Can we have it all?
Sandra Bullock is in the news but the buzz isn’t just surrounding her Oscar win. Apparently there are rumors swirling that her husband of 5 years, Jesse James, had a fling with a slightly younger woman. The alleged affair may have happened when Bullock was away filming The Blind Side, which is ironic in many ways.
I have no idea if any of it is true and I’m going to take a guess that a lot of you could care less. This celebrity news has made me really wonder about the price that people pay when they try to pursue their dreams, though. Was Bullock wrong to think that she could have the great career, wonderful supportive husband, and solid home life?
When it comes to our careers and relationships, do you think it always comes down to making a choice between the two in order for it to work? Is it possible to give your all to both and find balance?
I don’t think think successful women are the only women that find it hardest to manage relationships. However, I believe that the dynamics within a relationships of successful women and their mates vary greatly to their male counterparts. What do you think?
Men, do you think that you can have it all? Wonderful career, stable finances, and a good woman in your life? Do you think one of these will have to suffer in order for it to work?
Ladies, how do we differ from men when it comes to having it all? Have we wised up and stopped trying to pursue it all or do we secretly want the same thing: career, money, great man and/or children?
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Mo (aka Moeisha - feelin great)
March 19th, 2010
2:30 pm
Kym – yeah some folks brackets are jacked! Im actually late with mine this year and Im almost glad! It was serious upsets yesterday!! I so need to be at Dugans or On the Border watching these games!!
Infamous – so I guess that wasnt you I saw at Publix on Flat Shoals about 20mins ago…
Cheating…oh lawd….i’ll leave that alone
THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG
March 19th, 2010
2:30 pm
Cee – Germany…
Leggs
March 19th, 2010
2:31 pm
If you continue with the different levels of cheating, I’d say Melo is the biggest malewhore on this blog. He cheats daily with disrespectful comments re someone’s honeypot and how he can visualize this or visualize that, asking to see body parts, leaving probably your pvt email addy all over the place unbeknownst to Queen. So, without “penetration,” Mr. Melo you cheat 24/7/365!
Raqi...Two Hours Late
March 19th, 2010
2:31 pm
Melo, what type of idiotic question is that? Why would I tell my husband about me seeing an attractive man? Do you report to your wife about every pretty woman you see and those you offer your email address to?
Cemeeli
March 19th, 2010
2:31 pm
Kathy
Well, come down and get your certificate by the male enhancement table.
Who’s next?
DreamsMaterialize
March 19th, 2010
2:31 pm
Yall are trying to convince us that women cheat too, but that we already know.
Not trying to convince you all that you cheat. It’s just that the discussion of cheating is always one-sided, as IF men do all the cheating. Thusfar, all the blog women who have volunteered have said they never cheated.
Melo
March 19th, 2010
2:32 pm
DreamsMat, True. However I haven’t read here yet where any of us women have said that women do not cheat.
@Raqi??
thats not a positive statement!
say,” we,Women do cheat”..that wld be better!
Its like ur Yes and No admission in the morning when i told them u were there(Miami) to protect ur investment. If u nuance ur answers with these single chics,they wont understand.Me as a married dude, I understood what u were saying.,
Dont “Bill Clinton” with these ladies(depends on what the meaning of is is)
Teach them right and direct,whether it hurts them or not!
Its the truth!
THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG
March 19th, 2010
2:34 pm
Raqi – That and the fact that women complain about the double standard on everything else except when its convenient.. They think men are dogs but when a woman does it the man somehow made ya’ll do it..
SlimOne on autopilot
March 19th, 2010
2:35 pm
I cheated on my left hand with my right hand.
Melo
March 19th, 2010
2:35 pm
Why would I tell my husband about me seeing an attractive man
Not get it twisted…
I asked u about an attractive men u see that gets ur emotions all knotted up,not any other attarctive guy..
I see attractive woemn every day..i dont get attracted to them all..but we have admitted already as men that yes,we fail…we on u women….
