How flexible are you?
If you’ve ever been on a date with an uptight, straight-laced person, then you already know how much fun it is to be around them. It seems as if these individuals are not always aware that they come across as uncompromising and inflexible. I’m not the type to turn into some doormat for a man. Believe me, I can speak up and express my opinion without hesitation. However, I am also able to go with the flow and relax too.
I think that while dating around, you absolutely have to be able to keep a good attitude. If you go around with hard and strict rules about every single thing then you are bound to run off a potentially great match. How flexible are you in dating? How do you handle sudden plan changes? What do you do when you don’t get your way on a date?
Have you ever dated someone who was stubborn and set in their ways? Is there a point where you have to either accept them for who they are or call them on it and ask them to bend a little?
I think when you have been single and on your own for a long time, your compromising muscle seems to atrophy a bit. What is a good way to exercise it a little?
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495 comments Add your comment
DreamsMaterialize
March 25th, 2010
1:56 pm
spending time with the child and being around and available to the child is just as important and should be equally balanced.
Any dude who doesn’t understand this is really missing out on life. While the children undoubtedly benefit from having dad in their lives, so do the fathers. I can’t express in words how much richer my life is because my children are a genuine part of it. No feeling like the raw excitement they have when you walk in the door. No matter what kind of day I’ve had, those smiles and hugs manage make up for it. I’m a better man because of my kids, and my hope is that they will be better because of it.
mytw♥cents
March 25th, 2010
1:56 pm
You mean my very own Miami Booty Bass Blaster DJ DEMI is back?!?!
The apple of my eye?
The Trick Daddy to my Trina?
The Polynesian to my nuggets?
The Special Sauce on any girl’s Big Mac?
How’s your world, DEMIGOD?
DJ Demi
March 25th, 2010
1:56 pm
SlimCutty…GUUUUURL…now For Real coming for yo B-hind with his legendary camera phone, LOL
Run Forest Run Forest…Run!!!
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
1:56 pm
KB, lets not get started i even still have the plastic cover full cassette tapes in a LA Gear shoe box in the top of the closet at my mom’s house
Now i know LaGear brings back memories all them dang shoelaces for one shoe
Leggs
March 25th, 2010
1:57 pm
**** BREAKING NEWS****
ESPN is reporting that Paul Hewitt has turned down an offer from St. Johns to become its basketball coach.
Thought some of you sport fans may want to know this!
SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!
March 25th, 2010
1:57 pm
Demi – mad luv, dude!!!
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
1:59 pm
The Special Sauce on any girl’s Big Mac?
Oh My
kimmie
March 25th, 2010
2:00 pm
Leggs – He said he was going to stay at Tech, but I was not going to believe it till I saw it. He was being a little coy about it.
But who cares about those bees anyway!LOL!!
Go Dawgs!
lurker
March 25th, 2010
2:01 pm
OMG, don’t raise the dead…LA Gear. That was a “Cali” shoe. I NEVER had or desired a pair.
DJ Demi
March 25th, 2010
2:01 pm
mytw♥cents…my lyfe? How about:
3,6,9 damn she fine move it to you sing it to me one mo time
Get low, Get low [6x]
To the window, to the wall, (to the wall)
To the sweat drip down my balls (my balls)
To all these bishes crawl (crawl)
To all skit skit mutha mutha all skit skit got dayum (Got dam)
To all skit skit mutha mutha all skit skit got dayum (Got dam)
Leggs
March 25th, 2010
2:02 pm
“…move it to you sing it to me one mo time” — Did not know that’s what he was singing.
Melo
March 25th, 2010
2:02 pm
ESPN is reporting that Paul Hewitt has turned down an offer from St. Johns
@Leggs??
still hating him for talking to them in the first place!
Means dude will walk anytime if GA tech dont pay him more of if smeone comes up with the right……
they need to bench him..GA tech made him to be who is is now….I have folowed him since he came here
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:03 pm
@ lurker
LOL, i look back now like really?! i wore those?! double shoestrings, double socks?! lemme hide that photo album LMBO
DJ Demi
March 25th, 2010
2:06 pm
LaGear…Mayyyynnnne…I swear every crackhead in Miami owned a beeping pair!!! fuggas had no clothes or a decent place to sleep…but they own..err, stole a pair of LAGears thought, LOL!!!
