Heating things up
Food can be an integral part of the dating process. At some point, we are either mingling or getting to know one another over food. Cooking great food is also a great way to add spice (pun intended) to the regular, run of the mill date activities.
I recruited my fabulous new gal pal Chef Bren Herrera to help us navigate the joys of cooking and dating. She is a fellow blogger who recently wrote about one of her clients thinking outside the box for a non-traditional date idea. He hired her to prepare a special meal for a special lady. I have to say, there is something about a personal chef that can add instant wow factor to a date!
Photo: Shannon McCollumn
I asked Chef Bren how cooking could heat things up for a non-traditional date:
1. Cooking on a date will show both guy and gal that you’re atypical and think outside the box! Who like movies and dinner dates! So, so passé! It’s 2010.
2. You can totally spoon-feed each other while “tasting” what you’re making. That makes for an intended sexy moment, without being forceful or offensive.
3. If you’re looking for a life-long mate that can cook, this is the test!! How willing are they to break out the cutting board and knives and mince garlic(which will make your breath stinky, but that’s another test of his/her real interest)? If they’re down for it, chances are they are conscious of budgeting, their health and quality time at home.
4. If the food is good, you’ve sealed the deal and a 2nd date is in order.
Well, she makes a pretty convincing argument. What do you think? Would cooking a meal prepared by the two of you not impress the socks (yes…just the socks) off of you?
Have you tried it before? What would you do if you showed up to your date’s place to find the meal waiting to be cooked. Would you be impressed and turned on a little (Am I the only one thinking of the film 9 1/2 weeks right now? Just me? Ok.)
Would you *ahem* go with the flow and roll up your sleeves? As far as non-traditional dates go, this would definitely be outside the norm. It would definitely be a memorable night. I won’t forget the night younger guy brought all these ingredients to my place. I left to run an errand and when I walked back in, I was shocked to find dinner was done. Then he fed me. No seriously, he literally cooked and fed me. You’ve got to admire those younger dudes.
Chef Bren said that a male client’s favorite dish is the spicy seared scallops in honey with a mango and cilantro relish. That sounds amazing! Do you have an amazing recipe that would be ideal for date nights? What dish do you use to impress the ladies/men?
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Luvbug
March 26th, 2010
1:14 pm
Carlito
I hardly recognized you is all. LOL
Professor
March 26th, 2010
1:14 pm
I meant pass…
Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!
March 26th, 2010
1:15 pm
Professor I just want my bed and so happy I don’t have a laptop yet…..need to study without distractions…..lol……I need a digital camera though I am so late with getting stuff….but I am ready to go home too! A weekend inside is what it will be! it’s going to be like this greyish all weekend! Hope they show a new set of 48 hours mystery!
Slim Coo-Coo
March 26th, 2010
1:15 pm
Rell unplugged
March 26th, 2010
1:16 pm
peace..and too my “girls” i will hit you later…one!
Raqi
March 26th, 2010
1:16 pm
LadyJ, I didn’t go on my first cruise until after I got married. My husband got me to go with him. All of my closest friends have done it several times but could never get me to go. I should have done it back then. Maybe we will do a girls only cruise one day. I imagine it will be fun. We went to Cherokee a couple years ago. We drove and that was fun. I love the casino.
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
1:16 pm
Leggs, SlimOne, I Am ( LOL
)
2night we video
No one will ever know
We’ll erase the naughty bits
I’ll show my…
if U show your…
Melo
March 26th, 2010
1:16 pm
Carlito??
ure wild as it is without koosh koosh. I wld hate to hear u lose Julia coz of kush…coz my imagination of ur puffing that ish aint right.
Think about it,a woman that flies from all that way,on her dime to come see u and then refuses to give u some,cares for u a great deal.
Any other woman wld have let u split that yam,easy,no shame! Her mind is really str8 and on point.
Think about it!
lernch!
Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!
March 26th, 2010
1:17 pm
we really should!!!!! we will have a ball raqi us and even your close gf!!!!! good company is always cool!!!!! ok I won’t feel to awkward! lol
kimmie
March 26th, 2010
1:17 pm
will take notice to the type of woman some men want to settle down with.
Carlito – Men want a lady out in the open, but a freak in the bedroom, lets be real. No, I don’t want to dress like a hooker, but there’s nothing wrong with classy/sexy. Those men that have married the straight nun type are usually the ones creeping after awhile, saying she won’t dress sexy and she’s not creative in the bedroom enough.
