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Heating things up

Food can be an integral part of the dating process.   At some point, we are either mingling or getting to know one another over food.  Cooking great food is also a great way to add spice (pun intended) to the regular, run of the mill date activities.

I recruited my fabulous new gal pal Chef Bren Herrera to help us navigate the joys of cooking and dating.  She is a fellow blogger who recently wrote about one of her clients thinking outside the box for a non-traditional date idea. He hired her to prepare a special meal for a special lady.  I have to say, there is something about a personal chef that can add instant wow factor to a date!

Chef Bren

Photo: Shannon McCollumn

I asked Chef Bren how cooking could heat things up for a non-traditional date:

1. Cooking on a date will show both guy and gal that you’re atypical and think outside the box! Who like movies and dinner dates! So, so passé! It’s 2010.

2. You can totally spoon-feed each other while “tasting” what you’re making. That makes for an intended sexy moment, without being forceful or offensive.

3. If you’re looking for a life-long mate that can cook, this is the test!! How willing are they to break out the cutting board and knives and mince garlic(which will make your breath stinky, but that’s another test of his/her real interest)? If they’re down for it, chances are they are conscious of budgeting, their health and quality time at home.

4. If the food is good, you’ve sealed the deal and a 2nd date is in order.

Well, she makes a pretty convincing argument. What do you think? Would cooking a meal prepared by the two of you not impress the socks (yes…just the socks) off of you?

Have you tried it before? What would you do if you showed up to your date’s place to find the meal waiting to be cooked.  Would you be impressed and turned on a little (Am I the only one thinking of the film 9 1/2 weeks right now? Just me? Ok.)

Would you *ahem* go with the flow and roll up your sleeves? As far as non-traditional dates go, this would definitely be outside the norm.  It would definitely be a memorable night.  I won’t forget the night younger guy brought all these ingredients to my place.  I left to run an errand and when I walked back in, I was shocked to find dinner was done. Then he fed me. No seriously, he literally cooked and fed me. You’ve got to admire those younger dudes.

Chef Bren said that a male client’s favorite dish is the spicy seared scallops in honey with a mango and cilantro relish. That sounds amazing! Do you have an amazing recipe that would be ideal for date nights? What dish do you use to impress the ladies/men?

891 comments Add your comment

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
1:45 pm

lurker, you know I am used to it by now. LOL I mean just out of nowhere folks like to take jabs at me. I just ignore. Some folks are going to like you and some are going to hate you. That’s the way of this world we live in.

Imma still get in my “car” (nope I ain’t telling what kind,, LOL) and drive to my house and live my life as happy as it has been and will be.

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
1:45 pm

Carlito, thanks but you don’t have to. I don’t let that stuff bother me.

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

March 26th, 2010
1:46 pm

Some folks are going to like you and some are going to hate you. That’s the way of this world we live in.

Preach Raqi!!!!!!!

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
1:46 pm

PrincessNik, Prince is my favorite Artist.

Raqi, yep you have your family your man and you are happy. Now shoot the three!!!

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
1:47 pm

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
1:48 pm

Lady J,
some days i have to exit the premises for lunch and clear my head LOL. Working with 100 people and only 7 of us are women :shock: can take it toll

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
1:48 pm

Raqi, I am going to defend your honor whether you like it or not. So deal with it. :) I am just that way with women. Notice I said ‘women” not ummm….

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
1:48 pm

I am whatever you say I am

March 26th, 2010
1:49 pm

Question for the blog:

Is a size 12 considered fat?
I fell off my routine and picked up some more jelly for my lady lumps :-(

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
1:49 pm

Raqi, I am going to defend your honor whether you like it or not.

Hmph. Carlito likes Raqi more that me. :(

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
1:50 pm

I am, how tall are you with that size 12? I mean if you are 4″3 and size 12. Yes you are obese.

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
1:50 pm

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

March 26th, 2010
1:50 pm

ok superstar I barely leave the building as you see but one day I am! lol

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
1:50 pm

I am

I don’t think a 12 is fat, unless you just got ish hanging out of everywhere and it also depends on how tall you are. But average height and no muffins is just “thick”. ;)

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
1:51 pm

Yeah, sizes are misleading. We need height and weight.

Isn’t 12 considered “normal” tho?

I am whatever you say I am

March 26th, 2010
1:51 pm

80/20 rule:

80% of the world doesn’t know you -so why care what they think
10% of the world doesn’t like you no matter what you do – so why are they important?
10% are your real friends and will be by your side no matter what- those are the ones that matter

Luvbug

March 26th, 2010
1:51 pm

Is a size 12 considered fat?

I thinks it depends on your proportion and height.

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
1:52 pm

Did Freaky Friday Fizzle Finally?

@Carlito – the is no turn on than that which comes from a good smelling man. Because whenever I come across that particular smell again, it can immediately send me into a mental & physical frenzie thinking about that particular guy. But not sure if anyone actually wears Axe.

kinderbabe--37 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 26th, 2010
1:52 pm

@Iam…depends on you. if you are regularly a 2, i would say that a twelve could be overweight.

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
1:53 pm

My ex loves Axe body wash. He always smelled good.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
1:53 pm

Slim

1:52 ^5 ;)

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
1:54 pm

@Raqi ~ thanks. I remembered athletics, just couldn’t remember the sport.

@lurker hating on Raqi ~ guess you didn’t see the captain outfit she purchased to wear on her cruise. Only a “fit” person could wear that. And, after I gave birth, I lost all of my baby weight in one month…it just rolled right off me along with those beautiful ta tas I had.

