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Do dating leagues exist?

I saw the trailer for the film, She’s Out of My League, yesterday and I wondered if “dating league” was making a come back in our dating lexicon.  I hadn’t used the term in ages because I think a lot of single people have become slightly narcissistic enough to think we can date pretty much anyone we want!
Do you think we have huge egos and believe there is no such thing as “in the same league” in terms of who is within our reach?
Have you ever been apprehensive about seeing someone because you thought they were out of your league or vice versa?
If we actually buy in to the theory of dating leagues, what kind of things would  put someone out of your league, so to speak?
How would one really determine the type of person we “deserve” to date?

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Kym-DIYer in Training

March 15th, 2010
12:08 pm

@Melo

For those of us who are among the employed we have to be most thankful everyday. Believe me..what is going on with others we come into contact is not pretty. There are many who are struggling and not sure where their next quarter is coming from. Hell I am am trying to stay afloat myself. Grocery prices going up and my kid insist on eating.

Jeff

March 15th, 2010
12:09 pm

What I’m sayin is I can’t expect a woman to take me seriously as a lifetime mate when I’m in my thug-ness one day and then showing up a church Sun acting like I got the faith.

But I get your point. I’m talking about the extremes that you see when you know they’re “colon swollen” (I’m gonna steal that).

I am whatever you say I am

March 15th, 2010
12:12 pm

Leggs: didn’t hear his voice: he sent text.
Also I was typing a text to someone when his text popped up
Scared the beejesus out of me.
I called a friend before responding.
So if anything, the text did confirm I don’t have feelings.

Leggs

March 15th, 2010
12:14 pm

@i am ~ sorry, you did say text. I would think you calling a friend to ask whether you should respond confirmed your feelings.

I am whatever you say I am

March 15th, 2010
12:14 pm

Random thought:

I really want to go back to church but when I did go, it was money this and money that, and I am still trying to figure out what cause they were needing the money for.
I was very turned off my the “motivational” video of the pastor in his house, overlooking the pool in front of the baby grand piano talking about how much more we can do if we all commit to pledge $200-$300/month

…time for me to find a new church

I am whatever you say I am

March 15th, 2010
12:15 pm

typo: my = by

I am whatever you say I am

March 15th, 2010
12:16 pm

Leggs: I new how I felt, I just wanted to know whether or not to respond. I should have listened to my gut and just ignored

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
12:18 pm

…time for me to find a new church

:idea: Keep visiting churches til you find one that “fits.” Like anything else in life.

SexyCool - About Bidness

March 15th, 2010
12:20 pm

I am – I disagree. The text confirms that he can still knock you off balance a bit. And that’s okay. Getting over someone doesn’t happen overnight. Once you become indifferent to a text when it comes through, that’s when you’ll know you’re really over it. Until then, it’s just a part of life. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone by declaring the state of your feelings. Just let sht flow and take it as it comes.

That being said…while I can appreciate the technological advances that this day and age has brought to us. Iam’s dilemma brings up an unwanted consequence to the advance of tools like voice mail and text messages.

When it comes to JUST a phone call, you don’t have to answer. You can better control a person’s intrusion into your existence/thoughts, etc. With something like a text message, they are just there and it’s not quite as easy to ignore.

And I’m sure I could type more to make this a more complete thought, but…I think ya’ get what I’m saying.

Goodsmack01

March 15th, 2010
12:28 pm

I am….. if you’re over the X, then what’s the problem…… if it’s his key he wants, mail it back to him or drop it over his mom’s, sister, brother……. aunt, uncle,or cousin’s place and move on. Hanging on to it, only shows you’re still hung up on the dude and refusing to let go…… if it’s not a problem, you’d be chumping at the bit to return whatever it is you have of his.

Melo

March 15th, 2010
12:31 pm

Leggs?

Im looking for a deal at the right price. I looked at some property 2 weeks back but it didnt seem right,accoring to my situation and then saw some thing better the follwing week..todays headline makes me think the prices are going lower so the bottom aint here yet!

Im still hopeful for a steal! and really happy about that.

@Kym

A lot of folks took helocs to finance furniture and blink which they didnt have to and others boght waaaay more house than they cld afford just to show off.

Its coming back to bite their azzes.

I have a sister in law that boght a nice house in suwanee..she was a mortgage broker and used fake stuff and other mortgage shenanegands to get there….all that came down tumbling on her…sucker indeed. And she was one of those who wld say,”oh,so and so aint in my league”

No political correct talk for her! :lol:

I dont have sympathy for folks who take on those risks coz really, investment,whether in a home or otherwise,entails risk.

