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How flexible are you?

If you’ve ever been on a date with an uptight, straight-laced person, then you already know how much fun it is to be around them.  It seems as if these individuals are not always aware that they come across as uncompromising and inflexible.  I’m not the type to turn into some doormat for a man.  Believe me, I can speak up and express my opinion without hesitation.  However, I am also able to go with the flow and relax too.

I think that while dating around,  you absolutely have to be able to keep a good attitude.  If you go around with hard and strict rules about every single thing then you are bound to run off a potentially great match.  How flexible are you in dating?  How do you handle sudden plan changes?  What do you do when you don’t get your way on a date?

Have you ever dated someone who was stubborn and set in their ways?  Is there a point where you have to either accept them for who they are or call them on it and ask them to bend a little?

I think when you have been single and on your own for a long time, your compromising muscle seems to atrophy a bit.  What is a good way to exercise it a little?

495 comments Add your comment

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
8:41 am

First, for the most part I truly accept a person for who they are and don’t try to change them or their activity. I would hope for the same in return but that is not always the case. With my profession I am very flexible and accommodating and it spills over to interactions on dates….Not a push over but truly respects on space…..I have dated stubborn men and down right mean and set in their ways and for the most part it goes no where….I have a sudden flashback of my childhood and just keep it moving….it isn’t that serious and we are just not compatible…..I do find myself becoming more se in my ways and just wanting what I want without much instruction given to the other side….your either down for me and with me or you not…..the barriers can’t dictate human interaction I don’t think….so it really boils down to ok I like you and I want to get to know you more and I like all of you not just a portion……sigh…..it is what it is with dating…..

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
8:48 am

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
8:48 am

If you’ve ever been on a date with an uptight, straight-laced person: This comment makes me think the person is 100% comfortable around the other person and I have totally felt that and seen it from certain actions…..I guess certain people are not people persons or they find out after the fact they don’t want to be around you per se……we are some funny acting creatures when it comes to our space…..most or some just aren’t willing to share their space or only share it on their on terms and times and that is when you have to know to keep it moving…..lol

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
8:52 am

At this very moment? Barely. I slept on balled up on the couch last night and every muscle in my body is tense. LOL That hot shower I took helped a little but not much.

Now on the topic, this entire entry is wrong on so many levels. LMBO

Now on the real topic, the ability to compromise is one of the most vital traits to possess if you are going to be in a relationship. Being unyielding gets you nowhere. Having standards and holding to them is one thing. But being so freakin rigid and not willing to try it or consider the other person’s way just makes one unattractive. You have know when to hold them and know when to fold them.

Life is so much more enjoyable when you lend to a little bit of flexibility.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
8:53 am

raqi great post and feel better!

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
8:56 am

and raqi it is soooooooo draining to be the only one compromising…..just had another flashback…..”It takes 2 to make a thing go right”

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
8:59 am

just wanting what I want

LadyJ, there is nothing wrong with wanting what you want. However we have realize and consider the fact that sometimes it takes yielding a little to get that thing. We do it in so many other areas in our life.

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
9:00 am

How flexible are you?

Well, I can do the splits and put my leg behind my head.

Wait, that’s not the topic? :oops: :lol:

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
9:02 am

Thanks LadyJ. I just need to stretch a bit more.

And I agree with the compromising factor. Both parties have to yield to find a happy median. I know from just being married many matters calls for us both putting our ideas on the table and coming up with something that works for the both of us and better yet that works for the good of our relationship.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
9:03 am

Raqi I agree really I do but when you are meeting the needs of others compromising and it is not returned is when you have to step back and review the interactions……trust me I don’t go into it all about me and being the center….NEVER…..I sometimes go out of my way of compromising and still get nothing in return so with that a bit of selfishness is setting it…..be right or wrong you just get tired of the mind games really…..

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
9:06 am

my brief flashbacks raqi are regarding my brief marriage…….there was not compromise and I am sitting here smh @ the thought…..just thinking back on it we both were two selfish children fools calling our self in love……lmao….you live and learn and die and forget it all….I have learned trust you have to give and take and one person may be doing more giving than the other but there have to be a balance really or you become a doormat!

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
9:13 am

the goal is not to become a bitter, cold, catlady, not giving a damn by 40…..At the moment I am smiling remaining positive through my misadventures at dating….it is getting better and the dates are imporving a bit….the bs detector works more but still it gets old…..lol

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
9:13 am

I can admit I can be rigid. I am a “planner” and like to know what’s going on.

However, I’m not so inflexible that I am demanding about what’s done. For instance, if I know we’re going out, I’m not gonna harp on what we do, what restaurant is picked, etc.

The current is NOT a planner… I know I’m gonna see him every weekend, but that’s usually all I know. So when there is something I really want to do, or something I’m into, I let him know it’s important to me so he can think about it. That worked really well for Valentines Day he put the whole weekend together and it was one of the best ever.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
9:14 am

I sometimes go out of my way of compromising and still get nothing in return

LadyJ, we all feel that way sometimes. And sometimes it is true. But I realize that sometimes the return is not immediate but it does come.
When you find yourself always being the one that has to bend you are with the wrong person. I person like that could never make it with anyone a step above a doormat. And even a doormat will trip you at times.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
9:16 am

LadyJ, I am laughing at you and your flashbacks. LOL

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
9:19 am

we both were two selfish children fools

LOL @ selfish children fools.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
9:19 am

ARed I am a planner to I was just having a battle in my head about planning and spontaneity ……like should I be more free spur of the moment type chic…..but that just isn’t me….occasionally SURE but I love to plan and even looking into even planning as a hobby……lol

Raqi thanks for understanding my POV….

Happykitty not SlimOne

March 25th, 2010
9:20 am

Happy Tickle, Tempt, Tease Me Thursday! :oops:

I’ve gone out with a dude like that and it was a painful 2.5 hours of my life that I can never get back. Having standards is all fine and dandy but if it’s at the expense of you having a heartbeat or personality, just slit your wrist & keep it moving. That way i won’t have to waste my breath telling you to kick rocks later. :lol:

Melo

March 25th, 2010
9:22 am

Well, I can do the splits and put my leg behind my head.

:lol:

@Raqi..why sleep on the couch?? did u and Mason fight or was Elizabeth restless during the night?

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
9:24 am

Raqi it is NOT my daddy’s fault with how my life turned out….I made some selfish self centered decisions and it is consequences to good and bad choices however my childhood set the tone and having a not so stable father to show you what you should have in a man doesn’t help….Yes I am a grown ass woman now and a mother and I turly know better though mistakes made but I am just saying you can’t pick your family and when you find yourself attracting men like your dad it is scary…..a bit….but the theme is YELLOW IS THE COLOR OF SUN RAY—–KEEP ON MOVING DON’T STOP!!!!!!! :)

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
9:26 am

Amazon, Planning does not make one rigid, actually it’s a good thing. I plan also. But for me planning is just giving myself a starting point with my ideas or wants. I know where I want to go. I know what it is I want to do this weekend. Or for the rest of my life. I have a plan. But that plan leaves room for necessary adjustments.

An example of being rigid and unyielding to me is, if I plan to go to dinner at a certain restaurant that does not take reservations, but I get there to find that the place is packed instead of just going somewhere else I would sit there for 3,4,5 hours waiting to get a seat. That’s time wasted IMO.

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
9:29 am

Planning does not make one rigid

Raqi. I didn’t say that. That’s why the “I can be rigid” was a stand alone sentence.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
9:30 am

Melo, after I got home last night I couldn’t sleep. So I wouldn’t disturb Mason I went downstairs and end up falling asleep after a few hours. I don’t remember falling asleep but all I know is he was waking my up at 5am. It feels like I had just closed my eyes. My eyelids barely touched and it was time to get up. I hate that. LOL

PrincessNIk

March 25th, 2010
9:33 am

I’m not the type to turn into some doormat for a man. Believe me, I can speak up and express my opinion without hesitation. However, I am also able to go with the flow and relax too.

That would be me also, ya gotta let go a little so things can flow.

@ Lady J the bs detector works more but still it gets old

yep i agree

@ Raqi When you find yourself always being the one that has to bend you are with the wrong person

Preach!

Melo

March 25th, 2010
9:33 am

It feels like I had just closed my eyes

@Raqi??

dont worry,friday tmrw and the weekend is here, and u will have time to put ur leggs up and take a rest.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
9:36 am

I have to add this to my comments. There are somethings that I just will not bend to. Period. But still that does not make me inflexible. I choose my battles wisely.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
9:40 am

Heck Melo, imma try to get my relaxation on this evening. Early evening at that. Tonight Mase is going out with his friends, imma go home and whip up something real quick and easy for the baby and the boy, try to be in and out of the tub by eight and in the bed by 8:30pm. Yep, shole is.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
9:44 am

“Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves”—–A thought……

Last week I was killing Alexander O’Neal’s song Sunshine—–”Ohh….Cloudy was the day when sunshine came into my life And made it brighter”

now on the flip side “You know, sometimes sunshine turns to rain”

Life!
HA!

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
9:45 am

No one person call the shots in the relationship. It’s called a union for a reason.

Professor

March 25th, 2010
9:46 am

Hola!

I am a bit stubborn…I like planning, and I love having my way. However I know the world does not revolve around me, and life is give and take. It took me a while, but I pretty good at being flexible. In fact I like it when things flow and move forward without me tampering with it.

@Lady J you made some great points
@Melo, thank goodness tomorrow is Friday!

PrincessNIk

March 25th, 2010
9:47 am

lady J

in order to get something, you got to give something
~Betty Wright
:lol:

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
9:48 am

“You know, sometimes sunshine turns to rain”

LadyJ, me and mine live each day in Spring time. Sunshine, rainfall, flowers blooming, clouds gathering, birds singing, storms brewing, bees making honey.

Melo

March 25th, 2010
9:49 am

In case the Topic is as boring to u as it is to me..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HEGGUQ3yiCg&sns=em

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
9:52 am

Raqi that is cute but I am sitting here sneezing @ spring and I can’t stop coughing….going to Emory very soon for that allergy shot! lol But truly happy for you sistah!!!!:)

PK—-Betty Wright is the truth that reminds me of the hole in the walls in SC on a sunday evening while a softball game is going on…..silly me!

Thanks Professor!

Melo

March 25th, 2010
9:53 am

No one person call the shots in the relationship. It’s called a union for a reason.

@Raqi!??

Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming:

1.. Whenever you’re wrong, admit it,

2. Whenever you’re right, shut up!!

(original author, divorced but still in the nba!!)

:lol: :lol:

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
9:53 am

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
No-one else can make me feel the colors that you bring,
Stay with me while we grow old and we will live each day inspringtime.
‘Cause loving you is easy ’cause you’re beautifull,
And every day of my life is filled with loving you.
Loving you, I see your soul come shining through,
And everytime that we, oohh…
I’m more in love with you.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
9:54 am

raqi that is a cute spring song!!!!!

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
9:56 am

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪La la la la la, la la la la la…

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
9:56 am

LadyJ, I love that song.

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
9:56 am

Morning folks!

Yeah Melo, this topic is boring.

I’ve dated stubborn, set-in-their-ways dudes before and they have no age limit. These are the ones that are usually very controlling, so it’s their way or the highway. Even a suggestion from me that we try something different is seen as me trying to change them.

I’m a flexible planner – like making some plans, but they are not etched in stone. I can bend.

I had one guy who said he didn’t like to plan. Come to find out it was because he knew with me I would be expecting him to follow thru and he wanted to be able to flake out when he wanted. So he would always try to call at the last minute for things. And he wondered why we didn’t see each other much and I kicked him to the curb!

Actually I’ve found a lot of guys do that – don’t want to make plans too early in advance because they want to keep their options open. Fine, just can’t do that with me.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
9:57 am

Melo, you know that advice is directed toward men don’t you? LOL

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
9:58 am

How flexible are you? I am sitting in my chair indian style. LOL

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:00 am

it may be boring but in the single world single people are selfish and stubborn and there is a need to discuss letting that guard down and just dating…..lol….compromising being single should be ongoing but it is not per se…..in my opinion…..

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
10:02 am

Morning
I’m very flexible, and sometimes it can be frustrating to be around people who aren’t. I’ve gone on dates with women like that, and it’s the worst for me. I can understand being upset when the plan doesn’t unfold the way you expected, but at that point you can do one of two things. You can harp on the fact that things didn’t go your way (which just makes you more angry) or you can start formulating the next plan.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:04 am

LadyJ, we all are selfish and stubborn to a degree.

I will turn the baby monitor off when I don’t want to get up at 3am to go see what is wrong with her.

I have turned the monitor off in middle of coitus heading for the big one so the baby’s moving around or crying doesn’t get my attention.

I have turned the monitor off when the hubby goes in to change the baby and she has really messed her diaper and he is calling me.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:07 am

DreamsM wonder if that falls into controlling behavior….imo so what the plans didn’t go as we planned…..meaning dinner moive night was altered a bit do I cut the damn fool and go off or go with the flow….geesh it ain’t that serious to be right and on top all the freakin’ time….that is selfish to me…..lol

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:07 am

Selfish and Stubborn: I will take my time getting dressed when I don’t want to go somewhere knowing that if we are running too late the marido will go ahead and leave me or just not go at all.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:08 am

we do raqi but in a relationship and you already stated this it is a balance on how we flex and not felx is really important…..the verbals and non verbals say alot…..if you freeze up bc ish is not going your way and it is mino ish I mean really….pick and choose your battles…..

lurker

March 25th, 2010
10:09 am

I just want to jump in and ask a rhetorical question. What’s up with men and why are they bruised when you don’t stroke them? Seriously are you kidding me?

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:10 am

“It’s my way or the highway”??? Then it looks like you are going to be taking your journey of life without me.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:10 am

meant minor ish….lol

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:11 am

PREACH lurker! I mean really!

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
10:11 am

1.. Whenever you’re wrong, admit it,

2. Whenever you’re right, shut up!!

That’s for men. For women it’s

1. Whenever you’re wrong, defer.
2. Whenever you’re right, gloat. lol

Actually I’ve found a lot of guys do that – don’t want to make plans too early in advance because they want to keep their options open.
Does this really happen alot? However, the opposite may be true for women. They are quick to confirm plans in advance, and then flake out at the last minute. Guess it would be nice if people would just commit to something, and then follow through.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:11 am

LadyJ, the mindset has to exist before the wedding. That’s the thing. If you are hardnose selfish while courting that ain’t gon change just because he put a ring on it.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:15 am

yes indeed raqi!

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:16 am

What’s up with men and why are they bruised when you don’t stroke them?

lurker, how is that different from what we as women need in relationships? That’s if you are speaking about relationships.

Rell made a very good statement the other day about how we women are wired and he was spot on. So if as women needs certain things why would we think men don’t need what they need. I seriously doubt guys like doing all the stuff they have to do to caress us. But they do it knowing it gets them where they want and need to be. Why can’t we do it for them?

But is that what you are talking about?

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 25th, 2010
10:17 am

What’s up with men and why are they bruised when you don’t stroke them?

lurker contrary to what you see/hear men have fragile egos(not all but most, even though they won’t readily admit it) and there are times when they will need it stroked. The stroking could be literal,or it could be a compliment, a hug/kiss or just some kind of positive reinforcement that lets them know they’re needed.

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
10:17 am

Does this really happen alot?

Dreams – With just about every guy I’ve dated except the current.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:18 am

1. Whenever you’re wrong, defer.
2. Whenever you’re right, gloat. Lol

DreamsMat, what are you doing reading our manual?

