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City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP
City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP

Tale of two cities

You want to know what happens when two single women stop being polite and start getting real about men?  Well, if the two women are dating bloggers  “Single Gal in NYC” and yours truly, only great things! I managed to catch up with the fabulous and brave Melissa aka Single Gal in the City. We met up for a quick bite at the beautiful Marriott Marquis in downtown Atlanta.

The Brave Dater

The Brave Dater

We both swapped stories of our dating misadventures – some side-splitting recounts of good guys gone wrong, and bad choices we have both made.  I couldn’t wait to ask her “what are you thinking!?” Only I was much more polite, and I asked her what made her decide to go on a dating blitz in different cities.

She was very open and candid about reaching the point where she was growing weary of her dating experiences in New York.  Basically, it was either do something that would move her closer to finding the one, or risk turning into a bitter New York dater.

I also asked what she has learned about herself in this experience so far.  She said that she discovered how happy she actually is and now she is ready for the next chapter.  She couldn’t have reached this point without this experience and I say good for her!

Now as for the Atlanta dating scene, I think she got a good sense of what its like already.  She has spoken to some great people who told her what it’s like for them.  She had a lunch date so far with a nice divorced man and she had a date last night.

Atlanta, much like New York has many transplants.  You have a mixed bag of people with different perspectives about dating.  In both cities, the men know the odds are in their favor as far as numbers go! When I was in New York, I had a great time meeting men.

For some reason, New York men really dig southern chicks.  Of course, I played it up even more when I realized this! I met a really cute and smart young guy at a party Friday night. He kept me laughing! Mr. Hershey Goodbar has my email and we will probably be good friends.  Saturday night I met Harlem Hottie. He was just my type, brainy, stylish and a little snarky  – in a good way.  We stayed up till the early morning talking and he has already been in touch.  New York men get an A in my book!

Have you ever considered doing something drastic to mix things up in your love life? Do you think leaving your area code would be worth the effort? When was the last time you dating out of the city, or out of your neighborhood?

What do you have planned for this weekend?
P.S. I promised Melissa I would rally everyone to go to her blog and weigh in on the best city to end her dating blitz tour. Please go vote!

570 comments Add your comment

Jeff

March 12th, 2010
8:39 am

I’m curious how the cash outlay (haha, I said lay) is distributed in her (and your) scenarios? Do these “dates” know you’re basically just taking a statistical poll and they’re willing to pay the tab?

Lady J

March 12th, 2010
8:43 am

hmmmmmmmmm…….

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

March 12th, 2010
8:46 am

I think I will lurk on this one. have a great day all.

SlimOne...just call me Nicety!

March 12th, 2010
8:49 am

Morning, Yippeee!!! It’s Fantastic Freak Your Friends Friday :mrgreen:

Nope, never considered going to another area code just for the purpose of dating. At this point in life, I don’t think i’m too thrilled with the idea of LDD (long distance dating). Hayo, living all the way in Conyers almost feels like LDD anyway, especially when folks you meet live on the southside, Alpharetta, or Gwinette.

What do you have planned for this weekend?

Besides getting my brakes dones, my sis and my niece are coming up here today. YAYYYY! She’s going to try to get out the house tomorrow so that leaves me with babysitting my 1yr old niece Saturday night. I’m excited yet anxious. Last time I talked to my mom, who was watching her at the time, she kept yelling at her in the background to stop putting her feet in the catfood. lol SO i know she’s going to a handful but i’m thrilled.

Let the Friday mayham begin!!!!!!!!!

Kym

March 12th, 2010
8:54 am

Good Morning All,

Hmmmm since the ajc just posted a story about a woman beaten silly after turning down a guy at a bar in NYC..I think this whole I love the NYC dating scene might have to get a sideways glance. Again I think the dating scene is the same all over and while I commend Ms. Single NYC for her dating tour..I can’t imagine taking my show on the road. Call it what you like..I am all for meeting new people..but I am not that hungry for companionship that I am going to “invest” my time in a world tour. I am of the school of thought..that when you stop looking..it will find you.

As for this weekend..I am going to measure windows and pick paint colors for my new home.

Wise Diva

March 12th, 2010
8:57 am

wow, Jeff, that’s something I forgot to ask about! Would it bother you?

RelldaRake - loves video games!!

March 12th, 2010
8:59 am

mix things up….yep…GET OUT OF THE BOX!!!

Lady J-PROUD MOMMY MY BABY GOT HER 1st 100 ON HER 1st SPELLING TEST-PRICELESS!!!!!

March 12th, 2010
8:59 am

WD would youplan on relocating to NYC if the right mate comes along???

Kym-DIY in Training

March 12th, 2010
9:01 am

Congrats LadyJ!!–I hope you hang that on the fridge.

