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Need better matches?

After enduring some dating disaster or meeting a host of strange creatures, single people have to get proactive.  We can’t sit by and continue to let bad dates happen to us!  The thing is, it’s not necessarily difficult to attract people to you.

I could probably write a book about how to meet men who are handsome but know it and are arrogant.  I could teach a course on dating men who want all the perks of relationships and marriage but mention the big M word? They disappear faster than Tiger Wood’s sponsors.

The big question is: How do you attract the right people to you? The people you actually want to date past two weeks. The people that want what you want, when you want it.  Impossible? I don’t think so. Challenging? Definitely!

What are ways we can improve our chances of getting better matches?  If you aren’t online dating, you have to meet people more organically.   Is it possible to meet “The One” in a bar?

When you think about your last great date that developed into something substantial, where did you meet? Do you believe that the way you met and how you met made a real difference?

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Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 24th, 2010
1:04 pm

sunshine is hard to even find in the dictionary around here.

I got some ;)

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
1:05 pm

Strange that it is so pretty there, Denver just got creamed with 12 – 18 inches of snow. There are thousands stranded at the airport

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
1:07 pm

Sassy — lucky!!!! They told me there were 58 days of sunshine here last year.

Carlito

March 24th, 2010
1:09 pm

Yep, I just pimp slapped my yard with its first of four treatments in order to have the greenest lawn in the division. My flowers are already starting to bloom. Now it is “beer thirty”.

Melo

March 24th, 2010
1:09 pm

Melo – Balance on what tramp? (j/k)

@Luvbug??

wow..u running wild up there in ur brain

for the blog masses,it was just short for trampoline!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 24th, 2010
1:12 pm

They told me there were 58 days of sunshine here last year.

That wasn’t the kind I was speaking on but just reading your post makes me glad the sun is indeed OUT for sho :) :mrgreen:

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
1:12 pm

The best times – is outside right about now!…and my car read 78 degrees!

The best thing is – buying some fiyah light grey linen pants for half off!

The best thing is – finding the dreaded Hercules sandles that i’m not a big fan of…but when i tried them on my jeans shorts started calling my name.

The best thing is – coming back to work and the system still aint up and boss is still in a meeting i declined.

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
1:13 pm

aww man the system just came up!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 24th, 2010
1:13 pm

Now it is “beer thirty”.

:lol:

Read y’all in a bit

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
1:16 pm

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
1:17 pm

part of an email i recieved

Women want men.

Ironically, the only “apology” you’d ever owe any woman when it
comes to all of this would be when you FAIL to deliver on the
outward appearance of being a man.

Further, masculinity as defined by women is NOT a violent,
offensive, destructive force. Masculinity is simply the essence of
maleness–that which ignites femininity.

Men who show strong leadership, demonstrate deft decision-making
power and who build well-formed (and dare I say compassionate)
plans to STOP violent, offensive and destructive forces (which are
but a perversion of masculine power) are indeed masculine.

All of that said, I want to clarify something that’s an IMMENSELY
important piece of the puzzle here…especially as you’ve laid it out
on the table.

Being masculine has NOTHING to do, at least directly and/or
definitively, with “imbueing responses with sexual overtones”.

You need not turn the conversation toward sex in order to turn a
woman on any more than she necessarily needs to do so in order to
communicate her femininity to you.

And nor SHOULD you. Nothing would communicate more strongly
to a woman that you DON’T GET IT.

In other words, simply talking about sex–either directly or indirectly–
doesn’t positively affect sexual attraction any more than a car
salesman telling you that you should buy a certain car makes you
want to actually BUY it any more than you did before.

And that goes DOUBLE if the car salesman pushes the issue too
early and or too aggressively…coming off as if it’s all about him.

Everyone knows it’s the CAR ITSELF that makes you want to buy it.
Once you WANT the car, nobody has to talk you into it.

Sexual desire on a woman’s part is NO DIFFERENT.

Dan

March 24th, 2010
1:18 pm

@ARed

I can see how it would come off like that, maybe the guys that say it to you may need a little more playfulness. But I feel you.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
1:18 pm

Gosh, it is a gorgeous day outside.

My company has a rooftop deck that overlooks downtown. I’ll be eating there quite often.

Went to my car to fetch something. Saw to cuties staring me down in the parking lot alone.

I’m so excited about spring!!! (my allergies haven’t even gone crazy yet!)

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
1:20 pm

i’d be content if I just saw a lady with a full mouthful of teeth right now.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
1:20 pm

I can see how it would come off like that, maybe the guys that say it to you may need a little more playfulness. But I feel you.

Dan – I mean it’s not a big deal, but at this point there really is no nice way to say “stop frowning” to me and I’ll think it’s cute.

Cuz my return answer is “stop talking” and they never seem to like think it’s cute either. :lol:

Dan

March 24th, 2010
1:21 pm

This:

“In other words, simply talking about sex–either directly or indirectly–
doesn’t positively affect sexual attraction any more than a car
salesman telling you that you should buy a certain car makes you
want to actually BUY it any more than you did before.”

and this:

“Everyone knows it’s the CAR ITSELF that makes you want to buy it.
Once you WANT the car, nobody has to talk you into it.”

^^Right there, was something to be learned in like the 5th grade, when girls went from “icky” to “mmmmmm”

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
1:22 pm

@ Sassy – I caught that….

…i do not feel like starting work work this late in the day…not for real..

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 24th, 2010
1:22 pm

Cemeeli – LOL! you are too funny chica!

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
1:22 pm

@ Ared

Saw part of “The Invention of Lying” coming over on the plane. One DEFINITELY does not have to say everything they think and or find “true” do they?

Melo

March 24th, 2010
1:23 pm

aww man the system just came up!

