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Need better matches?

After enduring some dating disaster or meeting a host of strange creatures, single people have to get proactive.  We can’t sit by and continue to let bad dates happen to us!  The thing is, it’s not necessarily difficult to attract people to you.

I could probably write a book about how to meet men who are handsome but know it and are arrogant.  I could teach a course on dating men who want all the perks of relationships and marriage but mention the big M word? They disappear faster than Tiger Wood’s sponsors.

The big question is: How do you attract the right people to you? The people you actually want to date past two weeks. The people that want what you want, when you want it.  Impossible? I don’t think so. Challenging? Definitely!

What are ways we can improve our chances of getting better matches?  If you aren’t online dating, you have to meet people more organically.   Is it possible to meet “The One” in a bar?

When you think about your last great date that developed into something substantial, where did you meet? Do you believe that the way you met and how you met made a real difference?

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DJ Sniper

March 24th, 2010
11:32 am

I actually met my wife in the one place most people say you can’t meet anybody decent: the club. We were both in House Nightclub in the Underground. She was with her friends and I was rolling solo. We passed by each other and exchanged smiles. Even though the night was early, I saw she was already holding her shoes in her hand. I walked up to her and cracked a joke about that and that got a good response out of her. We danced together a few times, and I asked if she wanted to grab some breakfast, which we did. Two days later, we had our first date. Almost 4 years and one beautiful baby girl later, the rest is history :)

kimmie

March 24th, 2010
11:32 am

Kym – I have a Neeley’s cookbook, mostly BBQ & sides southern recipes, got some good stuff in it along with a little bio & pictures .

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:32 am

@Princessnik – DANCE…get some Miami Bass music, Beyonce’ songs/tapes and dance her moves. I do it (in my own privacy) all the time…it works.

I’ll only drop it like it’s hot for him though. lol :)

Kym-Today's lucky number is 1, 401

March 24th, 2010
11:32 am

Hey I am investigating satellite radio..anyone here have it how does that monthly fee work and is it worth it?

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 24th, 2010
11:33 am

I, too, have a July target date of the 18th for Project170. However, I should reach it way before then. Just allowed myself some cushion for my sweet tooth and back sliding.

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:35 am

“my whole office does the p90x..we killing it er day…we BRING IT!!!

@Rell It’s only about 8=12 of us that meet in the workout room…aside of our personal gym/training daily. But i’m the only one that eats outside the INSANITY and P90X plan.

like i told Melo – I eats! Imma live this life…but still i know moderation and how to work a meal…what to eat, and what not to eat.

see…they wanna got to lunch now. I’m Mall-ing today though.

Melo

March 24th, 2010
11:35 am

Anyone having Easter Brunch at their house? Grilling?

Cee??

I think im taking me and the fam for an overnite Easter Friday to Saturday ,morn!

Time to cleanse these demons! :evil:

did u read my recommendtion to u Monday about the fish and chips spot at Lindberg??

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
11:35 am

cee

funny you should say dance, lil mama got a wii for her bday yesterday and one of the games i bought was just dance we were all breathing hard LOL

My target date is in July also, since that’s when the Bday is, determined to bring my sexy & healthy back before entering a new year of life.

Dan

March 24th, 2010
11:36 am

@Kym

Don’t do it!!!!!!!!!

Depending on how long you’re in the car (and I drive for hours), it’s really not worth it unless you want to hear specific stuff (like Foxxhole, etc). Even then, that doesn’t come on when you’re in the car to listen.

I don’t know about the monthly (maybe a normal debit to card/account).

But really consider it

kimmie

March 24th, 2010
11:36 am

Cee – I’ve been wearing my Shape Up’s hardcore everyday. Especially when I’m on my feet in the kitchen doing all my baking! I even put them on at work & park my car out far and walk in the parking lot. Between that, the martial arts and the sensible eating, I’m really telling the difference.

Gotta be hot for that cruise this summer, heck for the whole spring & summer!

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:37 am

@ Kym – I want Paula Deans cookware…I saw a few pieces that are worth buying. Neeley’s Show kiss too much over the food/preparing for me. The have great meal though.

Is your lucky 1,401 a countdown as well?

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
11:38 am

Oh also CEEMEE i have a special “get hype” mix for the treadmill and elliptical on my ipod LOL now that i’m using the gym i have to stop myself from singing and dancing on the treadmill like i do when i’m at home

kimmie

March 24th, 2010
11:40 am

Cee- Yeah, the Neely’s do get a little sickening.