Hannah Simmons

March 12th, 2010
9:02 am

I’ve tried online dating sites but the experience hasn’t done me any good. I think I’m going to try that Atlanta matchmaker my friend told me about. Hopefully, I’ll find Mr. Right that way!

http://www.sterlingintroductions.com/matchmaking-redefined.htm

Jeff

March 12th, 2010
9:03 am

It would bother ME, but some guys get off on that. I don’t want to feel used any more than the next average person. Stuff like that affects my perception of women in general though.

Lady J-PROUD MOMMY MY BABY GOT HER 1st 100 ON HER 1st SPELLING TEST-PRICELESS!!!!!

March 12th, 2010
9:04 am

Thanks Kym its in a frame honey on my dresser!!!! lol!!!!! Don’t forget to get your jill scott/maxwell tix tomorrow…..

raqi where you @ I need to make you laugh out loud in an email pls if you chime in today…..lol

Leggs

March 12th, 2010
9:06 am

@WD ~ you got mail.

Good morning to all!!

kinderbabe

March 12th, 2010
9:06 am

hey everybody! i’ve made some pretty risky moves about love. i have dated outside of my area code and state more than once (virginia, florida, new jersey, california). i learned a lot from the experiences. it was an adventure if nothing else.:) now, my S.O. has lived 4 hours away (where he’s from) during the course of our relationship so that’s the biggest chance i’ve taken lately…lol. i am from philly/south jersey area and always knew that i would wind up settling down w/someone not from there. northern boys were never quite my speed. i’ll take my baby from south georgia anyday of the week over the philly hard heads i grew up knowing! lol

Lady J-PROUD MOMMY MY BABY GOT HER 1st 100 ON HER 1st SPELLING TEST-PRICELESS!!!!!

March 12th, 2010
9:08 am

get it KB!!!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!! Enjoy your weekend too!

i'm swiss

March 12th, 2010
9:08 am

“that’s something I forgot to ask about! Would it bother you?”

I know that was directed to Jeff, but I think I can safely answer for most guys: That all depends on whether you gave them some… ;-) :lol:

RelldaRake - loves video games!!

March 12th, 2010
9:09 am

The best way to meet the mate you need – will come from doing things you enjoy…..a matchmaker cannot do that…most of the women i have meet have been in the flow of my life…simple..much more than any online dating site

Kym-DIY in Training

March 12th, 2010
9:10 am

@LadyJ how much are these tickets going to set a sista back?

AmazonRed™

March 12th, 2010
9:14 am

Happy Friiiiiday!

I don’t really see the point of dating in different cities…unless you’re willing to move. I’ve lived all over and all of my relationships were long distance until I moved here and settled down. It was argued that I moved too much to let love even find me! It’s like when two people are looking for each other in a crowded place, sometime when one just sits still you find one another.

I’ve never done anything drastic to get a date…fortunately I’m still at a point where I don’t have trouble getting one. Signing up for online dating is about as open as I’ve gotten, even still I never felt comfortable enough to really go out with anyone who contacted me online, especially since I was still meeting folks in real life.

Lady J

March 12th, 2010
9:17 am

Kym I am with ya I am closing my eyes and pressing confirm and moving forward! I saw Jill Scott @ Chastain when she came and never saw Maxwell live so you know I am ready and will be risky getting the tix and not looking back! HAHAHA! but on the real I never get the most expensive tix but I will be in the house nevertheless! Hope you make it!

Dig That

March 12th, 2010
9:20 am

I have to agree with Jeff. It seems like dating is just a sport to her and I would hate to think I’m just there to be a lab rat and the check picker upper.

AmazonRed™

March 12th, 2010
9:20 am

The Maxwell/Jill Scott tickets range from $22-$119. Pre-sale goes on in 40 minutes.

DreamsMaterialize

March 12th, 2010
9:21 am

(haha, I said lay)
Jeff was that said in your best Beevis and Butthead voice? lol

I’ve never had a LTR, and I don’t see myself doing it. How exactly are we defining “dating” here. Is it a case where you all hook up, hang out, get biz whenever one of you are in the other’s town? I’ve done that before, but never truly dated outside whatever area I was in.

It’s Fantastic Freak Your Friends Friday
Slim we’re friends right? lol

Lady J

March 12th, 2010
9:23 am

Thanks AREd girly I though it was sat they went on sale wow getting that out the way QUICK! LOL! June is looking great!

Jeff

March 12th, 2010
9:25 am

Dreams, yes it was B & B but I suspect that shows my age and whiteness. LOL.

Kym-DIY in Training

March 12th, 2010
9:25 am

Okay now I have to ask this..is Melissa just dating to have something to do or is she looking for a companionship, or is this as the guys said some lab experiment so she can right some Single Gals guide to dating in the USA? If its the last two then I think she should let the guys in on the joke. No one wants to be someone’s unwilling victim and meal ticket.