U gotta know that be4 going in.

lurker

March 15th, 2010
12:32 pm

I AM – I received 3 text messages from someone that I had a HUGE falling out with a couple of years ago and he’s pretty much been “around” for the last year. When I say been around, I even caught his voice in my voicemail while out on vacation but I don’t think he realized his voice was caught….I have never said anything about…just kept it moving. While I can say he got waaaay under my skin and I have been strong enough to resist and not acknowledge anything in the last year, the 3 text messages were about the most direct thing he’s done in the last year…that was about a month ago. When I got the text messages I responded but not the way he probably thought I would. While he never acknowledged it being “him”, I know it was. I think he did it like that because he wasn’t sure how I’d respond. First was “can we meet”, next was “we just need to talk and work things out” and lastly “it is important we stay friends.” I was taken aback a bit and honestly want to talk but because he’s gotta do better with that approach. We aren’t kids. I only responded asking the person to let me know who it was but I wouldn’t bite. I have a hunch he’s not gone but looking for another avenue in approaching. But I too found out, I still have feelings.

lurker

March 15th, 2010
12:34 pm

“but because he’s gotta do better with that approach, I ain’t budging”

should have been the entire statement.

Goodsmack01

March 15th, 2010
12:35 pm

Iam……. you must be fairly young…… I would encourage you to go to bible study if you don’t already……….. I’m not sure what the nature of the “giving” is but if it’s paying tithes….. I’ll tell you, you’ll have to become more comfortable about the issue of money and church. The Bible says 10%, you’re obligated to that……..anything beyond that is optional…

BlackMagicWoman

March 15th, 2010
12:37 pm

Kindly please stop stealing my catchphrase…..”Swollen colon”! Thank you! :lol: I’m just kidding! It’s funny to hear/read somebody else saying it! I am so creative I tell ya! :lol:

Randy…it’s good thing that that sorority girl dumped you. You wouldn’t want a girl who can’t think for herself or who doesn’t know when to tell somebody to mind their own business and kizz their a$$ now would you?

BlackMagicWoman

March 15th, 2010
12:43 pm

Goodsmack01…I’d rather give my money to an organization where I can see it work. I do not like going to churches because I do not need a sermon telling me constantly. But then says God loves a cheerful giver. Hwo can I be cheerful if going to church is like going to a club. If I feel like I can’t go to church because I have no money there is a problem. Cheerful would be if I gave because I felt it to do so in my heart..not because the plate goes around 3 times and I feel pressured to donate. It bothers me to see a pastor in a $2,000 suit who keeps speaking of tithing to a congregation who is worried about I know I need to pay my power bill, car note, rent, etc…..but I need to tithe. I understand tithing is a sacrifice…but some things are common sense. You can’t give what you don’t have. Try telling GA power you can’t pay them because you paid tithes. I guess candlelight isn’t so bad huh!

lurker

March 15th, 2010
12:46 pm

You can’t give what you don’t have….

I disagree. You have because God gave/gives. If you have a job, it was the blessing of God. You should NATURALLY, out of gratitude give back. The more you give (to God), the more you stand to get. Your problem should never be the preacher and what’s he’s getting or doing with the money. You’re gift of tithes is to God. If the pastor does wrong by the money, he becomes accountable to God.

lurker

March 15th, 2010
12:47 pm

The scripture takes you even further…give as you prosper.

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
12:49 pm

I do not like going to churches because I do not need a sermon telling me constantly.

Hwo can I be cheerful if going to church is like going to a club.

It bothers me to see a pastor in a $2,000 suit who keeps speaking of tithing to a congregation who is worried about I know I need to pay my power bill, car note, rent, etc…..but I need to tithe.

Excuses
Excuses
Excuses

So find a church that does none of the above. They’re out there.

Melo

March 15th, 2010
12:52 pm

Your problem should never be the preacher and what’s he’s getting or doing with the money

Can I have some money 4 lunch Lurker??(u be giving to me not but to God) :lol:

I agree with u BlackMagicWoman,give to a charity of ur choice than to somebody’s church that u dont agree with.

