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One of the trickiest things to deal with post-break up is “reclaiming yourself” so to speak.  For example, you rediscover your friends.  I’m talking the great ones that don’t hold grudges because you all but disappear from the land of the living with your boo.  You get back to doing the things that only you enjoy doing — out in the open, without fear of getting strange looks from your significant other.

You will also have to adjust to sleeping alone again, cooking for one, and having to find a “plus one” for parties.  Sounds slightly depressing, doesn’t it?  Whether you were the dumper or dumpee, you are probably dealing with some kind of emotion. Guys, you can call it something else, if you want to, but you go through “something” too!

What are the best ways to deal with break-ups?  I am referring to the bad breakups that make you feel as if you’ve gone a couple of rounds with Pacquiao – except you actually landed tough punches.

How do you adjust to life after <insert wonderful/horrible ex-mate’s name here>?  Does it help when you are able to forge a friendship with the person? Is that even a good idea?

Your turn: What is the best way to handle a break up?

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Luvbug

March 22nd, 2010
1:16 pm

…back in

Leggs- I don’t remember it having a smell and it wasn’t a lot. I had the trash bag in my hand just tossing everything in my line of vision. They always kept a lot of company and incense around. I was rarely home…in and out. Honestly, I had no clue. Like I said…never seen it before…didn’t know anything about. I didn’t even suspect I knew people caring on that way. I was shocked when I found out though. :shock:

Carlito – I promise I didn’t. :lol:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:20 pm

You ever asked about the incense (still laughing atwith you!

@Prof ~ I’ll save a plate for you.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
1:20 pm

Leggs I meant to add this the young lady is very successful, has never asked for a dime, he grandmother raised her and from what I understand she is humbled and well mannered. The lady got on her other children when they called her their sister…from the picture I saw the lady was pretty as well. The young lady said she would just like to be friends and have the chance to “know” her daddy than to “know of” her daddy. I really think the wife is jealous more than anything! I am nosey so I asked a lot of questions and not one bad thing came out about the young lady…I really thought there was a reason she did not want her in the house.

I agree he is henpecked and a bit stupid if you ask me.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:21 pm

Do you remember what he asked you to pay to replace it?

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:23 pm

@Prof ~ are these people in their early 70’s?

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
1:25 pm

Actually they are around 50

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:25 pm

I forgot how much I really like Skittles.

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
1:25 pm

“When he did call all he said was he got “cold feet because we clicked so well” and he won’t be seeing me anymore.”

@Leggs — You were absolutely right to make a clean break there. Guys aren’t that flaky. That’s one of those classic “it’s not you, it’s me” excuses that we will use to try to break it off gently without just coming out and letting the real truth be known. I know, ‘cos I’ve used that one myself… :oops:

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
1:27 pm

…Leggs they may even be a bit younger since he just left the military a few years ago

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
1:28 pm

What I like about Twitter – I can send a text to leak my completely arbitary, random thoughts to the world.

What I don’t like about Twitter – Other people in the world are leaking on me.

I don’t get the people who follow a boatload of people – there is NO WAY you can process all of that information. I’m selective about my *follows* and make sure I give *good tweet*.
LOL!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:31 pm

@Prof ~ ok, the problem is the young lady has young lady friends and she doesn’t want her hubby to be tempted. What a crock. Only in their 50’s and acting like a lil ole shrew!

@im swiss ~ I was hurt, but not stupid back then! I knew better.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
1:32 pm

if you were dating someone that you really liked but you felt it hard to ‘make him/her arrive’ during the act,

Cmeone Slimone!! :lol: u gotta learn to use ur curly toes and feet and those spiky heels to dig deeper in his azz so as to invoke the “arrival” :oops:

@Legss Ms GreenEyes eyes is resting! :lol:

@Swiss,u been to Firking(Phulccking) at Linberg?? Friday weather was nice and Queen and I had a nice time in there..

@Cee..thats a nice spot for fish and chips,didnt know about it..

That Wet Willies spot in linberg is an under 25 joint?? didnt know about it untill Queen and I stepped in Friday.It only took us a minute to feel creepy in there and we had to get out quickly. Phew,dodged a bullet! :lol: :lol:

Looking at singles as they streamed along on friday,smetimes solo,other times in twos and three somes of gerls,I ruminated to Queen how I kinda sympathise with singles,esp ladies.

It kinda feels sad not having smebody to squeeze uall! :roll: :lol:

Howz ur Monday folks??

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
1:34 pm

Luvbug, yes you smoked it :)

I’m Swiss, stop telling secrets.

Sexy Cool, being leaked on is not cool. Well maybe in the shower. :)

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
1:36 pm

#TigerTalk – the ESPN interview was frickin’ hilarious TO ME!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:37 pm

@Carlito ~ that’s no secret! You’re not giving women any credit.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:39 pm

@SexyC ~ what I found funny is when Tiger was asked why did he marry he said cuz he loveD her. He then rambled a lil more on his love for her and I’m wondering, dang, 13 other women and he wouldn’t have stopped if he hadn’t gotten caught. I don’t need no man to love me like that!

