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Do dating leagues exist?

I saw the trailer for the film, She’s Out of My League, yesterday and I wondered if “dating league” was making a come back in our dating lexicon.  I hadn’t used the term in ages because I think a lot of single people have become slightly narcissistic enough to think we can date pretty much anyone we want!
Do you think we have huge egos and believe there is no such thing as “in the same league” in terms of who is within our reach?
Have you ever been apprehensive about seeing someone because you thought they were out of your league or vice versa?
If we actually buy in to the theory of dating leagues, what kind of things would  put someone out of your league, so to speak?
How would one really determine the type of person we “deserve” to date?

369 comments Add your comment

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
1:37 pm

I think life has made me very cynical. I am am weary of a lot of things and now question everything I was taught to believe!

Life can do that sometimes, BlackMagic! We do the best we can with the cards we’re given.

Leggs

March 15th, 2010
1:38 pm

No one can pressure me into giving that which I do not have. I tithe what fits my wallet. My duty is to tithe and what they do with the funds will be something they have to reckon with God. You take care of your end and God will take care of the back end (jokey jokes, Melo)!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA RUDE BOI

March 15th, 2010
1:38 pm

Illiogical Idiot.. Yes I’ll keep toying with you.. You Laughable Loon.. If you kiss me girl I’ll kiss you back.. I told you I love your stankin A$$.. The good thing is we think of each other all the time.. Read you in a minute you Baby.. ;-)

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
1:39 pm

No one can pressure me into giving that which I do not have.

Leggs – That’s why I like my Pastor. He makes a brief mention of our obligation at the time, then often he’ll say but do NOT put in the rent money, or the baby’s milk money, just to say you’ve tithed! :lol:

Leggs

March 15th, 2010
1:40 pm

I meant NO JOKEY JOKES, MELO!!

lurker

March 15th, 2010
1:40 pm

And another AMEN to that 1:36. I think it bears repeating.

It’s interesting to see how we are willing to stay at concerts, sporting events and plays begging for more time and entertainment, while the church must be done in an hour. It’s interesting to see how we want to regulate what Pastors do with their income even when many of them give money, cars and rent/mortgage payments to many of their members. Should there be a cap on the income of pastors who function as the leader of entities that operate in a business fashion? Do you regulate your doctor’s income? Do you regulate your lawyer’s income? Do you want anyone regulating what you need to do with your pre-established income?

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA RUDE BOI

March 15th, 2010
1:40 pm

If you have a proven pastor and he gets the numbers of the church up when the doors were about to close then he should be compensated.. Now do he need a Bentley or a private jet?? Naw not really..

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
1:42 pm

If you kiss me girl I’ll kiss you back..

Uh…again…no one was talking about you or thinking of you today. Who peed in your Cheerios this morning? Apperently you just need someone to bully.

Cuz last week you were all about ignoring me. How quickly things change. Po thang. Pick a side and personality, please. :lol:

SexyCool - About Bidness

March 15th, 2010
1:44 pm

Have we now put worship on the level of entertainment? Comparing it to movies/concerts/ballgames?

kinderbabe

March 15th, 2010
1:44 pm

it’s always interesting to hear that tithing doesn’t have to be in the form of money but it’s the first thing that we want more of…lol. give as you would want to be given.

Kym-DIYer in Training

March 15th, 2010
1:46 pm

Look here..I know folks who will tithe on Sunday and kick a hobo on Monday..paying your tithe and going to church do not the righteous make..nor is it the key to some good fortune and wealth. It is really all about personal relationship..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA RUDE BOI

March 15th, 2010
1:48 pm

I felt like F’n with you today.. I F with you when I feel like it and when I dont I ignore you.. I love it. The bully cant take it when you hit em in the mouth and you my dear are getting punched in the mouth live on the blog.. I only spank you cause I love you my dear.. I have to decipline you for your tomfoolery.. Dont worry I’ll be ignoring you in about 13 more minutes at 2:00 then I’ll mess with you again around 3.. Ok.

Melo

March 15th, 2010
1:48 pm

doctors and corporations etc are for profit entities

so are pastors??…..I didnt realize that altho it is apparent based on their lyfestyles!.

No wonder i dont give those suckers money…

Leeches!