BlackMagicWoman

March 15th, 2010
12:58 pm

I prefer to give my money elsewhere that does actually help people. I do tithe when I go. I have visited many churches and not one really keeps my interest. The only one that does a even a wee bit is First Baptist. I like a pastor who I can understand. Screaming and singing your words does not drive them home any better. Just speak….I get it! And each song should not be 15 minutes long….all 5 of them! I’m a singer but good grief….just sing the song and move on. I think the one thing I like about Mass in the Catholic church…I am finished in an hour. No time for my ADD to kick in. There is no reason for 2 hours + services. I get so bored I forgot the message. I study different religions and they have some valid points and some (I know this was made up by man because it makes no sense) points!

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
1:02 pm

Screaming and singing your words does not drive them home any better. Just speak….I get it! And each song should not be 15 minutes long….all 5 of them!

I don’t like those churches either. So I don’t go to them. *shrugs*

My church starts at 11 and is out by 1, which is two hours.

I don’t do the excuses thing. Church was something I chose to commit to, so I kept searching til I found the right fit.

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
1:03 pm

I prefer to give my money elsewhere that does actually help people.

And it’s funny how one thinks the church doesn’t do this. :lol:

kinderbabe

March 15th, 2010
1:05 pm

i am sorry to hear that some have had negative experiences w/churches and their purpose. i recently (in the past 10 years) have become involved with a church and the practice of tithing. i never looked at it as giving money to “the church” but instead keeping the good that has been giving to me circulating. there are very real needs that my church has like a mortgage, electricity, gas, etc. there is also a wonderful staff we have that needs to be paid. i am proud to say that i am helping to keep that going so that we can continue to reach out to our community and beyond. tithing is simply a way of acknowledging the source not keeping someone’s pockets lined. giving to charities is also a great way to give of your time, resources and talent.

I am whatever you say I am

March 15th, 2010
1:06 pm

I don’t have a problem with tithes.
I do have a problem with someone dictating that we should be giving $200-$300 per month without directly telling me where the money is going all the while stating their point from a photo shoot taken outside their house overlooking their crystal clear pool with the preacher in front of the baby grand piano.
WTF?

Melo

March 15th, 2010
1:07 pm

United Methodist down the roadby my house is out in 45 minites. I grew up united methodist..

I dont like the 1 hr + messages either.Then the extra hanging around stuff..good grief..

Thats why dont go to church that much…..

Thas my EXCUSE…

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA RUDE BOI

March 15th, 2010
1:13 pm

At this stage of the game you are old enough to date who ever wants to date you.. Yeah some chicks think their ish doesnt stink when their bout a buck 05 soaking wet, attitudes are terrible and arent quality babes because they are so black and ugly on the inside the outside doesnt even matter.. You have to overlook them dumb broads.. The vast majority of women out there who are mature understand that at the age we are now.. If a person treats you the way you need to be treated then all the rest will fall into place. People are soooo caught up on superficial ish but it all shakes out in the end and who will be for you will be..

kinderbabe

March 15th, 2010
1:14 pm

@I am…i agree. no one should dictate what you do w/your resources.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA RUDE BOI

March 15th, 2010
1:18 pm

As far as church tithes go.. You give to your church and if they miss use the funds its their soul that has to deal with that not yours because you were faithful with your tithes.. I actually used to feel the same way but when I started to go to Beulah I felt ok with giving the money because it always came back somehow during the week.. Or shall I say the Lord provided..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA RUDE BOI

March 15th, 2010
1:19 pm

Oh yeah Hey Everybody!!

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
1:19 pm

Thas my EXCUSE…

Yup, sure is.

lurker

March 15th, 2010
1:21 pm

Amen to that 1:18

kinderbabe

March 15th, 2010
1:22 pm

@Infamous…i agree. whenever you give to someone or something, it’s up to them to deal w/how they use it. fortunately, my church is open about how they spend money and what it’s for. all i can do is trust that they are being truthful. as you said, if not, that’s up to them to deal with. i have done my part.

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
1:23 pm

Infamous sounds bitter as hell in his 1:13. Someone give him some Xanax or something. :lol:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 15th, 2010
1:23 pm

If a person treats you the way you need to be treated then all the rest will fall into place. People are soooo caught up on superficial ish but it all shakes out in the end and who will be for you will be..

Dat’s di trut ya chattin’ Rude Boi….seen?! ;)

I am whatever you say I am

March 15th, 2010
1:24 pm

I do believe in giving and I do give when I can but $200-$300 is way out of my budget..
I just don’t like the pressure to give what I don’t have.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA RUDE BOI

March 15th, 2010
1:24 pm

Dumb Girl.. Shut it up.. That was for you my love..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit :-)

March 15th, 2010
1:27 pm

Random thought:

Shyt don’t stink til you stir it up so why bother?…. :???:

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
1:27 pm

No shyt Shirlock. You’re the one still concerned about me month after month.

