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One of the trickiest things to deal with post-break up is “reclaiming yourself” so to speak.  For example, you rediscover your friends.  I’m talking the great ones that don’t hold grudges because you all but disappear from the land of the living with your boo.  You get back to doing the things that only you enjoy doing — out in the open, without fear of getting strange looks from your significant other.

You will also have to adjust to sleeping alone again, cooking for one, and having to find a “plus one” for parties.  Sounds slightly depressing, doesn’t it?  Whether you were the dumper or dumpee, you are probably dealing with some kind of emotion. Guys, you can call it something else, if you want to, but you go through “something” too!

What are the best ways to deal with break-ups?  I am referring to the bad breakups that make you feel as if you’ve gone a couple of rounds with Pacquiao – except you actually landed tough punches.

How do you adjust to life after <insert wonderful/horrible ex-mate’s name here>?  Does it help when you are able to forge a friendship with the person? Is that even a good idea?

Your turn: What is the best way to handle a break up?

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Jeff

March 22nd, 2010
8:11 am

Being close friends doesn’t work. Being socially cordial is fine.

I go for a nice long, slow run. I allow a mourning period, strip club, go get some food I gave up because she didn’t like it, reclaim my house as having my influence only, etc. Basically, piece by piece purge her from my life. But unlike women, I don’t burn her stuff, scratch her car, write bad stuff about her on the internet, degrade her bedroom skills, call her family members, etc.

Jeff

March 22nd, 2010
8:12 am

Nananana, plsst (tongue stuck out). I’m first.

Lady J

March 22nd, 2010
8:19 am

lmao jeff that’s a great high to be first huh! lol

Lady J

March 22nd, 2010
8:26 am

hmmmmm a friendship with the ex……..have to agree with the 1st poster socially sure close not at all….my record with being friends with ex lovers is pretty low….one has challenge me with remaining friends and I guess I have embraced it somewhat…..it’s periodically hello how are you etc every blue moon……other than that I don’t….I don’t see the purpose really….I have my own set of friends male and female and we were lovers not friends per se……it is just not the same to me…..

have a great day folks!

Raqi...Recently separated from Ben & Jerry

March 22nd, 2010
8:47 am

Break Ups are hard to do. I don’t think remaining friends is the best way to go. I couldn’t do it. Being cordial is one thing, but claiming to be friends is just too crazy for me.

The one thing that I learned about breaking up is you need time for it to truly register in your mind. It needs to process in your heart. And remaining friends, if you ever were truly friends, IMO just prolongs the process. You are hanging on to the past. You are hanging on to parts of that relationship.

The best thing to do would be to recapture whatever part of you that may have been lost in the relationship. Or better yet take whatever lessons to be learned from that past relationship and strive for a better you.

You have to be careful to not prematurely get into an even worse relationship trying to find a way to forget about or mask over the prior one.

Thomas

March 22nd, 2010
8:49 am

Hmmm that is honestly a tough question. I can not speak for everyone, but personally I prefer to distance myself for a long while. To get my head back straight.
I made the mistake of dating rather quickly again and subconsciously assumed my next partner would behave a certain way and know me already.
Lesson learned; take a long break to clear your head and not go into the next relationship with preconceived notions. Find yourself and see what lessons you learned from your ex. I learned a few new dishes to cook. =)

Raqi...Recently separated from Ben & Jerry

March 22nd, 2010
8:56 am

LadyJ, I have a bff that said when she tried to be friends with an ex it created problems in whatever new relationship she tried to entertain. She said she was accused by one guy that she and the ex were still sleeping together. At the time he accused her they weren’t but it was only a matter of time before they were again.

I can see how easily that could happen. You have the comfort and the familiarity. If you find yourself needing a shoulder to cry on or warm hug, that “friendex”, not that they would purposely take advantage of you, offers a place to go that is so easy to fall into.

I couldn’t do it. Not to mention since we broke up that probably means there is some strife between us that I wouldn’t want you around me anyway.

Fulton

March 22nd, 2010
9:00 am

While staying ‘friends’ with the ex sounds cool, in reality it’s just prolonged misery for the one who got dumped. In most cases they’re only hanging on in hope that the other just might change their mind.
After a break up, I say stay out of the game and take a moment to yourself. Those rebound situations usually end up making things worse anyway.

Lady J

March 22nd, 2010
9:02 am

so true raqi!!!! playing devi’s advocate with a man always going back to that one ex that he truly wanted and she placed him in FZ to find comfort is a huge red flag for me……it is an unfair friendship to try to be something of less for sake of communicating……this was a biggie in college not sure if adults still use this act of getting over….lol….

Lady J

March 22nd, 2010
9:05 am

fulton I feel your post….that is why I get ghost really what’s to talk about after it is over???? It is over! go heal without involving another party…..as Thomas pointed out learn from it and find a new hobby and with time you will be out dating again but it does take time to heal….you are only fooling yourself to jump back out there saying I am fine and really hurt especially if you’ve been rejected

CMS

March 22nd, 2010
9:07 am

What’s the difference in being friends with someone you recently broke up with and being placed in the friend zone? Both are pointless in my opinion and should be avoided at all costs.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
9:10 am

Mo (aka Moeisha - March Madness has my head hurting)

March 22nd, 2010
9:10 am

Morning everyone!

Friends w an ex…..well I have a dear friend that is an ex but he’s an ex from way back. So there was a significant amount of time before we ventured into a friendship. My ex and I are cool but I wouldnt call us friends per se.

Michael

March 22nd, 2010
9:11 am

Do not hold on to your ex by trying to now be friends. Who are you kidding? Get on with your life, take up a new hobby, go to church, go hiking, volunteer, but take care of yourself. Better things are ahead. Dating is all about finding compatibility, there should be a lot of frogs thrown back into the pond.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
9:13 am

Like I say all the time…“We can just CALL it friends. We don’t have to BE friends.”

That being said, I truly believe that a part of the pain of a break up comes is physiological response to the change in your routine, your thought patterns, etc. Habits are hard to break and we are naturally resistant to the one constant in our lives – change.

Lady J

March 22nd, 2010
9:16 am

I somewhat hate the word friend in the dating world…..it is misused just like the word hater….geesh #random! ha!

Bit-O-Hunny

March 22nd, 2010
9:16 am

Wow…I haven’t been on here in FOREVER! Good to see the old heads still holding it down. Hi Raqi and Mo!

On topic: I’ve been successfully able to maintain a friendship with an ex. We were friends years before we decided to see if we could be more. We soon learned that we were better as friends. It’s nothing weird between us. He’s in a relationship and so am I. We both get along well with one anothers significant other and there is no drama.

ps. I’m having my first child (a girl) in 2 weeks! Yay!!

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
9:16 am

I am reminded of that *hit* from Trina – Single Again.
♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
I’m Single Again Back On The Prowl
I Thought It Was Perfect I Don’t Know How
I’m Single Again Back On The Prowl
I Thought It Was Perfect I Don’t Know How
I’m Single Again

That and Beyonce’s To The Left were in strong rotation right after I put Shithead out.

Fulton

March 22nd, 2010
9:17 am

Lady J – At this point, I choose to remain single because I know what I like and what I can deal with. But, I wasn’t able to figure that out until I to took a break from dating and just focused on self. Unfortunately, most of what I see out there just isn’t up to my standards (hell yeah I’m being picky), so I just leave it alone. So many in Atl are either too shallow and materialistic, ghetto fabed or gay. Yep, I said it….

Dan

March 22nd, 2010
9:19 am

A break up produces some anger, some resentment for at least one party in the relationship in 95 percent of instance. Given that, who would want to be friends with an ex? The other 5 percent.

If it’s amiable, if you’re both adults, if the dumpee has truly moved on, there is no reason that people that used to date can’t be friends. My thought is that I don’t like a lot of people, so the one’s that I do like, I tend to try and keep them around.

But, hey, that’s me. I’m generous like that.

Lady J

March 22nd, 2010
9:19 am

I feel ya Fulton!

Dan

March 22nd, 2010
9:21 am

@Bit

Congrats!!

Lady J

March 22nd, 2010
9:21 am

most times the dumbee just doesn’t move on that swiftly adult or not over time sure a hello here and there but buddy,buddy daily naw Dan….

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
9:22 am

When’s the wedding?

Lady J

March 22nd, 2010
9:22 am

Congrats Bit of Hunny Girls Rock! :)

Bit-O-Hunny

March 22nd, 2010
9:26 am

Thanks Dan and Lady J!!! I’m thrilled!

Mo (aka Moeisha - March Madness has my head hurting)

March 22nd, 2010
9:26 am

Hey Bit-o-Hunny!! Congrats on the lil Diva!! Good to read you again chica!

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
9:31 am

I *think* I have a comment stuck in moderation. Either that or I have slid into an alternate universe.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
9:32 am

Morning lovelies – I had my toes out on Saturday, and my snow boots on today. :|

I think first rule is to not lose yourself in the first place. Easier said than done, of course, but unless it’s your very first break up, you should learn to leave a little for yourself in the next relationship.

I too, believe in a mourning period. But then, get right back out there. Life is too short and too good to wallow. I rather believe that I’m free to find the right one, and that makes the future look way more brighter.

As for becoming friends… f*ck em! :lol:

SlimOne on autopilot

March 22nd, 2010
9:34 am

Morning all

Best way to deal with a breakup I would say, would be to be social. Don’t sit around at home moping around looking pitiful. If you need to cry or yell & scream, do so then keep it moving. It doesn’t take the pain, hurt or sadness completely away, but at least activities will occupy your mind to a point where you aren’t suicidal or totally depressed. It’s just going to be one of those hard things in life that time eventually will heal.

btw, really enjoyed seeing the Ques in their capes lookin all fine n sh!t at the stepshow Saturday. Mmmmm Mmmmm goood ;-)

Lady J

March 22nd, 2010
9:34 am

Good Post ARed!

Raqi...Recently separated from Ben & Jerry

March 22nd, 2010
9:37 am

Congratulations Bit-O.

CoolShadow

March 22nd, 2010
9:37 am

@ Raqi- your 8:47 assessment is spot on.

At the risk of being redundant with previous postings, you need to reconnect with yourself, look both introspectively and retrospectively to see where things fell apart and acknowledge the lesson learned. Reassess and readjust when you’re ready to move on to subsequent relationships. Use your support network to lend an ear and be a voice (hopefully objective) of reason.

How you process the recovery and the journey to get there may differ, but one thing you shouldn’t do is linger on the past and prolong your pity parties lest the potential to erode your support base.
Find a element to use as your catharsis, be it a hobby, volunteering, outings or a new man/woman. :)

As for friendship with the ex, it’s probably best to keep your distance until some time has elapsed. Maybe a friendship will rekindle, but maybe not.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
9:38 am

Hola!

I don’t do friendships with the ex. I have one ex like Mo from 1-2-3 wayyyyyyyy back and we are cool, but that is it. I tend to agree with Fulton being friends tend to prolong the hurt for the person that is still hoping. Plus I am the type that enjoys moving on.

As for the best way to get over an ex…I do not hold on to a bunch of ish to cry over. Either I put it up or it goes on ebay. I try to stay in the mix with my girlfriends and have dinner and stuff at least once a month. S after a break up I never left the posse and can slide righ in without getting the side eyes.

Beelzebubba - Demon of the South

March 22nd, 2010
9:41 am

The single scene isn’t for all men. So far, I don’t care for it. I was recently divorced after my wife admitted in a drunken stupor that she had slept with Tiger. I went to the park Saturday to see if I could run across a woman to befriend. I soon left and went back home after being approached twice by gay men on the prowl. I don’t think I’m going to like it much.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
9:42 am

I forgot to say this I feel like there are two kinds of break ups (1)the one that knock you off your feet and you never saw it coming. Example dude tells you he cheated on you and now the other woman is pregnant, and you thought things were going great. (2) You and your SO have cussed and fussed the the past six months and you can feel the relationship shifting.

With #2 you should have planned your escape and started reading and reconnecting…with #1 you are just trying to keep things going.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
9:45 am

Oh…and yeah…I am cordial with some of my exes. However, these are not people that I have any sort of regular contact with. Hell, I’m even FB friends with my ex-husband.

Speaking of exes and FB, a dude that I dated casually about 5 or 6 years ago recently sent me a friend request on FB. I accepted. His page show that he is now married to a lovely wife with three beautiful children. Friday, my phone rang and it was him. (Reminder to self – take phone number off FB page.) He was calling to see if he could take me to lunch. My response – “You can’t be fckng serious.” Just wow – shakes head…

Raqi...Recently separated from Ben & Jerry

March 22nd, 2010
9:48 am

LOL SexyCool. Just like the huh? Let’s go to lunch. I hope his invite included his wife and TheDude.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
9:51 am

Naw. It was more like, “You shoooooole is looking good. I need to take you to lunch so we can *catch up*.” GTFOH! Seriously?!?!?

Lady J

March 22nd, 2010
9:57 am

he tried ya! they all do men and women our response sets the tone for action……lol sexy cool that was funny! lol

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
9:58 am

Morning all…

What happened to spring…?

On topic: I’m not advocating this as a strategy, but after breaking up with my last ex, I went on a man-wh@ring binge of a lifetime & I think it helped me recover quite nicely. :lol: And as for the “friendship” with the ex thing — well, I was “friends” with that ex for a while, but only because I occasionally still phlucked her. Once I started seriously dating (and stopped wh@ring), that “friendship” went by the wayside… :lol:

Raqi...Recently separated from Ben & Jerry

March 22nd, 2010
9:59 am

I had been saying for several months that I was going to break up with Ben & Jerry. I my mind I really wanted to. I knew I needed to. But I kept them around. Every time I opened that door there they were staring at me. Reminding me of how wonderful they made me feel when I needed comfort. And before I knew it there I was again entangled in a ménage trios. It’s bad. It’s horrible. But it is soooo good. It’s detrimental to my health and it works against what I am aiming to achieve so I knew that in order to get over them I had to cut them out of my life completely. I took what was left and dumped it. Put it out of my sight. Hoping never to look back.

Now imagine that’s your ex. LOL

Lady J

March 22nd, 2010
10:03 am

that virtual playground of FB makes on think it is ok to be carefree like we were years back…..some get it twisted….lol…..fb can be the devil if you let it….lol

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
10:03 am

wow, sc say it aint so….i am hearing alot of married men knocking up bust downs..thats killing me

Lady J

March 22nd, 2010
10:04 am

Lady J

March 22nd, 2010
10:04 am

meant makes one think not on….lol

kinderbabe--43 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 22nd, 2010
10:07 am

good morning, everyone!:)

JtJ

March 22nd, 2010
10:08 am

Morning All,
I thank God that I have not had to deal with this much, but being single after divorce, was a whole ‘nother story for me. Young and inexperienced at the age of 26, after being married for almost 7 yrs, it was a lot of crying, screaming, and weight loss for me. After realizing that I gained just as much as I had lost, I was able to get up and start my life again. My ex and I are cordial, because we have kids, but when he trys to be all buddy-buddy, his feelings get hurt when he realizes that he misses what he had. Then, he turns into Dr. Jekyll (sp) and tells me don’t call him or text unless it is about the kids. I am then thinking to myslef, nicca, that’s the only time I call or text you, you the one who try to go down memory lane!!

Friend-like relationships can exist with ex-s, but not like BFF’s or too close that they are able to think they have another chance with you.

East Point's Own

March 22nd, 2010
10:10 am

Wow… is this a first??? does everyone actually agree on an idea ” there is no good reason to be friends after a break up”
Mark this date on your calenders
http://hispointofview.com

idk...realizing my age...!

March 22nd, 2010
10:17 am

i think you can be friends with an ex, bc as some have stated, you do like that person. if the relay ends mutually, then after some seperation time i definiely think a friendship could form. in fact, i know it. but dating sucks. that is all. have a great day everyone.

Raqi...Recently separated from Ben & Jerry

March 22nd, 2010
10:18 am

SexyCool, aside from other reasons, that what you experienced in the reason I will not do face book. You are not the first person that I have heard that by accepting a friend request an ex has made an inappropriate comment or assumed something to be there that clearly wasn’t. One of my bffs deleted her page altogether. It’s seems a couple of exes found her and assumed something because she accepted the request. And that caused problems with her husband.

