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One of the trickiest things to deal with post-break up is “reclaiming yourself” so to speak.  For example, you rediscover your friends.  I’m talking the great ones that don’t hold grudges because you all but disappear from the land of the living with your boo.  You get back to doing the things that only you enjoy doing — out in the open, without fear of getting strange looks from your significant other.

You will also have to adjust to sleeping alone again, cooking for one, and having to find a “plus one” for parties.  Sounds slightly depressing, doesn’t it?  Whether you were the dumper or dumpee, you are probably dealing with some kind of emotion. Guys, you can call it something else, if you want to, but you go through “something” too!

What are the best ways to deal with break-ups?  I am referring to the bad breakups that make you feel as if you’ve gone a couple of rounds with Pacquiao – except you actually landed tough punches.

How do you adjust to life after <insert wonderful/horrible ex-mate’s name here>?  Does it help when you are able to forge a friendship with the person? Is that even a good idea?

Your turn: What is the best way to handle a break up?

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RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
2:20 pm

why it has to be “servitude” for you guys

- they tell you at the altar to submit to your wife….lol. But i keep forgetting women do more than men..lol

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
2:20 pm

Tiger to go on long trips 4 days without getting some.

Melo,

Are you saying a man should not go four days without? I just want to know because I know some men that has gone 6weeks after the wife had a baby and one guy even longer his wife was ill.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:20 pm

What place are you talking about at Lindberg?

@Swiis

British pub called Furking! :lol:

@Proff u went there?? I cldnt mingle with 15/17yr olds in there! :lol:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:21 pm

“The moment a man feels unquenched sxxxl desire” You don’t know what this man feels. You’re operating purely on speculation because let you tell it his love for his wife has nothing to do with hime cheating. He would only cheat if he wasn’t getting it at home. Hell, he was never home to get it.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:21 pm

If I were a kept man and my wife was some sort of celebrity, I would sex her to death so that she is to tired to go elsewhere. But that’s just me maintaining my standard of living. :)

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:22 pm

Where she goes I go. I love you Oprah, leave Stedman

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
2:22 pm

“Who’s Making Love to Your Old Lady While You’re Out Making Love!”

Leggs, exactly. I always say to the menfolk if your wife/woman actually cares about where you are and what you are doing consider yourself lucky. Because when stop we caring or giving a flick remember these words “Who’s Making Love to Your Old Lady While You’re Out Making Love!”

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
2:23 pm

as Johnny Taylor sang “Who’s Making Love to Your Old Lady While You’re Out Making Love!”…hell, men better recognize!!!

They ain’t ready for that Leggs…I’m withcu though.

Tiger never should have married down.

Umm new guy…didn’t someone give you a blog vest a week or two ago….PUT IT ON :evil:

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:23 pm

Are you saying a man should not go four days without?

@Proff??

Tiger used to go for weeks without none,from trnament to trnament,even be4 he had kids. Instead of travelling with her,the wife alwayz stayed home.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:24 pm

Some men who cheat don’t give a rats tail about who’s making love to their old lady while they are out making love. Some take that as a greenlight to keep going for more or a “yes I have something on her now”

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
2:25 pm

Ah… Firkin & Lindbergh. No, haven’t been there, Melo. How was it? Would I enjoy the scenery? Or is it too “authentically” British for my tastes? :lol:

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
2:27 pm

:lol: @ Carlito — Man…. HANDS OFF OPRAH! If she ever leaves Gail Steadman, that cash cow is MINE! :lol:

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:27 pm

I have to kind of agree with Melo on this one in principle. If you are (male or female) not working and you have maids and cooks taking care of the house and helping with the kids. Your job is to be the SOD person (Sex On Demand) and stay in shape.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:30 pm

I’m Swiss, you can have the pool house. I am knocking her up first, after the baby is born you can move in the main house and I will move to the pool house. Oprah has enough to share. I am making and leaking home made movies, voicemails and everything. I am going to ride it until the wheels fall off. I AM OPRAH’S BABY DADDY!!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 22nd, 2010
2:30 pm

“Some men who cheat don’t give a rats tail about who’s making love to their old lady while they are out making love. ”

If any are pretty and in this situation, my number is 678-555-1212 (okay maybe not but still…) As an assoiaite of mine once said, “show me a man who won’t go down on his wife, and I’ll show you a woman I can have”. Maybe.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
2:31 pm

If she ever leaves Gail Steadman, that cash cow is MINE!

I’m sayin’ though….why she gotta be a cow?

AmazonRed™

March 22nd, 2010
2:32 pm

“I Think I Love My Wife” was a pretty good movie. There were some good quotes in there.

I liked when the boss told Chris Rock: ‘You can lose lots of money chasing women, but you will never lose women chasing money.”

