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Need better matches?

After enduring some dating disaster or meeting a host of strange creatures, single people have to get proactive.  We can’t sit by and continue to let bad dates happen to us!  The thing is, it’s not necessarily difficult to attract people to you.

I could probably write a book about how to meet men who are handsome but know it and are arrogant.  I could teach a course on dating men who want all the perks of relationships and marriage but mention the big M word? They disappear faster than Tiger Wood’s sponsors.

The big question is: How do you attract the right people to you? The people you actually want to date past two weeks. The people that want what you want, when you want it.  Impossible? I don’t think so. Challenging? Definitely!

What are ways we can improve our chances of getting better matches?  If you aren’t online dating, you have to meet people more organically.   Is it possible to meet “The One” in a bar?

When you think about your last great date that developed into something substantial, where did you meet? Do you believe that the way you met and how you met made a real difference?

578 comments Add your comment

Leggs

March 24th, 2010
11:04 am

In case your wondering which one was waiting for me….the one who complimented my hair.

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
11:05 am

This lady at the gym had on a t-shirt that i loved it said:

Pretty is as pretty does, momma said don’t mess up cute by acting ugly

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:05 am

@ Carlito – Stop correcting yourself homie! It ain’t that serious…you’re just taking up blag space. I’m tryna catch up/read and then i see you post corrections …this is not Grammar 101.

:)

Leggs

March 24th, 2010
11:05 am

Yes, I know. It should be “you’re” wondering.

Carlito

March 24th, 2010
11:05 am

Leggs, I choose you :) How are you this beautiful day?

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
11:05 am

leggs is fine…told her so when i see her last summer in the mall…at a distance i was getting my mouth piece ready to spit..when i got up on her i was like o..its leggs hello…but still thinkin…when you going to let me — mrs parker..lol

kimmie

March 24th, 2010
11:06 am

and every women with the “serious” look is not mad…

Rell – Exactly!

Just tending to my own business.

And we’re not all out here constantly on the make. Just being my friendly self to everyone.

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:07 am

Anyone having Easter Brunch at their house? Grilling?

…can i come?

Carlito

March 24th, 2010
11:07 am

Cemeeli, blag space? Did you mean black or blog. :) Ha ha ha

Dan

March 24th, 2010
11:07 am

@kimmie

I feel you. I’m talking about the one’s that stay mad about something.

@SC

An easy smile, a natural smile – a beautiful smile has nothing to do with orthodontics.

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 24th, 2010
11:08 am

If ya’ have better matches, do you light a better fire?

Happy Catty...not SlimOne

March 24th, 2010
11:08 am

Happy Wipe Me Down Wednesday

Are we still on topic?

I’ve met dude at the job….online….at school That’s about it.

Carlito

March 24th, 2010
11:08 am

I want to……Mrs Parker :)

Lady J-Lioness

March 24th, 2010
11:09 am

PK I told a young lady student that yesterday…pretty girl but her attitude got her kicked out yesterday….today she gets the drift….lol

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 24th, 2010
11:09 am

The Dan – I disagree.

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:11 am

Rell – I’m back to eating good..been on Resturant week continuance!!! & then I cooked some Shrimp Etouffee (sp?) and ate right…and not light! hehehe :)

I might have a salad for lunch…

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
11:11 am

Lady J, i’m going to see if i can locate that tshirt it was that cute LOL.

Dan

March 24th, 2010
11:13 am

@SC

Variety is the spice of life.

As long as me and you ain’t after the same women, you’re more than entitled to your opinion.

But I likes a nice, easy smile (even if it is “miles before the next tooth)

kimmie

March 24th, 2010
11:13 am

Carlito – Maybe, but I’m my usual self with or without a boyfriend. I guess that’s the vibe I give out. I’ve had a few people to think I had a man when I didn’t, during my hiatuses. I guess some people do give out a different aura when they are in a relationship. One thing I learned very early is walking around mad at the world doesn’t make life pleasant. And I like things to be pleasant!LOL!!

Leggs – That’s so cool. I like hearing that! Keep us posted!

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:13 am

Lito – I did “blag” just for you, ain’t i the sweetest?…blog is always for kicks and giggles.

:)

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 24th, 2010
11:15 am

I think its reciprocity.. What you put out is what you get back.. No one has to deal with your bad behavior nor you theirs. I think communication and campaigning is the answer. I think you should stay campaigning on the date trail. Holla at whoever you wanna holla at and see what happens. I speak to everybody I see cute, ugly, bad built or brick house. If I see you frowning and I want to holla I just say hello and see how you respond and everything is always done with a smile. Its amazing what a smile and a you look nice today goes a loooong way. I always seek opportunities and not wait for the opportunity to seek me, I see every woman as a prospect. Am I out here chasing chicks around Publix or whereever.. No.. Im just being me, being cool and confident going about my daily B-I.. I love the chase though..

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 24th, 2010
11:15 am

(Talking to self)
Breathe. Shake. Let it go.

Kym-Today's lucky number is 1, 401

March 24th, 2010
11:16 am

@Cee I hope to be cooking my first Sunday dinner in my new home on Easter!!

Lady J-Lioness

March 24th, 2010
11:16 am

antihistamine makes me woooozy…….sigh….so allergic to spring and a mix of other stuff…..*sneeze* lol

Anotha Brotha

March 24th, 2010
11:16 am

First. Yes Rell, not talking to women does work wonders if they’re funny-style(if you’re an empowered kind of guy and they want you to notice them). Society has you all confused but women’s world revolves around men. Don’t shortchange your power.

