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Heating things up

Food can be an integral part of the dating process.   At some point, we are either mingling or getting to know one another over food.  Cooking great food is also a great way to add spice (pun intended) to the regular, run of the mill date activities.

I recruited my fabulous new gal pal Chef Bren Herrera to help us navigate the joys of cooking and dating.  She is a fellow blogger who recently wrote about one of her clients thinking outside the box for a non-traditional date idea. He hired her to prepare a special meal for a special lady.  I have to say, there is something about a personal chef that can add instant wow factor to a date!

Chef Bren

Photo: Shannon McCollumn

I asked Chef Bren how cooking could heat things up for a non-traditional date:

1. Cooking on a date will show both guy and gal that you’re atypical and think outside the box! Who like movies and dinner dates! So, so passé! It’s 2010.

2. You can totally spoon-feed each other while “tasting” what you’re making. That makes for an intended sexy moment, without being forceful or offensive.

3. If you’re looking for a life-long mate that can cook, this is the test!! How willing are they to break out the cutting board and knives and mince garlic(which will make your breath stinky, but that’s another test of his/her real interest)? If they’re down for it, chances are they are conscious of budgeting, their health and quality time at home.

4. If the food is good, you’ve sealed the deal and a 2nd date is in order.

Well, she makes a pretty convincing argument. What do you think? Would cooking a meal prepared by the two of you not impress the socks (yes…just the socks) off of you?

Have you tried it before? What would you do if you showed up to your date’s place to find the meal waiting to be cooked.  Would you be impressed and turned on a little (Am I the only one thinking of the film 9 1/2 weeks right now? Just me? Ok.)

Would you *ahem* go with the flow and roll up your sleeves? As far as non-traditional dates go, this would definitely be outside the norm.  It would definitely be a memorable night.  I won’t forget the night younger guy brought all these ingredients to my place.  I left to run an errand and when I walked back in, I was shocked to find dinner was done. Then he fed me. No seriously, he literally cooked and fed me. You’ve got to admire those younger dudes.

Chef Bren said that a male client’s favorite dish is the spicy seared scallops in honey with a mango and cilantro relish. That sounds amazing! Do you have an amazing recipe that would be ideal for date nights? What dish do you use to impress the ladies/men?

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Leggs

March 26th, 2010
11:16 am

@Dig That ~ that is truly normal not to eat after you cooked all that food. And, if you do eat, it will be a kiddie’s plate of food.

If you’re talking cheap wine, don’t forget Mad Dog 20 20. That stuff will have you waking up in the gutter somewhere!

Melo

March 26th, 2010
11:16 am

melo My Phatty Catty is allergic to trojan men

@SlimOne??

are u saying what im thinking??

u must have ur own thin brownish vanish that keep in ur bathroom, u give ur plumbers whe they visit..let him roll it down his plunger,the vanish blends with the skin and provides adequate protection and the feel of the dyck remains intact if not elevated.

Too bad u dont have a color that blends with Siwss guys skin! :oops:

U one bad sista SlimOne!! :lol: :lol:

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 26th, 2010
11:16 am

That had you waking up with her draws on….

:mrgreen:

A brick of that Mad Dog 20 20 will have you howling at the moon too.

You ain’t never lied Dig….oooh lawdy.

kimmie

March 26th, 2010
11:17 am

hell me i am pinching throughout the cooking so I have had a whole plate!

Lady J, same here!

Dig – Yes, that’s VERY normal!

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
11:17 am

Oh, I see you guys did give a shout out to MD 20/20!

DreamsMaterialize

March 26th, 2010
11:18 am

Slim you in here talkin’ bout that Goldschlager…whew. Had a couple crazy ones with that. What ya’ll know about that Grandad’s Whiskey? lol That Everclear was a killer too.

Lady J

March 26th, 2010
11:18 am

I nevered dranked MD 20/20! too scared! lol

Lady J

March 26th, 2010
11:18 am

Dig That

March 26th, 2010
11:19 am

@Carlito

Good to see you comfortable. Sounds like these ladies helped you loosen up too. It’s good see you in the swing of things.

