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Can we have it all?

Sandra Bullock is in the news but the buzz isn’t just surrounding her Oscar win.  Apparently there are rumors swirling that her husband of 5 years, Jesse James, had a fling with a slightly younger woman.  The alleged affair may have happened when Bullock was away filming The Blind Side, which is ironic in many ways.

I have no idea if any of it is true and I’m going to take a guess that a lot of you could care less.   This celebrity news has made me really wonder about the price that people pay when they try to pursue their dreams, though.  Was Bullock wrong to think that she could have the great career, wonderful supportive husband, and solid home life?

When it comes to our careers and relationships, do you think it always comes down to making a choice between the two in order for it to work?  Is it possible to  give your all to both and find balance?

I don’t think think successful women are the only women that find it hardest to manage relationships.  However, I believe that the dynamics within a relationships of successful women and their mates vary greatly to their male counterparts.  What do you think?

Men, do you think that you can have it all? Wonderful career, stable finances, and a good woman in your life?  Do you think one of these will have to suffer in order for it to work?

Ladies, how do we differ from men when it comes to having it all? Have we wised up and stopped trying to pursue it all or do we secretly want the same thing: career, money, great man and/or children?

524 comments Add your comment

kinderbabe--43 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 19th, 2010
8:19 am

balance is difficult to find but must always be sought to have a healthy life. i believe that it is possible to achieve success in more than one area. it may not be easy but it’s possible.

Jeff

March 19th, 2010
8:32 am

I think the phrase “having it all” needs to go the way of “word-up”.

Lu

March 19th, 2010
8:43 am

“a lot of you could care less.” If you are writing something that is published on the interent you should be intellligent enough to get this phrase right. If we could care less, it means we care. The expression is “Couldn’t care less.”

SlimOne on autopilot

March 19th, 2010
8:56 am

Good morning….TGIFFF (Thank Goodness It’s Freaky Flirty Friday) :mrgreen:

I’m gonna get my sleep on
I’m gonna get my drank on
I’m gonna get my stepshow on….all weekend long!

kinderbabe--43 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 19th, 2010
9:00 am

@slimone…getting my sleep on is definitely a priority! lol. i’m w/you there. didn’t know there was a step show this weekend. where will it be?

Kym

March 19th, 2010
9:02 am

Good Morning All,

Someone once told me. “You can have it all,” Just not all at one time.” We all want to have the perfect life..the thing we have yet to realize is that everyone has their own different versions of what is perfect. I don’t see any reason why it is asking to much or expecting to much to want to have a career(you like–this is a rare find anyway), a home(home is wherever your heart is) and someone special to share it all with. I think where we get off track is expecting it to all be grits and gravy.

kinderbabe--43 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 19th, 2010
9:04 am

@Jeff…lol. yeah, “having it all” usually has the implication that the desires are unreasonable and/or there is a grand amount of selfishness involved. maybe we should change “having it all” to “living a balanced life.”:)

SlimOne on autopilot

March 19th, 2010
9:05 am

kb: it’s going to be at the World Congress Ctr @7 or 7:30 Saturday night.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
9:07 am

Good morning. Speaking about celebrities, here’s a quote from Gabrielle Union on having it all.

“Yes. I don’t believe in a glass ceiling. My mom did it all, had three kids, got her college degree while she had kids–I sat in the classroom at the University of Nebraska. I was never raised with the idea that you can’t have it all. My parents got divorced after almost 30 years but I don’t think she would have attributed that to her work. But as much passion as she put into her work and her family she didn’t leave enough for herself. We can have it all but sometimes we neglect ourselves, our health. I’ve met so many cancer survivors, all these women who run companies who say, ‘I had it all but what I forgot was me. I didn’t go to the doctor or take a spa day or take time for myself.’ Call me selfish, but I can’t be everything to you if I’m not good to myself. So I make sure I’m all together in body and spirit.”

kinderbabe--43 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 19th, 2010
9:09 am

@slimone…thanks! i will look into that.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
9:18 am

Morning all!

SlimOne…thanks for supporting the Deltas! Enjoy the show! :D

Professor

March 19th, 2010
9:19 am

I look at it like this. Human beings are whole, complex people not some fraction or half of a person. We have many needs and desires to be met on all levels. So having it all is not impossible it is just a matter of making it happen. Sometimes not having it all means we chose the wrong person, we stayed in a relationship too long, or maybe we are not equally yoked. As for careers a lot of people are just going to jobs that they hate. IMO when you are off balance in one area it can bleed over into other areas.

As for me, I am constantly doing an evaluation of what works so I can have it all.

Hola and Happy Friday!

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
9:20 am

have no idea if any of it is true

Wise – It probably is. He’s already issued a public apology. While he did not openly admit infidelity, he’s apologizing to his wife and 3 kids for embarrassing him and putting them in this situation.

It’s none of our business of course, but he’s already come out and spoken about it.

I’m thinking this is a marriage he’s gonna try and save! :lol:

Professor

March 19th, 2010
9:23 am

Off/On topic

If these regular ol’ Joe Blows get busted for cheating these stars and SO’s should know they are going to get busted real quick with all of the media blitz etc.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
9:23 am

This “can I have it all” theme is a recurring one on The Real Housewives of NYC. Bethanny was single last year, focused on a career while in a dead end relationship. She desired it all, big career, husband and baby…but felt one had to suffer at the expense of another.

This season, she is engaged, with a baby on the way AND the successful career. Now she sits lamenting that she DOES have it all, and questions why she’s so lucky. Funny how that happens.

As for me, I don’t think I even WANT it all. I’d totally leave my career if it was in the best interest of my family. I don’t run a shipping empire or anything.

Professor

March 19th, 2010
9:26 am

I’d totally leave my career if it was in the best interest of my family.

@Ared~ what if your family needed your income? A lot of families cannot survive on one income.

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
9:32 am

Was Bullock wrong to think that she could have the great career, wonderful supportive husband, and solid home life?
Yes, she was wrong. If you’re away from home all the time, that is in opposition to having a “solid home life”. You can’t be everything to everyone all the time. There has to be priority…make some choices.

I think the phrase “having it all” needs to go the way of “word-up”.
Jeff word-up on that. lol

If you are writing something that is published on the interent you should be intellligent enough to get this phrase right.

(sigh) If you think you’re witty enough to make a sarcastic criticism of someone’s intelligence, then you should spellcheck your post to make sure that your own intelligence can’t be called into question. Lighten up, it’s Friday. ;-)

Mike P

March 19th, 2010
9:33 am

Good Morning,

I ‘couldn’t care less’ about what others think… I desire to “have it all” and I am working towards this goal with enthusiasm. Nothing on this Earth will stop me from achieving this reasonable endeavor.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
9:34 am

@Ared~ what if your family needed your income? A lot of families cannot survive on one income.

Then leaving my career would not be in the best interest of my family.

Duh. :lol:

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
9:38 am

Compromise and Sacrifice: That’s what it takes for find that happy median. You can have it all but you have to agree. You have to have your priorities in place and they must meet the needs of you and your significant other. Work is work and home is home.

One thing a good friend told me is don’t take your work to bed with you. Heck, I don’t even take my work home with me. But that is not the case with my husband. He owns a business. He works sometimes even after he has come home. But the thing is he knows or is forced at times to put it aside. He is a husband and father. Those things are equally important to him as his business.

I think one thing that the “stars” suffer that most of us will never have to face is the time apart. I believe some long distance relationships can work. However, 2,3,4 months away on location with neither having the time or making the time to go visit the other can wreak havoc on a relationship. We have emotional and physical needs. We look to our partners to meet those needs and when they are not available it can get troubling.

But this is not something that should be the case after only a few days or weeks. That’s a short amount time to be looking outside the relationship. But when careers and dreams call for massive amounts of time a part your partner goes lacking.

It came up once about us maybe moving to Virginia and him commuting back and forth, however establishing the parent company in VA. I told him I didn’t think it was a good idea. I am just being realistic with myself and I was flat footed honest with him. I know him and his needs and he knows mine. While you may have all the upstanding intentions to do the right things, crap can happen faster than you can form the thought.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 19th, 2010
9:40 am

I have no idea if the allegations are true. Nor do I have a strong feeling about whether one can “have it all”…I think that is entirely up to the individual’s definitions of “all” and the sacrifices necessary to achieve this. The only thing I do know is that alleged the “other woman” is really SKANKY looking. Tats from head to toe (literally), and looks like she was beaten with an ugly stick. It never ceases to amaze me what men will follow home just because they say “you are so BIG”.

Also, have you read some of the “sexting” messages Tiger allegedly sent…the guy definitely had a little bit of “kinky” there too. Who was it here who said she had never heard of “golden showers”?

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
9:40 am

If you are writing something that is published on the interent you should be intellligent enough to get this phrase right.

@Dreams
Thank you my brother. It never ceases to amaze me how people can’t wait to critize others intelligence, only to completely spot light their own lack of intelligence.

Good Morning all. Happy Friday to each of you.

Professor

March 19th, 2010
9:42 am

Then leaving my career would not be in the best interest of my family.

Duh.

@Ared~ Actually a lot of people make sacrifices to live on one income, such as living in a smaller home, driving an older car etc. So I see it as a gray area here. Are you willing to be like most and keep up with the Joneses or do you downsize for your family? The family might NEED the income to continue a certain lifestyle, but WANT a parent at home. I think most of us single people on here are living on one income now, but IMO it seems like it changes when folks get married.

Duh :grin:

SlimOne on autopilot

March 19th, 2010
9:43 am

Randy – what’s the site that you can log onto to see these alledged text messages from Tiger

Professor

March 19th, 2010
9:44 am

interent

:evil:

I did not feel like calling him or her out! Thanks DREAMSM!

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
9:45 am

Professor, you said what if my family “needed” my income. If I could still get by without it, by downsize than it isn’t a NEED. It’s a want.

So again, if it were in the best interest of my family, then no problem leaving my career.

Claire

March 19th, 2010
9:46 am

Before we call out others for spelling and grammar mistakes..

I agree with Jeff that “having it all” could be done away with. The term itself is relative and and it seems that in focusing on trying to obtain it ‘all’, we lose sight of other important things. Is that what happened to Bullock? I’m not sure. It’s terribly sad for her. Having watched this though http://bit.ly/aJQ2Rw it seems like she isn’t the first ‘best actress’ winner to have the same fate.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 19th, 2010
9:46 am

@SlimOne

There are several stories out there. Here is one:

LOS ANGELES — Alleged Tiger Woods mistress Joslyn James has released ‘extremely graphic’ never-seen-before text messages she says she collected while carrying on an affair with the married golfer.

The former porn actress on Thursday posted more than 100 text messages on the website http://www.sextingjoslynjames.com, which she reportedly acquired two weeks ago.

She says she wants the truth to be out about her alleged relationship with Woods.

Some of the texts on her site read, “OK, I would like to have a threesome with you and another girl you trust;” “I want to treat you rough, throw you around, spank and slap you;” “Have you ever had a golden shower done to you? … just morbid curiosity,” and “You are my f**king whore. Hold you down while I choke you.”

TexasBoy

March 19th, 2010
9:47 am

I agree with Jeff the phase “having it all” needs to go away. There’s no way you can have it all in this economy. If the allegations are true Jesse James is an Idiot! Have a great day weekend everyone.

SlimOne on autopilot

March 19th, 2010
9:48 am

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 19th, 2010
9:49 am

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
9:50 am

@DreamsM ~ had to laugh at you! That was a good catch and you threw the ball back in their “scholastic” lap!

@Professor ~ I was thinking the same thing. Everyone is getting busted. It amazes me how one doesn’t really think about all they may lose while cheating. Why, cuz they don’t think they’ll get caught. We all know that most of what’s done in the dark will soon find it’s way into the light!!!

@SlimOne ~ you can find them on TMZ’s wesbsite.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
9:52 am

Morning, all.

“Can we have it all?”

In the sense that we can have successful careers and family/personal lives, yes we can. However, there must be an appropriate balance and, most importantly, you must have your priorities in order to maintain that balance. At some point in all of our lives, there will likely come a conflict between what’s best for our professional lives and what’s best for our personal lives. Just have to make your priorities are in the right order.

Off topic, RE: Tiger’s texts@Randy: Yeah, I read those texts. Here’s my pet peeve with the whole situation — and this is what always happens anytime a public figure get caught doing something embarrassing: the whole “sex addict” and “rehab” BS. Sex addiction? Give me a f@#$!%g break! He’s not a sex addict, he’s a d@mn freak. And there’s nothing wrong with that, except that he probably doesn’t need to be married. C’mon! Just come out and say what we all already know: “I’m rich. I’m famous. I like pu$$y & I can get as much of it as I want & get it as freaky as I want & by god, I’m gonna get it.” :lol:

Professor

March 19th, 2010
9:53 am

I guess I see it like this many of us had dreams and aspirations prior to dating or marrying. Personally I feel like we owe it to ourselves to fulfill those dreams. Fulfilling a dream does not mean you neglect everything else you just have to find out what works. I read an article once on couples that lived apart. Some of the couples lived in the same apartment building just different apartments while others lived in different time zones. Each of the couples stated that it worked for them. Sometimes finding out what works is the difficult part.

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
9:53 am

Do you think one of these will have to suffer in order for it to work?

I would not say suffer, but everyone has material limits. I don’t think anyone has it all…but IMO that’s less of an issue if you manage to have peace of mind.

Ared – I’m happy to see Bethanny meeting her core goals in life, but she may not have it all if that includes friends. For whatever reason, it seems like she is loosing friends while she is gaining everything else.

Chuck C

March 19th, 2010
9:54 am

Men, do you think that you can have it all? Wonderful career, stable finances, and a good woman in your life?

Of freaking course! Millions of people have that as we speak. Those three things are not mutually exclusive, and not really even heavily interdependent (though they can influence each other). In Bullock’s case, though, she never had the good man. When she met him, he was coming off of his second failed marriage, and that to a porn star. Talk about red flags.

@Dreams Materialize: the world (and in fact, my own family) is replete with counterexamples to your “away from home” claim. Not all families are made of the same stuff.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 19th, 2010
9:55 am

@ I’m Swiss

I hear man ;-) A long as it is consentual and does not leave scars, it is just a supply and demand isssue. That said, as you suggested, probably should not be married though…will cause harm to children and wife…and golf sponsorships. The consequences of bad behavior seldom only fall on the perp.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
9:57 am

For whatever reason, it seems like she is loosing friends while she is gaining everything else

Luvbug – Good point! It’s because she doesn’t have time for them anymore. Those friends looked out for her when she was going thru it, now when they want to go along for Bethanny’s ride, she doesn’t have any room left in the car.

I mean, Jill’s husband had cancer and she just sent flowers. No call or visit. Hell Bethanny broke up with her boyfriend (big deal) and got a stay in the Hamptons because of it.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
9:58 am

The few that I’ve read only reeks of his disrespect for women, even his wife! It seems he’s more into domination, character assassination, and fulfilling his fantasies that he probably knows won’t fly with this wife. Well, guess one reason why some get a mistress, but not 13 of them!

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
9:58 am

When she met him, he was coming off of his second failed marriage, and that to a porn star. Talk about red flags.

VERY good point. These women take anything…then wonder what happens when their dream turns into a nightmare.

Women are still out there marrying Charlie Sheen. Why????

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
10:02 am

“will cause harm to children and wife…and golf sponsorships.”

Yeah, I’m not sure why he got married in the first place — other than for image. But on the sponsorship front — hell, he just needs to think outside the box (pun intended). I’m sure Trojan or that “Natural Male Enhancement” company would love to have Horny Tiger hocking their products… :lol:

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
10:02 am

It amazes me how one doesn’t really think about all they may lose while cheating.

Leggs, exactly. More folks need to start asking themselves if that few minutes of pleasure worth losing everything they have already obtained. I know how it is to eat something that I shouldn’t because I have a strong desire for it at the time. Later on when I am feeling the “sick” of it, it was not worth indulging for those few minutes palate pleasure.

That’s how I feel about stepping out. However, if the urge ever gets so strong that I cannot abstain there are bigger problems brewing within the union other than a lack coital relating.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
10:06 am

The thing with having it all though, there is a constant rise and fall. This :arrow: ————- will never be the case. Sometimes you have to give a little here and take a little there. Just being certain that no one area gets all the attention all the time.

It’s impossible to work and be on vacation at the same time. So you have to work, then you can pull away to have a vacation. However, you return to work.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 19th, 2010
10:07 am

@ Leggs

It is always amazing to me how different a person’s public persona can be from his private life. I understand that images are unrealistic, but just to see the incredible gap sometimes… One of the few moments of clarity I’ve ever seen in instances like these was in the last couple of years I saw an interview with Bill Clinton. He was asked “why” re Monika Lewinsky. In a moment of total honesty he answered, “Just because I could”. “Absolute power corrupts absolutely”.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
10:08 am

Gouda, I agree with your take on society falling for the “addiction” cry. That’s just a ploy to try to avoid accountability. Blame it on the addiction. Bull crap.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
10:11 am

@Raqi ~ exactly. Are those few lustful hours, feeling like you’ve connected with your other “soulmate,” worth losing your family, your home, paying alimony, child support and, the end, don’t even have the woman you fooled around with….some men are horny arse toads who can’t see the forest for the semen seeping through that tiny brain they think with!!!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 19th, 2010
10:11 am

@ Raqi

re: “More folks need to start asking themselves if that few minutes of pleasure worth losing everything they have already obtained”.

