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Heating things up

Food can be an integral part of the dating process.   At some point, we are either mingling or getting to know one another over food.  Cooking great food is also a great way to add spice (pun intended) to the regular, run of the mill date activities.

I recruited my fabulous new gal pal Chef Bren Herrera to help us navigate the joys of cooking and dating.  She is a fellow blogger who recently wrote about one of her clients thinking outside the box for a non-traditional date idea. He hired her to prepare a special meal for a special lady.  I have to say, there is something about a personal chef that can add instant wow factor to a date!

Chef Bren

Photo: Shannon McCollumn

I asked Chef Bren how cooking could heat things up for a non-traditional date:

1. Cooking on a date will show both guy and gal that you’re atypical and think outside the box! Who like movies and dinner dates! So, so passé! It’s 2010.

2. You can totally spoon-feed each other while “tasting” what you’re making. That makes for an intended sexy moment, without being forceful or offensive.

3. If you’re looking for a life-long mate that can cook, this is the test!! How willing are they to break out the cutting board and knives and mince garlic(which will make your breath stinky, but that’s another test of his/her real interest)? If they’re down for it, chances are they are conscious of budgeting, their health and quality time at home.

4. If the food is good, you’ve sealed the deal and a 2nd date is in order.

Well, she makes a pretty convincing argument. What do you think? Would cooking a meal prepared by the two of you not impress the socks (yes…just the socks) off of you?

Have you tried it before? What would you do if you showed up to your date’s place to find the meal waiting to be cooked.  Would you be impressed and turned on a little (Am I the only one thinking of the film 9 1/2 weeks right now? Just me? Ok.)

Would you *ahem* go with the flow and roll up your sleeves? As far as non-traditional dates go, this would definitely be outside the norm.  It would definitely be a memorable night.  I won’t forget the night younger guy brought all these ingredients to my place.  I left to run an errand and when I walked back in, I was shocked to find dinner was done. Then he fed me. No seriously, he literally cooked and fed me. You’ve got to admire those younger dudes.

Chef Bren said that a male client’s favorite dish is the spicy seared scallops in honey with a mango and cilantro relish. That sounds amazing! Do you have an amazing recipe that would be ideal for date nights? What dish do you use to impress the ladies/men?

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Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
8:10 am

Happy Fantastic Friday Crew!!!!!

I find many men love to grill and to have a grill assistant rocks…….Prepping, helping, assistant but don’t touch that grill!!!! Sure it would be awesome to make a date night into cooking night….Sure I have cooked for previous and over a long period of time and he happily ate it and came back for more…..Not so much of a collaborative effort but dinner was done upon arrival! LMAO! Cute alternative to the norm!!!!!!

How krunk is it going to get today folks!!!!????!!!

Enjoy your day!

kinderbabe--37 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 26th, 2010
8:13 am

this should be an interesting read today.;)

hey LadyJ!

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
8:21 am

Hey KB!!!!!!

Raqi

March 26th, 2010
9:01 am

Cooking together is very sexy. And feeding each other is hawt.

You got me remembering those weekends that I was able to get away from the kiddies and spend Saturday afternoon with The Man. He would cook for me or we would cook something together.

We would make something like grilled lobster tail. He would take a piece dip it in butter and as he fed it to me a drip of the better would hit my chin or my chest and he would “kiss” it off.

Or I would “kiss” the white chocolate from his fingers that ran down as he dipped fresh strawberries or mango in it.

That’s all imma say about that. I got work to do.

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:06 am

Raqi you made me remember those crab leg dinners…lol…..seafood gets the all rolling! lol

Anonymous

March 26th, 2010
9:10 am

Raqi got it right! The sexiness is where it’s at! Those little subtleties are what will “spice” up the soiree and date. And, I’m a huge fan of men cooking for women! While I’m old fashioned and ol’ school (though in my late 20’s), I think it’s appropriate for a man to break out the apron and cookbook and at least make an effort.

Happy & Delish Friday!

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
9:11 am

Reminds me of the times we’d cook Ramen noodles together and he’d let me get most of the juice and he’d take most of the noodles. Ahhh those were the days of old. lol

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
9:12 am

my ex and i used to cook together, i actually think it was pretty cool. I’ve also had a guy cook for me that was VERY SEXY cause it wasn’t soul food, i felt bad cause once he cooked something with a sauce so rich my sensitive tummy took two bites and i had to leave it alone. Now don’t get me wrong nothing wrong with a dude cooking soul food, but there is something extra about a guy who can cook outside of the norm.