I have told my Queen plain blank that im attracted to Dianne Sawyer and if she accepts my proposal,i will go but i will take care of the kids and her thru alimony…!
Raqi...Two Hours Late
March 19th, 2010
2:35 pm
DreamsMat, we didn’t volunteer, the question was asked.
If you had read my comments earlier you would see where I said any can happen to any of us. I even stated that I am not above it.
Yes we know that women cheat. However don’t try to justify it by saying that monogamy is wrong and men should not be expected to be with only one woman. Yall know how to commit to other things and not stray, why not the same when it comes to relationships?
Leggs
March 19th, 2010
2:38 pm
Sheesh that was a good post that got eaten and I forgot to copy. Let’s see if I can change up the words.
@Melo ~ let’s break it down this way. You and InfamousD want to discuss levels of cheating by not only meaning sexual intercourse. You mentally cheat on Queen 24/7/365 on this blog. Does it matter you haven’t connected with another to mentally cheat back with? I don’t think so. Well, I have no prove that you haven’t. You’re still cheating with all that smack you talk. But, since she knows nothing about your dialoge with us, you’re not cheating! I got it!!!
DreamsMaterialize
March 19th, 2010
2:38 pm
BMW
When I said “victims”, I was actually talking about the wives. I think we should shine the light on them and see what dirt comes up. The women just never get caught.
Cemeeli
March 19th, 2010
2:39 pm
Slim…seems as if our peers going hard on this cheating thing..
So, did your left hand sue your right hand for “pain and suffering”? lol
Raqi...Two Hours Late
March 19th, 2010
2:40 pm
but when a woman does it the man somehow made ya’ll do it
Infamous, yeah some but not all. But be reminded of something you all have said on here many times. With men, it’s just sex. With women, most of the time not.
So yeah, if she is with a guy and cheating it’s probably something lacking in the tea. Not all but most. It’s not right but it’s fact.
Dig That
March 19th, 2010
2:42 pm
I am going to TMZ and every tabloid possible about that @Slim. If I was your right hand I would be pissed off.
Raqi...Two Hours Late
March 19th, 2010
2:43 pm
Now Leggs you know what he is doing is not cheating because he is a man. Those rules and standards they try to impose on us they aren’t even capable or willing to live up to themselves.
i'm swiss
March 19th, 2010
2:43 pm
I’m sure Trojan or that “Natural Male Enhancement” company would love to have Horny Tiger hocking their products
Swiss You just be coming off the riff, hunh?…whiteboy is crazy
Hola, CeeCee — Speaking of those “male enhancement” commercials… Is there a creepier commercial out there right now than Jimmy Johnson pitching Extenze?
And who else out there thinks they chose Jimmy because both of his names are euphemism for wang? 
Melo
March 19th, 2010
2:45 pm
. @Leggs?? Does it matter you haven’t connected with another to mentally cheat back with?
mental aint even important to dudes…….females do insist on mental..esp be4 sexx. so u females are actually phlucked twice,mentally and physically.
A dude u see and gets u attacted to him while u out in the mall has phlucked u mentally,so u sinned…thats what the bible says too…not me!
when it gets mental 4 guys,then that means we in luv. like it was for Mark Sanford with Argentina..member??
We rarely get mentally sexxed up by heifers….No wonder why dudes phuluck and leave….and go back to wify..there was no mental!
Leggs
March 19th, 2010
2:46 pm
@Raqi ~ and that’s why I’m calling foul on that stinking play!
i'm swiss
March 19th, 2010
2:46 pm
Dianne Sawyer?
Going for the cougar, eh Melo?
Leggs
March 19th, 2010
2:47 pm
@Melo ~ since this is a blog I used the word mental. Not sure how many you’ve have actually met! So, by flirting on this blog you’ve cheated is my point.
i'm swiss
March 19th, 2010
2:47 pm
Melo — You should hit Martha Stewart up. I bet that woman is a FREAK!
