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Need better matches?

After enduring some dating disaster or meeting a host of strange creatures, single people have to get proactive.  We can’t sit by and continue to let bad dates happen to us!  The thing is, it’s not necessarily difficult to attract people to you.

I could probably write a book about how to meet men who are handsome but know it and are arrogant.  I could teach a course on dating men who want all the perks of relationships and marriage but mention the big M word? They disappear faster than Tiger Wood’s sponsors.

The big question is: How do you attract the right people to you? The people you actually want to date past two weeks. The people that want what you want, when you want it.  Impossible? I don’t think so. Challenging? Definitely!

What are ways we can improve our chances of getting better matches?  If you aren’t online dating, you have to meet people more organically.   Is it possible to meet “The One” in a bar?

When you think about your last great date that developed into something substantial, where did you meet? Do you believe that the way you met and how you met made a real difference?

578 comments Add your comment

Cemeeli

March 24th, 2010
4:30 pm

Going home.

My 2 nieces in armed services have invited me to watch on Skpye as they party….

~ Nite all.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
4:32 pm

4 women on this blog is not a great beta test imo.

Neither is your sole opinion. :lol:

I am whatever you say I am

March 24th, 2010
4:33 pm

<—–forgot that Carlito is Italian and my weakness to Italian men.

Carlito: just be sincere and say my name is Carlito how are you today and let the rest flow from there.
Please don't use a line.
Lines are for guys that have no game (like the dad from the movie Friday)

I am whatever you say I am

March 24th, 2010
4:34 pm

Amen @ Ared!

Leggs

March 24th, 2010
4:34 pm

Like her finance committing suicide in front of her!

Melo

March 24th, 2010
4:34 pm

sometimes u too real! lol…is that possible?

@Cemeeli??

whats too real to u folks is real real stuff to me,u just dont understand some a lot of thangs.

I was born in a hosp but grew up in a dusty rural village fro most of my lyfe,tending to cows and goats and walking with bare feet,getting spiked by fig thorns etc and sharing a floor bed with 3/4 bros and cousins but went to school thereafter in the city…. BUT I rock a suit better than most muthfackks in this camp!

I can switch up a notch and switch down a notch with ease!

proly more real than Monica! :lol:

I am whatever you say I am

March 24th, 2010
4:34 pm

stoopid blog monster ate my comments.
wise diva might be hongry again.

Leggs

March 24th, 2010
4:35 pm

I am whatever you say I am

March 24th, 2010
4:37 pm

Carlito: Just introduce yourself to a nice lady you think you want to know and let the conversation flow naturally.
Please don’t use a line or game. Leave that to the lonely old men in the club.

DreamsMaterialize

March 24th, 2010
4:37 pm

First one was really good. I’m tryin to remember what i was doing bak then
Was in college, so I doing all kinds of stuff. Ahhhhhh, the days…

Carlito
It’s always easy to criticize the performer when you’ve never had to get on the stage.

Melo

March 24th, 2010
4:37 pm

Like her finance committing suicide in front of her!

@Leggs??

maybe coz when it happened,she was young..

But,aint that hard in ma book..ive seen worse and still UP

u cant stop a muthfcker when they want to go!

I am whatever you say I am

March 24th, 2010
4:38 pm

random thought: I really really do have to pee

Leggs

March 24th, 2010
4:44 pm

@Melo, it may not be that hard in YOUR book, but apparently it was in HERS and it tore her up. Not everyone has the same constitution. What may break you may not break me!

Carlito

March 24th, 2010
4:45 pm

Once again I am just being Devil’s Advocate because it’s kind of dead in here at the moment. :)

LOL

Leggs

March 24th, 2010
4:47 pm

@Melo ~ also, there’s always two sides to the coin. My American experiences pales in comparison to how you grew up, no doubt!!!

kimmie

March 24th, 2010
4:48 pm

Carlito – I figured such!LOL!

Carlito

March 24th, 2010
4:49 pm

Mental note: African American women do not like being asked to smile by Italian men. Got it :)

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2010
4:49 pm

Correction, by any man. :D

Carlito

March 24th, 2010
4:51 pm

Kimmie, you busted me. :)

I am whatever you say I am

March 24th, 2010
4:52 pm

you know what?
I will flip the script and holla at Carlito

I am whatever you say I am

March 24th, 2010
4:52 pm

Carlito: What’s your stats baby?

Carlito

March 24th, 2010
4:53 pm

Italian Women: Check
White Woman: Check
Asian Women: Check
Black Women: HOLD

lol :)

Melo

March 24th, 2010
4:53 pm

random thought: I really really do have to pee

@I am??

i hope u dont mind me calling u Ms commando eve now and then?

thats ur signature move in my book..hope we get to meet one of these days!

Leggs

March 24th, 2010
4:54 pm

@Melo ~ and, hardship to me may be a walk in the park to you. Our upbringing molds who we are as adults. I don’t think there’s any getting around that. We can either buff out the rough edges and make ourselves marketable for employment or even a mate, or we continue down along the vein of dispair and wonder WTF to our life!

Carlito

March 24th, 2010
4:55 pm

I am, I am tall, in shape and not single. Gainfully employed and no kids :)

Happykitty not SlimOne

March 24th, 2010
4:56 pm

“Give her a smiley face, ladies love the smiley face.”

Carlito – women like you with a glazed doughnut face :lol:

Melo

March 24th, 2010
4:58 pm

True dat Leggs!

im gona get my psh on

u leggs u gon get ur rabbit on

everybody get ur sun dress on

get ur cobweb snatchers on

coz its thursday tmw,its a thursday tmrw,whachu u gon do everybody?

good nite!

:lol: :lol:

Leggs

March 24th, 2010
4:59 pm

People of God, adversity comes in many shapes, forms and fashions. Everyone will face adversity, but not everyone will conquer it. The difference between facing and conquering is knowing the secret ingredient. The secret ingredient is powerful; it’s a weapon; it’s articulate; and it’s a producer of victory. This ingredient is called “praise”.

Nitey nite!