That is EXACTLY what ultimately kept me home when I was married, no more no less. I flew close to the flame so many times, and backed away (or in a couple of instances, the other did…thank goodness).

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
10:13 am

@Raqi — I know, that really pi$$es me off. Like “Oh, yes, I molested young boys, but the real problem is that I’m an alcoholic. I need AA.” GTFOH!

As a proud drunk myself, I’m personally offended! :lol:

Melo

March 19th, 2010
10:23 am

Wonderful career, stable finances, and good women in your life?

Absolutely! :lol:

Women follow behind closely when a man has a good career and money.If u are a woman and u have a man that has that,then dont be blind to the fact that u are not the only woman that wants him.

Do what u have to do to protect ur investment..wldnt u do the same if u had money to invest and u wanted to find out who is the best person(comoany) to do it for u while protecting ur money?

Not Benny Maddof, im sure ull say that??

U can have it all as long as u keep ur eyes and ears open and be realistic to human needs.If u going to pursue ur career but leave me at home alone for longer than my wang desires and u let the nanny do my cooking as she takes care of the kids,guess what??,the Nanny is proly gon to fill in for ur role too in the bedroom.Thats just how it gets down in the real world. Hate it or luv it!!

The prooblem is see with people is they are not open to communication among themselves and their partners.They lie to each other and so things go doiwn later and they like :evil: :shock: Wheaaaat heeeeeppened?? what happened?? fool!

If u fillming for 2 monhts away from home,take him or her with u!

See Mrs ?? Theighsomething Raqi is in Miami,…why??? To protect her investment! :lol:

Happy friday folks!!???

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
10:25 am

Or to continue that thought, Raqi… it seems like people would rather admit to anything other than their sexual freakiness. Like Senator Massa, who won’t just admit he’s gay, even after describing the all-dude tickle pile at his 50th birthday party. I mean, what dude doesn’t enjoy tickling all his dude buddies until they can’t breathe every now & then??? Hell, it was the man’s birthday, right? :lol:

Or that mega-church pastor from Alabama who was found dead a while back, hog-tied, wearing a rubber suit, with a ball-gag in his mouth & a d!ldo up his @ss — and after the news broke the church released a statement asking people to please refrain from speculation. :lol: Um… if there’s anything left to speculate about, it’s apparently beyond my freak quotient, because I can’t image what it could be… :lol:

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
10:26 am

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
10:27 am

SC Governor Mark Sanford is officially divorced.

I’m sure he has a trip planned to Argentina to celebrate! :|

Mike P

March 19th, 2010
10:27 am

come on people…
is it that hard to understand that people are self interested, it will always be “what’s in it for me?” Understand this and you’ll know what motivates your partner before he/she becomes your married SO.

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
10:28 am

the world (and in fact, my own family) is replete with counterexamples to your “away from home” claim.
I’d say “replete” is a drastic overstatement. While there may be many cases like yours, to say there is an abundance or overly sufficient amount of such cases is probably far from the actual. I understand that all family structures are different, but I was posting based on what I believe to constitute a “solid home”. Would you say that your familial dynamic was the best case scenario?

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 19th, 2010
10:30 am

“Um… if there’s anything left to speculate about, it’s apparently beyond my freak quotient, because I can’t image what it could be”

Does make one wonder if everyone’s freakiness was revealed, just how effed up are we?

TexasBoy

March 19th, 2010
10:31 am

Women don’t get it! Men are all Sex Addicts.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
10:32 am

See Mrs ?? Theighsomething Raqi is in Miami…why??? To protect her investment!

Melo, Yes and No. Yes, because weekends are our time. When the company asked him to come there on the weekend he included us in the trip. We still got to spend time together.

No, because it was only a 4 days trip and that’s not a long time to be apart. We trust each other to be apart for a few days. No worries there.

If we can’t trust each other to be apart for one week, we have some really big problems in our relationship.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
10:33 am

Are those few lustful hours, feeling like you’ve connected with your other “soulmate,” worth losing your family, your home, paying alimony, child support and, the end

NO they are not!

But human nature,the way we know it is such that men and women do it.No wonder they all go to church each week and the pastor calls pple to come frward and kneel and pray for whatever is gon on in their lives,some are there,kneeling and proly crying! And u wondering why they crying,tears streaming down their cheeks!

They got some HUGE on their chests! :roll:

U gotta be reralistic to that fact even if personally and theoretically u dont like it. People do fail,morally!

Cause it happens!

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
10:33 am

Happy Friday blog family!

As for the Sandra situation, yeah it was evidence before that he was a bad-boy, but he can’t use the “she’s away filming movies” card to excuse his behavior. I saw last night on E! a recent interview saying that when she has to be away on long movie filming, he often comes and joins her. Plus, he knew she was an actress when he married her. So, no that won’t cut it. It’s not like she puts out THAT many movies either. She’s been sticking right there by him too with that custody battle over his kid with his ex. What did he do when HE was off in NYC filming Celebrity Apprentice last year? Nope, don’t buy it.

Yes, you can have it all but in different degrees I think and depends on the career. So you could be a very successful teacher & have a great spouse & kids and homelife. But it might be difficult maintaining a great marriage & be a hands-on parent and be a CEO. There may have to be some trade-offs. Decide what’s important to you & set priorities.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
10:34 am

“Does make one wonder if everyone’s freakiness was revealed, just how effed up are we?”

@Randy — This is why I make no bones about it: I want any potential SO of mine to know exactly what kind of freak I am from early on. Gotta establish compatibility… :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
10:34 am

What bothers me about the Tiger ordeal is that he had to be reduced to rehab and admitting to sexual addiction just so he can keep his advertising dollars. Basically, “boy you better grovel and recognize who’s pulling the strings if you want to maintain this lifestyle.”

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
10:35 am

Leggs

It seems he’s more into domination, character assassination,

I figured that out by the women that seemed to be linked to him. Waitresses, B-level actresses, etc. He seems to like women that he thinks that he is better than. He married a nanny. He thought that he could get away with anything with her. He was kinda wrong.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 19th, 2010
10:38 am

@ i’m swiss

;-)

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
10:38 am

Even those who have it *all* want even more. And what is the real price of “having it all.”

It is something that I wrestle with myself. I have a job that is a cake walk. I have extremely flexible hours that allows me the freedom to have a pretty decent quality of life. The trade-off – I make about $20K less than I did in my last job. So, right now, I’m making sacrifices that are QUANTITY related but I have great QUALITY. But then I turn around and ask myself if I should be sacrificing some of that quality to maximize my earning potential.

IDK – Who said life was easy?

Melo

March 19th, 2010
10:40 am

Decide what’s important to you & set priorities

@Kimmie!

exactly…

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
10:41 am

Amred – That whole Bethanny thing is a trip. Bethanny has turned into a complete B. On that 1st new episode, her fiance’ even alluded that she shouldn’t turn on her friends. I don’t know if its editing blowing it up more than it is, but she is not looking too good right about now.

I truly believe that’s why a lot of folk won’t ever really get “it all” or a lot of what they wish for. Because they won’t know how to act when they get it, turn into monsters. The Lord knows what he’s doing!

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
10:41 am

Let’s clear this up. When we say we don’t understand why men cheat, we don’t literally mean it. We know you guys are greedy, self-absorbed dyck slingers. We got that. What we don’t understand is why take on a wife, move in with her, have children with her if you gonna keep putting your rod in someone else’s curtain!!!! Stay single and float around if that’s what you want.

Temptation is a bytch and believe you me it can be hard for both men and women to walk away from. BUT, if you’re committed to your relationship and your family turning a blind eye isn’t as hard as you think it is!

Melo

March 19th, 2010
10:42 am

want any potential SO of mine to know exactly what kind of freak I am from early on

@swiss!

absolutely!

feed me here and feed me in the mouf always,we good.

phluck career! :lol:

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
10:43 am

“Basically, “boy you better grovel and recognize who’s pulling the strings if you want to maintain this lifestyle.””

DreamsM — True, but we’ve got no one to blame for that but ourselves. This country is so uptight & in denial about sexuality that you know there would be protests & calls for boycots by some bible-thumping group somewhere if sponsors didn’t distance themselves from the guy…

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 19th, 2010
10:43 am

Re Tiger. It does beg one to question why anyone with that kind of “drive”…(pun intended) would even consider marriage. Why would he want to restrict himself. He had to know that it would someday cost him a fortune. I am always intrigued at celebrities, who KNOW they are ALWAYS under a microscope, think they can “pull it off”.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
10:44 am

My exact take on the situation, PoppaG! Even in his press conference he said he worked so hard at his craft that he was “entitled” to any temptation that came his way. Morals, respect, beliefs all flew out the window because he was entitled. He needs to go in the corner with a straightjacket on (all black, no design Raqi) and STFU!

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
10:45 am

kimmie, my mom was a teacher and one thing I know is teachers definitely take their work home. I remember my mother sitting at the kitchen table grading papers. However, she took care of her family first. She cooked dinner most nights, helped us with our homework and studies, made sure the house was intact. Then she took on her “home work”. My dad is a retired aerospace engineer. He worked long hours sometimes.

I don’t think it interferred with their bedroom time together. Those were two of the friskiest “old” people (old to us as kids) that I ever saw. LOL And they would spend every Saturday together whether it was shopping or those mysterious long Saturday’s away from the house that was none of our business. LOL

So I think no matter what the career or job may be it’s all in how the individual allow it to take over their lives.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
10:46 am

kimmie – You’re right. And Bethanny gets worse every season. It’s gone to her head.

I’m happy she’s in a relationship, but she needs to watch out. I think the fiance thinks that mouth was cute at first, but he’s already been chipping away at her about it for a minute now. If she’s not careful, they’re gonna break up. I just dont’ see them as truly compatible once the honeymoon is over.

And then she won’t have a shoulder to cry on!

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
10:47 am

putting your rod in someone else’s curtain!

:lol:

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
10:47 am

Leggs

Everyone is selfish. Human beings born that way. It isn’t gender specific. What each side places a value on.

Not to sound like truth, but I see no real difference in self-absorption when a female says that she wants a baby so bad that she doesn’t care if the man will be there or not. What about the child?

We all are selfish. We trust have to learn to care about people other than ourselves.

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
10:47 am

SCool – I’m kinda in the same situation you are in, career-wise. While not 20K less, more like 5K, I’m making some trade-offs. I have a great job and an even greater boss! I work with a great group of professional people. As a result, I’m WAY less stressed and I have time to spend living my life & establishing family & friend relationships.

What I struggle with everyday, some days more than others, is the commute to Alpharetta!

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
10:49 am

So I think no matter what the career or job may be it’s all in how the individual allow it to take over their lives.

Raqi – So true.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
10:49 am

What we don’t understand is why take on a wife, move in with her, have children

@Leggs!

we cant answer that….

same way we cant/dont understand why,when u females ask us,” do u like my hair” after that salon visit of urs, and we answer truthfully” No!” ,ur emotions get messed up in a tight knot! :lol: :lol:

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 19th, 2010
10:50 am

Off topic:

I just checked my ATT account tht includes my daughter. It says with 18 days left, my accounts have used 2238 text messages. I may have used 15. So that means my daughter has texted how many times? HTH does she do that?

eileen

March 19th, 2010
10:51 am

There is only one problem here…..the husband…he is a pig.

lurker

March 19th, 2010
10:51 am

This celebrity news has made me really wonder about the price that people pay when they try to pursue their dreams, though. Was Bullock wrong to think that she could have the great career, wonderful supportive husband, and solid home life?

Aside from all the fancy smancy, talking a whole lot about nothing….plain and simple it’s a copout and an excuse. Her career had nothing to do with his choice. People cheat because they’re selfish and greedy. No matter circumstances, either you’re in it to win it and willing to make it work or if it’s not working, have a sitdown and do the needful. There’s no excuse though for stepping out. We are adults and when you enter into adult relationships, you must maintain adult behavior. Man or woman up if you’re not happy. Don’t step to the left and when you’re caught with your pants down, you want to play the blame game. BS! Folks never cease to amaze me.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
10:52 am

Leggs, I agree. Temptation will find a way to creep up on you, however it’s the attention and the entertainment of the thought that gets you. When a person keeps entertaining the thought or the temptation they are asking for trouble. Walk away and do the right thing. It’s not that hard, although some would like to have us believe that it is.

But I tell you what, let that temptation be standing before you and get a call that your family has been in a deadly accident or your house has burned down, or your $$$$ bank account has been robbed and see how fast you attention turns from that temptation.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
10:53 am

SCool – I’m kinda in the same situation you are in, career-wise. While not 20K less, more like 5K, I’m making some trade-offs. I have a great job and an even greater boss! I work with a great group of professional people. As a result, I’m WAY less stressed and I have time to spend living my life & establishing family & friend relationships.

SCool & Kimmie – I’m making about $10K less. But the perks indeed make up for the lack of income.

But for me, this is still a stepping stone. I’m still in my career, have new responsibilites that will take me futher if I chose to utilize them. One of my friends, who is a hot shot in our industry, told me I made a good move and about all the oppotunities that will open for me because of this job and the contacts.

I think the difference is if you take “any old job” vs staying on the path, even for a loss of money. Work hard and the money and opportunity will follow (this being said as I blog. :lol: )

Kuncous

March 19th, 2010
10:54 am

I don’t think the right questions or being asked. Its not about women being able to have it all because men don’t have it all either. Difference there is the social pressures on women are much greater than her male counterparts. A few interesting facts to put my bold comment in perspective. 1. Women cheat more than men. 2. WHO is happily married? 3. More than 70% of all marriages end in divorce and MONEY is the #1 cause not infidelity. 4. Men want sex much more than women and that urge does not dissipate until they DIE.

The question we should ask – is monogamy a required necessity for mature loving relationships? Isn’t it time for us to redefine marriage to conform to our present day realities? For example, there are more women on the earth than men we’re not even talking about eligible men. Poor black people, your men are becoming an endangered species. What other mammal mates for life, with ONE partner? Stop attempting to defy your own wiring – God made us this way! We are sexual beings and when you are in a marriage, it tends to kill that aspect of yourself. You become bored and boring! I’m just saying…
Can one man or one woman be enough for a lifetime? Can you not love more than one person simultaneously – similarly to the way you love your children if you have them? Sure there’s a favorite but you love them the same, yet differently to meet their specific needs.

When will we be mature enough to align our lifestyles to our current realities? Tiger Woods is not addicted to sex, he’s just VERY rich person and in this society, they can do whatever they like legal or not, ask OJ. For those that are in committed relationships, or at least you think you are in that type of relationship, congratulations. You are the oddity, why not plan our lives around the norm not the exception.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
10:54 am

“We know you guys are greedy, self-absorbed dyck slingers. We got that”

Leggs — I agree that if you’re not ready to give up the random pu$$y, you shouldn’t get married. But… I do think it’s a little hypocritical to go so far as to demonize guys for their desires — which is what always happens whenever a guys gets caught phucking around. To borrow Bill Maher’s line: Men want sex like women want shoes. You’ve got perfectly good shoes at home, but when you see a hot new pair you still want those mofo’s. We’re the same way, except that we don’t want shoes, we want @ss… :lol: We all have unnecessary desires, we just desire different things… :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
10:54 am

but I see no real difference in self-absorption when a female says that she wants a baby so bad that she doesn’t care if the man will be there or not. What about the child?

Amen PG.

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
10:55 am

Well…one good thing about my job is that I do have the opportunity to develop my outside projects.

Now, if I could just invest a cure for procrastination and complacent and be more diligent in keeping my own feet to the fire when it comes to all that, it would just like you said, ARed, the money and opportunity will follow.

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
10:56 am

why take on a wife, move in with her, have children with her if you gonna keep putting your rod in someone else’s curtain
Not justifying it, but this could be a case where someone is trying to “have it all.” A man may want to stay single and frolick with lots of women, but he may also want to be a governor or pastor. Some professions are more accessible when you’re married, just because of the perception. Like I said, not justifying it.

you know there would be protests & calls for boycots by some bible-thumping group
Swiss Yeah they’re all about the bottom line. They had to at least appear to disapprove. Besides, they wouldn’t want anyone to turn the spotlight on back on them…who knows what we’d find out.

lurker

March 19th, 2010
10:57 am

Temptation will find a way to creep up on you, however it’s the attention and the entertainment of the thought that gets you. When a person keeps entertaining the thought or the temptation they are asking for trouble. Walk away and do the right thing. It’s not that hard, although some would like to have us believe that it is.