JtJ

March 22nd, 2010
10:21 am

@ Raqi..your seperation from Ben & Jerry must be just as hard as mine from Milky Way with his dark chocolate self!!

@ SexyC- Ol’ dude might’ve tried…..willing to risk his family for a chance to hook back up with an ex….smh

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
10:26 am

In hindsight, it was not a real surprise considering how he was when we dated all those years ago. (Which is also why it never went past some dates and a hook up or two over about three or four months.) I realized he came with a special brand of bllsht back then.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
10:30 am

Single Again? Nope not me, I can’t comment on that one. I have to much to be happy about :)

Friends with an ex? If there is enough to salvage a friendship, how is there not enough to salvage the relationship. And what male or female,in your new relationship, is going to be okay with you being friends and buddy buddy with your ex, whom you used to love and “bump uglies with”?

PrincessNIk

March 22nd, 2010
10:30 am

My ex and I are cordial, because we have kids, but when he trys to be all buddy-buddy, his feelings get hurt when he realizes that he misses what he had. Then, he turns into Dr. Jekyll (sp) and tells me don’t call him or text unless it is about the kids. I am then thinking to myslef, nicca, that’s the only time I call or text you, you the one who try to go down memory lane!!

JTJ same here (except one Kid)

Morning all

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
10:31 am

Carlito – I actually thought about you last night. Wondered how your weekend went. Glad to see you smiling.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
10:32 am

I couldn’t do it. Not to mention since we broke up that probably means there is some strife between us that I wouldn’t want you around me anyway.

:idea:

Lady24k

March 22nd, 2010
10:33 am

GO to the Gym and work out..It will help you shed all that “HAPPY WEIGHT” and you may meet some new freinds in the process

Raqi...Recently separated from Ben & Jerry

March 22nd, 2010
10:33 am

My ex and I are cordial, because we have kids

JtJ, that there is how I am with my son’s father. I thought at the beginning he and I could be friends for the kid’s sake but I found out quickly that it would never work. Now that the boy is 15 his father and I hardly ever speak. The boy is old enough to go to his father’s house and return without much interaction from me.

When he was much younger I would see him out to the car and go out to the car to get him when he was returned home. Now I don’t need to do that. He just let’s me know when he is leaving and let’s me know when he gets home.

Next year he will probably have a car of his own and his will not even need to come to the house to pick him up.

Tweti

March 22nd, 2010
10:35 am

Wow…I feel like the village idiot. I’m friends (WITHOUT benefits) with all of my ex’s. My ex-husband and I are actually best friends; just got off the phone with him…talked about how his new baby is keeping him and the Missus up all night! My family gave a birthday party for my Papa on Saturday…2 of my ex’s, as well as my current S.O., were in attendance. Everybody gets along fine. I’ll get some counseling, since this behavior is clearly unheard of and unacceptable in most circles! LOL.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
10:38 am

@BitOHoney ~ Congratulations. I love babies, esp. girls.

@Carlito ~ “…If there is enough to salvage a friendship, how is there not enough to salvage the relationship” Great point, and glad you’re taking your own advice…I see you smiling way over here!

My ex will forever be in my life due to lil leggs, but I don’t like him!

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
10:39 am

@Tweti it is great you are able to keep the frienship ties.

PrincessNIk

March 22nd, 2010
10:40 am

@Tweti

nobody is saying it COULDN’T happen, i think most of us just haven’t come across an ex that was worth maintaining a true diehard friendship with. as for me i have enough male friends that i don’t need to throw any ex’s into the mix.

Raqi...Recently separated from Ben & Jerry

March 22nd, 2010
10:40 am

Tweti, no need for the counseling. LOL What works for some doesn’t work for all.
I have to agree with Carlito in saying if there is a salvageable friendship why not still be in a relationship. Part of what makes a relationship great is friendship that you have. And then many relationships start out as friendships so what’s to prevent the backwash after you have gotten into another relationship.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
10:40 am

Well, no…in a situation like that, the village *idiot* is not what I would call you.

Who wants to be around that many dudes that they have related with at one time?

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
10:40 am

Yes…I love Facebook.

I was trying to be friends with an ex…but he was letting me know that he was factoring me into his future. He was talking marriage, kids, travel, the whole nine. I got suspicious about all this “talk” and no action… so I went to Facebook. There I found out he is very much involved with someone else. Upon confronting him, he lied about it.

Yes…I LOVE Facebook!!!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
10:41 am

What are the best ways to deal with break-ups? I am referring to the bad breakups that make you feel as if you’ve gone a couple of rounds with Pacquiao – except you actually landed tough punches.

For me going through a break up is like mourning…and for me the best way to deal with it is to allow myself to go through those feelings,the hurt and the tears. I retreat into myself and just fall back so to speak…while I heal. During this process I remove all visible reminders and erase phone numbers and finally I resign myself to the fact that this isn’t the first break up and it won’t be the last as I realize that I’m gone be just fine,fine,fine.

Does it help when you are able to forge a friendship with the person? Is that even a good idea? Unless children are involved and/or the breakup wasn’t “bad” then maybe but other than that I feel like you’re my ex for a reason so kick rocks….

Liza

March 22nd, 2010
10:42 am

I exited a 22 year marriage a while ago. It was absolutely necessary to leave and I am 100% sure of that.

The best part about being single again is that I have reconnected with friends, and now put a lot more effort into growing and maintaining friendships — both with female friends and with couples.

I am entering the dating world again and am really comfortalbe with it because i. I know I am just fine being single, 2. I’ll meet new people and 3. regardless of what happens, I’ll surely have some great new stories to tell!

All this to say, embrace where you are in your life and LIVE LIFE.

Dar

March 22nd, 2010
10:43 am

It is kinda easy to take the high road and say “let’s be friends” when you are the dumper. However, if I were the dumpee it would be a good long while before I could really be friends and it would depend on how the dumping was handled. I have been officially dumped once and he will never deserve my friendship because he cheated, lied, crapped all over me about it and then walked out on me and our child. Why in the world would I ever want to be friends with someone like that? My X has virtually none of the qualities that I would look for in an acquaintance better yet an actual friend. I am civil because we must co-parent, but I have no desire to be anything more and I am getting stronger every day and more able to shut him down with his seemingly constant need to speak with me about what is going on in his life (he is alone, broke, in debt and miserable….poor bad choice making baby). They say there is a very fine line between love and hate, that the two are in the middle of the scale rather than at opposite ends; after what I have gone through over the last two years with my X I finally understand that. Peace and love to all.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
10:43 am

Sexy Cool, We had a great weekend, Friday was wonderful. I went to the Farmer’s Market and got all of the ingredients to make some homemade sauce. We had dinner and just hung out at home. I woke up Saturday morning to the smell of breakfast :) As I went to the basement to smoke my Saturday Veggies, my stash spot was empty. Long story short she threw away my “greens”. Ehhh, small price to pay, I need to stop smoking the “icky” anyway. We had breakfast, went out driving and tried to get lost. We never made it to Leopard Lounge, as we did not want to be around large groups of other people. Sunday morning we went to church and the message was spot on. Right before we left the Pastor started to pray and while he was pray I put my arm around her and she leaned in. I fully realized that I am her covering, that felt good :) . We came back to my house put on our pj’s, lounged and watched basketball all day. This morning I took her back to the airport, all in all great weekend. How was yours?

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
10:44 am

@Tweti ~ I too am friends with all of my ex’s but there’s only one I don’t care for. I was going through some papers last night and came across my wedding planner, and when I saw his mother’s name I almost puked. I’m so glad I have no dealings with her and even wished to myself I had no dealings with him. But, that’s not case.

Liza

March 22nd, 2010
10:44 am

@Tweti 10:30 a.m.: Good for you, do what works for you! Don’t worry about what anybody else thinks.

PrincessNIk

March 22nd, 2010
10:45 am

They say there is a very fine line between love and hate, that the two are in the middle of the scale rather than at opposite ends;

:idea:

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
10:46 am

Long story short she threw away my “greens”. Ehhh, small price to pay, I need to stop smoking the “icky” anyway.

:lol:

And Leopard Lounge has been redone and is now ER Lounge now!

Tweti

March 22nd, 2010
10:46 am

@ Sexy…what does my prior relations with these people have to do with anything? These people were not only a part of my life, but my family as well. Their attendance has nothing to do with me…it has to do with showing their love to my Papa, the patriach of my family, and a man that they admire and respect. And not that it matters, but they brought their S.O.’s as well. My past with them is just that – PAST, period. I’m sure no one there sat around and wondered about our “relations.” I know I didn’t. But thanks for putting an immature twist on something genuine.

JtJ

March 22nd, 2010
10:49 am

Wow @Tweti..we didn’t say it couldn’t happen, it just hasn’t happened in that way for us. I would feel very awkward though being with that many ex’s at the same time, same place–Whew, do you girl!!

I know of a couple who hang out with the wife’s ex-husband and the mistress he left her for. Granted, it took them about 10 years to get to that point, but the ex-wife goes to lunch and shopping with the new wife. Whatever floats thier boat!

M. (pronouced M dot)

March 22nd, 2010
10:50 am

Morning.

Being friends is not a good idea. It’s cool to be cordial with that person, but its best that you two dont see each other. Being cordial meaning not telling your business. You dont have to tell your ex what you are doing now. It’s none of their business. Pick up the pieces and move on. We need to acknowledge our roles in what went wrong, accept it and move on. I think we mess up because we use our experience as baggage and we sabotage our future relationships. We talk about our ex’s to much and we give them to much power over our future relationships.

The best way to deal with breakups is to look at yourself and focus on you. Hit the gym, travel, do what you want, stay out to 5am, just do something that will get you outside of the scope of what happened. Its natural to blame yourself but just move forward.

Another issue is that we look back at all that we wasted, time, money, energy, and missing out on other potential mates. We need to realize our time is valuable so we need to just move on and not waste any more time worrying about them.

Plus you know what they say, somebody new helps you get over somebody old. I noticed that when I am hanging with a new woman, I dont even think about my ex. I am just worried about this woman and our dynamics and how we will interact.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
10:50 am

@Carlito ~ you are sprung!! You even shrugged off her throwing away your “greens.” Good for you!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
10:51 am

Long story short she threw away my “greens”.

:shock: WHAT?!

Now see….just don’t up and throw my shyt away…come and ask me first or sumthing….just don’t throw my shyt awaaay

Raqi...Recently separated from Ben & Jerry

March 22nd, 2010
10:52 am

I’m sure no one there sat around and wondered about our “relations”.

Tweti, you would be surprised. LOL

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
10:53 am

@Tweti I think it is cool that everyone came out to see your dad to me it shows your dad is a great guy, and you have the ability to keep things in order and move on.

Tweti

March 22nd, 2010
10:54 am

One of the ex’s has been in the family for 16 years. The other for 13. If after that amount of time I can’t be in the same room with these folks without holding a grudge, I really do need some counseling. I refuse to let anyone have me emotionally/mentally/physically bound, regardless of how it ended. Life. Goes. On.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
10:56 am

AmazonRed, thanks for the heads up. I would have been looking stupid if I would have driven down there. :)

Leggs, you did not have to say it like that. LOL :) But yes, I am happy.

Single again, back on the prowl..kinda

March 22nd, 2010
10:57 am

I am currently “rediscovering” myself. I can’t believe how many hobbies I gave up in order to spend more time with him. When you lose yourself in a relationship it’s pretty much doomed. Ironically, I feel like the weight of the world is off of my shoulders now. Here’s to new hobbies.

Tweti

March 22nd, 2010
10:58 am

@ Raqi – my ex’s weren’t the only ex’s there. There were several people there who were either married to or involved with members of the family at some point in time. So, this is our “normal”. We would have found it odd if these people did NOT show up.

@ Professor – he’s the “best-est”!!

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
10:58 am

Um, yeah…so, Tweti – do what works for you, honeybunch.

That is all.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
10:59 am

Tweti – Good for you. It just shows you picked folks who were actual compatable to you and your personality.

I am friends with one ex. He propositioned me the whole time he was engaged. He’s cut it out now that he’s married. It’s stuff like that that make it rather difficult to remain friends with someone.

There was a bigger picture that I chose to focus on (he’s a great business contact and resource) and we did have a good friendship before we broke up so that helped. But a lot of friendships are just “friendly” after the romantic relationship ends.

Grace

March 22nd, 2010
10:59 am

I have absolutely no reason for being friends with an ex. I can be cool with him because I still have to share the globe with him, but I would not call him my friend not even virtual(FB,twitter) or go out my way for us to stay active in each other lives. I can’t go from being in a relationship where it was all lovey dubby with promises and such to being friends even if the break-up wasn’t ugly.

kinderbabe--41 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 22nd, 2010
11:00 am

after one of my worst breakups, i found my true love. i think it was mostly b/c i was committed to the idea of appreciating me for who i am/was, no matter what. it was then, that someone finally saw me for “me.” i am grateful. so glad i didn’t waste time trying to cultivate a friendship w/an ex who was never my friend in the first place. oh what a revelation! lol

Tweti

March 22nd, 2010
11:01 am

Um, yeah…so, Sexy – I am, honeybunch.

Thanks.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
11:02 am

It is interesting to read my FB page this morning and see how the responses to the passing lf the healthcare bill are vastly different based on a certain characteristic.

M. (pronouced M dot)

March 22nd, 2010
11:03 am

Also people need to be careful of the Ex’s wanting to remain friends because they will try to use you as security, backup, and an ego boost. If a woman is in a drought, they need to know they are desired by someone. Women really like to do this from time to time. Im sure guys do this to.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:04 am

Sassy, it was the one thing she always did not like about me since I have known her. Soooo, I did not put up to much of a fight. And it does not hurt that my Julia is very convincing in heels….yes just heels…nothing else on….at all. Heels with nothing else on early in the morning with a glass of wine after breakfast…..Yes I will take that every Saturday rather than my “greens” any weekend. Ok I will digress, going to stop being a sap on here.

Tweti, how many ex’s do you have over the past 16 years? I don’t think anyone is judging you, it is just odd that you keep them all around, in my humble opinion.

Lady J

March 22nd, 2010
11:04 am

it was then, that someone finally saw me for “me.” i am grateful. so glad i didn’t waste time trying to cultivate a friendship w/an ex who was never my friend in the first place. oh what a revelation! lol

That is on the money KB!!!!!!

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:05 am

Carlito – So it sounds like you got some this weekend. Good for you (and her). :lol:

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 22nd, 2010
11:06 am

Hello from thousands of miles away.

No good answer. If a person can date just to socialize, then dating quickly is okay. Involvement is dangerous though. One has not given oneself time to “rediscover” who he/she is. In addition, getting involved is just anaesthesia, the wound is not healing until someone goes through the processes…

■Denial
■Anger
■Resentment and fear
■Withdrawal and grieving
■Acceptance
■Action

You cannot circumvent these steps by getting involved. It is like a football player with a compound fracture…the pills may take the pain away but eventually the wound has to heal.

Luvbug

March 22nd, 2010
11:06 am

Now see….just don’t up and throw my shyt away…come and ask me first or sumthing….just don’t throw my shyt awaaay

Sassy- Now that is not fair. Everyone does not know what that stuff is. To SOME it looks like ashes…especially if it is in an ash tray and you have never seen it before in your life…and you are cleaning up around the house.

I’m not incriminating myself…just sayin it can happen. :lol:

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
11:07 am

I really do need some counseling. I refuse to let anyone have me emotionally/mentally/physically bound, regardless of how it ended. Life. Goes. On.

- i feel you on the bound part…but for me the sequel is never better than the original…so i just choose to be a different person..so they no longer fit…no hate…i just dont know them anymore..and thing is they always come back with some half arse apology or life changing moment where they feel like i should not have left you…i am lke sexy cool…lets just call it friends and keep life moving

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
11:08 am

@ARed ~ curious :arrow: :He propositioned me the whole time he was engaged. He’s cut it out now that he’s married.” Yeah, probably propositioning someone else.

