Digital dating drama
I caught a few minutes of MTV’s True Life: I Have Digital Drama and I realized that I am truly an analog girl in a digital world. (Shout out to Ms. Badu!) I am connected to a lot of devices, but I don’t have one problem unplugging from time to time. Especially if Mr. Wonderful is within arm’s length. Priorities people!
The show follows people who are so plugged in to their digital worlds that their “analog” relationships are suffering. Even though the people in this show were younger, I have seen similar dynamics with people of different ages. Imagine you have managed to get into an actual relationship with that text message abuser. Things are going great until you realize that the reason they are text message offenders is because their thumbs are surgically attached to their smart phone. What happens when you both have a bad habit of being too plugged in, though?
One of the girls asked her boyfriend to keep his phone unlocked so she can do “spot checks”. Another girl stated that both her and her boyfriend “agreed” to allow access to each others emails. They thought it would actually work until he saw her reading an email from an ex-fling. She didn’t like the racy tone and he didn’t like having to explain his private communications. Talk about reality checks!
Do we need to give up privacy to be in a relationship? If so, exactly how much are you willing to give up? How do you handle dating drama caused by Facebook, Twitter, personal blogs, etc.? What would you do if the person you were getting really serious about asked for “digital” access? I don’t know about this. It sounds exhausting and kind of stupid. What do you think?
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Melo
March 23rd, 2010
3:24 pm
Women don’t count one night stands,or any sex that was not good, or random hook-ups
Raqi
March 23rd, 2010
3:26 pm
Rell, yep it happens. A lot of men think they have the monoply on pulling the shots but you best believe when a woman sets he mind to it….
Raqi
March 23rd, 2010
3:26 pm
Sassy, how you know. You a vergen too. LOL
Leggs
March 23rd, 2010
3:26 pm
Cute, real cute, Raqi! Yeah, I know what a person eats and drinks is dependent upon the aroma. I just thought it had an odor even if you didn’t eat anything all day!
SexyCool - To be continued...
March 23rd, 2010
3:27 pm
Sperm that smells? I think I just threw up in my mouth a little bit.
Raqi
March 23rd, 2010
3:27 pm
SexyCool, that because you are a vergen and you don’t know about that stuff.
Leggs
March 23rd, 2010
3:29 pm
Yes, sperm that smells can make you throw up in your mouth!
Melo
March 23rd, 2010
3:29 pm
esn’t all sperm smell.
I wld think so.
Ofcourse if u have sme extra,like an std,it smells different,proly more foul than ordinary.
Im sure the nana smells foul too when u have a yeast infection,RIGHT??
LURKER
March 23rd, 2010
3:29 pm
@Leggs….. You asked the right person Raqi is an expert…… YEAAAAAAAA!!!!!
@You can also ask SexyCool and AmazonRed they too are experts!! YEAAAAAAAAAA
@I am…… How you doing today? Still going to marry dude in another state? I bet you dream that story uo didnt you? YEAAAAAAAAAAA!!!
Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)
March 23rd, 2010
3:31 pm
how you know. You a vergen too.
That’s what the book had said…
teehee teehee
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR
March 23rd, 2010
3:31 pm
Rell – Yeah I dont know whats goin on.. I seem to be attracting married women too.. Im like Damn it Man..
Married women – Im cool on the married babes but ya’ll aint gonna keep trying me with the lifting up ya skirts, battin ya eyes, serious flirting and mess.. Just because I have skruples and honor your relationship, Ya better Gwon on now.. I cant keep being all good and stuff..
Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)
March 23rd, 2010
3:33 pm
dude you stoopid…go kill yoself…
Raqi
March 23rd, 2010
3:33 pm
Leggs, little jimmy threw up in your mouth, so return the favor. LOL
Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)
March 23rd, 2010
3:36 pm
LURKER
March 23rd, 2010
3:36 pm
Fellas…… Married woman are in heat……at the gym they are smiling and looking while the husband is right there. They are bringing up sexual conversations when you are talking about how good the spinning class was……..What in the hizze is going on? YEAAA!!!!!
Melo
March 23rd, 2010
3:37 pm
Yes, sperm that smells can make you throw up in your mouth!
@Leggs!??
I thoght u said u dont swallow anyway??