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
1:48 pm

kick a hobo tho? :lol:

Leggs

March 15th, 2010
1:48 pm

@SexyC ~ believe they’re only comparing the amount of “time” we’re willing to give. No one quibbles over standing on their feet for 4 hours at a concert, screaming at the top of their lungs for an encore, but to sit in church for more than 1.5 makes some antsy and even get a little ticked that Jesus hasn’t left the building.

kinderbabe

March 15th, 2010
1:48 pm

KP–i attend the kind of church that is very open about where the money goes. tithing is an act of giving back to the source of our supply. sometimes i think we get to caught up in what’s happening to the money. would God stop supplying us w/money knowing how much of it is spent trivially?? lol i’m glad that’s not the case b/c of lot of us would have parched pockets.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA RUDE BOI

March 15th, 2010
1:49 pm

Tithing doesnt have to be money you can tithe your time or your talents.

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
1:50 pm

you my dear are getting punched in the mouth live on the blog..

Uh…no I am not. How is that determined anyway, but saying silly ish to me? Come on man…MAKE SENSE.

And what a thing to be proud of if I were. You need a life. :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA RUDE BOI

March 15th, 2010
1:52 pm

PAstors arent supposed to be in it for the money but at the end of the day their soul will be required in hell for doing that dirt. You cant worry about what the preacher is doing, just find a church that you feel comfortable being in and the word touches you the way you need to hear it. Do what your heart tells you to do and the rest will be ok..

Leggs

March 15th, 2010
1:54 pm

“…find a church that you feel comfortable being in and the word touches you the way you need to hear it.”

Yes indeed, yes indeed. And that right there is why I don’t mind traveling to my church’s destination and truly miss when I can’t make it.

lurker

March 15th, 2010
1:54 pm

The point is, in bringing up entertainment is that we never tire of doing those things we want for hours or days at a time but to give a little of you time to attend church has become such a inconvenience. I tell you though, funny how we make jokes about God and giving and remarks about clergymen but God is ALWAYS the first we call upon in the time of trouble. I tell, he ain’t exactly happy about that either. It doesn’t please him to call or pray when you need him and things aren’t right but when you’re up and thriving and life is good the question is always God who? He ain’t happy with that I tell ya.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 15th, 2010
1:55 pm

Do what your heart tells you to do and the rest will be ok..

Plain and simple….

SexyCool - About Bidness

March 15th, 2010
1:56 pm

Well…I don’t stand at a concert for four hours m’self. And since I talk to Jesus everyday, I don’t need to be in church for hours on end just to prove I know Him.

I’m way more concerned with the fact that He hears from me often enough to recognize my voice when I call Him rather than log in a certain number of hours in a building somewhere.

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
1:56 pm

I tell you though, funny how we make jokes about God and giving and remarks about clergymen but God is ALWAYS the first we call upon in the time of trouble.

Whew…we having Church up in here. Which is good, cuz I did indeed miss service this past Sunday. :lol:

KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)

March 15th, 2010
1:58 pm

Drop $50 to get into a Diddy All-White party
Drop $300 on a bar tab at the club
Drop $100+ to get into a Jay Z, Maxwell or Jill Scott concert

Drop $5 into the church offering and get mad about it…LOL

If you don’t feel comfortable at your church…find a new one as has been stated. There are churches that teach (meaning they don’t whoop). There are smaller churches so you can feel more personally connected. There are churches that fit many of our desires if we’d only look.

It’s like searching for those shoes to match your outfit. You’ll go shopping at 10 different malls, fight through traffic to do so and pay top dollar to make sure your fit has it going on. It’s important to do the same to find a place that feeds your spirit.

SexyCool - About Bidness

March 15th, 2010
1:58 pm

I heard Ryan Cameron use an interesting term recently…keyboard courage. I immediately thought of this blog.
:)
LOL!

BlackMagicWoman

March 15th, 2010
1:59 pm

KP…no we do not regulate the Dr. or Lawyers salary…but we do not see them on a weekly basis. Nor are we threatened with Hell to pay if we don’t pay. Granted they can take you to court or whatever. But hardly a comparison!
As far a a concert or a movie. I am actually seeing something move and entertain. Listening to someone speak for a long time just puts me to sleep. If the movie is boring or lasts too long, it does the same thing. Doesn’t mean that I am any less of a believer. I just comprehend differently. I don’t need you to read over the announcements that every person has in their hands (via programs) and can read for themselves….that saves 20 minutes! I am all for praise and worship…but sing the 5 minute song and be done…no need for all 5 of your songs to have encores….twice!

