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Heating things up

Food can be an integral part of the dating process.   At some point, we are either mingling or getting to know one another over food.  Cooking great food is also a great way to add spice (pun intended) to the regular, run of the mill date activities.

I recruited my fabulous new gal pal Chef Bren Herrera to help us navigate the joys of cooking and dating.  She is a fellow blogger who recently wrote about one of her clients thinking outside the box for a non-traditional date idea. He hired her to prepare a special meal for a special lady.  I have to say, there is something about a personal chef that can add instant wow factor to a date!

Chef Bren

Photo: Shannon McCollumn

I asked Chef Bren how cooking could heat things up for a non-traditional date:

1. Cooking on a date will show both guy and gal that you’re atypical and think outside the box! Who like movies and dinner dates! So, so passé! It’s 2010.

2. You can totally spoon-feed each other while “tasting” what you’re making. That makes for an intended sexy moment, without being forceful or offensive.

3. If you’re looking for a life-long mate that can cook, this is the test!! How willing are they to break out the cutting board and knives and mince garlic(which will make your breath stinky, but that’s another test of his/her real interest)? If they’re down for it, chances are they are conscious of budgeting, their health and quality time at home.

4. If the food is good, you’ve sealed the deal and a 2nd date is in order.

Well, she makes a pretty convincing argument. What do you think? Would cooking a meal prepared by the two of you not impress the socks (yes…just the socks) off of you?

Have you tried it before? What would you do if you showed up to your date’s place to find the meal waiting to be cooked.  Would you be impressed and turned on a little (Am I the only one thinking of the film 9 1/2 weeks right now? Just me? Ok.)

Would you *ahem* go with the flow and roll up your sleeves? As far as non-traditional dates go, this would definitely be outside the norm.  It would definitely be a memorable night.  I won’t forget the night younger guy brought all these ingredients to my place.  I left to run an errand and when I walked back in, I was shocked to find dinner was done. Then he fed me. No seriously, he literally cooked and fed me. You’ve got to admire those younger dudes.

Chef Bren said that a male client’s favorite dish is the spicy seared scallops in honey with a mango and cilantro relish. That sounds amazing! Do you have an amazing recipe that would be ideal for date nights? What dish do you use to impress the ladies/men?

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LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 26th, 2010
2:13 pm

YEAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It’s Freaky Friday…………..and we are talking about food! WT Hizzie is going on? :lol:

I leave for 3 days and RELL DA RAKE has scooped up PrincessNik…. Man I wanted some of that Cancer….. :wink:

So Slim is Cooing today with that fatty cathy…….ummmm,ummmm,goood! :wink:

I am….. I like-em thick since Carlito is not available how would you like to meet LURKER ( the most interesting LURKER on the MIA blog) ? :wink: SMile:

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
2:15 pm

No Carlito, not too much info, just had to do little work LOL

Okay you have made it very clear for me which i do appreciate. Now i know EXACTLY what i need to be looking for.

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:15 pm

there is one position I have not explored

LOL Luvbug.

I have tried many and have fun with it. But you know my favorite is missionary. It’s the most intimate position and it makes me feel so connected with my husband. Kissing, looking into each other eyes, our bodies clinging together, having his face buried in the side of my neck when he explodes.

But yeah all those others are fun. :wink:

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
2:15 pm

@Carlito ~ thank you for that lesson. It will help me in picking out my next tv too.

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
2:16 pm

Shottas- I watched that movie. Spragga benz and Bob Marley’s son are in it. I did not like the ending but it was a nice movie.

“take da weed leave da money”
” take da WHAA and leave da WHAA?”

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
2:16 pm

Luvbug all i can say is gyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyrl, day after that u might have a lil wide leg walk LOL :oops:

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
2:18 pm

Luvbug You shole gone make this phatty catty go into hunt mode this Friday night. What iz im gone do….who iz i’m gone do! :mrgreen:

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:18 pm

Princess, I have no idea. I have bought two televisions personally in my life. All I look for is a clear picture and great sound while standing there in the store.

The one we have in the tv room and the one that is now in the den that used to be in our room were bought by my husband.

I think after I get my hair done I will pick him up and take him with me to get the tv.

SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)

March 26th, 2010
2:18 pm

Iam – as someone who is 5″10″ and a size 12 at the highest end of my weight range, but normally a size 10, I will say that now is the time to start paying attention to your eating habits and physical activity.

