Can we have it all?
Sandra Bullock is in the news but the buzz isn’t just surrounding her Oscar win. Apparently there are rumors swirling that her husband of 5 years, Jesse James, had a fling with a slightly younger woman. The alleged affair may have happened when Bullock was away filming The Blind Side, which is ironic in many ways.
I have no idea if any of it is true and I’m going to take a guess that a lot of you could care less. This celebrity news has made me really wonder about the price that people pay when they try to pursue their dreams, though. Was Bullock wrong to think that she could have the great career, wonderful supportive husband, and solid home life?
When it comes to our careers and relationships, do you think it always comes down to making a choice between the two in order for it to work? Is it possible to give your all to both and find balance?
I don’t think think successful women are the only women that find it hardest to manage relationships. However, I believe that the dynamics within a relationships of successful women and their mates vary greatly to their male counterparts. What do you think?
Men, do you think that you can have it all? Wonderful career, stable finances, and a good woman in your life? Do you think one of these will have to suffer in order for it to work?
Ladies, how do we differ from men when it comes to having it all? Have we wised up and stopped trying to pursue it all or do we secretly want the same thing: career, money, great man and/or children?
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Raqi...Two Hours Late
March 19th, 2010
3:53 pm
Poppa, you said I. That is different from my raiding your closet. We as the offended have that right. But we as the spectators really don’t.
When ever there is a problem the parties involved should look within the union. However, I have no right to assume you did wrong to make it happen. Or try to find something that you did. And even if you did, two wrong don’t make right.
AmazonRed™
March 19th, 2010
3:55 pm
After a point, what else was she going to do, run for office?
Leggs
March 19th, 2010
3:56 pm
“what else was she going to do, run for office?” If Palin can, anyone can!
Raqi...Two Hours Late
March 19th, 2010
3:56 pm
It is 4:00 and someone just walked in and asked me why I was late this morning. LOL
First of all I don’t work for you. And secondly,
it’s my husband’s faultnone of your damn business.SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)
March 19th, 2010
3:56 pm
I sure hope Elin’s pre-nup had a fidelity clause in it.
Leggs
March 19th, 2010
3:57 pm
Ok, ARed, I got your back!!
SlimOne on autopilot
March 19th, 2010
3:57 pm
“Slide right into the passenger seat, here. Oh wait… did I just cheat?”
im swiss – it’s not cheating if i sit in the back seat. lol
Poppa Grande
March 19th, 2010
3:59 pm
Raqi
We as the offended have that right. But we as the spectators really don’t.
I have no power on what other do. Therefore, I don’t really care about what others think about me. So, they can feel free. They will anyway. I always take it that people will talk about you (look for dirt) no matter what you do in order to knock you down to their level.
I assume that all spectators are diggin in my life for dirt anyways. I am considered uppity in my family, so I know that many cousins want to knock me down to their level. I hear about them “fishing” on a regular.
Professor...
March 19th, 2010
3:59 pm
@Kimmie…wow, are you serious???? I just read your 2:48 now that is a trip. As for Sade, I would love to see her at Chastain!
Leggs
March 19th, 2010
4:00 pm
@SimOne ~ if he’s part of the Fantastic Four and turns into rubber man, he can stretch to the backseat, so yeah, it’s cheating!
Poppa Grande
March 19th, 2010
4:00 pm
Am I paranoid? I will own that. On hunned percent!
AmazonRed™
March 19th, 2010
4:01 pm
Ok, ARed, I got your back!!
Thanks Leggs! For what tho?
Professor...
March 19th, 2010
4:01 pm
@Kimmie there is one in every office, where I am at right now we actually have two, and when they get together it is
Poppa Grande
March 19th, 2010
4:01 pm
I’ve seen Sade in concert so many times.
I even flew to NY to see her in Madison Square Garden and traveled to London to see her there.
Leggs
March 19th, 2010
4:01 pm
So, I guess none of you have contacts with a limo service. Guess I have to let my fingers do the walking….
DreamsMaterialize
March 19th, 2010
4:02 pm
If you robbed then you should get robbed. I got it.
This tells me you don’t “got it”. Just say you don’t agree ’cause what you concluded isn’t what I was trying to show.
Poppa Grande
March 19th, 2010
4:03 pm
Leggs
However, we know that Mr. Fantastic always has a rubber.
LL411
March 19th, 2010
4:03 pm
HEIDELBERG… Loved it. I lived in Mannheim for 2 1/2 years (82 – 85), about 35 miles from Heidleberg. The Officers Club was the bomb… and please anybody that goes, please go to the castle… it overlooks the little village across the river (Rhine). BEAUTIFUL!
i'm swiss
March 19th, 2010
4:03 pm
“it’s not cheating if i sit in the back seat. lol”
In that case, hop in & let that warm breeze blow your tatas all around….
I promise I won’t look
Leggs
March 19th, 2010
4:03 pm
@ARed ~ your 3:55 and my 3:56. Meant to say “great minds think alike,” but those words jumped off the keyboard and I let it stay knowing it didn’t make much sense cuz I’m sleepy!
Dig That
March 19th, 2010
4:04 pm
Wow!!!! Green Eyes has been hurt too many times.
DreamsMaterialize
March 19th, 2010
4:04 pm
Slim
Nice way to end a Friday. I hope it’s contagious. lol
Leggs
March 19th, 2010
4:05 pm
Good comeback, PoppaG, and it’s still cheating if he uses the rubber in any form or fashion. That was good, didn’t think of him being rubber always having rubber.
AmazonRed™
March 19th, 2010
4:05 pm
LURKER
March 19th, 2010
4:07 pm
March Madness is killing me! I am robbing my employer of some money this week!!! Yeaaaaaa
Random Thoughts…..