I’m cosigning this because we see and work and sit around everyday. It’s a lie that you cannot contain yourself. You’re right, when you feel the temptation tugging or pulling at you, as I’m sure we all have, you can either entertain it or you can separate yourself, avoiding. I work in corporate America and trust me, there are married men and women interacting everyday all day. You have to decide what it is you want.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
10:57 am

“We know you guys are greedy, self-absorbed dyck slingers. We got that”

Leggs — I agree that if you’re not ready to give up the random pu$$y, you shouldn’t get married. But… I do think it’s a little hypocritical to go so far as to demonize guys for their desires — which is what always happens whenever a guys gets caught messing around. To borrow Bill Maher’s line: Men want sex like women want shoes. You’ve got perfectly good shoes at home, but when you see a hot new pair you still want those mofo’s. We’re the same way, except that we don’t want shoes, we want @ss… :lol: We all have unnecessary desires, we just desire different things… :lol:

CoolShadow

March 19th, 2010
10:58 am

You first have to define what it means to “have it all” to you; the concept probably means the same to most people but the particulars are where you’ll differentiate yourself from others (e.g., family is priority to some, a non-factor to others). I think you can have it all but if you include someone in the picture you have to make sure they’re of the same mindset. I also believe that because life will throw curves and changes at you, be ready to tweak or reassess your definition of “having it all” and that your SO can exhibit equivalent flexibility for adapting to life changes. How you manage that balancing act may determine the survival of your relationship.

Sacrifices may have to be made between you and your SO and they have to be on board with the plan or it will cause drama. Sacrifice with a family in tow may mean a deferral or suspension of personal goals. When you look at your situation in retrospect, you hope that the rewards were great and the sacrifices small in the long term.

lurker

March 19th, 2010
10:59 am

Isn’t it time for us to redefine marriage to conform to our present day realities?

OMG Kuncousare you kidding me? That’s rich

Melo

March 19th, 2010
10:59 am

Kuncous

I pray u stick around! :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
11:02 am

Men want sex like women want shoes

I’m not into shoes though…so are men not into sex? :lol:

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
11:02 am

So Kuncous, are you willing to marry and knowingly share your wife with another man or seven?

Lady J-Show me the way!

March 19th, 2010
11:02 am

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
11:04 am

Men want sex like women want shoes

Amazon, who made that statement so I can go back and read it.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
11:04 am

swiss/Randyt/Poppa??

another female azz is in the pic a difficult topic for ladies..

theyre talking about their jobs already and its only 11.00 am! :lol:

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
11:05 am

plain and simple it’s a copout and an excuse. Her career had nothing to do with his choice. People cheat because they’re selfish and greedy.

lurker – Exactly.

Anyway, it’s the media, even this blog, that’s making the excuse for him, that she was away making movies so he cheated. He didn’t say that. Like I said earlier, he knew she was an actress, and a popular one at that, when he married her. Bet there’s no complaining about those big checks she was bringing home!

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
11:05 am

Raqi – Bill Maher made it, but Gouda posted it in his 10:57.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
11:08 am

CoolShadow, I agree.

Lurker, yes temptation can and will be among us at all times. Some people pretend like they can’t make a rational decision when it comes to certain things, yet they manage to control their actions in other areas and times. They are following anyone but themselves.

I have been in situations where I wanted sex bad. Real bad. And it was right there in front of me but I didn’t allow it to get the best of me. It is that easy.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
11:08 am

@PoppaG ~ that’s what I’m saying :arrow: BUT, if you’re committed to your relationship and your family turning a blind eye isn’t as hard as you think it is!

@Melo ~ I’ve never asked “do you like my hair after coming from the salon,” and never asked “does my butt look big in this skirt.” I understand questions like that in that they lead to arguments and I got the style cuz I liked it and I’m wearing this skirt because I like the way it looks on me (e.g, self-absorbed)

@im swiss ~ I see your point, but me buying more shoes isn’t nearly as harmful as you phucking another woman and we are in a committed relationship. The scales of justice are definitely not balanced with your example!

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
11:09 am

Now, if I could just invest a cure for procrastination and complacent and be more diligent in keeping my own feet to the fire when it comes to all that

SCool – Once you invent it…I’ll buy it. :lol:

Melo

March 19th, 2010
11:10 am

And it was right there in front of me but I didn’t allow it to get the best of me

the guy was proly too short for ya! :lol:

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
11:12 am

@PoppaG ~ that’s what I’m saying :arrow: BUT, if you’re committed to your relationship and your family turning a blind eye isn’t as hard as you think it is!

@im swiss ~ I see your point, but the main difference in your argument is the fact that buying more shoes doesn’t pulling at one’s heart, bring tears, it doesn’t rip at one’s level of love for you. You jacking off into another being does so much harm. The scales are justice are diffently askew!

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
11:13 am

You’ve got perfectly good shoes at home, but when you see a hot new pair you still want those mofo’s.

Gouda, but just because we want them doesn’t mean we buy them. No one is saying that the desire or urge is not there, all I am saying is you don’t have to act on every whelm and desire. You are an intelligent being. You know the right thing to do.

Don’t go spending you electric company money on Cole Haans just because you have that urge.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
11:14 am

Dagnabit, it’s not the desire itself. It’s the “degree” to which you will go to satisfy the desire!!!

Mike P

March 19th, 2010
11:14 am

here here Kuncous

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
11:14 am

Does anyone here think that Sandra Bullock was faithful the whole time? What about Tiger’s wife; was she just sitting at home for months at a time twiddling her thumbs?

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
11:15 am

The scales of justice….(you guys already know I can’t type).

Kym

March 19th, 2010
11:19 am

Okay I think I am caught up..on The Tiger issue..I think he said it best in his speech..that he was a athlete he could get the booty..cause the booty was thrown..he got caught..he is sorry..he wishes folks would back up off him, stop following his kids to school..he wants to work on his marriage..if not..well he tried..the end. Oh yeah and I really think that speech was more for his mama than anyone.

Now are ya’ll talking about some Big Love kind of stuff going on?

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
11:19 am

It saddens me every time we have this discussion and I read men that speak of how intelligent, educated and rational they are on most days elude to the fact that they are unable to control their sexual desires.

You get hungry, but you know that every place and time is not the place and time to eat. So you wait. But when it comes to sexual desires a lot make many to believe you become bumbling idiots with no self control.

How it is you can do right by one, but try to find justification to give in to the other?

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
11:20 am

Raqi – And some of these same dudes freely admit that they would not continue a relationship with a woman who went outside of it.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
11:21 am

Dreams

Tiger’s wife was pregnant at least some of that time with a little one at home already. So, I doubt that she was twiddling thumbs.

As for Sandra Bullock, I don’t know. It doesn’t really matter. The only thing that I question about her is the fact that she married someone who likes the limelight too. I watched some of Jesse James chopper shows on Discovery and I know some people who have purchased a custom chopper from him. He likes his success. He loves when people feed into that success. That makes it easier for him to go astray. If this tattoo artist did that, it made it easier for him go astray. She didn’t see this in him before?

Melo

March 19th, 2010
11:22 am

Dreams??

I like Sandra and the Pretty Woman lady so I aint gon say none bad about her/them.

But women hide secrets better,u know that right! :lol:

In LA,sex and extra affairs is like oxygen,CO2 and herpes to them..so ubiquitous..this aint as big to them as it is to some of these females on here!

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
11:23 am

SexyCool, exactly. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Don’t set rules and standards that you are not willing to put up with yourself.

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
11:23 am

Women are still out there marrying Charlie Sheen. Why????

LOL

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
11:23 am

Dreams – I’m of the mindset that I really don’t care about Tiger or Sandra’s husband cheating. It’s not my problem to deal with. Bottom line, they got caught. If Sandra and/or Elin were cheating, they haven’t gotten caught.

Plus now, who would care if Elin cheated too? Nobody would look at her so bad. She doesn’t have any endorsement deals to worry about. I doubt if it would hurt Sandra either – she has sort of a “girl next door” thing going, but again, no endorsements. She could still get movie roles.

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
11:24 am

Oh…and people with body art everydamnwhere – er, um, too many gotd@mn tattoos are effin disgusting. IMO.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
11:27 am

Kimmie

Nobody would look at her so bad.

There is always some group or person that will complain. It would be easier to question the example that she would be setting for Sam (their daughter) if Elin was cheating. Sam and her little brother will have enough to deal with being their children (even before the cheating came to light). There is no need to pile more crap on the kids.

Kym

March 19th, 2010
11:29 am

Well I like Sandra..and I know it is embrassing and most annoying to have your life open like a book 24/7. Jennifer Anniston comes to mind..hell her hubby left her..holding the bag..all the dudes she has become involved with since have up and married other women(Vince Vaughn)and she just remodel her home and the press made a big deal about her doing away with a his and hers closet and sinks. Hell Monique admitted her hubby goes outside the marriage apparently with her blessing. Its like their lives are open for all to review and discuss. If anything I feel rather sad for them..Tiger too. I really think he just never got a chance to be wild and free.

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
11:32 am

She didn’t see this in him before?

Poppa – They’ve been married 5 years. Before that, I hadn’t heard about any trouble with their marriage. The only reason why her judgement is now being questioned is because this has happened. It’s been reported that Elin was warned that Tiger messed around with alot of women. She even asked him about it. But she still married him. So I guess Elin’s judgement should be questioned too. Everybody has a past, some worse than others. I guess both of these women thought things would be different, that their guy had settled down, grown up.

abc

March 19th, 2010
11:32 am

I do have it all: wonderful career, excellent wife, financial stability, creative outlets, decent relationships with my kids, everything. These are all blessings from God. I do not deserve such good fortune, and it sure hasn’t always been this way, but God blesses me anyway. My relationship with God is of greater value than all the transitory earthly good stuff.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 19th, 2010
11:34 am

If this tattoo artist did that, it made it easier for him go astray.

Originally(according to the mistress) she contacted him b/c she was hoping to somehow get on his show but he took it further. I think she played into it b/c 1. She drove two hrs. to get to his shop and had puhlenty-o-relations that night and on the regular after that…she calls him the vanilla gorilla…..y’all know why. ;)

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
11:35 am

She didn’t see this in him before?

PG – She had to. He was quite married when they met, and he was married to a porn star at that. How high did she expect his moral compass to reach?

I’m not saying that as an excuse, I’m just saying that we need to pay attention to what we are getting. Leopards don’t often change their spots.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
11:36 am

abc I’ve been away. Looks like you got married again. Congrats. :)

Melo

March 19th, 2010
11:36 am

Hell Monique admitted her hubby goes outside the marriage apparently with her blessing

@Monique??

I pray to God she shaves or trims that pad up top there coz if not,we be reading about her divorce real soon.Esp in this hot weather,u dont wanna be inside that swamp,juss messy with the bodily fluids and hairs all over….shwaka..shwaka.. shwaka..worse if she emits a perculiar funk too….daaamn it! :evil: :shock:

NY2GA

March 19th, 2010
11:36 am

Good people, let me jump in here for a min. Individually, the person needs to decide what “having it all” means to them. No matter what YOU do, you can’t control that other person. If the man is going to cheat, he is going to cheat, honestly there is nothing you can do about it.

If having it all means a good job, your health and a good companion, then good for you. Someone else’s having it all might be health and happiness with friends and loved ones or painting, or riding a bike or hiking or like that woman who rowed across the Atlantic ocean by herself, that was her “having it all”…

Leggs – I think your 9:07 was right on point.

Professor – Your 9:19 summs it up well.

Poppa Grande – Your 10:47, we are all selfish because we want something, nah, I don’t think so. Are there cases of selfishness, of course, but because you want something does not make you selfish (just my opinion)… Now to catch-up on the late morning comments..

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
11:37 am

There is always some group or person that will complain. It would be easier to question the example that she would be setting. There is no need to pile more crap on the kids.

And Tiger is really setting a beautiful example for them. Yeah, no need to pile more on the kids. If Elin is cheating, she’s being more discreet about it. Or maybe she just hasn’t been caught yet.

Jeff

March 19th, 2010
11:37 am

As far as Tiger goes, if he and Elin had been at that same frequency, every one would say great marriage. If he was single, everyone would wink at it being ok. So, NO, no sex addict.

As far a Oscar women lsing their marriages, I’ll throw this out there to pis* ya off: Are we willing to admit that the woman throwing everything into her career (ie good enough to win an oscar) COULD have been damaging to her marriage? COULD she have neglected her relationship with her family for the sake of “achieving it all”? I’ll be the one in the corner with the bullseye. You may commence @ noon.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
11:40 am

ARed

I’m not saying that as an excuse, I’m just saying that we need to pay attention to what we are getting. Leopards don’t often change their spots.

That is all that I was saying. The people that i know that purchased his choppers said that he loved to show off some of his memorabilia of who he had met and knew. He didn’t speak much about Sandra, though. However, many people like to keep their home life private.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 19th, 2010
11:41 am

child please….

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
11:42 am

PG – He cried like a baby at the Oscars!

Maybe he knew what was brewing. :lol:

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
11:44 am

Jeff, get off the bullseye. You are making a valid point. That’s what the topic question is. Can one really have it all? Will pursuing one aspect damage the other?

That is the case in many instances and IMO more so in the entertainment industry.

That’s what most of us were talking about in having a balance. That happy middle.

When you allow one part to make you neglect another part bad things are bound to happen. Mr. Bullock (lol) could very well feel like he was being neglected. And he could very well have been neglected.

However, that’s no ground for cheating. But in line with the topic that very well could have attributed to his actions. Not saying it’s right but it could have.

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
11:47 am

Jeff – I think it may have more to do with acting skill (and politics) if one wins an Oscar or not. If it takes, say 3 months, to film a movie, it takes 3 months to film that movie & give an Oscar-winning performance. It will take the same 3 months to give a so-so, average or crappy performance(depending on how many takes).

But we’ve already discussed that sometimes there is a trade-off for certain levels of success within certain careers. So the drive it takes for a person to become CEO of a major corporation would probably take quite a bit of time away from a marriage & family. We get that. So you can come out of your corner.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
11:47 am

NY2GA

We all are selfish. Humans are born selfish. It is how the species sustain itself. Look at us in our base. We are selfish. Babies want, want and want. Look at little kids play. Every toy is “mine!”. We have to TEACH the golden rule. We have to TEACH to care about others.

Look at the healthcare industry, the money is NOT in the cure. Therefore, we make it possible for people to live with disease. That is the selfish drug company execs, doctors, etc to get a co-pay every month or so. After all, they have student loans, houses, cars, children in college just like everybody else. So, we can’t cure everything because they’d be out of a job.

We like to think that we are better than that. However, we are not. We have just psyched outselves into thinking otherwise.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
11:47 am

Leggs / Raqi — I agree… I’m not advocating committing to a relationship and then not living up to that commitment. I’m just saying dude shouldn’t feel the need to claim “sex addiction” — rather than just coming out and saying “d@mmit I like to phluck! Now what?” :lol:

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
11:48 am

urgently skimming…

Regarding the men cheat b/c they want sex more than women and just cuz sentiment…nothing wrong with wanting sex all the time…tell somebody upfront. Let it be known in the beginning so the person can decide if they want to be with you.

Sex aint wrong, but cheating and lying is.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
11:48 am

The people that i know that purchased his choppers said that he loved to show off some of his memorabilia of who he had met and knew.

Poppa, just because the guy liked to show off is not a red flag for being a possible cheater. The two don’t go together. Tiger as we all knew him before his recent happenings was a quiet guy. He played a “quiet” sport. He wasn’t seen at all the after parties and social events, yet he had 13 other women outside of his wife.

So the guy being a show off says nothing other than he is a show off.

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
11:49 am

Melo

March 19th, 2010
11:50 am

Maybe he knew what was brewing.
@Ared

No i dont think so!

the fact that he cheated does not mean he doesnt luv her..he was really happy for her, i think.It dont matter he told the heiffer that he was seperating or sme like that.That was jus said to get inside the bootey..

I can promise u,soon after he was done wiping,after fccking that tatoo lady,he was calling Sandra,thinking about her,”hey baby,im on my way,see u in a minute!”

:lol: :lol:

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
11:55 am

So the guy being a show off says nothing other than he is a show off.

Raqi – I was thinking the same thing.

lurker

March 19th, 2010
11:55 am

You ladies are on it today….oh, and I’m agreeing with Jeff

lurker

March 19th, 2010
11:56 am

and I’m Swiss…agree there too

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
11:57 am

melo – These h0es think they have rights these days. Look at Tigers. Look at this broad. The timing is no coincidence.

Of course he was genuinely happy when Sandra won the Oscar, but he has also gotta know with that success comes even more of the spotlight and folks who see an opening and opportunity!

NY2GA

March 19th, 2010
11:58 am

Poppa G – Wanting something does not make you selfish. Babies want, want, want, what is it they want? Food, nourishment, etc? Kids playing with toys, have you ever noticed a group of kids playing together and sharing without any parental involvement.

Now I would agree if you are over the top, if you want something at another person’s expense, then there might be some selfishness going on.

Note: We have certain survival instincts implanted in our DNA. But at the same time people can be taught (or self taught) to be selfish for things that are not relevent to survival. The term “greed” comes into mind.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
11:58 am

Raqi

Poppa, just because the guy liked to show off is not a red flag for being a possible cheater.

No by itself. However, it is an indicator that he likes his ego stroked and he likes to people to know that he knows some people and does his own things.

In your previous post, you called him Mr. Bullock. That is exactly why he would want to show his own accomplishments. I know women that have a problem with this too. It is kinda like a married woman using a hyphenated last name. In many cases, she doesn’t want to lose the identity and accomplishments that she had.

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
11:59 am

Yeah…nobody is embarassed to be the side piece anymore.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
11:59 am

“Are we willing to admit that the woman throwing everything into her career (ie good enough to win an oscar) COULD have been damaging to her marriage? COULD she have neglected her relationship with her family for the sake of “achieving it all”?