RelldaRake - loves video games!!

March 12th, 2010
9:26 am

I’m just there to be a lab rat and the check picker upper.

- coffe dates, mexican, wine tastings, bar/drinks…all cheap dates…most under 50 dollars

PrincessNik

March 12th, 2010
9:26 am

I don’t really see the point of dating in different cities…unless you’re willing to move

My thoughts also.

T.G.I.F

AmazonRed™

March 12th, 2010
9:27 am

Thanks AREd girly I though it was sat they went on sale wow getting that out the way QUICK! LOL! June is looking great!

They do go on sale Saturday. Today is the presale.

Lady J

March 12th, 2010
9:27 am

cool beans! thanks!

Kym-DIY in Training

March 12th, 2010
9:28 am

Lord..write..not right. I am really am not awake yet.

kinderbabe

March 12th, 2010
9:28 am

LOL @Lady J. yeah girl, i knew i would wind up w/a man from somewhere else. my sister is dating up in philly/jersey now and is NOT feeling it! it’s just one story after another. but i guess that can happen anywhere, right? lol. i was super shocked by the prices of the tix for the concert. they are quite pricey! i’m sure i’ll go anyway. just can’t pass up jill and max in one show. chile, there will be plenty of babies born next march…LMAO. that show is gonna make a lot of folks do a lil somethin’ somethin’….

Lady J

March 12th, 2010
9:29 am

clearing my throat how are you PrincessNik lololol!?!

i'm swiss

March 12th, 2010
9:29 am

“….is Melissa just dating to have something to do or is she looking for a companionship, or is this as the guys said some lab experiment so she can right some Single Gals guide to dating in the USA?”

Well, this girl writes a dating blog as well, yes? I suspect part of this “adventure” is just a chance to provide material for the blog. Just sayin’…

Kym-DIY in Training

March 12th, 2010
9:30 am

Jill has a new album coming this summer…I want her show on HBO to come back. I swear..all the foolishness they put on tv why can’t I get one quality show?

Lady J

March 12th, 2010
9:31 am

KB it won’t be me honey a group gal date it is! LMAO!!!! But I know what you mean my alter ego will get her rocks off some how but we both will be there! HA! LMAO!

I am happy for you and your realtionship sis!!!! You deserve everything you have and he has a cool gal!!!!!:)

Jeff

March 12th, 2010
9:31 am

Thanks for making my point for me. If $50 is no big deal to you, can you send me $50? I look at it as an investment. Sometimes things develop, sometimes they don’t, hence investment. But if going on a date with travel girl is a ponzi scheme and no chance of development, I’d rather invest the $50 in my daughter.

Lady J

March 12th, 2010
9:33 am

she has a great article in essence to Kym got it yesterday in the mail….Jill is ok with me! Oh my I had a major flashback lol smdh laughing!

DreamsMaterialize

March 12th, 2010
9:33 am

LOL at the dating Ponzi Scheme

AmazonRed™

March 12th, 2010
9:33 am

Aw snap Lady J. The presale for Citibank credit card members started two days ago! Damn! Live Nations presale starts today and the general public does indeed go on sale tomorrow.

Dig That

March 12th, 2010
9:35 am

@Rell
But if knew from jump and she said Rell I want you to take me on a date so I can talk shyt bout you on the blog and not give you no booty and move on to the next dude. Would you take her to a steak house or Burger King?

Lady J

March 12th, 2010
9:35 am

yeah I am doing Live Nation ARead!!!!! Iam ready….my gf just asked me did we need a code for today though ARed do we???

Lady J

March 12th, 2010
9:36 am

LOL at the dating Ponzi Scheme

LMBAO SILLY TOO DAMN FUNNY! HA!

AmazonRed™

March 12th, 2010
9:38 am

my gf just asked me did we need a code for today though ARed do we???

Of course you do. If not, every Joe Schmo could buy tickets early. ;)

kinderbabe

March 12th, 2010
9:39 am

thanks, Lady J!! it won’t be me either. girl, the kids at school are plenty for me..lol. it will be a really great show.:) can’t wait! did you get your tix already? i know they’ve had the citimember presale going for a couple days.

Lady J-Quest for Staying Power!

March 12th, 2010
9:40 am

ok never did pre sale i will happily wait til in the morning…..my tix will wait for J! lol I am claiming it! lol

Lady J-Quest for Staying Power!

March 12th, 2010
9:41 am

sat morning kb lord I keep chaning computers and I have something on everyone….a shame! ha!

Lady J

March 12th, 2010
9:41 am

changing that is!

Dig That

March 12th, 2010
9:41 am

When is the concert ladies

RelldaRake - loves video games!!

March 12th, 2010
9:42 am