Raqi :)

Hey KB & Lady J

kinderbabe--37 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 26th, 2010
9:13 am

yep, dinner is always lovely. sets the mood for romance.;)

@slim…you are crazy!!! lol

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
9:13 am

Lady J i got your mail, sounds fun but I don’t do seafood :(

Mr_NYC

March 26th, 2010
9:15 am

I love cooking for a woman. Never done it on the first date; but definitely on the second go-round. I like to work with salmon or some other seafood. Plan to have her favorite wine nearby for sipping or maybe prepare a mixed drink using her favorite flavors and liquors. I can do the chop up the peppers, onions, garlic thing to prepare a dish. Some fresh fruit with a yogurt dip, or a chocolate fondue to pass the time. Great conversation and her favorite artist playing in the background. Just mix in your personality and a bit of swagger and its on!

kinderbabe--37 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 26th, 2010
9:15 am

hey, PrincessNik! a guy cooking is definitely sexy. i dated a chef once and probably gained 10 lbs…LOL. the food was always delicious.;0

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:16 am

superstar you from the carolinas and don’t do seafood!!!???!!! :( awwwwww!!!! my child bday is that weekend I won’t be there but I thought about you! lol

Slim I depise those noodles things never ate them in school either! yuck! lol

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
9:17 am

KB And don’t let me forget when, back in college, we’d also share the pepperoni hot pockets and I’d let him have the bigger half. lol Life was shole simple then.

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:17 am

salmon grilled and baked and not over cooked is the best-s! LOL

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:18 am

but slim beans and franks yippppie! lol and tuna!

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
9:18 am

Lady J no i’m From Jaw-juh (GA) LOL, i just spent 6 years in SC

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:18 am

awwww superstar my bad!!! terrible assumption I do apologize! Cool beans! lol

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
9:19 am

OH now i do eat Salmon and Tuna fish (does that count as seafood) LOL but that’s it nothing else YUCK!

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
9:19 am

Lady J You can never forget where you came from. So i’ll indulge every once in a blue moon. But I just can’t bring myself to eat another hot pocket these days. Just had too many of them back in the day. (I was one of the folks that had a hidden microwave that was disguised as a small table covered with a table cloth, in my dorm room illegally) lol

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:20 am

ok yall I am sure yall have this dish often but I am ready for some authenic lamb chops home made before I order @ a resturant…..lol who cooks them???? Sassy Professor where yall @????? lol

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:21 am

Slim trust me I went to bed hungry a many of a night in orangeburg when the tuna and beans and franks ran out….my roommate invented the noodle but J wasn’t having it…….those are nasty! lol

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
9:21 am

slim you bringing back memories of me and my roommate and the rubbermaid bin full of food with the extended shelf life LOL

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:22 am

meant authentic! ha!

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:22 am

superstart one chic use to put so much hot sauce on those things! smh! lol

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
9:25 am

Slim your 9:19 too funny!!!!! on my floor one room had the hot plate, one room had the microwave, one had an electric skillet one room had the refrigerator and we worked covertly to prepare meals we would be frying chicken and cooking Kraft Mac N-Cheese

ahhhh memories

Dig That

March 26th, 2010
9:25 am

Good Morning All. Happy Friday to you.

As much as I watch the Food Network, you would think that I would be an excellent chef, but that is not the case. I told myself this year I would commit to cooking more. In the meantime I go to very nice places for dinner that cook the foods I wish I could. Lol. My dates and I are never disappointed though.

@Slim
You are a fool baby. I don’t even call them Ramen noodles. I used to call them LifeSavers.

Dig That

March 26th, 2010
9:26 am

I can order take out like nobody’s business tho. I’m talented

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:27 am

superstar you were in violation! LMAO!

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:27 am

Dig That take out is the best sometimes and have a great movie on deck! a great evening ahead!

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
9:28 am

Happy Friday All –

I love food, I love to eat, I love going out to dinner. Any guy who incorporates food into dating will win extra points!

I had a date with a guy who is a personal chef. He came over and made a meal to die for. We cooked together, but he was in there skinning whole chickens and making dishes I had never heard of! It was really fun. Unfortunately, the chemistry wasn’t there for me. And the fact that a condom fell out of his pocket during the date. Really dude? (though one of my friends totally admitted if a guy did that for her on a first date she would have given him some :lol: :arrow: )

I do cook. But I don’t cook regularly enough to just go into the kitchen and hook up a meal. If I plan it out, I do pretty well though.

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
9:28 am

4. If the food is good, you’ve sealed the deal and a 2nd date is in order.??

Although I love to cook and I am great at it, I wonder how many people would have someone in their house on this first date? Just wondering. I love to cook, and I have taken exotic cooking courses with my girlfriend before. I think the whole are of cooking is a seduction, there is nothing sexier than a woman cooking and putting her effort into a meal. I am taking about her taking the natural spices, mixing them cutting them up, fresh veggies etc. Heck it is a whole seduction ritual, the meal could ed up being sub par but the art of the preparation and the passion put into it sweeps me off of my feet. I do not how a woman feels when a man cooks for them, but my Julia loves it and she is always appreciative after I cook for her. I am sitting here in her house now, I arrived this morning :) She will not be operating with full energy TODAY!! LOL. My family thinks that I get here in the morning.

Mr_NYC

March 26th, 2010
9:28 am

I like to do the salmon on the grill — use a plank or some other firm veggie to keep it off of the grate and with the right marinade its awesome. A great ribeye to go along with it and my world famous baked mac & cheese and its a wrap.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 26th, 2010
9:31 am

Lady J, funny thing was our dorm director knew but as long as we slid her a plate she looked the other way, just like during surprise room checks when she would find a dude in one of the closets she would act like she didn’t see anything nicely close the door back and inform security nothing in there OMG college was great LMBO

Rell unplugged

March 26th, 2010
9:31 am

now is this date one we are taling…because that would be a no-no in the A…we MUST go somewhere…LOL

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
9:32 am

We’re in a recession and so we don’t go out to eat as much as I want to. That’s why sites like Groupon have been a godsend. We’re hitting this restaurant I’ve been wanting to try for ages! Can’t wait!!!

(though part of me wants to wait til after March Madness is over so I won’t get distracted during dinner :lol: )

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:32 am

Mr_NYC when do you know when it is done???? lol

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:33 am

ARed Groupon is the best! love my daily emails!!!!

Slim Coo-Coo

March 26th, 2010
9:34 am

Supastar – Let me tell you…both my roomie and I had the same size mini-fridge. So what we did was stack them on top of each other. The one on top we turned the dial to as cold as it would get to sort of be like our freezer where we’d put our frozen dinners, icecream and stuff like that. And the bottom fridge was for regular refridgerator items. We both worked at Mickey D’s so it was full of apple pies, icecream sundaes, even the McRibs, frozen meat patties & chicken nuggets that we’d take to cookouts as our contribution LOL! But i’m definitely laughing at you frying chicken in your dorm room LMAO!!!!!!!!!! That’s a super violation and I think i’m going to go tell your RA on your azz.

Which reminds me, we got caught with a cat in our room when they did room spot checks. Good thing about it was, our RA loved animals so she let us keep him until the next break where we had to go home.

Dig THat LifeSavers is a great term for them. lol I mean what other food can you eat Shrimp, Chicken, AND BEEF all for the price of 33 cents LMAO!!!!!

My boyfriend at the time stayed in an On-Campus apartment. We tried to cook gravy one time together and that thang was HILARIOUS!!!! It was brown and it was thick but it shole as hayal didn’t taste like gravy :lol:

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:34 am

superstar it is all in who you know! That is why I am always cool with service staff!!!! lol

Dig That

March 26th, 2010
9:34 am

@LadyJ
You sure said it. I still make sure she eats very well and with all the bells and whistles but it just wasn’t by my hand. In the end it still comes out orgasmic for both parties involved.

“And the fact that a condom fell out of his pocket during the date. Really dude?”
@Ared
Can’t beleive that was a deal breaker for you. You could have said you didn’t give him none because the chicken taste like wood. Or if you said he made a meal but he didn’t have a condom, but because he had one. Really dude?

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:35 am

and you bake mac and cheese I am still yet to master that along with potatoe salad….can do bake beans though…..you go Mr_NYC! two snaps! lol

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
9:36 am

Dig That – Reading is fundamental. I said there was no chemistry.

Dig That

March 26th, 2010
9:37 am

“now is this date one we are taling…because that would be a no-no in the A…we MUST go somewhere”

Fa sho

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:37 am

I am spoil…..my mom kills the kitchen and I am a great prep person and clean up person…..lol…..I can cook a bit but it seems never to taste like mom’s….go figure!

Carlito

March 26th, 2010
9:38 am

On food, we never eat fast food ever. If we go out we I try and make sure it uses fresh ingredients etc.

Dig That

March 26th, 2010
9:39 am

“Reading is fundamental. I said there was no chemistry.”

And when did you figure that out? Before or after dude spent hours skinning chicken

Lady J-Pretty Brown Eyes

March 26th, 2010
9:41 am

ok noone cooks lamb chops????

AmazonRed™

March 26th, 2010
9:42 am

Dig That – He’s a chef. Cooking is what he does for a living. The whole meal was prepared in 45 minutes. It’s not like I had him out chopping wood and building a log cabin.

No did I put him in a headlock and demand he date me. He asked, he planned the menu. That’s life in the dating game, sometimes there is a spark, sometimes there isn’t. I’m glad I didn’t waste his time further after that.

Rell unplugged

March 26th, 2010
9:42 am

i can cook anything…and have been known in the past to hook it up…i love the look on her face whenever i do the whole breakfast in bed deal..i am an EARLY riser on the weekends so if i have female company i will hook up a full breakfast and clean up