Of course not, Jeff. Because if a guy cheats, that automatically makes him the devil. So clearly, all problems are 100% his fault. Isn’t that right? ;-)

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 19th, 2010
11:59 am

Sex aint wrong, but cheating and lying is.

Needed repeating.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
12:01 pm

Sex aint wrong, but cheating and lying is.

@Luvbug

I agree with u.I think the problem some women make is to disregard or relegate sexx after marriage. I hear about it often.
That wld be a mistake.

Men luv sex untill they die. I dont know of any men,at whatever age, who doesnt.

My grandpa died at 85 and he was still looking at women even at that old age,giving them that ravishing eye, like he was 30 years old. :lol:

Too bad viagra wasnt in the mainstream back then! :lol: Otherwise we wld have had to enroll him in some medical insurance program and then have his back massaged eve now and then be4 he took care of his bizzness!

East Point's Own

March 19th, 2010
12:01 pm

I don’t see how being successful factors into this equation… People get married & people cheat… Rich, Poor, Young, Old, Blakc, White, Asian, Latin,Successful,Failures,Clean,Crackhead… It happens in all walks of life its just another part of being human. I doubt that any particular group of people are more affected by cheating or failed relationships than others.

http://hispointofview.com

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
12:03 pm

Yeah…nobody is embarassed to be the side piece anymore.

Right. One trend I’m seeing, when folks skeletons pop up is a group of folks (on Facebook) talking about “stop judging!”

Hell, a little judgement, criticism and shame is often the one thing that DOES stop a cheater. A lot of folks have no shame, until they get caught and blackballed!

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
12:04 pm

NY2GA

I said selfish, not greed.

The human body needs certain things. We have to do what is necessary to get it. Sometimes it is at the expense of others. That is selfish.

Flight or fight response is a selfish thing. However, it is vital to our survival. You don’t lay there and get hurt because you care about your opponent survival. You care about your survival.

Greed is the extreme of selfishness.

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
12:04 pm

Yeah…nobody is embarassed to be the side piece anymore.

Don’t know much about the Bullock situation, but sometimes the side piece is clearing his/her name. They want to make it known that they were lied to as well.

Kym

March 19th, 2010
12:04 pm

Well while Sandra had this whole girl next door thing going on..maybe she was like every other woman in this world..she likes a thug. Yeah I said it. I don’t mean dude has to be thug out and have tats like Jesse..but there is no straight woman I know..who is not going to tell me they don’t like a man with thug qualities. Now before you all go clutching your pearls and going not me I like nerds. Yeah whateva. If its 3 am in the morning and someone is trying to break in my back door..if the dude next to me is hiding in the bathroom or not reaching for something to defend us against the enemy. That joker is going to be homeless in the morning. I like a smart guy too..but he also needs to have some street smarts.

No one wants a wimpy man. Just like men say you can’t make a whore a housewife..well maybe Sandra thought she could take her tough thug and make him a balance between thug..and intellectual.

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
12:06 pm

Seems like folks just want to make excuses for these guys. Either the wife must not be doing the needful at home or she should have looked in her crystal ball and known ahead of time that he would cheat. Or, the mistress should have known better.

How about dude cheated cause he wanted to & now he’s gotta deal with the consequences? He had choices & he chose wrong.

lurker

March 19th, 2010
12:06 pm

AmazonRed, I often hear the old folks say “shameness done left the world” Having shameness (for being naughty or doing wrong) works wonders for a person. It’ll keep you “out of” and from “amongst”

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
12:07 pm

LOL Poppa. I called him “Mr. Bullock” because I can never remember the guys name. I didn’t know he was married to Sandra Bullock until I saw him on the apprentice.

I still say that wanting your ego stroked and liking to show off your souveniers (sp?) does not make one more susceptible to cheating. There are quiet and modest cheaters. Look at Tiger.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
12:07 pm

“I agree with u.I think the problem some women make is to disregard or relegate sexx after marriage. I hear about it often.
That wld be a mistake.”

Exactly, Melo. Of course cheating is wrong, but so is withholding s3x or using it as a bargaining chip or whatever. But you don’t ever hear anyone demonizing women who employ such tactics the way cheating guys get thrown under the bus. Both are equally wrong & equally deadly to a relationship, that’s all I’m saying…

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 19th, 2010
12:08 pm

nobody is embarassed to be the side piece anymore.

They sure aren’t…all they’re looking for is some comeuppance(hey Dan) and free publicity and they’ve gotten it and will continue to get it. The media is so thirsty for scandal that these side pieces are getting paid for interviews and public appearances…hell the “main mistress” even got a big job recently and that pays alot more that her waitressng gig(and Cheeta) did.

Even the lil tattooed girl is all over the tabloids and now she’s about to come up…even if it’s on somebody’s back…oh wait she was on her back,too…..I digress.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
12:08 pm

Even if she neglected the relationship, it was his sole decision to sleep with another woman. Perhaps she didn’t realize she was neglecting him because he never sat her down to discuss it with her. We don’t know, but what we do know is HE made the decision to cheat not her!

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
12:08 pm

ARed

Hell, a little judgement, criticism and shame is often the one thing that DOES stop a cheater. A lot of folks have no shame, until they get caught and blackballed!

This reminds me of when I mentioned that I was for public punishments in one of my law school classes. I said that if everyone got to see an execution (especially during the “Ol’ Sparky days- aka electric chair) that some people would scared straight. Crime would drop. Especially among juveniles.

Kym

March 19th, 2010
12:08 pm

Dang it! AJC ate my post.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
12:08 pm

They want to make it known that they were lied to as well.

If you’re with a celeb, do your research! Folks just WANT to believe what they say so that they can say they didn’t know.

Yeah right…you still know “separated” is not “divorced!”

Jeff

March 19th, 2010
12:09 pm

Let me make an anology that some women will understand:

Sex to some men creates the same physical reaction as the word “sale” does in some women. Look at Filene’s basement.

lurker_1

March 19th, 2010
12:10 pm

Slightly off topic. Has anyone read the book, The Denzel Principle, by Jimi Izrael? Last week, I heard him on WCLK and it was quite a debate about black men and black women. I told my wife about it and she asked me why was I interested? I said, we have a 25 year old daughter. She ordered me the book and it came yesterday. I just started reading it last night. Man, this is a bitter, bitter brother but he might have valid reasons.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
12:12 pm

Sex to some men creates the same physical reaction as the word “sale” does in some women. Look at Filene’s basement

I don’t understand. :)

And with the Filene’s basement example…wedding dresses are expensive! Folks are risking getting trampled just because.

NY2GA

March 19th, 2010
12:13 pm

Poppa G – You make a good point, but we are not all selfish, we may have selfish tendencies but I don’t think we are born to be selfish. This is where the “greed” comes into play.

I would say we agree to disagree. As for Jesse James, Tiger, etc, they were only thinking about their wants and needs and not caring about the other person, selfish or stupidity…

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
12:15 pm

But you don’t ever hear anyone demonizing women who employ such tactics

Swiss – Do you ever hear TMZ reporting that such & such woman is withholding from her husband, so we should be demonizing her for treating her poor husband so bad? How much sense does that make?

Intimacy is a part of marriage, so if there are problems there, you work it out. Cheating is not working it out.

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
12:15 pm

I agree with u.I think the problem some women make is to disregard or relegate sexx after marriage. I hear about it often.
That wld be a mistake.

Still the guy should be upfront – If you keep this up, I may need to make other arrangements. Maybe not that blunt, but you know what I mean.

That would also allow her to voice an explanation or request/s – You lost your job. I’m getting furloughed…and still doing everything when I get home. To be honested, I’m stressed out and sex is the last thing on my mind

…and I swear your d!ck is looking smaller these days.

That last part wasn’t necessary either, but you know what I mean.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
12:16 pm

lurker_1?

summarise the book a lil bit for us??

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
12:16 pm

Kimmie, I agree. We all do because we want to do. However, I don’t totally discount the fact that sometimes we can set the stage to bring on certain events.

We are intelligent beings and we know right from wrong. However being beings in need of interacting and physical and emotional attention, I do believe when it is lacking we seek to find it. I have to keep believing this because it’s that belief that sometimes taps me on my shoulder to let me know that my mate has needs. He realizes that I have needs.

Everyday life will and can get you caught up and time will pass before you know it. In my relationship we cannot neglect each other and our needs and expect everything will be okay. I wish this thing was automatic but some things we have to make an effort to stay mindful of. Days just pass by so quickly.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
12:17 pm

Raqi

I still say that wanting your ego stroked and liking to show off your souveniers (sp?) does not make one more susceptible to cheating.

I totally disagree on that.Tiger was manufactured. Eldrick Woods is a person. Sometimes, the line blurs. Earvin Johnson has made similar statements. Earvin was a person and “Magic” was manufactured. At some point, their alter-egos take over and actions that fit that alter-ego seem ok and it becomes detached from the real person that they are.

It is a common trait. Remember Steve McNair last year. He still wanted the limelight and was having hard time adjusting to life out of it. All it really took was a female that still saw him as “Air” McNair and not just Steve McNair.

I am not saying that it is right. But it is a common trait among these situations. Getting ego-stroked as opposed as being thought of a just a guy who is around to take garbage out of the kitchen.

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
12:21 pm

Melo – I mentioned that book & the loser who wrote it yesterday. Nothing he said is valid to me because he’s bashing BW after having 2 baby mamas for 2 kids that have to chase him down for child support. At 42, he’s now married a non-BW so he is bitter & bashing us.

Really don’t want to go down that row again today.

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
12:24 pm

I don’t totally discount the fact that sometimes we can set the stage to bring on certain events.

Neither do I Raqi. There’s a cause & effect for everything. We’re all falable. I just think we’re all too quick to make excuses for sorry behavior.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
12:25 pm

(it’s after noon)

Anyone get their brackets busted? I’m looking pretty good. My friends who put Georgetown in the Elite 8 or *cough* Final Four are pizzed. They must not have seen them play. :lol:

LeeH1

March 19th, 2010
12:26 pm

For every man who cheats on his wife, there is a woman who cheats on her married sister. As long as women will have sex with married men, there will be cheating. To blame the man only is wrong- there is a women involved, too, who cheated on a married woman, and possibly on her own husband, boyfriend or morals as well.

It is usually the woman who is stoned for adultery in Moslem countries, not the man. Here in America, only the man is blamed, and is often publicaly stoned with dishonor and disrepute, but the woman is seldom named or even less often blamed.

The younger woman was not raped, and is not a victim. Until she is named and shamed as well as the straying husband, fairness will not be served.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
12:27 pm

@Kimmie?

I understand but just wanna hear HIS arguments for saying what he saying!

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
12:27 pm

This reminds me of when I mentioned that I was for public punishments in one of my law school classes. I said that if everyone got to see an execution (especially during the “Ol’ Sparky days- aka electric chair) that some people would scared straight. Crime would drop. Especially among juveniles.

Poppa G – I would love to believe this is true, but too often these days I run into people who get pleasure out of seeing others abused. Some people have nothing behind their eyes and I wouldn’t assume that public torture would not become the highest rated reality tv show.

Actually, sometimes I think the ability to abuse people is a sign of success for some…a little portion of having it all.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
12:31 pm

Luvbug

Take a look at the crime rate in SE Asian. Caning is usually public in places like Singapore and Malaysia. Look at their crime rates.

I know it probably sounds like I am Dick Cheney’s son saying it. However, there is no fear of punishment here in the US anymore.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
12:36 pm

Disclaimer: (LOL) Very recent personal happening to my own statement.

“Days just pass by so quickly.”

Last night I whispered in my marido’s ear that it’s been 12 days. He chuckled and said that he was about to question me about why has it been A MONTH since we related.

See how fast the days can go by when you are caught up in everyday life. Now I know 12 isn’t that long. Neither is a month really. But 12 days can easily turn into a month. A month into a season and a season into a year. It can happen before you know it.

Before we went to Miami the time was not appropriate for relating. While we were there he was preoccupied with business. Wednesday just slipped right on pass us. Although I see that we both were thinking about it however another few days or weeks could have gotten between us had something dealing with the house, the kids or work had come up.

It happens.

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
12:37 pm

To blame the man only is wrong- there is a women involved, too, who cheated on a married woman, and possibly on her own husband, boyfriend or morals as well.

I agree, but where on here are we excusing the mistress?

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
12:37 pm

I had a cousin with the nerve to ask me to bring some ribs for a bar-b-q. I asked about the occasion. The answer was that it was a going away gathering for my cousin (the requester’s brother) who was being tried for murder. :shock: (He was out on bond.)

They are still waiting for those ribs.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
12:40 pm

It is usually the woman who is stoned for adultery in Moslem countries, not the man.

Lee, that’s because “Moslems” think very little of women. Women in those countries are less that second hand citizens.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
12:42 pm

The answer was that it was a going away gathering for my cousin (the requester’s brother) who was being tried for murder. (He was out on bond.

@Poppa

:roll: :evil: :evil: :shock:

U did the right thing!

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
12:44 pm

They are still waiting for those ribs.

Poppa, that is too funny. LOL

And speaking of ribs, these folks are getting later and later with our Friday Company Paid Lunches. It’s nearly 1:00. Where’s the beef?

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
12:45 pm

Copy that :arrow: They are still waiting for those ribs.

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
12:46 pm

LMAO!!!

Poppa I guess the last meal was not gonna be ribs

@Raqi
You are right about that. Muslim women are clearly less than second hand citizens. I spent a lot of time in those countries and after awhile I was thanking God I didn’t have a vagina.

SlimOne on autopilot

March 19th, 2010
12:47 pm

Too much to try to catch up on…what’s the current topic?

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
12:52 pm

DigThat, it tickles me that the women get stoned but it’s the man that committed adultery. He wronged his wife but it’s the other woman’s fault. It is a cheat. Who was he suppose to screw the family pet. LOL

I mean, it’s not right, but come on. He made the choice to step out on his wife. If “men” are so great and grand over there why does it take a WOMAN telling him no to make him do the right thing. And if that WOMAN does not keep him from committing adultery, it’s her fault. She gets stoned.

I know the Lord said that we are each other’s keeper but I don’t think he was talking about keeping folks in the line that don’t want to stay in line.

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
12:52 pm

PG – Then you may be right. I don’t know much about SE Asia, but I take it their “criminal justice system” is more “restrictive” (don’t know what word to use) than America’s in all comparable categories…that may also add to their low crime rate.

We’re a capitalist society… IMO, no more than we can successfully stop government and make everybody pray five times a day like some societies (what will the strip clubs do?) can we successfully publicize torture without it being a hit tv show that everybody wants to be apart of.

Some folks may even evaluate the physical costs and try to get 15 minutes of fame from it.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
12:53 pm

of time in those countries and after awhile I was thanking God I didn’t have a vagina

:lol: :lol: :lol:

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
12:56 pm

“And with the Filene’s basement example…wedding dresses are expensive! Folks are risking getting trampled just because.”

Speaking of Filene’s — I drove past there on my way into the office this morning & saw someone getting loaded into an ambulance on a stretcher. Must have gotten crazy in there today…

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
12:58 pm

Dang

*some societies do*

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
1:00 pm

I was in Saudi Arabia and witnessed their punishments and it was totally gruesome. If you steal, hand chopped off. If you speak against God or Government then tongue chopped off. If you dare get caught for rape then guess what is coming off. I went to a mall afterwards and was browsing some of the most beautiful jewelry and furs I have ever seen. He put all of the diamonds, rubies, onyx and furs right in front of me and said he would be back in 20 mins because he had to go pray. I was like you just gon leave and no cameras or anything. THE VERY LAST THING THAT I WAS GONNA DO WAS STEAL. I’m not a theif but temptation was not even a factor considering the punishment. @Raqi
You are so right again. The other part that you never hear about is the homosexual population over there. It is more than you can imagine because that is how you seperate the rich from poor. If you cannot afford a wife then you are stuck in a life of jacking off or trying to screw the other poor dude next to you.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:01 pm

Luvbug

In America, incarceration is an industry. It provides jobs and money. There are plenty of prisons in America that are becoming privatized. So, the government outsources the work and it becomes an industry like managing an Intercontinental Hotel chain.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:05 pm

Raqi….over there women have very little rights. In many cases, they are property. Much like women here before Susan B. Anthony and ‘em put the heat on Congress and they passed the 19th amendment. (Even though the 14th amendment was already on the books)

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
1:06 pm

“If you dare get caught for rape then guess what is coming off”

Also, depending on the level of religious psychosis in the particular region, there’s a good chance the victim will get stoned for being a wh@re…

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
1:06 pm

eHarmony is having a Free Communication Weekend until Sunday.
Don’t know why they sent this to me or how they even got my email addy.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:07 pm

This basketball tournament thing, is it going to be on all weekend?

Melo

March 19th, 2010
1:07 pm

If you cannot afford a wife then you are stuck in a life of jacking off or trying to screw the other poor dude next to you.

:lol:

so if ure caught phlucking somebody what do they do??..cut ur wang off and then the other shim,maybe just sew their dudu hole so they never have to get phlucked by another man again?? :lol: :lol:

Here in america,something gotta be done tho to these “boyfriends” who murder gerlfriends…its getting outa hand!

