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Heating things up

Food can be an integral part of the dating process.   At some point, we are either mingling or getting to know one another over food.  Cooking great food is also a great way to add spice (pun intended) to the regular, run of the mill date activities.

I recruited my fabulous new gal pal Chef Bren Herrera to help us navigate the joys of cooking and dating.  She is a fellow blogger who recently wrote about one of her clients thinking outside the box for a non-traditional date idea. He hired her to prepare a special meal for a special lady.  I have to say, there is something about a personal chef that can add instant wow factor to a date!

Chef Bren

Photo: Shannon McCollumn

I asked Chef Bren how cooking could heat things up for a non-traditional date:

1. Cooking on a date will show both guy and gal that you’re atypical and think outside the box! Who like movies and dinner dates! So, so passé! It’s 2010.

2. You can totally spoon-feed each other while “tasting” what you’re making. That makes for an intended sexy moment, without being forceful or offensive.

3. If you’re looking for a life-long mate that can cook, this is the test!! How willing are they to break out the cutting board and knives and mince garlic(which will make your breath stinky, but that’s another test of his/her real interest)? If they’re down for it, chances are they are conscious of budgeting, their health and quality time at home.

4. If the food is good, you’ve sealed the deal and a 2nd date is in order.

Well, she makes a pretty convincing argument. What do you think? Would cooking a meal prepared by the two of you not impress the socks (yes…just the socks) off of you?

Have you tried it before? What would you do if you showed up to your date’s place to find the meal waiting to be cooked.  Would you be impressed and turned on a little (Am I the only one thinking of the film 9 1/2 weeks right now? Just me? Ok.)

Would you *ahem* go with the flow and roll up your sleeves? As far as non-traditional dates go, this would definitely be outside the norm.  It would definitely be a memorable night.  I won’t forget the night younger guy brought all these ingredients to my place.  I left to run an errand and when I walked back in, I was shocked to find dinner was done. Then he fed me. No seriously, he literally cooked and fed me. You’ve got to admire those younger dudes.

Chef Bren said that a male client’s favorite dish is the spicy seared scallops in honey with a mango and cilantro relish. That sounds amazing! Do you have an amazing recipe that would be ideal for date nights? What dish do you use to impress the ladies/men?

891 comments Add your comment

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:25 pm

sorry didn’t mean to paste all that but yeah Carlito, I can see what you mean

SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)

March 26th, 2010
4:26 pm

Carlito – Trust me when I say kimmie is truly mortified over there and intended no offense. I can see her turning four or five different shades of red. LOL!

Professor

March 26th, 2010
4:27 pm

Carlito and Lurker you two are not right! That’s good I got some good laughs in.

I like that Creflo Dollar comparison.

kimmie

March 26th, 2010
4:28 pm

SCool – You know me well!

DJ Arnett

March 26th, 2010
4:28 pm

These are some great ideas, thanks for the post. I find that tips and suggestions like these really help to show your wife or husband or bf/gf that you’re still paying attention. I’d be interested if anyone else has any other “non traditional” date ideas to suggest, specifically for guys. I’ve found a couple books on the topic, with lists of ideas and advice –a good one I’ve found on Amazon.com is “101 Ways to Surprise & Delight Your Wife”. This one has been GREAT for ways to show her you’re still in love, so that’s the kind of thing I’m talking about. But if anyone has any other suggestions for showing my wife that I actually still WANT to show her affection, and surprise her from time to time, I’d be interested to hear any other ideas people have. Thanks again for your post.

Luvbug

March 26th, 2010
4:31 pm

I can read this if this thing goes over 8 pages.

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
4:31 pm

Sexy Cool, I am cool. it’s not what you are called but what you respond to.

Kimmie, I have no issue with you at all :)

lurker, no problem.

Melo, I am tired of waiting for her. :) I know what I like. HA HA

Luvbug

March 26th, 2010
4:32 pm

Gaw-to-might!!!

Dreams- Maybe…naw…must stay focused.

Luvbug

March 26th, 2010
4:33 pm

Dang…

*Gawt-toe-mighty!!!

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:34 pm

@Demi ~ I know you will…stay in touch.

@lurker ~ surprised you didn’t break the blog machine with all that negativity. Being from The Bronx, calling someone a “guido” is definitely an affront to their character.

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:34 pm

Leggs – I humbly apologize…I didn’t mean for all that to paste

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:35 pm

Can be break the spell and actually go to 10 pages???

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
4:35 pm

DJ Arnett, nothing says I love you like sucking her panty juice :) That means you are in for the long haul.

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:35 pm

I was “showing” agreeance to what Carlito said.

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:35 pm

DreamsMaterialize

March 26th, 2010
4:35 pm

How ’bout we discuss the weather?
Professor we can talk about whatever you like. The sangria will make it all ok. ;-) Man I remember drinking sangria on the patio in spain, overlooking the Mediterranean…nice.

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:36 pm

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:36 pm

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:36 pm

I was trying to hold out but I’m leaving…night all

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
4:37 pm

How many post are on each page? How many are needed to get to the 10th page?

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:37 pm

No need to apologize, you cool!

