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Can we have it all?

Sandra Bullock is in the news but the buzz isn’t just surrounding her Oscar win.  Apparently there are rumors swirling that her husband of 5 years, Jesse James, had a fling with a slightly younger woman.  The alleged affair may have happened when Bullock was away filming The Blind Side, which is ironic in many ways.

I have no idea if any of it is true and I’m going to take a guess that a lot of you could care less.   This celebrity news has made me really wonder about the price that people pay when they try to pursue their dreams, though.  Was Bullock wrong to think that she could have the great career, wonderful supportive husband, and solid home life?

When it comes to our careers and relationships, do you think it always comes down to making a choice between the two in order for it to work?  Is it possible to  give your all to both and find balance?

I don’t think think successful women are the only women that find it hardest to manage relationships.  However, I believe that the dynamics within a relationships of successful women and their mates vary greatly to their male counterparts.  What do you think?

Men, do you think that you can have it all? Wonderful career, stable finances, and a good woman in your life?  Do you think one of these will have to suffer in order for it to work?

Ladies, how do we differ from men when it comes to having it all? Have we wised up and stopped trying to pursue it all or do we secretly want the same thing: career, money, great man and/or children?

524 comments Add your comment

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:07 pm

This basketball tournament thing, is it going to be on all weekend?

Melo

March 19th, 2010
1:07 pm

If you cannot afford a wife then you are stuck in a life of jacking off or trying to screw the other poor dude next to you.

:lol:

so if ure caught phlucking somebody what do they do??..cut ur wang off and then the other shim,maybe just sew their dudu hole so they never have to get phlucked by another man again?? :lol: :lol:

Here in america,something gotta be done tho to these “boyfriends” who murder gerlfriends…its getting outa hand!

I think moslem type justice,like shaving their(men) heads off is deserved!

There :arrow: ,a job for a Republican! :lol:

joe

March 19th, 2010
1:09 pm

Bullock wanted the bad boy and that’s what she got. So, I guess she did have it all, since that’s what she wanted.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:09 pm

Raqi…

This basketball tournament thing, is it going to be on all weekend?

Every weekend until April 5

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
1:13 pm

PG- You’re right. Some are making a killing of the prison system. I hear Georgia is among the top of the list for size of the prison industrial complex.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:14 pm

ARed

President Obama picked Georgetown to make it the Elite 8. So, I guess that he his ticked.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:15 pm

correction: he is ticked

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:15 pm

Thanks Poppa. I just needed to know if I was going to be doing the grocery shopping alone tomorrow. I like to prepare myself. LOL

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:17 pm

Raqi.

No problem….Then, the the Masters (Tiger’s return is the following weekend). NBA playoff start a couple weeks after the final four….the NFL draft is a three day event this year in April. (Starting in Primetime on Thursday night)…

These are great reasons to stay inside and avoid the only real time that I hate Atlanta: Pollen Season.

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
1:18 pm

@Melo
And it doesn’t matter if you are driving a nice car or clean clothes because they are all wearing basically the same shyt, so it is totally different society of how we determine wealth. If you see a dude walking up the street with 6 women with him, then they are all wives and he is BALLIN’ believe that.

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:18 pm

SexyCool, maybe you went on a site that sold your address to the eharmony.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:19 pm

It seems to be a dead period in February following the Superbowl and before NCAA conference tourney. I guess that is why I know so many November and December babies.

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
1:20 pm

Poppa- the president is very ticked right now.

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:21 pm

Dig that

He would have been even more ticked if the refs hadn’t allowed Villanova to get back in and win that game yesterday. (They are one of his final four teams)

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
1:23 pm

Dig That- Here, it’s a good chance if he’s walking with six women one is his wife pretending to not know the other ones are mistress…and the kids? We all paying for them.

BlackMagicWoman

March 19th, 2010
1:25 pm

Kuncous- “Men want sex much more than women and that urge does not dissipate until they DIE.”

hence the reason I liek being single…nobody trying to touch on when I do not want. Sometimes I do not want to be touched. And to feel obligated is pressure I do not want or need! No to mention doing it when I don’t want to will only make me resent you and eventually be disguted and repulsed! I have tried going against this loving to be single and it always kicks me in the a$$!