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
1:40 pm

@lito…..whats funny about the whole i trained you thing to woman is this….women have an uncanny ability to block out all previous sex partners when she is getting it good in the present…so all that this is the best….its true…its the best now…but maybe not in her past…lol. And sometimes women will dumb down there sex game to feed our ego’s…this is why i dont ask or care…i am going to run my program…cause i know most women are built for it…they like it th sl ut way or the smooth way…does not matter..

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
1:43 pm

I caught that too, Leggs.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
1:45 pm

#TigerTalk – the ESPN interview was frickin’ hilarious TO ME!
SexyCool, just to show how quiet and introverted that guy is I was surprised to hear how pale his voice is. That goes to show how much of a showoff that he wasn’t. I personally have never heard the guy speak which goes back to what we were talking about last week.

SlimOne on autopilot

March 22nd, 2010
1:48 pm

“u gotta learn to use ur curly toes and feet and those spiky heels to dig deeper in his azz so as to invoke the “arrival””

@melo – this isn’t an issue of mine. ;-)

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
1:48 pm

I’m Swiss, stop telling secrets.

He’s off the market now….

side note: Lamman Rucker is FOINE!….dayum,dayum,dayum

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
1:49 pm

Tiger was asked why did he marry he said cuz he loveD her. He then rambled a lil more on his love for her and I’m wondering, dang, 13 other women and he wouldn’t have stopped if he hadn’t gotten caught.

- he prolly did love her at the time…when she was fun..when he was backing her around golf courses…clubhouses…etc etc…she prolly stuck him on the back burner to change dirty diapers…its typical….my favorite scene from “i think i love my wife” is when the wife was on the phone telling chris he had to see the drapes….nikki is like drapes….chris is like before you get married you get”i cant wait to sick your duck”…after you are married you get..”i cant wait until you see the drapes”….and i found that to be true…whats funny is that most folks missed that movie..but trust thats a man of an average married dude after years of servitude and babies…

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
1:53 pm

13 other women and he wouldn’t have stopped if he hadn’t gotten caught. I don’t need no man to love me like that!

Me either…miss me with that bull isht. What I find even more frightening that anything is that he was sleeping with that many women(which also included porn stars and who know who they’ve slept with) and never mad it a habit to use condoms :shock: He took all of that home and could’ve potentially given something to his wife and children(in utero).

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:55 pm

“…but trust thats a man of an average married dude after years of servitude and babies…”

Rell, why it has to be “servitude” for you guys. Hell, it ain’t no picnic for us either. And in that same breath, get a divorce if that’s how you truly feel!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:56 pm

I’m going to make the only cake I can make from scratch as our dessert…sour cream pound cake!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
1:57 pm

You want a piece of that too, Prof?

DreamsMaterialize

March 22nd, 2010
2:00 pm

My favorite part from “I Think I Love My Wife” is when he went home and started the argument over chicken for dinner. Man I’ve had so many arguments start just like that. Like “Did this argument really start over some shoe laces?” lol

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:00 pm

He says he got away from his budda and he had a strong sense of entitlement even though his parents didn’t raise him that way. Tiger was simply insatiable…

kimmie

March 22nd, 2010
2:00 pm

Leggs, it’s certain things I just can’t seem to get right. Sour cream pound cake is one of them.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:00 pm

@melo – this isn’t an issue of mine

so I trust u gave ur girl good advice! If hes jerking off on psh skills,thats a good start,he aint bottling everything in. :_)

U sure ur girl’s stamina is up to scratch,coz sme chics start panting heavily after 3 mins,as if they need an inhaler?? :lol: :lol:

@Leggs

I’m wondering, dang, 13 other women and he wouldn’t have stopped if he hadn’t gotten caught.

Getting off on side piece got nothing to do with luv for ur main lady.I thoght we have commnicated that on the blog already Leggs!

The issue is for ladies to be cognisant of the real danger of it and to channel that side jerking-off desire by man to urself(lves) as the main lady, so u get all the nectar to urself. One of those things is to continue to be on the same phlucking routine u were on be4 u got married.
If u used to phluck on the stair case,keep doing it when u get married coz the moment that excitement aint there anymore,u know where hes getting it instead. :arrow: hoe! :lol:

kimmie

March 22nd, 2010
2:01 pm

So again, it’s the wifes fault why Tiger messed around with 14 others.

lurker

March 22nd, 2010
2:02 pm

He took all of that home and could’ve potentially given something to his wife and children(in utero).

Sassy, that’s because no matter what they make their mouths say (when caught), I just cannot wrap my mind around a dude saying, feeling and claiming to love his wife and then knocking off everything with a pulse. I don’t buy something went a missing or a lacking and you looked elsewhere to replace. People come down so hard on the outside person but I cannot fathom a person so selfishly putting their SO/spouse in such harms way and taking such a great risk. It’s just so better to walk away if you’re not happy than to drag every disease and heartbreak home.