Why didn’t he ask to marry you since before you all became “ex’s?

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
11:08 am

Carlito – Spend time with myself Friday night. Went running Saturday morning. Saturday midday, went to the bridesmaid dress fitting. Saturday afternoon, spent an uncomfortable hour on the back of a bike. (I’m way too old for that mess.) Slept in Sunday morning and Sunday afternoon, TheDude and I also spent time on the couch, watching all the basketball we could stand (What the Wocka Flocka happened to GTech?), ordered pizza and napped off and on – sans the pj’s.

Oh…decided that we were rooting for *the cowboys* on The Amazing Race last night.

M. (pronouced M dot)

March 22nd, 2010
11:09 am

@Randyt

Great post.

@ALL

How do you guys know you are over your ex?

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
11:10 am

My rationale for not being friends with my ex has nothing to do with any lingering animosity toward my ex, but rather it is simply out of respect for Mrs. Swiss. There is no need for me to have any contact with my ex anymore — we had no kids, nor anything that would require continued interaction — and I have other friends to hang out with, not to mention a lovely wife. I don’t have a problem with my ex, but I sure as h3ll am not missing anything, so I see no reason to even open the door to the possibility of any drama or ill feelings.

Tweti

March 22nd, 2010
11:10 am

@ Carlito – I have 2 significant ex’s, the ones who were at the party. And please understand this – I can’t “keep” anyone who doesn’t want to be kept. And please tell me what is odd about being freindly with people that you have spent YEARS with, had/raised children with, shared secrets with, celebrated victorys and agonized over defeat with, etc.?

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:10 am

Why didn’t he ask to marry you since before you all became “ex’s?

Leggs – I wasn’t willing to “look the other way” and be in a relationship with him, while he still got tail somewhere else.

When he met his current wife, he found someone who “understood” him.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
11:10 am

SexyCool, please don’t tell who got eliminated. I am going to watch AR tonight.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:11 am

Amazon Red, everyone room in my house is broken in, WELL! :) My house is now a home. (Secret mission is now to get her down here before the holidays for good)

Luvbug, you are guilty, just try and be a little more convincing when you throw it away. Right now you are looking like a deer caught in the headlights. LMAO

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
11:12 am

but rather it is simply out of respect for Mrs. Swiss.

Gouda, that’s a big part of it.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:13 am

Carlito – That is wonderful news!!! I’m so happy for you and your lady.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
11:13 am

Ashes??? I’ve never thought it to look like ashes. Ashes are gray with specs of black in it.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 22nd, 2010
11:14 am

Regarding involvement with exes, if there was no marriage and/or children then clean out everything. However if you share children, the best thing you can do is to “let it go” and forgive. Just do like the bank with a bad loan and tear it upp. Say and embrace motionally the following, “debt cancelled, you don’t owe me” It frees YOU and your chlldren and takes away any control they still have over your emotions. Best thing I ever did.

I am not “friends” with my ex wife, but we are civil and I help her out if I can…it keeps my relationship with my children good and at the end of the day, that is more important than my pride.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
11:14 am

Carlito I understand about the heels(and nothing else)…yes they are convincing ;) Still, don’t throw away my isht,yo. :???:

Luvbug I’ve “cleaned up” before and never threw anything away by accident..but to each his own :) I’m jus’ sayin’

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:14 am

There is no need for me to have any contact with my ex anymore — we had no kids, nor anything that would require continued interaction — and I have other friends to hang out with, not to mention a lovely wife. I don’t have a problem with my ex, but I sure as h3ll am not missing anything, so I see no reason to even open the door to the possibility of any drama or ill feelings

:idea:

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
11:14 am

Well, it wasn’t the cowboys. LOL!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
11:15 am

Thanks for answering ARed. See folk, you can ask ARed stuff and she not put her foot down your throat! :lol: :lol: :lol: Luv ya chica!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
11:16 am

Ashes??? I’ve never thought it to look like ashes. Ashes are gray with specs of black in it.

Same thing I thought….greens vs. ahses = no visual comparison.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:17 am

Sexy Cool, I watched the Amazing Race as well, that’s on of her shows. Sounds like you and TheDude had a relaxing weekend as well.

Tweti, don’t get all worked up over my comments. I find it odd because I think in order for a new chapter to be opened up successfully you need to close the old. I think only an attention whore or someone who is lacking keeps their ex’s around, whether they are significant or not. If there are kids involved why are there dealings outside what involves the kids? There I told you what I think is odd about it. Accept it or not I don’t care it’s your life.

Question, why do some adults no more about Waka Flocka than they do about Health Care Reform?

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:19 am

Thanks for answering ARed. See folk, you can ask ARed stuff and she not put her foot down your throat

Leggs – Well of course you can. Me answering is not a new thing for me either. It’s just that folks don’t typically like the answer.

Yes, my ex told me that he could have married me or any of his immediate exes. Our main problem was that we were long distance, but he also looked at marriage as “a business decison” and would often tell me that he was probably going to be a good father, but a rotten husband. I admired the honesty, but wasn’t gonna sign up for that!

I do think he married for love, but also because she won’t leave him if he slips up. Ironically they moved here a few months ago. So now I’m glad we’ve kept things civil.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:19 am

Maybe my lat blog entry was to mean. Where is it? I do not use foul language at all

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
11:22 am

@ARed ~ you know I’m messing with you. You make a good point, you will definitely answer.

WOW, at least he was honest!!

kinderbabe--41 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 22nd, 2010
11:23 am

thanks, Lady J! we often crave acceptance from folks who don’t give a holly who what we are about or who we are! i’m done w/that. i’m down w/who’s down for me. and for that reason, there is no ex of mine that i hold near and dear. don’t get me wrong, they weren’t knock down drag out breakups…just a season. i don’t need to bring winter into my spring, spring into my summer and etc…lol. you feel me?

Grace

March 22nd, 2010
11:23 am

Is it really possible to be friends with someone who broke your heart? I had to ask myself that guestion with the last guy I was in a relationship with when he wanted to be “friends” I didnt know whether I should be offended or grateful that he wanted to keep me as a part of his life while he ventured out romancing someone new. What in the debbel are we supposed to talk about? I just don’t get being friends with an ex-being cordial yes, but friends, I have a hard time learning that concept.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
11:23 am

@Carlito ~ you don’t have to use foul language to get eaten by the blog monster.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:24 am

Carlito – Maybe the blog monster (who eats our posts) hasn’t had his morning coffee yet.

Sometimes he also eats posts about sex…cuz I don’t think he’s getting any. :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:24 am

Leggs – Being friends with him was easy because when we broke up, I didn’t miss the romantic relationship or sex at all. I did miss his friendship cuz he’s a good friend.

So I guess he’s a better friend than boyfriend too. :lol:

Luvbug

March 22nd, 2010
11:25 am

had never seen it before, didn’t investigate what it could have been, had no reason (at the time) to review or suspect what it could have been…can hardly remember what it looked like…at the time shriveled stuff in ash tray = toss…the next day, found out what it was.

Ohhhh!! Dang?! OMG! :lol:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
11:26 am

@Raqi ~ did you get some good buys over the weekend. Purchased anything spectacular??

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
11:26 am

Maybe it’s the word friends that needs defining here.

Friends is not a word that I take lightly. Everyone that I know, that I communicate with, that I am *cordial* with, have a past in common with is not a friend. Some of them are just *folk I know.*

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
11:26 am

Enter your comments here

Grace

March 22nd, 2010
11:26 am

@ 11.23 I like that KB!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:26 am

Sexy Cool, I saw the Amazing Race as well. Sounds like you had a great weekend.

Tweti, what do yo want me to tell you? My opinion does not amount to much but it seems as if you are an “attention whore” or that you are lacking something in your new relationships. How do you open a new chapter while the old one is still open and hanging around. If there are kids involved with an ex, it would be about nothing but things that involved the kids. You don’t have to explain yourself to me, but your defensive posture indicates that you may have a small issue with it yourself.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:27 am

Testing one two three?

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:27 am

Sexy Cool, I saw the Amazing Race as well. Sounds like you had a great weekend.

Tweti, what do yo want me to tell you? My opinion does not amount to much but it seems as if you are an “attention wh*re” or that you are lacking something in your new relationships. How do you open a new chapter while the old one is still open and hanging around. If there are kids involved with an ex, it would be about nothing but things that involved the kids. You don’t have to explain yourself to me, but your defensive posture indicates that you may have a small issue with it yourself.

Grace

March 22nd, 2010
11:27 am

Good point SexyCool

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:28 am

Ahhh, the blog does not like the word “wh*re”

JtJ

March 22nd, 2010
11:28 am

@ M. (pronouced M dot)- when the thought of that person not being in your life does not cause you hesitate in your plans, thoughts, etc. and you are no longer questioning the demise of the relationship. Once I realized this, I knew I was over him and the anger went away,too.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
11:28 am

@Luvbug ~ that was funny. And, betcha it wasn’t even remotely ashy looking!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:29 am

kinderbabe--41 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 22nd, 2010
11:29 am

thanks, Grace!:) i’m getting better at embracing the periods of my life and accept them as they are. when i hold on to my past to tightly, i can’t open my arms to embrace my present and future.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:29 am

Oh yeah…no no on the “wh0re” word!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:29 am

Okay I can type “slut” but not “wh*re”?

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:29 am

kinderbabe…what happens in 41 days? What did I miss?

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 22nd, 2010
11:29 am

Truthfully, it can be tempting at 2:00 AM on a Saturday morning when you are looking at the ceiling wondering what happened, to send that “just to say hi” email. I found myself thinking about my last LTR a few weeks ago (there was a lot oc chemistry there and sometimes recollections of “chemistry” can cause you to do some unwise things. I looked up the directory for where she was a teacher and her name was not on the staff list. I guess she really did go back to her ex-husband. I’ve had that happen twice now in relationships of longer than a year.

How is it a woman can despise the ground that guy walks on…then come running the first time he says something about how it is “for the kids”? I guess I wasn’t getting the job done. Hate saying it, but women are fickle…and can change just like the wind direction when you least expect it.

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
11:30 am

Morning

I tend to cut things loose pretty quickly once the relationship is over. When I’m involved, I’m all in, but when it’s over I’m completely detached.

Luvbug

March 22nd, 2010
11:32 am

Leggs – Dont know if there are different forms to it, but it didn’t look like a leaf by any measure.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:33 am

Randyt, the ex who hurt me tried coming back. I did not fall for it. Always remember that there was a reason that you two separated in the first place. Not saying some relationships are not able to be reconciled, but if its a major issue look inside yourself to see if you can cross that hurdle. On the 2:00 a.m. staring at the ceiling, just “rub one out” and see where your thoughts are after that. :)

abc

March 22nd, 2010
11:33 am

In my experience with breaking up with mere girlfriends, it wasn’t that striking, just a relief that it was over. Divorce was a different ballgame. I didn’t rediscover my friends, I lost them all. That’s okay, though, she needed them more than I did, and I figure if they react to her propaganda like that, they’re truly her friends, not mine.

As far as what to do next once the relationship is dead, you just move on.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:34 am

Carlito – Don’t get my “slut” taken away. I need that to hurl at people. ;) :lol:

New words can be added to the filter at anytime!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:34 am

Luvbug, you are a riot. It looked like ashes and that is your story and you are sticking to it. :)

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 22nd, 2010
11:34 am

we often crave acceptance from folks who don’t give a holly who what we are about or who we are!

visual reminder for your sis!

Glad you found your true love KB!!!!!!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
11:35 am

@Carlito ~ it doesn’t like the word ri-dic-ulous either!

Tweti

March 22nd, 2010
11:35 am

@ Carlito – I wasn’t being defensive. You asked a question, I answered and asked you one in return. And you are 100% correct…I don’t have to explain myself to you, and your opinion is simply that – your opinion. But since you’re so eager to share your opinion, tell me this…are the ex’s attention wh*res, too? Because they’re still a’coming. I’m not holding a gun to their heads or paying them to put in an appearance. They show up, again and again, because their time with my family was near & dear to them and no matter what caused the demise of our relationship, they still show their respect. Its not like we take vacations together, man. They come to milestone events and funerals. Where’s the attention seeking in that?

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
11:37 am

OMG, I am cracking up at you luvbug. No, it doesn’t look leafy. More like vines wrapped around each other, green and beige, but mostly beige….the green stuff is usually homegrown and not very good….so I’ve been told!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 22nd, 2010
11:37 am

@ Grace re: ex guy wants to be “friends”.

A woman should always be cautious when a man says this. Men are seldom looking for female “friends” (sorry). When a man says he wants to remain friends, he is usually trying to let the woman down as painfully as possible (hoping he won’t feel so guilty), or hoping he can get rid of the responsibilities of a relationship, but keep the “fun” parts.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
11:39 am

OMG…One of my co-workers was just in my office telling me about her *best friend* who will turn 26 next week and just had her 5th kid by the 3rd *baby daddy*.

Blank stare……

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

March 22nd, 2010
11:40 am

jtj your 11:28 is the whole truth!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 22nd, 2010
11:40 am

kinderbabe--41 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 22nd, 2010
11:42 am

@LadyJ…i’m glad too
@Ared…i promise to let you guys know when i get to the 10 day countdown. it’s pretty big news.:)

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
11:43 am

Carlito — RE: Blog posts eaten by the censor monster — Whatever filtering software they use for this thing is retarded. It lets actual foul language through, but will choke on certain completely innocuous words. One example I’ve noticed is the word ri-di-cu-lous (without the dashes). Which is somewhat ironic, as that word perfectly describes the filter itself…

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 22nd, 2010
11:44 am

@ Grace…meant to say as “painlessly as possible” not as “painfully as possible”. Freudian slip there, sorry.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:44 am

SCool – Do you work at the call center or something? :lol: I don’t like these co-worker stories you got!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:44 am

Tweti, Why so serious? Yes your ex’s are special as well to be hanging around as an ex….with their new woman around their old woman. My ex’s mother calls me about twice a year just to wish me a happy birthday and the other to say hello. Won’t catch me at her funeral when she dies or her and her husbands anniversary though. But then again my ex and I aren’t friends. If it works for you Tweti, more power to you.

Since, I do not know anyone here in Atlanta maybe I will invite my all of my significant ex’s(all one of them) and their families to my house warming, along with my current. “Where they do that at?” (My favorite Atlanta saying) :)

Luvbug

March 22nd, 2010
11:46 am

Carlito – Yep.

Leggs – Now I feel ashamed about not knowing the ins and out of the product. I will no longer use that as an example of my walk on the wild side…actually the outcome was more wild…the owner mentioned the amount of it to me and I refused to pay.

The horror!! I don’t do or buy things like that.

Okay I will stop posting about it now.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:46 am

“Where they do that at?” (My favorite Atlanta saying)

:lol: OMG…you are truly becoming an ATLien.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
11:46 am

ARed – LMAO!
Actually – this is the same chick that was in my office last week talking about the dude she *found out* was married and who she may be preggers by. (didn’t get an update on that)

Between her and The Ghetto Chronicles and these dudes coming in my office telling me unnecessary and boring ish, I’m going to have to start keeping my door closed.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:47 am

Amazon Red, use these words “Troia & Putana”

kimmie

March 22nd, 2010
11:48 am

Sup Blog Fam!

Carlito – Thumb’s up!

Friends with ex? No can do. Even after I’m good & over them. Just makes life more complicated than it has to be. Cordial, yes, I’m civilized & have class. Other than that, nope.

SCool – I like the cowboys too! I can’t stand the space-cadet couple! They get on my last nerve with their dumbness!

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
11:48 am

Leggs, I found some pretty good sales. Thanks for the coupon. I found some shorts and t-shirts for the boy at Kohls. And I found some cute dresses and short sets for the baby at Macy’s at a good price. Surprisingly I only bought one thing for myself.

The bulk of the cash was spent at Costco this time. My husband said his left pocket didn’t flinch but once. LOL That must have been when I was looking at that Marc Jacobs handbag in Bloomingdales. But I didn’t get it.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:49 am

SCool – I figured it was the same dumb dumb co-worker.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
11:49 am

@Carlito, I am so happy for you and your SO! I hope you get her down her for good…you deserve it.

As for Tweti two ex’s hanging around and still respecting her family after 16 years is a good thing IMO. H3ll we have folks on here changing wo/men like they are changing pampers.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:50 am

i promise to let you guys know when i get to the 10 day countdown. it’s pretty big news.:)

Whoo hoo! We like good news.

Best wishes to you kinderbabe!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
11:50 am

Dang, Luvbug, couldn’t you smell it as you walked to the garbage can.? If there was a substantial dollar amount, didn’t you wonder how someone could smoke that many cigarettes to accumulate that many ashes! Boy, you have me hollering over here…thank you very, very much!

Grace

March 22nd, 2010
11:50 am

Randyt-that’s why I turned down the offer of friendship. I knew the possiblities of being friends with an ex.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:54 am

Water Cooler Convo this morning? Health Care Reform??? Nope, but Waka Flocka is out of Jail sooner than expected. :) Amazon Red, the break room is where I pick up all of my lingo. :)

Kimmie, Professor: Yes it was a great time. I told her about the blog, maybe she will pop up one day.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
11:55 am

Do you work at the call center or something?

:mrgreen:

The folks that work at call centers and the police department have the best stories

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
11:55 am

I told her about the blog, maybe she will pop up one day.

*smacks forehead* There goes your safe haven!!!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
11:57 am

OMG, thank you ARed….Whew, I’m sitting here swinging my feet laughing my a$$ off!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:57 am

Luvbug, YOU smoked it didn’t you? LOL. I wonder if she does not want me to smoke period or just when she is here. I think I may have a loop hole here.

Amazon Red, I have been trying to type the words for slut and wh*re in Italian but the filter is not letting me. Let me try in this way. Troia/Putana

I’m Swiss, this filter is wacked out.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
11:58 am

I told her about the blog, maybe she will pop up one day.

:grin: :cry: :evil: :grin:

Let us know when she pops in we do not want to embarass you with freaky Friday :grin:

BTW where is melo and Ms. Green Eyes from Friday?

Tweti

March 22nd, 2010
11:58 am

Thanks, Professor. I hear about ex’s shooting/stabbing/killing each other (and sometimes the kids, too) all the time over petty sh*t…can’t even drop the kids off without a police escort or a neutral party. I thank God everyday that that’s not my story.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
11:59 am

Luvbug, YOU smoked it didn’t you? LOL. I wonder if she does not want me to smoke period or just when she is here. I think I may have a loop hole here.

Amazon Red, I have been trying to type the words for slut and wh*re in Italian but the filter is not letting me. Let me try in this way.

I’m Swiss, this filter is wacked out.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
11:59 am

kimmie – are you talking about the models who are dating? TheDude has renamed the chick *Jessica Simpson*? And what about the comment she made about *the lesbians*? I hollered. (Raqi – not a spoiler, I promise.)

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
12:00 pm

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:00 pm

T.r.o.i.a.

and

P.u.t.a.n.a.

kinderbabe--41 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 22nd, 2010
12:02 pm

@Carlito…so Waka Flocka was the headline story this morning?? LOL now, that’s funny! we really have to do better. how’s it going? did your honey bee come visit this weekend? i didn’t get a chance to read your earlier posts.

@ARed…thanks! i’ll keep the countdown going!

@SexyCool…say it ain’t so! sounds like some of the parents at my school…lol. there is drama daily here. we even have to have the police up here occasionally.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
12:03 pm

Carlito, Troia and puttana? It seems to work okay.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:03 pm

Amazon Red, it’s safe she and I are goofy like that. :)

Professor I missed last friday, but I think she would fit in well and roll wit the jokes. Who am I kidding, she is in medical sales. She has no time to sit still in front of a PC.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
12:04 pm

Carlito,

Please add sh!t and azz to the Italian list of words…

@Tweti…NP, I feel the same way.

@Kimmie Do you watch Sunshine Anderson on food network? I read that she had a blog…have you checked it out yet?

kinderbabe--41 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 22nd, 2010
12:05 pm

@Raqi..how did the trip to Miami go? did you get to enjoy the beach? go shopping? i really have to get there soon.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:05 pm

Ragi, I spell it with one “t”. How are you this morning? :)

Kinderbabe, yes she came down, over dressed though. It is still cold and flooding back home. We had a great time.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:05 pm

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
12:06 pm

One particular ex comes to mind that I truly did me some harm. We were so freaking compatible and enjoyed each other’s company. Dated 1.5 yrs. We both wanted pretty much the same thing in life. I was around 24-25. We even talked marriage (yes he brought it up). One day he called to take me to dinner. I said yes. I waited, and I waited and I waited. He wouldn’t return any of my calls. Mind you, I’m not the type to keep calling you. I get the msg pretty quickly. When he did call all he said was he got “cold feet because we clicked so well” and he won’t be seeing me anymore. OM Goodness, I was DONE! It was the only time in my life I grieved over a man. I couldn’t eat, work or talk to anyone. I mopped and I mopped and barely had enough energy to get out of bed. Normally, I’m a pretty strong person. One day I looked at myself in the mirror and wanted to slap the shyt out of the person staring back at me. All this over a guy, at 24-25. Right then and there I shook my entire body as if I was shaking off some demon and pulled myself together. I think I was down for almost 3 months. He called me a few months after that apologizing and asking if he could take me out. I respectfully declined because I wasn’t 100% healed. To this day, he still crosses my mind every so often!

kimmie

March 22nd, 2010
12:07 pm

SCool – Yeah, I’m talking about the models. You know the woman is “that” former Miss S Carolina! I missed the comment, was doing other things while watching. I’ll ask SO did he catch it. Did you hear when she said she thought Joan of Arc was a guy? Wow, just wow!

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
12:08 pm

Amazon Red, it’s safe she and I are goofy like that.

I’m sure you are….but one of these days you may just need to vent.

I’m all starried eyed myself…but I ain’t bout to give him the keys to the kingdom of all my intermost thoughts! (even just things I feel philosophically that may not go over well).

kimmie

March 22nd, 2010
12:08 pm

Prof – Yes, I watch Sunshine from time to time. I did not know she had a blog, will definitely check it out!

kinderbabe--41 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 22nd, 2010
12:11 pm

@Carlito…that’s great.:) i’m glad that you guys enjoyed the visit. i can understand about being overdressed. i live here and sometimes don’t know how to dress for the weather..lol. it changes so much unexpectedly. look at the difference between saturday and sunday…amazing!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
12:13 pm

and snow flurries this morning….

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:14 pm

Professor I just typed up an info sheet for you but the filter ate it.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
12:16 pm

Kinderbabe, it was a good trip for the most part. I walked to the Bayside Marketplace Saturday which is a good shopping area. Sunday I was able to use the car so I able to hit up some more places. We also went to the beach Sunday but didn’t stay as long as I would have liked. The weather was perfect down there but Sunday got a little windy for the baby so we didn’t stay out on the water that long.

We are definitely going back again and staying in that same area. I know it will be even more perfect going for a vacation as opposed to a business trip.

You can read about it at my spot if you like.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
12:17 pm

I think RandyT said it if not this morning some other time. Most ex’s who try to remain friends really want to keep their big black toe or white toe or italian toe in the door. Hoping that when they call under the guise of asking about your well being, they’ll smell “vulnerability” through the phone and know now is the right time to POUNCE! :lol:

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:18 pm

The filter wont let it be typed the correct way

Professor, here you go:

“Vaffancul(o)” means Go “eff” yourself.

If you want to say “oh Sh/*/t” you just say “accendenti”

But if you mean the word “sh/*/t” as in feces you say “merda”

azz is “cul….o”

But if I wanted to say, “she has a nice azz” you say “ha un bel cul….o”

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
12:19 pm

Georgia – where you can have Spring, Fall and Winter in about 2.5 days.

lurker

March 22nd, 2010
12:20 pm

i’m salty about the snow flurries. i was gonna wear my new donald j pliners on my trip but guess not now.

When it’s over it’s over. I agree with most but I guess I’m not as big as many on here because if we’re done and unless children involve, I don’t see the need to be anything…friends, cordial, social. I tend to want to past to be just that. No do overs, come backs, circle backs, hooking up, just wanted to holla…nothing. Typically for me done is done. All the way.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:21 pm

Leggs, I agree with you and Randyt. And if said friend tries to bed you, you have nobody to blame but yourself.

That song, “why can’t we be friends” is stuck in my head now.

Question for everyone: If your current, was all chummy with an ex (you know one that they were madly in love with and just wanted to maintain a friendship) would you be cool with that?

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
12:23 pm

One word = NOPE!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:26 pm

We can be friends with an ex as long as she likes the type of friend who never calls or sees you. I made my ex fiance mad one time I saw her in town with another guy. I was still a bit jilted at the time(to soon for me to be seeing her with another guy) it was only a few months after the breakup. Anyway, she came in the bar trying to show him off. She comes up to me and hugs me with the fake “how have you been” etc. I whispered in her ear. “when you are doing it to him real well making his toes curl, remember it’s me who taught you everything” She got mad as heck.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:27 pm

Leggs, I understand and I agree with you once again. Some will say it’s a self esteem issue. I say it is a respect issue.

SlimOne on autopilot

March 22nd, 2010
12:27 pm

:shock: @ Carlito then :lol:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
12:27 pm

Dang, how you had time to say all that in her ear!

SlimOne on autopilot

March 22nd, 2010
12:29 pm

Sorry if too soon for an off-topic question.

Question: if you were dating someone that you really liked but you felt it hard to ‘make him/her arrive’ during the act, outside of the oral capacity, would that make you not want to pursue anything further with her/him with regard to a potential relationship?

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
12:29 pm

donald j pliners

lurker, you rolling like that huh? LOL Nice.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
12:30 pm

I whispered in her ear. “when you are doing it to him real well making his toes curl, remember it’s me who taught you everything” She got mad as heck.

Why get mad?…all you did was tell the truth.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:35 pm

SlimOne, that would make the pursuit just that more intense for me. I would make it a life mission to be able to turn on her fountain to full flow. If I can’t make a woman pipes burst I just think that I need to learn and be more attentive to how I am turning that faucet own. You can give a woman an orgasm in many ways, just not penetration or orally.

Sassy Me, the truth shall set you free :)

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:37 pm

typo, own was meant to be on.

I brought my workout clothes but left my deo at home. No lunch workout for me. :(

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
12:37 pm

No I would not be okay if my husband kept in touch with his exes.

I ran into one of his exes a few years back. When they were dating she used to think there was something going on between he and I when there wasn’t. He and I had been friends since high school. We did not become a couple until years after they broke up. You should have seen the look on her face when she found out that we were married.

lurker

March 22nd, 2010
12:38 pm

Yep Raqi….now you know I got them for a steal. Don’t think I’d do regular retail given what they typically tend to go for.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:39 pm

Raqi, I agree with you. Maybe it is ok for people who are not currently in a relationship to be friends with exes. But for those who are married or in a seriously committed relationship I can not fathom that being okay.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
12:39 pm

You can give a woman an orgasm in many ways, just not penetration or orally.

YYYEEESSS!!!!

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
12:41 pm

#randomthought – If I didn’t have to pay living expenses, I would have a lot more money to invest, shop and travel.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 22nd, 2010
12:42 pm

@ Carlitto

I whispered in her ear. “when you are doing it to him real well making his toes curl, remember it’s me who taught you everything”

Priceless. I have wondered so many times since two particular breakups (where they went back to their ex-husbands) how that part of their relationship was going. Both had told me all about their exes lovemaking style and what I did that they didn’t. One did tell me later that when she slept with her ex it was “awkward”. I told her he was a “flatliner” and she would have to hold a mirror in front of his mouth to tell if he was even breathing. She didn’t like that…agreed, but did not like it ;-)

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
12:42 pm

As to the Walmart incident, a 16yr old kid has been arrested.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
12:43 pm

Carlito! Thanks for the list

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
12:43 pm

Yeah he was arrested but is now in the custody of his parents….

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
12:43 pm

If I didn’t have to pay living expenses, I would have a lot more money to invest, shop and travel.

LMBO Wouldn’t we all.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
12:45 pm

EXACTLY, Raqi!!!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:46 pm

Randyt, I am not proud of it. But I to have used the secrets that have been told to me by exes and thrown it back in their face when they tend to try and mess with me after the breakup. Immature I know, but it felt so good.

SexyCool, sadly enough I think that 16year old was Italian :(

SlimOne on autopilot

March 22nd, 2010
12:47 pm

Thanks Carlito for your answer ;-)

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:49 pm

Professor, the initial courses are free. :)

SlimOne, anytime. I am in a good mood and it’s a slow monday.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
12:52 pm

True, Sassy. He is not actually IN jail. I just think it proves that it was a *juvenile* (second time word has been used today) prank, probably even a dare, more than anything.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 22nd, 2010
12:53 pm

My last LTR would get mad because i would spend a few hours on Christmas Eve at my ex-wife’s house visitng giving gifts to my children. I might talk to my ex once a month regarding the children…no more. The lady I was seeing who was mad at me was getting calls daily from her ex about her kids but somehow thought that was alright. I had and have no interest romantically or physically or anything else with my ex-wife other than the children, but she thought I was wrong but she was okay to talk to hers almost daily. A double standard maybe?

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
12:56 pm

Randyt, women…double standards….NOOOOOOOOO not possible…ever….:)

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
12:56 pm

You know Randy, she could have possibly have been getting and turning down advances from her ex that she did not want to bother you about that may have lead her to believe that you as a man could have been doing the same with yours.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
12:57 pm

Went to KC Pit BBQ for dinner Saturday. Eating the rest of the sausage w/my lunch. The sausage is TO DIE FOR! YUMMY!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
12:57 pm

Sexy it probably was a dare or something like that and that’s exactly what the pricey lawyer mommy n daddy are paying for is going to say…

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
12:57 pm

Yeah at 16 it probably was dare. I bet those who “possibly” dared him is no where to be found now.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
12:59 pm

@Randyt that is a double standard that I do not understand. We have a family friend that will not allow her husband’s daughter or grandchildren to visit her home. She will tell you in a NY minute that those are her husband’s folks. I find it very selfish…it’s like saying one “your kids are not important.” IMO

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
12:59 pm

Ut oh, reading that back I see it’s laden with punch lines. So glad Melo hasn’t come on board yet!

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
1:00 pm

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:00 pm

@Professor ~ that is wrong on so many levels and reeks of selfishness.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
1:00 pm

A double standard maybe?

An insecurity as well…not unless she had a guilty conscience on her end(sumthin fishy with the ex) which in fact made her assume you might have the same thing going on with your ex.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
1:01 pm

Leggs, Sunday we had Cornish hens, with dressing, turnip greens, mac-n-cheese, and candied yams all cooked to in line with our new low sodium diet. And today I had a big salad drizzled with oil olive.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 22nd, 2010
1:03 pm

yeah really.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
1:04 pm

I don’t see how people marry someone that will not allow their kids or grandkids around. Those are a part of that person. If you marry that person you are supposed to be accepting of their kids. That’s not the same as having the ex over. That’s that person’s children.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:06 pm

That sounds good, Raqi, I’m cooking collards, sweet potatoes, mac n cheese, pot roast, white rice and gravy as a thank you to my co-worker for again picking me up those 2 weeks when I blew the engine in my car! She wouldn’t even accept gas money. So, cooking her family dinner.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
1:08 pm

I love Cornish Hen’s, I stuff mine with rice

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
1:11 pm

I asked my husband once what did he expect or think of marrying me with two boys. He said he didn’t know what to expect but he loved and cared enough about me to take a chance at it. He knew taking me as his wife meant taking my kids as part of me.

I guess it could be different for those fathers whose kids are only around a few days out of the month. But still, I don’t see a man putting up with the woman not allowing his kids around.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:12 pm

@Raqi ~ I’m with on that one…why marry a person that won’t allow your kids to visit you in your own home???

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
1:12 pm

@Leggs her husband retired from the Navy so I guess now that they have settled down she is putting her foot down. He had the child when he was about 16 or 17 and made a life in the military after completing high school. His wife claims she never had to deal with the child and she is not going to start dealing with the young lady or her grandchild(ren) now. So far she is holding her foot down too. I think her husband should get some balls. There is no way in the world she would keep my flesh and blood out of a house I pay for :???:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:13 pm

Oh, I know….he’s henpecked!!!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
1:14 pm

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
1:15 pm

Leggs that sounds good! Please close your eyes and pretend I was your car and driver and send me some collards, yams and mac & cheese :grin:

If you close your eyes long enough you will see the dice over my mirrors and you can smell that pineapple and strawberry air freshner they give you at the carwash.

Luvbug

March 22nd, 2010
1:16 pm

…back in

Leggs- I don’t remember it having a smell and it wasn’t a lot. I had the trash bag in my hand just tossing everything in my line of vision. They always kept a lot of company and incense around. I was rarely home…in and out. Honestly, I had no clue. Like I said…never seen it before…didn’t know anything about. I didn’t even suspect I knew people caring on that way. I was shocked when I found out though. :shock:

Carlito – I promise I didn’t. :lol:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:20 pm

You ever asked about the incense (still laughing atwith you!

@Prof ~ I’ll save a plate for you.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
1:20 pm

Leggs I meant to add this the young lady is very successful, has never asked for a dime, he grandmother raised her and from what I understand she is humbled and well mannered. The lady got on her other children when they called her their sister…from the picture I saw the lady was pretty as well. The young lady said she would just like to be friends and have the chance to “know” her daddy than to “know of” her daddy. I really think the wife is jealous more than anything! I am nosey so I asked a lot of questions and not one bad thing came out about the young lady…I really thought there was a reason she did not want her in the house.

I agree he is henpecked and a bit stupid if you ask me.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:21 pm

Do you remember what he asked you to pay to replace it?

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:23 pm

@Prof ~ are these people in their early 70’s?

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
1:25 pm

Actually they are around 50

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:25 pm

I forgot how much I really like Skittles.

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
1:25 pm

“When he did call all he said was he got “cold feet because we clicked so well” and he won’t be seeing me anymore.”

@Leggs — You were absolutely right to make a clean break there. Guys aren’t that flaky. That’s one of those classic “it’s not you, it’s me” excuses that we will use to try to break it off gently without just coming out and letting the real truth be known. I know, ‘cos I’ve used that one myself… :oops:

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
1:27 pm

…Leggs they may even be a bit younger since he just left the military a few years ago

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
1:28 pm

What I like about Twitter – I can send a text to leak my completely arbitary, random thoughts to the world.

What I don’t like about Twitter – Other people in the world are leaking on me.

I don’t get the people who follow a boatload of people – there is NO WAY you can process all of that information. I’m selective about my *follows* and make sure I give *good tweet*.
LOL!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:31 pm

@Prof ~ ok, the problem is the young lady has young lady friends and she doesn’t want her hubby to be tempted. What a crock. Only in their 50’s and acting like a lil ole shrew!

@im swiss ~ I was hurt, but not stupid back then! I knew better.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
1:32 pm

if you were dating someone that you really liked but you felt it hard to ‘make him/her arrive’ during the act,

Cmeone Slimone!! :lol: u gotta learn to use ur curly toes and feet and those spiky heels to dig deeper in his azz so as to invoke the “arrival” :oops:

@Legss Ms GreenEyes eyes is resting! :lol:

@Swiss,u been to Firking(Phulccking) at Linberg?? Friday weather was nice and Queen and I had a nice time in there..

@Cee..thats a nice spot for fish and chips,didnt know about it..

That Wet Willies spot in linberg is an under 25 joint?? didnt know about it untill Queen and I stepped in Friday.It only took us a minute to feel creepy in there and we had to get out quickly. Phew,dodged a bullet! :lol: :lol:

Looking at singles as they streamed along on friday,smetimes solo,other times in twos and three somes of gerls,I ruminated to Queen how I kinda sympathise with singles,esp ladies.

It kinda feels sad not having smebody to squeeze uall! :roll: :lol:

Howz ur Monday folks??

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
1:34 pm

Luvbug, yes you smoked it :)

I’m Swiss, stop telling secrets.

Sexy Cool, being leaked on is not cool. Well maybe in the shower. :)

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
1:36 pm

#TigerTalk – the ESPN interview was frickin’ hilarious TO ME!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:37 pm

@Carlito ~ that’s no secret! You’re not giving women any credit.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:39 pm

@SexyC ~ what I found funny is when Tiger was asked why did he marry he said cuz he loveD her. He then rambled a lil more on his love for her and I’m wondering, dang, 13 other women and he wouldn’t have stopped if he hadn’t gotten caught. I don’t need no man to love me like that!

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
1:40 pm

@lito…..whats funny about the whole i trained you thing to woman is this….women have an uncanny ability to block out all previous sex partners when she is getting it good in the present…so all that this is the best….its true…its the best now…but maybe not in her past…lol. And sometimes women will dumb down there sex game to feed our ego’s…this is why i dont ask or care…i am going to run my program…cause i know most women are built for it…they like it th sl ut way or the smooth way…does not matter..

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
1:43 pm

I caught that too, Leggs.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
1:45 pm

#TigerTalk – the ESPN interview was frickin’ hilarious TO ME!
SexyCool, just to show how quiet and introverted that guy is I was surprised to hear how pale his voice is. That goes to show how much of a showoff that he wasn’t. I personally have never heard the guy speak which goes back to what we were talking about last week.

SlimOne on autopilot

March 22nd, 2010
1:48 pm

“u gotta learn to use ur curly toes and feet and those spiky heels to dig deeper in his azz so as to invoke the “arrival””

@melo – this isn’t an issue of mine. ;-)

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
1:48 pm

I’m Swiss, stop telling secrets.

He’s off the market now….

side note: Lamman Rucker is FOINE!….dayum,dayum,dayum

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
1:49 pm

Tiger was asked why did he marry he said cuz he loveD her. He then rambled a lil more on his love for her and I’m wondering, dang, 13 other women and he wouldn’t have stopped if he hadn’t gotten caught.

- he prolly did love her at the time…when she was fun..when he was backing her around golf courses…clubhouses…etc etc…she prolly stuck him on the back burner to change dirty diapers…its typical….my favorite scene from “i think i love my wife” is when the wife was on the phone telling chris he had to see the drapes….nikki is like drapes….chris is like before you get married you get”i cant wait to sick your duck”…after you are married you get..”i cant wait until you see the drapes”….and i found that to be true…whats funny is that most folks missed that movie..but trust thats a man of an average married dude after years of servitude and babies…

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
1:53 pm

13 other women and he wouldn’t have stopped if he hadn’t gotten caught. I don’t need no man to love me like that!

Me either…miss me with that bull isht. What I find even more frightening that anything is that he was sleeping with that many women(which also included porn stars and who know who they’ve slept with) and never mad it a habit to use condoms :shock: He took all of that home and could’ve potentially given something to his wife and children(in utero).

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:55 pm

“…but trust thats a man of an average married dude after years of servitude and babies…”

Rell, why it has to be “servitude” for you guys. Hell, it ain’t no picnic for us either. And in that same breath, get a divorce if that’s how you truly feel!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:56 pm

I’m going to make the only cake I can make from scratch as our dessert…sour cream pound cake!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:57 pm

You want a piece of that too, Prof?

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
2:00 pm

My favorite part from “I Think I Love My Wife” is when he went home and started the argument over chicken for dinner. Man I’ve had so many arguments start just like that. Like “Did this argument really start over some shoe laces?” lol

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:00 pm

He says he got away from his budda and he had a strong sense of entitlement even though his parents didn’t raise him that way. Tiger was simply insatiable…

kimmie

March 22nd, 2010
2:00 pm

Leggs, it’s certain things I just can’t seem to get right. Sour cream pound cake is one of them.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:00 pm

@melo – this isn’t an issue of mine

so I trust u gave ur girl good advice! If hes jerking off on psh skills,thats a good start,he aint bottling everything in. :_)

U sure ur girl’s stamina is up to scratch,coz sme chics start panting heavily after 3 mins,as if they need an inhaler?? :lol: :lol:

@Leggs

I’m wondering, dang, 13 other women and he wouldn’t have stopped if he hadn’t gotten caught.

Getting off on side piece got nothing to do with luv for ur main lady.I thoght we have commnicated that on the blog already Leggs!

The issue is for ladies to be cognisant of the real danger of it and to channel that side jerking-off desire by man to urself(lves) as the main lady, so u get all the nectar to urself. One of those things is to continue to be on the same phlucking routine u were on be4 u got married.
If u used to phluck on the stair case,keep doing it when u get married coz the moment that excitement aint there anymore,u know where hes getting it instead. :arrow: hoe! :lol:

kimmie

March 22nd, 2010
2:01 pm

So again, it’s the wifes fault why Tiger messed around with 14 others.

lurker

March 22nd, 2010
2:02 pm

He took all of that home and could’ve potentially given something to his wife and children(in utero).

Sassy, that’s because no matter what they make their mouths say (when caught), I just cannot wrap my mind around a dude saying, feeling and claiming to love his wife and then knocking off everything with a pulse. I don’t buy something went a missing or a lacking and you looked elsewhere to replace. People come down so hard on the outside person but I cannot fathom a person so selfishly putting their SO/spouse in such harms way and taking such a great risk. It’s just so better to walk away if you’re not happy than to drag every disease and heartbreak home.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
2:03 pm

Leggs I want two pieces if you don’t mind one piece to eat now and the other piece you can wrap in wax paper like my grandma used to do for later :grin: When do you want me to stop by to pick up my plate…I can bring you a bag of ice if you need me too :grin:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:04 pm

Ok, melo, it sure doesn’t say he “respects” his lady either!

@kimmie I was about to post “unlike kimmie the only thing I can make from scratch. You want to try my recipe? You’re an excellent baker!

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:05 pm

So again, it’s the wifes fault why Tiger messed around with 14 others

@Kimmie??

u asking a qstion or its a statement Kimmie?

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:06 pm

I’ll be cooking it this Sunday, dinner @5 (thank goodness I do have wax paper).

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
2:08 pm

13 other women and he wouldn’t have stopped if he hadn’t gotten caught

TIGER would have never started if he knew how to handle the change…reading some of his texts to the porn chick is a peek inside his mind….dude like s ex period….maybe he thought wifey was a kindred spirit..she was to tie him down…once trapped behind marriage she prolly rationed the poo cee to him…thats why he had 19 chicks…because he realized he was tricked

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
2:09 pm

@Carlito — Yeah, Sassy’s right… I’m retired from the game. I’ve gone from player to color commentator / analyst. I’m like the Boomer Esiason of the blog… :lol:

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
2:09 pm

Leggs do you have wax paper for real???? If you do you are the best-est! Growing up we always had wax paper…my grandma had it too!

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
2:09 pm

Melo — What place are you talking about at Lindberg?

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
2:11 pm

Melo I enjoyed wet willy’s I like posting up there.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
2:12 pm

Rell, yall trip me out. He has only been married 5 years and has already been with 13 other women. He had barely allowed the ink to dry on the marriage certificate before he was out banging other women.

He made those babies. If his wife having to attend to the needs of those babies he helped make he should have wrapped it up. What are women to do, let the baby be hungry and wallow in crap so men can get their jollies.

I guarantee while he was out screwing other women his wife was home probably more than willing to sex him. He wasn’t there to find out.

And what do you mean by “servitude”? Do you think we sit home eating bonbons all day while getting a massage and pedicure.

Man you are kidding right? LOL

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
2:12 pm

True that lurker. I guess some guys just don’t get it. What I also understand is that men with multiple women on the side think that they’re only sleeping with them(their women won’t sleep with anyone else but them) but is that always the case. He could’ve taken some stuff home medicine can’t cure. Yeah I would be mad as hell about the cheating but the fact he hit alot of those chick raw would’ve gotten me a charge or something….nine iron anyone ;)

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:12 pm

I’m laughing, yes I have wax paper!

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
2:13 pm

LOL Rell, so she trapped him? GTFOH.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
2:14 pm

I fully recongize the fact that *some* men (and women) view sexual activity as little more than exercise and/or just another source of entertainment.

Don’t make it right. Just saying that I recognize that some folk can see it that way and that has nothing whatsoever to do with feelings.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:15 pm

@SassyMe ~ as Johnny Taylor sang “Who’s Making Love to Your Old Lady While You’re Out Making Love!” People better recognize, hell, men better recognize!!!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:17 pm

Tiger never should have married down. Or married period. Or maybe she should not have married up. Tiger why did you marry the nanny? I really dont care about it all though. I just want him to win The Masters.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:17 pm

@Leggs??Ok, melo, it sure doesn’t say he “respects” his lady either!

@Lurker ..wrap my mind around a dude saying, feeling and claiming to love his wife and then knocking off

when they say men are like dogs..i guess some of u females dont even know where that comes from? :lol:

Its a statement which means literally what it says.
Dogs can climb on each other and phluck even when other dogs and man is around,in public.They got no shame.

Hence the expresssion,men think with their dyckks.

RESPECT?? :roll:

The moment a man feels unquenched sxxxl desire and there is some moist nearby and accessible,its a wrap!

Many phychologists,including female ones have died trying to study this phenomena :lol:

I luv golf and have followed Tiger.His wife wld only come to Trnaments on weekends(2days),when he was in contention.Otherwise she stayed home. Now with all that money and ability to hire nannies etc,what a mistke that was,allowing Tiger to go on long trips 4 days without getting some.

Now we know where/how he refueled! :lol: :lol:

I wldn’t do it!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:19 pm

If any of you gals watch the Bad Girls Club, get your popcorn ready for Part 2 tomorrow night (final show). There are going to be so many fights I will be in 7th heaven (sorry, but I like a good fight).

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
2:20 pm

why it has to be “servitude” for you guys

- they tell you at the altar to submit to your wife….lol. But i keep forgetting women do more than men..lol

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
2:20 pm

Tiger to go on long trips 4 days without getting some.

Melo,

Are you saying a man should not go four days without? I just want to know because I know some men that has gone 6weeks after the wife had a baby and one guy even longer his wife was ill.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:20 pm

What place are you talking about at Lindberg?

@Swiis

British pub called Furking! :lol:

@Proff u went there?? I cldnt mingle with 15/17yr olds in there! :lol:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:21 pm

“The moment a man feels unquenched sxxxl desire” You don’t know what this man feels. You’re operating purely on speculation because let you tell it his love for his wife has nothing to do with hime cheating. He would only cheat if he wasn’t getting it at home. Hell, he was never home to get it.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:21 pm

If I were a kept man and my wife was some sort of celebrity, I would sex her to death so that she is to tired to go elsewhere. But that’s just me maintaining my standard of living. :)

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:22 pm

Where she goes I go. I love you Oprah, leave Stedman

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
2:22 pm

“Who’s Making Love to Your Old Lady While You’re Out Making Love!”

Leggs, exactly. I always say to the menfolk if your wife/woman actually cares about where you are and what you are doing consider yourself lucky. Because when stop we caring or giving a flick remember these words “Who’s Making Love to Your Old Lady While You’re Out Making Love!”

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
2:23 pm

as Johnny Taylor sang “Who’s Making Love to Your Old Lady While You’re Out Making Love!”…hell, men better recognize!!!

They ain’t ready for that Leggs…I’m withcu though.

Tiger never should have married down.

Umm new guy…didn’t someone give you a blog vest a week or two ago….PUT IT ON :evil:

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:23 pm

Are you saying a man should not go four days without?

@Proff??

Tiger used to go for weeks without none,from trnament to trnament,even be4 he had kids. Instead of travelling with her,the wife alwayz stayed home.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:24 pm

Some men who cheat don’t give a rats tail about who’s making love to their old lady while they are out making love. Some take that as a greenlight to keep going for more or a “yes I have something on her now”

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
2:25 pm

Ah… Firkin & Lindbergh. No, haven’t been there, Melo. How was it? Would I enjoy the scenery? Or is it too “authentically” British for my tastes? :lol:

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
2:27 pm

:lol: @ Carlito — Man…. HANDS OFF OPRAH! If she ever leaves Gail Steadman, that cash cow is MINE! :lol:

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:27 pm

I have to kind of agree with Melo on this one in principle. If you are (male or female) not working and you have maids and cooks taking care of the house and helping with the kids. Your job is to be the SOD person (Sex On Demand) and stay in shape.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:30 pm

I’m Swiss, you can have the pool house. I am knocking her up first, after the baby is born you can move in the main house and I will move to the pool house. Oprah has enough to share. I am making and leaking home made movies, voicemails and everything. I am going to ride it until the wheels fall off. I AM OPRAH’S BABY DADDY!!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 22nd, 2010
2:30 pm

“Some men who cheat don’t give a rats tail about who’s making love to their old lady while they are out making love. ”

If any are pretty and in this situation, my number is 678-555-1212 (okay maybe not but still…) As an assoiaite of mine once said, “show me a man who won’t go down on his wife, and I’ll show you a woman I can have”. Maybe.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
2:31 pm

If she ever leaves Gail Steadman, that cash cow is MINE!

I’m sayin’ though….why she gotta be a cow?

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
2:32 pm

“I Think I Love My Wife” was a pretty good movie. There were some good quotes in there.

I liked when the boss told Chris Rock: ‘You can lose lots of money chasing women, but you will never lose women chasing money.”

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:32 pm

Would I enjoy the scenery? Or is it too “authentically” British for my tastes

@Swiss??

maybe,maybe not!
Try It!

I enjoyed it for the fish & chips and pool tables plus many tv spots in case i wanna hang out on the weekend.Being 1/2 British helps too. :-)

Ever since Prince of Wales closed,hadnt found another spot to rival ,untill this friday.

I will be a regular!

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
2:33 pm

Carlito, it has nothing to do with him marrying “down” or “up”. I would go along partially with what Rell stated moreso than the issue being the woman being “beneath” him. He could have well had a side of him “per those texts” that he had not revealed to his wife before marriage.

Three things you better make sure you are compatible in before marriage because they will surely wreak havoc and land you in divorce court. Those things are finances, child rearing and sex.

Maybe he thought he could tame his nature and succumb to being more “tame” or he just never intended on being that husband she thought she was getting.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:34 pm

All I am saying is that if a man is out there cheating on his wife, obviously he doesn’t mind losing her. Yes a man may go through the “remorse” when confronted by family and friends, or in Tigers case the media. I think Tiger is purely looking at it from a financial perspective.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
2:39 pm

If there is anybody out there cheating, it’s not because they will lose their SO. It’s because they think they won’t get caught.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:39 pm

Raqi, I have met women who husbands wanted them to be this perfect example of a house wife/church girl. Even so far as keeping things more or less missionary in the bedroom, But yet he is screwing everything walking but his wife. Now this same girls first words were she wanted to be more sexually open after telling me this story. Before going in you have to know what you want and what you are getting into, from both sides husband and wife. I do not believe for one moment that Tiger turned into a wh*re after he got married, I also believe that Elin had to have a clue before hand or atleast during. She decided to stay, for whatever reason that she only knows.

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
2:40 pm

Raqi i thought you would see my point…you always dropping hints about how you keep your hubby happy in that dept…meaning you know how to blanace mommy hoood and wife…some women dont…if you start out on your knees dont stop because of that shinny ring..thats what got you the ring..lol. Fro the reconrcd…GOOD POO CEE NEVER GETS OLD OR BORING…whats boring is when you have to constantly warmm up cold fish

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:40 pm

Sexy Cool, some people do not care. On that topic, how do swingers “swing” then get mad when one wants to stop but the other does not?

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
2:40 pm

obviously he doesn’t mind losing her
Carlito, I don’t agree. If that was the case then why sneak around. Why hide it? And a lot people, men and women, do it thinking they can have it all and get away with it.

They think they can have the best of both worlds. The perfect family and spouse. And all they can get on the side.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
2:41 pm

If there is anybody out there cheating, it’s not because they don’t mind losing their SO. It’s because they think they won’t get caught.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:42 pm

RelldaRake, that is true. Goodstuff never get’s old or boring.

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
2:42 pm

I just want Tiger to kick everyone’s azz at the Masters. The hello with all this other garbage. It would be funny if he put on the green jacket and said, “Oh yeah, Dave Chappelle told me to tell you all I’M RICH BYCH!”

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
2:42 pm

The guy is a billionare….how should’ve looked at it from a financial perspective a loooong time ago..waay back before he wanted to slap n toss lil Beckies around(and call them his little whore whilst doing said slapping). Or maybe he should’ve thought about it when they “renegotiated” the prenup after she wailed on his azz. I mean reall and truly I don’t think he was thinking of anything but himself and who he was gonna phk next…

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:45 pm

Raqi, I think he was sneaking around for the same reason he reconciled with his wife. The financials and sponsors. From reading those text he talked about how it would ruin his career if he were to be seen with some of the wh*res.

We all know Tiger is at fault do you all consider any of the women he slept with at fault as well? Or were they just unwilling victims and thought Tiger was single? Some men are only as faithful as their options. Wives/girlfriends, don’t give them the option to cheat. Wh*res, don’t be that option for a married man.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
2:45 pm

It’s because they think they won’t get caught.

WHOOP there it is…boom shacka lacka

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
2:49 pm

If that was the case then why sneak around.
Maybe they had an agreement. Maybe she talked herself into being ok with his endeavors as long as he took care of home and didn’t do it right in her face. Not saying this is the case, but it’s a possibility.

It’s because they think they won’t get caught.
I think this is true in the beginning. When you actually get caught, I think it’s because you no longer cared enough to keep it a secret.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:49 pm

Maybe, the guys should answer why men cheat. The women seem to think it is only because they won’t get caught. Oh yeah, cheating does not always involve a sexual act. Maybe he/she won’t listen to you, etc.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:51 pm

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪

All you fellows, gather round me
and let me give you some good advice.
What I’m gonna, gonna ask you now
you better think about it twice.
While you’re out cheatin’ on your woman
there is something you never even thought of
and that is:

Who’s making love to your old lady
while you were out making love?
Who’s making love to your old lady
while you were out making love?

I’ve seen so, so many fellows
all in that same old bag
thinkin’ that a woman is made to
to be beat on and treated so bad.
Oh, fellows, let me ask you somethin’
I’m sure that you never even dreamed of
and that is:

Chorus

I know that other women
give the other excuse.
I’m not tryin’ to run your life,
boy, that’s up to you, oh you,
oh oh, you you.

Reason why I ask this question,
I used to be the same old way.
When I decided to straighten up
I found it was a bit too late.
Oh yeah, that’s when it all happened,
something I never ever dreamed of.

Somebody was a-lovin’ my old lady
while I was out makin’ love.
Somebody was a-lovin’ my old lady
while I was out makin’ love.

Now, who’s making love to your old lady
while you were out making love?</em?

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:51 pm

Sorry, didn’t look long when I pasted it.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:52 pm

GOOD POO CEE NEVER GETS OLD OR BORING…whats boring is when you have to constantly warmm up cold fish

@Rell.. good job!

Raqi wont tell ladies so bluntly and its her fault they dont understand! :lol: ok,partly!

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
2:52 pm

Carlito – my comment actually was not specific to men. I said *anybody* and earlier made sure to include women in my post about how some people may view sexual activity.

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
2:53 pm

@lito…i am sure i will get heat for this…but a women will wh0re with a stranger on any given day…it happens brah…no one knows the mysteries of the vagina not even women..they just know men want it..and they will give it freely..if they “feel” a certain way about it

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:54 pm

Sexy Cool, my apologies. :)

Have any of the women on here ever cheated on their man? Well any that will admit to it and what the reason was behind it?

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
2:58 pm

“I’m sayin’ though….why she gotta be a cow?”

@Sassy — I thought that was more polite than heifer:lol:

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
2:59 pm

@lito..thats simple..one dude made them feel bad/negative/unloved…etc etc….the other dude paid attention..he told them he could not control himself around them..he was madly in love..he thought the world of her….the most anti-seductive thing for a women is not to be paid attention by the man she chose to be with..that will drive her quickly to the first weenie saying how good her bootydoo looks in her pants…

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:59 pm

RelladaRake, I know “some” women just get that urge and will do what it takes to handle it. Even in my office here I hear of first date sex stories way to often. Then I read just the other day here on the AJC that 48% of African American women between the ages of 14 and 49 have herpes. I am trying to find the complete stats for both genders. These women are sleeping with themselves but with willing partners. If your stats are STD free you have to be careful out there because STDS are rampant. An orgasm is just not that important to me.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:59 pm

@Carlito??

didnt u ask the same qstion last week??

and SexxyCool said “no comment”

If im not mistaken! :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
3:02 pm

Have any of the women on here ever cheated on their man? Well any that will admit to it and what the reason was behind it?
This is like a deja vu conversation from last week.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:02 pm

Rell, I agree with what it takes to get me it takes to keep me. Our sex life is just as enjoying for me as it is for him. What we do we did prior to the nuptials. I know how important a good healthy sex life is to him. I knew that before marriage.

But I have to believe just like you men say some women start to ration the goods after marriage, some men will try to introduce some new stuff just because now she is wife. Then you want to cry about what she will and will not do. Did you tell her you wanted that before hand?

My disagreement with you was with the baby part. You help make those babies.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:02 pm

Melo, I do know if my question was repetitive or not. I just stopped smoking this past weekend. :)

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
3:03 pm

Yes, he did, Melo. Perhaps he didn’t like the response and thought to ask again.

I thoroughly agree with you, my Italian Studmuffin. Think about it, what if your girl comes on this blog, I will have to stop calling you that because it would be disrespectful. You sure threw a wet blanket on that fantasy (J/K)!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:03 pm

Lol, okay back to my hole :) I do not remember asking that.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
3:04 pm

Actually, I said, “I will neither confirm nor deny.”

kimmie

March 22nd, 2010
3:04 pm

Leggs, I would love your recipe if you are willing to share. If you have Prof or SCools email, send it to them & they can forward to me. I’ll respond to you back so then you’ll have my email in the future.

Melo – Yeah, I was making a statement earlier.

Rell – Those texts Tiger sent are the same ole, same ole lines/excuses all married men use for messing around. Bottom line, Elin could have been swinging from the chandeliers every day, 4 times a day and on the rode with him, but if he was going to cheat, he was going to cheat.

And yeah, the women he messed with need to go sit down somewhere too, cause they are not without fault.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:04 pm

From reading those text he talked about how it would ruin his career if he were to be seen with some of the wh*res.

Only because he is married. I really don’t think they cared that much when he not tarnishes the image of the happily married man.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
3:05 pm

And I will co-sign Rell’s 259p.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
3:05 pm

Excellent comeback, Carlito :arrow: I do know if my question was repetitive or not. I just stopped smoking this past weekend”

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:06 pm

Leggs, she trusts me I told her about the blog. I told her about you, Melo, Professor, AmazonRed and that guy she fights with and I can’t remember the other bloggers name who just seems like she has a chip on her shoulder 75% of the time. When you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to hide :)

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
3:06 pm

Kimmie – I already I have. I will send it to you. Although, it may not be until tomorrow.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:07 pm

Maybe she won’t listen to you, etc.

Listen to what, Carlito? You all don’t talk. Remember. :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
3:07 pm

I do not remember asking that.
You didn’t ask it. Infamous stated that all women on this blog have cheated before, and those who reponded said that they have never cheated. I think SexyCool neither confirmed nor denied. lol

kimmie

March 22nd, 2010
3:08 pm

Thanks SCool & Leggs!

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
3:08 pm

@raqi..yep men will try and switch up too…the lack of communication will kill a relationship.

the baby part….babies do need some attending but sometimes wifes will go over board with all the extra attention they get from having a baby and also caring for one..yes i helped you make it…what did we do to make it..lets not forget that….and i have cared for young kids before and you dont need to sit and stare at em for hours…they not going to get up and go anywhere..but your husband will..straight to black cherry on the pole….or the local bar….or anything else that will give him a good feeling..versus a crying kid…and a unattentive wife….

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:08 pm

To tired to cheat, means she is doing her job at home :) (Trying my best to be The Devils Advocate today)

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:09 pm

the most anti-seductive thing for a women is not to be paid attention by the man she chose to be with

Ding, ding, ding. Rell you win the post of the day. LOL That right there needs to be posted on billboards, t-shirts and bumper sticker. :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
3:09 pm

Carlito – I’ve never cheated on my man.

I did break up with one once cuz I became interested in another. But it really had nothing to do with the new dude, old dude was trippin. :lol:

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:11 pm

Raqi, you have a good marriage and from what it sounds like a faithful and happy husband. You should be running a blog somewhere to help others achieve your status.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
3:11 pm

AmazonRed and that guy she fights with

Carlito – There is a whole list. Even after I took my haitus.

But I think you’re refering to DK in this instance. :lol:

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:13 pm

AmazonRed, you are not one of the women who needs a man to define her, from what little I know from reading. You just march to your own beat and if a man does not get on beat you just keep on your own pace.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
3:13 pm

I just stopped smoking this past weekend.

Y’een stop..she threw your isht away…right before she went back out of town.

Swiss umm okay.

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
3:15 pm

Elin could have been swinging from the chandeliers every day, 4 times a day and on the rode with him, but if he was going to cheat, he was going to cheat

-@kimmie…thats the thing…..if she was he would have chilled…trust that…i am telling you..are reading

1 – good poo cee does not and i repeat does not get old and boring

2- good “head” does not and i repeat does not get old and boring

3- fun, flexible women do not get boring or cheated on

4- men are attracted to vitality – (young chick, chicks full of live, active women, smart women, resourceful women..etc etc

5- women that own there sexuality

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
3:15 pm

t-shirts and bumper sticker.

pens,pencils and coffee mugs…

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:16 pm

“Don’t you know I am in love with you woman, I like no other women. Oops my bad, I thought you were my other woman” (I can’t remember but its from some rap song)

Some people just cheat and they will either stay that way for life or until they find someone they value enough not to hurt.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:17 pm

SassyMe, you , LuvBug and I need to have a meeting of the minds. :)

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
3:17 pm

AmazonRed, you are not one of the women who needs a man to define her, from what little I know from reading. You just march to your own beat and if a man does not get on beat you just keep on your own pace.

Carlito :D

Actually, one may be surprised at how traditional I am. I don’t mind being submitting or being a housewife and having to be dependent on my husband.

I still don’t take no mess tho. You’re certainly right about that.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
3:17 pm

some men will try to introduce some new stuff just because now she is wife

@Raqi!

but shldnt that be a necessity for 2 pple that are married,ie exploring for the betterment of u 2.I can tell u,we neva used to make luv the way we do now.Thanks to what i learnt from u sluts guys! :lol: Now,if we hadnt agreed to explore,either one of us wld be unfulfilled coz they wld be hearing stff from folks but the partner is not willing to explore and discuss and try.

I bet u folks havent reached the end of learning new stuff either??

@Blog??/Rell

whats a golden shower/dome? (as in Tiger texts)

sme new to learn and prtacrcrice again!?? :-)

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:18 pm

AmazonRed, you grew up with your father in the home, did you not?

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:18 pm

kimmie, you know what I say about those texts? If they saved they saved them for a reason. Just like Monice Le.. saved that dress. She had an agenda the whole time and planned to have evidence in the end.

I wouldn’t doubt the ones that saved those TW texts were planning on cashing in at the end of day. Planning to use them to black male him should ever try to leave. Unfortunately for them it all played out differently. The wife peeped his game before any blank checks could be written.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
3:19 pm

AmazonRed, you grew up with your father in the home, did you not?

Yes. We were modern day Cleavers. :lol:

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:19 pm

Raqi, true their plan backfired. Elin says “That’s her money and she needs it NOW!!” LOL

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:20 pm

LOL Sassy. Yep. No truer statement has ever been made. Sounds like Rell knows a little bit about us womenfolk. :lol:

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:21 pm

Carlito, I am still learning and figuring this thing out myself. And besides no two women or men are alike.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:21 pm

AmazonRed, I can tell. You remind me tons of my sister. To the outside she is strong and independent but she just waited on the right man to marry and now she is just a working happy home maker.

kimmie

March 22nd, 2010
3:24 pm

Raqi – Yes, so true, they were probably thinking “Monica Lewinsky” the whole time!LOL!!

And the ole, “my wife doesn’t understand me, she won’t give it up, she’s a b—-, she spends too much time on the kids, she won’t do ___, etc” – uh, yeah, right, heard it all before, Tiger.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
3:25 pm

Carlito – I would indeed love to be at home. It was great having not having to be a “latchkey kid.”

However, the men I date don’t have any real money, so I’m gonna be realistic with that one. :lol:

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
3:26 pm

Rell knows a little bit about us womenfolk

- actually i dont..but i learn every day…but alot of things are common sense when you strip away the things you want….there is a flow that is there between a man and women even when you are not talking..if you are intuned to the ways of women..meaning attention…attention and did i mention attention…example…i went to a strip club over this last week…did not spend a dime on a dance…but had the ladies coming over to me after they worked with there customers…i asked one of them why..she said “your attention and energy is different…you not on the sex vibe”…i could not stop laughing but imagine that…of course i kidded her about gaming me..but she said no fo real…she said” i am so tired of grinding on dizzle for chump change, i want a boyfriend”

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
3:27 pm

@kimmie ~ I was about to say, WHAT??? But I gotcha! Recipe has been sent!

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:27 pm

exploring for the betterment of u 2

Melo, that is different than what I am talking about. If you know your true passion is to be spanked by bearded mexican midget, that’s something you need to let the woman you are about to marry know before hand. LOL You can’t be having that midget jump out the closet on your wedding night. LOL

kimmie

March 22nd, 2010
3:28 pm

Thanks again Leggs!

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
3:29 pm

…stepping back in!

@Carlito that is cool you told her about the blog. Question: How many bloggers will tell their SO about blogging on here?

@Melo~ I saw the sign announcing the pub, but I went to wet willy’s for a cool one to drink. BTW you get out a lot!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:30 pm

AmazonRed, la bella vita :)

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
3:30 pm

@Carlito ~ I’ll bite, what did you tell your little kumquat about all of us?

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
3:30 pm

Question: How many bloggers will tell their SO about blogging on here?

*crickets*

He already thinks I’m crazy enough! No need for him to see it in print! :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
3:31 pm

So…I was going thru my “stash” and realize that they all expired in 2008. :oops:

I’ve been to Target and Walmart and can’t find those Magnum condoms anywhere. Where do they sell those?

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:32 pm

Professor, it is my opinion anything that is kept secret is up to know good. Unless it’s like a gift or something.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
3:32 pm

@Melo ~ do not practice golden shower on Queen…she won’t like it! It takes a special slut mindset to like that crap!

kimmie

March 22nd, 2010
3:32 pm

Professor – I talk to my SO about the blog all the time & some of the crazy stuff discussed on here. He submitted a post to a political podcast he listens to all the time & it was mentioned.

It’s our own little separate worlds but nothing to be secretive about.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:33 pm

Where do they sell those?

Walgreens. The adult stores. Online.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
3:33 pm

need to have a meeting of the minds.

Uhh huh ;)

Sounds like Rell knows a little bit about us womenfolk.

Sure does….who’dve thunk it :)

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:33 pm

Yep, my husband knows.

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
3:34 pm

Question: How many bloggers will tell their SO about blogging on here

a woman i am trying to date has lurked on here for a minute..lol..and she remember some of comments and blow ups…funny stuff. She is up on blog history..you dont have to tell them atlanta is small…face book and twitter makes it smaller…a friend came to me today and said..wise diva is following me on twitter…lol

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
3:34 pm

Raqi!

what if i have neva heard about it be4 marriage??

does the fact that i hear about it now that we married and want to try it make it a bad idea coz we neva did it be4??

u know some married women do not even give their men some head (from what ive heard on the blog..think Tazzee said so..i maybe wrong)

(i wld think those men are excused if they cheat) :roll:

U know how u females keep raising the bar on psh skills?? :lol: a married couple wont keep up! :lol:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
3:35 pm

@ARed ~ you got me to thinking…neva thought about it…thank you!!

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
3:35 pm

Sure does….who’dve thunk it

- wow sas, really….i spend alot of time alone…so i think, read and try not to make the same mistakes twice…i am a thinker love…you guys just experienced and unbalanced libra…thats what happens when were not balance..we go off..and i mean way off…i am cool now. ….i see puppies and rainbows again…thanks to my peoples!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
3:36 pm

I’ve been to Target and Walmart and can’t find those Magnum condoms anywhere. Where do they sell those?

OOOOHHHH :oops: For some reason I’ve noticed those little knock off gas stations in the hood stay stocked. I’m jus sayin’</em? :oops:

Now do you want the Magnums in the gold or BLACK box….the blacks are larger…..hercules hercules hercules….

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:37 pm

AmazonRed, I found them at Walgreens last friday.

Leggs, I told her you were nice and welcoming. I told her you call me “Italian studmuffin” and that we flirt jokingly. I told her that Melo is a nasty but smart guy and I do not know if he is married or not. I told her a bunch of people mess with AmazonRed and I do not know why but she holds her own. I also told her that she fights with another dude and it is funny as heck. I told her Professor is the reason she got her flowers a day early. I told her about (Kym?) who just snapped my head off for no reason and I had no clue who she was. Also, I told her the conversation is pretty good from different points of view until it goes off-topic then anything goes. Ohh yeah I told her a little about the dating out side of your race thing from a African American perspective.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
3:38 pm

TheDude knows that I am all over the innanet (and incidentally, thinks I’m online too much – but er, um, yeah, whatever). I haven’t mentioned this blog specifically, just that I blog on different sites online and I have discussions with him about some of the things that come up.

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
3:39 pm

i am still thinking about sending ared a message on the dating site..lol

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
3:40 pm

Walgreens…drug stores. Makes sense. Thanks folks.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:41 pm

Melo, I am not talking about experimenting or whatever after the fact. I am okay with that. What I am talking about is when you have a fetish or fantasy that you purposely conceal until after the nuptials thinking now that she is your wife she will do this for you. You need to let her know up front what you are really into and what you will be wanting her to do.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
3:42 pm

she won’t like it! It takes a special slut mindset to like that crap!

@Leggs

send me the golden shower play by play book ,by email.

I neva said she aint a slut herself! I aint confirming nor denying none :lol:

how do u think she keeps me in check? :lol:

(just a rethorical qstion)

@Proff (BTW you get out a lot!)

I used to consider fridays, “daddy’s day”.Lately,she wants to tag along.

I like to have my eyes feast alone smetimes,then take that sxxxl angst inside,at home, much later! :lol:

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:44 pm

And Melo giving head is not farfetched these days. The average woman knows that men want it. If they agree that she does not have to do it then he is supposed to live up to that agreement. He should not lie and say he is okay with her not giving and then use the fact that she doesn’t as an excuse to cheat.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
3:45 pm

@Kimmie you are one of our good bloggers! I really wanted to hear from the folks that are a bit over the top :grin:

@Ared I feel ya!

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
3:45 pm

I told her a bunch of people mess with AmazonRed and I do not know why but she holds her own

Carlito – Folks think I think I’m “perfect,” on “my high horse” or that my “ish doesn’t stink.”

In addition, I don’t give a rat’s patootie about other people’s opinion of me. But they still try to take me down a peg. Won’t happen, even if I fall like Tiger! :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
3:47 pm

Now do you want the Magnums in the gold or BLACK box….the blacks are larger…..hercules hercules hercules….

:lol:

Sassy – I think they’re the gold ones. Magnum Ecstacy is the type I am to keep on hand.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
3:49 pm

And Melo giving head is not farfetched these days

@Raqi!?

I know, i was jus using it as an example.

There is more crawzy ish I proly neva had about.

But im open to more tutorials. :lol:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
3:52 pm

@Carlito ~ thank you.

@Melo ~ I would never own a playbook on that activity. Heck, how hard can it be to pee on someone??

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:55 pm

Could you really kiss someone knowing that you had pee’d on them before? I mean after the shower you are about to kiss and then your mind just goes back to the urination.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
3:57 pm

@Carlito ~ just makes me frown….I can’t even imagine someone liking this activity. But freaks come in all shapes, colors and sizes.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
3:57 pm

Melo, between this blog and your porn I know you have a PhD in Freaky Deaky. At this time, unless you create something new, you already know it all.

:grin:

Here is your degree and you may turn your tassle to the other side

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:58 pm

Random….

(Rell, this one is for you)

I left the house Saturday morning a little before 10 to do my grocery and miscellaneous shopping. I was out for the better part of the afternoon. I get a call around 3ish saying “she pooped her diaper”. I said, “okay. change it.” He asked “how long before you get home?” I told him another 20 minutes or so, but change the diaper. How come when I got there 25-30 minutes later he is sitting there holding a pamper and wipes with baby sitting on the couch next to him tearing up a magazine. When I walked into the den he said “I was just getting ready to change her”.

Rell, that’s the servitude you were talking about? LOL

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:59 pm

What if you date someone, they tells you that they loved to get pee’d on. You say it is not your thing, they said it’s okay. But yet, they are friends with their ex. At what point do you ask if that friend is the one who used to urinate on them. :)

I am whatever you say I am

March 22nd, 2010
3:59 pm

Oh My!
What did I just step into?

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:01 pm

Go away Carlito. :lol:

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:01 pm

So now everybody are friends and you are stuck looking at someone who used to piss on your mate.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
4:02 pm

Heck, how hard can it be to pee on someone??

@Leggs?? oh,the Robert Kelly! :lol:

why call it golden…smh..

I get it…

Queen has no problem with my necta wetting the sheets..but urine??,I doubt that.

I think some most women luv/entertain a necta shower in da mouf coz they associate that with babies,pampers,good good etc anyway! :lol: :roll:

Sweet! :lol:

(back in the day when i was very young and single,at nite, smetimes, I wld wake up to my sxxxl drream,my body all covered up in candle wax) :lol:

It felt horrible,slimy and derty,phluckking invisible women! :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:03 pm

Candle wax tho?

Go away melo. :lol:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:03 pm

@Carlito ~ at no point. Why put unnecessary confirmations in your head. If she says no are you going to keep asking until you see the person who turned her out to liking it?? Leave it alone!

Grace

March 22nd, 2010
4:03 pm

Carlito can you kiss someone after oral? that’s my question knowing that the pee come from where you’re licking/sucking.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:04 pm

AmazonRed, it’s a good question don’t you think?

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:04 pm

UUUGG, Melo, no most ladies DO NOT!

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
4:04 pm

One of my bff was telling about this program that was on HBO the other night. Hookers were telling about what it’s like to work the streets. She said this one lady was telling a fellow “employee” about this one dude that was so out there he did not want sex. He had her to defecate on a plate and pee in a cup and you all know the rest of that story.

She said it made her sick to her stomach and she has seen some really way out stuff.

Poppa Grande

March 22nd, 2010
4:05 pm

Wow! I think that I crept in on Moaning Monday :grin: … Golden “exploits” :shock:

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
4:05 pm

You say it is not your thing, they said it’s okay. But yet, they are friends with their ex. At what point do you ask if that friend is the one who used to urinate on them

OH MY

:evil: :shock:

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:06 pm

Grace, yes I can. But urine is extract that the body does not need.

Leggs, I just would like to date a woman who does not consider herself a urinal.

Candle Wax feels good on the body, it leaves welts sometimes though, especially on the “boys”

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
4:06 pm

Melo, you start out good then you just take it too far dude. LOL

And soy candle wax? I have heard of that. :wink:

LURKER

March 22nd, 2010
4:07 pm

YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Random Thoughts…………YEAAAA

SexyCool we know all women will state (see what had happen) my SO and I had a fight and we broke up well at least in my I thougt so, then I went out last night and fell on some Magnum size dizzle! :lol: So i did not cheat! :smile: I bet not catch you out in dem streets! :lol

Well, well we have another slimone( AmazonRed) who has a deep cavern! What is up with dem slim chicks handling all dat magnum…… :smile:

@Raqi…..You do a better job at changing the dirty diapers!!!!!!!!! YEAAAAAA

W

I am whatever you say I am

March 22nd, 2010
4:07 pm

Why oh Why do I have to read gross stuff while eating!!!
Why!!?!!!

:shock:

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
4:08 pm

especially on the “boys

Oh my Carlito. I would think that would be too much. Ouch. But hey, get it like you like it. LOL

SlimOne on autopilot

March 22nd, 2010
4:10 pm

“well we have another slimone( AmazonRed) who has a deep cavern! What is up with dem slim chicks handling all dat magnum”

LURKER – LOL How did I get put into the Deep Cavern category?

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:10 pm

Raqi, it’s hot for a quick second then really cool and breezy right after. LOL, my first time I was tied up and almost dislocated my shoulder when it first hit. After I calmed down I really enjoyed it. :)

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
4:10 pm

I know you have a PhD in Freaky Deaky

Proff??

I got my phd on the internet,its not even credible nor accredited! :lol: :lol:

unless one of uall blog females can vouch for it!

What do u think of my odds?? :lol:

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
4:10 pm

My ex left me a sticky note saying “P on ME”

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
4:11 pm

sounds like it’s Masochistic Monday up in here. lol

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:11 pm

I see, my Italian Studmuffin likes sweet pain!

BlackMagicWoman ~ I will need to borrow your handcuffs and your whip!

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:13 pm

Well, well we have another slimone( AmazonRed) who has a deep cavern! What is up with dem slim chicks handling all dat magnum……

Good grief. I see I can’t ask y’all nuffin! :lol:

But I don’t know what’s up with those dudes, but they need to stop. I don’t need all of that. :lol:

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
4:14 pm

Well, well we have another slimone( AmazonRed) who has a deep cavern! What is up with dem slim chicks handling all dat magnum

- maybe they are not deep…just telling with small dudes…lol…i will say this..most women i have been with that have the ‘deep caverns” have kids…chicks with no kids usually are tight to very tight..so ummm yeah..they like the thought of taking that magnum but when you get down to working that poo cee..lol its a different story

LURKER

March 22nd, 2010
4:16 pm

@Slimone…….Now you know you are in possession of a deep cavern, It is listed in the National Geographic books as SlimoneCaverness cave……If you are 8 and under you must wear swim gear!
:lol: :lol:

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
4:17 pm

Folks do u know that real estate in Atlanta has really gone to the dogs?? There is a slew of condos in buckhead,in foreclosure,short sale etc,all at very reasonable prices. Its bound to even go down still.

This is a good time to buy in a prime area of the A, esp if u got cash for a good deposit. Five years down the road, u be the new Donald Trumps..Lots of upside.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
4:18 pm

Don’t all dudes wear Magnums?
Blank stare…
:)

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
4:19 pm

chicks with no kids usually are tight to very tight

Rell, now you do know those muscles by nature goes back to the original state. If unless you had sex with her prior to baby you really don’t know how different it is after. And if you are having sex with her a mere month or so after birth, the cave is not yet tighten to is prior state fully.

I have three kids…nevermind. That just too much TMDI.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:19 pm

Leggs, yes I do.

“Are you trying to kill me?” Random quote from a woman during a blackbox magnum experience

When we hear a noise or hit bottom the mission becomes seek and destroy…or just watching her grimace and squirm every 8th stroke. But first set her up, don’t give her the deep treatment until she think she has life all figured and and then Viola!! You adjust her spine.

It’s all fun and games until your current is someone’s peed on ex.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
4:20 pm

LOL SexyCool.

LURKER

March 22nd, 2010
4:20 pm

@Relll…..You are correct about the women with Children truly swim at your own risk!
But I had a very athlete slimone and she was very, very deep and enjoyed getting all the time!
YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:21 pm

But I had a very athlete slimone and she was very, very deep and enjoyed getting all the time!
YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

:)

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:22 pm

Hello Raqi, and your three kids. With your “keep him happy” you got down there between your legs. :)

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:22 pm

@Carlito ~ that thought wasn’t random….women say it quite a bit all the while not missing a beat while saying it.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:22 pm

It’s all fun and games until your current is someone’s peed on ex.

Seriously, go away.

“You’ll shoot your eye out!” :lol:

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
4:23 pm

“…those muscles by nature goes back to the original state…”

And then, of course, there are those chicks you see on the internet (allegedly) who have gaping, baseball-bat sized caverns where their sphincters used to be… :shock:

LURKER

March 22nd, 2010
4:24 pm

Oh, let me add Sexycool and Sassy as women who are thick but equally up to the task of handling Magnum P.I. Their sign read Magum only apply here! :lol: :lol:

I don’t need to say anything about Raqi…..She has already spoken!

Golden Showers….Ummmm I see Leggs giving Carlito a lot of feedback ummmmmmmm….. :smile:

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
4:24 pm

The average woman canal is about 5-6 inches. Some lengthen with arousal. So the average man will hit or at least tap the cervix. So don’t get all beside yourselves “big boys”. LOL

Adam C.

March 22nd, 2010
4:24 pm

Being single is a blessing. To answer the question “How do you adjust to life after ? Does it help when you are able to forge a friendship with the person? Is that even a good idea?”, thats up to the ex couple in question. I would generally think that it might take some time for friendship to arise, but for me it’s been hit and miss. I adjusted just fine, of course after some down time, its been almost four years since I’ve been in a relationship and I love it. If it happens again it happens but I’m honestly not going to go out of my way again thats for sure, lifes too short to mope.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
4:25 pm

Thick? Who me? Maybe the 1990 definition of thick…LOL!

LURKER

March 22nd, 2010
4:26 pm

Oops that was soppose to be atheletic slimone….. Now this one possess all the skills. Plus she wanted to moved in, bring in another woman, she was trying to turn me out! YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!! :

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:27 pm

Leggs, If only I had met you a few months ago :) Italian Stallion. LOL

AmazonRed, how many people are going to ask their SO “You ever been pee’d on?
or atleast think it. :)

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:28 pm

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
4:28 pm

It’s all fun and games until your current is someone’s peed on ex.

:roll:

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:28 pm

AmazonRed, how many people are going to ask their SO “You ever been pee’d on?

I might have asked that already. :lol:

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
4:29 pm

Gouda, that is not from having babies. That is probably because those women will let a man run anything up in there from a finger tip to a oldsmobile on the regular. Yeah if she is into fisting having a fist up in there every night and twice on Sunday will probably stretch it out.

But seriously having a baby or two will not do that. Especially if the kids are 3 years or so apart. My doc says it take the average woman about a year for her body to completely return to prebirth state. That includs womb, cervix, muscles and hormones. At 3 months the canal should be feeling like it felt prior to baby. 6 months at the least.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:29 pm

@LURKER ~ you seem to always stop by in the evening once school gets out? What do you do in the morning. Look at me all up in your koolaid. Anywho, you sound like another blogger, Lord V. Is you him?

SlimOne on autopilot

March 22nd, 2010
4:29 pm

“listed in the National Geographic books as SlimoneCaverness cave”

Yeah, now that you mention it, i’m the hidden wonder of the world.. :mrgreen: But seriously, it’s just phat…the depthness of it is totally dependant upon the type of pipe being used. ;-)

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:30 pm

I’m Swiss, sometimes you can put your whole balled up fist in there.

Raqi, let us have our moment. LOL

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:30 pm

the depthness of it is totally dependant upon the type of pipe being used.

:idea:

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:33 pm

Raqi, be proud of your goodstuff :) there is no science behind it. Some women just have good “poo cee”. And ladies you can not determine yourself that your “poo cee” is good, but you can confirm if it tastes good. :)

SlimOne, you are funny. LOL

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:33 pm

drip drip drip

Grace

March 22nd, 2010
4:34 pm

into fisting having a fist up in there every night and twice on Sunday will probably stretch it out. :shock:

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:34 pm

Fellas, before I left the house this morning I was Johnny 3 streams. What is the scientific explanation for that?

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
4:36 pm

So the average man will hit or at least tap the cervix

Raqi!!

whenever u hear a woman moan,ughhh,approvingly, :lol: each time u hit the wave as u digg in deep,u know,shes feeling u deep down in there,it dont matter how deep! :lol: :lol:

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
4:37 pm

We continually prove that no topic will be passed over. EVER!

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:37 pm

Some women just have good “poo cee”. And ladies you can not determine yourself that your “poo cee” is good,

There are a couple of clues that give us an idea.

Cuz trust…nothing I do is spectacular, but I can’t get rid of them. I can’t even say I’ve had a one night stand, even if I was cool with never seeing that person again, he tracks me down. ;)

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
4:38 pm

But seriously, it’s just phat…the depthness of it is totally dependant upon the type of pipe being used.
Did someone call a spelunker? Reporting for duty.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
4:38 pm

@Leggs I think he is Lord V.

LURKER comeback and get this ID theft moniker right. :cool:

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 22nd, 2010
4:38 pm

Since I married the last guy TWICE, I decided to take a short break but it didn’t last long…..Because the marriage had been dead for 3 years prior to us separating and getting divorced. I cannot & will not be friends with him because he turned out to be a LEECH and a pothead.
It’s better to lose a LOVER than to love a LOSER. I have met many wonderful men over the last 2 years and would not TRADE any of them for my ex-husband. One of the guys was my high school sweetheart/first love but that didn’t work out this time around(:( This past Saturday went to the Thrashers game with a very special and intelligent guy whom I def will see again! :) and ALL MEN ARE ANIMALS SOME JUST MAKE BETTER PETS!!!!!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:40 pm

AmazonRed, I am sure your exploits are G-14 classified, as they should be.

Melo, its a great feeling when you know you are exploring new depths. You can just feel the new lands open around you as you apply pressure.

Did, I mention I had a great weekend. :)

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:40 pm

:lol: @ Green Eyes.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:42 pm

AmazonRed, I am sure your exploits are G-14 classified, as they should be.

Carlito – I will totally cop to being a lazy lay. I really don’t think I bring anything spectacular to bedroom gymnastics, other than flexibility and I assume a guy can get that anywhere.

See, we women can fess up to stuff. ;)

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
4:42 pm

ALL MEN ARE ANIMALS SOME JUST MAKE BETTER PETS!!!!!

u can tell she got cougar qualities! :lol:

hey Gorgeous Green!

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
4:43 pm

ALL MEN ARE ANIMALS SOME JUST MAKE BETTER PETS!!!!!

DUH :mrgreen:

Hey Green Eyes, and welcome back!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:43 pm

Gorgeous Green Eyes, what does pot have to do with it? Smoke it if you got it. (This is going to be harder than I thought)

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:45 pm

@Carlito ~ I have one that I’ve been holding on to for the past 5 years…you want it?

LURKER

March 22nd, 2010
4:46 pm

@Leggs……Call me Lord of the evening blogger… I try to get the work done early some I can post some craziness later in the evening!

@Dammmm now AmazonRed…..is Showing modesty…Cali women are the creators of PSH, plus you probable scream, cuss and will squeeze the sh!t out of a dizzle.. You believe like Sexycool get every drop of dat dizzle cum….. That is why they come back for more….So quit being modest!! :wink: You da izzle for shizzle…… :smile:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:46 pm

LURKER is like the Phantom at the Opera. Where he go?

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
4:46 pm

Melo, its a great feeling when you know you are exploring new depths

the worst feeling is to come prematurely when u know,u landing on good juicy stuff.

The best feling is to hear her shriek and moan and hold u in a tight grip as if for dear lyfe,when u nutt inside her! :lol:

Did, I mention I had a great weekend

I can tell!

Thank Professor for that coup.

Atlanta women got it!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:47 pm

WOW, this blog machine is funny.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:47 pm

AmazonRed, some are just built well on the inside. And flexibility is not always an easy fine. I am sure diet and daily lifestyle has an effect on the “feeling” I once dated a vegetarian, hers just felt great. Also my currents hobby is training and riding horses and I am sure that has something to do with her natural motions in the bedroom, that woman can work wonders with her hips. At this point I know I am not giving her the address to this blog. :)

Nasty Heffa Alert

March 22nd, 2010
4:49 pm

Slim One You Win the The Nasty Heffa Award!

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:49 pm

@Dammmm now AmazonRed…..is Showing modesty

Well ain’t that a biyatch. I share one of my “flaws” and folks just think I’m being modest.

I just can’t win on here. ;)

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:49 pm

Get you a woman form the mid-west. An area of the country with 8 months of winter. There is nothing to do when you are snowed in but hone your skills.

Leggs, you have one of what you have been holding onto for 5 years?

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:49 pm

Too funny, I had no doubt you would probably change your mind, Carlito!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:50 pm

@Carlito ~ yep!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:50 pm

Just because it is wet, does not make it good.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
4:50 pm

Green eyes since things are working out well for Carlito the board decided that you are free to chat with melo to see if you two are a match. Do you like pubs?

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:51 pm

that woman can work wonders with her hips.

Now…I have heard that I was good at that…but I’m not sure I believe it.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:51 pm

Sorry, reading is fundamental….one of the green thingamajigs rolled up.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:51 pm

Leggs, I just need a little clarity. :) I am going to be like “I thought you just didn’t want me to when you are in town”

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
4:51 pm

other than flexibility and I assume a guy can get that anywhere.
Not anywhere. This is not as abundant as you might think, but it is appreciated. lol

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:53 pm

AmazonRed, no need to explain it. Just be happy :)

Leggs, 5 years old? Is it sealed up in a glass jar?

Professor, what do I have to do with Green Eyes? LOL

LURKER

March 22nd, 2010
4:55 pm

@AmazonRed……I bet you bend it like Becham don’t ya!

@Professor… I knowest not of Lord V. but you can call me LURKER in da mist of heated passion!!!! YEAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!! I will bring and apple to class!!!!! :wink:

@Greeneyes….Sounds like a playa… She date several men in the past 2yrs!!!!! Play on playa!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:55 pm

DreamMaterialize, you can see a woman dance flexing all over the place, get her home. Stiff, her cavern is shallow, but yet she thinks her stuff is the bomb. All of that fineness gone to waste.

Grace

March 22nd, 2010
4:55 pm

I’m VERY happy :lol: :lol:

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
4:56 pm

Prof ..u good at match making??

good nite folks!

(i think im getting some tonite)

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:56 pm

I am flying home this weekend. :)

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:56 pm

@Carlito ~ ci vediamo domani {{{muah}}}

It’s better to lose a LOVER than to love a LOSER ~ (Gorgeous Green Eyes)

Good night everyone!

LL411

March 22nd, 2010
4:57 pm

@ Raqi….That is probably because those women will let a man run anything up in there from a finger tip to a oldsmobile on the regular.

WOW, Just WOW! I’m sitting here sniggling

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:58 pm

AmazonRed, no need to explain it. Just be happy

Okay…I just wish I knew what I was doing! :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:59 pm

@AmazonRed……I bet you bend it like Becham don’t ya!

:lol:

I’m not sharing again for another 6 months. :lol:

LURKER

March 22nd, 2010
4:59 pm

@DreamsM…… I concur it …..Flexibility is really appreciated in this camp because I plan on testing that flexibility!

@That is why some of those SlimGems are so deep they have some good flexibility!!1

Ummmmm Slimone is not the Nasty Heffy on here she is one of the stars….Slim whenever you ready let me know I luv deep sea drilling……. :wink: :smile: :wink:

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

Leggs, So esattamente cosa intendi (wink)

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

@LL411 ~ when Raqi posted that about the oldsmobile, I immediately thought of Jayne Kennedy and her then husband’s sex tape. That was off da chain. He put his fist up to his elbow in her. I nearly fainted watching it. Oh My Goodness!

I am whatever you say I am

March 22nd, 2010
5:02 pm

I’m at a loss of words…..

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
5:03 pm

Some women like fist, kind of sticky upon exit though. Just have her help you lick your fingers clean.

1 finger, then two, then four, add the thumb then slowly make a fist. Everything will return back to form in a day or two.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
5:04 pm

Pee’d on or a Fist, that is the question. Goodnight All :)

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
5:06 pm

Leggs – Jayne Kennedy sex tape?!?!? WHATDAHELL?!?!?

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
5:08 pm

I know, I know, many many moons ago, but I never forgot it. They were going at it non-stop!!!! When he put that fist in there, I had to look w/one eye open.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
5:11 pm

Leggs, I remember that tape. That guy was having “issues” with performing. He did try and pull her ovaries out with his hand though

LURKER

March 22nd, 2010
5:12 pm

Look at I am playing innocent right now, knowing she thinking where can I get some dizzle from this week!!!!! YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!

@Sexycool the talk of the Jayne Kennedy tape wakes you up huh!!!! Hummmmmmm!!!!

@Leggs…..I am keeping my blog eyes open about you I did not know you like porn……You have moved up to a 7.5 looking good Leggs….. :wink: :wink: I see you like the endulged with the happy stick too huh…… That’s what I’m talking about!

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
5:14 pm

I am NOT going to google *Jayne Kennedy sex tape.* I’m not. I’m not. I’m not.

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
5:15 pm

Lurker – I already have a regular source of vitamin D. Thank you. :lol:

And y’all nasty! Good night!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
5:17 pm

@LURKER ~ don’t even want to know what number I started out. I’m no prude! I can handle my own when I need to handle my own, and for the record, I’m still very flexible….

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
5:18 pm

Raqi:lol: Yeah, thanks for the anatomy lesson — but I did actually know that babies don’t stretch the back door. :lol: I just referenced that to note that stretched muscles won’t necessarily revert back to their original tightness, as long as they are stretched regularly:lol:

@Carlito — RE: 3 streams — Ain’t that a bytch?!? And women wonder why we can’t help but P all over the bowl sometimes. It’s not as easy as it looks, ladies… :lol:

Lord Velonese

March 22nd, 2010
5:18 pm

Lurker seems to nice to be me. And usually in the mornings I’m asleep, because I work 3rd shift.

Three words daily – Kiss my …!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
5:18 pm

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
5:18 pm

Google it, SexyC…google it!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
5:19 pm

I’m Swiss, it always happens after sex for me. WHOA, NELLY!!! LOL

Leggs, Leggs, Leggs. :)

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
5:20 pm

I’m not gone click on that link. I’m not. I’m not. I’m not.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
5:21 pm

Don’t get me wrong, I can’t bend like ARed. Bones aren’t as firm as hers! :lol: :lol: , I might break something at this juncture!

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
5:22 pm

@Carlito — Same here… I guess a little goo stays stuck in there & you get the wild streams. Sort of like the way lime buildup will make your shower head go all c0ck-eyed…

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
5:22 pm

Awww SexyC ~ life is short, click it, click it, click it!

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 22nd, 2010
5:22 pm

Hi Melo and Everyone on here….yes I love being a player and totally let the young ones come to me….Cougar is a predator …I am more like a Kitty Kat…hmmmmm. And my most recent LOVER was tapping the U know what AND he will remain a very VERY special friend…..He is most useful with the profession that he is in AND he is 21 years younger than me…….YES. AND gorgeous!!!! Bye Ya’ll :)

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
5:25 pm

I’m Swiss, that very well may be the cause. I dont know which stream to aim at the toilet. Just have to clean the toilet and mop the floor. Or just put a death grip on it and then kneel on one knee and get a close shot.

Leggs, I am sure you are just fine. MmmHmmm, where were you a few months ago..LOL

SexyCool , click the link. Just Do It :)

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
5:27 pm

@Carlito — See… that’s why you should just P on your woman… :lol: (Kidding, ladies, kidding)

LURKER

March 22nd, 2010
5:28 pm

Dang-it….. I knew it, Gorgeous Green Eyes is a playa…..Go head on you puma! You like pipe with a strong tensile strength Green eyes! :wink:

@Leggs…..After we smoke a few your flexibility will come back to ya right away! You will feel anything! :smile:

@Lord V…..Right on time.. Spitting the usually… Now if BMW and Sybil can do a guest apprearance then all the gang would have checked in!

Three daily words…….A WET DEEP CAVERN IS GOOD TO BONE!

YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That is all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
5:34 pm

I’m Swiss, maybe in the shower. :)