How flexible are you?
If you’ve ever been on a date with an uptight, straight-laced person, then you already know how much fun it is to be around them. It seems as if these individuals are not always aware that they come across as uncompromising and inflexible. I’m not the type to turn into some doormat for a man. Believe me, I can speak up and express my opinion without hesitation. However, I am also able to go with the flow and relax too.
I think that while dating around, you absolutely have to be able to keep a good attitude. If you go around with hard and strict rules about every single thing then you are bound to run off a potentially great match. How flexible are you in dating? How do you handle sudden plan changes? What do you do when you don’t get your way on a date?
Have you ever dated someone who was stubborn and set in their ways? Is there a point where you have to either accept them for who they are or call them on it and ask them to bend a little?
I think when you have been single and on your own for a long time, your compromising muscle seems to atrophy a bit. What is a good way to exercise it a little?
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495 comments Add your comment
Mo (aka Moeisha )
March 25th, 2010
2:58 pm
PrincessNik – I tease my mother about that (she is from VA). I say “you get around ya folk and your accent comes back! Its all ‘he wont’, not ‘he wasnt’ “. LOL
Infamous – I love that song…at least the chorus!
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:59 pm
SexyC
lemme add
“where dey do dat at?”
“dat’s throwed off”
DreamsMaterialize
March 25th, 2010
2:59 pm
PrincessNIK LOL at Isaac. I see you seeing me, and I’m coming to holla at you.
Mo It’s all good on this end. You know you good for a drink with me. What you having today?
Rell unplugged
March 25th, 2010
3:00 pm
Let’s begin, what, where, why, or when
will all be explained like instructions to a game
See I’m not insane, in fact, I’m kind of rational
when I be asking you, “Who is more dramatical?”
This one or that one, the white one or the black one
pick the punk, and I’ll jump up to attack one
KRS-One is just the guy to lead a crew
right up to your face and dis you
Everyone saw me on the last album cover
Holding a pistol something far from a lover
Beside my brother, S-C-O-T-T
I just laughed, cause no one can defeat me
This is lecture number two, “My Philosophy”
Number one, was “Poetry” you know it’s me
This is my philosophy, many artists got to learn
I’m not flammable, I don’t burn
so please stop burnin, and learn to earn respect
’cause that’s just what KR collects
see, what do you expect when you rhyme like a soft punk
you walk down the street and get jumped
You got to have style, and learn to be original
and everybody’s gonna wanna diss you
like me, we stood up for the South Bronx
and every sucka mc had a response
You think we care? I know that they are on the tip
my posse from the Bronx is thick
and we’re real live, we walk correctly
a lot of suckas would like to forget me
but they can’t, cause like a champ
I have got a record of knocking out the frauds in a second
on the mic, I believe that you should get loose
I haven’t come to tell you I have juice
I just produce, create, innovate on a higher level
I’ll be back, but for now just seckle!
Rell unplugged
March 25th, 2010
3:01 pm
Hot damn hot damn hot damn hot damn
Hot damn! Hot damn hoe here we go again
Suckers steal a beat when you know they can’t win
You stole the beat are you havin fun?
Now me and the Aud’s gonna show you how it’s done
You are what I label as a nerver plucker
You’re pluckin my nerves you MC sucka
I thought I oughta tell you, better yet warn
That I am like a stop, and my word is Bond
like James, killin everybody in sight
The code’s three-six, the name is Lyte
After this jam, I really don’t give a damn
Cause I’ma run and tell your whole damn clan
that you’re a
“Beat biter! Dope style taker!
Tell you to your face you ain’t nuttin but a faker!”