Melo

March 26th, 2010
4:37 pm

Im ready for a fish and chips..kinda hungry too….

flying solo this time…

orange juice for starters

fish and chips on deck

wash down with gin and sprite

then scope the ladies phine azzes and shimy leggs as they pass thru..

in their flowing spring dresses…

kimmie

March 26th, 2010
4:38 pm

Man I remember drinking sangria on the patio in spain, overlooking the Mediterranean…nice.

Sounds wonderful!

Professor

March 26th, 2010
4:38 pm

Leggs tell that fool lurker again. Shoot we can all google and wikipedia if we are on this blog. Here I am trying to read something nasty hot and I get a term paper. :roll:

Carlito~ I know you are tired of waiting, so where is it at now? Still pass your belly button

DreamsMaterialize

March 26th, 2010
4:39 pm

Dreams- Maybe…naw…must stay focused.
What I’m proposing takes “focus” too, so your focus won’t go to waste. ;-)

Melo

March 26th, 2010
4:39 pm

which ncaa teams are playing tonite??

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
4:41 pm

Professor, I just have one of our action DVD on. With all of this anticipation I will bust the first one quickly once she arrives. I am thinking about rubbing the first one out. :)

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:41 pm

Now now Professor, let’s not result to name calling. I said I was dang sorry, now get the heck up off of it…K?

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
4:41 pm

melo:

7:07 PM #6 Tennessee vs #2 Ohio St.
7:27 PM #10 St. Mary’s vs #3 Baylor
9:37 PM #9 N. Iowa vs #5 Michigan St.
9:57 PM #4 Purdue vs #1 Duke

Let’s go St. Mary’s! At least one Cali team is still in it. :evil:

DreamsMaterialize

March 26th, 2010
4:42 pm

Sounds wonderful!
kimmie I’m all about scenery and atmosphere. I guess I’m adventurous that way.

Luvbug

March 26th, 2010
4:42 pm

Well…a change in focus would be nice, but…I still have so much to do in so little time…schedule…you know how that goes.

Professor

March 26th, 2010
4:44 pm

Kimmie speaking of sangrias I am thinking about using Moscato in the recipe you gave me…I will let you know how that works out.

Melo it is chilly out there you are not going to see no spring dresses today more like tight jeans, cute jacket and heels

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
4:44 pm

Melo, Tenn. vs. Ohio State, Baylor vs. St Mary’s, Duke vs. Purdue, UNI vs Mich St.

I really want to see UNI go all the way

DreamsMaterialize

March 26th, 2010
4:44 pm

Luvbug sometimes you have to “schedule” in some refocus. ;-)

Melo

March 26th, 2010
4:45 pm

Thnx Ared,..hopefully i will be home in time for the last two!

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
4:46 pm

Thnx Ared,..hopefully i will be home in time for the last two!

That Kansas State vs. Xavier game went to double over time and kept me up past midnight. I was late to work this morning. :(

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
4:46 pm

How far until 10?

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
4:47 pm

Tonight…I am giving him something he can fe-eel, to let him knooow this love is re-eal.

Professor

March 26th, 2010
4:47 pm

Lurker…see timestamp that should help you on this one.

Carlito~ if we don’t see you posting we will know you are letting it out :wink:

Melo

March 26th, 2010
4:47 pm

Melo it is chilly out there you are not going to see no spring dresses today more like tight jeans, cute jacket and heels

@Proff!

so if i see one in tight skirt, i suspect she on high drought and plenty cobweb up there,she checking the waters for a quick strike…maybe.

Thanx!…have a good one!

Everybody!

kimmie

March 26th, 2010
4:48 pm

Professor – I thought about using that too – yeah, let me know how it goes!

Melo

March 26th, 2010
4:49 pm

That Kansas State vs. Xavier game went to double over time and kept me up past midnight.

@Ared,,thats works phine 4 us..I wiill tell her to get a shower and then come ova by the couch, pantyless to attend to me as I watch the game…fun and games for sho!

hope u do the same Ared! :lol:

Dig That

March 26th, 2010
4:49 pm

Did I just see that you knuckleheads are on page 9. Friday is crunk.

Tonight…I am giving him something he can fe-eel, to let him knooow this love is re-eal.

@Raqi
I see you baby. Give it to him mama

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
4:49 pm

Tonight…I am giving him something he can fe-eel, to let him knooow this love is re-eal.

En Vogue is coming with Boyz II Men to Chastain this summer. :D

(I know En Vogue did a remake and not the original)

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
4:50 pm

Carlito, there are 100 comments per page so unless the blog stay open late it probably won’t make it to 10 pages. You got 10 minutes.

And I am out for real. I gotz to go home and then drop the little one off at the ggm.

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:51 pm

It’s a skill you have, Melo, to flip just about anything.

Professor

March 26th, 2010
4:51 pm

Melo if she is not wearing tights or leggings yep it is a drought or maybe she is working (if you get my drift)….have fun.

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
4:51 pm

@Ared,,thats works phine 4 us..I wiill tell her to get a shower and then come ova by the couch, pantyless to attend to me as I watch the game…fun and games for sho!

hope u do the same Ared!

I’m more into March Madness than he is (he played football)…he didn’t even do a bracket! So he’ll have to tend to me cuz I’ll be watching til it’s thru.

My teams are out, so at least I won’t be watching the games on my phone at dinner. :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
4:52 pm

It’s a skill you have, Melo, to flip just about anything.

:lol:

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
4:52 pm

Raqi, thanks :)