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
2:03 pm

Leggs I want two pieces if you don’t mind one piece to eat now and the other piece you can wrap in wax paper like my grandma used to do for later :grin: When do you want me to stop by to pick up my plate…I can bring you a bag of ice if you need me too :grin:

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:04 pm

Ok, melo, it sure doesn’t say he “respects” his lady either!

@kimmie I was about to post “unlike kimmie the only thing I can make from scratch. You want to try my recipe? You’re an excellent baker!

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:05 pm

So again, it’s the wifes fault why Tiger messed around with 14 others

@Kimmie??

u asking a qstion or its a statement Kimmie?

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:06 pm

I’ll be cooking it this Sunday, dinner @5 (thank goodness I do have wax paper).

RelldaRake - the nasty song as me sore

March 22nd, 2010
2:08 pm

13 other women and he wouldn’t have stopped if he hadn’t gotten caught

TIGER would have never started if he knew how to handle the change…reading some of his texts to the porn chick is a peek inside his mind….dude like s ex period….maybe he thought wifey was a kindred spirit..she was to tie him down…once trapped behind marriage she prolly rationed the poo cee to him…thats why he had 19 chicks…because he realized he was tricked

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
2:09 pm

@Carlito — Yeah, Sassy’s right… I’m retired from the game. I’ve gone from player to color commentator / analyst. I’m like the Boomer Esiason of the blog… :lol:

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
2:09 pm

Leggs do you have wax paper for real???? If you do you are the best-est! Growing up we always had wax paper…my grandma had it too!

i'm swiss

March 22nd, 2010
2:09 pm

Melo — What place are you talking about at Lindberg?

Professor

March 22nd, 2010
2:11 pm

Melo I enjoyed wet willy’s I like posting up there.

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
2:12 pm

Rell, yall trip me out. He has only been married 5 years and has already been with 13 other women. He had barely allowed the ink to dry on the marriage certificate before he was out banging other women.

He made those babies. If his wife having to attend to the needs of those babies he helped make he should have wrapped it up. What are women to do, let the baby be hungry and wallow in crap so men can get their jollies.

I guarantee while he was out screwing other women his wife was home probably more than willing to sex him. He wasn’t there to find out.

And what do you mean by “servitude”? Do you think we sit home eating bonbons all day while getting a massage and pedicure.

Man you are kidding right? LOL

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 22nd, 2010
2:12 pm

True that lurker. I guess some guys just don’t get it. What I also understand is that men with multiple women on the side think that they’re only sleeping with them(their women won’t sleep with anyone else but them) but is that always the case. He could’ve taken some stuff home medicine can’t cure. Yeah I would be mad as hell about the cheating but the fact he hit alot of those chick raw would’ve gotten me a charge or something….nine iron anyone ;)

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:12 pm

I’m laughing, yes I have wax paper!

Raqi

March 22nd, 2010
2:13 pm

LOL Rell, so she trapped him? GTFOH.

SexyCool...

March 22nd, 2010
2:14 pm

I fully recongize the fact that *some* men (and women) view sexual activity as little more than exercise and/or just another source of entertainment.

Don’t make it right. Just saying that I recognize that some folk can see it that way and that has nothing whatsoever to do with feelings.

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:15 pm

@SassyMe ~ as Johnny Taylor sang “Who’s Making Love to Your Old Lady While You’re Out Making Love!” People better recognize, hell, men better recognize!!!

Carlito

March 22nd, 2010
2:17 pm

Tiger never should have married down. Or married period. Or maybe she should not have married up. Tiger why did you marry the nanny? I really dont care about it all though. I just want him to win The Masters.

Melo

March 22nd, 2010
2:17 pm

@Leggs??Ok, melo, it sure doesn’t say he “respects” his lady either!

@Lurker ..wrap my mind around a dude saying, feeling and claiming to love his wife and then knocking off

when they say men are like dogs..i guess some of u females dont even know where that comes from? :lol:

Its a statement which means literally what it says.
Dogs can climb on each other and phluck even when other dogs and man is around,in public.They got no shame.

Hence the expresssion,men think with their dyckks.

RESPECT?? :roll:

The moment a man feels unquenched sxxxl desire and there is some moist nearby and accessible,its a wrap!

Many phychologists,including female ones have died trying to study this phenomena :lol:

I luv golf and have followed Tiger.His wife wld only come to Trnaments on weekends(2days),when he was in contention.Otherwise she stayed home. Now with all that money and ability to hire nannies etc,what a mistke that was,allowing Tiger to go on long trips 4 days without getting some.

Now we know where/how he refueled! :lol: :lol:

I wldn’t do it!

Leggs

March 22nd, 2010
2:19 pm

If any of you gals watch the Bad Girls Club, get your popcorn ready for Part 2 tomorrow night (final show). There are going to be so many fights I will be in 7th heaven (sorry, but I like a good fight).