Sometimes dudes shoot their selves in the foot, with what they SAY they want and what they actually do.
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
1:18 pm
So take it slow, baby and let’s unwind
Do U really want all my clothes off?
What are U gonna do 2 prove it?
Aren’t U afraid we’re gonna be found out?
Well, let’s get on with the show
Ooh, turn the lights down lower
Doesn’t my body look good in the shadows?
Ooh, baby knows what 2 do
Have U done this before?
U say U want my hips up in the air
Oh no, I don’t care
Ooh, my body baby, U truly do
I know I could be nasty with U
Oh yeah!
Lurks
March 26th, 2010
1:18 pm
@RAQI stated He knows he likes me looking good on his arm. And sitting by the pool. And while at dinner. And hanging out in our suite. And on the safari we are going to take.
Dont flatter yourself lol, I know you havent lost all the weight from that baby especially at your age so you wont be looking that good, but good try, just because he tells you you look good doesnt mean he means it.
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
1:19 pm
Melo, I am just having a good time. But I pay for all the flights. Never would I stray from my lady. I don’t get down like that and I have no reason to at all. She trusts me and I trust her. I am just enjoying my day of nothing and causing a scene on here.
Until she get’s home 
SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)
March 26th, 2010
1:20 pm
Boyz II Men Cruise – VDay Weekend 2011
Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!
March 26th, 2010
1:21 pm
sexy cool you rock chica!
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
1:22 pm
Kimmie, what you typed is very true. His woman does not look like a hoochie but yet she does not dress like a nun. The bedroom is what you make it with whomever you make it with. Another man’s nun could be another man’s freak cuz he made her comfortable in the bedroom. The point I was making is some people lead with the booty all out and tits aiming for the eyes. Thinking that he may think for life when in reality he is thinking “just for tonight.
Professor
March 26th, 2010
1:23 pm
Lady J,
I know Saturday is partly sunny with a high around 63-65. I plan on going out to eat and chilling the rest of the weekend…I will probably catch a movie as well.
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
1:25 pm
Kimmie, I agree with you. The point I was making is that you don’t have to act or dress loose to get a man. He may see that and think “ya tonight” but she is thinking for life. You can be sexy and classy without being sexy and trashy. And one mans lame lay may just turn out to be another mans great lay. It is just what you bring out in your woman. I place blame on a guy if his woman is boring in bed. “bring’em out, bring’em out” Jay-Z
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
1:26 pm
Yes, I’m not complaining about any weather in the 60s after the winter we had.
Date night tonight, hosting the girls for a bachelorette party on Saturday. I’m going to move the pole to the living room and we’re gonna turn it up!
Maybe some wine on the deck at his place on Sunday enjoying the breeze…
Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!
March 26th, 2010
1:26 pm
girl after that soccer game I will be tired but guess what I am going to walk 2 miles around that field early that morning! yes I am going to start exercising that is the only thing when i lived on my own my eating was much less….lol…..now to get rid of drinking coke….lol but I am going to walk it out sat AM by my damn self! lol me and Pandora that is! lol
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
1:26 pm
Wow, that was harsh. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
1:28 pm
Does anyone know the song that I posted earlier?
It is Prince “Insatiable”
Leggs
March 26th, 2010
1:28 pm
@Melo ~ lurker’s co-worker isn’t a scrub. Apparently, he has a pot to piss in, meaning he has his own “paper.” Forgot what she said he did before joining the company, but sounded like he was “established.”
A scrub lives off another hustling day to day. Doesn’t even has his own car, but borrows his friends. Heck, there are a zillion definitions for a scrub.
@luvbug ~ Carlito has morphed from that shy caterpillar into a sex fiend!
Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!
March 26th, 2010
1:29 pm
lol leggs
kimmie
March 26th, 2010
1:31 pm
Carlito – Cool, I agree! Thinking back, some men have brought out some of the sexy in me, where as others just made me lazy!LOL!
Oh, and we try to ignore the occasional trolls that show up!
Melo
March 26th, 2010
1:31 pm
@Lurks??
an unwarranted attack on Raqi at best!
who peed in ur lunch muthfccker??
Dan
March 26th, 2010
1:31 pm
@Dig and that’s the key – judgement
One, I don’t judge anyone for decisions that they make, because no one can judge mine. And submitting myself to be judged only give someone else opinion more weight than my own.
