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Need better matches?

After enduring some dating disaster or meeting a host of strange creatures, single people have to get proactive.  We can’t sit by and continue to let bad dates happen to us!  The thing is, it’s not necessarily difficult to attract people to you.

I could probably write a book about how to meet men who are handsome but know it and are arrogant.  I could teach a course on dating men who want all the perks of relationships and marriage but mention the big M word? They disappear faster than Tiger Wood’s sponsors.

The big question is: How do you attract the right people to you? The people you actually want to date past two weeks. The people that want what you want, when you want it.  Impossible? I don’t think so. Challenging? Definitely!

What are ways we can improve our chances of getting better matches?  If you aren’t online dating, you have to meet people more organically.   Is it possible to meet “The One” in a bar?

When you think about your last great date that developed into something substantial, where did you meet? Do you believe that the way you met and how you met made a real difference?

578 comments Add your comment

Melo

March 24th, 2010
2:35 pm

Melo crossed twice about a year ago….

@Dan,being in the states dont make me completely afri/american in my ways….

only my papers are american!

uall sensitive dudes for real….

:lol: :lol:

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
2:35 pm

I shld invite u to our soccer games on sundays so u get a feel of african culture and boyz smack talk a lil bit….

- i love footy…but ioknow..you talking real moist..lol

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
2:35 pm

Ya’ll Lamar Odom aint the cutest monkey in the cage, so he didn’t do to bad for himself

:lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 24th, 2010
2:36 pm

Melo – I wouldnt be nowhere where wangs were the topic of convo.. “Hey dude in the red,black and green.. Youre running slow maybe you need to tuck your wang!” GTHFOH!

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 24th, 2010
2:37 pm

PK – Holluhs…passes out…

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
2:37 pm

Ya’ll Lamar Odom aint the cutest monkey in the cage, so he didn’t do to bad for himself

- wow really…i mean really

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
2:37 pm

JtJ i have to get back into shape/rebuild my stamina before i launch into P90X or Insanity LOL i do not need to be passing out LOL

Leggs

March 24th, 2010
2:37 pm

@Melo ~ it’s as taboo as talking about your own daughter’s tight ____ like I told you before. Men don’t talk about other men’s rods! Well, straight men don’t!

Melo

March 24th, 2010
2:37 pm

i love footy…but ioknow..you talking real moist..lol
@Rell
if it pleases u boy mentally,im cool wit it!

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
2:38 pm

Rell

i’m just saying, calling it like i see it

Melo

March 24th, 2010
2:38 pm

Well, straight men don’t!

str8 african american dont…

i get it!

but im not??

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 24th, 2010
2:39 pm

Melo – Yeah you right cause I wasnt raised in a loin cloth or taking baths in the community river with the hippos.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
2:39 pm

Dan – Have you seen paparazzi shots of that booty? Looks like it was molded from cottage cheese!

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
2:41 pm

Looks like it was molded from cottage cheese!

or bacon wrapped twinkies

:lol: :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
2:42 pm

:lol: @ PrincessNlk. That’s right! :lol:

Luvbug

March 24th, 2010
2:42 pm

their Mom would get on my Fcukin nerves

DK- She is hard to take sometimes…at least her hustle is.

Lady J-I love music, any type of music

March 24th, 2010
2:42 pm

oh my lmao @ yall!!!!

PK Lamar is ok a lil….lol

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
2:43 pm

@dk…go to your room…LMAO…

@melo you aobut to get roasted fam…next time you will keep your mouth shut about another dudes package..i bet you over there dancing to the twerk team…lol

@fellas…why do women hate on her butt..they hate on her hair..why…her only problem is she likes dyck constanly in her to feel love…reggie not having it…he let her go

Dan

March 24th, 2010
2:44 pm

@Melo

No one is being sensitive, personally I don’t really care about it. But, you’ve been told by every male on here at one point or another that talking, asking, referencing another dude’s junk is indicative of an alternative lifestyle. And you keep doing it.

Don’t blame it on “culture” (you been in the US long enough to get acculturated), that’s a cry for help or attention, either way, I’m done with it.

@SC

Even without makeup she ain’t a bad looking chick, and the body ain’t changed, so to reference “anything” is right ridiculous.

Melo

March 24th, 2010
2:44 pm

Yeah you right cause I wasnt raised in a loin cloth or taking baths in the community river with the hippos.

DK??

exactly..now u talking! u make me so nostalgic! :lol:

and u know how i miss that? going to the forest with my herd of cattle,dumping and peeing on the ground,no toiles and taking a swin in the river with no clothes on….i miss that!!

i grew up on that but if u see me in a suit,u wld even imagine…

I wish some of u cld open ur eyes to other cultures,u dont have to accept it….

being so closed to the outside world and other cultures can be so ignorant…..