I think moslem type justice,like shaving their(men) heads off is deserved!

There :arrow: ,a job for a Republican! :lol:

joe

March 19th, 2010
1:09 pm

Bullock wanted the bad boy and that’s what she got. So, I guess she did have it all, since that’s what she wanted.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:09 pm

Raqi…

This basketball tournament thing, is it going to be on all weekend?

Every weekend until April 5

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
1:13 pm

PG- You’re right. Some are making a killing of the prison system. I hear Georgia is among the top of the list for size of the prison industrial complex.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:14 pm

ARed

President Obama picked Georgetown to make it the Elite 8. So, I guess that he his ticked.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:15 pm

correction: he is ticked

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:15 pm

Thanks Poppa. I just needed to know if I was going to be doing the grocery shopping alone tomorrow. I like to prepare myself. LOL

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:17 pm

Raqi.

No problem….Then, the the Masters (Tiger’s return is the following weekend). NBA playoff start a couple weeks after the final four….the NFL draft is a three day event this year in April. (Starting in Primetime on Thursday night)…

These are great reasons to stay inside and avoid the only real time that I hate Atlanta: Pollen Season.

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
1:18 pm

@Melo
And it doesn’t matter if you are driving a nice car or clean clothes because they are all wearing basically the same shyt, so it is totally different society of how we determine wealth. If you see a dude walking up the street with 6 women with him, then they are all wives and he is BALLIN’ believe that.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:18 pm

SexyCool, maybe you went on a site that sold your address to the eharmony.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:19 pm

It seems to be a dead period in February following the Superbowl and before NCAA conference tourney. I guess that is why I know so many November and December babies.

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
1:20 pm

Poppa- the president is very ticked right now.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:21 pm

Dig that

He would have been even more ticked if the refs hadn’t allowed Villanova to get back in and win that game yesterday. (They are one of his final four teams)

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
1:23 pm

Dig That- Here, it’s a good chance if he’s walking with six women one is his wife pretending to not know the other ones are mistress…and the kids? We all paying for them.

BlackMagicWoman

March 19th, 2010
1:25 pm

Kuncous- “Men want sex much more than women and that urge does not dissipate until they DIE.”

hence the reason I liek being single…nobody trying to touch on when I do not want. Sometimes I do not want to be touched. And to feel obligated is pressure I do not want or need! No to mention doing it when I don’t want to will only make me resent you and eventually be disguted and repulsed! I have tried going against this loving to be single and it always kicks me in the a$$!

SWISS- “Men want sex like women want shoes.”
I LOOOOOVVVEEE shoes…but I do not commit to them so I can have as many as I want and nobody will get hurt when I do! So that is a bad comparison! :lol:

MELO- “the fact that he cheated does not mean he doesnt luv her..”

That is pure crap! Anybody who TRULY loves someone would not cheat on them. You love somebody you would not want to see them hurt and you know that by cheating you would do exactly that! To love is to respect and to respect is to protect…meaning you want to protect their heart from hurt and their body from disease!

Swiss- “Also, depending on the level of religious psychosis in the particular region, there’s a good chance the victim will get stoned for being a wh@re”

Now ain’t that some ish!?! I read that and I am appalled. If I get raped it’s my fault because some nasty horndog took it from me?

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:25 pm

I’m thinking about going to the Cheetah to watch the games. No cover until 8pm and their games are on the big screens. 790 the zone (sports talk station here) is broadcasting from there today.

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:25 pm

Man we aint gonna ever be able to have this conversation on cheating cause women will never be honest about it. Women cheat just as much as men.. The only difference is when a man cheats its his fault and when a woman cheats its her mans fault.. Women will never take responsibility for the BS they do and thats just what it is..

SlimOne on autopilot

March 19th, 2010
1:25 pm

Recent research shows that there are 7 kinds of sex:

The 1st kind of sex is called: Smurf Sex
This kind of sex happens when you first meet someone and you
both have sex until you are blue in the face.

The 2nd kind of sex is called: Kitchen Sex.
This is when you have been with your partner for a short time
and you are so horny you will have sex anywhere, even in the kitchen.

The 3rd kind of sex is called: Bedroom Sex.
This is when you have been with your partner for a long time.
Your sex has gotten routine and you usually have sex only in your
bedroom.

The 4th kind of sex is called: Hallway Sex.
This is when you have been with your partner for too long. When
you pass each other in the hallway you both say ’screw you.’

The 5th kind of sex is called: Religious Sex.
This is when you get Nun in the morning, Nun in the afternoon
and Nun at night. (Very Popular)

The 6th kind is called Courtroom Sex.
This is when you cannot stand your wife any more. She takes you
to court and screws you in front of everyone.

And Last, but not least, the 7th kind of sex is called Social
Security Sex.
This when you get a little each month, but not enough to live on.

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
1:27 pm

It ain’t cheatin’ until ya’ get caught.
LOL!

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:27 pm

Then, the the Masters (Tiger’s return is the following weekend). NBA playoff start a couple weeks after the final four….the NFL draft is a three day event this year in April. (Starting in Primetime on Thursday night)…

Translation…

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Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
1:32 pm

Who said I cheated? What you heard I cheated? You saw me? Well..did you touch me? Cuz you know that could have been my twin. :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:34 pm

Sessy – Yes it is… No bad deed goes unpunished..

And Ladies that dude that you flirt with, kick it with, talk to on the phone and no your intentions arent pure.. Its cheating.. Just cause ya’ll aint bumped uglies yet doesnt mean you werent cheating. You know the dude you keep around just in case your relationship or marriage doesnt work..

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:34 pm

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:35 pm

Trust is not what you don’t do when I am watching but what you won’t do when I am not.

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:35 pm

See what im talking about.. Women are just better liars than men.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
1:37 pm

That is pure crap! Anybody who TRULY loves someone would not cheat on them.

BlackMagicWoman??

Men are misunderstood!! :lol:

do u think if Tiger were to jus send that Eileen girl packing and find a (another) Nanny to take care of those kids he wld be hurt that much??

Nope…but he goes thru all that aplogizing to sponsors and wife coz he luvs her. His cheating is besde the point.Those were just moments to “gett off”, that he needed for him to go out there and compete.
Why u think he was always so calm be4 and during tournaments. :lol:

Now the secret is out..he has to find some other mojo or else he will be ordinary from now on!

Tazzee - 56 days til Mrs.

March 19th, 2010
1:40 pm

Afternoon Folks!

As I’m catching up, I also saw this on twitter (as posted):

I hate when people say “humans are the only species who want to have monogmous sex” …. We also the only ones dying from AIDS

Back to catching up…

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
1:40 pm

Women are just better liars than men
which makes them better cheaters than men.

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:41 pm

Tazzee – Not exactly there is a version of Aids in Cats.

kinderbabe--43 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 19th, 2010
1:42 pm

Tazzee…thanks for adding an element of reality to all of this. we are the most intelligent of all said mammals and species, therefore we are capable of making more advanced decisions. too bad that power is not always exercised.:(

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:43 pm

Enter your comments here

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
1:44 pm

One of my flirtin’ ass co-worker just told me to make sure to tell TheDude that “he shole is lucky to have YOU!”

Whoever really passes THAT message along?

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
1:44 pm

We also the only ones dying from AIDS
This is because other animals have evolved to adapt to the virus. Cats have evolved to live with FIV.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
1:44 pm

“I’m thinking about going to the Cheetah to watch the games.”

…To watch the games. Yeah, that’s the ticket… The games;-) :lol: I foresee a lot of “taking it to the hole” — I’m talking ’bout going “hard to the rack…” :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:45 pm

Dreams – Exactamundo.. I just hate that chicks know what the business is but will deny deny deny until the end of time.. Im sure every chick has cheated on a dude in their dating cycles but will they ever admit it.. Heyal Naw!!

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
1:46 pm

Men are misunderstood!!

Melo – Ahhhh Honeyboom!!!!!!!

…then had the nerve to put a smiley face next to it.

classic

You are too funny.

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
1:46 pm

it’s a good chance if he’s walking with six women one is his wife pretending to not know the other ones are mistress…and the kids? We all paying for them.

@Luvbug
Believe me they are all wives and they all got to deal with it and if he wanted to add more then he can. Different country, different laws. Over here Jesse James can’t even get a lil booty on the side without everybody in his business.

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:48 pm

Every chick on the blog has cheated on her dude during her dating cycles.. Scuse me.. Jetlag is kicking in..

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
1:48 pm

@SexyC ~ when I was married, I passed that msg along! Sure did.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
1:49 pm

@BlackMagic?

If u aint quenching his sexxual apetite and he stepping out coz of it,it aint cheating…….

Its outsourcing! :lol:

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:49 pm

Infamous, I have never cheated. However I won’t say that I didn’t think about it and actually consider doing it during the relationship I had before the one I am in now.

BlackMagicWoman

March 19th, 2010
1:49 pm

MELO..he is not hurt that he cheated…look how many time and how many women! He is hurt because he got caught and he see half his foutune gone because his infidelity was out out there for the world to see. So there was no denying! He was hurt at teh endorsements that dropped his cheating a$$ because of it! So it has NOTHING to do with love! That is BS!

“I hate when people say “humans are the only species who want to have monogmous sex” …. We also the only ones dying from AIDS”

Tazzee…you had better speak on mama! That is the pure truth! Why are married people still having to get HIV/STD testing. If you take the plunge it is supposed to be a free for all on protection free sex! IfI have ot still worry about catching something…thatis just yet another reason I will stay single. Can’t trust anybody! An apology nor any amount of money will fix my spouse giving me the “monster”!

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
1:50 pm

And some men on the blog is probably still cheating!!!

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
1:50 pm

One of my flirtin’ ass co-worker just told me to make sure to tell TheDude that “he shole is lucky to have YOU!”

How the hell does he really know? That is so lame.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
1:52 pm

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
1:52 pm

My response was “Actually, I’m lucky to have him.”

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
1:53 pm

Dig That – I believe that they are all wives. I was joking that men do the same thing here but only claim one wife, knock up the other women and leave the kids to be assisted through society.

If you’re not already aware, I’m no comedian…but it don’t stop me from cracking myself up. :lol:

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:54 pm

Tazzee, you should have known someone would find a way to say animals are just as bad off as we are.

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
1:54 pm

And some men on the blog is probably still cheating!!!

What if we got Tiger Woods disease? And just need some ointment to cure us?

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
1:55 pm

Every chick on the blog has cheated on her dude during her dating cycles

I’ve never cheated.

Tazzee - 56 days til Mrs.

March 19th, 2010
1:55 pm

This is because other animals have evolved to adapt to the virus. Cats have evolved to live with FIV

And humans have ’supposedly’ evolved to the point of controlling our natural desires.

It’s funny – if you call a man an animal any other time, it’s an insult – but when it comes to fidelity – men have no problem being compared to dogs…

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
1:55 pm

look how many time and how many women!
Let’s please shine the light on the “victims”. I’m almost certain we’d find similar dirt. I’m not saying it’s right for either, but if we’re going to crucify, let’s do it across the board.

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
1:55 pm

My bad Luvbug. I get it now. Thats what I get for not paying attention. You dayum sho right tho

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:56 pm

Raqi – Youve cheated before.. Think about it..

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
1:57 pm

It’s funny – if you call a man an animal any other time, it’s an insult – but when it comes to fidelity – men have no problem being compared to dogs…

@Tazzee
Actually it depends on the context and it is a totally different meaning when you call me that than if I call Melo my dog.

Tazzee - 56 days til Mrs.

March 19th, 2010
1:58 pm

I haven’t cheated since I was 13. One time I went out with a guy as I was pondering a guy’s suggestion that we be exclusive – but that’s as close as it gets.

But I guess I’ve evolved… I’ll leave the cheating to the animals.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
1:58 pm

We also the only ones dying from AIDS

@BlackMagic!

Yeah,coz somebody (horny human dude) had the nerve/audacity to phluck a chimpanzee! :lol: Try again sweetheart! :lol:

only explanation there.. :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:58 pm

Leggs – My point isnt that Men dont cheat but that women do too. But.. They dont take responsibility for their actions when they do.. Or Lie that they dont cheat at all..

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:59 pm

Infamous, No I haven’t. I have never been in a relationship with a man and step out on him with another.

Cemeeli

March 19th, 2010
1:59 pm

One of my flirtin’ ass co-worker just told me to make sure to tell TheDude that “he shole is lucky to have YOU!”

Whoever really passes THAT message along?

…unh, hunh-yeah im’a tell my old man that…”I’m fortunate that my old man will have me as well”, is usually my response….then the floodgate of “DAMN!!!” in reply.

Afternoon ya’ll…

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
2:01 pm

The reason most of you havent cheated is because you have made up in your mind what you did wasnt cheating.. You honestly believe you didnt cheat but look up the definition

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
2:02 pm

@DigThat ~ he doesn’t really not only surmising from what he sees while at work. Her character comes across when she’s dealing with other co-workers/customers. Her intelligence shows itself when communicating on varying topics/situations, and pretty sure her calm, cool and collected demeanor is self-evident as she strolls the hallways!

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
2:02 pm

Cheating – I will neither confirm nor deny. LOL!

Mo (aka Moeisha - feelin great)

March 19th, 2010
2:03 pm

Afternoon All! Its so nice outside….and the pollen has kicked in yet…THANK YOU!!! :smile:

TGIF!!

So whats up err’body

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
2:03 pm

I AM WOMAN, HEAR ME ROAR!!!!

I have never cheated!

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
2:03 pm

Infamous, what is your definition of cheating?

Cemeeli

March 19th, 2010
2:04 pm

Dreams Happy Friday buddy…good catch on first page…i noticed sometimes we get transposed…umm…critiCize… :wink:

@56 Days – 13 years old doesn’t count.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
2:04 pm

Sure, sure, there’s many levels of cheating, emotional, mental, whathaveyou. In this context we are talking about sexual penetration and YOU KNOW IT!

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
2:05 pm

you should have known someone would find a way to say animals are just as bad off as we are.
Not trying to say animals are better or worse off. It just isn’t true that only humans are affected by IV. Why is it wrong to say that?

And humans have ’supposedly’ evolved to the point of controlling our natural desires.
I agree completely, but how is this related to the truth of the HIV statement?

if you call a man an animal any other time, it’s an insult
It’s only an insult when it isn’t true. In some ways humans and animals are remarkably similar; in other ways not so much. If you compare me when it’s true, then fine, but if you say I lick myself as a way of bathing, then would be insulting because the comparison isn’t true. lol

Cemeeli

March 19th, 2010
2:05 pm

Hey Mo – It.Is.BEAUTIFUL.outside…

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
2:06 pm

Infamous, I know that women cheat. Heck I am not above it. I’m not perfect. But as to this date, I have never cheated.

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
2:08 pm

Leggs – Did you know emotional cheating is the worst for a man? We can deal with you just lost your mind and banged the bartender on a cruise(not really) but to know that you have given your heart away is the worst.. You might as well have boinked at that point..

Cemeeli

March 19th, 2010
2:08 pm

Cat AIDS???….what’s the current topic ya’ll?

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
2:09 pm

Leggs, exactly. Some could so far as to say that just looking at a person of the opposite sex is cheating.

I do believe cheating can start on a mental and emotional level, but today as you stated we are talking about the physical acts.

No hand holding, no kissing, no sexual acts of any kind. No cheating.

Kym

March 19th, 2010
2:10 pm

Okay are we still on cheating?? Wait I saw Final Four stuff.. I know some folks brackets are jacked!! Go Ohio!! LOLOL

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
2:10 pm

@InfamousD ~ yes, it’s just as bad for a woman. A good friend of mine is now getting divorce purely on speculation and emotional stress.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
2:12 pm

In this context we are talking about sexual penetration and YOU KNOW IT!

@Leggs??

so today, cheating on sex for u is defined penetration ut whn we discuss sexx any other day,we gotta get ur mental attarction and state first be4 we lay it.

But when u think about that ugghh ugghhh guy u see in the mall but leave it at that,it aint cheating??

GTFOH!! do u even confess to ur guys when u get home about what u saw??

we all the same.

Men might be regarded as having better finishing and winning %ge! :lol:

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
2:12 pm

but to know that you have given your heart away is the worst

Infamous, it may as well be because when the heart has gone, we are gone. Just haven’t moved on physically yet.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
2:13 pm

ut whn we discuss sexx any other day,we gotta get ur mental attarction and state first be4 we lay it.

ouch! :oops:

but when we discuss sexx any other day, we gotta get ur mental attraction and state of mind first be4 we lay the pipe?

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
2:15 pm

Hey Im not knocking anyone but I just want the conversation to be honest…

Raqi – Cheating.. There are soooo many different forms than just physical

Tazzee - 56 days til Mrs.

March 19th, 2010
2:15 pm

DreamsM – never said the statement was true, just thought it was funny that I saw that right after that one comment about humans being the only mammals that try to mate with one person for life – or whatever it may be.

I’ve seen the FIV commercials.

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
2:17 pm

Even if we just narrow cheating down to the physical act, the percentage of women who have cheated is about the same as for men. This has been long documented.

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
2:17 pm

Raqi – But when you havent moved on physically guess what to us its cheating.. See ya’ll dont count the dude ya’ll moved on to a month later as cheating.. Dude was there all the time and you get the picture..