Seriously, though. Freak. No doubt.
Raqi...Two Hours Late
March 19th, 2010
2:47 pm
I think we should shine the light on them and see what dirt comes up.
DreamsMat, you are doing exactly what Infamous is accusing women of doing in so many words. Instead of just accepting whomever cheated just cheated, you are trying to paint the women in those situations black in justification.
kimmie
March 19th, 2010
2:48 pm
I think we should shine the light on them and see what dirt comes up.
What purpose would that serve, Dreams? How about we just stay out of everybodies business? Make sure our own houses are in order.
Speaking of wives, there’s this female coworker that has been taking up for Tiger since Day 1. All I hear whenever the subject comes up is “Poor Tiger”. If I hear it again I am going to scream. How about today she said that Elin is no better that Tiger’s mistresses, because she got with him because of his money & MADE SURE she got pregnant right away! ???????????
DreamsMaterialize
March 19th, 2010
2:49 pm
we didn’t volunteer, the question was asked.
Raqi Who asked this question? Infamaous made a statement that all the chicks on the blog have cheated, and then many women responded (voluntarily) to the statement.
However don’t try to justify it by saying that monogamy is wrong and men should not be expected to be with only one woman.
You can’t point to one post I’ve ever made where I’ve justified cheating. If you make a promise (vow) to someone, then breaking that promise is wrong…no two ways about that. I also have never said that monogomy is “wrong”, but I also don’t discount other options and say they are wrong.
Leggs
March 19th, 2010
2:49 pm
Mail call….
THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG
March 19th, 2010
2:53 pm
Im not saying is cheating is right. Im not painting anyone. Im just putting it out there that men get ramrodded about cheating and women are hypocritical about it(cheating).
SlimOne on autopilot
March 19th, 2010
2:53 pm
“So, did your left hand sue your right hand for “pain and suffering”?”
Cee – um actually I settled out of court by just inviting left hand to participate next time right hand wants to get into the groove.
Dig – no need to be upset, there is plenty to go around. Matter of fact, here taste this new candy…It’s called Ez-tenz lol
Cemeeli
March 19th, 2010
2:54 pm
Swiss the penis pills commercials are a mess…The men are confident as heck telling camera “yeah, it’s really enhanced my size/length”…i’m usually saying…ooookay…to the testimonials.
SlimOne on autopilot
March 19th, 2010
2:55 pm
Cee yep, done pretty much beat this cheating horse to a bloody pulp. The sleepiness is creepy in Big Time.
Mo (aka Moeisha - feelin great)
March 19th, 2010
2:55 pm
kimmie – clearly ya co-worker is smoking that good-good! She obviously is a serious Tiger Woods fan!! DAYUM!!
BlackMagicWoman
March 19th, 2010
2:56 pm
“And who else out there thinks they chose Jimmy because both of his names are euphemism for wang?”
“so u females are actually phlucked twice,mentally and physically.”
MELO…do you know what’s so disheartening about that? You guys get 2 chances in one to get teh job done and still fall short of even getting one right!
Raqi...Two Hours Late
March 19th, 2010
2:57 pm
Infamous, I guarantee you if WiseDiva post an entry about a woman cheating you will not get any different response out of me. I think cheating is very wrong no matter who does it.
It just so happens that in the news lately it has been the men that are getting outted.
And like I said earlier I put the burden to be faithful on both sexes because I know it is possible.
DreamsMaterialize
March 19th, 2010
2:57 pm
you are trying to paint the women in those situations black in justification.
Raqi justification has nothing to do with it. I just believe in being fair. If cheating is wrong, then it’s wrong for everyone. All should be held accountable. My goal is justice, not justification.
How about we just stay out of everybodies business?
Then we should have done that from the beginning. Why do we only need to go that route when we propose to reveal all the stonethrowers?
Professor...