Rell unplugged
March 23rd, 2010
3:37 pm
leggs why you not jumping on the fellas talking the same ish i am talking
Raqi
March 23rd, 2010
3:39 pm
Sassy, I know. Yall are horrible. WiseDiva needs to get better control of her ward.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR
March 23rd, 2010
3:39 pm
I guess theyre catching up with married men.. I see married dudes hitting on my female friends and I dont knock the hustle but Bwoi! They dont know what they are getting into.. My Homegirls think like dudes.. They got more game than Summer Camp..
Raqi
March 23rd, 2010
3:40 pm
LOL Infamous. I guess the old saying is true. If you can’t beat’em join’em.
Raqi
March 23rd, 2010
3:40 pm
Who making love to your old lady while you are out making love?????
LURKER
March 23rd, 2010
3:41 pm
@Melo……Leggs just likes do a little tastin…….
@Sassy…..So that is what you have read huh…….. Can we get your profession opinion regarding the taste test?
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR
March 23rd, 2010
3:42 pm
I was walking thru the crowd and I seen her with her team I tapped her on the shoulder and said I like them Jeans..
This mentoring thing I tell ya.. I hear some of this High School music and some of it catches me..
TravYYYY!!!
Melo
March 23rd, 2010
3:48 pm
Who making love to your old lady while you are out making love??
sometimes u gotta leave ur old woman’s puddssy fallow so it can catch a break,and grow back some wang-pad hair!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR
March 23rd, 2010
3:49 pm
Raqi – Im gonna spare em a beating cause I aint gonna be the cause of another black family being destroyed.. Although this one here lately has been very hard pressed trying to give me some.. Ive been avoiding the chick cause she already told me she’s gone get me.. As soon as she get me somewhere where I can run from her.. And when I say this chick is bout 5′10″,Ballet dancing, AKA, paid Babe, bow legged super fine bad a$$ MF. Its been hard on a Playa.. Hard on me I tell ya to thwart her advances.. I mean she walked in the party and every dude stopped.. It was like the music stopped, somebody had a portable wind/smoke machine and her own theme music started playing.. Bad I tell ya.. Oh OK Im back..
Rell unplugged
March 23rd, 2010
3:49 pm
Devin the Dude)
I be stickin this d ick up in these h oes h oes
’til a couple of b itches b itches get caught by they n iggaz
(Devin the Dude)
N iggaz trippin – and for what?
Why must he think he ‘posed to change her
When she’ll give the p ussy up even to a, total stranger
And, I’m just one of ‘em, you can’t trust none of them
They’ll say they love you while they wipin your c um on them
Then they’ll run and tell her friends how she found another sucker
to pay a fee for p us-sy but not – me, mother fu ckahHHH
I move quick with my pool stick, Slicker than Willie
Slicker than Kelly, slicker than KY Jelly
But really this d ick has got me in a lot of trouble recently
I bend ‘em and go in ‘em and don’t even have the decency
to call her, my balls have been leaked of most of their fluids
I used to put the rubber on and s keet straight through it
And it seems, that I always keep my pipe in these h oes
Keep my mic at these shows, cause that’s the life that I chose
Leggs
March 23rd, 2010
3:50 pm
@Rell, if I jumped down your throat that wasn’t my intent. However, your whole post seemed to be laced with venom so I thought I asked. I could be reading it wrong, so I asked. Your entire post is the same thing that men do but it seemed to be a slur. And then your answer to me was full of marlarky.
@Melo ~ you can still taste it w/o swallowing! I’ve already explained how and was told I gave away a gem so I can’t repeat for those who don’t remember it.
Carlito
March 23rd, 2010
3:53 pm
Only privacy I expect in a relationship is when I’m in the bathroom doing the “#2″ and that is it.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR
March 23rd, 2010
3:53 pm
Rell – Im give ya Dre, Snoop and Devin.. You know the one..
Devin the Dude – Your favorite rappers favorite rapper.
Melo
March 23rd, 2010
3:54 pm
Im gonna spare em a beating cause I aint gonna be the cause of another black family being destroyed
DK??
problem with tapping a married woman is u wont know who shot u,when u do get shot??
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR
March 23rd, 2010
3:55 pm
Melo – Nah Dogg I am ruled by a code and part of that code is.. Married women are off limits..
