How flexible are you?
If you’ve ever been on a date with an uptight, straight-laced person, then you already know how much fun it is to be around them. It seems as if these individuals are not always aware that they come across as uncompromising and inflexible. I’m not the type to turn into some doormat for a man. Believe me, I can speak up and express my opinion without hesitation. However, I am also able to go with the flow and relax too.
I think that while dating around, you absolutely have to be able to keep a good attitude. If you go around with hard and strict rules about every single thing then you are bound to run off a potentially great match. How flexible are you in dating? How do you handle sudden plan changes? What do you do when you don’t get your way on a date?
Have you ever dated someone who was stubborn and set in their ways? Is there a point where you have to either accept them for who they are or call them on it and ask them to bend a little?
I think when you have been single and on your own for a long time, your compromising muscle seems to atrophy a bit. What is a good way to exercise it a little?
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495 comments Add your comment
Lady J-Sunshine
March 25th, 2010
2:23 pm
DreamsM that is rigid! LMAO I never had Jordans and only 1 pr of air max I don’t really do sneakers……lol
Leggs
March 25th, 2010
2:24 pm
@mytwo ~ funny!
I remember when I hung out with this girl for a weekend. She was from Chicago and whenever she opened her mouth my ears would hurt. I had no idea there were truly kuntry, lazy speaking folk in Chicago. Since meeting her, I realize there’ a lot of kuntry up in Chicago!
Melo
March 25th, 2010
2:24 pm
What kinda stuff do you do that she’s probably tellin her ‘gerlz’ at work that shows you’re smitten too?
@MYtwo??
I ask myself that qstion too…i guess the taste of the pudding is in the(her) eating…those englishmen knew what they spoke!
I do have a dawggie(bullshyyt) side in me but reading the blog kinda keeps me in balance and appreciate what i got..so many want to be in this place I got,so many still striving!
That perception of ur GPS relative other folks is key!
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:25 pm
Dreams M
whats your age range
30-39
40-49
i dare not go higher
DJ Demi
March 25th, 2010
2:25 pm
To all the ladies in the place with style and grace
Allow me to lace these lyrical duches in your bushes
Who rock grooves and make moves with all the mommies
The back of the club, sippin Moet, is where you’ll find me
The back of the club, mackin h’es, my crew’s behind me
Mad question askin, blunt passin, music blastin
But I just can’t quit
Cause one of these honies DEMI gots ta creep with
Sleep with, keep the ep a secret why not
Why blow up my spot cause we both got hot
Now check it, I got more Mack than Craig and in the bed
Believe me sweety I got enough to feed the needy
No need to be greedy I got mad friends with Benz’s
C-notes by the layers, true fuggin players
Jump in the Rover and come over
tell your friends jump in the GS3, I got the chronic by the tree…
kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!
March 25th, 2010
2:26 pm
@PrincessNik..30-39
Leggs
March 25th, 2010
2:27 pm
@Tazzee M Jankins ~ I love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love Ms. Dianna Ross. I admire her hutzpah in carving out her career. Sure she stepped on a lot of toes, but she didn’t care. She got what she wanted and she wasn’t lettin no one and nothing get in her way. She stayed true to her convictions and gave the finger to anyone who had problems with her!
DreamsMaterialize
March 25th, 2010
2:28 pm
Lady J
Don’t sweat it. Sometimes kids just freeze up. For my son’s spelling bee, I tested him to exhaustion on all the words, and he knew every single one without thinking. Got to the spelling bee and froze up on the third word. lol I know he knew it, but he just froze. It happens.
mytw♥cents
March 25th, 2010
2:28 pm
DREAMS Do you keep re-buying the green on white stripe? Classics
AmazonRed™
March 25th, 2010
2:29 pm
yes there is quite a difference between being Southern and being plain ole kuntry!
There aren’t a lot of country folk in L.A. But plenty of ghetto folk.
Leggs
March 25th, 2010
2:29 pm
@DreamsM ~ whenever I say “kicks” here at work, no one knows what I’m talking about….sheesh!
