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Do dating leagues exist?

I saw the trailer for the film, She’s Out of My League, yesterday and I wondered if “dating league” was making a come back in our dating lexicon.  I hadn’t used the term in ages because I think a lot of single people have become slightly narcissistic enough to think we can date pretty much anyone we want!
Do you think we have huge egos and believe there is no such thing as “in the same league” in terms of who is within our reach?
Have you ever been apprehensive about seeing someone because you thought they were out of your league or vice versa?
If we actually buy in to the theory of dating leagues, what kind of things would  put someone out of your league, so to speak?
How would one really determine the type of person we “deserve” to date?

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Melo

March 15th, 2010
3:00 pm

I’m gonna recommend a church that you’ll probably like

@KP

I told u i like United methodist down my road—-i dont go every sunday

I like the seventh day adventist my family goes to—–i dont go evry saturday

I like the church some of my african brethern go to.. in jonesbro..i go there occassionally on sundays….

all good churches in their own way in different ways…but i go when i feel like…..

and they dont fundraise nor do the pastors live extravagantly like I was observing,no wonder im comfortable with them somewhat.

If things change,they kiss my azz!

I try to be good every day,to my neighbors etc…..

ALL I can do

Cemeeli

March 15th, 2010
3:01 pm

The test is what you do daily not what you do one day a week.

@ Kym – What cha getting at sis? The “test” is in everything that we do…GOD should be first in ALL things…Not just in good deed.

If the Bali children earn an income…yes they should pay alms there.

You know i have not issue in stating what i believe…let’s get that straight first….okay.

2nd – I don’t have a Heaven or Hell to put none of the Bali, ya’ll, or mine in…soooo if a person don’t believe i don’t force. As Jesus told the people when they were acting like Bilal’s child…

Yes, i will speak to that also. Do not the hyporcrite say to another “they spot is in your eye?”.

Leggs

March 15th, 2010
3:01 pm

Is it the time of the service that’s the problem moreso than the doctrine???

Melo

March 15th, 2010
3:01 pm

@Ared!

Im willing to commit to God in how i conduct myself..not to a church.

lurker

March 15th, 2010
3:01 pm

We should only be concerned about what we do and how we interact and our relationship with God. What others do or seemingly don’t have to do, should have no bearings on my actions.

2 Corinthians
[10] For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad.
[11] Knowing therefore the terror of the Lord, we persuade men;

KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)

March 15th, 2010
3:03 pm

Let’s get one thing correct first.

Christianity is a relationship and not a religion. Those who are Christians have a relationship with Jesus. We DO the things we do because we operate in obedience and through faith.

Our faith initiates the relationship with Him. Our works demonstrate an ability to follow the principles written in God’s Word.

It’s difficult to say you have a relationship with someone and not agree with the principles on which they stand. You cannot be considered one of God’s children until you have a relationship with Him. Until then…you are simply one of His creation. Similar to the man who gets a woman pregnant and leaves…he created the child, but doesn’t have a relationship like a true father would.

Also, the Bible isn’t like Golden Corral where you can pick and choose what you want to believe. You either believe…or you don’t. You can’t simply extract God’s grace, mercy and love without agreeing to the discipline He enforces for our disobedience.

kimmie

March 15th, 2010
3:05 pm

I guess religion is the topic this afternoon.

lurker

March 15th, 2010
3:05 pm

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AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
3:05 pm

Im willing to commit to God in how i conduct myself..not to a church.

That’s what I was saying melo.

I don’t feel any pressure for you to join a church. Like said before, if you ever feel you are lacking or missing something…the church will be there.

My dad spent my childhood only going to church during holidays when my mom asked. Eventually, he felt a urge to start attending again. Now he’s an elder in the church.

A lot of my girlfriends will dismiss a guy who doesn’t attend church regularly. I never do. Everyone has a different path. I can respect that.

lurker

March 15th, 2010
3:05 pm

Nice change up from oversexed.