(repeat 2X)
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
3:01 pm
Mo
funny, when i first got to SC my southern accent was very thick and my drawl was very long after 6 years over there not so much, but when i moved back to GA my bro was like awwww naw what happened, you sound like the day you landed on campus LMBO
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
3:01 pm
Ared – I know its super cas but Im just saying. The connotation of someone from somewhere else kinda denotes southern people are slow.. So its like dont say it.. For instance its ok for you to talk about your fam but nobody else can even if cousin Leroy walks around with no shirt and shoes on somewhere in Buck Tussle GA…
Leggs
March 25th, 2010
3:02 pm
@DreamsM ~ we called them “kicks” as well growing up. Not so much here in the South (I’ve noticed)
@LadyJ ~ I sang that Gloria Gaynor song so much one day my friends locked me out of my own apartment.
I didn’t wear anything NEON!!!!
Mo (aka Moeisha )
March 25th, 2010
3:02 pm
Dreams – lets see….I think im in a wine mood today….I trust ya so hook me up.
whaddup Rell
SCool – my favs are the New Orleans “hey bey-beh” and (im sad to say) hearing younguns say “hey mit lady”
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
3:04 pm
Leggs
we called em tennis shoes, now since being away for a while occasionally i call them sneakers. Kicks was typically “upstate”
Rell unplugged
March 25th, 2010
3:04 pm
Check it out
MC am I people call me Milk
When I’m bustin up a party I feel no guilt
Gizmo’s cuttin, up for the
Suckers that’s, down with meeee!!
The One of us, that’s how I feel
To be down you must appeal
To the Two, we’re rated R
We’re gifted, and we’re going far
Down the road, to the bank
While I’m here I’d like to thank
Mom and dad, they knew the time
Gizmo’s scratching Milk Dee’s rhyming
Milk is chillin, Giz is chillin
What more can I say? Top billin
That’s what we get, got it good
Since you understood, would you
Stop scheming, and looking hard
I got a great big bodyguard
So step up if you wanna get hurt
Milk Dee’s gonna pull the skirt
I get money, money I got
Stunts call me honey if they feel real hot
That’s how it is, you can ask Giz
I stole your girl while you were in prison
Jail, for MC assault
You was jealous it’s all your fault
Milk is chillin, Giz is chillin
What more can I say? Top billin
Rell unplugged
March 25th, 2010
3:06 pm
Verse 1: Busta Rhymes
remember the days when I was walking and talking
doing what I gotta do doing what we wanna do
off into my walked dawn missions why?
cos the brothers that I knew with the rise drove by
only nice in the days looking down the road
seeing beatiful girls with the car load
yeah yeah yeah they are screaming
wish I had a little ride on my own
but since I don’t there is my sobb story
my missions will continue as I keep on stalking
stamina was dying from the constant walking
right before the moment I began to car to my man Ridle
who had a some moving on
I tought he wouldn’t know that’s my dying
where are the others nammy you beat and kept driven
now in my heart they do a big hole
cos my little, little, little toes
started jumping on my end soul
it was frigity burn and then I said wait, I got pride
it’s time to get my own ride
I came up with the scheme and got paid
I had no other choice but go at knowledge of tray
when I got my transport, I got kind of steam G up
cos I got cherry pet further
now I’m feeling good cos I’m off my feet,
man the little squalid dogs running up in the street
and they saying:
my name is Sharina, my name is Busta
my name is Tonia, my name is Busta
my name is Dianna, my is Busta
and what do you take me for the little loco push over
no shame in my game cos that’s how I got this
and when I return the playback everybody gets pist
and now I am the man fielding all the glory
and when you rise down and gone, just remember that
Chorus:
I KNOW YOU AND YOU KNOW ME,
I KNOW YOU AND YOU KNOW ME,
I KNOW YOU AND YOU KNOW ME,
IT’S THE SOBB STORY, THE SOBB STORY
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
3:07 pm
rell what you got goin on ?
mytw♥cents
March 25th, 2010
3:09 pm
TAZ/LEGGS. I’ve never thought her to be the strongest singer (nah, she caint sang to me) but I LUV her type of fly… like she’s not afraid to wear a floaty, frothy confection of a dress to the cookout when everyone else is wearing denim shorts. And was I the only one who thought MJ was singin’ Dirty Dianaaa…”ROSS” instead of Naah
Sneaker style is heavily influenced by region. 54.11s & Reebok classics will probably always have a market up top. And you should also have a pair of 1s in the closet next to the obligatory Timbs. Shh don’t tell nobody I gotta re-up.