Personally, I’ve seen the worse of humankind, and still choose to believe in the best of us. Does that mean I get burned, yep. But it also means that more often than not, I end up with wonderfully beautiful, diverse friendships and relationships.
Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!
March 26th, 2010
1:32 pm
we do kimmie! so right!
Raqi
March 26th, 2010
1:32 pm
Leggs, I think she said he was pro ball player at some time. So yeah I really doubt if he is scrub.
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
1:32 pm
Wow, that was harsh. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
Carlito – That was just green eyed jealousy.
I am whatever you say I am
March 26th, 2010
1:34 pm
Carlito!!!!
Stop sharing with the blog about your pee-pee
That’s only for me to know!
Raqi
March 26th, 2010
1:34 pm
What was harsh? What did I miss?
SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)
March 26th, 2010
1:35 pm
If, like me, you failed to register for the Peachtree online, the mail in registration for the 10,000 lottery slots will be in the SUNDAY edition (not Saturday edition) of the Sunday paper this weekend. And must be postmarked by April 5th.
(I’ve already got my envelope addressed and mailed.)
Slim Coo-Coo
March 26th, 2010
1:35 pm
Bring em out….Carlito, I’m not sure what you’re wearing but I think i like it….(Carlito now reapplying his Axe body spray on the low low)
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
1:35 pm
Raqi – troll alert at 1:18.
lurker
March 26th, 2010
1:36 pm
Yes, proball. I don’t think he’s needing anything right now. heck i think this is finding something else to do. i know he did some stuff behind the scenes of the league which is how i think he ended up here. but no, not a scrub. i tried to answer as best i could to melo…lol
SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)
March 26th, 2010
1:37 pm
er…um…addressed and STAMPED….
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music
March 26th, 2010
1:37 pm
and ARed I really believe it is not much random about this blog per se…..
Luvbug
March 26th, 2010
1:37 pm
Leggs – I think he’s been hiding it.
lurker
March 26th, 2010
1:37 pm
Yep Raqi, somebody attached you. I can bet my check it’s a regular. See us real true blue lurkers catch heat when mess like that pops off. LOL
PrincessNik......supastar
March 26th, 2010
1:37 pm
Carlito
I see you with the Insatiable, one of my fav prince songs.
kinderbabe--37 days to liberation and counting!!!
March 26th, 2010
1:38 pm
@SexyCool…i read peachtree and had to chime in.:) i’ll be there too! i registered about 3 weeks ago. i’m super excited! this is my 2nd one.
SexyCool (Stays on Ready, Set.)
March 26th, 2010
1:40 pm
All you early reg people (TheDude included)
burn ma’ butt…are so lucky.Lady J-I love music, any kind of music
March 26th, 2010
1:41 pm
speaking of which what hapeened to SJ3K and Dushawn! Those were two good reads and another moniker…I forget her name…..
PrincessNik......supastar
March 26th, 2010
1:41 pm
Lady J i’m so with you on your 1:26, I get on the treadmill turn the tv to HGTV and listen to my work out playlist on my ipod ( you don’t really need the volume for HGTV lol) Hope the teeball schedule doesn’t disrupt the schedule we already have too much.
Raqi
March 26th, 2010
1:41 pm
LOL Amazon. Now you know I don’t pay that mess no mind. I would respond if one of you that I talk to regularly had said it under your moniker. But folks hiding in the crowds taking jabs I just step over and keep it moving.
But I will say this, no matter what it may be, and I am proud of my size 8 post pregnancy body, my husband likes it and can’t keep his hands off of it. What and who else matters, right?
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music
March 26th, 2010
1:43 pm
get it raqi boo!
AmazonRed™
March 26th, 2010
1:43 pm
Raqi – We know it!
And even if you were a size 18, you got that way by carrying his baby. I know he’d still want to show you off!!!
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music
March 26th, 2010
1:44 pm
yep superstar and i missed you boo! lol!
Carlito
March 26th, 2010
1:44 pm
I felt like defending Raqi, like she was my little sis. LOL
Leggs, My freaky blogging is usually after, I have had sex in the past 48 hours(I have a pattern and it was a long drought) NOt my fault Julia, has that ” it is so good that I want to run and tell it”
SexyCool- I did register for that run with some coworkers, I am a running junky.
I Am, Ok I will put it up
SlimOne, I wonder if guys actually wear that Axe stuff.