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Heating things up

Food can be an integral part of the dating process.   At some point, we are either mingling or getting to know one another over food.  Cooking great food is also a great way to add spice (pun intended) to the regular, run of the mill date activities.

I recruited my fabulous new gal pal Chef Bren Herrera to help us navigate the joys of cooking and dating.  She is a fellow blogger who recently wrote about one of her clients thinking outside the box for a non-traditional date idea. He hired her to prepare a special meal for a special lady.  I have to say, there is something about a personal chef that can add instant wow factor to a date!

Chef Bren

Photo: Shannon McCollumn

I asked Chef Bren how cooking could heat things up for a non-traditional date:

1. Cooking on a date will show both guy and gal that you’re atypical and think outside the box! Who like movies and dinner dates! So, so passé! It’s 2010.

2. You can totally spoon-feed each other while “tasting” what you’re making. That makes for an intended sexy moment, without being forceful or offensive.

3. If you’re looking for a life-long mate that can cook, this is the test!! How willing are they to break out the cutting board and knives and mince garlic(which will make your breath stinky, but that’s another test of his/her real interest)? If they’re down for it, chances are they are conscious of budgeting, their health and quality time at home.

4. If the food is good, you’ve sealed the deal and a 2nd date is in order.

Well, she makes a pretty convincing argument. What do you think? Would cooking a meal prepared by the two of you not impress the socks (yes…just the socks) off of you?

Have you tried it before? What would you do if you showed up to your date’s place to find the meal waiting to be cooked.  Would you be impressed and turned on a little (Am I the only one thinking of the film 9 1/2 weeks right now? Just me? Ok.)

Would you *ahem* go with the flow and roll up your sleeves? As far as non-traditional dates go, this would definitely be outside the norm.  It would definitely be a memorable night.  I won’t forget the night younger guy brought all these ingredients to my place.  I left to run an errand and when I walked back in, I was shocked to find dinner was done. Then he fed me. No seriously, he literally cooked and fed me. You’ve got to admire those younger dudes.

Chef Bren said that a male client’s favorite dish is the spicy seared scallops in honey with a mango and cilantro relish. That sounds amazing! Do you have an amazing recipe that would be ideal for date nights? What dish do you use to impress the ladies/men?

891 comments Add your comment

Luvbug

March 26th, 2010
2:38 pm

lurker

March 26th, 2010
2:39 pm

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
2:39 pm

“Boo got to the point where he would ask u want it fast or you want it slow” This reminds me of that song

Sometimes I rhyme quick, sometimes I rhyme slow

And asking if you want it hard or soft immediately reminds me of ordering a taco…but I guess they really are one in the same. LOL!

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:39 pm

Hard….

One of the quickest ways there, take that pink, beige (or whatever color Leggs) tip and brush softly up against the inner gates to paradise. Once he feels that wet…

LOL Okay yall imma stop. I was super busy this morning but now I got a little time on my hands.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
2:40 pm

luvbug

have you ever had it so good that you dang near “release” with the first stroke

now fanning my face :oops:

Lady J

March 26th, 2010
2:40 pm

luvbug hot mess! lmao!

Melo

March 26th, 2010
2:40 pm

that smacking sound our hips make when is getting it from behind

yeah,that sphlackalacka is da bomb!

Lady J

March 26th, 2010
2:41 pm

how bout a tear superstar! lol i know dramtic but some good loving can bring a tear! lol

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
2:41 pm

slim you silly

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
2:41 pm

still laughing….one indian tear.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
2:42 pm

Lady J, not a single tear a couple tears it was just so good the connection was just so strong whew

Lady J

March 26th, 2010
2:43 pm

you hit it a connection like no other!

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
2:44 pm

Nothing like being rode hard and then soft!

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:44 pm

have you ever had it so good that you dang near “release” with the first stroke

uhhh, yep when the prelude is so wonderful he got me literally, I mean literally begging for it and pulling him into me….

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
2:44 pm

Tv’s, Raqi said it best “All I look for is a clear picture and great sound while standing there in the store.” That is all that really matters. Oh yeah, I said at the speed of light and I meant to say speed of sound. The speed of light is actual used to determine distances, not a rate of travel.

I like to take her doggstyle, when i could just grab her waist our get to handfulls of her butt. Or when I am pumping hard and my b*lls get to slapping back and forth. Especially when we are on the floor in front of the full mirror. I am looking at her not me. I love missionary putting all of my pressure on her and working that winding motion and having the top of “it” also hitting her cl*t when I move my whole body in a circular motion while in her, sometimes I do that while on top and i place both of her legs together. I like for her to lay on her stomach and I lay on top of her that way. Also I am very tall and she is only 5′4 so I like it when she is on top and works those hips. Hurry up and get home baby!! :)

Melo, Im not Swiss nor Black, just real, but thanks :)

Lurker, Jesse James is very succesful and has tons of money on his on. Consistent money, you would be hard presse to find one of his custom autos or bikes below $100K and has has had tons of TV “how to build” shows for years and he is a a direct descendant from the Jesse James of the Wild Wild West.