SWISS- “Men want sex like women want shoes.”
I LOOOOOVVVEEE shoes…but I do not commit to them so I can have as many as I want and nobody will get hurt when I do! So that is a bad comparison! :lol:

MELO- “the fact that he cheated does not mean he doesnt luv her..”

That is pure crap! Anybody who TRULY loves someone would not cheat on them. You love somebody you would not want to see them hurt and you know that by cheating you would do exactly that! To love is to respect and to respect is to protect…meaning you want to protect their heart from hurt and their body from disease!

Swiss- “Also, depending on the level of religious psychosis in the particular region, there’s a good chance the victim will get stoned for being a wh@re”

Now ain’t that some ish!?! I read that and I am appalled. If I get raped it’s my fault because some nasty horndog took it from me?

Poppa Grande

March 19th, 2010
1:25 pm

I’m thinking about going to the Cheetah to watch the games. No cover until 8pm and their games are on the big screens. 790 the zone (sports talk station here) is broadcasting from there today.

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:25 pm

Man we aint gonna ever be able to have this conversation on cheating cause women will never be honest about it. Women cheat just as much as men.. The only difference is when a man cheats its his fault and when a woman cheats its her mans fault.. Women will never take responsibility for the BS they do and thats just what it is..

SlimOne on autopilot

March 19th, 2010
1:25 pm

Recent research shows that there are 7 kinds of sex:

The 1st kind of sex is called: Smurf Sex
This kind of sex happens when you first meet someone and you
both have sex until you are blue in the face.

The 2nd kind of sex is called: Kitchen Sex.
This is when you have been with your partner for a short time
and you are so horny you will have sex anywhere, even in the kitchen.

The 3rd kind of sex is called: Bedroom Sex.
This is when you have been with your partner for a long time.
Your sex has gotten routine and you usually have sex only in your
bedroom.

The 4th kind of sex is called: Hallway Sex.
This is when you have been with your partner for too long. When
you pass each other in the hallway you both say ’screw you.’

The 5th kind of sex is called: Religious Sex.
This is when you get Nun in the morning, Nun in the afternoon
and Nun at night. (Very Popular)

The 6th kind is called Courtroom Sex.
This is when you cannot stand your wife any more. She takes you
to court and screws you in front of everyone.

And Last, but not least, the 7th kind of sex is called Social
Security Sex.
This when you get a little each month, but not enough to live on.

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
1:27 pm

It ain’t cheatin’ until ya’ get caught.
LOL!

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:27 pm

Then, the the Masters (Tiger’s return is the following weekend). NBA playoff start a couple weeks after the final four….the NFL draft is a three day event this year in April. (Starting in Primetime on Thursday night)…

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Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
1:32 pm

Who said I cheated? What you heard I cheated? You saw me? Well..did you touch me? Cuz you know that could have been my twin. :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:34 pm

Sessy – Yes it is… No bad deed goes unpunished..

And Ladies that dude that you flirt with, kick it with, talk to on the phone and no your intentions arent pure.. Its cheating.. Just cause ya’ll aint bumped uglies yet doesnt mean you werent cheating. You know the dude you keep around just in case your relationship or marriage doesnt work..

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:34 pm

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:35 pm

Trust is not what you don’t do when I am watching but what you won’t do when I am not.

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:35 pm

See what im talking about.. Women are just better liars than men.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
1:37 pm

That is pure crap! Anybody who TRULY loves someone would not cheat on them.

BlackMagicWoman??

Men are misunderstood!! :lol:

do u think if Tiger were to jus send that Eileen girl packing and find a (another) Nanny to take care of those kids he wld be hurt that much??

Nope…but he goes thru all that aplogizing to sponsors and wife coz he luvs her. His cheating is besde the point.Those were just moments to “gett off”, that he needed for him to go out there and compete.
Why u think he was always so calm be4 and during tournaments. :lol:

Now the secret is out..he has to find some other mojo or else he will be ordinary from now on!

Tazzee - 56 days til Mrs.

March 19th, 2010
1:40 pm

Afternoon Folks!

As I’m catching up, I also saw this on twitter (as posted):

I hate when people say “humans are the only species who want to have monogmous sex” …. We also the only ones dying from AIDS

Back to catching up…

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
1:40 pm

Women are just better liars than men
which makes them better cheaters than men.