@Dan
Clearly we have gone down that 20/20 road before and woke up with the craziest looks on our faces with no real clue of what in the hell happened.

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
11:19 am

Be afraid, Lady J, be very afraid!!!

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 26th, 2010
11:20 am

Cisco was definitely part of our Novice Drinking Menu Yuck now ho!!!

OKAY?!…key word being “novice” ’cause once you knew better you had to do better. One hangover was enough for me.

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
11:20 am

@Lady J ~ what happened to the “Lioness” after your name?

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
11:20 am

Dreams “you dating a college youngin?” No, well sort of…um…not really. He’s working on his PHD now but he is younger than me though. So does that officially make me a cougar now? (difference of 4/5 years)

“end your meal with some human sundaes. Chock full of nuts, Cantaloupes, cream pies and all. (pun very much intended)”

@Raqi I likes dat idea!!!!

ATTENTION, ATTENTION ATTENTION: FREAKY FRIDAY HAS OFFICIALLY BEEN SETOFF IN BLOGSVILLE :lol:

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
11:20 am

that is truly normal not to eat after you cooked all that food

DigThat, the thing is though, when you and your lady are cooking together you taste and sample as you go. That way you both are at the same place by the time you are done cooking. You’ve prepared a meal for later, you have interacted in feeding each other, and you both are satisfied. No one person is eating while the other sits back to watch.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
11:21 am

anybody used to drink

Thunderbird?

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 26th, 2010
11:21 am

That Everclear was a killer too.

Yeah you could probably run a car off of that stuff…..

Dig That

March 26th, 2010
11:21 am

“I nevered dranked MD 20/20! too scared!”

@LadyJ
You are the smart one. Lol

Lady J-Lioness

March 26th, 2010
11:22 am

Leggs I am a mobile, flible, temaplayer everyone wants on their team! HAHAHA!!!!!! I am a Leo baby!!!!! just on diff computers throughout the day! lol

DreamsMaterialize

March 26th, 2010
11:23 am

What you all know about that Wray and Nephew white overproof rum?

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
11:24 am

SIDEBAR: DigThat, Sassy you all partake? Or am I reading wrong?

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
11:24 am

oh my gosh Everclear

a key ingredient in Nupe Juice, now that brings back many a memory!!!!

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 26th, 2010
11:24 am

Thunderbird?

Shyt I think we all done rode the “t-bird” a time or two :oops:

Lady J-Lioness

March 26th, 2010
11:24 am

Yall I just started taking shots my 1st patron shot was @ 30 Vegas! Lame I know but I have a phobia that something terrible is going to happen! I breakout easily and stuff but hey I do them well! I was impressed! LMAO!

Rell unplugged

March 26th, 2010
11:25 am

this was my kit back in 95-97

two 32oz bottles of mad dog lightning creek along with a dub sack of that sticky…i use to be so out of my mind

kimmie

March 26th, 2010
11:25 am

DK – I got some of that Soyaki sauce on my shelf now, have not used it yet! Cool!

Dreams – Cooking wine is nasty to me – just some cheap wine with a bunch of salt dumped in it! Yeah, just a decent quality wine is nice to cook with and you can control the salt. I absolutely love cooking with wine.

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
11:25 am

Leggs, How are you?

Ragi, (wave) :)

Lady J-Lioness

March 26th, 2010
11:25 am

superstar that damn Nupe juice and the Omega Oil I prefer the Nupe juice though good lawd! Stop chile!

Dan

March 26th, 2010
11:25 am

@Dreams

that hunch punch (everclear and juice – don’t matter) have set MANY a party off.

But it’s gotta be co-ordinated, can’t have mama bear asking “why is she strippin” without a quick and viable answer.

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
11:26 am

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 26th, 2010
11:26 am

Or am I reading wrong?