Leggs, I will take you TV shopping anytime…ahem ANYTIME!! LOL :)

Lady J

March 26th, 2010
2:46 pm

superstar I had to go there and top off freaky friday! Enjoy and enjoy your weekend!!! LOL

Make me crazy, don’t speak no sound
I want you to prove it to me in the nude
Addicted to the way you move

Honey, if anything ever should change in you
Don’t worry I’m standing still
I’ll move in with the right of will

This is the highest cost, take you and make you off
Love you and leave you lost, will you forgive me?
Asked out all over town, drags you and keeps you down
Two times in a day around, will you forgive me?

I can’t control the feeling girl ’cause I know you’re here
I feel you from the floor to the ceiling
Girl, I feel you when you comb your hair

Lady when we lock it low we get together, it’s an overdose
I’m slipping, I’m here, I’m on my knees
I feel my heart’s about to explode

This is the highest cost, take you and make you off
Love you and leave you lost, will you forgive me?
Asked out all over town, drags you and keeps you down
Two times in a day around, will you forgive me?

Baby to tell the truth when I’m sober I jones for you
When it’s over I’m overdue
Girl there’s no one as bad, no one as bad as you

You got me, you got me
You got me slippin’ around with it, around with it, oh why?
You got me sick with this love baby
I’m so, I’m so in love, I can’t come down

This is the highest cost, take you and make you off
Love you and leave you lost, will you forgive me?
Asked out all over town, drags you and keeps you down
Two times in a day around, will you forgive me?

You’re my bad habit baby, you’re my
You’re takin’ my soul down to the letter O
Can’t escape the way you got me locked out baby
I gotta break from you, break from you, break from you

This is the highest cost, take you and make you off
Love you and leave you lost, will you forgive me?
Asked out all over town, drags you and keeps you down
Two times in a day around, will you forgive me?

Will you forgive me? Will you forgive me?
Will you forgive me? Will you forgive me?
Asked out all over town, drags you and keeps you down
Two times in a day around, will you forgive me?

I can’t control the feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling
I can’t control the feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling
I can’t control the feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling
I can’t control the feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling

You’re my soul, soul
You’re my soul, soul

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
2:47 pm

@ Carlito ~ I’m walking away from this computer RIGHT NOW!!!!

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:48 pm

Danggit, I better stop. I am making my ownself ready rumble. LOL

I got to pick up the baby and get her ready to go the her grand-godmother’s. I can’t be thinking about getting it, getting it.

Luvbug

March 26th, 2010
2:49 pm

have you ever had it so good that you dang near “release” with the first stroke

PrincessNik – Not yet…but that’s b/c i have to switch my thoughts to something unflattering…like sworms or old people eating twizzlers.

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
2:49 pm

Ladies, have you ever had a climax just from n*pple play? If not, i would hate to deny you. LOL :)

I love to tell her sometimes when she wants to please me, “don’t worry about me just do you” She closes those eyes and goes there and her mind and I just enjoy it :)

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
2:49 pm

Also I am very tall and she is only 5′4

Boooooooo!!!!

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:49 pm

WiseDiva you need to come control your crowd. Leggs is getting out hand. She know the rest of us is vergens. All except Tazzee. She be licking tattoos.

Melo

March 26th, 2010
2:51 pm

My ex loves Axe body wash

@Ared..why speak an old language..tell us about now??

@Luvbug! u slipping…by the time someone asks u for marriage,u shld have explored everything with toads.

Luvpositions??

what i really enjoy most with missionary is seeing u fling ur lil leg up and round my body and butt and smetimes,digging in my butt to go deeper with ur heel.
Talk of an ego boost,thats it right there! :lol: smetimes ive looked back on the action to see ur calf all tensed up.

That really gets me rolling smetimes.

Thanks for opening the freaky door Luvbug..I was running late! :lol:

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
2:51 pm

Luvbug don’t fight that feeling it makes for an intense session

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:51 pm

Ladies, have you ever had a climax just from n*pple play?

Carlito, I am married to a self proclaimed breatologist so, uh, yeah. He can work the nips. LOL

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
2:52 pm

Leggs, I am so glad I am not in Atlanta right now. :)

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:53 pm

Have you ever had a big “one” that makes your head hurt afterwards? LOL That’s not too fun.