Melo

March 15th, 2010
3:08 pm

Also, the Bible isn’t like Golden Corral where you can pick and choose what you want to believe

@KP

so why do we have different interpretations based on who is the pastor. and their intentions or motives….??

basically becoz not everybody believes whats in the bible,wholly..we all pick and choose…

@Lurker
things done in his body, according to that he hath done

body means in this lyfetime…not church!

.

Raqi

March 15th, 2010
3:08 pm

Mo, I am drinking a nice cold Pepsi Cola (that’s how my granny used to say it) right now.

Dream_n~ Mordern Day Woman

March 15th, 2010
3:08 pm

KP

There are different Christian Denominations.

KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)

March 15th, 2010
3:08 pm

I’m done with my sermonettes for the day.

On topic…those who separate themselves based on superficial things may have challenges in relationships. It’s no good to pass up someone who may treat you like a king or queen just because they not wear a suit to work or sip Starbucks during a morning briefing at work.

I know some blue collar workers who are gonna make women very happy if they can find ones who aren’t stuck on Benzes and Brooks Brothers. They wear jeans to work, but will cook, open the door for their ladies and care for them like queens.

mytw♥tatas

March 15th, 2010
3:09 pm

Well if you’re a black woman apparently everyone’s out of our Financial league. Ryan Cameron’s talking about some study reporting that the average Black Woman’s worth is $5 or less. Anybody listen from the beginning? I’m wondering who conducted it and tho I don’t even half of em up I gotta review the criterion…

Hope you grown folks are feeling good this fine day.

Raqi

March 15th, 2010
3:10 pm

Property Taxes

Property Insurance

Utilities

Up Keep and Maintenance

Who’s place is it to pay for those things in the church if not those attending? Where do you all think your money goes? If not for the running of the church. Churches are business’ just like others. And most ministers that’s their job. Their only job. Do they not deserve to get paid? They have families to feed and bills to pay. I am not talking about the Creflos and Longs, not that I really care what they do, but I am talking about your everyday ministers that are out to give God’s word and spend their days and nights counseling and ministering. How are they supposed to get by if not from part of the tithes that we pay?

Dream_n~ Mordern Day Woman

March 15th, 2010
3:10 pm

Black Woman’s worth is $5 or less

Oh wow.

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
3:11 pm

mytwo:

Here is a link to the story. My girlfriends and I have been discussing it on Facebook.

http://www.post-gazette.com/pg/10068/1041225-28.stm

kimmie

March 15th, 2010
3:11 pm

I can’t stand Ryan Cameron.

Cemeeli

March 15th, 2010
3:12 pm

@ lurker – All of Pauls episcopals (sp?) are worth a daily look back. Corinth is just one church, that speak slouder in terms of growing faith. The drunkerds, sezzually promiscuous, adulters…and believers all can relate in one book. Love that book.

KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)

March 15th, 2010
3:12 pm

there are various Christian denominations, but that doesn’t take away from what TRUE Christianity is built upon.

TRUE Christianity is based on belief and acceptance of Jesus Christ..PERIOD! (Romans 10:9, 1 John 5:12)

All of the other stuff is what gets us into trouble. If denominations are an issue then find a non-denominational ministry.

Don’t get caught up on rituals…because they come secondary to the RELATIONSHIP which is most important.

SexyCool - About Bidness

March 15th, 2010
3:14 pm

Regardless of the topic, whether is tithes, tipping or teabagging, one thing is obvious – most of the time, we just have to agree to disagree and K.I.M.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 15th, 2010
3:14 pm

They wear jeans to work, but will cook, open the door for their ladies and care for them like queens.

Well said and true no doubt….unfortunately there are a good number of women(not ALL) who look past the blue collar guy cause he isn’t all flashy n whatnot…verything that looks good to you may not necessarily be good for you.

Dream_n~ Mordern Day Woman

March 15th, 2010
3:15 pm

KP

I understand. I just didnt want to confuse people. Because my mom’s side of the family are Christinans, but the call themselves “fire baptized christians”. They have differnt set of rules than some Catholics, Lutherans, or Baptist who all adhere to being Christians also.

