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Heating things up

Food can be an integral part of the dating process.   At some point, we are either mingling or getting to know one another over food.  Cooking great food is also a great way to add spice (pun intended) to the regular, run of the mill date activities.

I recruited my fabulous new gal pal Chef Bren Herrera to help us navigate the joys of cooking and dating.  She is a fellow blogger who recently wrote about one of her clients thinking outside the box for a non-traditional date idea. He hired her to prepare a special meal for a special lady.  I have to say, there is something about a personal chef that can add instant wow factor to a date!

Chef Bren

Photo: Shannon McCollumn

I asked Chef Bren how cooking could heat things up for a non-traditional date:

1. Cooking on a date will show both guy and gal that you’re atypical and think outside the box! Who like movies and dinner dates! So, so passé! It’s 2010.

2. You can totally spoon-feed each other while “tasting” what you’re making. That makes for an intended sexy moment, without being forceful or offensive.

3. If you’re looking for a life-long mate that can cook, this is the test!! How willing are they to break out the cutting board and knives and mince garlic(which will make your breath stinky, but that’s another test of his/her real interest)? If they’re down for it, chances are they are conscious of budgeting, their health and quality time at home.

4. If the food is good, you’ve sealed the deal and a 2nd date is in order.

Well, she makes a pretty convincing argument. What do you think? Would cooking a meal prepared by the two of you not impress the socks (yes…just the socks) off of you?

Have you tried it before? What would you do if you showed up to your date’s place to find the meal waiting to be cooked.  Would you be impressed and turned on a little (Am I the only one thinking of the film 9 1/2 weeks right now? Just me? Ok.)

Would you *ahem* go with the flow and roll up your sleeves? As far as non-traditional dates go, this would definitely be outside the norm.  It would definitely be a memorable night.  I won’t forget the night younger guy brought all these ingredients to my place.  I left to run an errand and when I walked back in, I was shocked to find dinner was done. Then he fed me. No seriously, he literally cooked and fed me. You’ve got to admire those younger dudes.

Chef Bren said that a male client’s favorite dish is the spicy seared scallops in honey with a mango and cilantro relish. That sounds amazing! Do you have an amazing recipe that would be ideal for date nights? What dish do you use to impress the ladies/men?

891 comments Add your comment

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
3:57 pm

@Raqi ~ that’s is so so true. But, if I had to get up and go the bathroom cuz I got that heated, I would have to let Mary and Her Five Fingers finish me off right in that bathroom stall!

Shet it up, Melo!

@SexyC ~ I rec’d 3 notices informing me the census form will be arriving in the mail with one of them giving me a number to call if I have any questions. Sheesh, all they’re asking is your name, address and age of people in the home with you. If you don’t know those answers, you have a mental problem and should be in one of Raqi’s made-to-order straight jackets!

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
3:58 pm

LOL lurker, yeah being at work squashes that.

But imma get him after he has come in and sat on the couch a turned to the news or espn. Straddle him, attack him with a passionate kiss, whisper in his ear that I am not wearing any panties, then take his hand and show him. LOL

I am done with yall. I got work to do.

Everyone have a good evening. I hope you all have as much fun as I am going to in about 2 hours and 30 minutes.

lurker

March 26th, 2010
3:58 pm

LURKER, why all the letterssssssssssss in your postttttttttttt????????

lurker

March 26th, 2010
3:59 pm

Raqi – you ain’t right. You know that right?

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
3:59 pm

LOL He is a Preacher.

SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)

March 26th, 2010
3:59 pm

Tell me about it! I looked back over the dern form 3 or 4 times because I kept thinking I MUST have overlooked SOMEthing!!!!

Sheesh!

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 26th, 2010
3:59 pm

This is for all the women of the blog,,

Take my hand, Come with baby to LURKER Land
Let me show how good it can be
Sharing your hotbox,sweet thang, CT,with LURKER!!

DreamsMaterialize

March 26th, 2010
4:00 pm

Can’t letcha. Not good for lurker. lurker wants to be a good girl. Shhhhhh…our secret. You’ll still be a good girl. lol

Raqi You know ice won’t help, especially since you’re the one fanning the flames. Keep fanning though…in my direction of course. ;-)

Professor Come see me at the blog bar so we can have a drink and talk about “compensation” studies.

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:00 pm

So now, I should just get down sinning and all huh? Naaah, I’m rolling up out of her. Got to keep my wits about myself…lol

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:00 pm

@Sprung = nose wide open…you see no wrong your SO can do…if they ask, you’ll rob bank…that’s sprung!

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
4:01 pm

Professor – I’m sorry to say i’ve never heard of panty sucking until this Fine Freaky Friday. Make my experience look like i’m rated PG lol

Ya’ll be safe, strap it up, make sure your panty juice is not past it’s expiration date and BUST all weekend long.