DJ Demi
March 25th, 2010
2:31 pm
DJ turn me up
Crank
it to the max
I got lots of gwalla
I be flowin stacks
Polo on my hat
Shoes and shirt dat match
I be so turned up, I be swaggin to the da max
If you gettin in, and you gettin doe
gone pop a bottle
dis right here yo song
purple by the zone you can smell it on my clothes
and a band up in my swisher by to take one to da dome
im gone in another zone i be ridin on dem inchez with the woofer goin strong
they like what is goin on i dont really know then i roll down all my windows then i crank dat ish all da way up
lurker
March 25th, 2010
2:32 pm
Where is Ceemelie?
Princess, 30 – 39
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
2:34 pm
Ared – There are plenty of country folk in LA.. The Bay and everwhere else in Cali.. Heck they still where cowboy boots out there and where jheri curls.. Come on with the jokes
SlimCutty
March 25th, 2010
2:35 pm
Infamous I don’t know what it is but reading that 2:20 got me a little turned on…love when you talk all bad & ish
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
2:35 pm
wear… that was wear
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:35 pm
Lurker
Ceemee had a lot of downtime yesterday due to an IT issue i would guess she is trying to catch up
Alvin
March 25th, 2010
2:36 pm
I would like to take the time out the thanks All Travis Porter’s Fan…the boys put in a lot of work this past year…I play they sign a good deal with the label…so my cousin (who is their co-manager) can pay me back all the Mutha F’n money he owe me in back rent!!!!
With that being said…THXS FOR ALL THE LOVE AND SUPPORT!!!!
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:37 pm
KB you lost me on the Wham shirt LOL
DreamsMaterialize
March 25th, 2010
2:37 pm
that is rigid!
Lady J That’s just the way it was. And no one rocked Jordans. In Boston in the 80’s you kinda had to be a Jordan or Magic fan in secret. No way you were walking around with Jordans on your feet.
PrincessNIK
30-39, but closer to 30. lol Asking me those questions, I might think you tryna get at me.
mytwocents I have some green on white classics and some green on white shell toes; same two pair in blue on white. Also, have some Stan Smiths. Had some Forums until recently.
Leggs we always called ‘em kicks.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
2:37 pm
Travy!!!!
lurker
March 25th, 2010
2:37 pm
PN – gotcha…thanks
Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!
March 25th, 2010
2:38 pm
thanks dreamsM!
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:38 pm
Alvin
that was funny
i do love that go shawty song though when i’m at home and it comes on i can’t sit still LOL
AmazonRed™
March 25th, 2010
2:38 pm
Ared – There are plenty of country folk in LA.. The Bay and everwhere else in Cali.. Heck they still where cowboy boots out there and where jheri curls.. Come on with the jokes
DK – The bay..yup full of country folk. L.A. not so much. Not saying there is none, but the ratio is indeed much smaller.
Mo (aka Moeisha )
March 25th, 2010
2:38 pm
Hey DJ Demi!!! I see you trying to get it jumpin in here!!
Leggs – I noticed that ‘country’ accent with Chicago-ans while in college! I couldnt believe how they talked..
Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!
March 25th, 2010
2:38 pm
oh I see Boston! New Edition!!!!! NOW SCREAMING!!!!!!!! YAY!!!!! LOL Cool beans DreamsM!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
2:40 pm
Slim – Well come here a let me wipe you down… As my Houstonians say… Already!
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:40 pm
Dreams M
lol Asking me those questions, I might think you tryna get at me.
now hit me again big daddy
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:43 pm
Infamous DK
Love them folk from Houston, had some friends from that area during undergrad we nicknamed them “The texas connection”
DreamsMaterialize
March 25th, 2010
2:46 pm
There are plenty of country folk in LA.
There’s definitely country folk as you get out in the desert towns, which are actually still part of LA County. And when I see a cat with a curl in LA, I just keep pushing. Those cats can’t let go of the OG days, and you know they gotta be hard to still be proudly rocking a curl in 2010. lol
I noticed that ‘country’ accent with Chicago-ans while in college!