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:32 pm

Would I enjoy the scenery? Or is it too “authentically” British for my tastes

@Swiss??

maybe,maybe not!
Try It!

I enjoyed it for the fish & chips and pool tables plus many tv spots in case i wanna hang out on the weekend.Being 1/2 British helps too. :-)

Ever since Prince of Wales closed,hadnt found another spot to rival ,untill this friday.

I will be a regular!

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
2:33 pm

Carlito, it has nothing to do with him marrying “down” or “up”. I would go along partially with what Rell stated moreso than the issue being the woman being “beneath” him. He could have well had a side of him “per those texts” that he had not revealed to his wife before marriage.

Three things you better make sure you are compatible in before marriage because they will surely wreak havoc and land you in divorce court. Those things are finances, child rearing and sex.

Maybe he thought he could tame his nature and succumb to being more “tame” or he just never intended on being that husband she thought she was getting.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:34 pm

All I am saying is that if a man is out there cheating on his wife, obviously he doesn’t mind losing her. Yes a man may go through the “remorse” when confronted by family and friends, or in Tigers case the media. I think Tiger is purely looking at it from a financial perspective.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
2:39 pm

If there is anybody out there cheating, it’s not because they will lose their SO. It’s because they think they won’t get caught.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:39 pm

Raqi, I have met women who husbands wanted them to be this perfect example of a house wife/church girl. Even so far as keeping things more or less missionary in the bedroom, But yet he is screwing everything walking but his wife. Now this same girls first words were she wanted to be more sexually open after telling me this story. Before going in you have to know what you want and what you are getting into, from both sides husband and wife. I do not believe for one moment that Tiger turned into a wh*re after he got married, I also believe that Elin had to have a clue before hand or atleast during. She decided to stay, for whatever reason that she only knows.

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
2:40 pm

Raqi i thought you would see my point…you always dropping hints about how you keep your hubby happy in that dept…meaning you know how to blanace mommy hoood and wife…some women dont…if you start out on your knees dont stop because of that shinny ring..thats what got you the ring..lol. Fro the reconrcd…GOOD POO CEE NEVER GETS OLD OR BORING…whats boring is when you have to constantly warmm up cold fish

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:40 pm

Sexy Cool, some people do not care. On that topic, how do swingers “swing” then get mad when one wants to stop but the other does not?

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
2:40 pm

obviously he doesn’t mind losing her
Carlito, I don’t agree. If that was the case then why sneak around. Why hide it? And a lot people, men and women, do it thinking they can have it all and get away with it.

They think they can have the best of both worlds. The perfect family and spouse. And all they can get on the side.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
2:41 pm

If there is anybody out there cheating, it’s not because they don’t mind losing their SO. It’s because they think they won’t get caught.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:42 pm

RelldaRake, that is true. Goodstuff never get’s old or boring.

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
2:42 pm

I just want Tiger to kick everyone’s azz at the Masters. The hello with all this other garbage. It would be funny if he put on the green jacket and said, “Oh yeah, Dave Chappelle told me to tell you all I’M RICH BYCH!”

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
2:42 pm

The guy is a billionare….how should’ve looked at it from a financial perspective a loooong time ago..waay back before he wanted to slap n toss lil Beckies around(and call them his little whore whilst doing said slapping). Or maybe he should’ve thought about it when they “renegotiated” the prenup after she wailed on his azz. I mean reall and truly I don’t think he was thinking of anything but himself and who he was gonna phk next…

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:45 pm

Raqi, I think he was sneaking around for the same reason he reconciled with his wife. The financials and sponsors. From reading those text he talked about how it would ruin his career if he were to be seen with some of the wh*res.

We all know Tiger is at fault do you all consider any of the women he slept with at fault as well? Or were they just unwilling victims and thought Tiger was single? Some men are only as faithful as their options. Wives/girlfriends, don’t give them the option to cheat. Wh*res, don’t be that option for a married man.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
2:45 pm

It’s because they think they won’t get caught.

WHOOP there it is…boom shacka lacka

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
2:49 pm

If that was the case then why sneak around.
Maybe they had an agreement. Maybe she talked herself into being ok with his endeavors as long as he took care of home and didn’t do it right in her face. Not saying this is the case, but it’s a possibility.

It’s because they think they won’t get caught.
I think this is true in the beginning. When you actually get caught, I think it’s because you no longer cared enough to keep it a secret.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:49 pm

Maybe, the guys should answer why men cheat. The women seem to think it is only because they won’t get caught. Oh yeah, cheating does not always involve a sexual act. Maybe he/she won’t listen to you, etc.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:51 pm

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪

All you fellows, gather round me
and let me give you some good advice.
What I’m gonna, gonna ask you now
you better think about it twice.
While you’re out cheatin’ on your woman
there is something you never even thought of
and that is:

Who’s making love to your old lady
while you were out making love?
Who’s making love to your old lady
while you were out making love?

