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Need better matches?

After enduring some dating disaster or meeting a host of strange creatures, single people have to get proactive.  We can’t sit by and continue to let bad dates happen to us!  The thing is, it’s not necessarily difficult to attract people to you.

I could probably write a book about how to meet men who are handsome but know it and are arrogant.  I could teach a course on dating men who want all the perks of relationships and marriage but mention the big M word? They disappear faster than Tiger Wood’s sponsors.

The big question is: How do you attract the right people to you? The people you actually want to date past two weeks. The people that want what you want, when you want it.  Impossible? I don’t think so. Challenging? Definitely!

What are ways we can improve our chances of getting better matches?  If you aren’t online dating, you have to meet people more organically.   Is it possible to meet “The One” in a bar?

When you think about your last great date that developed into something substantial, where did you meet? Do you believe that the way you met and how you met made a real difference?

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Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
12:02 pm

lunch time – and sun time..

Luvbug

March 24th, 2010
12:04 pm

Rell – That’s funny….Sometimes, I wonder about that zodiac stuff…is it true or am I making it true? :lol:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 24th, 2010
12:05 pm

Boy we can make up words caint we?!!?

:confused: Whatchu talkin’ bout Willis:lol:

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
12:05 pm

Kym

I am all about the Kitchenaid! Alot of times if you go to like Kitchen Collection outlets you can find the utensils (ice cream scoop, veggie peeler, whisk, etc….) for next to nothing! I’m getting ready to invest in a hand mixer, I have the stand mixer but sometimes that’s just overkill depending on what you are doing. I would like the kitchen aid pots but like you i will have to put that on “the list” ;)

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
12:05 pm

“Sun time” …

weather in Northern England:

Today …overcast with probability of rain
Tomorrow …overcast with probability of rain
Weekend…overcast with probability of rain
Next week…overcast with probability of rain
Next year…overcast with probability of rain

Ahhh man, sunshine is hard to even find in the dictionary around here.

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 24th, 2010
12:06 pm

you got a point randy….hmmmm who are we or am I kidding right….sigh….chuckeling softly…lol

DreamsMaterialize

March 24th, 2010
12:07 pm

Hey Everyone
I think “attacting the right person” is a passive way of dating, more of a woman’s way of dating. Learn yourself, figure out what you’re looking for, and then pursue people you think might match up with your expectations. This isn’t fool proof, but I think it’s better than waiting for “the right one” to find you. Also, you can meet wonderful people anywhere, just like you can meet horrible people anywhere.

BTW, it’s beautiful out there! Mabye I’ll see “the one” that I want to approach while I’m out for lunch. ;-)

Carlito

March 24th, 2010
12:07 pm

Leggs, I wake up every morning and sing Prince “Sexy Mother F’R” to myself in the mirror. It works wonders, I do the spins and nipple rubs also. :)

Luvbug

March 24th, 2010
12:11 pm

Awww that sucks for you Randyt. It’s beautiful over here.

I just stuck out my pinky toe and a butterfly landed on it. :lol:

(j/k)

…I know…too silly right?!

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 24th, 2010
12:13 pm

passive it is DreamsM! Great Post!

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
12:14 pm

“Stop frowning” is a compliment like “you’re too pretty to make that face”.

Why would you dislike a compliment?

Dan – “Stop frowning” is not a compliment. And it comes across as an order.

Perhaps I have a reason to frown. Perhaps I have something on my mind that is not some random azz dude’s concern.

If you want to talk to me, or compliment me, do so. Don’t tell me to do something. There are a million things that you can say to me than some order.

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 24th, 2010
12:15 pm

OMG ITS LOVELY OUTSIDE!! :smile:

ok workout – done, lunch – on the way…..so whats poppin? We still on topic ofr what??

If only the weather could stay this nice sans the pollen and crap…SIGH

kimmie

March 24th, 2010
12:18 pm

Sassy/Cee – Yes, for me the Shape Ups are great, they definitely work! They also have them for men, my SO got some.

Going out to take in some of this sunshine now in them!