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
10:18 am

Good Morning, everyone!:) Being a super planner has made me rigid in some cases and caused me to miss out on some fun. In other cases, it has worked to my benefit b/c I avoided some foolishness…lol. It’s all a matter of trusting yourself and knowing when to deviate from a plan. Spontanaiety is healthy and makes life interesting.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:19 am

Sassy positive reinforcement…..I truly see your POV but sometimes being speechless says it alll….you did an awesome job and I am lost for words…..often times I say thank you a million times bc I am truly thanful for the royal treatment all the way around but I do see your POV….

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:20 am

I hear ya KB!!!! How are you doing???

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
10:21 am

wonder if that falls into controlling behavior
Controlling or spoiled. It’s cool though ’cause like I said, I’m very flexible. When something doesn’t go as planned I’m already formulating the next plan. That plan could consist of doing something else to enjoy our time together or taking your controlling/spoiled azz home because you couldn’t get over it. lol

What’s up with men and why are they bruised when you don’t stroke them?
Who are these “men”? Sounds more like boys in grown bodies, still needing to be coddled. Unfortunately, it’s been the women in their lives who have made them that way. They need to take the training wheels off and growp up though.

SexyCool (Reloaded)

March 25th, 2010
10:22 am

Melo

March 25th, 2010
10:23 am

Raqi! 10.16 ^

A relationship is not a tug of war.

It is a Collaborative effort..u scratch my back,i scratch urs.

If u cannot complement each other then u dont need to be tgether.

Behind every successful man,there is a woman and the woman is the #1 cheerleader!

(I didnt coin that last phrase,I just apply it better!) :lol:

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:23 am

Preach DreamsM! lol hmmm spoil didn’t register ha—-sorta spoil am I but being spoil and single gets one anywhere…….lol

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
10:24 am

Dreams – Yeah, I don’t deal too well with spoiled – men, kids, friends, pets, LOL!

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:24 am

Melo good post 10:23!

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:24 am

One of the biggest misconceptions that hurt a lot of our relationships is that men are hard and cold as rocks. But they aren’t. They have feelings. They need to be liked and like to be needed by the woman in their life.

What does it hurt to give them a little recognition and praise? Hell we want them to have feelings when it comes to stuff concerning us and/or ever changing hormones. Tell him he’s awesome sometimes. Praise his accomplishment. What does it hurt?

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
10:26 am

What’s up with men and why are they bruised when you don’t stroke them

- one key to success is to edify others…..one key to success is edify others….one key to success is edify others

the real question is how can you let a man enter you and you not stroke his ego

how can you take a man in your mouth – and not stroke his ego

how can you allow man in your home around your kids if this applies and you not edify him

how can you spend time/money on someone you have chosen and not edify him

sometime we betray ourselves with this “stinkin thinkin”….and you wonder why we still at square one on this dating thing…smdh

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:27 am

It doesn’t Raqi….lol

lurker

March 25th, 2010
10:27 am

Lady J/Lioness….I’m speaking of a coworker. Tall, handsome, former proball player…not yet 40, fairly young. Up until a few days ago, he was all peachy. Sorry just don’t have it in me to fall all over folks.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:28 am

And it’s not even all the time what you say. Just being attentive or interested in what he is doing or trying to accomplish is all the stroking he needs.

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 25th, 2010
10:28 am

Wow thank you Lioness. I’ve learned that men have needs just like us women do but don’t always know how to relay said needs to their mates. Even then when it seems unsure what to do I just try to treat them like I’d want to be treated.

often times I say thank you a million times bc I am truly thanful for the royal treatment all the way around

See the stroking could be those simple words….thank you b/c it shows your appreciation but also lets them see that you recognize what they did. I reallly liked your post,too. That’s what’s up :)

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:28 am

I read ya Rell!!!!! lol cool son…..

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
10:29 am

there are times when they will need it stroked.
Sassy Most men have given up on this by age 6. lol We’ve since resigned to the fact that emotionally we’re on our own.

what are you doing reading our manual?
I thought the first rule of The Manual was to deny all existence of The Manual. lol I may have a stolen copy under my bed.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:29 am

Thanks Sassy!!!!! I had a cool date recently and thank you was an understatement! It was very much appreciated how dude made me smile! just priceless! lol

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:30 am

Sorry just don’t have it in me to fall all over folks

Lurker, oh that’s different. You ain’t his woman so tell him to go kick rocks.

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
10:30 am

Raqi – Your’re right. I’ve dealt with some cold men before, but I never assumed for one minute deep down they didn’t have feelings, even though that’s the way they acted sometimes! What you described above I think is simply showing love & appreciation. We all as humans desire a kind word now and then. To know that we matter, even just a little, to someone on this earth.

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
10:30 am

If you surround yourself with solid people, people with character, ego stroking isn’t difficult. It’s just a way to let someone know you appreciate them or what they do.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:31 am

lurker those types exist we can’t ignore that fact either but when you have a great person on the team you show love…..I do get that folks green and al1! ;)

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:34 am

We all as humans desire a kind word now and then.

kimmie, exactly. God himself wants to be praised. And man was made in HIS likeness and image.

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 25th, 2010
10:35 am

Most men have given up on this by age 6. lol We’ve since resigned to the fact that emotionally we’re on our own.

DreamsMat I can only speak from my experience but how can you be in a relationship and be emotionally on your own…that sounds like an oxymoron. If that were the case all men would be single… I can only speak from my experience and have yet to have the misfortune of meeting someone who feels like they’re on their own emotional island. I’m jus’ sayin’….

Melo

March 25th, 2010
10:35 am

@kimmie??

some men are just not good fun planners! Im one of them. She will ask me,”what we doing friday? and I have no idea most times.However,if she pitches an idea, i will always either agree to it,add one oor two pointers or suggest an alternative,then leave the finer details to be worked out tween us thru out the entireweek.

I have been that way, (non planner) since i was single but back then,not being a planner was also a good strategic move.Coz i didnt know if i was gon be with the 1st team or the reserves or the 3rd tier. :lol:

So its true,some single guys,if a chic calls them early in the week,will give her blanks and defer the plans coz they have not received submissions from all their teams. :lol:

Red Flag!

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 25th, 2010
10:36 am

We all as humans desire a kind word now and then. To know that we matter, even just a little, to someone on this earth.

That made me feel all warm and fuzzy :)

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
10:36 am

@DreamsM ~ I disagree with you saying most men have given up on having their egos stroked by age 6. Grown men just about everywhere need, desire, long for their egos to be stroked just like us women. And, if you’re truly emotionally on your own, you wouldn’t need to search for a mate, a companion, a love interest.

A man’s ego is very fragile, from what I have seen. Let me rephrase, both our egos are very fragile. We float through life a little better with compliments, respect, appreciation, desire, etc. Our egos tell us that we want to be wanted. No one has given up on this!

PrincessNIk

March 25th, 2010
10:36 am

Rell Great Post

PrincessNIk

March 25th, 2010
10:37 am

Dreams M, a little later i’m going to need some merlot to go with this Carl Thomas CD i just blew the dust off of ;)

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
10:38 am

@ared…cosign

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:40 am

PK how bout Eric Benet Love Don’t Love Me after Carl…..lol……Carl was a cool singer what happened???

PrincessNIk

March 25th, 2010
10:42 am

Lady J, never really got into Eric Benet except one or two songs.
But this Carl Thomas Emotional CD can ride all night long ;)

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:43 am

Heck I know when we are lying in bed and he is clinging to me it is not all the time because he likes the smell of my hair or the feel of the suppleness of my skin or he is trying to cop a feel. It’s because he wants and needs to feel wanted. It’s a human emotion.

I know that when he gets home and tells me about an awesome profitable day that he had it’s not because he likes to hear himself talk (LOL shut up LURKER) but he seeks admiration from the woman he loves and spends his life with.

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
10:44 am

some men are just not good fun planners! Im one of them.

Melo, alot aren’t, some women aren’t either!LOL!! Some people are just not very creative or they are afraid to step out of their comfort zone or do something out of the usual. The key is you are flexible with Queen.

The problems come when you are both not creative and not willing to try. You miss out on so much like that. I have girlfriends that are like that. They will only eat a certain type of food, listen to a certain type of music, see only certain kinds of movies, go only certain places. I limit my time with them because they limit themselves!

SexyCool (Reloaded)

March 25th, 2010
10:45 am

The ego stroke is VERY important. Lack of *strokage* will have the unstroked party looking outside the relationship to get the need met.

Oh…and co-sign to Rell’s post.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:46 am

We’ve since resigned to the fact that emotionally we’re on our own.

DreamsMat, but you are not. Yall need better women in your lives. If you have a woman that does not fulfill those emotional needs, that you aren’t suppose to have (LOL), you need a better woman. She ain’t the right one.

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
10:46 am

I just read that Eva Marcielle & Lance Gross broke up, 5 months before their planned July wedding. I kinda had a feeling that was going to happen.

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
10:47 am

men are just not good fun planners

-we plan with our boys…at this age your chick should be your friend

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
10:48 am

Thanks kimmie – I meant to post that to my FB status this morning! LOL

lurker

March 25th, 2010
10:48 am

Sassy, I’m so over it and not believing the behavior that I’m seeing. It seemed to have started last week when I went to lunch with a friend. I step out for lunch often but I NEVER really do lunch with folks here. Well when I came back he stopped me walking past his office. I think it came out of his mouth before he realized…”Sooo, where have you been?” “Who did you go with?” “Where did ya’ll go?” If we haven’t crossed paths around 3:00, he walks past me several times and finally says “whatcha doing.” Well, during our conference this week, some of them arrived early whereas I got there around 7:00. Walked downtown with another coworker and got dinner. Came back and they’re all sitting in the hotel lounge having drinks. We stop, do introductions and whatnots but he obviously keeps his back turned. Next morning we’re all gathered and the conference begins, during breaks and lunch, folks are doing the same, introducing and making acquaintences. Several times he checks out our table. Never speaks or anything. All the while, we’re all laughing and meeting and greeting. Later that night, dinner was at some “ole boys” club and I’m standing alone looking out at the city and I see him (without him knowing) make his way towards me. We don’t really talk though because others make their way over. About an hour later, wouldn’t you know, he comes over, kneels between myself and another worker and blatantly turns sideways..from me….seeing I’ve been sensing something a couple of days now, I say “hey there”, and he ignores me. Are you kidding me? Grow up. I asked before leaving if he wanted me to print his boarding pass (along with the rest of the group) and he wouldn’t answer…just looked at me. He went for his blackberry to get his confirmation number and while looking for a pen, I handed him one. He reached beyond that one and picked up another. Are you kidding me? Normally he comes and sits with me a couple times a week and just talk about nothing, along with his daily ritual of “good morning ms.(insert last name here). Today, walked past me and NOTHING! Are you kidding me? Oh and really put the ig on at the airport. You’re laughing and talking to all but one in a group of about 9. What the heck ever! I ain’t one for losing my cool over pettiness.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:50 am

SexyCool, VERY important.

You know I can get dressed in the morning and my husband and what he thinks about what I am wearing could be the furthest thing from my mind. But when he sees me or I walk pass him and he makes mention to how “nice” I look that just adds extra spice to my day.

Men are the same. Even when not fishing for a stroke, they need it.

lurker

March 25th, 2010
10:53 am

Raqi – You’re right…no need to cop a ‘tude with me. I ain’t his woman. Gheesh! I just think he’s use to having cheerleaders. Funny all the white chicks were making such a fuss when he walked in…”OMG OMG OMG…that’s so and so..he’s so goodlooking” Reckon that’s what he expects from me. Oh, get this, he said to me a couple of weeks ago, “I don’t want you to idolize me.” Say what say what now?! I was like honey if you ain’t Jesus Christ, trust no worries there.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:53 am

lurker, that seems to me to be more than looking for ego stroking. He wants you but you didn’t take the bait early on. Now he is trying to make you feel it. JMHO.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
10:54 am

lmao lurker! those egotiscal bastards amuse me and they are out there!

lurker

March 25th, 2010
10:54 am

Raqi – ding ding ding…and there you have it. He’s sulking today, his door is closed. Sometimes men are so dang predictable.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:55 am

And lurker I would stay so far from him it would feel like you are on separate continents. He probably goes thru women like he goes thru underwear.

SexyCool (Reloaded)

March 25th, 2010
10:56 am

I’m kinda not understanding the dynamics of the relationship here.

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
10:57 am

hey Lady J…i am fine. busy but good.:) how are you?

lurker

March 25th, 2010
10:57 am

And lurker I would stay so far from him it would feel like you are on separate continents. He probably goes thru women like he goes thru underwear.

Igg zackly…Lady J and Raqi

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
10:59 am

SexyCool, are you talking about lurker and her ballplayer???????

IMO the guy is probably used to “ordinary” women lining up to sit on his stick but now he has run up on one that isn’t interested. She didn’t acknowledge his history status. LOL

Melo

March 25th, 2010
10:59 am

@Lurker

maybe luker just doesnt like the former bball’s co-worker’s vibe coz of how he carries himslef.But these two aint dating,so the feelings of strokking etc has to be taken with a pinch of salt.(who sang that ,wld like to stroke ur ….?? that 80s song)..Changing faces?? :lol:

Maybe bro is trying to feel lurker and lurker aint returning the favor,while bro persists,which persistence results is in a toxic feel.

@Kimmie??

those types who wont come outa their comfort zones are so close minded. But u know one thing i know too is, going around town on ur own as a single lady or guy can be expensive too. Not smething u can do week in and week out! And it costs money to order sme u dont particularly know,eat and then find out u didnt enjoy it and then order something more to get a feel of yhaving had a decent meal!

So in some ways, i can undderstand how pple get rigid with their tatses.

No wonder chics with boyfriends/hubbies who can splurge on them are so lucky coz, smetimes,they(chics) cant do it by themesleves!,all the damn time! :lol: (no wonder the song/cry..Iam tired!.. :lol:

Thats why cobwebs lead to mental angsts and frowns and :arrow: ……………we back to that Carlitto smile thang of yeaterday! :lol: :lol:

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
10:59 am

Say what say what now?! I was like honey if you ain’t Jesus Christ, trust no worries there.

:lol: :lol:

lurker

March 25th, 2010
11:00 am

Yep, thanks Raqi.

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
11:00 am

…”Sooo, where have you been?” “Who did you go with?” “Where did ya’ll go?

- dude is emotional and needy….cut off communication..he is moist between the legs…and the “female” behavior you just listed is not manly at all…you will not be dating a man..you will pick up an extra girlfriend with this dude

lurker

March 25th, 2010
11:01 am

Rell – I agree

SexyCool (Reloaded)

March 25th, 2010
11:02 am

Maybe I should go back and read more attentively.

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
11:03 am

lurker – LOL!! :) If he only knew how ridiculous he looks! Takes away whatever external attractiveness might be there in my book. One of those types that thinks the sun does not shine until they get up! I’ve worked around that type before. The thing is, he’s eating up inside because you are putting the ig on him, unlike the usual adoration he’s used to.

He won’t come around though. He’ll end up hooking up with somebody that will worship his dirty drawers. And he’ll cheat on her too.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
11:04 am

KB I am better go figure….lol….class tonight, midterms approaching….spring break is near..lil lady been with her dad all week (the break was unexpected but needed)…I won’t complain…..the stat of this week was slow…..lol

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
11:05 am

meant start kb…..lol

Carlito

March 25th, 2010
11:05 am

Speak life into others, a good attitude is infectious :)

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
11:05 am

@Kimmie, I read that too! I was a lil shocked. Didn’t see that trouble brewing but you never know with celebs. Look how Sandra Bullock came to the Oscars w/her hubby and all…they were in the middle of a crisis. I wonder if it can be worked out. Eva and Lance are both young. Maybe their egos got in the way.