Dream_n~ Mordern Day Woman

March 15th, 2010
1:59 pm

It’s not about the length of hours you spend in church, its about applying his word to your life.

Funny how people want to critcize others about their view on church, but want to endorse his word at the same time. A sin is a sin is a sin.

kinderbabe

March 15th, 2010
1:59 pm

lurker…you ain’t lyin.:) have a great rest of the day everyone.

Melo

March 15th, 2010
2:00 pm

In the old days, pastors would walk on foot to reach their sheep.That was commitment and dedication
Not so these days.They want pvt jets and bentleys and beemas.

I wonder if one really needs a bentley to move from larencville to Lithonia to go preach to folks or heal and pray for the sick or a chevy or honda will do just fine?????

That is the image I have a problem with and to say just give ur money to that thief,willingly,the rest will take care of itslef is kinda unreal.

I have a problem with willingly parting with my money then screaming later…I HAD A SUSPICION! :lol:

Leggs

March 15th, 2010
2:02 pm

@lurker ~ main reason why I thank God for just being. For the good I have in my life and the fact that I woke in the morning. I gets down on my knees and say “thank you” daily for so many richs and mental comfort I presently have. It is not good just to call on him in your sorrowful time of need. Much like telling someone you love them after they die. Tell them now, while they can hear it!!!!

lurker

March 15th, 2010
2:02 pm

For anybody that doesn’t know, there is a structure to worshipping and a portion of that in the scripture says, fail not to assembly yourselves together, another says how can you hear without a preacher. In order for God to “hear” you and you known to him as “his child”, you must at least be willing and do and in line with the lay out. Not that you can’t pray outside of a sanctuary but if you cannot do the simple things laid out and give a little (not money) then…..

KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)

March 15th, 2010
2:03 pm

@SexyCool…I’m glad you feel connected to Jesus. Just remember…Jesus also represents giving. Meaning giving our time, talent and treasure. It also means giving of yourself to encourage other saints. The word mentions that we should NOT forsake the assembly of the saints. (Hebrews 10:25)

We attend church in order to receive a Word that will get you through the week, but to also serve as source of encouragement for those who also assemble with us. You may walk through the doors and have just the right word of encouragement for someone who is going through something you’ve already gone through. Or you may be able to offer a hug or smile that may get someone through their day.

Just a thought to consider…

Kym-DIYer in Training

March 15th, 2010
2:03 pm

It is my personally belief that tithing is not about money. I know what I have asked of the Almighty and it has never been money or stuff. I asked for comfort..to be able to provide for myself and my son and to have good people around us. That request has been met in spades. I don’t normally testify on the goodness on this here blog..cause I don’t like all this my preachy–my pastor can beat your pastor in a holy roll showdown stuff..but I do follow the rule of Loving my neighbor as I love myself. That means..to me all my neighbors.

I am sorry but I can’t bring myself to buy into the idea of the celestial secured card. We are suppose to simple treat each other right all the time..respect our planet..care for our sick and hunger and lost. Droping a check off in a plate so I can get something back sounds like more like blackmail. Besides I was taught you give out of the goodness of your heart..NOT expecting a thang in return.

When I hear folks say well I paid my tithes why am I still struggling? or I am a good Christian why is this happening to me? I always go back to something a friend said to me once..Why not you? You think that because you pay or you pray..you are suppose to be exempt from life’s struggles? I was always taught it is through the struggle you gain strength. So why should by virtue of joining a church and paying tithes you should be exempt from that struggle? You go through trials so you can have that to share with someone else who is going through.

Leggs

March 15th, 2010
2:04 pm

@KP ~ I thought only lil chillin drop $5 in church these days…not grown folk.

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
2:05 pm

Not so these days.They want pvt jets and bentleys and beemas.

Gosh melo, you are talking about like .05% of the preacher population with the private jets and bentleys! Come one. There are so many more humble and grounded preachers then ones that require excess.