March 19th, 2010
2:57 pm
You mentally cheat on Queen 24/7/365 on this blog.
Let me catch up right quick!
Poppa Grande
March 19th, 2010
2:57 pm
Suisse
You should hit Martha Stewart up. I bet that woman is a FREAK!
I agree. I saw her on the panel last night on the Marriage Ref talking about stripper poles and wanting to date a rapper….
She talked about catching someone stealing her peppermill and she made the person return it to her. She is gangsta.
kimmie
March 19th, 2010
2:58 pm
DK – What’s shakin’ over in Heidelberg?
Dig That
March 19th, 2010
2:58 pm
Guys I know you don’t want to hear this and I have repented now that I am mature enough to give a damn, but I never had traditional relationships and I know women cheat often because I am normally the one they choose to throw caution in the wind to cheat with.
Cemeeli
March 19th, 2010
2:58 pm
@ Slim – You silly. Pushing extenze pill now girl?
@ Kimmie – She wanted to be a mistress to Tiger you think?
i'm swiss
March 19th, 2010
2:58 pm
“…clearly ya co-worker is smoking that good-good! She obviously is a serious Tiger Woods fan!! DAYUM!!”
Um…. Yeah, I think she read those text messages & got a little moist…
i'm swiss
March 19th, 2010
3:00 pm
“…She talked about catching someone stealing her peppermill and she made the person return it to her. She is gangsta”
And by “peppermill” she meant “vibrator.”
THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG
March 19th, 2010
3:00 pm
Leggs – Ouch!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But true…..
Cemeeli
March 19th, 2010
3:01 pm
Swiss – That’s what i was saying too. Co-worker wanna “get in”.
Yea, Martha Stewart is related to the mob…home chic comes out swinging when someone wrongs her.
Raqi...Two Hours Late
March 19th, 2010
3:02 pm
DreamsMat, yeah it’s wrong for everyone. However how fair is it when a woman gets cheated on for you to automatically turn to “let’s find out what’s in her closet”?
It wouldn’t be fair to have it done to you. Why does there have to be skeletons obviously buried in your chest if you wife or girlfriend steps out on you?
THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG
March 19th, 2010
3:02 pm
Kimmie – Just seeing where I was born.. The Heidelberg Army hospital.. Its nice here and im loving this dual citizenship thing.. Opening a post office box so I can establish residence here.
mytw♥tatas
March 19th, 2010
3:05 pm
Our eyes are often bigger than our stomachs so we think we want more than we really do. And sometimes we don’t recognize this and go about accumulating, achieving more and in the midst something clicks. And we (those who allow it) will find ourselves satisfied unexpectedly.
Ain’t gonna get involved in the cheetahs convo… so ima just wonder why folks keep asking why I’m smiling. This day is nothing less than GORGEOUS, what else what I be doing?
Hope everyone’s having a Fantastic Friday!
kimmie
March 19th, 2010
3:05 pm
Dreams – I could care less about the stonethrowers AND the stonethrowee’s. Tiger, Mr. Bullock, none of them are gonna pay one bill of mine. That’s their wive’s problem.
The thing is, that used to be the issue when rape victim’s come forward. Blame the victim, say the way she dressed caused it.
So now what if some digging was done & come to find out Elin messed around. Does that justify Tiger ruining his endorsement deals. Two wrongs don’t make a right. And while you can do things that might bring on an outcome, the only person you really can control is yourself.
DreamsMaterialize
March 19th, 2010
3:06 pm
It wouldn’t be fair to have it done to you.
Raqi It absolutely WOULD be fair. My justice isn’t self-exclusive. If my chick cheated on me, feel free to check my closet. Why should she be villified for cheating on me if I’ve done the same?
Melo
March 19th, 2010
3:06 pm
Not sure how many you’ve have actually met!
@Leggs!
u know i met Blackmagic,among others..not sure if she(they) made luv to me,mentally!