I’m out dis peace to go get my hair done, then messed up again. :mrgreen: (at least I hope so)

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
4:03 pm

Sprung cn be used in a good was as well. I think.

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:03 pm

@SexyC ~ so did I. I looked down in my chair to make sure a leaflet didn’t fall out or anything. I only have one child, so I was finished in a blink of an eye. Seriously, how much was spent on those commercials to promote 10 SIMPLE questions?

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:05 pm

Dreams, my 4:00 wasn’t at you. That was for the bad influence Raqi that got freaky friday rolling and aide, Leggs

Melo

March 26th, 2010
4:05 pm

let Mary and Her Five Fingers finish me off right in that bathroom stall!
@Leggs!

see…i knew it!! :lol:

Straddle him, attack him with a passionate kiss, whisper in his ear that I am not wearing any panties, then take his hand and show him. LOL

@Raqi

She shld teach a class,for real!! besides u can make money with anything here in america.

But this class wld only be for married folks. Dont wanna teach this, then see the skills being wasted on undeserving suckers! :lol:

Thats a awesome play right there!

Tazzee - 49 days til Mrs.

March 26th, 2010
4:06 pm

Alright good folks – I’m out.

have a great weekend – SCool, I’ll be calling you about yoga.

DreamsMaterialize

March 26th, 2010
4:07 pm

lurker
It’s ok, I won’t tell anyone about the bad influences. Come give me a hug before you go though. ;-)

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:08 pm

@Carlito ~ yes, sprung can be used in a good way. You’re sprung and it’s refreshing since only 2 weeks ago you said you probably never love again….

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:09 pm

Only a church hug…whew

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 26th, 2010
4:09 pm

@Leggs….In my early days I met a couple of women who had my nose wide open, they had that I will drain you anyplace anytime mentality. They had me speaking in tongues like Creflo Dollar!!!!!!! Can I get an amen!!!!

Lurker….That is for emphasis…Now lurker stay thristy my friend! :wink:

kimmie

March 26th, 2010
4:09 pm

I’m just a virgin and I’m on my way to be wed…

Morning, noon & night I give you HEAD
Gee your love is red, HEAD
Love you till you’re dead…

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:10 pm

Hot Damn, we’re up to 8 pages!!!

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:10 pm

LURKER, getting quinched ain’t a problem now.

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
4:10 pm

I was holding myself back and like I said she loved me when I did not give a darn about myself. Great woman, Julia is.

I guess she and I won’t be sinning once we get married. LOL

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:11 pm

I’m pointing at every regular blogger and 3 of the lurkers…..all of you are straight up CRAZY!

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 26th, 2010
4:12 pm

lurker….Ummmm what is a church? Does that we will do the chest bump? :lol:

@Leggs, Leggs, I see you have picked up a youngster….. Nice move get your groove on!

Life is too short so live each day the very best you can!

Stay thristy my friends!

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:12 pm

@Carlito ~ and just by coming on this blog, we showed you the error in your ways and you were free to open your heart. Damn, ARed, you’re right, we is powerful!!!!

DreamsMaterialize

March 26th, 2010
4:13 pm

Leggs If you point at me, then I’ll be forced to drive you “crazy”.

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:13 pm

LURKER – church hug? Nothing below the shoulders touch

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:14 pm

Too damn funny, I’ve picked up a youngster….guess so!

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
4:15 pm

Drive me crazy, just don’t make my head hurt…wait, that’s some good sex when that happens….hhhmmmm!!!

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 26th, 2010
4:15 pm

That is church hug!

@Lurker…. Getting quenched is no longer a problem…huh….Are you about to proceed with Mr. Ex ball player? Lurker are you a playa? :lol:

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:16 pm

Now now LURKER, let’s not let this turn ugly. No ballplayers for me. Nope…good girl.

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
4:17 pm

God, is the only Judge, any church goer knows that. Right? I am glad I am Catholic, have to love Confession.

Now back to the freaky. LOL If she does not hurry up, I may have round 2 without her. LOL

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:18 pm

I have 20 unread emails from my manager

DreamsMaterialize

March 26th, 2010
4:18 pm

lurker I’m only good for a church hug? I thought we were better than that. lol

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 26th, 2010
4:18 pm

Women make sure your stomach is full because when your SO is licking and stroking we do not want your heads to pop-off……. YEA! How is that lurker?

@Carlito….Creflo Dollar bill yall,…. Is a preacher who speaks in tongue!

@WD we are going to get to 800 blogs today, so when is the blog party going to happen? :lol:

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:18 pm

Dreams – Okay, for you, bring in a couple of inches.

kimmie

March 26th, 2010
4:19 pm

Alrighty then, Guido!

SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)

March 26th, 2010
4:19 pm

ATL Summer Jam ticket purchase confirmed!!!

I’m trying to figure out how to put this without sounding….lame….