Cee??

tell ur IT pple to invest in genuine and real IT stuff,and not get hooked up IT stuff from Indian,bangladesh and them asian tigers etc!! :lol: :lol:

how many man hours u lost already??

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
1:24 pm

One DEFINITELY does not have to say everything they think and or find “true” do they?

RandyT – Of course not. If so, our bosses would truly know what we think of them. :lol:

Why are you asking?

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 24th, 2010
1:25 pm

I am stuck in FB Message Hell. One of my FB people sent me and 12 other people a message two days ago. For the last two days, I’ve been barraged by messages in my inbox which has resulted in 40million text messages to my Blackberry.

Everybody keeps hitting Reply ALL….gggrrr!!!

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
1:27 pm

Mo What up MitLady? – I’m itchin to tell sumbody a real core ATL dialect about something that happen in the Mall. & not waiting to tell my homegirl when i get in traffic this afternoon.

You ready for this…

Dan

March 24th, 2010
1:27 pm

Random good moment:

My boss walks by and “what you working on”s me. I print out the report that I’m writing (whilst here and another message board)….

after lunch, “other than a few structural changes, this is great!”

Feels good to hear, but really? I can read…

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 24th, 2010
1:27 pm

SCool – DAYUM! Yeah I’d be pissed!

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
1:28 pm

@dan…how many times do you think MJ practiced the lay-up or free throw..just because you have mastered the basics does not mean you cant practice

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
1:28 pm

SCool – Reply all is the only option on FB. Change your settings so that only emails from “friends” get sent to your Blackberry.

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
1:30 pm

Lady J, days like this i miss Columbia, the girls and i would grab some baskin robins and go to findley park and chill around the waterfall

Infamous, publix has those capri sun on sale 3/$5.00 me and lil mama will be headed to get some today also LOL

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
1:30 pm

@ Melo – I’ve lost ’bout 4 hours homeboy! What’s funny the IT dept here is full of all Ebusiness, E1, Oracle, IBM ‘et all experts…but we still manage to have system overloads. I like it…i just clean up my inbox, read junk email, check out magazines and conference invites from months ago…

it balances…hehehe :) .

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 24th, 2010
1:30 pm

Cemeeli – whats up shawty, gon tell ya folk bout it

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 24th, 2010
1:30 pm

ARed – Bless you.

Luvbug

March 24th, 2010
1:37 pm

Melo – LOL. I was joking…as in tramp = trampoline or the woman on the trampoline…but yeah, I need lunch…I’m getting realllly silly. :lol:

I will heat this food now.

timeless

March 24th, 2010
1:44 pm

Agree with Jeff (8:20 am). Also, dump the mind games!

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
1:44 pm

Shawty….kinfolk, i’m walkin’ pass Athelete’s Foot shoe sto’, right? Two chics in front of me walkin’ stopped mid-walk shawty, to holla at some dude…Dude tells ‘em he got 4 baby mammas and looking for them two to be 5 and 6. Say to them “my name Tommy” jsut ask anybody bout me in that Adam’vill’ Trap….

I know you know that some true ATL stuff right there…

lol – BOY STOP!!

Meet me at the cluuub it’s goin’ down…
Meet me at the traaap it’s goin’ down…

Lady J-I love music, any type of music

March 24th, 2010
1:44 pm

PK I fell ya! Mother’s Day Weekedn I am getting lost in SC somewhere! Can’t wait!

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
1:46 pm

…it sure is HotLanta round here already…

Lady J-I love music, any type of music

March 24th, 2010
1:47 pm

ewww meant weekend…lol….you know how you blog is really important around these woods….lol….smh…lol

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 24th, 2010
1:47 pm

Anywhere ya meet me guaranTEED it’s goin’ down….

timeless

March 24th, 2010
1:47 pm

Well said, Downtown Heffa! Before making a list of what one’s requirements are, one needs to bring something to the table. First of all, throw away the unreasonable sense of entitlement that many have!

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 24th, 2010
1:49 pm

Cemeeli – BOI STOP!! Not checkin the rep!! Where dey do DAT at???? Shawty was LAME AAH HEYAL!!!!

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
1:50 pm

jsut ask anybody bout me in that Adam’vill’ Trap….

- lol, now that is hood rich…lol…

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
1:51 pm

A friends FB status update: “it’s so hilarious to see broads that have been talkin about their gym work for 6mos. on facebook. then when you see em IRL they look like they been eatin bacon covered twinkies”

Damn. :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 24th, 2010
1:52 pm

ARed – LMBAO @ that FB Status!!! OMG!!!

Alright Blogsville, Im off to hit the streets for a minute. Ya’ll be easy!!

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
1:52 pm

lol – ya’ll thuuupid.

I was playin that song in my head when dude said “Trap”!

Heard my homegirl that still dates “trap” dude say “Heeeeelll naw shawty” in there too.

Melo

March 24th, 2010
1:53 pm

“my name Tommy” jsut ask anybody bout me in that Adam’vill’ Trap

Cee??

so ur corporate office is close to the mall and close to Adamsville??

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 24th, 2010
1:53 pm

Ared – I bet they got *killer calves* though. :)

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
1:55 pm

ARed

That facebook status definately made me holla! WHEW LAWD

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
1:56 pm

ARed – LMBAO @ that FB Status!!! OMG!!!

Mo – As you can see, assholish tendencies run deep amongst my friends.

I announced Reggie Bush was single again and I got over 60 comments of them clowning Kim Kardashian! :lol:

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
1:56 pm

Here we go again – Ghettoville U.S.A.

i love it!

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
1:57 pm

Melo – In ATL paralance to the average driver’s commute is 30 minutes.

Yes.