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
11:07 am

@LadyJ, glad to hear things are going well. I know that you are enjoying a break. Gives you time to regroup and have some “J” time.:) Does she have a soccer game this weekend? I think that’s great she’s playing a sport.

Carlito

March 25th, 2010
11:07 am

Affection is a learned behavior, respect should be a given.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
11:07 am

kb did you read the ajc article whre MoNique told Sandra to call her if she needed someone….that was nice……stars are human too and everyone needs someone…..friends are dear when they are true……

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
11:07 am

SexyCool, you know how when that guy approach you that think he is all that and a slice of pie and you don’t bite he resorts to calling you a biotch as he walks away? LOL That seems to be what’s going on with lurker and ballboy. How dare she not want him? LMBO

Tazzee - 50 days til Mrs.

March 25th, 2010
11:08 am

Morning Folks!

I’m pretty flexible for most things – but most think I’m not because I’m such a planner and time conscious. So when things don’t go as planned, some are looking at me like I’m going to blow and I’m like ‘Ok, what’s next’

Actually I enjoy the little hiccups when dating – it helps to see how both folks deal with it. Early in our relationship I went by my boo’s house after church. It was Easter Sunday and he was going with me to the Sears Outlet to look at refrigerators. I wanted to ride in his classic car on this beautiful Sunday morning so we set off. I don’t know if the gas gauge wasn’t working or what – but as we were riding down the street, the car just stopped – it was out of gas, LOL. I felt bad for him because he was embarassed but I was cool with it. He pushed the car into a parking lot and we headed to the gas station. We had a nice walk until my feet started hurting (coming from church) – the we hailed a cab, got gas and were on our way.

It was wild because as he was pushing the car, we were walking, etc – we kept seeing people he knew. Folks he used to work with, clients etc and they all stopped to speak and tried to help. I was thinking that he had a pretty good reputation around those parts.

When I finally made it to Easter dinner with my friends they were all giving the gas face when I recounted the story. Saying things like ‘Who doesn’t know how much gas they have in the car, etc?’ But I took it as a cute little adventure.

Now if I had to be somewhere by a specific time – I probably would have been upset.

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
11:09 am

yes she does KB!!!!! I even get a free pass from soccer practice fri he is doing it so I will see the lil chile friday night and sat it is game time!!!!! KB I feel asleep yesterday early evening without evening knowing it…..I did need the mental break from it all and my bedrrom was my escape! lol

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
11:10 am

Sassy
We’re on our own in the sense that we don’t expect a pat on the back, especially for things we’re supposed to be doing anyway. No one else is responsible for our emotional fitness.

Leggs
Men are socialized differently than women. From a young age we’re tought to “suck it up”, “man up”, “fix ya face”, “don’t whine”, “handle ya business”. For many men, the first time you go against these teachings you’re reminded in a hard way why you were taught them to begin with. While we might desire that ego stroke from time to time, we have learned not to expect it.

If you have a woman that does not fulfill those emotional needs, that you aren’t suppose to have (LOL), you need a better woman. She ain’t the right one.
Raqi Right now “she” is a blank. I’m game for filling in the blank if you know the right one. ;-)

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
11:10 am

GA GOP is going gansta! smh!

SexyCool (Reloaded)

March 25th, 2010
11:10 am

So…they are not dating *or anything*? This is just a dude in the office *acting crazy* cause she’s not audtitioning to be his number one fan?

Dude, gone with that.

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
11:10 am

@LadyJ, i thought that was nice too for her to offer her support. in the back of my mind i was thinking that MoNique may try to convice Sandra to have an open marriage like her…lol.

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
11:11 am

Melo – The easiest solution is associating with people that have similiar interests! Works every time. Or folks that have an open mind.

Some of the folks I am speaking of Melo won’t try an 89 cent taco if they’ve never had one, much less an expensive 5-star meal of cuisine they’ve never tried. I brought one of those close-minded friends to another friend’s buffet dinner. The best time to try something new is at an all-you-care-to-eat buffet, especially at someone’s house where you did not have to pay!LOL!! You can get a taste and if you don’t like it, you don’t have to feel like you are wasting a lot if you throw it away. With this friend, no dice! It also costs nothing to broaden your horizons by listening to a song on the radio that’s not hip-hop or R&B.

See, there are ways to be introduced to new things that are not a stretch financially if you open your mind. But some folks don’t want to do that!

Melo

March 25th, 2010
11:12 am

…”Sooo, where have you been?” “Who did you go with?” “Where did ya’ll go?

@Lurker!

dude is feeling u but u aint biting,thats all!

Luv and attraction turns to hate quickly with some kids guys !

:lol: :lol:

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
11:12 am

Carlito

I see you are on the inspiration tip today LOL

lurker

March 25th, 2010
11:13 am

Raqi – that’s what he projects.

SexyC – Yes, a coworker. Actually he was one of the ones that interviewed me and then he was a bit..ummm, what’s the word when you’re full of yourself? Yeah, that.

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
11:13 am

@LadyJ…i know that! nothing like a mental break! girrrrlll, i can’t WAIT til spring break. i have one more week til my week of rest and relaxation. i’m not even going anywhere. i’m just going to stay here in Atlanta.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
11:15 am

Yeah SexyCool. He is an ex pro ball player I think she said. What woman doesn’t want him? LOL

SexyCool (Reloaded)

March 25th, 2010
11:15 am

lurker – he funny. Play the game his way. Keep ignoring him and not letting him see that you see him acting out. He will come around soon.

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
11:15 am

kinder – I knew Eva & Lance’s days were numbered because I heard she went off on him a few months ago, thinking he was cheating.

Carlito

March 25th, 2010
11:15 am

PrincessNik, I think if we break it down to the simple things we will do better with greater things.:)

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

March 25th, 2010
11:15 am

Enter your comments here

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
11:16 am

me too kb that is why I am glad midterms is next week….I may have class during spring break but i will play in the city Sun Mon Wed Fri and Sat trust me! lol can’t wait! not too hard though have a paper due at the end of april but I am going to go to some new places….can’t wait!

Living Life

March 25th, 2010
11:17 am

Good Morning!! You all have some valid points on the topic. It just seems to me and most of my friends we are extremely flexible, but of course we don’t get it in return. In my marriage I’d always compromise, but he didn’t seem to think he needed to. I guess this goes back to we should not have gotten married if he was not ready. So now on the dating scene again and I have to watch out how flexible I am. I don’t mind being flexible but it depends on how much.

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
11:17 am

PrincessNIK
I got you on the merlot. Be careful with that old Carl Thomas though…might get into something. Matter of fact, come sit by me in front of the blog fireplace. lol

Tazzee - 50 days til Mrs.

March 25th, 2010
11:17 am

Morning folks!

looks like the blogosphere ate my first post so I’ll just say that I’m pretty flexible.

29 days til my bachelorette soiree!!!

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
11:17 am

@DreamsM ~ I still disagree with you. The examples you gave are those of either “manning up” or be a “punk.” Ego stroking is praise for whatever it is you’ve accomplished, the love you have for me and I for you. Ego stroking is a part of the wave that propels the relationship to continue to advance.

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
11:18 am

@kimmie…i didn’t even know! wow, i guess they were on their way to breaking up for a hot minute then. what do you think?

Melo

March 25th, 2010
11:18 am

Melo – The easiest solution is associating with people that have similiar interests!

@Kimmie…?? there u have it there!

u wasting ur time with those who wont try the 89c taco or free buffett coz there are 89 cents tacos themeselves!

:lol:

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
11:20 am

SCool/lurker – I don’t think he’ll come around at all. I’ve seen that type before. He’ll end up getting with someone that worships his dirty drawers. She’ll probably not be his equal in exterior attractiveness because he won’t want to share the limelight. He’s just another ex-athlete that does know how to function in the everyday world, away from the glory & the groupies.

Hillarious and kind of sad at the same time.

lurker

March 25th, 2010
11:21 am

SexyC – That’s what I’m thinking. When he’s done licking his wounds and sulking, he’ll be alright. Maybe he thought some of us would use this conference to cut loose. Not my style. I don’t mix business and personal life. I was up out of there each time the dinner/the meeting ended. Cause ya’ll know folks were getting drunk and what not.

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
11:22 am

kinder – Yep, it was the begining of the end I believe.

SexyCool (Reloaded)

March 25th, 2010
11:22 am

kimmie – either way, he will develop a level of respect for lurker. And really, it doesn’t sound like lurker is interested in him like that. But, he will be back in her face – even if it’s not on *that* tip,

lurker

March 25th, 2010
11:23 am

Kimmie, he’s made his way up through this place based on that cause honestly I have him and another person as my direct counterparts and he’s nowhere near as sharp as her. She’s straight to it, all about business and now working on next year’s goals. He’s all about interacting and stuff. Please. Honey get the job done and KIM

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 25th, 2010
11:23 am

We’re on our own in the sense that we don’t expect a pat on the back, especially for things we’re supposed to be doing anyway. No one else is responsible for our emotional fitness.

Dreams as adults(men and women) we shouldn’t want a pat on the back for doing things were supposed to…it’s called being responsible. People who search for praise are out there in mass numbers and are as obvious/fake as a $3 dollar bill. However I agree with the sentiment that we are responsible for our own emotional fitness.

lurker on the real that guy is a pu**y who’s used to having women fall and fawn over him and you did something he’s not used to….you ignored him. That’s why he kept seeking you out and checking your whereabouts. He probably was trying to flirt with you as well but since you never took the bait you hurt his feelings and he acted like a real B-I…B-I. The fact that he was openly tryng to hurt you back wreaks of petty biotch.as.s.ed.ness…and that is soo unattractive in a man. Who’d want to date him?…sounds like he needs a pacifier or a tittay in him mouf…..

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
11:24 am

Carlito, good point

Dreams M
“Be careful with that old Carl Thomas though…might get into something”

It hit track 14 and all of a sudden i was mesmerized :oops:

lurker

March 25th, 2010
11:25 am

SexyC – You’re so right. Not my style. Neva act desperate and hard up. Because I’ve been in this LOB for years, there are sooo many things I can tell him he’s doing wrong but now ain’t the time. When he’s off his ego trip I’ll give him a few pointers. His position is higher than mine but I have the skills and background. He can feel it a bit too because he asked about her portfolio versus his.

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 25th, 2010
11:26 am

Be careful with that old Carl Thomas though…might get into something.

Who that talking bout Carl Thomas?….I done slayed some dragons back in the day with that as my “theme music”…you know every hero gotta have some theme music/. ;)

lurker

March 25th, 2010
11:26 am

Sassy – Who’d want to date him?…sounds like he needs a pacifier or a tittay in him mouf…..

LOL…say it sista

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
11:27 am

SCool/lurker – Yeah, yall are right.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
11:29 am

you know every hero gotta have some theme music

Sassy that made me laugh

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
11:31 am

Hey Living Life!!! i feel ya post!

Living Life

March 25th, 2010
11:31 am

@ lurker – He doesn’t know how to take you since you didn’t take any of his advances. I’m glad you were not like the rest of the women he has been involved with. He will DEFINITELY be back. Majority of time they always come back to a good thing. I’m glad you have standards b/c there are plenty of women out here that are so hard up for a man they would just settle.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
11:32 am

lurker’s situation is part of the reason for me having two types of men in particular that I never wanted to date. Pro Athletes and Military.

Pro Athletes are full of themselves and Ex-Military are crazy.

Yeah you are crazy Rell. (Just kidding)

Living Life

March 25th, 2010
11:33 am

Hey Lady J!!! Good Luck on that paper and I know your getting some well deserved with w/o the lil one.

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
11:34 am

Yeah you are crazy Rell

- i was once crazy..its hard readjusting to civy life….you guys are mad sensitive..lol…but i have had my crazy moments

Living Life

March 25th, 2010
11:34 am

@ Raqi… LOL your right about those military men.. My father went to Nam and I can’t understand for the life of me why my mom stayed. LOL I love pops, but whew.. he fuss too much about nothing for me. LOL

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
11:35 am

thanks Living Life and I am! :)

lurker

March 25th, 2010
11:36 am

Living – Having Standards is how I was raised. Can’t lay that aside even if I tried. It’s almost like trying to unhear something you’re heard.

Melo

March 25th, 2010
11:38 am

I can’t understand for the life of me why my mom stayed.

@Living Life

she luv him!

Ur dad is it,to ur mom! :lol:

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
11:40 am

Raqi – I’m with you on the athletes & military types. For me, add any dude that’s in a “glamour” field, like tv or entertainment. I dated a news reporter/anchor briefly and lets just say I can’t deal with a dude that’s in the mirror more than me. He was SO full of himself.

I prefer intelletuals/nerds anyway.

Living Life

March 25th, 2010
11:41 am

lurker-I know that is right!! I talk to my brother all the time and he say these days women do not have standards. He hangs up on them, curse them out, tell them not to call back and they still call back. WTH!!! I actually heard all this and I was like are you serious she is still calling.

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
11:42 am

intelletuals – should have been intellectuals!

Not sounding very intelligent there!LOL!

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
11:42 am

ladies men have away of mutanting normal. Its normal for some men to GTD easily depending on profession…this repetive process will have the man to believe its “normal”. We have a hard time with change….when i came from san diego, where i did not have to “date” but hang out…moving to atlanta where you had to “formally” date someone was hard…i was like in cali we could hit the beach grab some mexican and head back to the room…with no resistance…and she would meet you at the spot or drive to your spot…date 1 2 3 or whenever….here it is not the same…just and FYi…Dig into the dudes past before you proceed. the past is the present until he can replace it with something else

Living Life

March 25th, 2010
11:43 am

Melo-I know… she said he didn’t always use to be like that so.. she just deals with it..

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
11:44 am

women do not have standards

- your right but niether do men…we all have conditions we want but no one can tell you what they want to do in life or who they want to love…95 percent of us are ships without rudders

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
11:44 am

@lurker, you will soon find him peeping into your office to ask you the stupidest of things. May even find yourself riding the elevator with him more than usual. Just a coincidence, yeah right. Guys like that think if they keep themselves in your presence you’ll eventually have them on the brain….women can “ignore” a person better than anyone.

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
11:48 am

Maybe he thought some of us would use this conference to cut loose.
Lurker Conferences and business trips are often just professional, grown and sexy versions of Freaknik.

It hit track 14 and all of a sudden i was mesmerized
PrincessNIK Another glass of merlot? ;-)

Sassy what you know about that Carl? Talkin’ ’bout slaying dragons and stuff… lol

Living Life

March 25th, 2010
11:49 am

While we are on this standards topic.. I have a question.. Almost 3 yrs ago on my bday my niece(brothers daughter) died from Baby Shaken Syndrome at the hands of the mother’s live-in boyfriend. Ok so we went to court last week and the defendant had a girlfriend. I was shocked.. I am like I would not want to date someone that has been charged with murder/murder felony, child cruelty, etc..(5 charges). Maybe she didn’t know initially, but wow, I guess some women are really desperate… I was baffled. He did get Life

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 25th, 2010
11:50 am

Leggs ^5 on that 11:44….tell the truth and shame the devil.

every hero gotta have some theme music

Princess I know you’ve got a favorite cd or two that when you play them it’s like you turn into another person. That line actually came from that movie I’m gonna get you sucka but I remember one night right before I put on this “show” for my now ex I put on Carl Thomas and whispered that in his ear.