It’s nice to have someone in your life to plan *future* events with. Let’s you know they plan on sticking around.

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:20 pm

Creflo Dollar bill yall…that sounded feminine.

LURKER, are you female?

Demi

March 26th, 2010
4:21 pm

779 comment…THE FUGG YO!!!!

Professor

March 26th, 2010
4:21 pm

Kimmie~ Is that you??? I know you said you were going to participate, but I almost fainted when I read it.

@DREAMSM I will take a sangria…I’ve had enough of compensation, benefits neg and employee relations this week. How ’bout we discuss the weather?

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
4:22 pm

Kimmie, I love you all day but to some of u(including me) s, the majority of us the term “guido” is the same as the “N” word to African Americans

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
4:22 pm

Just filled my census form out in 2.5 minutes.

SCool – Hope you checked “negro!” :lol:

SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)

March 26th, 2010
4:23 pm

Well, I didn’t see *colored*…so….

kimmie

March 26th, 2010
4:24 pm

So sorry Carlito! I truly didn’t know – did not mean to offend.

lurker

March 26th, 2010
4:24 pm

Pulled from the internet

guido

buy guido mugs, tshirts and magnetsA sad pathetic excuse for a male; not necessarily of Italian descent, but most likely; usually native to the New York/New Jersey Tri-State area.

WARDROBE: tight zipper shirts, tracksuits, designer jeans, fuzzy kangol hats, tiny hoop earrings, fake gold chains, and related Euro-trash garb and tacky cheese-wear.

NATURAL HABITAT: Known to frequent Tri-State area malls looking for club gear to waste their week’s pay on (most likely spotted shopping at “Bang Bang” in Staten Island). During the day when not at their food delivery, telemarketting, or construction job, can be located at their local gym tanning or lifting weights. Can be found nightly at mainstream danceclubs they read about online (SF, Webster Hall, Etc.). Most notable for cruising the Jersey shore in an old car (Honda, Mustang, etc.) which has been tinted, painted and sports $1,000-$3,000 rims in a feeble attempt to look like new. Guido cars usually have a boomin’ system through which cheesy music like freestyle, commercial club/trance and hip-hop (anything KTU plays) is loudly blasted.

GENETIC LINKS: Directly related to modern day urban-guidos, A.K.A. “wiggers,” A.K.A. “wegros;” urban-guidos are white males who once exhibited the traits referenced above, but have now instead opted to keep it unreal, with wardrobes consisting of clothes from labels like FUBU and Rocawear which they bought on sale at Macy’s. These individuals still listen to the same music and drive the same type of car as their predece…
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by solushus Mar 29, 2004 share this
2. Guido 3990 up, 511 down
buy guido mugs, tshirts and magnetsan Italian American man usually residing in New York or New Jersey. He wears shirts that are too tight and unbuttoned 5 buttons too low to show off the chest that he spent hours and hours at the gym obtaining, he spends more time on his hair than his girlfriend, and continues to “hit the clubs” long into his mid to late 30’s. Often attracted to the female version of himself, the guidette.
Could that guy at the bar be any greasier?! He is such a guido
by Liz Aug 20, 2003 share this
3. guido 2283 up, 402 down
buy guido mugs, tshirts and magnetsThe Guido is an entirely American phenomena, with its epicenter in the New York/ New Jersey metropolitan area. Although most of its examples are of Italian-American descent, manytimes other non-descript Caucasians will follow suit in an attempt to achieve an identity- in fact any identity. The Guido is highly recognizable by his attention to muscular development, status symbols, and regional dialect. Guidos are fortunate in that they usually tend to be loyal to their heritage and cultures. However, their interpretation of the Italian culture is unique to Americans. They fall sorrily short when attempting to emulate the sophistication of European-born men. In fact, their shortcomings include a tendency toward alcoholism, legal problems (usually related to assault, reckless driving, noise violations), and an inability to compete in legimate business. Fortunately for them, they usually live an exciting, care-free existance. They are easily satiated by tacky mall attire, drunken nights with similar-minded women, and nightclubbing in the lesser desired beach towns such as Seaside Heights, New Jersey. In the end, although they maintain a unique sense of identity and pride, their superficial lives often leave them empty. The tolls of excessive grooming products, STDs, and alcohol abuse age these specimens quite poorly. The time spent in fitness clubs is usually far offset by their lifestyle choices.
“Although he spends all his time in the gym and dancing in the clubs, that Guido will soon be a burned out alcoholic working a thankless job, living alone in his one-bedroom apartment in North Jersey”

Melo

March 26th, 2010
4:25 pm

If she does not hurry up, I may have round 2 without her. LOL

@Carlito!

boy u stoopid! :lol:

Demi

March 26th, 2010
4:25 pm

anyway…legg, todoay is my last day on this cursed side of town…i will miss strokers though