MELO Very zulu-logical today. Its lovely to grow even more appreciative as time goes by. Special.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
3:09 pm
Day by day it’s more impossible to cope
I feel like I’m the one that’s doing dope
Can’t keep a steady hand because I’m nervous
Every Sunday mornin I’m in service
Prayin for forgiveness
And tryin to find an exit out the business
I know the Lord is lookin at me
But yet and still it’s hard for me to feel happy
I often drift while I drive
Havin fatal thoughts of suicide
BANG and get it over with
And then I’m worry-free, but that’s bullsh1t
I got a little boy to look after
And if I died then my child would be a b@$tard
Rell unplugged
March 25th, 2010
3:09 pm
talk sh it and swapping spit wit deez…lol
DreamsMaterialize
March 25th, 2010
3:11 pm
Not so much here in the South (I’ve noticed)
Leggs Yeah places have their own words for ‘em. In Detroit they call ‘em “gym shoes”, and in Cali they call ‘em “tennis shoes”.
Mo
White wine? I got just the thing for you. I’ll hit you off with a German Spatlese. It’s light, smooth, and has nice alcoholic content.
Leggs
March 25th, 2010
3:11 pm
Reflections….of a love you took from me….love it!
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
3:12 pm
Infamous DK
I see you!
My mind’s playing tricks on me
This year halloween fell on the weekend
me and ghetto boys are trick r treating
robbing little kids for bags
til the lawman got behind our @azz……
Rell unplugged
March 25th, 2010
3:14 pm
Yeah, original crooks, original heads. We doin’ it like this.
Word up!
I woke up in the morning, hopped on a train I saw my man
He had an L in his hand, hide it from the beast
At least I catch a bus before I hit my block
I take a mega hit frontin’ on the good ship lollipop
Move the hop so I can put the hip in the grip
Everybody slip so I can take a trip to the dip
Dig a deeper hole microphone control with soul
Look at my hot eye’s tell me how could you be cold
I’m coming to you from the underground, with a thunder sound
#1 question, “Yo how can I be down?”
But I tell you bring your lighter and roll your finger
Back up on the lighter so you can see the fire finger
Go from left to right then front to back
Herbal verbal lead is givin’ the mic contact
React whenever I keep your head scopin’
Ahh don’t front you know I got cha opin
Don’t front, you know I got cha opin
It’s the original heads, me, and the original crooks
(Duck Down!)
Don’t front, you know I got cha opin
Check my dialect from my diaphram my man
(Duck Down!)
Don’t front, you know I got cha opin
It’s the original heads, me, and the original crooks
(Duck Down!)
mytw♥cents
March 25th, 2010
3:14 pm
RELL You channeling your inner NYer, I see. Top Billin might absolutely be my favorite hip hop song. Either that or Dwyck.
Mo (aka Moeisha )
March 25th, 2010
3:15 pm
Dreams – thank ya honey! That wine sounds good
SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!
March 25th, 2010
3:15 pm
PK….YOU JUST SHOWED OUT WITH THE GETO BOYS!!!!
And yes, I was yelling. That song gets me so crunk!!!!
kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!
March 25th, 2010
3:16 pm
@PrincessNik…LOL!guess, i showed my musical taste back then by mentioning Wham! lol. I see that you guys are seriously going down memory lane w/the songs.:)
AmazonRed™
March 25th, 2010
3:18 pm
Ared – I know its super cas but Im just saying. The connotation of someone from somewhere else kinda denotes southern people are slow.. So its like dont say it.. For instance its ok for you to talk about your fam but nobody else can even if cousin Leroy walks around with no shirt and shoes on somewhere in Buck Tussle GA…
DK – I get it. I understand. It’s all just opinions. No I don’t think there is ramapant countriness in L.A. but like I said, I do think there is rampant GHETTONESS which is worse, IMO.