Melo

March 25th, 2010
11:51 am

I was like in cali we could hit the beach grab some mexican and head back to the room…with no resistance

@Rell..??

so Rell,if a Cali guy or chic says,”Atlanta or GA women are country!” is that a euphamism for,”they dont open their leggs on the fly!??

jus asking for some clarification,thats all! :-)

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
11:54 am

@melo…my time is cali was soooooooo different then atlanta…it was not about the leg open – they were just down to have fun period….there convo was fun and light..they would come to you or meet up instead of hours on the phone…feel me…it was like an easy flow toward a goal…its a lil more rigid here

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
11:55 am

Living Life – I’m not surprised. Dudes in prison & even on death row have girlfriends & get engaged! Usually, though, I think it’s beyond a case of not having standards. There’s some issue with the woman herself, low self-esteem, prior abuse, etc.

That’s why when I hear able-bodied, working, at least decent-looking men talk about how they can’t meet a decent woman, I have a hard time believing it. I encourage them to look in the mirror at self.

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 25th, 2010
11:55 am

what you know about that Carl? Talkin’ ’bout slaying dragons and stuff…

DreamsMat when I’m on…I’m on and I go hard ;) That Carl Thomas is the shyt…

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
11:56 am

Rell You’re right about that Cali dating. Hit the Santa Monica pier, grab some ice cream. Come over and watch a movie was acceptable too. lol

Lady J-Lioness

March 25th, 2010
11:57 am

@Kimmie the show Prison Wives on ID is off the chain!!! The women are serious about their boo locked up!!!! I don’t do jail! I have a CJ BS degree and refuse to even entertain working with criminals directly….yep laughing now like why did I get that degree! lol That show is funny….me writing someone in jail…never! going to see them nope….lol

lurker

March 25th, 2010
11:57 am

SexyLeggs…funny you should say that. He’s already been in here asking “how you are you” and when he introduced me in the first client meeting he said “Mrs…” when I turned to look at him he changed with “ooooh Ms….” so dang predictable. Just ask what you want to know.

Dreams – You ain’t never lied. Folks were hanging out the other night. LOL…Bet half can’t remember what happened.

Melo

March 25th, 2010
11:58 am

I guess some women are really desperate… I was baffled. He did get Life

@Living Life??

I guess u didnt watch Larry King last nite?

That scenario aint even as bad as those women who get married to folks already on death row or in jail for lyfe!

U gotta be wired in some croocked way really or cobwebs may have caused a bad infection and deterioration to/of the brain cells!

:lol:

lurker

March 25th, 2010
11:59 am

“how young are you” is what that should have read

Too, I ain’t wearing a ring so why the “mrs” stunt?

lurker

March 25th, 2010
12:00 pm

Dreams – Come over and watch a movie was acceptable too

But they don’t know you, right?

lurker

March 25th, 2010
12:00 pm

Dreams – you could have been jack the rippa

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 25th, 2010
12:02 pm

I ain’t wearing a ring so why the “mrs” stunt?

He’s trying you and trying to figure you out whilst “attempting” to keep his ego intact. You have the upper hand right now :)

lurker

March 25th, 2010
12:03 pm

Does anyone here use an aircard (internet)

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
12:03 pm

Lady J – Imma check that show out. Sounds very interesting!

Naw, a criminal is not attractive at all to me.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
12:03 pm

Dreams M

Just give me the bottle ;)

Sassy

Oh yes, i definately have a couple of CD’s set aside for “the show out”
Matter of fact i have a couple of cd’s i can’t even listen too outside of the “boom boom room” ;)

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
12:03 pm

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪La la la la la, la la la la la…

lurker

March 25th, 2010
12:04 pm

Sassy, dudes like that to me are so not bright. I all about straight. Ask what you want to know. Skirting won’t change the answer. I can respect you better being upfront.

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
12:04 pm

if a Cali guy or chic says,”Atlanta or GA women are country!” is that a euphamism for,”they dont open their leggs on the fly!??

Uh melo?

I’m a Cali girl and I say GA folks are country and no it doesn’t mean THAT! *shakes fist at you*

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
12:06 pm

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
Oh baby this is gonna be what you want it to be
I just love you, I just love you, oh can`t you see
That you’re the finest I’ve seen in all my life
You bring me joy

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 25th, 2010
12:07 pm

Kimmie this one lady became a penpal then married the dude…..really…..smh….the show is insightful….on the flip side women prisoners don’t get the same loyality from men that are free…go figure!

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
12:07 pm

lurker – Because you do have standards, and don’t stroke his ego, he’ll hang around forever, until one of you tranfers or you give in.

There is this guy who has been interested in me for about 10 years now. He’s the biggest player ever. And there are always women hanging off his every word. Because I never give into that, he’s always hitting me up and checking in. He even flew to New England to visit me when I lived there (he lives in DC).

If I gave him some, he’d probably go away finally. :lol:

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 25th, 2010
12:08 pm

raiq I was jamming to anita yesterday during the commute home……..Noone in the world loves me the way you do! great song!

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
12:09 pm

on the flip side women prisoners don’t get the same loyality from men that are free…go figure!

Lady J – Of course! Some can’t be loyal to a long-distance relationship with a free woman, much less a prisoner!lol.

lurker

March 25th, 2010
12:10 pm

Because you do have standards, and don’t stroke his ego, he’ll hang around forever, until one of you tranfers or you give in

Isn’t “forever” a long time…lol

If I gave him some, he’d probably go away finally

At this point in that situation, that’s probably what it’s come down to…waiting it out..so he thinks. Long haul.

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 25th, 2010
12:11 pm

kimmie lmbao!

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
12:11 pm

Women marrying cons and ex-cons is old news. That has been going on since way back when.

Some of those women just like the badboy rough necks. They get off on it. And then some women believe them when they say “it wasn’t me”.

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
12:12 pm

@lurker ~ it would have been so much better if you hadn’t turned to look at him. Girl, you might want to get some skin-so-soft and spray it around your office….it keeps all the bugs away!!

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 25th, 2010
12:12 pm

Skirting won’t change the answer. I can respect you better being upfront.

lurker Keep in mind men don’t like rejection and you’ve already done that on several levels. As I’ve said he’s used to having women fawn over him and that’s made him spoiled as well as lazy and ill equipped to step to you like a man about his bidness.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
12:13 pm

If I gave him some, he’d probably go away finally

Yep in lightning speed. LOL

Melo

March 25th, 2010
12:13 pm

lurker??

what industry is that u work in where u have to call each other by titles of mrs or ms, instead of susan,joe,beccky or natalie,whether one’smarried or not,dont matter??

@Ared??

I know u special and u dont roll like that.Some NYers call GAnts country too…but they also mean different and no harm.

Country is good tho..im country too with a dash of city sprinkled in.

I like my cow balls,tongue,offalls(u know the tripe etc with cow dung mixed in)pumkin,chitlin,collards and okra and red pepper! :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
12:16 pm

melo – Don’t be asking folks who didn’t really live there or were stuck on some army base how Cali folks roll! Go to the person who put in some real time there! :lol:

And you’re right…there is nothing wrong with being country. It just is what it is!

Melo

March 25th, 2010
12:18 pm

If I gave him some, he’d probably go away finally

@Ared?

this happened to me. Good thing tho,we were cool buddies but i alwaysz wanted to hit but somehow,she had me in some mouf lock..i clnt utter the words…..untill i finally hit…

only one time!

still good friends but what a damb squid! :lol:

If i can have those angst and “wish I cld hit etc moments” back I wld. :lol:

Mystery is a biaatch!

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
12:19 pm

But they don’t know you, right?
lurker Initially only through phone conversation. Cali isn’t like the Bible Belt (for better or worse, however you define it). It’s more acceptable to be open and impulsive (again for better or worse).

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
12:22 pm

Mystery is a biaatch!

:lol: Yes, I am fully aware that what ever these guys are doing to me with their imaginations is probably much better than they’d ever get from me in real life. LOL!!!

lurker

March 25th, 2010
12:22 pm

Leggs it keeps all the bugs away!!
LOL

Sassy Men don’t ever like rejection. Like my mama said, you can ig a person and speak volumes all without saying a word. We have to work together so, I see it’s up to me to set the tone of business only.

Melo No handle/title required. That’s how he addresses me….or usually just by my last name. That particular time was only him trying to find out my status. Mrs nor Ms was necessary.

lurker

March 25th, 2010
12:23 pm

Alright Dreams (your 12:19). I’m trusting you ain’t Jack da Rippa…lol

lurker

March 25th, 2010
12:24 pm

“wasn’t necessary” is what I meant

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 25th, 2010
12:26 pm

I see it’s up to me to set the tone of business only.

Exactly…

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
12:30 pm

I’m trusting you ain’t Jack da Rippa
lurker Naw I’m cool. Why, were you thinking of coming over? ;-)

Melo

March 25th, 2010
12:31 pm

Mrs nor Ms was necessary

@Lurker??

next time,just stop that bullshytt in a meeting, with folks around, and say,”Just call me Natallie,sir” and u be str8 forever with that sucker!

Pple resepct u when u shoot str8..they may hate u at first but u be aaaight.

He will respect u much more after that!

lurker

March 25th, 2010
12:33 pm

Dreams – Naw I’m cool. Why, were you thinking of coming over?

Can’t do it Cali style. We’d have to do coffee or something in the middle of somewhere, on neutral territory….lol

Melo – Now that I can agree with.

Randy Terrell (aka Kiss Me I'm Irish)

March 25th, 2010
12:34 pm

Sticky subject because it is so subjective. People very seldom recognize themselves when it comes to stereotypes and personalities. I haven’t read the responses but bet most if not all claim to be flexible and also bet by other people’s standards, maybe not as much. It is too random and not really well defined.

I’m flexible when dating but there is a hazard in the road regarding flexibility…because if there are not some boundaries established also, then when you finally push back down the road at some point where the other steps over some imaginary line you have drawn in your mind then the other person is in shock and suddenly saying “Who is this person I am with”. My point is flexible with boundaries is good, flexible to the point of always giving in will come back to haunt you. I definitely have a few of those t-shirts.

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
12:34 pm

My marido called me 45 minutes ago saying he is going to be in my area and asked if I wanted to do lunch with him. I am about to starve. He knows I am a diabetic. Anybody got an extra sammich laying around they don’t want?

kimmie and Leggs, whatchall eating?

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 25th, 2010
12:35 pm

raqi I am eating sloppy joe! lol

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
12:37 pm

LadyJ, can I get half? I don’t even have a granola bar today. I think someone has been going in my desk helping me eat them.

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 25th, 2010
12:38 pm

yes indeed! lol enjoy your lunch date honey!

mytw♥cents

March 25th, 2010
12:39 pm

We be strokin’! Keeps playin in my head since I call myself tryna catch up. . . Anyhoo, I find it interesting how we have elevated certain behaviors to something folks have to really, really deserve. Meaning a lot of what most will consider to be ego stroking is probably just being a cordial, secure adult who isn’t averse to exchanging pleasantries. Why is it so hard for some to compliment or congratulate next person? This is an aspect of my personality that others seem to find favorable and I’m stuck. Thinkin. Is it really that rare to be a positive person, happy to uplift others?

And if you’re with someone it should definitely be part of the fabric of your relationship. Cuz who wants to be with someone with no redeeming or a lack of admirable qualities? And who wants to be pulling out all the treats in their bag of tricks for somebody they don’t think is the shuga honey iced tea? Then again I also think some folks just don’t want their mate to feel they have the upperhand & get the big head so they hush. Super sad.

P.S.That Carl Thomas cd is de debil!

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
12:40 pm

Imma be dead by the time he gets here. LOL

I need to start eating bigger breakfasts. A piece of wheat toast and a boiled egg don’t last long.

mytw♥cents

March 25th, 2010
12:43 pm

We be strokin’!  Keeps playin in my head since I call myself tryna catch up. . . Anyhoo, I find it interesting how we have elevated certain behaviors to something folks have to really, really deserve.  Meaning a lot of what most will consider to be ego stroking is probably just being a cordial, secure adult who isn’t averse to exchanging pleasantries. Why is it so hard for some to compliment or congratulate next person?  This is an aspect of my personality that others seem to find favorable and I’m stuck. Thinkin.  Is it really that rare to be a positive person, happy to uplift others? 

And if you’re with someone it should definitely be part of the fabric of your relationship.   Cuz who wants to be with someone with no redeeming or a lack of admirable qualities?  And who wants to be pulling out all the treats in their bag of tricks for somebody they don’t think is the shuga honey iced tea?  Then again I also think some folks just don’t want their mate to feel they have the upperhand & get the big head so they hush.  Super sad.

P.S.That Carl Thomas cd is de debil!

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
12:45 pm

Can’t do it Cali style. We’d have to do coffee or something in the middle of somewhere, on neutral territory….lol

Lurker – don’t listen to them. There are some VERY high maintence women there that don’t roll like that either. But I will say Cali women are usually pretty laid back tho.

Besides, San Diego, LA and Bay area styles are VERY different!

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 25th, 2010
12:47 pm

I wanna visit San Diego it looks beautiful!

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
12:47 pm

(riiiiiinnng): Meet me down stairs in 10 minutes.

He bet be glad I am flexible. My daddy told me when a boy comes a calling he spose to come in the house and get you. And he betta buy me a piece of cheesecake (do restaurants sell lowfat cheesecake) for making me wait.

Melo

March 25th, 2010
12:49 pm

Imma be dead by the time he gets here. LOL

@Raqi

im having to buy lunch again today coz Queen didnt prep some for me and leave it on the kitchen counter.Thats 2 days in a row!

She slipping! coz thats detrimental to our financial health.

If some sugar mama over here gets to treat me, its her fault!

And there plenty monied sugar mamas around here! :lol:

lurker

March 25th, 2010
12:49 pm

Amazon – Yes, I know there are all kinds everywhere. Loose women are not exclusive to Cali neither are frigid to Atlanta.

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
12:50 pm

Raqi – I had a turkey sandwich & some carrot sticks & red bell pepper sticks. I’ve been bringing my lunch for 2 weeks now & saving a lot of money!

Trying to save calories too, but these folks keep bringing in sweets everyday. My willpower has been pretty good tho, if I get some, it’s just a taste.

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
12:51 pm

im having to buy lunch again today coz Queen didnt prep some for me and leave it on the kitchen counter.Thats 2 days in a row!

melo – Are your arms or hands broken? :lol:

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
12:52 pm

I’ve been all over Southern Cal, but I really want to go to Frisco & wine country!

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 25th, 2010
12:56 pm

yep wine country!

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
12:58 pm

army base

- first i was in the marines…second i was in cali from 90-95…third what i speak is true from my experience…i meet some high maint chicks out there…but they were usually fugazi with it tho….but i bet if someone asked you to break down atlanta you could based on your short time here..right?

Sassy Me...Sun kissed :-)

March 25th, 2010
12:59 pm

but I really want to go to Frisco & wine country!

Me too…it looks really pretty over there. I saw a show on the travel channel about that same thing…it combined a wine tasting and train ride through wine country.

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
1:01 pm

Wine country (Napa) is indeed beautiful.Definitely make the trip. It’s a few hours from San Francisco but wonderful. I once attended a wedding in Napa…talk about romantic!!!

Melo

March 25th, 2010
1:03 pm

melo – Are your arms or hands broken?

@Ared??

somehow my lunch tastes better(and i aint lying) if and when she preps it.

It may have to do with the way she does it or..actually,its the thoght that wraps around the lunch(in ma head) to make it so tasteful and sweet like that!

dont worry if u dont understand,its a condition thats afflicts males and is called marriageotitis!! :lol: :lol:

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
1:04 pm

“…but bet most if not all claim to be flexible and also bet by other people’s standards, maybe not as much.

I’m flexible when dating but there is a hazard in the road regarding flexibility…” That’s funny, because you put yourself right there with “most.”