Lady J-Sunshine
March 25th, 2010
2:07 pm
PK Tag Team back again!!!!!!!! lol
SlimCutty
March 25th, 2010
2:08 pm
Let’s hit the hotel
get a suite
an order somethin to eat
tell me things about you
I’ll tell you things about me
then out the blue I’ll be carressin you
undressin you
You start doin all sh!t you said you’d never do
lustin bustin all out of my boxer drawers
fingers dripping slippin in an out in an out
constantly tellin me the things you don’t do
Yet you do it like a pro and think I don’t know
but I do that’s why I’m here wit you and you know this
slip on the latex
and dive in
SWISH!
Lady J-Sunshine
March 25th, 2010
2:08 pm
DreamsM PRICELESS!
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:08 pm
Lady J you are a mess!
DJ Demi
March 25th, 2010
2:09 pm
Leggs…YingYang Twins knew how to screw up the English lang…
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
2:10 pm
Lady – You Text your mom and your daughters G-Ma.. Thats wrong on so many levels..
The Shai song was Oh Ah
Country folk are from everywhere especially in Cali, NY and OMG Detroit.. Simply because all your folks came from the south.. Dummys.. Ya’ll that is soo insulting to say someone is country and because I grew up on both coasts I can appreciate the beauty of both instead of being a condescending arsehole
Oh yeah Whaddup Folk..
Lady J-Sunshine
March 25th, 2010
2:10 pm
those COLOR will blind ya!!!1 I had BKs too along with my LA Gears that was 6th 7th grade! LoL
Leggs
March 25th, 2010
2:10 pm
@DJ Demi ~ that was a nice way of putting it. You could have gone down an entirely different path!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
2:12 pm
Slim – And that 8 Ball is……
Lady J-Sunshine
March 25th, 2010
2:12 pm
DK my mom is her nana what are you talking about and I informed her dad….huh…….
kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!
March 25th, 2010
2:13 pm
not the LA gear!!! those were the joint! LOL o.k. i’m showing my age now.:) that is so cool that you still have one of those shoe boxes. i know my mom got rid of all my stuff…new edition posters, MJ and Prince posters. man, i miss that time! i had such a ball in junior high.:)
Lady J-Sunshine
March 25th, 2010
2:13 pm
My mom text me back to calm down what is G-Ma????
lurker
March 25th, 2010
2:14 pm
Lady J – those COLOR will blind ya!!!
Think that was part of the turn off for me.
PrincessN
That’s one thing memory lane can’t hold for me…lol
Lady J-Sunshine
March 25th, 2010
2:14 pm
british knights yall black and white PK and KB I loved those shoes
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:14 pm
Country folk are from everywhere
yes there is quite a difference between being Southern and being plain ole kuntry!
I had some conversations with some people during my undergrad days (and i’m from a lil ole place myself) and i couldn’t understand nothing they were talkin about and they were “from the city”
SlimCutty
March 25th, 2010
2:14 pm
DK I have Slacker Radio on my BB and came across that song this past weekend. Definitely is a classic if you ask me. But I just wanna know:
Would you ki ll for me?
DJ Demi
March 25th, 2010
2:15 pm
Doo wah diddy diddy diddy dum diddyu doo
(Got dayum, it’s some honkies in this mutha mutha tonight
Doo wah diddy diddy dum diddy doo
Oh oh oh ah yeah
(You mutha came anyway, huh)
that’s all I can post, LOL
Lady J-Sunshine
March 25th, 2010
2:15 pm
I def didn’t text her dads mom if that’s whatyou are saying???? please explain….me and my mom are like sisters really and we stay with my mom so again what’s your point???
mytw♥cents
March 25th, 2010
2:16 pm
MELO Go ahead and give me sumthin to “Awww” about. What kinda stuff do you do that she’s probably tellin her ‘gerlz’ at work that shows you’re smitten too? Cuz your secret’s been out….