I’m with you stud muffin ;)

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
11:27 am

Lady J

be careful wit them patron shots things can happen……

“8 shots of patron now i’m up on the bar”

:lol:

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
11:28 am

Sorry I can’t get in on the drinking convo. The strongest thing that I have drank more than an ounce of in one sitting is the rancid coffee that one of the ladies here used to try to make. I think she used to put a ½ cup of grounds for every cup of coffee the machine made.

I am whatever you say I am

March 26th, 2010
11:28 am

Carlito: your liquid lunch is alot different than my idea of a liquid lunch.

My liquid lunch has been upgraded to more sophisicated options as opposed to the ghetto options of my youth: MD 20/20 ; cisco, and allizae

kimmie

March 26th, 2010
11:28 am

I was always a bougie snob when it came to MD20/20, even as a college freshman! When my roommate came in with that mess, I told her don’t even set the bottle on my side of the room. I didn’t want anyone thinking I had such poor taste!LOL!! I thought it was only for wino’s!LOL!!

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
11:28 am

Sassy, I am Fist Pumping to that :)

SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)

March 26th, 2010
11:29 am

Just had my first caramel latte since the Ides of March.

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
11:29 am

Lady J Tequila makes me krazy…ya’ll think i’m crazy now…you ain’t seen nuttin yet. :oops:

Melo I don’t know what all that means but it gets wrapped up. Too much nonsense out here to be riding without a saddle of some sort

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
11:29 am

I Am, so is that a no? :)

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
11:30 am

Lady J my brother is a Kappa and all my guy friends are pretty much Kappas honey honey honey, aint nuthing like a Kappa man, or non greek who possess some kappa qualities ;)

oh and i forgot what the Alpha’s punch is called but thats some good ish too!

Lady J-Lioness

March 26th, 2010
11:30 am

superstar it is nothing nice girl and the clubs in vegas have that disco type music like high music that keeps you going a pcp addict would love it! HA!

Dan

March 26th, 2010
11:30 am

Bottle of Patron green on deck for Slim, STAT!!!

Lady J-Lioness

March 26th, 2010
11:31 am

supstar I was concieved by a Kappa Man! It’s in my blood! Yip-YO all day or EE-YO!!!!! Indy love all day boo!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 26th, 2010
11:31 am

Princess – Yes Thunderbird with a pack of kool aid.. MD2020 made me miss on of the livest parties in Tuskegee at the ford building my freshman year. I remember sitting behind McDonalds throwing up over the rail into some kudzu. I threw up for two days after that and had the dry heaves from hell. I never touched the stuff again. Didnt like cisco too much it was pretty nasty but a cold Billy Dee was nice in the hot TU sun..

DreamsMaterialize

March 26th, 2010
11:31 am

Oh that hunch punch sets it off. A lot of this liquor, a lot of that liquor, some juice, and let some fresh strawberries soak in it. The ladies get buzzed just off the strawberries cause even the ones who don’t drink will usually eat the strawberries. lol

Melo

March 26th, 2010
11:31 am

You’ve prepared a meal for later, you have interacted in feeding each other, and you both are satisfied. No one person is eating while the other sits back to watch.

@Raqi??

that there sounds exactly like u have seduced some man?? :lol:

am i reading wrong…thats a play i cld add to my portfolio.

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 26th, 2010
11:32 am

I am Fist Pumping to that

You betta get your Jersey shore on then!! Go,go,go,go,go….

Wonder wht I’ll be doing later?….hmmmm

I am whatever you say I am

March 26th, 2010
11:33 am

“… my brother is a Kappa and all my guy friends are pretty much Kappas honey honey honey, aint nuthing like a Kappa man, or non greek who possess some kappa qualities ..”

My daddy is a Kappa!!! Can the Kappas get a AMEN!?!!

Lady J-Lioness

March 26th, 2010
11:33 am

damn leggs flexible and teamplayer! I am hyped all errors in love! don’t throw a tomato @ me! Ha!

I am whatever you say I am

March 26th, 2010
11:34 am

Carlito: you ain’t ready

Lady J-Lioness

March 26th, 2010
11:34 am

I am My daddy is too 35pls years!