@Raqi ~ I’m eating right now…rice w/yum yum sauce, collards, a few shrimp and a bbq chicken wing and water. Yeah, cleaned out fridge last night.

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 25th, 2010
1:05 pm

melo is spoil! too cute! lol

mytw♥cents

March 25th, 2010
1:06 pm

MELO Apparently Queen is unconcerned about another woman tinkering with her treasure. Or maybe that’s her evil plan!

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
1:07 pm

Amred – That sounds incredible! I always said I wanted to elope to Italy, but if we can’t swing it, Napa can be Plan B!

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
1:07 pm

dont worry if u dont understand,its a condition thats afflicts males and is called marriageotitis!!

- yea from a mans point of view..for your lady to take time to fix your lunch it does taste better…i remember those days….whats funny now that i have run the life cycle of relationships…i find it hard talking to some of these dreamy chicks on relationships…but what i did pick up is the ability to spot a clingon…or a chick with low self esteem

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
1:08 pm

@Raqi ~ sorry, you probably passed out waiting on me!

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
1:08 pm

somehow my lunch tastes better(and i aint lying) if and when she preps it.

melo – I do understand this actually. So there. :P

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
1:10 pm

That’s sweet, Melo!

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 25th, 2010
1:14 pm

http://blogs.ajc.com/the-buzz/2010/03/25/is-beyonce-pregnant/?cxntlid=thbz_hm

awwww too cute and congrats to bey and jay!!!!!!

Gary with a Tea had me rolling this morning on the RSMS regarding Bey going to see her new lil brother…..lol too funny!

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
1:18 pm

Not deep, just stupid:

What do you call a male ladybug?

Everyone has an eardrum, but what about the other instruments?

How do you draw a blank?

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
1:19 pm

Lady J

that rumor has been swirling on and off for a looooooooong time, i’m not sure i’m going to buy it just yet since not to long ago Ms. B said something to the effect of not ready to lose her shape or something.

Also you will never guess what throwback was on the radio during my lunch break

lurker

March 25th, 2010
1:20 pm

i hope the baby carries her genes…seriously

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
1:21 pm

Beyonce and Jay just started claiming their marriage. Their kid will probably be starting kindergarten by the time they report they’re pregnant. :lol:

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru at McDs here in England only has maybe 14 teeth))

March 25th, 2010
1:22 pm

@ Leggs

Those who claim to be flexible really get on the nerves of those of us who really are…no wait, substitute “know everything” for “be flexible” and “do” for “are”…sorry ;-)

lurker

March 25th, 2010
1:22 pm

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 25th, 2010
1:23 pm

cool PK but if it is how cute and on time! IMO

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 25th, 2010
1:24 pm

ARed agreed!

Randy breakdown what you are saying pls sir….

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 25th, 2010
1:26 pm

Thanks, ARed for the tip on making the changes to my FaceBook settings. I was getting tired of FB invading my life a little too often. I love social networking. I just have no desire to live my *whole* life on/through it.

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 25th, 2010
1:27 pm

ok PK and mothers calm me down…..lil lady made two st8 100 on spelling tests….today was a test with an increase of words 13 vs….maybe 9 or ten…..they had the test today bc daddy and me day is tomorrow……tell me to calm down bc I didn’t make 100 on everything and lil lady will miss stuff too……I just called up to the school asking since i won’t be getting her today……my smile went like OK str8 face……lol woooosah!

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
1:27 pm

He’s poking fun at me.

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 25th, 2010
1:28 pm

cool leggs…lol

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
1:29 pm

That is wonderful, LadyJ…they’re be coming fast and furious before you know it.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
1:29 pm

Lady j i’m not saying i don’t want it to be true but i’ma wait til i see summin LOL

Oh and the song was Comforter by Shai, i was like oh my goodness

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
1:29 pm

Thanks, ARed for the tip on making the changes to my FaceBook settings.

SCool – You are quite welcome. I’m pretty savvy at figuring out all the settings and locking ish down. Most of my friends come to me with questions. :lol:

No notifications come to my phone after a certian hour either. That’s another way to keep yourself “unplugged.”

DJ Demi

March 25th, 2010
1:31 pm

with heavy hardcore rap bass playing in the background

MIC CHECK 1-2
MIC CHECK 1-2

OH!!!

MIC CHECK 1-2
MIC CHECK 1-2

Demi is on the MIC so all H-E-L-L is ’bout to LOOSE!!! OH!!

heavy record scratching

Sticky, icky, icky, icky
Sticky, icky, icky, icky

heavy record scratching

Sticky, icky, icky, icky
Sticky, icky, icky, icky

ALL H-E-L-L IS ‘BOUT TO BREAK LOOSE..OH!!!!</b.

heavy hardcore rap bass playing in the background…while Demi is cutting loose on the turn table MIA style

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 25th, 2010
1:31 pm

I had the SMS setting set up right. I just couldn’t figure out the rest of it.

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
1:32 pm

@RandyT ~ for the record, I haven’t commented on whether I’m flexible or not. :wink:

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 25th, 2010
1:32 pm

ok leggs I will get over myself!

I feel ya PK on of Shai songs brings back memories of my high school sweetheart

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
1:32 pm

I just called up to the school asking since i won’t be getting her today……

Lady J, wooooosahhhhh bring it down a thousand Honey LOL

But seriously i feel ya, it is exciting when they start accomplishing. I am so ready for this school year to be done myself. I chose not to exercise my ‘perk’ of requesting lil mama’s teacher and the one we ended up with has no “parent interaction skills” whatsoever, she is just blaaaaaaah, but she is a decent teacher.

DJ Demi

March 25th, 2010
1:34 pm

CHECK ME OUT…CHECK ME OUT…CHECK ME OUT

I wanna rock right now
I’m Rob Base and I came to get down
I’m not internationally known
But I’m known to rock the microphone
Because I get stoopid, I mean outrageous
Stay away from me if you’re contagious
‘Cause I’m the winner, no, I’m not the loser
To be an M.C. is what I choose ‘a
Ladies love me, girls adore me
I mean even the ones who never saw me
Like the way that I rhyme at a show
The reason why, man, I don’t know
So let’s go, ’cause

It takes two to make a thing go right
It takes two to make it outta sight
Hit it

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
1:34 pm

DJ Demi is in da house!!!

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
1:36 pm

Now doing the rob base dance at my desk :lol:

Hopeless Romantic

March 25th, 2010
1:36 pm

Although I havent posted in a while, I have been lurking (mostly afterhours). First- Raqi, so appreciate your honesty and wisdom.
In terms of flexibility, I’ve been told that I often seem unapproachable. I’m working on reducing my expectations (but not my standards) and just have fun.

Lady J

March 25th, 2010
1:38 pm

PK her teacher didn’t even come to the phone her assistant updated me too funny! I just want her to be beter than me and it starts early with study skills discipline……….ok I am calm, cool, collected….I texed her dad he didn’t respond either….her nana said she’s proud of her bc it was more words short time frame and she only missed two……ok cool! but i don’t want her to get comfy….

DJ Demi

March 25th, 2010
1:39 pm

At RandyT:

Yes I can see her
Cause every girl in here wanna be her
Oh shes a diva
I feel the same and I wanna meet her

They say she low down
Its just a rumor and I don’t believe em
They say she needs to slow down
The baddest thing around town

She’s nothing like a girl you’ve ever seen before
Nothing you can compare to your neighborhood *****
I’m tryna find the words to describe this girl without being disrespectful….

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
1:39 pm

There are some VERY high maintence women there that don’t roll like that either.
This crowd definitely exists in LA. You have to be careful though because there are lots of fakers (men and women). Honestly, most people didn’t have the funds to do the real high maintainence stuff in LA. LA high maintaninence is on another level.

Loose women are not exclusive to Cali neither are frigid to Atlanta.
lurker Now you know I didn’t say Cali were women were loose, or that Atlanta women were frigid. lol

On the topic of Cali endeavors, there are some great things to do in Cali. Wine country is great. So, are the cliffs overlooking the ocean in Santa Barbara. Sitting in a natural hot spring in the mountains at night, overlooking the valley. A desert sunset/sunrise. It’s the creative dater’s paradise.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru at McDs here in England only has maybe 14 teeth))

March 25th, 2010
1:39 pm

@ lady J

See Leggs 1:27.

@ Leggs

you were poking me with a stick too ;-)

Lady J

March 25th, 2010
1:39 pm

Demi I love that song! Classic!

PK my mama just texted me saying don’t be crazy like her sister that was overbearing on her kids……lol

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
1:40 pm

Lady J don’t push too hard too early or she will resent school, play off of her excitement about learning new things and build on it.

SlimCutty

March 25th, 2010
1:42 pm

Way to wake thangs up today….seems like the day is creeping by.

Slim now snatching the mic from DJ DemDem

My names Slim
I’m real thin
Got a fatty catty
That you wish u were in

Some say i’m funny
Some say i’m nice
I prefer Ms Nicety
And u betta say it right

Lady J

March 25th, 2010
1:42 pm

PK her dad just asked which words did she missed I told him not sure but just to give her a big hug a high 5 and review the words she missed! Ok it is over! Thanks crew!

Lady J

March 25th, 2010
1:43 pm

PK I am soooo happy I don’t pick her up today gives me more time to practice disappointment and excitement all in one…Her dad will handle it fine! thanks!

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru at McDs here in England only has maybe 14 teeth))

March 25th, 2010
1:43 pm

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
1:44 pm

@LadyJ ~ to the contrary, don’t get over yourself! Meaning she’ll be growing up so fast you’ll have many 100’s to celebrate!! Kudos!

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
1:46 pm

Exactly, Princessnik!!! Lil leggs received her first award outside of school yesterday.

Lady J-I love music, any type of music

March 25th, 2010
1:46 pm

awwwwww thanks leggs!!!!! mother to mother!

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
1:47 pm

Lady J

You are very Lucky that her dad is so supportive. Some of these money hungry “baby-mamma’s” have dudes thinking its just about the money. Yes, i want you to help bear the financial responsibility of the child you helped create. HOWEVER, spending time with the child and being around and available to the child is just as important and should be equally balanced. Be willing to explain to the child that you didn’t come around because of your own idiocy not because you were not allowed or not welcomed.

ut oh didn’t mean to get up on the soap box today :oops:

Lady J-I love music, any type of music

March 25th, 2010
1:47 pm

thanks superstar!

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
1:48 pm

@PrincessNik and LadyJ..i had to chime in when i heard you mention Shai…wow! that really brings back memories. remember that song they had that went “And if I ever fall in love again, I will be sure that the lady is a friend…” That’s all the lyrics I can get out right now…lol

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
1:48 pm

Oh and lady J to your enhanced moniker

just as long as its good music

i love i love i love

Whew i love me some O’jays

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
1:49 pm

@RandyT ~ indeed and that’s why I laughed at that gibberish.

DJ Demi

March 25th, 2010
1:50 pm

Legg, Lady J, SExy Cool…SUP

“Heyyyy! Heyy-ayyaahhyy”

You know what time, boo-yaow
I know it’s time for you
So grab one by the hand youknowhatI’msayin
And uhh, throw up that finger
Ay yo yo yo throw y’all fingers up!
Thug style baby, Thug style y’know?

Tell me baby are you lonely? Don’t wanna rush ya
I can help ya if ya only, let me touch ya
If I’m wrong love tell me, cause I get caught up
and the life I live is Hell see, I never thought I’d see
the day when I would calm down, you ain’t heard
I’ve been known to clown and Get Around, that’s my word
See you walkin and you lookin good, yes indeed
Got a body like a sex fiend, you’re killin me
witcha attitude to match right, don’t be phony
cause I hate when you act like, you don’t know me
I’ve be stressin in the spotlight, I want the fame
but the industry’s a lot like, a crap game
Ain’t no time for commitment, I gotta go
Can’t be wit you every minute miss, another show
And even though I’m known for my one night stand
I wanna be an honest man, but temptations go…

Lady J-I love music, any type of music

March 25th, 2010
1:50 pm

Superstar I know and I say this often I picked a cool baby daddy!!!!!!!!! He wanted a child more than a wife any day of the week and he has AALWAYS been there for his child and supports me as her mother! That is priceless! *tear*

He reviewed with her all week….His home is different from mine so I am def not going there with him that bc she is with him she missed two words….I truly pick my battles

Melo

March 25th, 2010
1:50 pm

I have been lurking (mostly afterhours). First- Raqi, so appreciate your honesty and wisdom.

@Hopeless Romantic??!!

hold up now,if some of u are reading on the sly in the evening hrs,we might have to start charging for this thang!

Do we have a membership register of all active MIA bloggers anyway coz once we reach a deal with ajc about splitting the mula,thats when we gon start have some inactive blog peeps coming outa the woodwork,claiming some they dont deserve.

we need a handle on this thang….no wonder why ajc aint going outta bizzness(coz of MIA)..all other newspapers are GOING UNDER

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
1:50 pm

KB oh yes i remember that song very well i remember having the cassette single that came in the lil slip on cardboard cover, do you remember those LOL

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
1:50 pm

@LadyJ ~ that’s the best line in the song to me

I’m so happy to be in complete harmony, I love you! I love music….

Melo

March 25th, 2010
1:53 pm

Or maybe that’s her evil plan!

@Mytwo??

no evil plan,she smitten that woman! :lol:

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
1:53 pm

@PrincessNik…i remember the singles in the cardboard covers!! lol. i still have some at the house. i am not embarassed to say that i even have New Kids on the Block “Please Don’t Go Girl” single…ha, ha!! i also have MC Lyte “Cha, Cha, Cha” LOL what you know about that??:)

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

March 25th, 2010
1:53 pm

yep kb

leggs and superstar too funny!

lurker

March 25th, 2010
1:54 pm

Dreams – lurker Now you know I didn’t say Cali were women were loose, or that Atlanta women were frigid. lol

Now you know I wasn’t taking about you…you don’t read that way. I think someone else said before you piggybacked their post…naaah, not you. Neva!

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
1:56 pm

spending time with the child and being around and available to the child is just as important and should be equally balanced.
Any dude who doesn’t understand this is really missing out on life. While the children undoubtedly benefit from having dad in their lives, so do the fathers. I can’t express in words how much richer my life is because my children are a genuine part of it. No feeling like the raw excitement they have when you walk in the door. No matter what kind of day I’ve had, those smiles and hugs manage make up for it. I’m a better man because of my kids, and my hope is that they will be better because of it.

mytw♥cents

March 25th, 2010
1:56 pm

You mean my very own Miami Booty Bass Blaster DJ DEMI is back?!?!

The apple of my eye?

The Trick Daddy to my Trina?

The Polynesian to my nuggets?

The Special Sauce on any girl’s Big Mac?

How’s your world, DEMIGOD?

DJ Demi

March 25th, 2010
1:56 pm

SlimCutty…GUUUUURL…now For Real coming for yo B-hind with his legendary camera phone, LOL

Run Forest Run Forest…Run!!!

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
1:56 pm

KB, lets not get started i even still have the plastic cover full cassette tapes in a LA Gear shoe box in the top of the closet at my mom’s house :shock:

Now i know LaGear brings back memories all them dang shoelaces for one shoe

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
1:57 pm

**** BREAKING NEWS****

ESPN is reporting that Paul Hewitt has turned down an offer from St. Johns to become its basketball coach.

Thought some of you sport fans may want to know this!

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 25th, 2010
1:57 pm

Demi – mad luv, dude!!!

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
1:59 pm

The Special Sauce on any girl’s Big Mac?

Oh My

kimmie

March 25th, 2010
2:00 pm

Leggs – He said he was going to stay at Tech, but I was not going to believe it till I saw it. He was being a little coy about it.