PRINCESS Hey, it was the highest praise I could come up with in a crunch…
DJ DEMI As long as ya still got a bit o’ skeet left, I know you’re o-tay! Missed ya.
LEGGS I hadn’t been able to translate it, either. lmao
SlimCutty
March 25th, 2010
2:16 pm
Even steal for me?
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:17 pm
KB the only reason i still have that shoebox is because its the pair of shoes we were “given” as part of our basketball camp one summer, the same summer i Quit playing basketball so the box didn’t get much wear and tear.
Britsh Knights omg LOL
Lady J, i didn’t know AA used terms like Nana
Tazzee - 50 days til Mrs.
March 25th, 2010
2:17 pm
Oh Em Gee!!! The Boss Mizz Ross is going to be at Chastain on June 4th!!! I was contemplating going to DC that evening but I might have to change plans.
I LOVE Diana Ross!!!
back to your regularly scheduled blogging
kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!
March 25th, 2010
2:18 pm
LadyJ and PrincessNik–there was nothing like neon. i had neon everything! socks, headbands, bows, shoestrings. lol
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
2:18 pm
DM – Yeah ditto about your kids.. The dude makes me smile on site.. My son changed my life like no other event ever has. His birth was my rebirth. I always had purpose but when he was born I knew what had to be done and that I would give my life at any moment in exchange for him to live.. Never knew a love like that, my own piece of heaven on earth. The smile with the dimples make everything worthwhile
Lady J-Sunshine
March 25th, 2010
2:18 pm
DreamsM her dad is still texting saying he truly reviewed etc etc….made me think of you I told him he is fine and so is she……..lol told him to be excited
DJ Demi
March 25th, 2010
2:19 pm
Slim…Slacker Radio is the ish!!! I have 16gb Iphone…1gb for games and apps…and I have 14gb free…I have no reason to down load any new songs at this time, thanks to that app
PrincessNik......supastar
March 25th, 2010
2:19 pm
KB do you remember the hairbows made of neon shoestrings that used to be the bomb LOL
Lady J-Sunshine
March 25th, 2010
2:19 pm
PK don’t go there lmao we truly call her Nana! LOL
kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!
March 25th, 2010
2:19 pm
@PrincessNik…oh, LOL!
Peacelover
March 25th, 2010
2:20 pm
There are two types of single. Single with the goal of being in a relationship and single with the intent of remaining that way. I date with the single with the intent on remaining single mindset. The result is, the dates are fun, stimulating,interesting, and pleasant. Freedom is valuable and who you give it up for must be more valuable than the freedom you no longer have. I have realized that a date should not have the feel of a job interview,it should be a enjoyable experience for both parties. Many times the woman brought a Director of Human Resources approach to the date and I didnt see her anymore. Then there has been times that the woman gave me the distinct impression that she didnt just want to be on a date with a man , but wanted to be the man as well. I didnt see her anymore either. Now that I date with the single and going to stay that way approach, the woman I date are more willing to be open to enjoying the date as it should be enjoyed,which is collectively, and the result is my dating calender is usually full.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX
March 25th, 2010
2:20 pm
Slim – Yeah if that ish belonged to me and yeah if my life was in danger too..
Lady J-Sunshine
March 25th, 2010
2:20 pm
anyway moving right along…..smh laughing!
AmazonRed™
March 25th, 2010
2:21 pm
ESPN is reporting that Paul Hewitt has turned down an offer from St. Johns to become its basketball coach
Thank goodness. That St. John’s program is a sinking ship. No kid wants to go there. They’ve had good coaches.
kinderbabe--38 days to liberation and counting!!!
March 25th, 2010
2:21 pm
@PrincessNik..i was the neon queen! i had all the stretch headbands, earrings, socks, the whole nine. oh, and i also had the Wham! shirts….remember those?
DreamsMaterialize
March 25th, 2010
2:22 pm
All this talk of other kicks got me a little queezy. Adidas was the only acceptable shoe…have never owned another pair.
Mo (aka Moeisha )
March 25th, 2010
2:23 pm
Afternoon All!!
So whats poppin!