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:41 am

@ Melo – Lingergh/Brookhaven area has changed a little. Lots of alternative lifestyles with that area.

What place? Willie’s is the only new fish/seafood new.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
11:42 am

@ melo

re:did u read my recommendtion to u Monday about the fish and chips spot at Lindberg??

I suggest Porthmaddog N. Wales…the place is a carryout called “Allports” Only imitations in the US, This place has an attitude like the “Varsity” have your order in your mind and your cash in your hand.

East Point's Own

March 24th, 2010
11:42 am

Enter your comments hereI like to say that the same people are everywhere. For the most part the same people you meet at a bar, have a job somewhere, shop somewhere, (might) go to church somewhere, go play somewhere. So the pool of people you have a chance of meeting consists of all people who leave their homes at some point. The difference is how we may carry ourselves depending upon the enviornment we are in. That person dancing on the table at the bar could very well be an accountant who goes to church every week, but we all act differently depending upon our surroundings (or at least we should).

I used to have ‘rules’ about who I would not date based upon where I met them until I realized that these are all the same people. Like I said a while back, I know (female)doctors and lawyers who party at the Central Station one weekend, and the Velvet Room the next.

http://hispointofview.com

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:43 am

@ Kimmie – Our cleaning people here wear the Shape Ups all the time. So the DO work? I asked Maria if …nevermind the language barrier stopped that conversation.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 24th, 2010
11:44 am

Neeley’s Show kiss too much over the food/preparing for me. The have great meal though.

I agree the meals look great but I’m really with you with all the kissing n stuff all over the food….I’m like get a room or wait ’til y’all get home or go to commercial or sumthin…geesh.

My target date is in July also, since that’s when the Bday is..

I hear ya Princess…I’ve got a class reunion in July so yeah it’s on….I’ve seen some of my classmates on FB and was like :shock: ….wha had happened.

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
11:44 am

Like I said a while back, I know (female)doctors and lawyers who party at the Central Station one weekend, and the Velvet Room the next.

- i ahve mention this before EPO….and i got gigged for it..but i agree with what you said

Leggs

March 24th, 2010
11:45 am

@ Italian Studmuffin ~ I apologize, I didn’t answer you. I started off the morning looking in the mirror saying “you’re cute and it’s going to be a wonderful day” to getting my compliments at the gas station, to exchanging phone numbers to now having a lunch date. I’m good! :lol:

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:45 am

Princess – My son’s b-day is Friday. And mine is July! …interesting….

What date is yours?

mytw♥cents

March 24th, 2010
11:46 am

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪•*¨*•.¸¸♥ Then I look at you . . . And the world’s alright with me . . . ♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪•*¨*•.¸¸♥ Just one look at you . . . ♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪•*¨*•.¸¸♥

Kym-Today's lucky number is 1, 401

March 24th, 2010
11:47 am

@Dan not in the car for hours driving..but I rented a car late last year and I got to year all the NFL games(okay we know I only wanted to hear the Steelers game) but it was kind of cool to have access to like all jazz or all talk radio, when you are in the mood.

@Cee..that number is a very sad one for me right now..because without going into details..it means I have to do something I don’t like for the greater good in the future. It is rather depressing..for sure.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 24th, 2010
11:47 am

I’ve been wearing my Shape Up’s hardcore everyday

So they’re really worth it Kimmie? I looked into a pair when they first came out but I didn’t want to pay $100 for a pair of sneaks….now you got me thinkin.

Professor

March 24th, 2010
11:48 am

…y’all are rolling page 3.

@melo I thought about going to this nature spot for good food and a nice time on Easter weekend.

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
11:48 am

the funniest workout equipment is the SHAKE WEIGHT…guys have been shaking there weight for years…lol…if i knew it added in muscle development i would have done it more..lol

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:50 am

….I’m like get a room or wait ’til y’all get home or go to commercial or sumthin…geesh.

kimmie/SassaFrass you know i’m so serious!…I don’t like folks talking over food…and The Neely’s kissing all during the preparation repulses me after a while.

Chill out with that mess…

Dan

March 24th, 2010
11:51 am

shake weight?