But who cares about those bees anyway!LOL!!

Go Dawgs!

lurker

March 25th, 2010
2:01 pm

OMG, don’t raise the dead…LA Gear. That was a “Cali” shoe. I NEVER had or desired a pair.

DJ Demi

March 25th, 2010
2:01 pm

mytw♥cents…my lyfe? How about:

3,6,9 damn she fine move it to you sing it to me one mo time
Get low, Get low [6x]
To the window, to the wall, (to the wall)
To the sweat drip down my balls (my balls)
To all these bishes crawl (crawl)
To all skit skit mutha mutha all skit skit got dayum (Got dam)
To all skit skit mutha mutha all skit skit got dayum (Got dam)

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
2:02 pm

“…move it to you sing it to me one mo time” — Did not know that’s what he was singing.

Melo

March 25th, 2010
2:02 pm

ESPN is reporting that Paul Hewitt has turned down an offer from St. Johns

@Leggs??

still hating him for talking to them in the first place!

Means dude will walk anytime if GA tech dont pay him more of if smeone comes up with the right……

they need to bench him..GA tech made him to be who is is now….I have folowed him since he came here

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:03 pm

@ lurker

LOL, i look back now like really?! i wore those?! double shoestrings, double socks?! lemme hide that photo album LMBO

DJ Demi

March 25th, 2010
2:06 pm

LaGear…Mayyyynnnne…I swear every crackhead in Miami owned a beeping pair!!! fuggas had no clothes or a decent place to sleep…but they own..err, stole a pair of LAGears thought, LOL!!!

Lady J-Sunshine

March 25th, 2010
2:07 pm

PK Tag Team back again!!!!!!!! lol

SlimCutty

March 25th, 2010
2:08 pm

Let’s hit the hotel
get a suite
an order somethin to eat
tell me things about you
I’ll tell you things about me
then out the blue I’ll be carressin you
undressin you
You start doin all sh!t you said you’d never do
lustin bustin all out of my boxer drawers
fingers dripping slippin in an out in an out
constantly tellin me the things you don’t do
Yet you do it like a pro and think I don’t know
but I do that’s why I’m here wit you and you know this
slip on the latex
and dive in
SWISH!

Lady J-Sunshine

March 25th, 2010
2:08 pm

DreamsM PRICELESS!

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:08 pm

Lady J you are a mess!

DJ Demi

March 25th, 2010
2:09 pm

Leggs…YingYang Twins knew how to screw up the English lang…

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
2:10 pm

Lady – You Text your mom and your daughters G-Ma.. Thats wrong on so many levels..

The Shai song was Oh Ah

Country folk are from everywhere especially in Cali, NY and OMG Detroit.. Simply because all your folks came from the south.. Dummys.. Ya’ll that is soo insulting to say someone is country and because I grew up on both coasts I can appreciate the beauty of both instead of being a condescending arsehole

Oh yeah Whaddup Folk..

Lady J-Sunshine

March 25th, 2010
2:10 pm

those COLOR will blind ya!!!1 I had BKs too along with my LA Gears that was 6th 7th grade! LoL

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
2:10 pm

@DJ Demi ~ that was a nice way of putting it. You could have gone down an entirely different path!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
2:12 pm

Slim – And that 8 Ball is……

Lady J-Sunshine

March 25th, 2010
2:12 pm

DK my mom is her nana what are you talking about and I informed her dad….huh…….

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
2:13 pm

not the LA gear!!! those were the joint! LOL o.k. i’m showing my age now.:) that is so cool that you still have one of those shoe boxes. i know my mom got rid of all my stuff…new edition posters, MJ and Prince posters. man, i miss that time! i had such a ball in junior high.:)

Lady J-Sunshine

March 25th, 2010
2:13 pm

My mom text me back to calm down what is G-Ma????

lurker

March 25th, 2010
2:14 pm

Lady J – those COLOR will blind ya!!!

Think that was part of the turn off for me.

PrincessN

That’s one thing memory lane can’t hold for me…lol

Lady J-Sunshine

March 25th, 2010
2:14 pm

british knights yall black and white PK and KB I loved those shoes

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:14 pm

Country folk are from everywhere

yes there is quite a difference between being Southern and being plain ole kuntry!

I had some conversations with some people during my undergrad days (and i’m from a lil ole place myself) and i couldn’t understand nothing they were talkin about and they were “from the city”

SlimCutty

March 25th, 2010
2:14 pm

DK I have Slacker Radio on my BB and came across that song this past weekend. Definitely is a classic if you ask me. But I just wanna know:

Would you ki ll for me?

DJ Demi

March 25th, 2010
2:15 pm

Doo wah diddy diddy diddy dum diddyu doo
(Got dayum, it’s some honkies in this mutha mutha tonight
Doo wah diddy diddy dum diddy doo
Oh oh oh ah yeah
(You mutha came anyway, huh)

that’s all I can post, LOL

Lady J-Sunshine

March 25th, 2010
2:15 pm

I def didn’t text her dads mom if that’s whatyou are saying???? please explain….me and my mom are like sisters really and we stay with my mom so again what’s your point???

mytw♥cents

March 25th, 2010
2:16 pm

MELO Go ahead and give me sumthin to “Awww” about. What kinda stuff do you do that she’s probably tellin her ‘gerlz’ at work that shows you’re smitten too? Cuz your secret’s been out….

PRINCESS Hey, it was the highest praise I could come up with in a crunch…

DJ DEMI As long as ya still got a bit o’ skeet left, I know you’re o-tay! Missed ya.

LEGGS I hadn’t been able to translate it, either. lmao

SlimCutty

March 25th, 2010
2:16 pm

Even steal for me?

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:17 pm

KB the only reason i still have that shoebox is because its the pair of shoes we were “given” as part of our basketball camp one summer, the same summer i Quit playing basketball so the box didn’t get much wear and tear.

Britsh Knights omg LOL

Lady J, i didn’t know AA used terms like Nana :shock: :lol:

Tazzee - 50 days til Mrs.

March 25th, 2010
2:17 pm

Oh Em Gee!!! The Boss Mizz Ross is going to be at Chastain on June 4th!!! I was contemplating going to DC that evening but I might have to change plans.

I LOVE Diana Ross!!!

back to your regularly scheduled blogging

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
2:18 pm

LadyJ and PrincessNik–there was nothing like neon. i had neon everything! socks, headbands, bows, shoestrings. lol

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
2:18 pm

DM – Yeah ditto about your kids.. The dude makes me smile on site.. My son changed my life like no other event ever has. His birth was my rebirth. I always had purpose but when he was born I knew what had to be done and that I would give my life at any moment in exchange for him to live.. Never knew a love like that, my own piece of heaven on earth. The smile with the dimples make everything worthwhile

Lady J-Sunshine

March 25th, 2010
2:18 pm

DreamsM her dad is still texting saying he truly reviewed etc etc….made me think of you I told him he is fine and so is she……..lol told him to be excited

DJ Demi

March 25th, 2010
2:19 pm

Slim…Slacker Radio is the ish!!! I have 16gb Iphone…1gb for games and apps…and I have 14gb free…I have no reason to down load any new songs at this time, thanks to that app

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:19 pm

KB do you remember the hairbows made of neon shoestrings that used to be the bomb LOL

Lady J-Sunshine

March 25th, 2010
2:19 pm

PK don’t go there lmao we truly call her Nana! LOL

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
2:19 pm

@PrincessNik…oh, LOL!

Peacelover

March 25th, 2010
2:20 pm

There are two types of single. Single with the goal of being in a relationship and single with the intent of remaining that way. I date with the single with the intent on remaining single mindset. The result is, the dates are fun, stimulating,interesting, and pleasant. Freedom is valuable and who you give it up for must be more valuable than the freedom you no longer have. I have realized that a date should not have the feel of a job interview,it should be a enjoyable experience for both parties. Many times the woman brought a Director of Human Resources approach to the date and I didnt see her anymore. Then there has been times that the woman gave me the distinct impression that she didnt just want to be on a date with a man , but wanted to be the man as well. I didnt see her anymore either. Now that I date with the single and going to stay that way approach, the woman I date are more willing to be open to enjoying the date as it should be enjoyed,which is collectively, and the result is my dating calender is usually full.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
2:20 pm

Slim – Yeah if that ish belonged to me and yeah if my life was in danger too..

Lady J-Sunshine

March 25th, 2010
2:20 pm

anyway moving right along…..smh laughing!

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
2:21 pm

ESPN is reporting that Paul Hewitt has turned down an offer from St. Johns to become its basketball coach

Thank goodness. That St. John’s program is a sinking ship. No kid wants to go there. They’ve had good coaches.

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
2:21 pm

@PrincessNik..i was the neon queen! i had all the stretch headbands, earrings, socks, the whole nine. oh, and i also had the Wham! shirts….remember those?

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
2:22 pm

All this talk of other kicks got me a little queezy. Adidas was the only acceptable shoe…have never owned another pair.

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 25th, 2010
2:23 pm

Afternoon All!!

So whats poppin!

Lady J-Sunshine

March 25th, 2010
2:23 pm

DreamsM that is rigid! LMAO I never had Jordans and only 1 pr of air max I don’t really do sneakers……lol

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
2:24 pm

@mytwo ~ funny!

I remember when I hung out with this girl for a weekend. She was from Chicago and whenever she opened her mouth my ears would hurt. I had no idea there were truly kuntry, lazy speaking folk in Chicago. Since meeting her, I realize there’ a lot of kuntry up in Chicago!

Melo

March 25th, 2010
2:24 pm

What kinda stuff do you do that she’s probably tellin her ‘gerlz’ at work that shows you’re smitten too?

@MYtwo??

I ask myself that qstion too…i guess the taste of the pudding is in the(her) eating…those englishmen knew what they spoke! :lol:

I do have a dawggie(bullshyyt) side in me but reading the blog kinda keeps me in balance and appreciate what i got..so many want to be in this place I got,so many still striving!

That perception of ur GPS relative other folks is key!

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:25 pm

Dreams M

whats your age range

30-39
40-49

i dare not go higher :lol:

DJ Demi

March 25th, 2010
2:25 pm

To all the ladies in the place with style and grace
Allow me to lace these lyrical duches in your bushes
Who rock grooves and make moves with all the mommies
The back of the club, sippin Moet, is where you’ll find me
The back of the club, mackin h’es, my crew’s behind me
Mad question askin, blunt passin, music blastin
But I just can’t quit
Cause one of these honies DEMI gots ta creep with
Sleep with, keep the ep a secret why not
Why blow up my spot cause we both got hot
Now check it, I got more Mack than Craig and in the bed
Believe me sweety I got enough to feed the needy
No need to be greedy I got mad friends with Benz’s
C-notes by the layers, true fuggin players
Jump in the Rover and come over
tell your friends jump in the GS3, I got the chronic by the tree…

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
2:26 pm

@PrincessNik..30-39

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
2:27 pm

@Tazzee M Jankins ~ I love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love Ms. Dianna Ross. I admire her hutzpah in carving out her career. Sure she stepped on a lot of toes, but she didn’t care. She got what she wanted and she wasn’t lettin no one and nothing get in her way. She stayed true to her convictions and gave the finger to anyone who had problems with her!

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
2:28 pm

Lady J
Don’t sweat it. Sometimes kids just freeze up. For my son’s spelling bee, I tested him to exhaustion on all the words, and he knew every single one without thinking. Got to the spelling bee and froze up on the third word. lol I know he knew it, but he just froze. It happens.

mytw♥cents

March 25th, 2010
2:28 pm

DREAMS Do you keep re-buying the green on white stripe? Classics

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
2:29 pm

yes there is quite a difference between being Southern and being plain ole kuntry!

There aren’t a lot of country folk in L.A. But plenty of ghetto folk.

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
2:29 pm

@DreamsM ~ whenever I say “kicks” here at work, no one knows what I’m talking about….sheesh!

DJ Demi

March 25th, 2010
2:31 pm

DJ turn me up
Crank
it to the max
I got lots of gwalla
I be flowin stacks
Polo on my hat
Shoes and shirt dat match
I be so turned up, I be swaggin to the da max
If you gettin in, and you gettin doe
gone pop a bottle
dis right here yo song
purple by the zone you can smell it on my clothes
and a band up in my swisher by to take one to da dome
im gone in another zone i be ridin on dem inchez with the woofer goin strong
they like what is goin on i dont really know then i roll down all my windows then i crank dat ish all da way up

lurker

March 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

Where is Ceemelie?

Princess, 30 – 39

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
2:34 pm

Ared – There are plenty of country folk in LA.. The Bay and everwhere else in Cali.. Heck they still where cowboy boots out there and where jheri curls.. Come on with the jokes

SlimCutty

March 25th, 2010
2:35 pm

Infamous I don’t know what it is but reading that 2:20 got me a little turned on…love when you talk all bad & ish :mrgreen: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
2:35 pm

wear… that was wear

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:35 pm

Lurker

Ceemee had a lot of downtime yesterday due to an IT issue i would guess she is trying to catch up

Alvin

March 25th, 2010
2:36 pm

I would like to take the time out the thanks All Travis Porter’s Fan…the boys put in a lot of work this past year…I play they sign a good deal with the label…so my cousin (who is their co-manager) can pay me back all the Mutha F’n money he owe me in back rent!!!!

With that being said…THXS FOR ALL THE LOVE AND SUPPORT!!!!

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:37 pm

KB you lost me on the Wham shirt LOL

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
2:37 pm

that is rigid!
Lady J That’s just the way it was. And no one rocked Jordans. In Boston in the 80’s you kinda had to be a Jordan or Magic fan in secret. No way you were walking around with Jordans on your feet.

PrincessNIK
30-39, but closer to 30. lol Asking me those questions, I might think you tryna get at me. ;-)

mytwocents I have some green on white classics and some green on white shell toes; same two pair in blue on white. Also, have some Stan Smiths. Had some Forums until recently.

Leggs we always called ‘em kicks.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
2:37 pm

lurker

March 25th, 2010
2:37 pm

PN – gotcha…thanks

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 25th, 2010
2:38 pm

thanks dreamsM!

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:38 pm

Alvin

that was funny

i do love that go shawty song though when i’m at home and it comes on i can’t sit still LOL

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
2:38 pm

Ared – There are plenty of country folk in LA.. The Bay and everwhere else in Cali.. Heck they still where cowboy boots out there and where jheri curls.. Come on with the jokes

DK – The bay..yup full of country folk. L.A. not so much. Not saying there is none, but the ratio is indeed much smaller.

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 25th, 2010
2:38 pm

Hey DJ Demi!!! I see you trying to get it jumpin in here!!

Leggs – I noticed that ‘country’ accent with Chicago-ans while in college! I couldnt believe how they talked.. :shock:

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 25th, 2010
2:38 pm

oh I see Boston! New Edition!!!!! NOW SCREAMING!!!!!!!! YAY!!!!! LOL Cool beans DreamsM!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
2:40 pm

Slim – Well come here a let me wipe you down… As my Houstonians say… Already!

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:40 pm

Dreams M

lol Asking me those questions, I might think you tryna get at me.

;) just letting you know i see you over there getting your Issac from the Loveboat on behind the bar

now hit me again big daddy :)

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:43 pm

Infamous DK

Love them folk from Houston, had some friends from that area during undergrad we nicknamed them “The texas connection”

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
2:46 pm

There are plenty of country folk in LA.
There’s definitely country folk as you get out in the desert towns, which are actually still part of LA County. And when I see a cat with a curl in LA, I just keep pushing. Those cats can’t let go of the OG days, and you know they gotta be hard to still be proudly rocking a curl in 2010. lol

I noticed that ‘country’ accent with Chicago-ans while in college!
Mo Better be careful saying that. Southside cats resent that. They say those westsiders (like Crucial Conflict) are the country ones. lol How you doing today though?