Heck, I’m still on page 5 and see there’s a 6th…It’s only 1:53.

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
1:54 pm

Slim, yes smelling good is a must at all times.

I am whatever you say I am

March 26th, 2010
1:57 pm

Lady J-Lioness

March 26th, 2010
1:57 pm

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
1:57 pm

And, after I gave birth, I lost all of my baby weight in one month…it just rolled right off me along with those beautiful ta tas I had.

:lol: :lol: :lol:

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
1:58 pm

ya’ll i’m so over this workday…………….things i have to do today after work

1. gym
2. cut grass & apply weed and feed
3. play wii just dance with lil mama
4. pass out from exhaustion :)

SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)

March 26th, 2010
1:58 pm

I am – on your 151p, I would go with more like .0001% (and more likely less when you’re talking about the whole world – lol) are real friends.

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
1:59 pm

I think imma go out and find us a television for our room tomorrow. No kids, no cleaning to do. Imma go get my hair washed and trimmed and then go to Best Buy and get a tv.

I kinda miss it since it’s been gone. LOL

I am whatever you say I am

March 26th, 2010
1:59 pm

i used to be a 10 and I was working on being an 8.
I had the baby and breastfed- which got me back to the 8.
Started putting on weight when breastfeeding stopped.

If I ever have another baby, I will know not to use the same eating diet I had when breastfeeding when breastfeeding ends and hopefully I will have more time to work out.

Lady J-Lioness

March 26th, 2010
1:59 pm

yep superstar me too mad dash in 1 hour and 10 min! lol

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:00 pm

LOL Leggs. And imma rock it too.

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
2:01 pm

2 more hours before she comes home. So in 90 minutes time to knock out some pull ups and push ups. So I am bulging and a little sweaty when she walks in. Nothing but Cargo shorts on. Ever been into someone so much that you think about just doing what they like all of the time, with your every move?

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
2:01 pm

I am, you know worrying about folks not liking you that you don’t even know and that don’t know you is just a waste of time.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
2:01 pm

Raqi glad you metioned tvs

anybody tell me what the Hz is? I understand the 1080 or 720P not so sure about the Hz, i’m lookin for a minimum of 42inch flat screen think i found one but i need to know the deal with the hz first.

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
2:04 pm

I know you will, Raqi. I know you will!

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
2:05 pm

PrincessNik, Hz or MHz has to do with display technology and how it is delivered. If you are looking for a minimum of a 42inch flat screen you need a minimum of 120 or 240 although 60 is very common. You want a more detailed answer? If so I can provide one.

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
2:05 pm

“Ever been into someone so much that you think about just doing what they like all of the time, with your every move?”

Yep, sure have….then it wore off. LMAO! j/k

kinderbabe--37 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 26th, 2010
2:06 pm

@Iam…oh, i would say definitely not now that you have given your height and regular size. you are o.k.:)

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
2:06 pm

Ever been into someone so much that you think about just doing what they like all of the time, with your every move?

Yes. Which is why I now watch movies every weekend.

And and ended up watching some Jamaican gansta flick “Shottas” on Valentines Day :lol:

Luvbug

March 26th, 2010
2:06 pm

Did Freaky Friday Fizzle Finally?

Well now wait a minute (Luvbug now raising her hand)…(((((clearing throat)))))…there is one position I have not explored…I’ll have to wait til the next relationship…but I wanted to know if it is as pleasurable as I imagine it.

It’s when the woman is on her back with her feet on his chest, and the guy is entering her while on his knees and has his hands clasp on her upper thighs, pulling her into him.

kinderbabe--37 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 26th, 2010
2:08 pm

@ARed…me and my guy watched that movie!! lol not on valentines, but we had a movie day and saw it.

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
2:09 pm

PrincessNik, I am an engineer so this stuff gives me a warm and fuzzy :)
TV is filmed at a rate of 60 frames per second. Hertz is a measure of cycles per second. LCDs work by twisting crystals with electronic stimuli, they cannot refresh or reset fast enough for 60 frames per second, creating a blurring effect. 120Hz and 240 refresh quickerand so on Plasmas do not have this problem,as their changes of pixels are the speed of light, and they operate about 480Hz

I am whatever you say I am

March 26th, 2010
2:10 pm

Thanks Kinder.

I just didn’t want to look like Gabby Sidibe.
She’s pretty but I wouldn’t be happy with myself at that weight.

Leggs

March 26th, 2010
2:10 pm

@luvbug ~ I fainted just thinking about it! You guys are definitely playing with fire today!!!

I am whatever you say I am

March 26th, 2010
2:10 pm

Greatest movie of all time and a real tear jerker:

Love Story!!!!!!

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
2:11 pm

@ARed…me and my guy watched that movie!! lol not on valentines, but we had a movie day and saw it.

kinderbabe – Apparently it’s a top seller in the bootleg market. We watched the actual real verson though.

And just to clarify, we went out on Valentine’s Day but he was all excited for me to see it when we got home. I fell asleep on it, and he made me finish watching it the next morning before we went out finish our celebrating! :lol:

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
2:11 pm

I Am, you sound fine to me.

LuvBug, you really have not done that postion?

PrincessNik, I did not give you to much info did I? Where are you? :)

I am whatever you say I am

March 26th, 2010
2:12 pm

Thank you Carlito

Luvbug

March 26th, 2010
2:13 pm

Carlito – Nope :cry: