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One of the trickiest things to deal with post-break up is “reclaiming yourself” so to speak.  For example, you rediscover your friends.  I’m talking the great ones that don’t hold grudges because you all but disappear from the land of the living with your boo.  You get back to doing the things that only you enjoy doing — out in the open, without fear of getting strange looks from your significant other.

You will also have to adjust to sleeping alone again, cooking for one, and having to find a “plus one” for parties.  Sounds slightly depressing, doesn’t it?  Whether you were the dumper or dumpee, you are probably dealing with some kind of emotion. Guys, you can call it something else, if you want to, but you go through “something” too!

What are the best ways to deal with break-ups?  I am referring to the bad breakups that make you feel as if you’ve gone a couple of rounds with Pacquiao – except you actually landed tough punches.

How do you adjust to life after <insert wonderful/horrible ex-mate’s name here>?  Does it help when you are able to forge a friendship with the person? Is that even a good idea?

Your turn: What is the best way to handle a break up?

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Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
3:36 pm

I’ve been to Target and Walmart and can’t find those Magnum condoms anywhere. Where do they sell those?

OOOOHHHH :oops: For some reason I’ve noticed those little knock off gas stations in the hood stay stocked. I’m jus sayin’</em? :oops:

Now do you want the Magnums in the gold or BLACK box….the blacks are larger…..hercules hercules hercules….

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:37 pm

AmazonRed, I found them at Walgreens last friday.

Leggs, I told her you were nice and welcoming. I told her you call me “Italian studmuffin” and that we flirt jokingly. I told her that Melo is a nasty but smart guy and I do not know if he is married or not. I told her a bunch of people mess with AmazonRed and I do not know why but she holds her own. I also told her that she fights with another dude and it is funny as heck. I told her Professor is the reason she got her flowers a day early. I told her about (Kym?) who just snapped my head off for no reason and I had no clue who she was. Also, I told her the conversation is pretty good from different points of view until it goes off-topic then anything goes. Ohh yeah I told her a little about the dating out side of your race thing from a African American perspective.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
3:38 pm

TheDude knows that I am all over the innanet (and incidentally, thinks I’m online too much – but er, um, yeah, whatever). I haven’t mentioned this blog specifically, just that I blog on different sites online and I have discussions with him about some of the things that come up.

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
3:39 pm

i am still thinking about sending ared a message on the dating site..lol

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
3:40 pm

Walgreens…drug stores. Makes sense. Thanks folks.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:41 pm

Melo, I am not talking about experimenting or whatever after the fact. I am okay with that. What I am talking about is when you have a fetish or fantasy that you purposely conceal until after the nuptials thinking now that she is your wife she will do this for you. You need to let her know up front what you are really into and what you will be wanting her to do.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
3:42 pm

she won’t like it! It takes a special slut mindset to like that crap!

@Leggs

send me the golden shower play by play book ,by email.

I neva said she aint a slut herself! I aint confirming nor denying none :lol:

how do u think she keeps me in check? :lol:

(just a rethorical qstion)

@Proff (BTW you get out a lot!)

I used to consider fridays, “daddy’s day”.Lately,she wants to tag along.

I like to have my eyes feast alone smetimes,then take that sxxxl angst inside,at home, much later! :lol:

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:44 pm

And Melo giving head is not farfetched these days. The average woman knows that men want it. If they agree that she does not have to do it then he is supposed to live up to that agreement. He should not lie and say he is okay with her not giving and then use the fact that she doesn’t as an excuse to cheat.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
3:45 pm

@Kimmie you are one of our good bloggers! I really wanted to hear from the folks that are a bit over the top :grin:

@Ared I feel ya!

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
3:45 pm

I told her a bunch of people mess with AmazonRed and I do not know why but she holds her own

Carlito – Folks think I think I’m “perfect,” on “my high horse” or that my “ish doesn’t stink.”

In addition, I don’t give a rat’s patootie about other people’s opinion of me. But they still try to take me down a peg. Won’t happen, even if I fall like Tiger! :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
3:47 pm

Now do you want the Magnums in the gold or BLACK box….the blacks are larger…..hercules hercules hercules….

:lol:

Sassy – I think they’re the gold ones. Magnum Ecstacy is the type I am to keep on hand.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
3:49 pm

And Melo giving head is not farfetched these days

@Raqi!?

I know, i was jus using it as an example.

There is more crawzy ish I proly neva had about.

But im open to more tutorials. :lol:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
3:52 pm

@Carlito ~ thank you.

@Melo ~ I would never own a playbook on that activity. Heck, how hard can it be to pee on someone??

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:55 pm

Could you really kiss someone knowing that you had pee’d on them before? I mean after the shower you are about to kiss and then your mind just goes back to the urination.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
3:57 pm

@Carlito ~ just makes me frown….I can’t even imagine someone liking this activity. But freaks come in all shapes, colors and sizes.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
3:57 pm

Melo, between this blog and your porn I know you have a PhD in Freaky Deaky. At this time, unless you create something new, you already know it all.

:grin:

Here is your degree and you may turn your tassle to the other side

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:58 pm

Random….

(Rell, this one is for you)

I left the house Saturday morning a little before 10 to do my grocery and miscellaneous shopping. I was out for the better part of the afternoon. I get a call around 3ish saying “she pooped her diaper”. I said, “okay. change it.” He asked “how long before you get home?” I told him another 20 minutes or so, but change the diaper. How come when I got there 25-30 minutes later he is sitting there holding a pamper and wipes with baby sitting on the couch next to him tearing up a magazine. When I walked into the den he said “I was just getting ready to change her”.

Rell, that’s the servitude you were talking about? LOL

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:59 pm

What if you date someone, they tells you that they loved to get pee’d on. You say it is not your thing, they said it’s okay. But yet, they are friends with their ex. At what point do you ask if that friend is the one who used to urinate on them. :)

I am whatever you say I am

March 22nd, 2010
3:59 pm

Oh My!
What did I just step into?

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:01 pm

Go away Carlito. :lol:

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:01 pm

So now everybody are friends and you are stuck looking at someone who used to piss on your mate.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
4:02 pm

Heck, how hard can it be to pee on someone??

@Leggs?? oh,the Robert Kelly! :lol:

why call it golden…smh..

I get it…

Queen has no problem with my necta wetting the sheets..but urine??,I doubt that.

I think some most women luv/entertain a necta shower in da mouf coz they associate that with babies,pampers,good good etc anyway! :lol: :roll:

Sweet! :lol:

(back in the day when i was very young and single,at nite, smetimes, I wld wake up to my sxxxl drream,my body all covered up in candle wax) :lol:

It felt horrible,slimy and derty,phluckking invisible women! :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:03 pm

Candle wax tho?

Go away melo. :lol:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:03 pm

@Carlito ~ at no point. Why put unnecessary confirmations in your head. If she says no are you going to keep asking until you see the person who turned her out to liking it?? Leave it alone!

Grace

March 22nd, 2010
4:03 pm

Carlito can you kiss someone after oral? that’s my question knowing that the pee come from where you’re licking/sucking.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:04 pm

AmazonRed, it’s a good question don’t you think?

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:04 pm

UUUGG, Melo, no most ladies DO NOT!

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
4:04 pm

One of my bff was telling about this program that was on HBO the other night. Hookers were telling about what it’s like to work the streets. She said this one lady was telling a fellow “employee” about this one dude that was so out there he did not want sex. He had her to defecate on a plate and pee in a cup and you all know the rest of that story.

She said it made her sick to her stomach and she has seen some really way out stuff.

Poppa Grande

March 22nd, 2010
4:05 pm

Wow! I think that I crept in on Moaning Monday :grin: … Golden “exploits” :shock:

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
4:05 pm

You say it is not your thing, they said it’s okay. But yet, they are friends with their ex. At what point do you ask if that friend is the one who used to urinate on them

OH MY

:evil: :shock:

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:06 pm

Grace, yes I can. But urine is extract that the body does not need.

Leggs, I just would like to date a woman who does not consider herself a urinal.

Candle Wax feels good on the body, it leaves welts sometimes though, especially on the “boys”

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
4:06 pm

Melo, you start out good then you just take it too far dude. LOL

And soy candle wax? I have heard of that. :wink:

LURKER

March 22nd, 2010
4:07 pm

YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Random Thoughts…………YEAAAA

SexyCool we know all women will state (see what had happen) my SO and I had a fight and we broke up well at least in my I thougt so, then I went out last night and fell on some Magnum size dizzle! :lol: So i did not cheat! :smile: I bet not catch you out in dem streets! :lol

Well, well we have another slimone( AmazonRed) who has a deep cavern! What is up with dem slim chicks handling all dat magnum…… :smile:

@Raqi…..You do a better job at changing the dirty diapers!!!!!!!!! YEAAAAAA

W

I am whatever you say I am

March 22nd, 2010
4:07 pm

Why oh Why do I have to read gross stuff while eating!!!
Why!!?!!!

:shock:

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
4:08 pm

especially on the “boys

Oh my Carlito. I would think that would be too much. Ouch. But hey, get it like you like it. LOL

SlimOne on autopilot

March 22nd, 2010
4:10 pm

“well we have another slimone( AmazonRed) who has a deep cavern! What is up with dem slim chicks handling all dat magnum”

LURKER – LOL How did I get put into the Deep Cavern category?

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:10 pm

Raqi, it’s hot for a quick second then really cool and breezy right after. LOL, my first time I was tied up and almost dislocated my shoulder when it first hit. After I calmed down I really enjoyed it. :)

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
4:10 pm

I know you have a PhD in Freaky Deaky

Proff??

I got my phd on the internet,its not even credible nor accredited! :lol: :lol:

unless one of uall blog females can vouch for it!

What do u think of my odds?? :lol:

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
4:10 pm

My ex left me a sticky note saying “P on ME”

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
4:11 pm

sounds like it’s Masochistic Monday up in here. lol

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
4:11 pm

I see, my Italian Studmuffin likes sweet pain!

BlackMagicWoman ~ I will need to borrow your handcuffs and your whip!

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
4:13 pm

Well, well we have another slimone( AmazonRed) who has a deep cavern! What is up with dem slim chicks handling all dat magnum……

Good grief. I see I can’t ask y’all nuffin! :lol:

But I don’t know what’s up with those dudes, but they need to stop. I don’t need all of that. :lol:

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
4:14 pm

Well, well we have another slimone( AmazonRed) who has a deep cavern! What is up with dem slim chicks handling all dat magnum

- maybe they are not deep…just telling with small dudes…lol…i will say this..most women i have been with that have the ‘deep caverns” have kids…chicks with no kids usually are tight to very tight..so ummm yeah..they like the thought of taking that magnum but when you get down to working that poo cee..lol its a different story

LURKER

March 22nd, 2010
4:16 pm

@Slimone…….Now you know you are in possession of a deep cavern, It is listed in the National Geographic books as SlimoneCaverness cave……If you are 8 and under you must wear swim gear!
:lol: :lol:

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
4:17 pm

Folks do u know that real estate in Atlanta has really gone to the dogs?? There is a slew of condos in buckhead,in foreclosure,short sale etc,all at very reasonable prices. Its bound to even go down still.

This is a good time to buy in a prime area of the A, esp if u got cash for a good deposit. Five years down the road, u be the new Donald Trumps..Lots of upside.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
4:18 pm

Don’t all dudes wear Magnums?
Blank stare…
:)

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
4:19 pm

chicks with no kids usually are tight to very tight

Rell, now you do know those muscles by nature goes back to the original state. If unless you had sex with her prior to baby you really don’t know how different it is after. And if you are having sex with her a mere month or so after birth, the cave is not yet tighten to is prior state fully.

I have three kids…nevermind. That just too much TMDI.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
4:19 pm

Leggs, yes I do.

“Are you trying to kill me?” Random quote from a woman during a blackbox magnum experience

When we hear a noise or hit bottom the mission becomes seek and destroy…or just watching her grimace and squirm every 8th stroke. But first set her up, don’t give her the deep treatment until she think she has life all figured and and then Viola!! You adjust her spine.

It’s all fun and games until your current is someone’s peed on ex.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
4:20 pm

LOL SexyCool.

LURKER

March 22nd, 2010
4:20 pm

@Relll…..You are correct about the women with Children truly swim at your own risk!
But I had a very athlete slimone and she was very, very deep and enjoyed getting all the time!
YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!