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 25th, 2010
2:46 pm

Yeah…some of my fave folk are from Texas. ALLLLLready!!!

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March 25th, 2010
2:47 pm

Ared – I got to the long beach jazz fest every year and In Linen pants and a cool shirt, Im over dressed.. In the A I couldnt show up a chastain looking loose, naw baby A1 Pimp tight down here.. I lived there so I know the biz… LA is hella country

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 25th, 2010
2:48 pm

PK mail call ymail account….

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:48 pm

Leggs – I noticed that ‘country’ accent with Chicago-ans while in college! I couldnt believe how they talked..

Do yall remember the movie The Wood, my first roommate was from NC and she spoke just like ole’ boy in the movie.

She messed around and said “that won’t funny” as in That wasn’t funny i was like okkkkkkkk i am officially not the most country person on our floor!

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 25th, 2010
2:49 pm

DreamsM I had a curl in the late eighties I was so mad with my mom! LOL

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 25th, 2010
2:50 pm

Dreams – Im good man, thanks for asking. How are you? And since you are holding the bar down, can ya gurl get a drank? :wink:

PrincessNik – I love my Houston folk too! That place is like my second home!

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 25th, 2010
2:50 pm

superstar it took me forever to truly watch and understand the wood…..cute movie though….lol

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 25th, 2010
2:52 pm

PrincessNik – that ‘wont’ is a VA thing too!! Everybody I know (fam included) says “wont’ instead of ‘wasnt’……He WONT gon do it….She WONT in the store…WTH??? lol

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:52 pm

Sexy C i used to LOVE to hear them fellas say that. Or “i was throwed” never knew anything about chopped and screwed til i rode with them one night. Sometimes I call my homeboy just to hear him talk LOL, even went to visit about two summers ago, too dang hot to go back in the summer though i was gasping for air it was so hot.

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 25th, 2010
2:53 pm

Leggs love your 2:27pm I do too my mom be hatin’ on D Ross but she is alright with me! Love her~

“Did you think I would crumble, did you think I would breakdown and DIE—Ohh No -I will Survive” lol

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 25th, 2010
2:53 pm

What I find most interesting about *Black folk dialect* is that most often, we can understand most of what the other is saying and the vast majority of us seem to be almost bilingual in that we are capable of speaking proper English.

Although, I do tend to give the side eye to folk who consistently butcher the language even when they are trying to speak correctly and for those hopelessly unable to even come close to *talking proper.*

Ye’en got deez.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:53 pm

Mo, now that you mention it i noticed that too i just smh and smile

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
2:54 pm

Beautiful girls all over the world I could be chasin but their time I would be wasting cause they aint got nothin on you baby, Na na na nothing on you baby

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
2:55 pm

Ared – I got to the long beach jazz fest every year and In Linen pants and a cool shirt, Im over dressed..

DK – That’s hardly an example of country. Cali is very casual. Always has been.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:55 pm

Lady J

i’m have to check it out when i get home, forgot to add that addy to the bb and the powers that be won’t allow checking “outside” email.

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 25th, 2010
2:55 pm

PK – I agree. Some phrases are just superSEXY when uttered by men.

Examples:
“Fa show.”
“That’s what’s up.”

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
2:56 pm

There’s definitely country folk as you get out in the desert towns, which are actually still part of LA County.

Yeah..I’m talking about the city though. L.A. County is quite huge.

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 25th, 2010
2:56 pm

cool I think you would like! Ok PARTY PEOPLE!!!!

Peace out!

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March 25th, 2010
2:56 pm

Love me a DC Babe and a NC baby. I love the “Wont”…

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 25th, 2010
2:58 pm

PrincessNik – I tease my mother about that (she is from VA). I say “you get around ya folk and your accent comes back! Its all ‘he wont’, not ‘he wasnt’ “. LOL

Infamous – I love that song…at least the chorus!

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
2:59 pm

SexyC

lemme add

“where dey do dat at?”
“dat’s throwed off”

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
2:59 pm

PrincessNIK LOL at Isaac. I see you seeing me, and I’m coming to holla at you.

Mo It’s all good on this end. You know you good for a drink with me. What you having today?

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
3:00 pm

Let’s begin, what, where, why, or when
will all be explained like instructions to a game
See I’m not insane, in fact, I’m kind of rational
when I be asking you, “Who is more dramatical?”
This one or that one, the white one or the black one
pick the punk, and I’ll jump up to attack one
KRS-One is just the guy to lead a crew
right up to your face and dis you
Everyone saw me on the last album cover
Holding a pistol something far from a lover
Beside my brother, S-C-O-T-T
I just laughed, cause no one can defeat me
This is lecture number two, “My Philosophy”
Number one, was “Poetry” you know it’s me
This is my philosophy, many artists got to learn
I’m not flammable, I don’t burn
so please stop burnin, and learn to earn respect
’cause that’s just what KR collects
see, what do you expect when you rhyme like a soft punk
you walk down the street and get jumped
You got to have style, and learn to be original
and everybody’s gonna wanna diss you
like me, we stood up for the South Bronx
and every sucka mc had a response
You think we care? I know that they are on the tip
my posse from the Bronx is thick
and we’re real live, we walk correctly
a lot of suckas would like to forget me
but they can’t, cause like a champ
I have got a record of knocking out the frauds in a second
on the mic, I believe that you should get loose
I haven’t come to tell you I have juice
I just produce, create, innovate on a higher level
I’ll be back, but for now just seckle!

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
3:01 pm

Hot damn hot damn hot damn hot damn

Hot damn! Hot damn hoe here we go again

Suckers steal a beat when you know they can’t win

You stole the beat are you havin fun?

Now me and the Aud’s gonna show you how it’s done

You are what I label as a nerver plucker

You’re pluckin my nerves you MC sucka

I thought I oughta tell you, better yet warn

That I am like a stop, and my word is Bond

like James, killin everybody in sight

The code’s three-six, the name is Lyte

After this jam, I really don’t give a damn

Cause I’ma run and tell your whole damn clan

that you’re a

“Beat biter! Dope style taker!

Tell you to your face you ain’t nuttin but a faker!”

(repeat 2X)

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
3:01 pm

Mo

funny, when i first got to SC my southern accent was very thick and my drawl was very long after 6 years over there not so much, but when i moved back to GA my bro was like awwww naw what happened, you sound like the day you landed on campus LMBO

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
3:01 pm

Ared – I know its super cas but Im just saying. The connotation of someone from somewhere else kinda denotes southern people are slow.. So its like dont say it.. For instance its ok for you to talk about your fam but nobody else can even if cousin Leroy walks around with no shirt and shoes on somewhere in Buck Tussle GA…

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
3:02 pm

@DreamsM ~ we called them “kicks” as well growing up. Not so much here in the South (I’ve noticed)

@LadyJ ~ I sang that Gloria Gaynor song so much one day my friends locked me out of my own apartment.

I didn’t wear anything NEON!!!!

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 25th, 2010
3:02 pm

Dreams – lets see….I think im in a wine mood today….I trust ya so hook me up.

whaddup Rell

SCool – my favs are the New Orleans “hey bey-beh” and (im sad to say) hearing younguns say “hey mit lady”

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
3:04 pm

Leggs

we called em tennis shoes, now since being away for a while occasionally i call them sneakers. Kicks was typically “upstate” :)

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
3:04 pm

Check it out
MC am I people call me Milk
When I’m bustin up a party I feel no guilt
Gizmo’s cuttin, up for the
Suckers that’s, down with meeee!!
The One of us, that’s how I feel
To be down you must appeal
To the Two, we’re rated R
We’re gifted, and we’re going far
Down the road, to the bank
While I’m here I’d like to thank
Mom and dad, they knew the time
Gizmo’s scratching Milk Dee’s rhyming
Milk is chillin, Giz is chillin
What more can I say? Top billin
That’s what we get, got it good
Since you understood, would you
Stop scheming, and looking hard
I got a great big bodyguard
So step up if you wanna get hurt
Milk Dee’s gonna pull the skirt
I get money, money I got
Stunts call me honey if they feel real hot
That’s how it is, you can ask Giz
I stole your girl while you were in prison
Jail, for MC assault
You was jealous it’s all your fault
Milk is chillin, Giz is chillin
What more can I say? Top billin

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
3:06 pm

Verse 1: Busta Rhymes

remember the days when I was walking and talking

doing what I gotta do doing what we wanna do

off into my walked dawn missions why?

cos the brothers that I knew with the rise drove by

only nice in the days looking down the road

seeing beatiful girls with the car load

yeah yeah yeah they are screaming

wish I had a little ride on my own

but since I don’t there is my sobb story

my missions will continue as I keep on stalking

stamina was dying from the constant walking

right before the moment I began to car to my man Ridle

who had a some moving on

I tought he wouldn’t know that’s my dying

where are the others nammy you beat and kept driven

now in my heart they do a big hole

cos my little, little, little toes

started jumping on my end soul

it was frigity burn and then I said wait, I got pride

it’s time to get my own ride

I came up with the scheme and got paid

I had no other choice but go at knowledge of tray

when I got my transport, I got kind of steam G up

cos I got cherry pet further

now I’m feeling good cos I’m off my feet,

man the little squalid dogs running up in the street

and they saying:

my name is Sharina, my name is Busta

my name is Tonia, my name is Busta

my name is Dianna, my is Busta

and what do you take me for the little loco push over

no shame in my game cos that’s how I got this

and when I return the playback everybody gets pist

and now I am the man fielding all the glory

and when you rise down and gone, just remember that

Chorus:

I KNOW YOU AND YOU KNOW ME,

I KNOW YOU AND YOU KNOW ME,

I KNOW YOU AND YOU KNOW ME,

IT’S THE SOBB STORY, THE SOBB STORY

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
3:07 pm

rell what you got goin on ?

mytw♥cents

March 25th, 2010
3:09 pm

TAZ/LEGGS. I’ve never thought her to be the strongest singer (nah, she caint sang to me) but I LUV her type of fly… like she’s not afraid to wear a floaty, frothy confection of a dress to the cookout when everyone else is wearing denim shorts. And was I the only one who thought MJ was singin’ Dirty Dianaaa…”ROSS” instead of Naah ;)

Sneaker style is heavily influenced by region. 54.11s & Reebok classics will probably always have a market up top. And you should also have a pair of 1s in the closet next to the obligatory Timbs. Shh don’t tell nobody I gotta re-up.

MELO Very zulu-logical today. Its lovely to grow even more appreciative as time goes by. Special.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
3:09 pm

Day by day it’s more impossible to cope
I feel like I’m the one that’s doing dope
Can’t keep a steady hand because I’m nervous
Every Sunday mornin I’m in service
Prayin for forgiveness
And tryin to find an exit out the business
I know the Lord is lookin at me
But yet and still it’s hard for me to feel happy
I often drift while I drive
Havin fatal thoughts of suicide
BANG and get it over with
And then I’m worry-free, but that’s bullsh1t
I got a little boy to look after
And if I died then my child would be a b@$tard

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
3:09 pm

talk sh it and swapping spit wit deez…lol

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
3:11 pm

Not so much here in the South (I’ve noticed)
Leggs Yeah places have their own words for ‘em. In Detroit they call ‘em “gym shoes”, and in Cali they call ‘em “tennis shoes”.

Mo
White wine? I got just the thing for you. I’ll hit you off with a German Spatlese. It’s light, smooth, and has nice alcoholic content.

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
3:11 pm

Reflections….of a love you took from me….love it!

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
3:12 pm

Infamous DK

I see you!

My mind’s playing tricks on me

This year halloween fell on the weekend
me and ghetto boys are trick r treating
robbing little kids for bags
til the lawman got behind our @azz……

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
3:14 pm

Yeah, original crooks, original heads. We doin’ it like this.
Word up!
I woke up in the morning, hopped on a train I saw my man
He had an L in his hand, hide it from the beast
At least I catch a bus before I hit my block
I take a mega hit frontin’ on the good ship lollipop
Move the hop so I can put the hip in the grip
Everybody slip so I can take a trip to the dip
Dig a deeper hole microphone control with soul
Look at my hot eye’s tell me how could you be cold
I’m coming to you from the underground, with a thunder sound
#1 question, “Yo how can I be down?”
But I tell you bring your lighter and roll your finger
Back up on the lighter so you can see the fire finger
Go from left to right then front to back
Herbal verbal lead is givin’ the mic contact
React whenever I keep your head scopin’
Ahh don’t front you know I got cha opin
Don’t front, you know I got cha opin
It’s the original heads, me, and the original crooks
(Duck Down!)
Don’t front, you know I got cha opin
Check my dialect from my diaphram my man
(Duck Down!)
Don’t front, you know I got cha opin
It’s the original heads, me, and the original crooks
(Duck Down!)

mytw♥cents

March 25th, 2010
3:14 pm

RELL You channeling your inner NYer, I see. Top Billin might absolutely be my favorite hip hop song. Either that or Dwyck.

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 25th, 2010
3:15 pm

Dreams – thank ya honey! That wine sounds good

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 25th, 2010
3:15 pm

PK….YOU JUST SHOWED OUT WITH THE GETO BOYS!!!!
And yes, I was yelling. That song gets me so crunk!!!!

kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 25th, 2010
3:16 pm

@PrincessNik…LOL!guess, i showed my musical taste back then by mentioning Wham! lol. I see that you guys are seriously going down memory lane w/the songs.:)

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
3:18 pm

Ared – I know its super cas but Im just saying. The connotation of someone from somewhere else kinda denotes southern people are slow.. So its like dont say it.. For instance its ok for you to talk about your fam but nobody else can even if cousin Leroy walks around with no shirt and shoes on somewhere in Buck Tussle GA…

DK – I get it. I understand. It’s all just opinions. No I don’t think there is ramapant countriness in L.A. but like I said, I do think there is rampant GHETTONESS which is worse, IMO.

I just don’t see the need to be all sensitive about it.

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
3:19 pm

Q-Tip:

Bonita Applebum, remember way back woo…
When you used to play your knickers and your pigtail do.
I used to be all on it like a fly.
Back in the days, Bonita was a hit.
I flirted and I flirted ’til there was no end,
but she kicked the diabolical and said we was friends.
Honey, you was funny, but I’m tired of that.
It’s three years later, I got a new rap.
Got a little older, a tidbit wiser,
I gained twenty pounds, six inches higher.
[ Find more Lyrics on http://mp3lyrics.org/jYM ]
Speakin’ of high, I saw you smoke the hootie mack.
Your ex-boyfriend claims he gets the booty back.
But I’m here to testify, it’ll be a hard try,
slappin’ my knees, lettin’ out sighs.
Wanna keep you slammin’ like a hip hop song.
Bonita Applebum, gotta put me on.

PrincessNik......supastar

March 25th, 2010
3:20 pm

KB

girl i know who Wham is

wake me up befor you go go
don’t leave me hanging round like a yo you

i just don’t know what a wham shirt is LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
3:22 pm

Mama put me out at only fourteen
So I started sellin’ crack cocaine and codeine
Time to stack some paper I gotta do it quick
Thinkin’ I’m a juvenile but they don’t know
Who they messin’ with
Yeah my mama’s only son
But I live everyday like it’s my motherflockin’ last one
Every nogga and they mama askin’ why
But I’m in the game live by the game
And in the game I’m a die
And if I die or should I say if I go
Bury me in Horn Park next to come and go
“Cuz tomorrow ain’t promised to me
The only thing promised to a player is the penitentiary
So I’ma take care of my business on the smooth tip
Watch my back sellin’ crack and pack tool clips
And when you think about that you say
It’ll be on it’s a trip in here today
But the next day you’re gone

mytw♥cents

March 25th, 2010
3:23 pm

Mmmm Rieslng. What can I whip up to go with my emergency stash later?