Even though I’m from a large city, I grew up in a church that had no more than 50 members at any given time. Talk about a humble life! Even if all 50 of us tithes, he couldn’t get a beemer out of it! :lol:

KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)

March 15th, 2010
2:05 pm

@Melo…there are hundreds of thousands of preachers out there who don’t have bentleys or beemas. Stop focusing on the minority because it jacks up your perspective.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 15th, 2010
2:06 pm

…keyboard courage. I immediately thought of this blog.

True that….

Kym-DIYer in Training

March 15th, 2010
2:06 pm

Yeah KP but many are called..few… very few are chosen.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA RUDE BOI

March 15th, 2010
2:07 pm

Lurker – Good show ol chap.. I used to feel the same way about church pastors and such but one day I woke and knew something was missing.. Money couldnt take care of it, sex couldnt take care of it and hanging out couldnt cure it. I found myself wandering in the church one morning like Goldie and been there every Sunday since.. It has helped me tremendously just because its always good to hear kind words that uplift the spirit.. A message that speaks directly to you when you need it. Yeah its a beautiful thang..

Leggs

March 15th, 2010
2:07 pm

What people fail to realize is God may not answer when you call on him, but he will answer on his own time. His time and our time is not sychronized, and never will be.

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
2:07 pm

I always go back to something a friend said to me once..Why not you?

Kym – I say this to myself all the time. And especially when bad things happen, to myself or someone else. I know that it could easily be me!

SexyCool - About Bidness

March 15th, 2010
2:08 pm

@KP – I have not entered this discussion from the *money* standpoint. I mean, really, who am I to tell another person what to do with their finances.

I was just making an observation about the seeming comparison to entertainment. Is church entertainment or is it a duty that is to be fulfilled like going to work everyday?

Hell, I don’t have the answers. I just have questions.

lurker

March 15th, 2010
2:09 pm

Dream_n, it’s not criticizing but most folks do everything on an assumption and assume I’ll just do what feels good and what works for me. There is order to God and most folks that get offended does so because they’re ignorant to what God requires. Yes, he’s loving and forgiving and omnipotent but he has rules and standards and guidelines and structure. Half the world going to hell in a handbasket because half the world don’t know what God requires. Those “thou shalt nots…” weren’t given just to be given. They’re required but the only way to keep those is by living in the through the body of Christ. I can say all day long I don’t have nor committed fornication but if I think on those things, I’m just as guilty. So for those folks that are “saved” without Jesus, it is what it is. Not going to change. You can only be saved through Christ. Not on your own, not by what you think not by what works for you not but what feels good but by what’s required. Sorry if anyone is offended but it’s the truth. It’s not judging. It’s stated and a known fact, for those that know. Like I said most folks that get offended are those that don’t know. If I commit adultery and my pastor tells me “according to the Word of God, that’s sin”, why would I be offended. He’s only relay what’s written and was given. Doesn’t make him perfect, doesn’t make him judgemental. If he committed the same, doesn’t justify me induldging.

KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)

March 15th, 2010
2:10 pm

BlackMagicWoman…find another ministry because not ALL ministries associate tithing with you going to hell. Not ALL churches sing the extended remix to each song LOL. Not ALL churches hold you hostage like my lil’ baptist church did when I was growing up. I have recommendations for ministries that may fit your wishlist. I’ll be happy to share.

Melo

March 15th, 2010
2:10 pm

Stop focusing on the minority because it jacks up your perspective

@KP….so I take we have weeded out the ones with bentleys and beemas as not authentic pastors but fraudsters??

then we can go on to the next lot??

?????

For Real

March 15th, 2010
2:10 pm

What up Blog Fam!

On topic: Lets face it may be PC-incorrect but the fact remains that some people are better than others.

Church: FREE WILL!!!!! You manage yours and I’ll manage mines!!!

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
2:12 pm

but the fact remains that some people are better than others.

:lol:

KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)

March 15th, 2010
2:12 pm

@Kym-DIYer in Training….so true.

lurker

March 15th, 2010
2:13 pm

Ain’t that the truth Infamous. When something is missing and you know something is missing and your inclination is to search for God, that’s God calling you. That’s a great state and place to be in. If you search for him, he’ll find you.