I hope uall visit africa and kiss the ground when u get there!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 24th, 2010
2:44 pm

A’ight, y’all – leave the bootyscratcher alone.
LOL!

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
2:44 pm

Lady J

nuh uh

u heard that saying “a face only a mother could love”

POSTER CHILD!

DreamsMaterialize

March 24th, 2010
2:44 pm

PrincessNIK ‘ppreciate the compliment. You know know you always got VIP status at the blog bar though. I just need someone to fund these dreams for a minute, then I’ll be right back. lol

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
2:46 pm

Dreams M since you put it that way go ‘head and handle yo thug thizzle ;)

Dan

March 24th, 2010
2:46 pm

@Rell

Lisa Raye really fenna hurt ‘em. She 40+ and still raw!!!
reminds me of someone I used to know

Let ‘em hate

@Red

Cottage cheese spreads quite nicely thankyouverymuch

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
2:46 pm

Cottage cheese spreads quite nicely

spread is the key word

:lolL

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
2:47 pm

exactly..now u talking! u make me so nostalgic!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

I really truly hate melo.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 24th, 2010
2:47 pm

dude that was very giegh of you to mention that…straight moist

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
2:47 pm

I hope uall visit africa and kiss the ground when u get there

-went in 93 the somali’s called me n*gga american and told me i was not black and to go home…but yeah i was there to help and feed them…and i am looking at them like you not black either…but n eway

went to kenya on leave..and i ran thru more chicks than enough they had love fa your boy..i was all hooked on this chick i meet she had african/french/italian background…still have not meet one as fine yet..my experience in africa

Dan

March 24th, 2010
2:47 pm

Oh, and she is easily the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen – Lisa Raye.

Lady J

March 24th, 2010
2:47 pm

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
2:48 pm

Well, good luck with that then Danny boy.

Melo

March 24th, 2010
2:48 pm

melo you aobut to get roasted fam

@Rell..

dont worry,im a big boy,i can handle myself pretty good, in loin cloth or without!

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
2:49 pm

Lisa Raye really fenna hurt ‘em. She 40+ and still raw!!!
reminds me of someone I used to know

- she not killing STACY DASH or SALLY RICHARDSON…per-od!!!..all 40+ beauties

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 24th, 2010
2:51 pm

A’ight, y’all – leave the bootyscratcher alone.

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
2:51 pm

JtJ – Girl, you gettin’ ready for that dress? The dress?

Dan

March 24th, 2010
2:52 pm

@Rell

I’ve seen LR and SD up close, and they’re both beautiful. LD was sooo much more down to earth though.

Lady J

March 24th, 2010
2:54 pm

#random best rule ever…..Teams that win the coin toss won’t end the game with a field goal!!!!!!!

-Spring Practice is welcomed! ha!

JtJ

March 24th, 2010
2:55 pm

@ Cee- Yes, ma’am!! That dress is my motivation,David’s Bridal #E9369!

DreamsMaterialize

March 24th, 2010
2:55 pm

the somali’s called me n*gga american and told me i was not black and to go home
You didn’t have to go all the way to Somalia for a black person to tell you that. There are certain circles right here in Atlanta where you’d get treated the same way. It is crazy though since many Somali’s have mixed ancestry. Sad that imperialism has caused self-loathing in black people the world over. I still love all my folks though. We just got lots of work to do.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 24th, 2010
2:56 pm

Teams that win the coin toss won’t end the game with a field goal!!!!!!!

Heard that this morning, I’m sure this’ll make for some good and probably controversial endings.

Lady J

March 24th, 2010
2:58 pm

#randon who does the IRS think they are! get on my nerves chasing nothing! lmao!

anyone ever been to costa rica??? now researching…..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 24th, 2010
2:58 pm

Sad that imperialism has caused self-loathing in black people the world over. I still love all my folks though. We just got lots of work to do.

Yes we do..

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
2:59 pm

@ JtJ – Ima look it up girl! I love dresses…and wedding dresses, even better!

Melo

March 24th, 2010
3:00 pm

You didn’t have to go all the way to Somalia for a black person to tell you that…Sad that imperialism has caused self-loathing in black people the world over.

Dreams??

yeah,u sound like u read some book…there is so much ignorance, prejudice and close mindedness out there!

In Africa too!

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
3:00 pm

We just got lots of work to do

for some reason Vanessa Williams Came to mind

IIIIIII, I got work to dooooo

anybody remember that song?

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
3:01 pm

In Africa too!

-yes it is melo but you assumed that none of as been there…

Timeless

March 24th, 2010
3:02 pm

Re: “Dudes today don’t know how to choose.”

Neither do women… :-)

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
3:02 pm

JtJ, just looked up the dress, LOVELY!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 24th, 2010
3:04 pm

IIIIIII, I got work to dooooo

I gotta work baaabay….