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
3:24 pm

Ared – Youre silly.

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 25th, 2010
3:24 pm

My2 – Send me the mix recipe for your Jolly Rancher drink.
Thanks, Chick!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
3:25 pm

and condescending

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
3:25 pm

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March 25th, 2010
3:26 pm

Professor

March 25th, 2010
3:27 pm

Stepping in….

I am not going to try to catch up

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
3:29 pm

DK – Here we go again. Just because I we don’t agree on something, doesn’t make me all of these things. Why must you resort to such levels of ignorance just cuz you don’t like what I have to say? I’m entitled to my opinion as you are entitled to yours, even if I don’t agree.

Grow up dude. It’s not that serious.

Demi

March 25th, 2010
3:29 pm

Hey Mo…its my next to last day in this center…the folks are surplusing folks outta this building like cattles!!!

Demi

March 25th, 2010
3:33 pm

No I don’t think there is ramapant countriness in L.A. but like I said, I do think there is rampant GHETTONESS which is worse

One and the same to me…

Demi

March 25th, 2010
3:34 pm

And Hey Ms. Red

AmazonRed™

March 25th, 2010
3:36 pm

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
3:38 pm

****** P S A ***** Job Opening:

Title: Associate General Counsel – We will be looking for 3 to 6 years of private practice legal experience focusing on corporate/ enterprise wide related work. Previous experience with power industry clients is preferred. Active Georgia Bar admission is required.

Know of anyone who might be interested, let me know.

Professor

March 25th, 2010
3:40 pm

@Leggs Poppa G might know someone…I hope he is lurking.

Where is Carlito, Elijah, Dream_n and did I leave anyone out?

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
3:42 pm

Reflection rarely seen across the surface of the lookin glass
Walkin the street, wonderin who they be lookin past
Lookin gassed with them imported designer shades on
Stars shine bright, but the light — rarely stays on
Same song, just remixed, different arrangement
Put you on a yacht but they won’t call it a slaveship
Strangeness, you don’t control this, you barely hold this
Screamin brand new, when they just sanitized the old shyt
Suppose it’s, just another clever Jedi mind trick
That they been runnin across stars through all the time with

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
3:49 pm

My mind warps and bends floats the wind count to ten
meet the twin Andre Ben. welcome to the lion’s den
original skin many men comprehend
I extend myself so you go out & tell a friend
Sin all depends on what you believing in
Faith is what you make it that’s the hardest **** since MC Ren
Alien can blend right on in wit’ yo’ kin
look again ’cause I swear I spot one every now & then
It’s happenin’ again wish I could tell you when
Andre this is Andre y’all just gon’ have to make amends

Demi

March 25th, 2010
3:50 pm

for those with iphone/touch…there is a cool app called, Original Ganstaz…a role playing game…ish is fun

Dig That

March 25th, 2010
3:52 pm

“Sin all depends on what you believing in
Faith is what you make it that’s the hardest **** since MC Ren”

Thats that thing right there.

Wassup people

mytw♥cents

March 25th, 2010
3:53 pm

SEXYCOOL I got you, girlie.

I’m really diggin the feel of Alicia’s song. “I’m Ready.” She’s tellin dude she wants to have his baby and I’ve heard folks say that’s a bit much. But lotsa dudes ask women to carry all the time. And mean it! I’m Jus sayin.

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
3:59 pm

The deadly ritual seems immersed, in the perverse
Full of short attention spans, short tempers, and short skirts
Long barrel automatics released in short bursts
The length of black life is treated with short worth
Get yours first, them other ni__az secondary
That type of illin that be fillin up the cemetary
This life is temporary but the soul is eternal
Separate the real from the lie, let me learn you
Not strong, only aggressive, cause the power ain’t directed
That’s why, we are subjected to the will of the oppressive
Not free, we only licensed
Not live, we just excitin
Cause the captors.. own the masters.. to what we writin
Not compassionate, only polite, we well trained
Our sincerity’s rehearsed in stage, it’s just a game
Not good, but well behaved cause the ca-me-ra survey
most of the things that we think, do, or say
We chasin after death just to call ourselves brave
But everyday, next man meet with the grave
I give a damn if any fan recall my legacy
I’m tryin to live life in the sight of God’s memory
Like that y’all

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
3:59 pm

[Andre:]

Right now I’m smiling
Taking advantage of this moment
Cause there might not be another soon
Holding on to memories like roller coaster handle bars
tightly cause I’m slightly off my rocker–But to you
I may appear to be your average joe
But little do you know
that even joe got problems that he gots to joust with
Floating in this game of life
Despite how out of place you may feel
In this race oh you just can’t quit
Ain’t that a bi tch–that being heat
I’m on the beat like cops
Only cultivate the stable dirt when I skeet my drops
No concentrating knocking other n iggas out the box
Why?–Cause in a sense
See we all be kind of fly
Just can’t be scared to spread your wings
Head to better things
Maybe the mockingbird and nightengale
they want to sing–keeping this thing alive
To the table’s what we bring
We like hailstorms and blizzards in the middle of the spring
Extraterrestrial

(Out of this world–Things like that–Yo)

[Chorus]

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
4:00 pm

I see we have Outkast serenading us.

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 25th, 2010
4:01 pm

Demi – you know I know mayne! I heard ya’lls last day is approaching! They may as well demolish that raggedy azz building too! :smile:

I see all the DJs are coming out today! Why cant ya’ll save this for tomorrow for the TGIF mix??

kinderbabe

March 25th, 2010
4:04 pm

@PrincessNik..oh, lol…i’m glad we cleared that up! the Wham shirts would say stuff like “Choose Life.” they were white w/black letters.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 25th, 2010
4:06 pm

When you sad depressed and feeling strange–who you blame
Need some company to keep you sane–call her name
Maryjane I love you maryjane–do your thang
You’re all I need to get me through this thang–true to game
You ain’t never made me stash my thang–scratch the brain
Anything you’ve always kept me tame–and it’s plain
For me to see that you my everything–maryjane
Maryjane helps to ease the brain–when you hang
Through the seasons you ain’t never change–stayed the same
Never seen what people seen in speed–you became
Naturally you everything we need–do the thang
Do your thang baby true indeed
Do your thang maryjane

Mary, mary, mary, mary, mary
Mary, mary, mary, mary, mary
Happy just to hear your name
Maryjane do your thang
Mary, mary, mary, mary, mary
Mary, mary, mary, mary, mary

Demi

March 25th, 2010
4:08 pm

Mo…i am thinking of leaking on carpet…but its already fithy, LOL

Tazzee - 50 days til Mrs.

March 25th, 2010
4:08 pm

Mytwo I’m going to overlook the blasphemy in your post – but I agree, Diana Ross isn’t the strongest singer but she is the original Diva. I was a true Ross stan back in the day. I would cry if someone spoke bad about her, LOL.

My boo doesn’t want to go to the concert with me…

Dig That

March 25th, 2010
4:09 pm

Weekend looks like it is gettin crunk early

mytw♥cents

March 25th, 2010
4:09 pm

MO O-k-k-k! I guess the fellas are tryna make it a 3 day wknd, starting early. It could be worse, tho. It’s rainy and Quiet Storm selections could be much more dangerous lol

Rell unplugged

March 25th, 2010
4:11 pm

[Chorus]
I feel no pain
I can’t complain
Stuck in the game
Tryin to maintain
Cause I’m so real

[Pimp C]
We blow big everyday
But that don’t stop our pain
Or bring back our homeboys that we done lost off in this dirty game
Got n iggas doin 40
When you 25 that’s life
I guess when your career is sellin d ope somebody got to pay the price
These b it ch a ss n ig gas shife
N i gg as might snitch out they momma
That’s why me and Leroy watch stay strapped and ready for all drama
Cause we ain’t promised tommorow
But n ig ga you promised to die
Ni gg a can’t you see you gettin to high trippin of that potent fry
At night I talk to God and try to understand
How people can worship false prophets and say prayers to a man
I guess they already gone, ain’t nothin gone bring them back
So I just say thanks for what I got and blow on indo sacks
I still love my piece of change, wood grain and big head ones
But I had to realize in life everything ain’t always fun
I guess that’s true for some
But them h o es will never win
Out here just hustlin and grindin
Tryin to change from ni g gas to men

SexyCool (Reloaded)

March 25th, 2010
4:14 pm

Yeah. I might have to get out for a bit tonight. Rain and all.

DJ Demi

March 25th, 2010
4:17 pm

Weird question some woman posted on yahoo questions:

My jaw hurts slightly as i open my mouth wide, 2 days now and getting worse, any ideas, my teeth dont hurt?

My baby left me,
Left me sad and blue
I didn’t know what to do…
Without my baby baby baby baby
And then i met his best friend
And he took me to his house
And i said… i said…
(what you said baby) let me tell you what i said…

Put it in my mouth

She said put it in her mouth

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 25th, 2010
4:17 pm

Demi – filthy aint the word man…that place is the worst!! LOL!

mytwo – you are right chica, I guess we’ll jam today and save freaky friday for tomorrow! :smile:

Alright Party People, Im outta here! Ya’ll be easy and see ya tomorrow!

DUECES!!

DJ Demi

March 25th, 2010
4:19 pm

Male or female..if you never got any GOOD head while that song was playing…yousa lame, LOL

Demi

March 25th, 2010
4:21 pm

Mo, I was trying to be nice…but my goodness…this place screwed a lot of people lungs up!!!

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
4:30 pm

@Demi ~ I immediately thought of Erin Brokovitch with your last post!

Carlito

March 25th, 2010
4:36 pm

Quando sono solo
sogno all’orizzonte
e mancan le parole
si lo so che non c’e luce
in una stanza quando manca il sole
se non ci sei tu con me
Su le finestre
mostra a tutti il mio cuore
che hai acceso
chiudi dentro me
la luce che
hai incontrato per strada

Con te partiro
paesi che non ho mai
veduto e vissuto con te
adesso si li vivro
Con te partiro
su navei per mari
che io lo so
no no non esistono piu
con te io li vivro

Quando sei lontana
sogno all’orizzonte
e mancan le parole
e io si lo so
che sei con me con me
tu mia luna tu sei qui con me
mio sole tu sei qui con me
con me con me con me

Con te partiro
paesi che non ho mai
veduto e vissuto con te
adesso si li vivro
Con te partiro
che io lo so
no no non esistono piu
con te io li rivivro
Con te partiro
su navi per mari
che io lo so
no no non esistono piu
con te io li rivivro
Con te partiro
lo con te

Melo

March 25th, 2010
4:37 pm

Yeah, i missed uall..

Why the massa have to go on and on and on about the meeting and silly stuff i dont know..

I got pple waiting on me!

:lol: :lol:

so we left off..Prof u still here??

Carlito

March 25th, 2010
4:38 pm

Play that song and it is on.

Willie Dynamite

March 25th, 2010
4:39 pm

Afternoon All,

Dayum what i just walked into? Kinda like stumbling into a cool-azz ol school house party. How come nobody do that no more?

OK so heres my contribution courtesy of none other than MJG;
Hit a lick wit some
Tell my b#**h to quick get the gun
We got some sh*t to run so shut up and cut off the grits they done
I want you up on your feet until they blister some
B**ch you understand what I’m sayin’
I’m the official one
Mjg I pimp strong until the reasons gone
Until it ain’t no ho tracks left to sprinkle seasonin on

Professor

March 25th, 2010
4:41 pm

Melo I am back…I stepped in and left out again.

SexyCool (Reloaded)

March 25th, 2010
4:42 pm

I guess the fellas just ignore Wise’s request of not posting the whole song.
(Yes, Carlito, I know you didn’t know. But er um…we can’t read that anyway. Stop it.)

Professor

March 25th, 2010
4:43 pm

Melo,

Massa want you to be flexible

Where is green eyes and LURKER???

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
4:44 pm

I think everyone only posted one verse. SexyC Come over here and have a drink. What can I get you?

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
4:45 pm

LOL Yeah SexyCool if he is going to post a song at least post it in English.

DreamsMaterialize

March 25th, 2010
4:46 pm

Massa want you to be flexible
As long as that’s not Eric Massa, then I guess it’s ok to be flexible. Otherwise, I say RUN! lol

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

March 25th, 2010
4:48 pm

we called em tennis shoes, now since being away for a while occasionally i call them sneakers. Kicks was typically “upstate” :)

I’m originally from Cali (i.e. tennis shoes), but I’ve lived in GA since 85′. I had a major communication breakdown with him using sneeker and my using tennis shoe. My son and I’d gone to the flea market at old national and unknown to me his son had asked my son to pick him up a pair of “sneekers”… We’d been home about an hour and dude comes over and asked me if I’d bought his son some “sneekers”, of course I said no (puzzled, shaking my head)… he wanted to know where the “sneekers” came from (he didn’t give his son permission) … he burned them in the bbq pit. I didn’t know what he was talking about until he came back over the the box… oops my bad! :)

Ms. Teeny Tiny

March 25th, 2010
4:49 pm

Turn that wack ish OFF! That’s the main reason y’all are single

Carlito

March 25th, 2010
4:49 pm

Oops, but even if you hear it in Italian, it works wonders

Melo

March 25th, 2010
4:50 pm

Massa want you to be flexible

@Proff…u damn right. we work so hard,they need to have yoga classes for us,paid for.

Is the DK Ared beef over…..??? i missed most of it! :lol;

mayne if those 2 were to get married,that wld be GA’s version of Bobbie and Whitney all over again :lol: :lol:

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
4:51 pm

Raqi

March 25th, 2010
4:52 pm

LL411 What did you think “sneekers” were, snickers?

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

March 25th, 2010
4:53 pm

Dude was a neighbor for across the street…

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

March 25th, 2010
4:54 pm

Yes, I thought he was talking about snickers… I went back in the house wondering why he thought I bought his son some candy :)

mytw♥cents

March 25th, 2010
4:54 pm

Hey RAQI! Thought you’d gone from lunch to after dinner mints, ma’am.

Professor

March 25th, 2010
4:54 pm

@Melo yoga classes are not a bad move…a lot of organizations are doing those things under their wellness plans.

@Carlito I bet that song is nice…BTW are you flying Julia down this weekend :wink:

Carlito

March 25th, 2010
4:56 pm

Professor, I am flying up myself this weekend. :)

Professor

March 25th, 2010
4:58 pm

LL411… Now that was funny…I bet it depends on what part of GA you are from. We grew up saying tennis shoes as well. He probably was country as hell putting those shoes in the BBQ pit

Professor

March 25th, 2010
4:59 pm

Carlito that is great :grin:

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

March 25th, 2010
4:59 pm

I think the neighbor is Jamican, has an island accent… I still laugh when I think of this one

Leggs

March 25th, 2010
5:00 pm

No it’s not….J/K :lol: :wink:

SexyCool (Reloaded)

March 25th, 2010
5:07 pm

Dreams – I’ll take a peach mojito.

Demi

March 25th, 2010
5:13 pm

legg, tomorrow is last day on this side of town…my job is shipping me to conyers…so I will be going to Strokes on my lunch break for the last time…you are welcome to just me

Are there any shoe shows is conyers?

Hell is seanJohnson3000?

I am whatever you say I am

March 25th, 2010
5:13 pm

afternoon blog…

I am whatever you say I am

March 25th, 2010
5:14 pm

<—-is on edge right now….

I am whatever you say I am

March 25th, 2010
5:14 pm

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