Raqi

March 15th, 2010
3:15 pm

Cemeeli and Lurker, I look at church as being a hospital for those (folks like us) that are in need. Just like I have to pay my doctor for his services I have to pay the church for its services. Jesus is a physician. He said so and I believe him.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 15th, 2010
3:15 pm

shoulda been “everything”…but I digress.

KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)

March 15th, 2010
3:17 pm

@Dream_n~ Mordern Day Woman I totally understand. I sometimes spend more time debating with those within than I do those outside.

Melo

March 15th, 2010
3:17 pm

not that I really care what they do

but those are the ones we talking about Raqi?

do they have to move in benzes and bentleys just so they can go to preach and dress in $2000.00 suits so they look good for the congregation.

why dont u all like difficult discussions,instead u want to discuss the easy everyday pastor we know is striving very much to do good?? :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

March 15th, 2010
3:17 pm

KP….the bible has been translated over and over. How do you know if what you read is true? We all know through the years when whomever was in power…if they did not like something they changed it. Or if they wanted to add something they did. Now unless you were there when JC himself walked the earth and witnessed everything…you can not say for sure if what you are reading now is in fact his word. I find contradictions that let me know not all is what it seems. I believe the bible is a great guide…but to say every word in there is God’s own law/words….I would not be able to do that, based on history and the corruption of man. I believe it is a common sense approach. I am not saying twist it to suit your desires. But if something doesn’t make sense to you….question it. I don’t just believe something because Pastor said so. I use the common sense I was given on interpretation of what I believe to be true.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 15th, 2010
3:19 pm

Ryan Cameron’s talking about some study reporting that the average Black Woman’s worth is $5 or less

WTF? See part of me is wondering why he would repeat something like that….then again maybe he’s just tryna get some convo started or something on/ the station.

Give me my Dayum Hour back (not SlimOne)

March 15th, 2010
3:20 pm

Speaking of churches, I received a hand-written postcard from a church in my area saying we miss you and would like for me to come to FRIENDS day later on this month. I don’t believe I’ve ever visited that church….got me looking like this is a setup. Get there and it’ll be some scheme to get a whole bunch of folks to pay for some bill they didn’t pay 38 years ago. lol (go to chuuch and get locked up)

Leggs

March 15th, 2010
3:20 pm

@mytwo, I have that report. Let me try to find it and will send to you. It also states that the the average white woman worth is somewhere in the ballpark of $179,000. I didn’t bring it to this blog cuz I thought it was a report manipulated in a crockpot of shyt!

Dream_n~ Mordern Day Woman

March 15th, 2010
3:21 pm

BlackMagicWoman

I don’t believe GOD will never teach me wrong. SO while the book is a tool to help you throughtout your journey. You should rely on your spirit with whom he communicates with to guide you.

kimmie

March 15th, 2010
3:21 pm

KP – Regarding your post about blue collar works, read my 11:11 post from this morning. Nobody blue collar worker I know has trouble meeting and keeping women. Most women with any sense are happy for a nice guy that is gainfully employed.

Those blue collar guys you know that keep getting passed up – probably need to look in the mirror at themselves. It’s something within THEM and not the color of their collar.

SexyCool - About Bidness

March 15th, 2010
3:22 pm

Well…hell, the other day, I heard someone saying that the Black Man’s average NET worth was $5.

Oh well, guess it depends on who’s doing the study and who’s reading the results on any given day.

SMDH.

Dream_n~ Mordern Day Woman

March 15th, 2010
3:22 pm

*ever

I’m out work calls. Enjoy your evening folks!

Melo

March 15th, 2010
3:24 pm

$5.00??

thats as good as the subway 5 footer?? :lol:

$100.00 net wrth..???

black women…really?

boyii!?

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 15th, 2010
3:25 pm

u so stoopid….go kill yoself

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA RUDE BOI

March 15th, 2010
3:25 pm

She keeps on passing me By

DreamsMaterialize

March 15th, 2010
3:26 pm

I give with a purpose, and if I don’t believe that purpose is being fulfilled, then I’ll give somewhere else or in another way. No way I’m giving to any church, organization, or individual if I think they’re misusing what I’m giving. I need to wait for the Creator to deal with them for their misuse. I can instead choose to give somewhere else.

lurker

March 15th, 2010
3:27 pm

Me too Raqi

Ceemeeli – Yes, those Corinthians were having a hard time at first…as all of us and serves well as an example of overcoming things of things of the flesh.

KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)

March 15th, 2010
3:27 pm

@BlackMagicWoman…GREAT question. After thorough research you can ultimately find out that the Bible has been one of the most accurately translated books of all time. When you take the early Dead Sea scroll manuscripts, you can see that it is written within 99% accuracy to original meaning.

When most people (muslims, buddhists, etc.) argue against the Bible, they usually pick out the things that were based on eyewitness accounts. Does it matter whether Jesus fed 4,000 or 5,000? Not really…because the principle of Him being able to do miraculous things is still supported in either case.

I encourage anyone to get their own understanding and not rely on only the Pastor to spoon feed you. Terminology is usually an excuse for not reading the Bible. However, if you’re able to understand any of the following (smh, ttyl, LOL, ROFL, LMBO, etc.) …there is a Bible available for you to read. You learn what you truly want to understand ;)

Kym-DIYer in Training

March 15th, 2010
3:28 pm

Well as for me, myself and mine..I don’t go cause I like to sleep in on Sundays..I have yet to find a place or a group of people..in many moons that I want to spend that much time..looking at. The last church services I attended I knew I was not going back because of the mass baptism where the people got wet but the pastor didnt…I don’t like any church that says everyone is going to die and go to hell but them..(not very Jesus like to me), or where the phrases..building fund and pastor anniversary are on all the programs.

Lets see or where all pray offerings have a price tag..50.00, 100.00 or higher. I don’t like where they tell people to come up and hug or shake hands with your neighbors(I don’t want you touching me–smile and nod works just fine).

Oh and churchy folks..I don’t like them..those who only identify themselves as members of the church. “My name is Ruth Beth Ann Michaels and I am a member of the deacon board..usher society from the mighty clouds of joy humble pie..do or die church of christ.”

Oh and finally..I can not nor will I ever get with the idea that the only way I can hear from God is thru someone else. Why he/she got to tell you? If I am standing right here and willing to listen..why not tell me? And how do I know you are not lying to me anyway. You can pray with me, for me..but please dont tell me that the only way my pray will be heard is thru you.

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
3:28 pm

Leggs – That $179 was for cohabitating white women. I posted the link above.

And lets face it, whites have had more generational wealth and money to pass on to their children more than black folks have. How many of us grew up with trust funds? Even if the numbers are skewed the fact remains that other races are better about keeping money in the family.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 15th, 2010
3:29 pm

Okay it’s talking about median wealth and the disparity in salaries between white and AA women….but that’s not new.

Cemeeli

March 15th, 2010
3:29 pm

@ Raqi – Church is in me, and where as the ‘church building’ is over there—> somewhere. I bring something to church when i go…first of all i bring worship in my spirit, my love, problems, money, a praise…a praise indeed.

Yes, I believe we do need to go to church to have corporate church/worship/commune/fellowship or any one of the 500 bazillion names we have for corporate worship. The Word says “how can one hear without a preacher?” We have leaders in everything else we…

I listen to the Witness, mormons, mennonites…see, this will take folks (myself for one) that are really seeking wisdom, and understanding beyond their own flesh and carnal mind to appreciate.

kimmie

March 15th, 2010
3:29 pm

DK – When guys in prison can get play, and you are out here free with a steady job and keep getting passed by, somethings wrong.

JMHO

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
3:29 pm

$179,000 that is.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA RUDE BOI

March 15th, 2010
3:30 pm

My name is Ruth Beth Ann Michaels and I am a member of the deacon board..usher society from the mighty clouds of joy humble pie..do or die church of christ.”

Bwah ha ha ha ha… You aint right but that was funny.. Do or Die church of christ.. Dang..

KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)

March 15th, 2010
3:30 pm

Uh oh…the MIA boogie monster ate my last post. I’m done for today!

Glad to resurface for the day. Didn’t mean to hijack the topic, but it was Melo’s fault. Back to lurkville for KP!