I just don’t see the need to be all sensitive about it.
Rell unplugged
March 25th, 2010
3:19 pm
Q-Tip:
Bonita Applebum, remember way back woo…
When you used to play your knickers and your pigtail do.
I used to be all on it like a fly.
Back in the days, Bonita was a hit.
I flirted and I flirted ’til there was no end,
but she kicked the diabolical and said we was friends.
Honey, you was funny, but I’m tired of that.
It’s three years later, I got a new rap.
Got a little older, a tidbit wiser,
I gained twenty pounds, six inches higher.
[ Find more Lyrics on http://mp3lyrics.org/jYM ]
Speakin’ of high, I saw you smoke the hootie mack.
Your ex-boyfriend claims he gets the booty back.
But I’m here to testify, it’ll be a hard try,
slappin’ my knees, lettin’ out sighs.
Wanna keep you slammin’ like a hip hop song.
Bonita Applebum, gotta put me on.
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
3:20 pm
KB
girl i know who Wham is
wake me up befor you go go
don’t leave me hanging round like a yo you
i just don’t know what a wham shirt is LOL
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
3:22 pm
Mama put me out at only fourteen
So I started sellin’ crack cocaine and codeine
Time to stack some paper I gotta do it quick
Thinkin’ I’m a juvenile but they don’t know
Who they messin’ with
Yeah my mama’s only son
But I live everyday like it’s my motherflockin’ last one
Every nogga and they mama askin’ why
But I’m in the game live by the game
And in the game I’m a die
And if I die or should I say if I go
Bury me in Horn Park next to come and go
“Cuz tomorrow ain’t promised to me
The only thing promised to a player is the penitentiary
So I’ma take care of my business on the smooth tip
Watch my back sellin’ crack and pack tool clips
And when you think about that you say
It’ll be on it’s a trip in here today
But the next day you’re gone
mytw♥cents
March 25th, 2010
3:23 pm
Mmmm Rieslng. What can I whip up to go with my emergency stash later?
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
3:24 pm
Ared – Youre silly.
SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!
March 25th, 2010
3:24 pm
My2 – Send me the mix recipe for your Jolly Rancher drink.
Thanks, Chick!!!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
3:25 pm
and condescending
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
3:25 pm
Pompous
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
3:26 pm
ignorant
Professor
March 25th, 2010
3:27 pm
Stepping in….
I am not going to try to catch up
AmazonRed™
March 25th, 2010
3:29 pm
DK – Here we go again. Just because I we don’t agree on something, doesn’t make me all of these things. Why must you resort to such levels of ignorance just cuz you don’t like what I have to say? I’m entitled to my opinion as you are entitled to yours, even if I don’t agree.
Grow up dude. It’s not that serious.
Demi
March 25th, 2010
3:29 pm
Hey Mo…its my next to last day in this center…the folks are surplusing folks outta this building like cattles!!!
Demi
March 25th, 2010
3:33 pm
No I don’t think there is ramapant countriness in L.A. but like I said, I do think there is rampant GHETTONESS which is worse
One and the same to me…
Demi
March 25th, 2010
3:34 pm
And Hey Ms. Red
AmazonRed™
March 25th, 2010
3:36 pm
Hey Demi!!!
Leggs
March 25th, 2010
3:38 pm
****** P S A ***** Job Opening:
Title: Associate General Counsel – We will be looking for 3 to 6 years of private practice legal experience focusing on corporate/ enterprise wide related work. Previous experience with power industry clients is preferred. Active Georgia Bar admission is required.
Know of anyone who might be interested, let me know.