And second, I’m not going to reward some random woman with attention for having a smug look on her face or being deceptive with her intentions. That would be enabling bad behavior and it sets the tone for the relationship. And if she’s just neutral you say? Well then what reason do I have to deal with her. Because she exists?

See this is why men get run through the ringer! Because you don’t require much. Now, if she has a pleasant smile on her face, then yes, I’m going to encourage that and acknowledge her because that takes effort and I respect her being accountable for how she presents herself.

Dudes today don’t know how to choose.

Happy Catty...not SlimOne

March 24th, 2010
11:16 am

Is this thing on?

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:17 am

Kym – What you cooking? Can you burn?

Congratulations!

kimmie

March 24th, 2010
11:17 am

Cee – I’m eating pretty right these days. Been bringing my breakfast & lunch. Saving a lot of money as well as calories.

I’m proud of myself!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 24th, 2010
11:17 am

Oh and my thing is your shoes.. Women love talking about shoes and I love looking at their cute shoes… So….. Thats always a good opening for me..

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
11:17 am

Rell – I’m back to eating good..been on Resturant week continuance

-i will say this…p90x has my downstroke like i am 22 again…lol…i amaze myself every tim..lol

Slim1 been banned?

March 24th, 2010
11:18 am

kimmie

March 24th, 2010
11:19 am

Oh and my thing is your shoes.. Women love talking about shoes

DK – You’re a smart man!LOL!!

Leggs

March 24th, 2010
11:20 am

@Rell ~ that was a very nice compliment. Thank you!

@ARed ~ read your post on meeting at a PlayDate event. I just this moment received a PlayDate announcment for 3/27. I think I’m going to attend. Both my big black toes are in the water, hoping to soon put full body in the dating pool!

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:21 am

@Kimmie – Good deal girl. It does pay off well.

@ Rell I ain’t touching that one. But i hear ya. But i guess if i still get apporaches from 20something dudes…i don’t have as many fat pockets as i think. …i’m my own critic, all the time!

SlimOne

March 24th, 2010
11:22 am

Are we still on topic? Happy Wipe Me Down Wednesday

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
11:23 am

See this is why men get run through the ringer! Because you don’t require much. Now, if she has a pleasant smile on her face, then yes, I’m going to encourage that and acknowledge her because that takes effort and I respect her being accountable for how she presents herse

-lol..i bet you have big forearms too..lol…dude you sound like a new christian…you must just got the game in your mouth

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 24th, 2010
11:23 am

I agree most dudes out here have the thirsty wolf look going after chicks and they smell the desperation in the chase.. I think if dudes be easy things will happen.. The hard press approach is way too much..

SexyCool - Project170 in full effect!

March 24th, 2010
11:24 am

Cem – “i’m my own critic, all the time!” Aren’t we all?

I say all that time that while I am my own biggest fan, I am also my own worst critic.

Sidenote – Loving the spring in the air. I can pull my golf clubs out AND softball season kicks off Tuesday night! HOT DAMN!!!!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 24th, 2010
11:24 am

Rell I just started Insanity and after that first workout I was sick…literally. It’s getting better though. I was tempted to get P90x but chose Insanity instead b/c it focuses more on cardio instead of the weights. How has it worked for you?

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
11:26 am

@sassy…see me in july and you tell me :-)

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR FLAT SHOALS PUBLIX

March 24th, 2010
11:27 am

Kimmie – Oh Im gonna say something to a chick with cute shoes on.. Believe it. Bet on it.. Count on it..

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:28 am

“Both my big black toes are in the water, hoping to soon put full body in the dating pool!”

That was cute…

PrincessNIk

March 24th, 2010
11:29 am

hmmm taking notes

Insanity
P90X

any other good workout options?

Kym-Today's lucky number is 1, 401

March 24th, 2010
11:29 am

@Cee I do okay..I am my own worst critic. I love trying recipes and well I kind of love Mrs. Paula(hit em’ with a butterpat) Deen and Rachel Ray oh and the Neeleys who put hotsauce in everything..I have three recipes from each that I might try.

kimmie

March 24th, 2010
11:29 am

I agree most dudes out here have the thirsty wolf look going after chicks and they smell the desperation in the chase.

DK – It’s downright frightening sometimes! Just be cool!

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
11:30 am

Golf & Softball! Yup, Spring is in the air…Do that!

Rell unplugged

March 24th, 2010
11:30 am

@cem/sas…my whole office does the p90x..we killing it er day…we BRING IT!!!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 24th, 2010
11:31 am

see me in july and you tell me

That’s my target month as well so umm…..I guess we’ll both see what it is ;)

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

March 24th, 2010
11:31 am

“You’ve created the life you’re leading (good, bad, or ugly) by the choices you’ve made. Accepting that as fact, own those choices and decide to make better ones. Bad dates don’t ‘happen’, you choose them.”

Absolutely 99.99% true in real life. Excellent. Too many people blaming others for their misfortune, and never wanting to be held accountable/responsibility for any of their own bad decisions.

kinderbabe--39 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 24th, 2010
11:31 am

@cemeeli…i’m not telling…lol. i promise when i get to the 10 day mark, i’ll give more details.:)