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
2:18 pm

Truly there is a double standard I agree. If a man went out had 3 women and doing them all behind his girl’s back and gets caught then he may be remorseful and begs her to salvage the relationship and she just may because if it was just physical, but if he even thought his woman was holding hands with a dude and no penetration. He is going to loose his mind and it would probably be a wrap.

Cemeeli

March 19th, 2010
2:18 pm

Infamous not tryna get on the “naw mofo i ain’t never cheated” bandwagon…cause i know some ‘goodie two shoes’ that’ll cheat at said oppurtunity!!!….but I havn’t because once i’m in, i’m all in…when a man gets, me he has all of me…and ultimately i don’t want the bs that comes along with cheating. I treasure fidelity.

btw – where in the world is Heidelberg?

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
2:18 pm

@Mel0 ~ I didn’t define cheating by today’s topic, Jesse James did! His affair dictated the level of cheating we are specifically talking about today, and it’s not lusting after another, nor eyeing a backside too long as it walks by you. He had an 11 month (sp) affair and did more than hold hands and look into her adoring eyes.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
2:18 pm

So, Melo, married and committed folks are supposed walking blind folded for fear of “cheating” by way of seeing.

Dang. God said “if you look to lust” you have sinned. but yall trying to pin us into a corner of not even being able to notice a nice looking guy without being labeled a cheater.

Cemeeli

March 19th, 2010
2:19 pm

meant to just bold one word! darn.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
2:21 pm

Infamous, I am agreeing with you about the heart being given away. We are good as gone when the heart is gone.

And I have never said that I have never thought about cheating. I said that earlier. In my prior relationship I thought about it. I had to talk myself out of it.

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
2:22 pm

I saw that right after that one comment about humans being the only mammals that try to mate with one person for life
Tazzee you should’ve called them on the truth of that statement. There are animals that mate for life. Some penguins, many birds, certain wolves.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
2:23 pm

married and committed folks are supposed walking blind folded for fear of “cheating” by way of seeing.

God said “if you look to lust” you have sinned.

@Raqi

u answered ur own qstion!

Thing is when u see and sin,do u confess to ur husband??

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
2:24 pm

This has been long documented.

DreamsMat, True. However I haven’t read here yet where any of us women have said that women do not cheat. And yes as many times as man.

Yall are trying to convince us that women cheat too, but that we already know.

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
2:26 pm

Thing is when u see and sin,do u confess to ur husband??

@Melo
Of course they don’t

BlackMagicWoman

March 19th, 2010
2:27 pm

Dreams…those h0es that cheated with him are equally guilty. But the the reason why he is mostly to blame is because he CHOSE to take vows and bring kids into this world. He owes his wife that respect. Not the trallops! They don’t respect themselves so how and why would they respect anybody else?

MELO if you really believe that is AIDS became to be be maybe you should do more reserach and not believe what the masses say!

I think it’s funny how this woman in NC sued this chick for $9M and won because this lady was creeping with her husband. This should happen more….maybe it will curtail the trife tramps who messes with other women’s husbands and vice versa! That should be on top of the divorce settlement the wronged party should receive. That would make a lot of floks think before they cheat! Get ‘em in the pockets!

Cemeeli

March 19th, 2010
2:27 pm

I’m sure Trojan or that “Natural Male Enhancement” company would love to have Horny Tiger hocking their products

Swiss You just be coming off the riff, hunh?…whiteboy is crazy :lol:

Kathy

March 19th, 2010
2:28 pm

I HAVE CHEATED

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
2:28 pm

Melo, looking is not lusting. God didn’t say that. He said when you look TO lust then you sin.

People try to hold each other to laws that God himself doesn’t. The Almighty knows that we aren’t blind. And he never said noticing an attractive person was the act of lusting. Lusting is when you have inappropriate thoughts about that person.

Some of us are capable of noticing an attractive person and not start slobbering at the mouth.

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
2:29 pm

You go Kathy!!

Come-on Let's Get Real

March 19th, 2010
2:30 pm

Yes, you can have it all. Let’s stop kidding ourselves…….it comes down to “trust”………..where is everyone’s “control”? If you truly love someone, temptation shouldn’t be a factor. You should be able to ignore the temptation.

There are TOO many women, especially in Hollywood that are willing to do ANYTHING to be recognized or sleep with a star. They have no morals and are down right sluts. There are the men version, as well, out there. Like Johnny Depps wife, who is afraid of him now doing a movie with Angelina Jolie………where is the love and trust that Johnny has had for his wife and family all of these years? Maybe nothing will happen but the fact that the wife has to “worry” is down right ridiculous. If you have to worry like that………..then its not worth worrying about. Its not real.

People……..get a life. Have morals, get control, have constraint…………otherwise, be single!!!! Then, it really doesn’t matter to anyone else except yourself……..and your partner. Its SO sad that SO many people are just SO weak…………..pitiful.

Mo (aka Moeisha - feelin great)

March 19th, 2010
2:30 pm

Kym – yeah some folks brackets are jacked! Im actually late with mine this year and Im almost glad! It was serious upsets yesterday!! I so need to be at Dugans or On the Border watching these games!!

Infamous – so I guess that wasnt you I saw at Publix on Flat Shoals about 20mins ago… :wink:

Cheating…oh lawd….i’ll leave that alone

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
2:30 pm

Cee – Germany…

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
2:31 pm

If you continue with the different levels of cheating, I’d say Melo is the biggest malewhore on this blog. He cheats daily with disrespectful comments re someone’s honeypot and how he can visualize this or visualize that, asking to see body parts, leaving probably your pvt email addy all over the place unbeknownst to Queen. So, without “penetration,” Mr. Melo you cheat 24/7/365!

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
2:31 pm

Melo, what type of idiotic question is that? Why would I tell my husband about me seeing an attractive man? Do you report to your wife about every pretty woman you see and those you offer your email address to?

Cemeeli

March 19th, 2010
2:31 pm

Kathy

Well, come down and get your certificate by the male enhancement table.

Who’s next?

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
2:31 pm

Yall are trying to convince us that women cheat too, but that we already know.
Not trying to convince you all that you cheat. It’s just that the discussion of cheating is always one-sided, as IF men do all the cheating. Thusfar, all the blog women who have volunteered have said they never cheated.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
2:32 pm

DreamsMat, True. However I haven’t read here yet where any of us women have said that women do not cheat.

@Raqi??

thats not a positive statement!

say,” we,Women do cheat”..that wld be better! :lol:

Its like ur Yes and No admission in the morning when i told them u were there(Miami) to protect ur investment. If u nuance ur answers with these single chics,they wont understand.Me as a married dude, I understood what u were saying.,

Dont “Bill Clinton” with these ladies(depends on what the meaning of is is) :lol:

Teach them right and direct,whether it hurts them or not!

Its the truth!

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
2:34 pm

Raqi – That and the fact that women complain about the double standard on everything else except when its convenient.. They think men are dogs but when a woman does it the man somehow made ya’ll do it..

SlimOne on autopilot

March 19th, 2010
2:35 pm

I cheated on my left hand with my right hand. :shock:

Melo

March 19th, 2010
2:35 pm

Why would I tell my husband about me seeing an attractive man

Not get it twisted…

I asked u about an attractive men u see that gets ur emotions all knotted up,not any other attarctive guy..

I see attractive woemn every day..i dont get attracted to them all..but we have admitted already as men that yes,we fail…we on u women….

I have told my Queen plain blank that im attracted to Dianne Sawyer and if she accepts my proposal,i will go but i will take care of the kids and her thru alimony…!

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
2:35 pm

DreamsMat, we didn’t volunteer, the question was asked.

If you had read my comments earlier you would see where I said any can happen to any of us. I even stated that I am not above it.

Yes we know that women cheat. However don’t try to justify it by saying that monogamy is wrong and men should not be expected to be with only one woman. Yall know how to commit to other things and not stray, why not the same when it comes to relationships?

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
2:38 pm

Sheesh that was a good post that got eaten and I forgot to copy. Let’s see if I can change up the words.

@Melo ~ let’s break it down this way. You and InfamousD want to discuss levels of cheating by not only meaning sexual intercourse. You mentally cheat on Queen 24/7/365 on this blog. Does it matter you haven’t connected with another to mentally cheat back with? I don’t think so. Well, I have no prove that you haven’t. You’re still cheating with all that smack you talk. But, since she knows nothing about your dialoge with us, you’re not cheating! I got it!!!

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
2:38 pm

BMW
When I said “victims”, I was actually talking about the wives. I think we should shine the light on them and see what dirt comes up. The women just never get caught.

Cemeeli

March 19th, 2010
2:39 pm

Slim…seems as if our peers going hard on this cheating thing..

So, did your left hand sue your right hand for “pain and suffering”? lol

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
2:40 pm

but when a woman does it the man somehow made ya’ll do it

Infamous, yeah some but not all. But be reminded of something you all have said on here many times. With men, it’s just sex. With women, most of the time not.

So yeah, if she is with a guy and cheating it’s probably something lacking in the tea. Not all but most. It’s not right but it’s fact.

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
2:42 pm

I am going to TMZ and every tabloid possible about that @Slim. If I was your right hand I would be pissed off.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
2:43 pm

Now Leggs you know what he is doing is not cheating because he is a man. Those rules and standards they try to impose on us they aren’t even capable or willing to live up to themselves.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
2:43 pm

I’m sure Trojan or that “Natural Male Enhancement” company would love to have Horny Tiger hocking their products

Swiss You just be coming off the riff, hunh?…whiteboy is crazy :lol:

Hola, CeeCee — Speaking of those “male enhancement” commercials… Is there a creepier commercial out there right now than Jimmy Johnson pitching Extenze? :lol: And who else out there thinks they chose Jimmy because both of his names are euphemism for wang? :lol:

Melo

March 19th, 2010
2:45 pm

. @Leggs?? Does it matter you haven’t connected with another to mentally cheat back with?

mental aint even important to dudes…….females do insist on mental..esp be4 sexx. so u females are actually phlucked twice,mentally and physically.

A dude u see and gets u attacted to him while u out in the mall has phlucked u mentally,so u sinned…thats what the bible says too…not me!

when it gets mental 4 guys,then that means we in luv. like it was for Mark Sanford with Argentina..member?? :lol:

We rarely get mentally sexxed up by heifers….No wonder why dudes phuluck and leave….and go back to wify..there was no mental! :lol:

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
2:46 pm

@Raqi ~ and that’s why I’m calling foul on that stinking play!

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
2:46 pm

Dianne Sawyer?

Going for the cougar, eh Melo? :lol:

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
2:47 pm

@Melo ~ since this is a blog I used the word mental. Not sure how many you’ve have actually met! So, by flirting on this blog you’ve cheated is my point.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
2:47 pm

Melo — You should hit Martha Stewart up. I bet that woman is a FREAK! :lol: Seriously, though. Freak. No doubt.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
2:47 pm

I think we should shine the light on them and see what dirt comes up.

DreamsMat, you are doing exactly what Infamous is accusing women of doing in so many words. Instead of just accepting whomever cheated just cheated, you are trying to paint the women in those situations black in justification.

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
2:48 pm

I think we should shine the light on them and see what dirt comes up.

What purpose would that serve, Dreams? How about we just stay out of everybodies business? Make sure our own houses are in order.

Speaking of wives, there’s this female coworker that has been taking up for Tiger since Day 1. All I hear whenever the subject comes up is “Poor Tiger”. If I hear it again I am going to scream. How about today she said that Elin is no better that Tiger’s mistresses, because she got with him because of his money & MADE SURE she got pregnant right away! ???????????

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
2:49 pm

we didn’t volunteer, the question was asked.
Raqi Who asked this question? Infamaous made a statement that all the chicks on the blog have cheated, and then many women responded (voluntarily) to the statement.

However don’t try to justify it by saying that monogamy is wrong and men should not be expected to be with only one woman.
You can’t point to one post I’ve ever made where I’ve justified cheating. If you make a promise (vow) to someone, then breaking that promise is wrong…no two ways about that. I also have never said that monogomy is “wrong”, but I also don’t discount other options and say they are wrong.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
2:49 pm

Mail call….

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
2:53 pm

Im not saying is cheating is right. Im not painting anyone. Im just putting it out there that men get ramrodded about cheating and women are hypocritical about it(cheating).

SlimOne on autopilot

March 19th, 2010
2:53 pm

“So, did your left hand sue your right hand for “pain and suffering”?”

Cee – um actually I settled out of court by just inviting left hand to participate next time right hand wants to get into the groove. :-D

Dig – no need to be upset, there is plenty to go around. Matter of fact, here taste this new candy…It’s called Ez-tenz lol

Cemeeli

March 19th, 2010
2:54 pm

Swiss the penis pills commercials are a mess…The men are confident as heck telling camera “yeah, it’s really enhanced my size/length”…i’m usually saying…ooookay…to the testimonials.

SlimOne on autopilot

March 19th, 2010
2:55 pm

Cee yep, done pretty much beat this cheating horse to a bloody pulp. The sleepiness is creepy in Big Time.

Mo (aka Moeisha - feelin great)

March 19th, 2010
2:55 pm

kimmie – clearly ya co-worker is smoking that good-good! She obviously is a serious Tiger Woods fan!! DAYUM!!

BlackMagicWoman

March 19th, 2010
2:56 pm

“And who else out there thinks they chose Jimmy because both of his names are euphemism for wang?”

:lol: SWISS…you are one crazy dude!

“so u females are actually phlucked twice,mentally and physically.”

MELO…do you know what’s so disheartening about that? You guys get 2 chances in one to get teh job done and still fall short of even getting one right! :shock: :lol:

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
2:57 pm

Infamous, I guarantee you if WiseDiva post an entry about a woman cheating you will not get any different response out of me. I think cheating is very wrong no matter who does it.

It just so happens that in the news lately it has been the men that are getting outted.

And like I said earlier I put the burden to be faithful on both sexes because I know it is possible.

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
2:57 pm

you are trying to paint the women in those situations black in justification.
Raqi justification has nothing to do with it. I just believe in being fair. If cheating is wrong, then it’s wrong for everyone. All should be held accountable. My goal is justice, not justification.

How about we just stay out of everybodies business?
Then we should have done that from the beginning. Why do we only need to go that route when we propose to reveal all the stonethrowers?

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
2:57 pm

You mentally cheat on Queen 24/7/365 on this blog.

:shock:

Let me catch up right quick!

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
2:57 pm

Suisse

You should hit Martha Stewart up. I bet that woman is a FREAK!

I agree. I saw her on the panel last night on the Marriage Ref talking about stripper poles and wanting to date a rapper…. :shock:

She talked about catching someone stealing her peppermill and she made the person return it to her. She is gangsta. :grin:

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
2:58 pm

DK – What’s shakin’ over in Heidelberg?

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
2:58 pm

Guys I know you don’t want to hear this and I have repented now that I am mature enough to give a damn, but I never had traditional relationships and I know women cheat often because I am normally the one they choose to throw caution in the wind to cheat with.

Cemeeli

March 19th, 2010
2:58 pm

@ Slim – You silly. Pushing extenze pill now girl?

@ Kimmie – She wanted to be a mistress to Tiger you think?

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
2:58 pm

“…clearly ya co-worker is smoking that good-good! She obviously is a serious Tiger Woods fan!! DAYUM!!”

Um…. Yeah, I think she read those text messages & got a little moist… :lol:

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
3:00 pm

“…She talked about catching someone stealing her peppermill and she made the person return it to her. She is gangsta”

And by “peppermill” she meant “vibrator.” :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
3:00 pm

Leggs – Ouch!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But true…..

Cemeeli

March 19th, 2010
3:01 pm

Swiss – That’s what i was saying too. Co-worker wanna “get in”.

Yea, Martha Stewart is related to the mob…home chic comes out swinging when someone wrongs her.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
3:02 pm

DreamsMat, yeah it’s wrong for everyone. However how fair is it when a woman gets cheated on for you to automatically turn to “let’s find out what’s in her closet”?

It wouldn’t be fair to have it done to you. Why does there have to be skeletons obviously buried in your chest if you wife or girlfriend steps out on you?

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
3:02 pm

Kimmie – Just seeing where I was born.. The Heidelberg Army hospital.. Its nice here and im loving this dual citizenship thing.. Opening a post office box so I can establish residence here.

mytw♥tatas

March 19th, 2010
3:05 pm

Our eyes are often bigger than our stomachs so we think we want more than we really do. And sometimes we don’t recognize this and go about accumulating, achieving more and in the midst something clicks. And we (those who allow it) will find ourselves satisfied unexpectedly.

Ain’t gonna get involved in the cheetahs convo… so ima just wonder why folks keep asking why I’m smiling. This day is nothing less than GORGEOUS, what else what I be doing?

Hope everyone’s having a Fantastic Friday!

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
3:05 pm

Dreams – I could care less about the stonethrowers AND the stonethrowee’s. Tiger, Mr. Bullock, none of them are gonna pay one bill of mine. That’s their wive’s problem.

The thing is, that used to be the issue when rape victim’s come forward. Blame the victim, say the way she dressed caused it.

So now what if some digging was done & come to find out Elin messed around. Does that justify Tiger ruining his endorsement deals. Two wrongs don’t make a right. And while you can do things that might bring on an outcome, the only person you really can control is yourself.