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
12:21 pm

ARed ~ read your post on meeting at a PlayDate event

Leggs – I’ve never met anyone at PlayDate.

Well actually I did. But we never went out so it didn’t get mentioned.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 24th, 2010
12:22 pm

I got that Body By Jake VHS tape on instant rewind.. In My Macho Man Randy Savage Voice Ohhhh Yeaaahhhhh!!

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 24th, 2010
12:24 pm

Mo do you do WWD it starts april 7th……fyi

Melo

March 24th, 2010
12:25 pm

Today …overcast with probability of rain
Tomorrow …overcast with probability of rain
Weekend…overcast with probability of rain
Next week…overcast with probability of rain
Next year…overcast with probability of rain

@Randyt??

thats beautiful weather man. Work wioth whatever God gives u….my suggestion..:

retrieve one of ur old T-shirts so u get a copy of ur long lost play by plays,go hang out tonite at the local bar/club and find urself in there, a warm “English Jersey” to hang with at ur crib and slip into, so as to keep u warm for the next couple of days when the weather is dreary outside!

Better yet,u can relocate for a few days to her own den! :lol: :lol:

I trust u still have ur tool kit?? :lol:

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
12:26 pm

Ahhh Luvbug…I want sunshine, I want warm and dry, I want women in sundresses who have all of their teeth!!!

LURKER

March 24th, 2010
12:27 pm

Dang-It……I am too late to experience the princessNIK….The Rake is already on it! Dang-it!! :wink: :wink:

I agree with what the Gents are stating if you have intellectual/common sense wit with smart determination about yourself you can get dat woman!

The mentally of women is truly funny, Wealthy well to do men will still date/marry women who are not on their level in so many ways, but on here we have some who have been brainwash to believe they need to in their income level.

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 24th, 2010
12:27 pm

Lady J – on WWD, I did years ago when I worked downtown. Havent been in a minute though…looking to start back though!

Infamous – LOL @ the tagline today! :smile:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 24th, 2010
12:29 pm

Mo – Umm Hmmm I search for you Missy!! We r gonna have a great summer.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
12:29 pm

Thanks Melo…I did find Wetherspoons last night (chain of pubs) and it has 4.95 (pounds) beer, fries, and burger. If I can keep from getting my azz kicked by the local Rugby team, I might see if there is any local talent interested in a Yank.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 24th, 2010
12:30 pm

Mo – Yeah me and the Lil One will be in there this evening to pick up some Capri Suns.. We are out.. I love going in there with him..

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 24th, 2010
12:31 pm

Mo the only thing missing from Atlanta is a beach and sand!!!!!! it would be a hot place! Bout the only thing I miss about SC…..

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
12:31 pm

Poppa Grande – if you check in today, I found a half off deal at Imperial Fez. :D

DreamsMaterialize

March 24th, 2010
12:33 pm

Lady J What’s good?

Mo How you doing? The weather is definitely on point.

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 24th, 2010
12:34 pm

nothing but the rent DreamsM! lol

Luvbug

March 24th, 2010
12:37 pm

Mo the only thing missing from Atlanta is a beach and sand!!!!!! it would be a hot place!

I don’t know Lady J. We can hardly keep broads in their clothes now…and I’m talking bout parents and/or the poorly designed folks.

Imagine a beach alternative. Yikes!

Happykitty not SlimOne

March 24th, 2010
12:37 pm

I’m just not feeling work today. It’s amazing how the sun and a little warm weather motivates you want to get outside.

(Slim now moving cub out into the middle of the parking lot)

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 24th, 2010
12:40 pm

luvbug lmbao @ you! lol

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 24th, 2010
12:41 pm

Slim I am planning a beach getaway! Mentally that is! lmao! I checked out when I came in today! lol! whew middle of the week!

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 24th, 2010
12:43 pm

Infamous – LOL! Im lol @ you and Lil Infamous hanging at Publix….I was in there last week. Make sure you get the Capri Sun Waters, lol!