Professor
March 25th, 2010
3:40 pm
@Leggs Poppa G might know someone…I hope he is lurking.
Where is Carlito, Elijah, Dream_n and did I leave anyone out?
DreamsMaterialize
March 25th, 2010
3:42 pm
Reflection rarely seen across the surface of the lookin glass
Walkin the street, wonderin who they be lookin past
Lookin gassed with them imported designer shades on
Stars shine bright, but the light — rarely stays on
Same song, just remixed, different arrangement
Put you on a yacht but they won’t call it a slaveship
Strangeness, you don’t control this, you barely hold this
Screamin brand new, when they just sanitized the old shyt
Suppose it’s, just another clever Jedi mind trick
That they been runnin across stars through all the time with
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
3:49 pm
My mind warps and bends floats the wind count to ten
meet the twin Andre Ben. welcome to the lion’s den
original skin many men comprehend
I extend myself so you go out & tell a friend
Sin all depends on what you believing in
Faith is what you make it that’s the hardest **** since MC Ren
Alien can blend right on in wit’ yo’ kin
look again ’cause I swear I spot one every now & then
It’s happenin’ again wish I could tell you when
Andre this is Andre y’all just gon’ have to make amends
Demi
March 25th, 2010
3:50 pm
for those with iphone/touch…there is a cool app called, Original Ganstaz…a role playing game…ish is fun
Dig That
March 25th, 2010
3:52 pm
“Sin all depends on what you believing in
Faith is what you make it that’s the hardest **** since MC Ren”
Thats that thing right there.
Wassup people
mytw♥cents
March 25th, 2010
3:53 pm
SEXYCOOL I got you, girlie.
I’m really diggin the feel of Alicia’s song. “I’m Ready.” She’s tellin dude she wants to have his baby and I’ve heard folks say that’s a bit much. But lotsa dudes ask women to carry all the time. And mean it! I’m Jus sayin.
DreamsMaterialize
March 25th, 2010
3:59 pm
The deadly ritual seems immersed, in the perverse
Full of short attention spans, short tempers, and short skirts
Long barrel automatics released in short bursts
The length of black life is treated with short worth
Get yours first, them other ni__az secondary
That type of illin that be fillin up the cemetary
This life is temporary but the soul is eternal
Separate the real from the lie, let me learn you
Not strong, only aggressive, cause the power ain’t directed
That’s why, we are subjected to the will of the oppressive
Not free, we only licensed
Not live, we just excitin
Cause the captors.. own the masters.. to what we writin
Not compassionate, only polite, we well trained
Our sincerity’s rehearsed in stage, it’s just a game
Not good, but well behaved cause the ca-me-ra survey
most of the things that we think, do, or say
We chasin after death just to call ourselves brave
But everyday, next man meet with the grave
I give a damn if any fan recall my legacy
I’m tryin to live life in the sight of God’s memory
Like that y’all
Rell unplugged
March 25th, 2010
3:59 pm
[Andre:]
Right now I’m smiling
Taking advantage of this moment
Cause there might not be another soon
Holding on to memories like roller coaster handle bars
tightly cause I’m slightly off my rocker–But to you
I may appear to be your average joe
But little do you know
that even joe got problems that he gots to joust with
Floating in this game of life
Despite how out of place you may feel
In this race oh you just can’t quit
Ain’t that a bi tch–that being heat
I’m on the beat like cops
Only cultivate the stable dirt when I skeet my drops
No concentrating knocking other n iggas out the box
Why?–Cause in a sense
See we all be kind of fly
Just can’t be scared to spread your wings
Head to better things
Maybe the mockingbird and nightengale
they want to sing–keeping this thing alive
To the table’s what we bring
We like hailstorms and blizzards in the middle of the spring
Extraterrestrial
(Out of this world–Things like that–Yo)
[Chorus]
Leggs
March 25th, 2010
4:00 pm
I see we have Outkast serenading us.