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
3:06 pm

It wouldn’t be fair to have it done to you.
Raqi It absolutely WOULD be fair. My justice isn’t self-exclusive. If my chick cheated on me, feel free to check my closet. Why should she be villified for cheating on me if I’ve done the same?

Melo

March 19th, 2010
3:06 pm

Not sure how many you’ve have actually met!

@Leggs!

:lol:

u know i met Blackmagic,among others..not sure if she(they) made luv to me,mentally! :lol: :lol:

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
3:09 pm

Our eyes are often bigger than our stomachs so we think we want more than we really do. And sometimes we don’t recognize this and go about accumulating, achieving more and in the midst something clicks. And we (those who allow it) will find ourselves satisfied unexpectedly.

Exactly, you said it best.
The world will never level around you, but your heart,mind and soul can. Peace of mind.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
3:10 pm

Oh and DreamsMat, I saw this really REALLY cute cute shoes that I am going to get tomorrow. Too bad you won’t be able to see them.

Just telling you about them is putting me on borderline cheating so I won’t even tell you about that gorgeous SUNDRESS that I going to get to wear with them. LOL

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
3:10 pm

If Martha Stuart had the opportunity to swap bodily fluids with a rapper, she would lose her mind, up in here, up in here…she’ll act a fool where she’ll have a polka dot dinner plate, a striped sandwich plate and a squiggly lined biscuit saucer all as one place setting. The forks would be bent cuz she didn’t know her own strenth. The chick would be messed up!!

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
3:10 pm

The thing is, that used to be the issue when rape victim’s come forward.
kimmie This isn’t the same at all. I’m saying hold everyone accountable for committing the same offense. A rape victim usually hasn’t raped anyone else. If the victim had also raped someone, should they not also be prosecuted for their crime?

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
3:12 pm

DreamsMat, why does the two have to go together. You speak as if the only reason one would cheat on the other is because it was done to them first. Which comes first, the chicken or the egg?

Somebody wronging you gives me no right to look into your back ground.

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
3:13 pm

she’ll have a polka dot dinner plate, a striped sandwich plate and a squiggly lined biscuit saucer all as one place setting. The forks would be bent cuz she didn’t know her own strenth.

LOL!!!

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
3:13 pm

Raqi now you know I don’t even care about the shoes. you could be wearing clown shoes with that sundress. lol

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
3:14 pm

See ya’ll its 8:00 gonna get some dinner and soak up a few more sites this evening. If ya’ll ever get the chance come here with your sweetie its very romantic.. Beautiful place to be… Absolutely love it.. Too bad I dont Spreken zie deutsche cause I aint mad at the Frauleins.. And they dont seem to be mad with me..

Cemeeli

March 19th, 2010
3:14 pm

@ mytwo – Smile it’s beautiful…smiles & laughter makes someone else day.

..my co-worker is having a bowl of cereal for her late lunch and wants to use my milk…let’s see how this will turn out…I used almond milk this week…not soy.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
3:15 pm

Raqi ~ you got mail.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
3:15 pm

kimmie, exactly. They talk at us all the time about accountability but the minute of “them” are in the hot seat they want to say “she must have done something wrong too”.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
3:16 pm

DreamsMat, that’s why I can’t tell you about the dress. I can only talk about the shoes to avoid cheating on my husband. LOL

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
3:17 pm

Somebody wronging you gives me no right to look into your back ground.
Raqi Can PoppaG please weigh in on this point? I never said that the two have to go together. But if someone cheats on me, feel free to look into my ish. What do I have to lose? Either you’ll find that I’ve done the same and it’s a wash, or you’ll find nothing, which doesn’t hurt me at all.

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
3:20 pm

the minute of “them” are in the hot seat they want to say “she must have done something wrong too”. I already said that, if in the “victim’s” shoes, feel free to put me on the hot seat too.

that’s why I can’t tell you about the dress. I can only talk about the shoes to avoid cheating on my husband.
You can keep that to yourself then. lol

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
3:22 pm

Dreams – I used the rape example as one where often the victim is blamed.

I just think your reasoning is warped and unrealistic. So any time a person cheats, male or female, you go raiding the other persons closet.

Whatever.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
3:27 pm

Dreams

I am the wrong person to ask about this. I am law school. Lesson #1 in law school (and a common theme through law school) is cya. (cover ya azz). If you got got, then you didn’t cya.

I am actually with you. I believe that there for every action, there is a reaction. So, if I’m a victim then I haven’t covered my azz as I should.

It is like Fifty Cent bragging about taking all of those shots and surviving. From where I sit, that means that he got caught slipplin’.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
3:27 pm

Off topic ~ how many of you think Sade’s new CD would send a suicidal person over the edge?

Tazzee - 56 days til Mrs.

March 19th, 2010
3:27 pm

Tazzee you should’ve called them on the truth of that statement. There are animals that mate for life. Some penguins, many birds, certain wolves.

DreamsM – I think that dude made that comment around 10am and I had not seen him on here since, so I didn’t feel the need to try to correct.

It was just funny (to me) that I saw both comments right around the same time, that’s all.

I’m not here to challenge anyone’s truths. I learned long time ago that grown folks are going to believe what they want to believe.

Downtown Heffa

March 19th, 2010
3:28 pm

You can have it all. BUT! It may be different than you had expected. Your career may not include that wonderful salary; however, the job you have, you are content. Additionally, that guy may not be your Denzel (or Idris!) but he’s right for you.

Not trying to start rumors, but hasn’t he been unfaithful before? I guess we should ask, “Is a cheater always a cheater?”

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
3:28 pm

So any time a person cheats, male or female, you go raiding the other persons closet.

Trying to find wrongdoings or “right-doings” on the other party is wrong. Heck the way some of these folks lie and cheat their mates will stay in the fingerprint-mug shot line for no reason…except guilty by association

Melo

March 19th, 2010
3:29 pm

Dang its almost 4 and we aint concluded yet..ok,lets wrap up!

the conclusion for this topic….

Men can have it all……..if we screw up, we can talk and mend things up!

Females,u CANT HAVE IT all…..U AINT allowed to screw up with nobody..if u cheat,better not be caught coz u screw one time..U OUT!

END OF DISCUSSION!

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
3:29 pm

I just think your reasoning is warped and unrealistic.
It’s obvious the way these situations actually play out that my thinking is unrealistic. I completely agree on that. I don’t think my reasoning is warperd though. Holding people accountable for similar offenses sounds completely reasonable to me. When all the Republicans were chastising and wanting to impeach Clinton for his indiscretions, they claimed that they as Americans were personally violated. I feel it would have been quite fair to expose the people doing the chastising.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
3:29 pm

kimmie, I just can’t get the logic of what he is saying. One has nothing to do with the other.

So every victim, raped, robed or murdered, does not stand a fair chance until it has been determined they have no past transgressions? Our judicial system is warped but I am glad it not that warped.

I can see every 911 call now.

Victim: Can please send the cops, I’ve been mugged.

911: Hold ma’am let me send out a cop to find out what’s in your closet before we can process your claim.

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
3:30 pm

Leggs – I love Sade & I love the song Soldier of Love, but yeah, it could have been a lot more upbeat.

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
3:30 pm

Leggs~her CD is a bit morbid, but I hope she tours. I felt the same about “King of Sorrow.”

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
3:32 pm

@Melo ~ believe it or not, the premise of the blog is to stay on topic to closing. We have disrespected this rule probably from day one. Although it’s rare, to still be on topic at 3:30 is somewhat refreshing.

M. (pronouced M dot)

March 19th, 2010
3:32 pm

@ Everyone,

Did you guys see the text messages that Tiger sent and the female saved? Technology is the culprit!

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
3:33 pm

“Dang its almost 4 and we aint concluded yet..ok,lets wrap up!”

Melo — I tried to start the Freaky Friday wave — throwing out references to moist va-jay-jays and vibrators — but so far, it hasn’t taken hold. I think it’s up to you, bro. Take this blog to Freakytown… :lol:

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
3:34 pm

@Raqi ~ until it has been determined they have no past transgressions?” Not necessarily! Just trying to prove that past lifestyle didn’t help vacilitate the present crime. Cause and affect, cause and affect!

lurker

March 19th, 2010
3:36 pm

Please no! Not Melo invoke Freaky Friday….it’s just plain ole nasty and gross at that point. I say if ain’t jumped off by now, let’s just let it be Free Fall Friday

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
3:37 pm

I too like Solider of Love, but the rest makes me want to put toothpicks in my eyes just to keep from falling asleep. I love her lyrics, but its too dang ssssss lllllll ooooooo wwwwwww!

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
3:37 pm

Raqi

So every victim, raped, robed or murdered, does not stand a fair chance until it has been determined they have no past transgressions? Our judicial system is warped but I am glad it not that warped.

What do u think that detectives do? They research and decide who else needs to be charged. Sometimes, they find that the victim contributed to the situation.

Have you not heard of contributory negligence? Comparative negligence?

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
3:38 pm

I haven’t cheated.

We were on a break. :lol:

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 19th, 2010
3:38 pm

Winning an OSCAR has nothing to do with cheating! And MEN CHEAT either because they are UNHAPPY at home AND/OR are just plain long SELFISH AND GREEDY and it is a known fact that men can see much better than they can think! Sometimes the person they cheat with is much better looking and sometimes they are not. Men CHEAT because they are needy in some way and need sometime to PAY ATTENTION TO THEM and respect them and admire them and COMPLIMENT THEM. And US single girls get hit on ALL THE TIME. These married men have a MASTER’S Degree when it comes to treating a MISTRESS like a princess. They are slick, romantic and ONLY SEE YOU WHEN THEY WANT TO SEE YOU. The married man does not want a relationship with you because they already have that with the wife (Or so she thinks!) Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. Don’t believe these married guys, they are LYING to their wives and HONEY, they will lie to the mistress! And they say they feel guilty when driving back home to their wives, that is BS! They got what they wanted and that’s why it’s called a BOOTY CALL….They may come back for more and they may not, but MAKE NO MISTAKE they are always on the hunt for some strange. And they will hunt you down like a dog and when they HIT IT THEY QUIT IT.
Only 5% of married men leave their wives for a mistress and you know what sooner or later, they will cheat on her….Oh, and there is no age limit, or walk of life OR profession ( i.e. COPS) these cheaters are all the same. They think with the “brain” that is broke in their pants. And if you mess with a married man, expect to be dumped sooner or later, because that is the nature of the CHEATER. And why is it OKAY for a married man to cheat and confess and say he had poor judgement and then go to SEX REHAB????? Come on! And if ANY woman out there thinks that her married man will be her one and only, she is sadly mistaken. It is ALWAYS better to lose a LOVER than to LOVE a loser and that is just what a cheater is. He has to prove himself because he is insecure. I speak from experience and you can have it all…just don’t married if you are going to screw around. Some guys are SO STUPID they will jeopardize their marriage, their children and their job just to go after someone they are lusting after. And then they can only see you when THEY want to. Who in their right mind would want to be number 2 ????? DUH

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
3:39 pm

Okay…so it’s not warm outside. It’s HOT outside. I had to turn on the a/c!

Tazzee - 56 days til Mrs.

March 19th, 2010
3:40 pm

Leggs – :lol: I’ve always thought Sade’s music was a little too mellow.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
3:41 pm

It is gorgeous out here. I am on my front porch studying and blogging.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
3:43 pm

Okay Poppa if you say so. But answer this truthfully if you would. If your wife cheated on you would you look over it because you cheated on someone 10, 15, 20 years ago. Or heck even cheated on her and she said she forgave you. Would you say, oh okay?

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
3:43 pm

So every victim, raped, robed or murdered, does not stand a fair chance until it has been determined they have no past transgressions?
How could you possibly interpret that from what I’ve written? I didn’t say that your past transgressions determine your innocence/guilt. However, if you are robbed, it is not out of the ordinary for law enforcement to dig into your case (raid your closet) to determine the specifics related to your robbery. It’s possible that all they come up with is that you were an innocent victim of robbery, but it’s also possible that they find out that you were part of a robbery ring and were robbed by one of the people who you used to rob with. Although you are a victim of a crime, should you not also be brought to justice for the crimes you committed but have neglected to reveal?

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
3:43 pm

“Okay…so it’s not warm outside. It’s HOT outside.”

Ahhhhh… looks like I’m driving the Jeep home topless. :-)

lurker

March 19th, 2010
3:44 pm

it is a known fact that men can see much better than they can think!

It is ALWAYS better to lose a LOVER than to LOVE a loser

We should have these as captions for certain days/topics

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
3:45 pm

kimmie – Tell your coworker that Elin Woods rejected Tiger a few times before she even agreed to go out with him. Then tell her that they married in 2004, and their first child came along in 2007. So she didn’t get pregnant right away.

People kill me.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
3:46 pm

It’s HOT outside

Amazon, when I was in Miami it was hot like this. Then when we came home Tuesday it was cold here. I just know the baby is going to have a cold before the weekend is up. I put her on short sleeves down there but carried a sweater. But brought her back in long sleeves because I saw that the weather was a lot cooler. I hope it stays just like this for the next several weeks.

SlimOne on autopilot

March 19th, 2010
3:46 pm

(slim now walking in with her bra tied around her head)

Who said something about getting topless? :lol:

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
3:48 pm

Raqi

I would look to see what need that I did not meet. If it was something that I could have or should have foreseen then I would be at fault for not “obeying the marriage” as you put it.

If it was something else that I couldn’t foresee, then I got got.

As far as cheating in the past coming back on you, I believe Karma is a bytch and she knows our addresses. It will come back on you, one way or another.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
3:48 pm

“(slim now walking in with her bra tied around her head)

Who said something about getting topless?”

Awwwwwwww yeah, Slim. Slide right into the passenger seat, here. Oh wait… did I just cheat? :lol:

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
3:48 pm

Professor – I hope she tours too. I like her other hits. I saw her in concert before and it was wonderful. Hey, read my 2:48 if you haven’t already. Is that not a trip?

Melo

March 19th, 2010
3:49 pm

Gorgeous Green Eyes??

U just a crawzy and horny green eyed Blonde! :lol:

u want a man for urself yet u know,there arent enough men to go around uall females!

DUH!

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
3:50 pm

However, if you are robbed, it is not out of the ordinary for law enforcement to dig into your case (raid your closet) to determine the specifics related to your robbery.

Okay I get it DreamsMat. If another man robs your puddy (meaning your wife/women) it is not out of the ordinary to dig into YOUR case (raid your closet) to determine the specifics related to your robbery.

If you robbed then you should get robbed. I got it.

kimmie

March 19th, 2010
3:53 pm

Amred – It’s no reasoning with her, she comes up with crazy stuff all the time. But even if Elin had a honeymoon baby, she’s his WIFE! She signed a prenup anyway, she came from money and let’s face it, she was a nanny, not a career woman. After a point, what else was she going to do, run for office?

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
3:53 pm

Poppa, you said I. That is different from my raiding your closet. We as the offended have that right. But we as the spectators really don’t.

When ever there is a problem the parties involved should look within the union. However, I have no right to assume you did wrong to make it happen. Or try to find something that you did. And even if you did, two wrong don’t make right.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
3:55 pm

After a point, what else was she going to do, run for office?

:lol:

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
3:56 pm

“what else was she going to do, run for office?” If Palin can, anyone can!

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
3:56 pm

It is 4:00 and someone just walked in and asked me why I was late this morning. LOL

First of all I don’t work for you. And secondly, it’s my husband’s fault none of your damn business.

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
3:56 pm

I sure hope Elin’s pre-nup had a fidelity clause in it.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
3:57 pm

Ok, ARed, I got your back!!

SlimOne on autopilot

March 19th, 2010
3:57 pm

“Slide right into the passenger seat, here. Oh wait… did I just cheat?”

im swiss – it’s not cheating if i sit in the back seat. lol

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
3:59 pm

Raqi

We as the offended have that right. But we as the spectators really don’t.

I have no power on what other do. Therefore, I don’t really care about what others think about me. So, they can feel free. They will anyway. I always take it that people will talk about you (look for dirt) no matter what you do in order to knock you down to their level.

I assume that all spectators are diggin in my life for dirt anyways. I am considered uppity in my family, so I know that many cousins want to knock me down to their level. I hear about them “fishing” on a regular.

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
3:59 pm

@Kimmie…wow, are you serious???? I just read your 2:48 now that is a trip. As for Sade, I would love to see her at Chastain!

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:00 pm

@SimOne ~ if he’s part of the Fantastic Four and turns into rubber man, he can stretch to the backseat, so yeah, it’s cheating!

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
4:00 pm

Am I paranoid? I will own that. On hunned percent!

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:01 pm

Ok, ARed, I got your back!!

Thanks Leggs! For what tho?

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
4:01 pm

@Kimmie there is one in every office, where I am at right now we actually have two, and when they get together it is :shock:

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
4:01 pm

I’ve seen Sade in concert so many times.

I even flew to NY to see her in Madison Square Garden and traveled to London to see her there.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:01 pm

So, I guess none of you have contacts with a limo service. Guess I have to let my fingers do the walking….

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
4:02 pm

If you robbed then you should get robbed. I got it.
This tells me you don’t “got it”. Just say you don’t agree ’cause what you concluded isn’t what I was trying to show.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
4:03 pm

Leggs

However, we know that Mr. Fantastic always has a rubber.