Lady J – the water is what I miss about Hampton as well chica! Day like today the waterfront would be poppin!

Hey Dreams! Going alright, and you?

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
12:44 pm

@ Luvbug

re: the only thing missing from Atlanta is a beach and sand!!!!!! it would be a hot place!

I’m going to Paris in a few weeks, and a guy i work with showed me pictures of how they built a “beach” with sand on the walls in front of the Seine River. (Topless too, but I am sure i will not look ;-) . Nahhhh!!!

Melo

March 24th, 2010
12:44 pm

@Randyt??

ull find plenty,trust me,esp the cougar type.

States side,the weather is fab.I feel sorry for any singles with no regular man on their arm coz its darn beautiful out there…

But I guess for any single female with high spirits,its not bad rocking that short sun dress,going leggy and showing some cleavage.

This is the time when u can tell which chic got some good hook up on cocoa butter and nice lip gloss!

leggs and arms not ashy,arms well toned and shiny and lips well glossed and that smile dazzling all the jokers trying to holla!
and them leggs?? ugh ugh ugh……just straddling ma,like a phine serengeti zebra!!

do ur thang sisters!!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 24th, 2010
12:45 pm

Mo I am going to try Hampton out this year think we play yall there a fall getaway indeed!

Happykitty not SlimOne

March 24th, 2010
12:45 pm

I wonder if I hung up a hammock on my cubicle walls, if it would hold me or not. lol

Luvbug

March 24th, 2010
12:46 pm

Randyt – I believe you won’t look. If you tell me that, it must be true…no need to suspect or confirm otherwise. :lol:

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 24th, 2010
12:47 pm

Paul Mooney is @ the Comedy Club tonight……lol that is going to be funny!

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 24th, 2010
12:49 pm

I tell ya….

Mo (aka Moeisha )

March 24th, 2010
12:49 pm

Lady J – I believe you are right, I think ya’ll do play us at Hampton this year! I need to make a trec that way myself…….

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
12:50 pm

@ Luvbug

Yeah, I might volunteer to keep swatting the bugs away from their…tops. I’m just that kid of thoughtful guy.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 24th, 2010
12:50 pm

Well good Ole Infamous caught a sale on a trampoline for the Lil one and it sooo much fun to jump on.. Im wondering will I be wrong if one night me and a shoobie doobie got out there and bounced on it naked? I mean lather up with off and get after it..

Happykitty not SlimOne

March 24th, 2010
12:52 pm

DK Aw mayne, you just brought an old memory back…I used to have a huge trampoline….Oh, those were the days :mrgreen: FYI: stay away from the springs lol

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
12:54 pm

@ DK

When my kids had a tramp, i worried about busting my head doing flips, etc…you might want to worry about busting your head(s) too..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 24th, 2010
12:55 pm

Slim – I cant keep the thought of it out of my mind.. Sugar plum dancing on the trampoline! Yes Sir!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 24th, 2010
12:57 pm

Dont worry the spring are covered with padding and it has a big net around it.. So let the royal rumpus begin where the wild things are!

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
12:58 pm

@ DK

I might (okay, lets just say I do) have one of those t-shirts. Only bouncing was horizontal. Wife did not have a headache for a change and a pitcher of drinks can cause you to do some strange shyte when it is dark enough outside. I had forgotten about that for years thanks.

Happykitty not SlimOne

March 24th, 2010
12:59 pm

We use to LOOVE our trampoline!! I even fell asleep out on it one day just laying down chilling on a day like today, watching the shapes of the clouds.

Melo

March 24th, 2010
1:01 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK??

if the shoobie doo is new new,thats not a bad idea to get some chemistry going.
She or urself will,from time to time fall into eacj other’s arms as u try to balance on the tramp and the embraces u give each other will enhance the chemistry….

thats a big ploy</del) play big boy and i know,the naive ones here may be lost on that play…. :lol: :lol:

Luvbug

March 24th, 2010
1:04 pm

Melo – Balance on what tramp? (j/k)

…Okay, I apologize. I need lunch right now.