Kym-Today's lucky number is 1, 401

March 24th, 2010
11:51 am

@Cee yeah the Neeley’s do pour it on thick. Now I want Rachel’s cookware..I like the bright orange..and her baking set..comes in a kind of yellow. My friend got Paula’s pots and pans at Target.

Melo

March 24th, 2010
11:51 am

Willie’s is the only new fish/seafood new

Cee??

down that road from/adjacent to Willies and near the linberg station theres a place called Firking @ Linberg..its a British lounge type bar..nice cod and chips in there!

Linberg is really looking uppity these days..wld be a nice area to live around too if only the condos in the area were fully occupied.If they dont get occupants soon,crime is crawling in.A lot are vacant,esp the new ones that came up as the real estate mrkt was tanking.

@Randyt??

I dont know about Allports but will check out their locations.

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 24th, 2010
11:51 am

Kym – I have Sirius as a part of my Dish Network service AND LOVE IT. I tend to have that on more than actual television or radio.

But as far as a subscription for my vehicle, I’m in my truck only about three hours a week total (I have a commute that’s less than 15 minutes each way.) – so, it wouldn’t make sense for me to pay for it in the truck.

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:52 am

@ Kym – Okay, I hope all is well.

Melo

March 24th, 2010
11:52 am

this nature spot??

where that at Professor??

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
11:52 am

CeeMee

July 27th

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:53 am

@ Kym – Yea im’a budget Paula’s cookwear in for this upcoming replenish for spring/summer cooking.

I’m excited bout using new cooking stuff.

Professor

March 24th, 2010
11:55 am

Melo…I just sent you the info

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
11:56 am

@Melo

http://www.allportsfishandchips.co.uk/

Really the best, and I’ve had fish and chips on three or four continents. Not greasy, unbelievably light and fluffy…unfortunately most of us don’t drive past one on a daily basis ;-) I had fish and chips last night here in Whitehaven, N. England. Pretty good but nothing like Allports.

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:56 am

Melo – Back during/after the Olympic Linbergh was a tight lil spot to live…it was city life feel, without the crackheads…

:)

Leggs

March 24th, 2010
11:56 am

@mytwo ~ that was cute!

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
11:57 am

July 27th

- i love leo woman..they usually are pretty and undercover freaks…but love there sunny outlook on life and they love to play there role…

Luvbug

March 24th, 2010
11:57 am

How do you attract the right people to you?

I don’t know.

Where did you meet?

I met 2 of 3 major guys via friends, and I grew up with1 of 3. All other guys in between, I met via friends and school.

I don’t think it matters where you meet a life long partner. People find love in all kinds of places and circumstances.

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:58 am

Princess – Awwww you a late July baby…still a summer bunny though. ain’t it fun?

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
11:58 am

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 24th, 2010
11:59 am

and The Neely’s kissing all during the preparation repulses me after a while.

Yeah between that and the hey daddy….yeah mama stuff I’m like this is a family show/network ain’t it?

As far as cookware I like Rachels things but Paula has her beat on the pot n pans…it’s like she got a gajillion of ‘em.

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
12:00 pm

CeeMee

oh yes its fun! but i always think whew i wonder how mamma made it through the dog days of summer being all big and preggers and I was overdue LOL

Lady J-got your 4 leaf clover, baby we will get over!

March 24th, 2010
12:00 pm

@Luvbug I agree!

I don’t think it matters where you meet a life long partner. People find love in all kinds of places and circumstances.

Melo

March 24th, 2010
12:01 pm

Proff?

thanks!

I have a buddy who neva communicates and literally dissappears when his work fortunes tank,gets laid off etc….but gets on Big ego when he is onto a job..

just saw his email(not read it yet) and im sure he is telling me ’bout his not so new job, how much he likes it and how high rolling he is doing ova there! :lol:

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
12:01 pm

“I don’t think it matters where you meet a life long partner. People find love in all kinds of places and circumstances.”

…and it usually happens when you STOP looking.

Kym-Today's lucky number is 1, 401

March 24th, 2010
12:01 pm

@Cee me too..I love new pots..bakeware..and any kind of kitchen gadget. This weekend QVC had a Kitchen Aid..food processor and the mixer on a great special..but alas..I have to wait. Ohh and as for the number it will be okay..just a bit of ughhh really it’s going to take that many days? Today’s number is all about waiting.

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
12:01 pm

lol @ “gajillion”

- Boy we can make up words caint we?!!?

off to lunch… OUTSIDE!!