@Ared
We all fall prey to urges ery now and then. Some people just know how to turn an urge in to full blown action and the next thing you know you are looking for ya panties on the floor or the lamp or the ceiling fan.
Dig That
March 26th, 2010
12:04 pm
@Kimmie- When I used to live in Michigan we would have bonfires on the beach and I used to think it was silly because it would be 2 degrees and sometime they would have them on the frozen lake, but I have to admit we had so much fun. Real cool.
Luvbug
March 26th, 2010
12:04 pm
Melo – Just crossed my mind…Did you ever followup with that redhead who kept ending all her post with DUH?
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
12:06 pm
Rell, sometimes I want to smack a b*tch….but I do not give into my urges. Those broads could just cry me a river.
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
12:07 pm
Has anyone ever bought the presale “lawn seating tickets” for events at Verizon Amphitheatre? How is it? Thinking about going to the ATL Summer Jam in June with Toni, Tony, Tone, Faith, New Edition, etc…PLEASE LET ME KNOW!!
JtJ – I just bought my tix today. The $10.75 ones! They weren’t lawn tix tho!
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
12:07 pm
Bonfires are nothing but pure parties.
No time to be out there trying to be cute.
SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)
March 26th, 2010
12:08 pm
ARed – how can I get THAT deal? Email me if it’s still available. Er’body in the nation should have my email addy by now. LOL!
Lady J-Lioness
March 26th, 2010
12:09 pm
oh my I want to go to that concert……10.75 really!!!!!
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
12:09 pm
Sorry just got an email from that ex. Obviously Julia is rubbing in her face that I am in town and that we are back together. LOL
Lady J-Lioness
March 26th, 2010
12:10 pm
what date is it
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
12:10 pm
Some people just know how to turn an urge in to full blown action and the next thing you know you are looking for ya panties on the floor or the lamp or the ceiling fan.
Dig That – Anytime you’re with someone you like, even from the first date you’re gonna feel the urge (at least I do). I make sure I’ve gotten to know the guy (phone calls, etc) beforehand so I know there is a little something there. Sex is a beautiful and natural thing, so we would probably ALL be having it more if we didn’t talk ourselves out of it sometimes!
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
12:11 pm
The deal is good til 7 pm. It’s the presale for the Majic 107.5 listeners. AND it includes parking!!!!
Go to ticketmaster.com, find the concert (I just typed in Tony, Toni, Tone). Then the radio presale code is “Majic”
There is no limit on the amount of tickets you can buy either. They’re not up front seats, but they ain’t on the lawn either.
Lady J-Lioness
March 26th, 2010
12:12 pm
hmmmmm……. june is going to be a hawt month on deck! jill, maxwell, and some good 90s music live! Happy Camper!
Lady J-Lioness
March 26th, 2010
12:12 pm
june 26th slim
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
12:12 pm
The concert is June 26 at the Verizon Ampetheatre. Outdoor concerts in the summer are sooooo fun! I totally got my azz on the stage when Boyz II Men came to Chastain.
kinderbabe--37 days to liberation and counting!!!
March 26th, 2010
12:13 pm
well! aren’t you all lively as a son of a gun up in here! LOL it’s barely noon. i’m scared to come back and read at four…haha!!
Melo
March 26th, 2010
12:15 pm
That’s how a lot of folks are getting into trouble these days.
@Ared..it must be really hard for a woman,enjoying the moment and letting the sexual juices and vibe knock ur senses off,while also being mindful of the need to open the drawer next to ur headboard so u can get those trojans out for him??
If i ever have to get to a point where i have to date again,im taking a herpes,hiv etc test on the or immediately after 2nd date.
Coz on the 3rd date, all i want is a full No Holds Barred!
Ur nikkas on ur one ankle, ready to be tossed/flipped away by ur toes and my boxers down to my knees as i straddle u and angle inwards,my two butts in a tight dimpled up knot,resdying for downward pressure!
Lady J-Lioness
March 26th, 2010
12:15 pm
ARed boys II men are classic!
Dig That
March 26th, 2010
12:15 pm
@Ared
I can’t disagree with that. I am super talented tho so from the first “date” or interaction I make the determination if I can talk to you later or you are just gonna be some cut up. Which category she is in is depends on her.
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
12:17 pm
AmazonRed, I think that would be a cool concert, please email me the link as well.
giordano.carlito72@gmail.com
kimmie
March 26th, 2010
12:18 pm
A few things I want:
1. Princess-cut diamond stud earrings
2. A VW Beetle, dusty baby blue with a black top, convertible
3. Bottle of Coach perfume
4. A Lucky brand purse I saw I like
Raqi
March 26th, 2010
12:20 pm
Kimmie, I want a vacation.