Cause for me, when I’m a size 12 (like I am now), I feel like I’m a cookie and a half away from Precious status. (which I know that I’n NOT, I’m just sayin’.) If ya’ *stay* on top of it, you ain’t gotta *get* on top of it.

Luvbug

March 26th, 2010
2:19 pm

Raqi – I favor missionary too…provided the stroke depth and pattern are on point. I love the gazing and soft kissed on the collar bone and neck (among other things) in the interim. It’s sweeter.

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
2:19 pm

@Raqi ~ keep it clean. I don’t want to go meet Fred Sandford’s wife, Elizabeth!

You guys are having me holler over here…co-workers walking by wondering what’s wrong w/my already crazy self.

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 26th, 2010
2:19 pm

I am ……You sound you thick like Kinderbade! YEAAAAAAAAAA

@Luvbug….It can be very good for you as long as his JOHNSON with extenze can hit the back of that cervix!

Random Thoughts………YEAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Perdue prayed for rain but forgot to tell GOD we have enough!! :lol: YEAAAAAA

Now I know why AmazonRed… Gets regular dizzle, Legs behind the head!!! A Winner (ding, ding, ding) YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA :smile:

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:20 pm

Slim, you haven’t gotten that protein/vitamin D dispenser yet? I told you a few doses of that a few times of week will set you straight. And have you walking pretty. LOL

I am whatever you say I am

March 26th, 2010
2:20 pm

<—–scered to meet Lurker

I am whatever you say I am

March 26th, 2010
2:20 pm

Is thick considered bad?

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
2:23 pm

Is thick considered bad?

No. And it’s celebrated in the south.

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:23 pm

Close you eyes Leggs.

Luvbug, that position he gets to control the depth of penetration so when wants to make a “statement” you know….

And I love the way he grips my right thigh with that left hand or grabs my assets when going deep with that elated muttered moan.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
2:23 pm

Is thick considered bad?

I am

where you from ?!?!

kinderbabe--37 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 26th, 2010
2:24 pm

@Ared…lol. that was a nice break in the day to watch a movie. i really didn’t want to do anything for valentine’s except sleep, eat and…well, you know…ha, ha!! i think he had the bootleg version from one of his friends. about 5 minutes in, i said “what in the h#ll are we watching?” i usually don’t do a lot of violence in a film but all in all, i liked it.

@Iam…i understand where you are coming from. i too would not be happy if i were substantially overweight. it cramps your lifestyle a bit. you know? if you are interested, i know of some great hot yoga classes. it’s a great low impact way to exercise. the stretching and strengthening is incredible! i will warn you that it is a little hot in the room…about 105.

SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)

March 26th, 2010
2:25 pm

1990’s era definition of thick is good. The new innanet definition of thick means fat.

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
2:25 pm

Put a fork in me, I’m done!!

SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)

March 26th, 2010
2:27 pm

Kinderbabe – would love to try the hot yoga – post the info…isn’t it call bikram or something like that?

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
2:27 pm

Raqi “you haven’t gotten that protein/vitamin D dispenser yet?” Oh wow, I forgot all about the VDD from the old blog days. Unfortunately, I haven’t gotten a dose of that. However, I have gotten a little fluoride tho ;-) :lol: :mrgreen: :lol: :oops:

Lady J-Lioness

March 26th, 2010
2:27 pm

oh my yall!!!!! lol

lurker

March 26th, 2010
2:28 pm

But you know my favorite is missionary. It’s the most intimate position and it makes me feel so connected with my husband. Kissing, looking into each other eyes, our bodies clinging together, having his face buried in the side of my neck when he explodes.

Me too Raqi. I don’t know why folks think you can’t or don’t know how to engage if you ain’t being about as big a freak as you can. I love the intimacy between the long deep strokes and being “filled” up and it’s so much easier to have passionate kisses during, while doing missionary style than flipped upside down. I mean I can get with the other but sometimes that feels more like performing rather the sexy natural flow of missionary style. Here Here Raqita…I agee

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
2:28 pm

Anyone know when they will start giving out free mustache rides at Centennial Park? lol

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
2:28 pm

The average AA guy does not want just skin and bones they wanna a little meat a little “cushion for the pushing” so no thick is not a bad thing. It just means your assets are to the positive and not the negative.