Mo Better be careful saying that. Southside cats resent that. They say those westsiders (like Crucial Conflict) are the country ones. lol How you doing today though?
SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!
March 25th, 2010
2:46 pm
Yeah…some of my fave folk are from Texas. ALLLLLready!!!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
2:47 pm
Ared – I got to the long beach jazz fest every year and In Linen pants and a cool shirt, Im over dressed.. In the A I couldnt show up a chastain looking loose, naw baby A1 Pimp tight down here.. I lived there so I know the biz… LA is hella country
Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!
March 25th, 2010
2:48 pm
PK mail call ymail account….
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:48 pm
Leggs – I noticed that ‘country’ accent with Chicago-ans while in college! I couldnt believe how they talked..
Do yall remember the movie The Wood, my first roommate was from NC and she spoke just like ole’ boy in the movie.
She messed around and said “that won’t funny” as in That wasn’t funny i was like okkkkkkkk i am officially not the most country person on our floor!
Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!
March 25th, 2010
2:49 pm
DreamsM I had a curl in the late eighties I was so mad with my mom! LOL
Mo (aka Moeisha )
March 25th, 2010
2:50 pm
Dreams – Im good man, thanks for asking. How are you? And since you are holding the bar down, can ya gurl get a drank?
PrincessNik – I love my Houston folk too! That place is like my second home!
Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!
March 25th, 2010
2:50 pm
superstar it took me forever to truly watch and understand the wood…..cute movie though….lol
Mo (aka Moeisha )
March 25th, 2010
2:52 pm
PrincessNik – that ‘wont’ is a VA thing too!! Everybody I know (fam included) says “wont’ instead of ‘wasnt’……He WONT gon do it….She WONT in the store…WTH??? lol
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:52 pm
Sexy C i used to LOVE to hear them fellas say that. Or “i was throwed” never knew anything about chopped and screwed til i rode with them one night. Sometimes I call my homeboy just to hear him talk LOL, even went to visit about two summers ago, too dang hot to go back in the summer though i was gasping for air it was so hot.
Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!
March 25th, 2010
2:53 pm
Leggs love your 2:27pm I do too my mom be hatin’ on D Ross but she is alright with me! Love her~
“Did you think I would crumble, did you think I would breakdown and DIE—Ohh No -I will Survive” lol
SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!
March 25th, 2010
2:53 pm
What I find most interesting about *Black folk dialect* is that most often, we can understand most of what the other is saying and the vast majority of us seem to be almost bilingual in that we are capable of speaking proper English.
Although, I do tend to give the side eye to folk who consistently butcher the language even when they are trying to speak correctly and for those hopelessly unable to even come close to *talking proper.*
Ye’en got deez.
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:53 pm
Mo, now that you mention it i noticed that too i just smh and smile
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
2:54 pm
Beautiful girls all over the world I could be chasin but their time I would be wasting cause they aint got nothin on you baby, Na na na nothing on you baby
AmazonRed™
March 25th, 2010
2:55 pm
Ared – I got to the long beach jazz fest every year and In Linen pants and a cool shirt, Im over dressed..
DK – That’s hardly an example of country. Cali is very casual. Always has been.
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:55 pm
Lady J
i’m have to check it out when i get home, forgot to add that addy to the bb and the powers that be won’t allow checking “outside” email.
SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!
March 25th, 2010
2:55 pm
PK – I agree. Some phrases are just superSEXY when uttered by men.
Examples:
“Fa show.”
“That’s what’s up.”
AmazonRed™
March 25th, 2010
2:56 pm
There’s definitely country folk as you get out in the desert towns, which are actually still part of LA County.
Yeah..I’m talking about the city though. L.A. County is quite huge.
Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!
March 25th, 2010
2:56 pm
cool I think you would like! Ok PARTY PEOPLE!!!!
Peace out!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
2:56 pm
Love me a DC Babe and a NC baby. I love the “Wont”…