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:41 pm

Tazzee – Not exactly there is a version of Aids in Cats.

kinderbabe--43 days to liberation and counting!!!

March 19th, 2010
1:42 pm

Tazzee…thanks for adding an element of reality to all of this. we are the most intelligent of all said mammals and species, therefore we are capable of making more advanced decisions. too bad that power is not always exercised.:(

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:43 pm

Enter your comments here

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
1:44 pm

One of my flirtin’ ass co-worker just told me to make sure to tell TheDude that “he shole is lucky to have YOU!”

Whoever really passes THAT message along?

DreamsMaterialize

March 19th, 2010
1:44 pm

We also the only ones dying from AIDS
This is because other animals have evolved to adapt to the virus. Cats have evolved to live with FIV.

i'm swiss

March 19th, 2010
1:44 pm

“I’m thinking about going to the Cheetah to watch the games.”

…To watch the games. Yeah, that’s the ticket… The games;-) :lol: I foresee a lot of “taking it to the hole” — I’m talking ’bout going “hard to the rack…” :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:45 pm

Dreams – Exactamundo.. I just hate that chicks know what the business is but will deny deny deny until the end of time.. Im sure every chick has cheated on a dude in their dating cycles but will they ever admit it.. Heyal Naw!!

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
1:46 pm

Men are misunderstood!!

Melo – Ahhhh Honeyboom!!!!!!!

…then had the nerve to put a smiley face next to it.

classic

You are too funny.

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
1:46 pm

it’s a good chance if he’s walking with six women one is his wife pretending to not know the other ones are mistress…and the kids? We all paying for them.

@Luvbug
Believe me they are all wives and they all got to deal with it and if he wanted to add more then he can. Different country, different laws. Over here Jesse James can’t even get a lil booty on the side without everybody in his business.

THE INFAMOUS DK LIVE FROM HEIDELBERG

March 19th, 2010
1:48 pm

Every chick on the blog has cheated on her dude during her dating cycles.. Scuse me.. Jetlag is kicking in..

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
1:48 pm

@SexyC ~ when I was married, I passed that msg along! Sure did.

Melo

March 19th, 2010
1:49 pm

@BlackMagic?

If u aint quenching his sexxual apetite and he stepping out coz of it,it aint cheating…….

Its outsourcing! :lol:

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:49 pm

Infamous, I have never cheated. However I won’t say that I didn’t think about it and actually consider doing it during the relationship I had before the one I am in now.

BlackMagicWoman

March 19th, 2010
1:49 pm

MELO..he is not hurt that he cheated…look how many time and how many women! He is hurt because he got caught and he see half his foutune gone because his infidelity was out out there for the world to see. So there was no denying! He was hurt at teh endorsements that dropped his cheating a$$ because of it! So it has NOTHING to do with love! That is BS!

“I hate when people say “humans are the only species who want to have monogmous sex” …. We also the only ones dying from AIDS”

Tazzee…you had better speak on mama! That is the pure truth! Why are married people still having to get HIV/STD testing. If you take the plunge it is supposed to be a free for all on protection free sex! IfI have ot still worry about catching something…thatis just yet another reason I will stay single. Can’t trust anybody! An apology nor any amount of money will fix my spouse giving me the “monster”!

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
1:50 pm

And some men on the blog is probably still cheating!!!

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
1:50 pm

One of my flirtin’ ass co-worker just told me to make sure to tell TheDude that “he shole is lucky to have YOU!”

How the hell does he really know? That is so lame.

Leggs

March 19th, 2010
1:52 pm

SexyCool...(In need of a weekend)

March 19th, 2010
1:52 pm

My response was “Actually, I’m lucky to have him.”

Luvbug

March 19th, 2010
1:53 pm

Dig That – I believe that they are all wives. I was joking that men do the same thing here but only claim one wife, knock up the other women and leave the kids to be assisted through society.

If you’re not already aware, I’m no comedian…but it don’t stop me from cracking myself up. :lol:

Raqi...Two Hours Late

March 19th, 2010
1:54 pm

Tazzee, you should have known someone would find a way to say animals are just as bad off as we are.

Dig That

March 19th, 2010
1:54 pm

And some men on the blog is probably still cheating!!!

What if we got Tiger Woods disease? And just need some ointment to cure us?