Luvbug

March 26th, 2010
2:28 pm

that position he gets to control the depth of penetration so when wants to make a “statement” you know….

Raqi – See that’s why I’ve been holding out on some positions…so far. Gotta be in the safe zone to give up control.

Lady J-Lioness

March 26th, 2010
2:28 pm

freaky friday back on! lol

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:28 pm

However I do love that smacking sound our hips make when is getting it from behind.

And the way he grips my hips when I am riding up top and he is about to….

And the “mmm” that he makes when the honey starts flowing…

Okay Leggs, you can open your eyes now. I am done. LOL

Lady J-Lioness

March 26th, 2010
2:29 pm

missionary is cool!

I am whatever you say I am

March 26th, 2010
2:29 pm

Kinder: I use the P90x and it works like a charm. I saw results in less than 4 weeks and I didn’t use it all the time.

Lately though, I have been having trouble finding the time to work out and I am sick again which leaves me very tired.
I might be able to work out this weekend since the baby will be with his dad.

Lady J-Lioness

March 26th, 2010
2:29 pm

RAQI!!!!!! LOL!!!! Leggs I am done too! They are going in! LOL

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
2:30 pm

i think he had the bootleg version from one of his friends. about 5 minutes in, i said “what in the h#ll are we watching?”

kimmie – That’s what I said. And then I went to sleep (there was a ton of wine at dinner) I didn’t think he seriously cared if I watched or not. He made me breakfast in bed while I watched.

It was a good movie tho!!!

kinderbabe--37 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 26th, 2010
2:30 pm

@SexyCool…the website is http://www.getreadytosweat.com. it is called atlanta hot yoga. they have locations in vinings and buckhead. i like them a little better than bikram b/c it is less strict and nazi like…lol. nobody yelling and carrying on. the teachers are calmer. they have a special where you can go to as many classes as you want over a ten day period for $30. that’s a great deal b/c drop in classes are $17 a pop.

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
2:31 pm

Whew, I am cracking up over here!

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
2:31 pm

Whew, I am cracking up over here!

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:31 pm

I love the intimacy between the long deep strokes and being “filled” up

Yep. Intimacy.

You know being flipped, dipped trying not to slip versus the intimacy of the missionary is the difference between sexing (being good there) and making love.

However every good relationship needs them both.

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
2:32 pm

How that happen (2x)???

lurker

March 26th, 2010
2:33 pm

the difference between sexing (being good there) and making love.

absolutely

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
2:34 pm

However every good relationship needs them both.

Raqi, you said that! Boo got to the point where he would ask u want it fast or you want it slow ;) My fave is the combination of both ahhhhhhh

SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)

March 26th, 2010
2:34 pm

Thanks, chick!

Lady J-Lioness

March 26th, 2010
2:34 pm

lol superstar!

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
2:34 pm

oh he would also ask do you want it hard or soft :oops:

lurker

March 26th, 2010
2:35 pm

okay, imma have to get off this thang if this bout to be freaky friday. can’t be getting all bothered while at work.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
2:36 pm

Lady J

i’ma miss boo :lol:

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

March 26th, 2010
2:36 pm

@I am, I am……Thick is very good….As long as you are under 200lbs I can still lift you up for deep sea ……..well you know what I mean….. YEAAAAAAAAA!!!!! :wink:

@Luvbug……. Hey don’t wait to let go, life is too short enjoy putting dem leggs up…Starting in a new position will allow you to come home with the missionary!!! YEAAAAAA :smile:

Random Thoughts or Random Questions….. YEAAAAAAAA!!!!!

Does SexyCool have a sex tape? I bet it’s good! :lol:

Who is Jesse James? How did he nail all these women?

Stay Lurking my friends!!! YEAAAAAAAAAAAAA

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
2:36 pm

@lurker ~ if you have a release, you have nothing to worry about. Think about it!

Melo

March 26th, 2010
2:37 pm

it was a long drought

@Carlito??

that sure makes u a Swiss..its kinda so honest and refreshing.
Not many black dudes,let alone reg black bloggers here wld admit to being in a drought 4 a long time.

Everybody here raps about how they getting pudsy like the real rappers rap about getting and having money!

Even tho we know,it aint all who got it! :lol: :lol:

Luvbug

March 26th, 2010
2:37 pm

Yep PrincessNik. Or when he says he want you to go first. How sweet. Good time…one indian tear down my left cheek.