I’ve seen so, so many fellows
all in that same old bag
thinkin’ that a woman is made to
to be beat on and treated so bad.
Oh, fellows, let me ask you somethin’
I’m sure that you never even dreamed of
and that is:

Chorus

I know that other women
give the other excuse.
I’m not tryin’ to run your life,
boy, that’s up to you, oh you,
oh oh, you you.

Reason why I ask this question,
I used to be the same old way.
When I decided to straighten up
I found it was a bit too late.
Oh yeah, that’s when it all happened,
something I never ever dreamed of.

Somebody was a-lovin’ my old lady
while I was out makin’ love.
Somebody was a-lovin’ my old lady
while I was out makin’ love.

Now, who’s making love to your old lady
while you were out making love?</em?

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:51 pm

Sorry, didn’t look long when I pasted it.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:52 pm

GOOD POO CEE NEVER GETS OLD OR BORING…whats boring is when you have to constantly warmm up cold fish

@Rell.. good job!

Raqi wont tell ladies so bluntly and its her fault they dont understand! :lol: ok,partly!

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
2:52 pm

Carlito – my comment actually was not specific to men. I said *anybody* and earlier made sure to include women in my post about how some people may view sexual activity.

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
2:53 pm

@lito…i am sure i will get heat for this…but a women will wh0re with a stranger on any given day…it happens brah…no one knows the mysteries of the vagina not even women..they just know men want it..and they will give it freely..if they “feel” a certain way about it

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:54 pm

Sexy Cool, my apologies. :)

Have any of the women on here ever cheated on their man? Well any that will admit to it and what the reason was behind it?

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
2:58 pm

“I’m sayin’ though….why she gotta be a cow?”

@Sassy — I thought that was more polite than heifer:lol:

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
2:59 pm

@lito..thats simple..one dude made them feel bad/negative/unloved…etc etc….the other dude paid attention..he told them he could not control himself around them..he was madly in love..he thought the world of her….the most anti-seductive thing for a women is not to be paid attention by the man she chose to be with..that will drive her quickly to the first weenie saying how good her bootydoo looks in her pants…

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:59 pm

RelladaRake, I know “some” women just get that urge and will do what it takes to handle it. Even in my office here I hear of first date sex stories way to often. Then I read just the other day here on the AJC that 48% of African American women between the ages of 14 and 49 have herpes. I am trying to find the complete stats for both genders. These women are sleeping with themselves but with willing partners. If your stats are STD free you have to be careful out there because STDS are rampant. An orgasm is just not that important to me.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:59 pm

@Carlito??

didnt u ask the same qstion last week??

and SexxyCool said “no comment”

If im not mistaken! :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
3:02 pm

Have any of the women on here ever cheated on their man? Well any that will admit to it and what the reason was behind it?
This is like a deja vu conversation from last week.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
3:02 pm

Rell, I agree with what it takes to get me it takes to keep me. Our sex life is just as enjoying for me as it is for him. What we do we did prior to the nuptials. I know how important a good healthy sex life is to him. I knew that before marriage.

But I have to believe just like you men say some women start to ration the goods after marriage, some men will try to introduce some new stuff just because now she is wife. Then you want to cry about what she will and will not do. Did you tell her you wanted that before hand?

My disagreement with you was with the baby part. You help make those babies.

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:02 pm

Melo, I do know if my question was repetitive or not. I just stopped smoking this past weekend. :)

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
3:03 pm

Yes, he did, Melo. Perhaps he didn’t like the response and thought to ask again.

I thoroughly agree with you, my Italian Studmuffin. Think about it, what if your girl comes on this blog, I will have to stop calling you that because it would be disrespectful. You sure threw a wet blanket on that fantasy (J/K)!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
3:03 pm

Lol, okay back to my hole :) I do not remember asking that.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
3:04 pm

Actually, I said, “I will neither confirm nor deny.”

kimmie

March 22nd, 2010
3:04 pm

Leggs, I would love your recipe if you are willing to share. If you have Prof or SCools email, send it to them & they can forward to me. I’ll respond to you back so then you’ll have my email in the future.

Melo – Yeah, I was making a statement earlier.

Rell – Those texts Tiger sent are the same ole, same ole lines/excuses all married men use for messing around. Bottom line, Elin could have been swinging from the chandeliers every day, 4 times a day and on the rode with him, but if he was going to cheat, he was going to cheat.

And yeah, the women he messed with need to go sit down somewhere too, cause they are not without fault.