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
12:22 pm
Oooh…Carlito posted his email addy. It’s on now.
Just go to ticketmaster and enter the code tho.
SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)
March 26th, 2010
12:22 pm
ARed – you da best!
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
12:22 pm
AmazonRed, thanks.
Melo
March 26th, 2010
12:22 pm
Melo – Just crossed my mind…Did you ever followup with that redhead who kept ending all her post with DUH?
Luvbug??
Thats a good qstion!
unless u secretly want in on the action…eghhhh.. just email me coz i really believe in attorney client priviledge
that makes urself and my all other blog friends, safe and secure in our off blog dealings(innocent or otherwise)??
(this communication is not meant to construe or miscontrue any underhand,off the wall or however ur imagination may think,undertones)
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
12:24 pm
@Ared..it must be really hard for a woman,enjoying the moment and letting the sexual juices and vibe knock ur senses off,while also being mindful of the need to open the drawer next to ur headboard so u can get those trojans out for him??
Yes melo it is hard. I don’t date scrubs and I date guys that i’m physically attracted to, so it’s hard when your “minds telling me noooo! but my body, my body’s telling me yeeeeessss, baby!”
So some times “no” just has to be “no” for the day. No need to go into that drawer at all.
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
12:25 pm
R Kelly didn’t see anything wrong with the bump and grind…look where it got him.
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
12:27 pm
I am usually tipsy by the time I am finished cooking.
kimmie
March 26th, 2010
12:27 pm
Raqi – Yeah, I want one of those too!
Lady J-Lioness
March 26th, 2010
12:27 pm
kimmie princess cut diamonds are my fav! it was my set! ha!
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
12:33 pm
ARed – you da best!
Well…thanks! *basking*
kimmie
March 26th, 2010
12:33 pm
Lady J – My 1st choice are emerald-cut, but they are not as commonly available so they are more expensive. I fell in love with them in college. This swiss girl got engaged over Christmas break and she had a emerald cut solitaire that was gorgeous. I used to stare at it in one of my accounting classes when I should have been looking at the professor & what he was teaching!LOL!!
But princess-cut are a close second favorite!! My SO gave me a princess diamond necklace Christmas of 08. I want some earrings to match.
I am whatever you say I am
March 26th, 2010
12:33 pm
Calito:
Stats:
Single, tall, 1 kid
Phone: 770-
7779311
Melo
March 26th, 2010
12:34 pm
I don’t date scrubs
@Ared??
and scrubs are what type of men??
Dig That
March 26th, 2010
12:34 pm
R. Kelly was right. His problem was not seeing nothing wrong with a lil bump and grind with girls under 18.
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
12:35 pm
Which category she is in is depends on her.
Dig That – Have you never kinda secretly thought of a girl as not wifey material after she gave up those draws after only knowing you two days and getting a #5 combo out of you?
I am whatever you say I am
March 26th, 2010
12:35 pm
Lady J-Lioness
March 26th, 2010
12:36 pm
awwwwwwww kimmie!!!!! too cute! Princess Cut is all I want carats don’t even matter I happily wore my 1/2 carat and it was a great pick from Whitehall in Lenox! lol! it was white gold won’t it fake and call it platinum….lol very simple but classy!
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
12:36 pm
I Am, HA HA HA
Morris Day and The Time.
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
12:37 pm
and scrubs are what type of men??
A scrub is a guy that thinks he’s fine
And is also known as a buster
Always talkin’ about what he wants
And just sits on his broke ass
Lady J-Lioness
March 26th, 2010
12:37 pm
emarld is different too…..now looking @ a emerald ring….
Dan
March 26th, 2010
12:37 pm
Ion know, though.
There’s something to be said for letting go of the reservations and acting on a physical impulse.
Delayed gratification has its place, but err once in a while, reaction is a necessary component to life.
said by the dude that calculates almost everything
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
12:37 pm
#5 Combo.
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
12:38 pm
Lady J-Lioness
March 26th, 2010
12:38 pm
awwwwww kimmie that is a NICE diamond cut!
Professor
March 26th, 2010
12:39 pm
777-9311
Have you never kinda secretly thought of a girl as not wifey material after she gave up those draws after only knowing you two days and getting a #5 combo out of you?
@ARED~ I hope all the blog men reply to that one. I’ve heard different reactions from men, but most have
liedsaid that it would not matter. Making the argument that they like a lady that will get down and go with the flow. Melo did not make the lady on the train wifey…sorry Melo, but good example