Puddy makes the world go around and around…….Yeaaaaaaa
Have you ever had some BM puddy it taste in my Osama bin voice (very, very good) Yeaaaa!!!
Women cheat all the time they have been taught to deny everything….. YEAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!
If you are with Sexycool you will never go more then 3 days with-out getting the puddy!!!
yeaaaaaaaaa:::::
DreamsMaterialize
March 19th, 2010
4:07 pm
Ok Blog Bar now open. Sorry I’m late. First one is on me. A shot of Absynthe to get everyone going on this beautiful day.
i'm swiss
March 19th, 2010
4:07 pm
Oh and Slim… make sure you bring both your left & right hand along. I think a nice open-air ride on a sunny spring day would facilitate healing between them & your CT. It’s a day for healing.
BlackMagicWoman
March 19th, 2010
4:08 pm
Green Eyes….I am not mad at ya! LOL
Leggs
March 19th, 2010
4:10 pm
1.5 hours for me!
Tiger.W. ( B.K.A. Wood Slinger)
March 19th, 2010
4:10 pm
@Leggs……I will bring the limo and drive it as long as you sit in the front with a sundress on!
Look I did not cheat I was doing the my duty to hit that booty!
Dig That
March 19th, 2010
4:11 pm
We really didn’t have to have this lenghty conversation about cheating today. Take it from a reformed certified player. Everyone knows when they are cheating or doing or acting in a fashion that they would not reveal in front of their SO. My rule of thumb has always been that if you can do it in front of your SO then it is cool, if not then you know you fuggn’ up.
@Dreams
Preciate it bruh. I need a shot.
Leggs
March 19th, 2010
4:12 pm
I is sleepy. Just drank a half cup of coffee (which I don’t drink) so the caffine can wake me up.
AmazonRed™
March 19th, 2010
4:12 pm
Green Eyes….I am not mad at ya! LOL
Gorgeous Green Eyes
March 19th, 2010
4:12 pm
TO MELO: No, I am a gorgeous redhead…. READ BELOW:
SILLY BLONDES, BRAINS ARE FOR REDHEADS……………..Oh and FYI:
I have been married 4 times to 3 men (widowed once in there, married one guy twice)I have plenty of men to go out with….there is never a shortage for me…. so DUH yourself..And I know about THE MARRIED MAN. Trust me on that one.
LL411
March 19th, 2010
4:13 pm
@ Leggs …Off topic ~ how many of you think Sade’s new CD would send a suicidal person over the edge?
I really had to laugh… I absolutely love Sade. My ex once said her songs could make somebody commit suicide. It’s kinda true, and depends on your mental mood while listening. I’ve not heard the CD other that Soldier of Love tho.
AmazonRed™
March 19th, 2010
4:13 pm
My sister just sent be pics of my niece with poo EVERYwhere. Gross. She already knows I’m on the fense about kids. This ain’t helping.
AmazonRed™
March 19th, 2010
4:13 pm
*sent me pics that is.
Melo
March 19th, 2010
4:13 pm
I know this weekend,me and Queen are gon look for some properties but other thn that..
I be watching March madness with her in the bidroom(bed) and then when im tired,let her check out the porn sites so she can get her head game st8.
u alwayz learn and get menored by/ from the pros!
Wish/ wld be nice if any one of my american female buds here were willing to a Triple play! 
Slim u there??
Leggs
March 19th, 2010
4:14 pm
@Tiger ~ can’t do that, limo is for lil leggs! You would be the last person I want around her. Wait, I don’t have to worry, she’s not white!
AmazonRed™
March 19th, 2010
4:15 pm
then when im tired,let her check out the porn sites so she can get her head game st8.
melo – You’ve been married for decades. The game ain’t str8 by now…
LL411
March 19th, 2010
4:15 pm
Sade’s concerts are great.
Melo
March 19th, 2010
4:17 pm
Gorgeous Green Eyes???
I have been married 4 times to 3 men
can u really say that without hurting or twirling ur tongue somewhere in ur mouf??
Sit ur azz down…u marrying for insurance money??
AmazonRed™
March 19th, 2010
4:19 pm
Oscar curse? Eight of the past 12 Best Actress winners have since split from their significant others.
LURKER
March 19th, 2010
4:19 pm
Random Thoughts……
Tiger W. you are one horny hound dog! Yeaaaaaaaaa!
I will light up that BMW puddy and turn it into Voodoo Magic puddy! Yeaaaaaaaa!
Cheating……Yes it happens all the time! But you can reform from cheating get your act together!
Yeaaaa……
Raqi….Is worried about spending time away from her husband, dammm give the man a break from all that talking!!!! j/k Yeaaaaaaa
AmazonRed™
March 19th, 2010
4:19 pm
Sit ur azz down
Melo
March 19th, 2010
4:20 pm
You’ve been married for decades. The game ain’t str8 by now…
@Ared?? see,this is where some women slack..not mine.
My Queen Always upgrading coz there are new draft(porn stars) picks coming out each year,the head game changes..new ways of twisting and twirling the wang to make it pop up and blow up stronger!
fro my benefit and pleasure! 
Professor...
March 19th, 2010
4:21 pm
Sit ur azz down…u marrying for insurance money??
LMAOROTFL…now that was funny
AmazonRed™
March 19th, 2010
4:22 pm
melo – There is a difference in being “straight” and “upgrading!” I was just asking!
SlimOne on autopilot
March 19th, 2010
4:22 pm
melo I’m here, what’s up? I’m just getting my hands oiled up for the ride home with Swiss
Professor...
March 19th, 2010
4:23 pm
Green eyes please tell us a bit more. Are there any children out of your
fourthree unions?