LL411

March 19th, 2010
4:03 pm

HEIDELBERG… Loved it. I lived in Mannheim for 2 1/2 years (82 – 85), about 35 miles from Heidleberg. The Officers Club was the bomb… and please anybody that goes, please go to the castle… it overlooks the little village across the river (Rhine). BEAUTIFUL!

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
4:03 pm

“it’s not cheating if i sit in the back seat. lol”

In that case, hop in & let that warm breeze blow your tatas all around…. :lol: I promise I won’t look

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:03 pm

@ARed ~ your 3:55 and my 3:56. Meant to say “great minds think alike,” but those words jumped off the keyboard and I let it stay knowing it didn’t make much sense cuz I’m sleepy!

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
4:04 pm

Wow!!!! Green Eyes has been hurt too many times.

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
4:04 pm

Slim
Nice way to end a Friday. I hope it’s contagious. lol

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:05 pm

Good comeback, PoppaG, and it’s still cheating if he uses the rubber in any form or fashion. That was good, didn’t think of him being rubber always having rubber.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:05 pm

:lol: One hour to go Leggs!

LURKER

March 19th, 2010
4:07 pm

March Madness is killing me! I am robbing my employer of some money this week!!! Yeaaaaaa

Random Thoughts…..

Puddy makes the world go around and around…….Yeaaaaaaa :wink:

Have you ever had some BM puddy it taste in my Osama bin voice (very, very good) Yeaaaa!!!

Women cheat all the time they have been taught to deny everything….. YEAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!

If you are with Sexycool you will never go more then 3 days with-out getting the puddy!!!
yeaaaaaaaaa::::: :smile:

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
4:07 pm

Ok Blog Bar now open. Sorry I’m late. First one is on me. A shot of Absynthe to get everyone going on this beautiful day.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
4:07 pm

Oh and Slim… make sure you bring both your left & right hand along. I think a nice open-air ride on a sunny spring day would facilitate healing between them & your CT. It’s a day for healing.

BlackMagicWoman

March 19th, 2010
4:08 pm

Green Eyes….I am not mad at ya! LOL

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:10 pm

1.5 hours for me!

Tiger.W. ( B.K.A. Wood Slinger)

March 19th, 2010
4:10 pm

@Leggs……I will bring the limo and drive it as long as you sit in the front with a sundress on!

Look I did not cheat I was doing the my duty to hit that booty! :smile:

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
4:11 pm

We really didn’t have to have this lenghty conversation about cheating today. Take it from a reformed certified player. Everyone knows when they are cheating or doing or acting in a fashion that they would not reveal in front of their SO. My rule of thumb has always been that if you can do it in front of your SO then it is cool, if not then you know you fuggn’ up.

@Dreams
Preciate it bruh. I need a shot.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:12 pm

I is sleepy. Just drank a half cup of coffee (which I don’t drink) so the caffine can wake me up.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:12 pm

Green Eyes….I am not mad at ya! LOL

:lol: Only you BlackMagic. :lol:

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 19th, 2010
4:12 pm

TO MELO: No, I am a gorgeous redhead…. READ BELOW:

SILLY BLONDES, BRAINS ARE FOR REDHEADS……………..Oh and FYI:
I have been married 4 times to 3 men (widowed once in there, married one guy twice)I have plenty of men to go out with….there is never a shortage for me…. so DUH yourself..And I know about THE MARRIED MAN. Trust me on that one.

LL411

March 19th, 2010
4:13 pm

@ Leggs …Off topic ~ how many of you think Sade’s new CD would send a suicidal person over the edge?

I really had to laugh… I absolutely love Sade. My ex once said her songs could make somebody commit suicide. It’s kinda true, and depends on your mental mood while listening. I’ve not heard the CD other that Soldier of Love tho. :)

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:13 pm

My sister just sent be pics of my niece with poo EVERYwhere. Gross. She already knows I’m on the fense about kids. This ain’t helping.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:13 pm

*sent me pics that is.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:13 pm

I know this weekend,me and Queen are gon look for some properties but other thn that..

I be watching March madness with her in the bidroom(bed) and then when im tired,let her check out the porn sites so she can get her head game st8.

u alwayz learn and get menored by/ from the pros! :lol: Wish/ wld be nice if any one of my american female buds here were willing to a Triple play! :lol:

Slim u there?? :lol:

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:14 pm

@Tiger ~ can’t do that, limo is for lil leggs! You would be the last person I want around her. Wait, I don’t have to worry, she’s not white!

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:15 pm

then when im tired,let her check out the porn sites so she can get her head game st8.

:shock: :?

melo – You’ve been married for decades. The game ain’t str8 by now… :?:

LL411

March 19th, 2010
4:15 pm

Sade’s concerts are great.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:17 pm

Gorgeous Green Eyes???

I have been married 4 times to 3 men :shock: :evil:

can u really say that without hurting or twirling ur tongue somewhere in ur mouf??

Sit ur azz down…u marrying for insurance money??

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:19 pm

Oscar curse? Eight of the past 12 Best Actress winners have since split from their significant others.

LURKER

March 19th, 2010
4:19 pm

Random Thoughts……

Tiger W. you are one horny hound dog! Yeaaaaaaaaa!

I will light up that BMW puddy and turn it into Voodoo Magic puddy! Yeaaaaaaaa! :smile:

Cheating……Yes it happens all the time! But you can reform from cheating get your act together!
Yeaaaa……

Raqi….Is worried about spending time away from her husband, dammm give the man a break from all that talking!!!! j/k Yeaaaaaaa :smile:

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:19 pm

Sit ur azz down

:lol:

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:20 pm

You’ve been married for decades. The game ain’t str8 by now…

@Ared?? see,this is where some women slack..not mine.

My Queen Always upgrading coz there are new draft(porn stars) picks coming out each year,the head game changes..new ways of twisting and twirling the wang to make it pop up and blow up stronger! :lol: :arrow: fro my benefit and pleasure! :lol:

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
4:21 pm

Sit ur azz down…u marrying for insurance money?? :shock: :evil:

LMAOROTFL…now that was funny

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:22 pm

melo – There is a difference in being “straight” and “upgrading!” I was just asking!

SlimOne on autopilot

March 19th, 2010
4:22 pm

melo I’m here, what’s up? I’m just getting my hands oiled up for the ride home with Swiss :lol:

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
4:23 pm

Green eyes please tell us a bit more. Are there any children out of your four three unions?

Tazzee - 56 days til Mrs.

March 19th, 2010
4:23 pm

AmRed – those types of pics are great birth control, LOL.

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:24 pm

AmRed – those types of pics are great birth control, LOL.

Right! I’m like “why would I want to see that?!”

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:25 pm

melo I’m here, what’s up?

@SlimOne?

u busy with that tentative dude this weekend or what??

mytw♥tatas

March 19th, 2010
4:26 pm

DAGGONE Blogmonster…

CEE I’m still showing my Colgate smile. The ladies still accusing DREAMS of acting Bowenhomesian? SWIZZ still tryna get his jollies off or is ZULU doin how he do? And I ain’t asking bout TAZZEE cuz she might get mad bout the you know what…

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:26 pm

LMAO @ “tenative dude”

You’re an azz melo! :lol:

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
4:27 pm

Sit ur azz down…u marrying for insurance money

@Professor & Melo
Now that was funny. You almost made me spit out some of my sammich.

LL411

March 19th, 2010
4:27 pm

Sit ur azz down…u marrying for insurance money?? :shock: :evil:

And said without a blink LOL :)

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:28 pm

OMG! This Purdue/Siena game just got interesting!!!

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
4:28 pm

“I’m just getting my hands oiled up for the ride home with Swiss”

Slim — If you need an extra hand or two, I can have Mrs. Swiss join you in the back seat for the ride. Just gimme a minute to install my rear-view mirror cam & work out a contract with Skinamax….

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 19th, 2010
4:28 pm

MELO: Yes, I can say that I LOVE TO SAY THAT……I have been married 4 times to 3 men (widowed once remember?) No, the last husband didn’t have ANY money nor did he have the capability to earn much but he was really cute and that is why I married him. (DUH) AND I AM SITTING DOWN! No, I TAKE CARE OF MYSELF….I could be a gold digger but I am not. I work for ATTORNEYS………………..DUH

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 19th, 2010
4:30 pm

ONE MORE THING. AZZ is incorrectly spelled…it is ASS

DUH

LL411

March 19th, 2010
4:30 pm

Melo? Wait’n on you! LOLLOLLOL :)

SlimOne on autopilot

March 19th, 2010
4:30 pm

melo kiss me arse! lol Naw, bud…doing my own thang this weekend. I saw him last night :mrgreen:

i’m swiss – bet it up…but i want 65% of the proceeds.

PEACE YALL HAVE A FINE FAN YOUR FARTS FRIDAY!

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:32 pm

Ared?/ u know u talk a lot

not that there is anything bad about it but u think when u get snagged by ur hubby and u really let it rip, u slow down on talking a tad?

I ask coz my Queen talks a lot,esp when she out there with her friends but the moment she comes home,esp up in the bedroom,she will literally sit down on the carpet,next to me as im sitting on my couch and just talk to me… sign of OBEDIENCE I guess.

Not to slight/belittle that kinda of attn but i think my overall treatment of her(u know,my wang is there in the equation somwhere) has some to do with it! :lol: :lol;

U know what i mean?? :lol:

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 19th, 2010
4:33 pm

PROFESSOR: Yes, I have two sons, 25 and 27 from my second late husband….that’s it….Any other questions? Oh, and the last men I have dated their ages have been 43, 30, 35, 59 and 53…..So I date younger and older men…They are pretty much all the same EXCEPT IF THEY ARE MARRIED…then that is another ballgame altogether…..DUH

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
4:33 pm

he was really cute and that is why I married him

wow

:???:
:???:
:roll:
:roll:
:evil:
:evil:

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:36 pm

Gorgeous Green Eyes??

u take care of urself..got a pic?? :lol:

come back here on monday ok!!??

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 19th, 2010
4:36 pm

ATTENTION: DIG THAT! No, I have not been hurt…I expect the best because that is what I am. I am high maintenance and they CALL ME DIVA here at the LAW FIRM I am with. GET it? I thought so…..DUH

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
4:36 pm

Last question, how old are you green eyes?

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:37 pm

I ask coz my Queen talks a lot,esp when she out there with her friends but the moment she comes home,esp up in the bedroom,she will literally sit down on the carpet,next to me as im sitting on my couch and just talk to me… sign of OBEDIENCE I guess.

melo – Perhaps I’m the same way. ;)

I talk a lot on a message board because…

It’s a message board. :D

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
4:37 pm

Lurker, I will not be home tomorrow while he watches the game so he will not have to worry about me talking to him but I bet he will hear the “chaching” of those cash registers and the “swoosh” of that credit card everytime I make a purchase. He is going to wish I was at home talking to him. LOL

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 19th, 2010
4:38 pm

Melo: Yes, go to myspace.voguechristy and you will see who I am. And the MARRIED MAN I am referring is a COP. Imagine that. But I guess it’s good to have a “FRIEND” that’s a cop right? DUH check me out
I am taking real good care of myself, french manicure, etc. the works.
I am smart and sassy, pretty and classy !

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
4:39 pm

Melo,

Question: Did you meet green eyes while you were pinching butts on st. patrick’s day partying and told her about the blog?

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:39 pm

Ared?

u didnt give me ur picks for March madnes remember i asked u yesterday??

Who are ur top 4? I have to go for somebody, i dont know none?

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:39 pm

He is going to wish I was at home talking to him. LOL

:lol: :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:40 pm

Sorry melo – I got caught up in the games and facebook yesterday and didn’t come back to the blog after noon. :lol:

My Final Four is Kansas, Syracuse, WVU and Nova!

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:41 pm

@Melo, aren’t the brackets closed now??? Or whatever the proper lingo is. Isn’t it too late to pick your teams (I guess for betting purposes)???

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:41 pm

Did you meet green eyes while you were pinching butts on st. patrick’s day partying and told her about the blog?

@Proff??

:lol: :lol:

never got a chance..she(Queen) was sitting across me all nite when we went out,looking at me str8 in the eyes! :lol:

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 19th, 2010
4:41 pm

Professor: guess how old I am????????? take a wild guess but I look 38 or 40 but I am a little older than that…….Age is only a number it is how you carry yourself!!!! DUH

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:43 pm

Green Eyes…we spell words like “ass” as “azz” and such on purpose because this blog has a filter and sometimes “cuss” words don’t go through.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:43 pm

thanx Ared!
@Legggs,no betting…just so i can have a team(s) to hate or support.

I only follow nba and college basktball when it heats up,playoffs and March madness!

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
4:44 pm

I think you are 50, DUH :grin:

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:45 pm

melo – My alma mater Cal plays tonight against Louisville. Game should tip off around 9:45 this evening. Please support. :D

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:45 pm

But if you don’t know anything about the teams and you’re picking someone else’s what are you hating or supporting???

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 19th, 2010
4:45 pm

AMAZONRED…Thanks for the FYI sometimes Barbie Dolls don’t know everything. (!)

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:45 pm

Gorgeous Green Eyes??

no shame in ma game,im challenging u to show me ur pics…

send them? :lol:

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:45 pm

I sho is sleepy, this coffee has done absolutely NOTHING for me!

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 19th, 2010
4:46 pm

Professor: CLOSE…………..

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:46 pm

I be on it..Ared! thanx

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
4:47 pm

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:47 pm

I can’t stand melo. :lol:

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:47 pm

But if you don’t know anything about the teams

@Leggs??

legs,u being difficult,u need a human tranquilizer! :lol:

want me in elenwood tonite!?? :lol:

Its jus for fun,a starting point! :lol:

lurker

March 19th, 2010
4:49 pm

Green Eyes, please stay away from the blog wh@re

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:49 pm

@Raqi ~ since you’re going shopping, I just sent you a coupon for Kohl’s. Everything in the store 15% off until the 21st.

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
4:49 pm

lol at “human tranquilizer!”

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 19th, 2010
4:49 pm

MELO: where to?

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
4:49 pm

This crazy woman up here asking if any one have any demerol? Who carry that on them? And how do she suppose she is going to drive home if she takes one? LOL

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
4:50 pm

Green eyes, if things don’t work out with Carlito and whatshername the members of the blog board of directors would like to set you up with him.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
4:50 pm

Thanks Leggs.

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 19th, 2010
4:50 pm

LURKER: You are crude

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:50 pm

@Melo ~ difficult, oh, I was trying to make logic out of your reasoning.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:51 pm

Anybody else want the coupon, hit me up.

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
4:51 pm

Raqi~give her 2 extra strength Ex-Lax and that will stop her from asking crazy ish…tell her it is the new generic

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:51 pm

Gorgeous Green Eyes?? MELO: where to?

takpat78@gmail.com

now we talking? :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
4:52 pm

Leggs too late on a Friday for logic and reasoning. Take this double shot.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
4:52 pm

lurker, she has probably been reading long enough to know what she is doing and what she is getting into.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
4:53 pm

Professor I am LMBO.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:53 pm

Thank you, DreamsM. I’m thinking too hard and making myself sleepy.

Straight up, no chaser, no ice please!

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:53 pm

with Carlito and whatshername the members of the blog board of directors would like to set you up with him.

Prof??

Im elbowing u and calling foul on that play!

Hush woman on that and stop that cut block! :lol:

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
4:54 pm

I am high maintenance and they CALL ME DIVA here at the LAW FIRM I am with. GET it

I get it alright. But what grown woman uses DUH!! in everything she says? I see you are awfully proud of your man resume too.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:55 pm

The truth nver fails to show itself, just pay attention to the thousand of gestures presented to you!

Buenos Noche!

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:56 pm

And leave that married arse man ALONE!!!

AmazonRed™

March 19th, 2010
4:57 pm

But what grown woman uses DUH!! in everything she says

:oops:

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:59 pm

The same woman that shakes her head from side to side….you know, that neck roll thing angry black women do. I can’t do it.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
4:59 pm

I’m sorry, not just angry black woman….scratch that….angry WOMEN!

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
4:59 pm

Melo!

I did it for Queen I don’t want you to be our very own Tiger. uhhh hmmmm green eyes have cobwebs so she is a bit vulnerable, DUH.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
4:59 pm

And leave that married arse man ALONE!!!

I been called everyting in ma lyfe..

But never a snoozer! :lol: :lol:

Melo

March 19th, 2010
5:00 pm

good weekend uall! :lol:

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
5:02 pm

The married arse man comment wasn’t for you Melo….you probably think this song is about cha, don’tcha, don’tcha…..

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
5:03 pm

you all have a great weekend. enjoy the beautiful weather. don’t forget about those sundresses.

Professor...

March 19th, 2010
5:03 pm

…stepping out!

Have a great one Melo get your Becky on…Ms. Leggs wake up!

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
5:12 pm

You got a point Leggs

Gorgeous Green Eyes

March 19th, 2010
5:36 pm

I am otta here everyone…..Bet you wish you had a girl like me…….

sharongilo

March 20th, 2010
3:21 pm

If you make your marriage THE priority and always “take care” of the relationship, then as a team you will have a greater chance of “having it all.” I don’t think it works as well in reverse …

http://www.ashortguidetoahappymarriage.com