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:54 pm

Carlito, have you ever gotten a woman nearly there just by blowing on her skin? Or lightly dragging your fingertips up and down her body?

You need to try that.

kinderbabe--37 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 26th, 2010
2:54 pm

well, well, well…w/all of this talk and such, i know what my afterschool special be…YEAAAAHHHHH!!! LOL

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
2:54 pm

AmazonRed, everyone is short to me :)

Raqi, the first time I did that. I found a puddle “downthere” and then I looked up and she was all flush. I said when did you c*m (I know her “look”), she said “when? the first time?” so I kept that in my bag of tricks.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
2:55 pm

Raqi
i know you can follow me on this

what about when it just seems your “cashmere kitty” curves to his dizzle no matter how many times a nice snug fit

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
2:55 pm

(Slim now sending out mass text message for anyone with an Emergency Vitamin D Dispenser on hand)

:mrgreen:

Oh wait, i’m getting my hair done immediately after work….Oh well…I might have to do like that R. Kelly song and SWEAT IT OUT…SWEAT IT OUT…SWEAT IT OUT! :lol:

I just realized Carlito is the only one in here holding it down with all the blog ladies. Where da rest of the MLB go?

kinderbabe--37 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 26th, 2010
2:55 pm

@Raqi, you are right…that’s not fun! guess there is a such thing as a good headache;)

Luvbug

March 26th, 2010
2:56 pm

Melo – Marriage? Boy you sure know how to dry a well.

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
2:56 pm

Raqi, yes I have. I am all up in my woman’s mental mind. I have her on a great schedule via many different paths.

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
2:58 pm

“Have you ever had a big “one” that makes your head hurt afterwards? LOL That’s not too fun”

Raqi – I never knew that happened to anyone else…it’s all good and booommmmm it’s there then all of a sudden OUCH headache!

But GUYS, you and your SO be really connected into the groove, talking dirty and she ends up saying something that just releases all your will power and next thing you know it’s over….That “Go Deeper” seems to get em every time.

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 26th, 2010
2:58 pm

@CARLITO…….I am not sure but most women have not experience the big-O thru the nizzle.
I worked well with small,medium or large nizzles and you will experience unbelievable pleasure!1
YEAAAAAAAA!!!!!

@PrincessNik…….PrincessNIK…….YEAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:59 pm

I found a puddle “downthere”

Carlito, since I don’t know you I can you this, but don’t tell the other bloggers I told you. He likes when I wear dark colored panties and during the prelude that wet spot appears and he rubs it with his finger and say “that’s what I like to see”.

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
2:59 pm

@Ared..why speak an old language..tell us about now??

melo – Someone asked we knew anyone who wore Axe. I was just answering the question, hon.

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
2:59 pm

OMG. Y’all nasty. :lol:

lurker

March 26th, 2010
3:01 pm

SERIOUSLY, gotta go! Ya’ll getting closely dangerous to

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
3:02 pm

curves to his

Princess, that’s why I made the comment the other day about having babies does not stretch you out. Wears like a well fitting glove everytime.

That’s all imma say about that. LOL

Tazzee - 49 days til Mrs.

March 26th, 2010
3:02 pm

kinderbabe – I was just looking at the calendar for the Vinings Hot Yoga classes this week. My BFF and I are planning to go to a class. That’s one of the items on my 40 before 40 list.

SCool – you should come with us when we go. I’ll let you know…

lurker

March 26th, 2010
3:03 pm

Raqi, one more and you’re in violation.

lurker

March 26th, 2010
3:04 pm

I tried to walk today but too cold outside

kinderbabe--37 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 26th, 2010
3:04 pm

@Tazzee…you all will enjoy it!:) it’s one of my favorite forms of exercise. please let me know how it was next week after you go.

Melo

March 26th, 2010
3:04 pm

what about when it just seems your “cashmere kitty” curves to his dizzle no matter how many times a nice snug fit

@Princessnik??

yeah,u keep ur house in order i see! :lol:

@Luvbug..why u scarred of marrieage?

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
3:05 pm

Fellas, have you ever had a woman’s cervix dang near leave your wang feeling like it has been mauled?

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
3:06 pm

experience the big-O thru the nizzle

LURKER, you got to “ride high”. If you make good contact with the top of your pelvis against her you have a better chance at getting her to achieve clit-o while penetrating. However, you got to also know how to work those hips.

Watch Ricky Martin dance. That boy is a waste of man flesh. The way he works those hips he could have a woman begging for more. But he would rather bat for the other team.

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
3:07 pm

Tazzee – “Safety” swears by hot yoga!!!