I’m not normally a fan of laying out “rules of dating”, but sometimes you have to draw the line in the sand! I think it would be a great public service for the single people to put down some hard and fast rules about texting. Enough is enough, people.
When we discussed people who were “textually active” we acknowledged that times have changed and we simply communicate differently. I can adapt, to a degree. Sadly, you give some of us an inch and we’ll take a mile. You let one text message to arrange a meet up location pass, the next thing you know your entire relationship is mired in SMS messages. No bueno.
One reader wrote me voicing her frustration with her recent experience with a text offender:
“I received a text saying he would love to see my legs again (met while dancing) and asked if I could come over to his place tonight. I sent him a text back saying why is it I get all these texts from him but he doesn’t feel like going anywhere and getting to know me a little better.”
Ah yes, classic text offender behavior. Text messaging has all but given lazy daters a tactic to hide behind. Trouble is, you’re not fooling anyone. People can still tell when you are giving half -efforts. If anything, the text messages prove that you would rather fumble with your keypad instead of taking mere seconds to dial a number and speak like humans should.
When should you draw the line? In the past, I have tried ignoring the texts, using slightly rude and passive aggressive replies, or my favorite – put them on my cell phone’s registered text offender list. This basically means the guy gets listed as DNA: do NOT answer.
How bad has it been for you? Have you noticed that those who claim not to be “phone” people sure take to the blasted thing when it comes to texting all the time. Do you call the person on it?
Guys would you think a woman was being inflexible and inpatient if she ruled out your dating through text messages? Have you ever been hit with a barrage of texts from a woman you are dating? How did you handle it?
What rules would you like to see imposed about texting? You know you want to!