Melo
March 23rd, 2010
3:56 pm
a gem so I can’t repeat for those who don’t remember it
@Leggs??
I hear them crickets so the lesson must have been understood!
Raqi
March 23rd, 2010
3:59 pm
Infamous, pretend like this isn’t me because I know some folks don’t like to hear me say such things. But if that woman is out there on the prowl like that her man is at sleeping in every sense.
There is a saying, “Don’t go to the grocery store hungry. You will buy more than you intended.”
Like a woman is to keep her man’s belly full and the prostate empty. Her man should leave no standing room for the tourists.
DreamsMaterialize
March 23rd, 2010
4:00 pm
Yeah the married woman are off the chains. It always makes me think of Chris Rock when he said “You know why your wife is always mad at you? Cuz you wasn’t her first choice.” lol
SexyCool - To be continued...
March 23rd, 2010
4:02 pm
Like a woman is to keep her man’s belly full and the prostate empty.
Raqi – I just told a gf something very similar to this just this morning. I substituted *SACK* for *prostate.*
Raqi
March 23rd, 2010
4:05 pm
TING
SexyCool, that’s me tapping my bottle of Snapple at ya.
Melo
March 23rd, 2010
4:05 pm
Her man should leave no standing room for the tourists.
@Raqi!
how many times u and u hubby do maintenance work in ur house, ur bedroom in particular,taking care of thoise walls??.
It must feel like some lil manufacturing thang is going on when u and mason are at it!
Lucky MASON!
Rell unplugged
March 23rd, 2010
4:05 pm
Like a woman is to keep her man’s belly full and the prostate empty. Her man should leave no standing room for the tourists.
-your husband is lucky arse to have a chick like you..i cosign
SexyCool - To be continued...
March 23rd, 2010
4:05 pm
#RandomThought – Wondering who moved Atlanta to Seattle without telling me.
Wise Diva
March 23rd, 2010
4:07 pm
I am so very late in my response to CSM: well as a general rule, I don’t mention the blog to dudes until they have shown that they will be around for more than 3 dates, LOL. I don’t write about them until after they are told about it and are ok with being mentioned.
There was one guy who knew that I wrote the blog prior to our first date. Oddly enough, he was really anxious to get a mention in a blog post. We never made it to date #2 but I doubt it was because of the blog thing.
Raqi
March 23rd, 2010
4:07 pm
how many times u and u hubby do maintenance work in ur house, ur bedroom in particular,taking care of thoise walls??
Melo, As Needed.
Rell unplugged
March 23rd, 2010
4:10 pm
Like a woman is to keep her man’s belly full and the prostate empty. Her man should leave no standing room for the tourists.
-mason is a lucky man per-od
Raqi
March 23rd, 2010
4:12 pm
Heck Rell, I’m lucky. I like good sex just as much as the next MAN.
Carlito
March 23rd, 2010
4:12 pm
Daddy’s home, I know you’ve been waiting for this loving all day. All my ladies say “hey hey….hey daddy”
Phatty Catty...not SlimOne
March 23rd, 2010
4:14 pm
I dip out for a minute, only to come back to the smell of a mans nut juice.
Smells like ajax to me 
Men you always want chicks to ’swallow’ but maybe if you increased your fruit & berries intake that it would make it much more palatable. DUH!!
Professor
March 23rd, 2010
4:15 pm
Like a woman is to keep her man’s belly full and the prostate empty.
This is what we are reduced to….
Phatty Catty...not SlimOne
March 23rd, 2010
4:15 pm
@Carlito “Daddy’s home, I know you’ve been waiting for this loving all day” heyyyyyyy daddy…phatty catty’s been bad. Come closer and I’ll whisper in your ear what I think my pleasure..oops I mean punishment should be
Enjoyceinglife
March 23rd, 2010
4:17 pm
If you are in love with someone, and you’ve established that you are in a committed relationship with them, you should trust them and therefore, not need access to all of their communications. I know its easier said than done, but trust is the basis of a good relationship.
Dig That
March 23rd, 2010
4:17 pm
@Slim
I keep the fruit intake healthy. But I’m glad you brought that up because I do my part just for the ladies. Lol
Professor
March 23rd, 2010
4:18 pm
hey daddy! I love that song