Funny thing is…with all this venom you spit towards me, you have the nerve to talk about attitude. How do you think you look everytime you focus on attempts to disrespect me.

Common sense for $200 Alex. :lol:

lurker

March 15th, 2010
1:27 pm

Amen Sassy…PLEASE DON’T FEEL THE TROLL!

kinderbabe

March 15th, 2010
1:28 pm

@Iam…i understand that totally. you know your budget and what is required to meet your responsibilities. being a cheerful giver is key. it took me some years to work my way up to literally giving 10% of what i make. had to clear out some things (debt) that were keeping me from “freeing” up 10% of my budget. whatever you give, give it with love.:)

Melo

March 15th, 2010
1:28 pm

@Infamous, I think its misuse for a pastor to be rich on congregants money!

bentleys,beemas,jets and designer suits on congregants pityful money!

HELL NAW

I wld rather be blind and stupid,

Than have eye Vision but be Blind and Stupid!

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
1:29 pm

Shyt don’t stink til you stir it up so why bother?….

Maybe I should change my screen name to “Obsession.” :lol:

We were having a lovely blog day weren’t we, Sassy. ;)

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA RUDE BOI

March 15th, 2010
1:30 pm

Batty Broad.. Please.. I do this for kicks and giggles.. You put it out there so you have to be able to take it.. Sweetheart.. Its a great day to F with ARED.. I dunno.. I know what it is I love you.. I love your stankin a$$

I am whatever you say I am

March 15th, 2010
1:32 pm

Also, I don’t feel that giving always has to be in the $$$ form.
I get great joy in donating my used clothes, furniture, baby items, etc..
I love watching the recipients faces light up.

AmazonRed™

March 15th, 2010
1:32 pm

What I put out there is all a figment of your delusional mind, Infamous. But keep going, again you just look foolish, which was never a stretch :lol: . No one was even talking to you or about you today, and you come in thinking of me.

I’ll keep up the good work. :D

I am whatever you say I am

March 15th, 2010
1:33 pm

….going on nap….

BlackMagicWoman

March 15th, 2010
1:34 pm

I think life has made me very cynical. I am am weary of a lot of things and now question everything I was taught to believe! I can really see how someone can become Atheist. Not that I am…but I understand. I know I get tired of people thinking Pastors are the know all of everything. Your Pastor can not help you if you are clinically depressed, or schizophrenic, Bipolar, etc. I think I am just weary of all the faith and belief that is supposed to be into a made man organization.

I feel a spiritual relationship is personal. A person can go to church every Sunday for service…every Wednesday night for bible study and still be the biggest hypocrites. I have seen the Devil with my own eyes quote scriptures. So that goes to show perfect attendance and all the accompanies it does not make you any closer to God than the one who prays often. Do what they can to help others and truly gives from their heart even when they hardly have it to give. I find that Hosea feed the hungry sticks out to me and that is where I like to give my money, or to St. Jude’s because it helps kids…regardless of their parents ability to pay for the most part.

Kym-DIYer in Training

March 15th, 2010
1:35 pm

How in the world did ya’ll get on tithing? You can tithe without having a church home..giving back to others does not have to be monetary. I really can’t bring myself to believe that the Higher Powers have time to keep a running total of how much you give or don’t give and to what church.

KP (http://www.chatkafeonline.com)

March 15th, 2010
1:36 pm

It’s interesting to see the various viewpoints regarding the church. It’s interesting to see how we are willing to stay at concerts, sporting events and plays begging for more time and entertainment, while the church must be done in an hour.

It’s interesting to see how we want to regulate what Pastors do with their income even when many of them give money, cars and rent/mortgage payments to many of their members. Should there be a cap on the income of pastors who function as the leader of entities that operate in a business fashion?

Do you regulate your doctor’s income? Do you regulate your lawyer’s income? Do you want anyone regulating what you need to do with your pre-established income?

No need to generalize ALL ministers/preachers based on some of the mistakes and rumors of some.

There is liberation in the principle of sowing and reaping. There is liberation in the principle of giving.

The alternative that is available is to NOT give which many choose to select. God’s Word tells us that He enjoys a cheerful giver. If you aren’t cheerful, then hold your $$$.

on another note – Most churches hold ‘church meetings’ that allow you to walkthrough the church budget in detail. All you have to do is attend.

Okay…I’m done!